Letters to my kids: A suicide survivor's lessons and advise for life
Episode 7: Moving on and letting go - Part 1
Moving on and letting go: Part 1 Attitude is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than what people do or say. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill. Charles R. Swindoll 5 stages of grief: https://grief.com/the-five-stages-of-grief/ - The phrase letting go tends to be more associated with relationships and associations with other people, but it actually applies to everything in life. - People start off idealistic and...
Episode 6: Stop sweating the small stuff
Stop sweating the small stuff - All of us have our struggles in life as we grow up. This is because we all have a small amount of effort that we can use to combat things that happen. For things that are especially important to us; we worry. - This is because We can be very narrow and macro-minded when it comes to what we perceive as our problems. Also, this is not helped by the fact that as humans, we are very inward and self-looking. - Despite popular belief and practise, being...
Episode 5: Failures, failures and more failures; it’s not the end of the world
Failures, failures and more failures; it’s not the end of the world “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” -Winston Churchill- - When we do things; it either works or it doesn’t. Similar to turning on-off the lights, it should be regarded as one of 2 possibilities. In that sense; failure gets a bad reputation as a one-time-shot and done, but really; it’s part of everyday challenges. - In fact, failure is life’s great teacher; it’s...
Episode 4: An introduction to realistic optimism
An introduction to realistic optimism http://changingminds.org/explanations/preferences/optimism_pessimism.htm The pessimist complains about the wind; the optimist expects it to change; the realist adjusts the sails. -William Arthur Ward- - The world is generally split across optimists whom call themselves “being positive” and pessimists are generally sub-divided into people whom call themselves “realistic” and those whom can be best be politely described as “critical”. - The truth is,...
Episode 3: Depression - it can strike anyone, anywhere
References: https://www.dur.ac.uk/hearingthevoice/ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/compassion-matters/201110/eight-ways-actively-fight- depression - Personal Story - All of us have a critical inner voice in-built into us. Some of us call it our conscience, but some also call it the voice in our head. - Depression is not a bad mood. It’s an internal struggle against a destructive thought that’s not very much different from when you’re sick and down with the flu. - Suicide due...
Episode 2: Changes, always there whether or not you are
Reference reading: https://hbr.org/2012/09/ten-reasons-people-resist-chang - People generally don’t like changes. We all start off at the bottom when we’re young, working hard to reach our goals and then; once we’re somewhere “remotely” comfortable, we form patterns, get settled in and move into hibernation. And once we’ve hibernated, god forbid something changes it for us. - After all, as a human; we are by nature lazy. That doesn’t mean we don’t work hard. We’re more than capable of...
Episode 1: Challenges: Roughing out in a challenging life
Challenges: Roughing out in a challenging life - 21st birthday story. - You have to make the best of what you get/have, not wishing/pining for what you don’t; and build bitterness due to unfulfilled expectations. - Attitude is key when facing challenges, because despite everything else, this is actually one of the most important, if not THE most important aspect; and it is definitely controlable by yourself. - Don’t shy away from challenges, instead; start off with small baby steps,...
Episode 0: Introduction: The beginnings and the background
- Starts off with a short story talking about 1st suicide and the logo of the podcast (wrist scar). In hindsight, the attempt itself draws laughter whenever I talk about it, and I embrace that; but at that time, both attempts were serious efforts at ending life. - As a two-time suicide survivor, the podcast aims to capture experiences and lessons from a well-lived life for my kids - as a form of an audio hand-me-down trove - In life, advise is like applying and matching differing...