Make Him Wonder

Having been the lead on two reality dating shows, with appearances on Dr. Phil and several talk shows to discuss her single status, Sonali Chandra is likely the most famous 36-yr-old virgin. But why, with her beauty, poise, talent, and intelligence, is she finding it so hard to date and find her Mr. Right? On this episode, Sonali bares her heartbreak over 65-yr-old Mr. LAP who she claims is the "love of her life," and wants Paula's opinion on why he left. Paula explains why she believes age is just a number, and how developmental milestones are always a factor, no matter how many years we have behind us.

39-yr-old Isla says she suffers from anxious attachment and keeps “pushing men away.” Having dated 35-yr-old Ivan for only a few months, Isla began experiencing what she feared most. Feeling like Ivan wasn’t spending enough time with her, Isla spurred one too many arguments. Will this time of being ghosted help Isla face her demons and slay the dragon of anxiety that drags her down? On this episode of Make Him Wonder, Isla voices what has her attached and addresses what she needs to do to move forward.

After only a few months of dating, 44-yr-old Fred started spending every night at the home of 51-yr-old Sariah. But despite knowing that she should be the one to set better boundaries, Sariah can’t seem to say no. On this episode, Paula helps Sariah make sense of her anxiety around disappointing Fred and understand what she must do to inspire him to take the steps necessary for a lifetime of love and commitment.

36-yr-old Elle pursued 36-yr-old Sam until the two started hooking-up on New Year’s Eve. But because Elle wanted more, misunderstandings and mixed-messaging caused an on-again-off again situationship that was no cause for celebration. Following a particularly volatile episode where Sam was headed to the police to file a restraining order, Elle woke up to the necessity of restraining herself and reevaluating her way of relating. On this episode, hear how connecting to the real issues can get you restarted on the right foot for a real relationship.

When 54-yr-old Suzanne worked on her self-concept and combined it with what worked for 66-yr-old Sam to see her as his one, she began to see her dream relationship materialize. Now heading towards engagement, Suzanne can’t help but feel uneasy about the frequency of Sam connecting with his ex-girlfriends, and ex-wife. On this episode, Paula helps Suzanne stay current, stem the occasional rising tide of anxiety, and stay-in-the-knowing that she is the only fish in Sam’s romantic sea.

Following a sexless and lonely 18-yr marriage, 46-yr-old Grace felt “safe” beginning a FWB relationship with 47-yr-old Tony because he was moving away. But Tony didn’t end up moving, and now Grace wants a full relationship. Tony, being newly out of a 5-yr relationship states he “isn’t ready,” and is willing to let Grace go. On this episode, Grace faces some past missteps and wants Paula’s help to put her best foot forward for the possibilities that she and Tony can go the distance.

33-yr-old Kiki started off with 30-yr-old Landon in one of the worst ways possible to potentially be more than just a go-to girl. After being intimate several times and liking Landon, Kiki now finds herself wanting more. On this episode, Paula explains to Kiki how she can attempt to get things on the right track for a real dating relationship.

Following 7 years of separation from his second wife who cheated, 61-yr-old Mike is telling 59-yr-old Carla that he is just “starting the process of divorce.” Carla is not convinced, nor is she happy with what appears to be Mike’s Low-T, his need for a great deal of alone time to be on social media, and him stating that he “feels like less of a man” because Carla is significantly more well-off financially. In this episode, Carla asks for Paula’s help in determining whether Mike has too many red flags to have this relationship end up “in the black.”

When 30-yr-old Jay asked 32-yr-old Olive to be his girlfriend on their first meeting, Olive agreed. The two developed a close connection and only upon investigation did Olive find out Jay was lying about his age. Once the two had sex, Jay ghosted. On this episode, Olive wants to know if the cultural differences soured Jay. Paula explains why things were not that sweet from the beginning.

After making a strong online connection, 48-yr-old Robin was excited to meet 50-yr-old Jay. Jay was also keen on exploring further, only to pull away in short order. Where did such a strong connection get short-circuited? In this episode, find out why once you’re separated you can be ready for commitment, while a separated man will not… and what it is about meeting-for-coffee that sets a man up to be lukewarm about continuing to date you.

44-yr-old Emma met handsome 51-yr-old Matt online and wanted to know his true intentions before having sex. After cancelling their seventh date out-of-the-blue, Emma got a text that Matt was frustrated that there was no passion or sex on their sixth date. On this episode of Make Him Wonder, Emma gets clarification on Matt’s probable feelings and what risk vs reward is worth taking to put his fears to rest so the two can move forward.

47-yr-old Vivian wants her on-again-off-again relationship with 40-yr-old Gabriel to go the distance, but every time she talks about commitment the two argue and a breakup ensues. Is it Gabriel creating the roadblock or something else standing in the way of this couple going the distance? In this coaching conversation, hear the best way to have a relationship start online and end in forever after.

After a year and a half together, 34-yr-old Gigi keeps hearing the classic “it’s not you, it’s me,” from 37-yr-old Aaron regarding his unhappiness with their relationship. Discussions about it and going on breaks haven’t solved the issue, and Gigi is afraid of a final split. In this episode, Paula explains to Gigi how her compassion is crippling Aaron’s desire and helping to ensure the negative outcome she fears, and what she can do to become his shining star, once again.

32-yr-old Brianne says it’s a pattern of hers to have men “very interested” from the start only to end up “walking away” after she “harasses” them when she doesn’t receive the time and attention she wants. 42-yr-old Carl is no exception. A military man and away a lot, Brianne lets her anxiety get the best of her. On this episode, hear how Brianne falls prey to her emotions that make Carl the bad guy, eroding his desire to make things official.

40-yr-old Charly has been dating 37-yr-old Sam for nearly a year. But on the heels of 3 failed relationships with the mothers of his 4 children, is Sam truly free to be in a completely committed relationship? On this episode of Make Him Wonder, hear what Charly reveals to Paula in their conversation that she didn’t let Paula’s staff know ahead of their recording. Is this reveal a game-changer for what Charly can expect from Sam now and for the foreseeable future? Despite the clouds surrounding her, Paula helps Charly get clear on her goals for the best chance of reaching her romantic summit.

Back from Season Two Ep. 16, 23-yr-old Rose used the O.N.E. Love online dating self-help course to help her capture the heart of her Mr. Right. Now knowing that she’d like to marry this man, Rose has questions about spending time-apart while traveling, and how to keep her subconscious programming and feelings of unworthiness from creating problems in her relationship.

38-yr-old Tabitha felt enormous regret about how she treated her 36-yr-old ex-boyfriend, Jimmy. Despite Jimmy telling Tabitha she shouldn’t beat-herself-up or feel guilty, she can’t help feeling anxious over Jimmy’s silence during their break. Torn between reaching out or holding out for Jimmy to come back, Tabitha reaches out to Paula for her advice.

46-yr-old Aida has been in an on-and-off LD relationship with 52-yr-old Inman for nearly 2 years. Aida is tired of waiting for Inman to make a complete commitment and move to her state so the two can be closer. On this episode, Paula explains how rushing the tempo is risking Inman’s desire, and how changing her mental script about their love-story will allow Aida to have the best chance for a happy ending.

28-yr-old Alma fell very hard for 33-yr-old Viktor. But following a series of conflicts that included family involvement, Viktor totally shut down and stopped interacting with Alma. After nearly a month of no-contact Viktor's father reached out. In this episode, Alma wants to know if she has any chance of building a bridge to Viktor's heart or if the water level is too toxic and too high to ever be spanned.

34-yr-old Beth invited 49-yr-old Luke and his teenage son to live with her and her three daughters. Once confronted with having to help pay the monthly bills, Luke left without a word or any of his belongings. On this episode, Beth goes from asking Paula about how to progress things with her lukewarm man to realizing that she is hot-on-the-trail to a better life, and also leading her girls by example.