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Join two queer ex-Mormons as they unpack years of generational trauma and explore what it was like to be raised in a Christian cult.

Join two queer ex-Mormons as they unpack years of generational trauma and explore what it was like to be raised in a Christian cult.
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Join two queer ex-Mormons as they unpack years of generational trauma and explore what it was like to be raised in a Christian cult.

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22 - Responding to listeners' questions

2/17/2018
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This week, Cari and Kelsae answer listener questions, since the crazy is too strong to be trusted with answering email and PMs. Plus, find out how to join Club F#ck Packer! Cari and Kelsae talk about existential crises, anger, and the frustrations of trying to communicate with TBMs about negative experiences with Mormonism. Sounds like fun, right? We’re just barrels of laughs. For full show notes and links, go to: www.nomanknowsmyherstory.com/episodes/22

Duration:00:58:19

21 - LDS website on suicide prevention, part 2

2/10/2018
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Cari and Kelsae continue their discussion about the LDS church’s recently updated website on suicide prevention. This week, they focus on the messages being sent to people whose lives are personally touched by suicide. Unfortunately, the church does not exceed our expectations. The website is blame-y, vague, and contradictory. This is not the most or the best the Mormon church could do, especially on such an important topic. CONTENT WARNING: Discussion of suicide attempts and ideation,...

Duration:02:11:57

20 - LDS website on suicide prevention, part 1

2/3/2018
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This week, Cari and Kelsae talk about the recent updates targeted to local LDS leadership made to suicide.lds.org. Recently, Elder Rasband was added to a statewide committee meant to address the growing problem of suicide in Utah. Does the Mormon church give good resources, enough training, or good guidance to its local leadership? No, no it does not. And it’s dangerous. CONTENT WARNING: general discussion on suicide, some mentions of suicide attempt(s) without details. For full show notes...

Duration:01:24:37

19 - How the LDS church fails at informed consent

1/27/2018
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This week, Cari and Kelsae discuss the topic of informed consent (as in social work, medicine, and BDSM [surprise!]) as it pertains to the Mormon Church. Spoiler alert: the Mormon Church does not meet even the basic standards in giving informed consent, leaving its membership without adequate information to make decisions about their participation. For full show notes and links, go to: www.nomanknowsmyherstory.com/episodes/19

Duration:00:52:02

18 - Josh and Lolly Weed announce their plan to divorce

1/25/2018
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Yesterday, Josh and Lolly Weed (a prominent Mormon couple in a mixed-orientation marriage) publicly announced their plan to divorce. Considering the massive impact that this couple’s marriage has had on LGBTQIA Mormons, Cari and Kelsae recorded an impromptu minisode (that isn’t actually mini at all) and process some feelings. In order to make this information more accessible to ex-Mormons and active Mormons alike, Cari and Kelsae depart from NMKMH’s typical tone and format and refrain from...

Duration:00:59:30

17 - Prophet's first press conference

1/20/2018
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On Tuesday, the LDS church held a press conference to introduce Russell M. Nelson as the new Mormon Prophet and President of the church. Cari and Kelsae discuss Dieter Uchtdorf’s demotion back to the Quorum of the 12, give their hot takes on how the new First Presidency did answering questions from the press, and yell for a bit about how Nelson is super sexist. For full show notes and links, go to: www.nomanknowsmyherstory.com/episodes/17

Duration:01:23:17

16 - The power and control wheel

1/13/2018
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Cari and Kelsae discuss the power and control wheel, a tool that explains different ways in which abusive people gain power and control over others, in the context of Mormonism and how many of these same tactics are used by the LDS church to maintain power over members. For full show notes and links, go to: www.nomanknowsmyherstory.com/episodes/16

Duration:01:20:41

15 - Why we left Mormonism

1/6/2018
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We made it to 2018, apostates! To kick off the new year, Cari and Kelsae respond to a listener’s question about their respective Mormon journeys and share the details of why and how they left. CONTENT WARNING: This episodes contains brief discussion of self-harm, including mentioning specific methods (no details are shared) from 21:00-22:00. For full show notes and links, go to: www.nomanknowsmyherstory.com/episodes/15

Duration:02:05:25

14 - #GaslightTheWorld, the atonement

12/30/2017
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Cari and Kelsae’s super special December theme, #GaslightTheWorld, finally concludes with an episode about one of the most manipulative (and baffling) concepts in Christianity: the atonement. Also, Cari and Kelsae announce a new contest! How exciting! For full show notes and links, go to: www.nomanknowsmyherstory.com/episodes/14

Duration:01:10:41

13 - #GaslightTheWorld, service in Mormonism

12/22/2017
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Cari and Kelsae are on episode four of #GaslightTheWorld, woooo! This week’s focus is on service in the LDS church (*cough*CULT*cough), and in particular how Mormon women are trained to become co-dependent robots. Healthy! For full show notes and links, go to: www.nomanknowsmyherstory.com/episodes/13

Duration:01:01:25

12 - #GaslightTheWorld, sexual abuse in Mormonism

12/16/2017
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#GaslightTheWorld continues! Cari and Kelsae respond to a listener’s question about the effects of sexual abuse on attachment (listen to episode 9 for more information on attachment theory) and explore the gaslighting in how the LDS church treats survivors of sexual violence. CONTENT WARNING: General discussion of sexual violence throughout the episode. From 33:00-34:50 Cari shares a personal experience of sexual assault (with minimal detail). There is mention of rape and suicide attempt....

Duration:01:02:11

11 - #GaslightTheWorld, benevolent sexism in Mormonism

12/9/2017
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Welcome to week two of #GaslightTheWorld! This week, Cari and Kelsae explore the many and sundry ways in which benevolent sexism exists in Mormon doctrine and culture, and how LDS church leaders use gaslighting to perpetuate it. Gross. For full show notes and links, go to: www.nomanknowsmyherstory.com/episodes/11

Duration:00:59:57

10 - #GaslightTheWorld, LDS Face2Face

12/2/2017
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Happy December, apostates! Cari and Kelsae are excited to announce their super special theme for this month: #GaslightTheWorld! This week, they explore aaaaaaall the gaslighting from the recent LDS Face2Face event hosted by Elders Oaks and Ballard. (Spoiler: there's lots.) For full show notes and links, go to: www.nomanknowsmyherstory.com/episodes/10

Duration:00:55:16

9 - Attachment theory and god as a perfect parent

11/25/2017
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Joseph Smith once referred to god as “the great parent of the universe,” but we think “great” is a bit of a stretch. Join Cari and Kelsae this week as they talk about attachment theory, mirror neurons, and why god is the worst parent ever. For full show notes and links, go to: www.nomanknowsmyherstory.com/episodes/09

Duration:00:54:40

8 - BYU devotional with Elder Ballard

11/18/2017
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Cari and Kelsae continue in their apostle-related Q&A adventures with a discussion about Elder Ballard’s recent BYU Devotional address, where he responded to members' questions about perfectionism, being gay and Mormon, pornography as addiction, etc., and failed miserably at saying anything helpful at all. Sigh. For full show notes and links, go to: www.nomanknowsmyherstory.com/episodes/08

Duration:01:02:53

7 - LDS Face2Face questions

11/11/2017
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LDSFace2Face is a live Q&A session hosted by high-ranking Mormon leaders and broadcast online to young single adults in the church. Cari and Kelsae answer a few of the questions submitted to the online event page in ways that are better, gayer, and way more honest than Elder Oaks or Ballard could ever hope to be. For full show notes and links, go to: www.nomanknowsmyherstory.com/episodes/07

Duration:00:53:52

6 - BITE model part four, emotional control

11/3/2017
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We've made it to the last portion of the BITE Model! Cari and Kelsae wrap things up with emotional control and, uh ... things aren't looking good for the Mormon church. For full show notes and links, go to: www.nomanknowsmyherstory.com/episodes/06

Duration:01:32:14

5 - BITE model part three, thought control

10/28/2017
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Cari and Kelsae keep truckin' along with their third episode on the BITE model. This week's focus is on the “T” in BITE: Thought control. For full show notes and links, go to: www.nomanknowsmyherstory.com/episodes/05

Duration:01:05:30

4 - BITE model part two, information control

10/21/2017
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Cari and Kelsae continue their discussion on whether Mormonism is a cult using the BITE Model. This week they focus on the “I” in BITE: Information control. For full show notes and links, go to: www.nomanknowsmyherstory.com/episodes/04

Duration:00:42:52

3 - Mormonism, cults, and the BITE model

10/14/2017
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Is Mormonism a cult? Let’s find out! Cari and Kelsae discuss the BITE model, which details specific methods that cults use to recruit and maintain control over members. This episode focuses on the “B” in BITE: Behavioral Control. For full show notes and links, go to: https://www.nomanknowsmyherstory.com/episodes/03

Duration:01:06:52

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