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No Bigger Illusion

Without regard to what the abuse was doing to you, were you taught not to embarrass your family by talking about your abuse? Was the message loud and clear that talking about the way your abuser treated you would bring dishonor, disgrace, to him and the family? That is the lesson Mickie allowed to direct her actions and responses for many years. Once she left, she believed that thought-process was resolved. Last year when, upon defending herself in a workplace harassment situation, she...

Duration: 00:08:23

Am I a Fraud?

I was momentarily ecstatic when I read the news brief about me and Surviving Abuse network. Then the fear, the anxiety, the knot in the pit of my stomach erupted! WHAT IF…WHAT IF…WHAT IF… the ramifications this publication are negative or my abuser reads it? I am shocked that I still experience those long held thoughts and fears. I’ve been out of abuse for 15 years! Am I a fraud…not completely willing to walk my talk? ~~~~~~~~~~~~ Please listen to more podcasts, read blogs and...

Duration: 00:08:22

Top 10 Lessons Learned from Domestic Abuse Survivors

Odds are good that you have heard these Top 10 Lessons but, as a survivor of abuse, they are all buried. Our old buddy, Fear, has over-ridden putting them into practice, even in your new life. No matter how long you’ve been out of abuse, you have the option now to create and embrace the wonder-full life you imagine…you know, the one that you allow to shine bright light into your heart and imagination, every once in a while. Mickie details the Top 10 Lessons she compiled through Google...

Duration: 00:10:57

You’ve Been Out of Abuse for a While: What Now?

Even if you’ve been out of domestic abuse for decades, I bet you are still being held hostage, in your head, by your abuser. There are thoughts and experiences that bring back that empty feeling in your stomach, make your heart race and cause the familiar burning dread of fear and guilt in our hearts and minds. Until we accept that we were really abused and that it’s OK to embrace the options and support available to us, our abuser will continue owning real estate in our minds. If you’re...

Duration: 00:08:41

4,774,000 Women in the U.S. Experience Physical Violence by an Intimate Partner Every Year

The number of American troops killed in Afghanistan and Iraq between 2001 and 2012 was 6,488. The number of American women who were murdered by current or ex male partners during the same time was 11,766. That’s nearly double the amount of casualties lost during war. Join the conversation: Domestic Abuse is real and we don’t have to live with it! Surviving Abuse Network is one place for you to participate with a sisterhood of domestic abuse survivors. Together we...

Duration: 00:16:19

Society Does Not Want Us to Talk About Domestic Abuse

The theory of Collective Collusion addresses the fact that society will side with the perpetrator when abuse is brought forward. WHAT?? And why?? Because society does not want to question the Father figure, the Authority figure. If Authority is questioned, the implication is that we are ALL just poor, weak human beings. Nope, can’t let that happen! #Metoo has opened Pandora’s Box. I’m hopeful the wave of open discussion about sexual harassment and abuse will flow into the realm of...

Duration: 00:10:15

And Then I Left the Chocolates in the Car

It’s the holiday season, right? And, the best way to resolve frustration, loneliness, anger, distress … holiday blues? Eat. In “Eat, Pray and Love Yourself” Mickie tells an embarrassing story about the power of a box of chocolates had over her! This time of year, we do set ourselves up for being hurt, disappointed, feeling like we don’t quite fit in, not included. Don’t you agree? What is it that causes those emotions? Programmed Lessons; things we have been taught that control a lot of...

Duration: 00:11:41

And then my son asked; "You left Dad! Are you having a mid-life crisis?"

Since you left your abusive relationship, do your friends and family think you may have lost your mind? You had it all, right? Nice home, strong businesses, important jobs, a good relationship…well, that’s what it looked like. Was it a mid-life crisis that spurred you to finally leave? I doubt it, but whatever it was, HURRAAAY! Now you’re able to create the life you love. Change is exciting, and somewhat disconcerting. Choose to join groups and meet ups for business women. Find online...

Duration: 00:11:42

He Had Me Convinced I Was Crazy

He was kind and caring, and then he turned mean and violent. He told me it was my fault he got so angry. I believed him for the longest time. I believed he wanted to change. If you are a survivor of abuse, you have experienced all those emotions and beliefs. Each of us thinks we are unique; No one else would choose to live the way we did. Wrong! Listen to the stories of 4 women who have escaped abuse. Pay attention to their statements about what they would say to others. Your story is...

Duration: 00:19:24

Don't Forget Why You Left

Somewhere in the recesses of our minds we feel guilty for having left our abuser...on some level you still love him; (even years later) you wonder how he’s doing. We’re barreling toward another holiday season, and it’s easy to excavate only the good memories. The hurtful, nasty, unhappy holiday memories are buried pretty deep…and they aren’t fun to think about. For support and inspiration this holiday season, take a look at Surviving the Holidays Mastermind at...

Duration: 00:11:15

Fear, Intimidation, Emotional and Physical Abuse Could Not Stop Patsy Wimmer

Listen to Patsy Wimmer's story of making some mistakes in her youth that led her into the arms of an abusive husband. Learn why she stayed for so long and what the final act was that caused her to say "No more!". Learn how she got out and ended up making it on her own and eventually reconciling with her children!

Duration: 00:45:26

Don't Believe Everything You Think

Would you tell a friend that it’s OK to be controlled by her husband, to be thrown against a wall, to cover bruises with make-up and long sleeves, to walk back into abuse again and again and again? Of course not! So, why do we believe everything we think? In our minds, we make excuses, side step our reality, allow ourselves to remain in a damaging relationship. Those thoughts are lies; stop believing them. Mickie shares the 5 steps that explain why we choose to believe everything we...

Duration: 00:08:04

Men Don't Outgrow Being Abusers

We rationalize until we can’t rationalize anymore. Sound familiar? If you’ve ever lived in abuse, you comprehend the reality of that statement. Mickie shares the story of an abused woman as reported to Huffington Post. It’s not Mickie’s story, it is Jessica’s; a woman whom, we hope, did the in-side work necessary to stay out of abusive relationships.

Duration: 00:12:41

Being Aware of Your Thoughts

Our brains process 12,000 to 70,000 thoughts a day. Our conscious mind processes 40 bits of information per second; our subconscious mind processes 40 Million bits of information per second! Mickie provides ideas and a fun experiment to learn how to be aware of your thoughts, and how to choose the ones that support your growth, safety and sanity. Listen and give it a try!

Duration: 00:15:39

His Love Hurts with Amber Castleman

Abuse survivor and author, Amber Castleman, speaks her truth in this candid discussion with Mickie. Her new book His Love Hurts; How to Break Free from Your Abuser, and this open conversation with Surviving Abuse Podcast, chronicle Amber’s turbulent and seemingly helpless journey into, through and out of an abusive marriage. After listening to her story and her suggestions, Amber may be reached at or

Duration: 00:42:32

You Sound Like a Battered Wife

Mickie shares an anonymous story she found on line, a fabulous description of the emotions created by living in abuse, finally accepting the reality of the situation and the danger, emotion, and freedom of escaping. “Your real friends will listen to you endlessly complain, agonize and cry. They’ll watch in dismay as you smooth it over. If you’re extremely lucky, one of them might say “You sound like a battered wife”. “Do I?!!”, you ask out loud. And the reality of the statement blasts you...

Duration: 00:12:18

Time is Life

Everyone knows time is Money. I say time is Life. Mickie lived in abuse for 34 years. She “spent” a lot of her precious time living in fear and control; precisely 408 months, 1,768 weeks, 12,410 days! Even though it often feels this way, how we choose to use our time is not out of our control. Time is our most valuable non-renewable resource; how we use it is our choice. Hear some stories and gain some insight into not spending your time playing head-games about your life.

Duration: 00:11:52

Emotional Reality of Abused Women

Mickie discovered an on-line list and description of emotions experienced by abused women. The information was created by Rape and Abuse Crisis Center and, along with their descriptions, Mickie adds her personal experiences and feelings associated with each emotion. “It’s still amazing to me”, Mickie laments, “that we abused women try to save our marriages, make excuses for our abusers and are embarrassed to tell others about our life at home”. The emotional reality of abused women is a...

Duration: 00:13:28

It's Been Awhile

For a little more than two years Mickie Zada consistently created weekly podcasts titled “The Second 53 Years” and “Figuring It Out After 50”. Since deciding to take her podcasts and business in the direction of addressing domestic abuse, “it’s been a while” since she’s consistently recorded podcasts. In this episode of “Surviving Abuse” Mickie addresses the fear that has held her back. She admits that she talked-around her abuse in previous podcast shows and clarifies her intention to step...

Duration: 00:09:52

Getting Real About Domestic Abuse and Our Change of Mission

In today's episode I get real. Real about my past. Real about my experiences. Listen to today's episode as I share why our mission has changed and I also share more of my story than you have ever heard.

Duration: 00:14:22

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