For some of us, Valentine’s Day can be a rough. Especially if you’re single or broke. Today we are giving you some Valentine’s Day survival tips and pick-me-ups. We’re also reviewing Around the World by Rob Hagains. This film is a prequel to Monogamish, an upcoming series about one couple’s journey into kink and poly. Around the World is being released on Valentine’s Day. What did we think? Listen and find out!
We talk to a LOT of kinky singles, and one of the biggest fears they have is dying alone. In fact, it’s one of the biggest fears we partnered people have to. In a society where we have a thousand Facebook friends friends and can hook up by simply swiping right, why are more people single later in life now than at any time in our history? And what can you do to create amazing relationships and avoid being a statistic? Just in time for Valentine’s Day we’re talking to Robert Kandell about how...
Today our partner Amanda is back in the studio and we’re answering questions from a listener’s polycule about how to navigate group poly. The topics we’re covering include: how to divide time and attention, tips on adding a third, (or fourth, or more) to your group, handling conflicts with multiple partners, advice on finding a unicorn or dragon, and more.
When is it time to take a fantasy out of your head and into the bedroom? Why do straight chicks like lesbian porn? Is it racist to prefer partners with a certain skin tone? Can a Dom with disabilities find a sub? On our first episode of 2018 Cassie and Rigel are going to be answering the rest of your questions that were lost in the upside down. Plus: We reminisce about our kinky NYE party, Cassie kicks a girl with her rainbow boots, and we talk about if you should tell a date your penis size.
The decision to come out as non-monogamous (or not) is a difficult one. There are a lot things that can go wrong such as losing your job, being rejected by friends,or distancing yourself from family. But in spite of the risks coming out can be incredible important because we want our partners and relationships given recognition. In today’s episode Cassie is talking to sex therapist and licensed social worker Tamara Pincus about when and how to come out as well as her new book on the topic.
How do you tell your husband of 19 years that he’s gotten fat and ugly? Is is possible to find romance when you’re dying? How can you make your first threesome a safe one? What should you do when your girlfriend steals your wife’s dog for ransom? On today’s episode Cassie and Rigel answer these and other (amazing) questions.
Do you own a strap-on (or are you curious about them)? Do you want to use said strap-on to create mind blowing experiences for yourself and your partner(s)? We’ve got you covered! Today Cassie and the fabulous Jaki Griot talk about one of their favorite topics... strap-ons! As a 101 guide to strap-ons, this episode covers everything from how to choose dongs and harnesses, to how to wear a strap on, to scene prep, to tips for utilizing different holes, to aftercare and clean-up.
Why does my girlfriend bleed during sex? What should I tell my kids whose grandfather has come out as trans? How can I last longer in bed? Is it cheating when you break an agreement about using condoms… and then get pregnant? On today’s episode Cassie and Rigel answer your questions about sex, condoms, and more. PLUS: The boy who came to do our HVAC thinks Cassie is a serial killer, and we announce a kinky, sex positive NYE party in the Baltimore area.
When did you know you were a unicorn? Where do you find good couples to date? What about a couple raises red flags, and what makes them stand out? What’s it like to have fiancés who run a podcast? In this episode, Cassie and Rigel’s partner Amanda makes her first ever appearance on the show to answer these and other “unicorn” related questions that a bunch of folks spontaneously asked her in a facebook group. PLUS: We announce a FREE online class that we’re launching. It’s called How to...
Our relationships are some of the most crucial things in our lives. Few of us want to be lonely. But dating is an acquired skill, and some folks just have a have hard time getting it down. On today’s episode Cassie puts on her dating coach hat and discusses (rants about) the nine reasons most people suck at dating, and gives some tips on how to avoid these pitfalls.
What’s the right way to approach someone at a kink event without getting nervous (would naked sword fighting help)? Why do people on dating sites send absurd messages? Should you stay friends with a partner who has repeatedly broken your rules? Should you tell your SO that you cheated on them… two years after the fact? On today’s episode we answer these questions and more.
Is your sex drive different than your partner(s)? A variety of studies estimate that one out of every three couples have a severe mismatch in the levels of their sexual desire. Here at TOF we believe there is a certain degree of desire gap in every relationship. These differences in sex drive can cause issues both inside and outside the bedroom. In this episode, Cassie and Rigel discuss ways to bridge the desire gap and ensure everyone’s needs are getting met. And, unlike most of the...
How do you make your vanilla wedding a little kinky? What do you do when your wife can’t stand your girlfriend? How do you find a “legit” Femdom? Are all poly people sluts? On today’s Q and A episode, Cassie and Rigel answer these questions and more. PLUS: Cassie and Rigel propose to their girlfriend, Rigel tells his partners he caught an STI, and Siri makes an unexpected appearance on the show.
What are the best products for pegging and packing? Which partners get the boot when you’re poly-saturated? WTF do you do when your girlfriend keeps having sex with your best friends? How do you tell a date what you’re into without being called a pervert? On today’s episode, Cassie and Rigel tackle these topics and more. Thanks for all the great questions, you guys rock!
How do you make a taboo fantasy a reality? How can a couple find their third? What should you do when your toddler has destroyed your sex life? On today’s episode, Cassie and Rigel answer these questions and more. Plus: An (awesome) mother whose son has recently come out to her as gay and kinky reaches out for advice.
Today we’re talking to Mr. Black of the Black Pomegranate about event drop. What is it exactly? Is anyone immune? What can you do to help prevent drop while you're at an event, and how do you process it after you get home? Plus, Cassie and Mr. Black discuss their own event drop experiences this past DO.
Love and lust. They’re words we throw around a lot. But what do they mean? Are both necessary for a healthy relationship? And the big question: How do you keep lust from waning over time? Today we’re talking to Dr. Zhana Vrangalova about love and lust including: the differences between the two, the biggest myths surrounding love and lust, and how those myths cause problems in our relationships. We also spend a substantial portion of the interview discussing how you can keep lust and desire...
Can you be kinky if you don’t like it in the butt? Are there any sane poly people around? How do you approach nillas you’re interested in about kink and/or poly? What should you do when you get no matches on dating sites? On today’s episode, Cassie and Rigel will be answering these questions and more. We’ve got a ton of dating and relationship-focused questions in this episode, so don’t miss out!
Who better to talk to about casual sex than the host of the Manwhore podcast? On today’s episode we’re talking with Billy Procida about how to hook-up including: using dating apps, engaging face-to-face, and avoiding regrets. Plus, we’ll be discussing the single biggest secret to getting laid. It’s probably not what you think.
When consent is breached, sometimes it’s an intentional consent violation. But sometimes, it’s the result of error, miscommunication, or misunderstanding. It’s a consent accident. But how much does intent matter when you cross someone’s boundaries? Today we’re talking to Charlie Glickman PhD about the definition of a consent accident, the difficulties with distinguishing between a consent accident and a consent violation, how to move forward when a consent accident does happen, and tips...