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Living in a world of fuckboys, homophobes, and inequalities can leave a gay feeling, well, jaded, so tune in for your weekly dose of gay empowerment. We're talking pop culture, politics, and dating hardships, all through the lens of overcoming gay trauma and nurturing our emotional wellbeing.

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Living in a world of fuckboys, homophobes, and inequalities can leave a gay feeling, well, jaded, so tune in for your weekly dose of gay empowerment. We're talking pop culture, politics, and dating hardships, all through the lens of overcoming gay trauma and nurturing our emotional wellbeing.

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156. Punchlines and Pride: Activism Through Queer Comedy (with Michael John Ciszewski)

6/24/2025
For gay men, humor has long been a powerful tool for resilience, offering both a means of survival through marginalization and a way to reclaim joy and identity. As queer comedy evolves and gains mainstream visibility, it remains a radical act of authenticity, resistance, and connection—especially during Pride, when celebrating visibility and community is more important than ever. In this episode, Michael John Ciszewski joins us to share his journey as a queer comedian and explore how humor fuels authenticity, activism, and connection during Pride and beyond in today’s ever-evolving cultural and political landscape. Related Episodes: Listen to Episode 33. Self-Deprecating Humor: Am I Crying or Laughing?Listen to Episode 34. GBF: Gay Best FriendListen to Episode 135. Don't Be A Mean Gay Additional Resources: Self-Deprecating Humor’s Effect on LGBTQ+ Mental Health and Self-EsteemFrom Sidekick to Main Character: Unpacking the 'Gay Best Friend' Trope and Its Impact on Queer MenLearn More About Michael JohnFollow Michael John on InstagramFollow Michael John on TikTokSubscribe to Michael John on YouTubeFollow Michael John on TwitterSupport the show Get Your Merch

Duration:01:08:04

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155. Queers in History: Pride, Resistance, and Fighting Erasure (with Keith Stern)

6/17/2025
We've previously explored how LGBTQ+ history has often been overlooked, ignored, or deliberately erased, demonstrating the importance of remembering and honoring our past. Despite ongoing attacks from the current administration aimed at censoring or rewriting queer history, LGBTQ+ historians continue to preserve it, ensuring that our stories and the figures who shaped them are not forgotten. In this episode, Keith Stern, author of Queers in History, joins us discuss the evolution of his groundbreaking encyclopedia over the past three decades and how understanding our history can empower future generations and strengthen today’s activism. Related Episodes: Listen to Episode 145. Resisting Erasure: Preserving LGBTQ+ History (with Michael Venturiello) Additional Resources: Learn More About Queers in HistoryLearn More About Keith SternSupport the show Get Your Merch

Duration:00:33:51

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154. Pride and Protest: Defending LGBTQ+ Rights in a Shifting America (with Mari Nemec)

6/10/2025
The current state of LGBTQ+ rights and politics reflects both significant progress and mounting challenges, with ongoing debates over transgender rights, workplace protections, and marriage equality. Activism, rooted in the community’s historic struggle for equality, continues to drive the Pride movement’s call for visibility, justice, and protection against rising anti-LGBTQ+ legislation and rhetoric. In this episode, Mari Nemec, Advocacy Counsel for the National LGBTQ+ Bar Association, joins us to discuss the evolving fight for LGBTQ+ rights, the vital role of legal advocacy in countering political threats, and how Pride remains a powerful reminder that activism, visibility, and community are essential to securing lasting equality. Related Episodes: Listen to Episode 06. Gay Panic DefenseListen to Episode 20. Don't Say GayListen to Episode 46. Obergefell v. Hodges and the Ongoing Fight for Marriage EqualityListen to Episode 67. 303 Creative LLC v. Elenis Additional Resources: The LGBTQ+ Panic Defense: A Threat to Our Safety and EqualityThe Ripple Effects of the "Don't Say Gay" Bill on LGBTQ+ CommunitiesThe Fight for Marriage Equality Isn’t Over: Obergefell & BeyondHow 303 Creative LLC v. Elenis Threatens LGBTQ+ Freedoms and Civil RightsLearn More About the National LGBTQ+ Bar AssociationFollow the National LGBTQ+ Bar Association on InstagramConnect with the National LGBTQ+ Bar Association on LinkedInFollow the National LGBTQ+ Bar Association on FacebookSubscribe to the National LGBTQ+ Bar Association on YouTubeFollow the National LGBTQ+ Bar Association on TwitterSupport the show Get Your Merch

Duration:00:51:33

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153. Pride, Pleasure, and the Path to Healing (with Court Vox)

6/3/2025
While Pride is often seen as a time for parades and rainbow flags, it can also be a reminder of the trauma, shame, and disconnection that many LGBTQ+ people, especially gay men, carry within themselves. Yet Pride can also be a time of reclamation, offering an opportunity to honor queer joy and reconnect with our desires and authentic selves. In this episode, Court Vox, a leading somatic sex educator, surrogate partner, and founder of The BodyVox, joins us to discuss how we can heal through pleasure and reclaim Pride as a celebration of embodied authenticity, connection, and the radical act of embracing our fullest selves. Related Episodes: Listen to Episode 5. 05. Interpersonal Vulnerability: Overcoming the Fear of RejectionListen to Episode 22. Deeper and Deeper: Building Emotional IntimacyListen to Episode 108. Celebrate Queer JoyListen to Episode 146. The Velvet Rage Additional Resources: The Power of Vulnerability in Building Authentic Gay RelationshipsEmotional Intimacy in Gay Relationships: Overcoming App Culture and Building Deeper ConnectionsLearn More About CourtFollow Court on InstagramFollow The Body Vox on InstagramFollow The Body Vox on TwitterFollow The Body Vox on FacebookSupport the show Get Your Merch

Duration:00:50:46

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152. Bratz to the Bone (with Chris Angelo)

5/27/2025
In previous episodes, we discussed how pop culture has long served as a powerful space for gay men to find representation, expression, and community, offering both a reflection of their struggles and a source of empowerment. Within this space, dolls and collectibles further provide a medium for gay men to explore themes of identity, often becoming symbols of empowerment and nostalgia within queer culture. In this episode, Chris Angelo, a Bratz collector, joins us to discuss the intersection of his queer identity with collecting and why pop culture collectibles provide a source of community for LGBTQ+ people. Additional Resources: Follow Chris Angelo on InstagramFollow The Bratz Barista on InstagramSupport the show Get Your Merch

Duration:00:29:21

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151. Twink Death: RIP Skinny Jeans

5/20/2025
In recent years, "twink death"—the idea that a young, slim gay man loses social value as he ages out of the "twink" category—has gained traction as a viral online concept. Though often treated as a humorous social media trend, it highlights the deeper issues around ageism, body image, and the pressure to conform to narrow beauty standards within the gay community. In this episode, we unpack the cultural categorization of twinks, explore the origins and implications of "twink death," and discuss how gay men can challenge ageist beauty standards and embrace aging with pride. Related Episodes: Listen to Episode 32. Gay Men and Body ObsessionListen to Episode 60. Is 30 Gay Death? Additional Resources: The Pressure to Achieve Perfection: Body Obsession in the Gay Community and Its Impact on Self-WorthDebunking 'Gay Death': How Gay Men Can Age with PrideTwink (Urban Dictionary)Twink (Dictionary.com)Twinkie (Collins Dictionary)What is a Twink?Twink (Wikipedia)Twink Death (Urban Dictionary)Twink Death (Know Your Meme)Twink Death and Its ConsequencesExoletus (Wikipedia)Twink Death: Is the Party Really Over?Twink DeathSupport the show Get Your Merch

Duration:00:20:21

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150. Lights, Camera, Action: The Importance of Trans Voices in Media (with AJ Mattioli)

5/13/2025
In previous episodes, we explored how LGBTQ+ media representation has evolved significantly since the early days of cinema, shifting from largely negative stereotypes and hidden identities to more nuanced and diverse portrayals of queer experiences. Despite this progress, there still seems to be a lack of LGBTQ+ voices and perspectives behind the cameras, ensuring that characters are authentically represented. In this episode, AJ Mattioli, a trans producer, director, and owner of Mattioli Productions, joins us to explore the critical need for authentic representation both on-screen and behind the scenes, the distinctive challenges encountered by trans-owned film production companies, and how we, as members of the LGBTQ+ community, can actively support and uplift queer filmmakers. Related Episodes: Listen to Episode 07. The History of Gay Representation in TV & FilmListen to Episode 55. Gay for Pay: Should Straight Actors Play Queer Characters?Listen to Episode 97. Diversifying Queer Horror Cinema (with Jose Nateras)Listen to Episode 98. Dear Netflix: Stop Cancelling Our Queer Shows Additional Resources: Learn More About Mattioli ProductionsFollow Mattioli Productions on InstagramFollow Mattioli Productions on YouTubeCheck Out Mattioli Productions’ Latest TrailersBrowse Mattioli Productions’ FilmsSupport the show Get Your Merch

Duration:00:56:33

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149. Boats, Bears, and Building Community (with Chumley Singer)

5/6/2025
LGBTQ+ individuals often navigate the diverse landscape of the queer community to forge connections that resonate with their identities, seeking spaces where they feel seen, understood, and supported. The bear community, with its celebration of body positivity and inclusivity, provides a unique subculture within the larger LGBTQ+ spectrum, fostering a strong sense of belonging and community engagement. In this episode, Mark Singer, founder of Chumley’s BearCruises, joins us to discuss his experiences within the bear community, detailing how it inspired him to create Chumley's BearCruises and how these cruises foster a strong sense of belonging and connection among bears. Additional Resources: Learn More About Chumley’s BearCruisesFollow Chumley’s BearCruises on InstagramSubscribe to Chumley’s BearCruises on YouTubeConnect with Chumley’s BearCruises on FacebookRooted Resilience Rooted Resilience: Intersectional Narratives of 2SLGBTQIA+ Creatives in MA Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify Support the show Get Your Merch

Duration:00:57:18

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148. Ethical Non-Monogamy: Redefining Relationships (with Jeff Hudson)

4/29/2025
In a time when relationships are no longer confined to traditional labels, ethical non-monogamy allows gay individuals to build connections that align with their unique desires and values. By fostering open communication, trust, and mutual consent, non-monogamous relationships can provide fulfilling connections that honor the evolving dynamics of love and partnership. In this episode, Jeff Hudson joins us to share his personal journey with ethical non-monogamy, discussing the challenges and misconceptions surrounding non-traditional relationships and how his experience reshaped his views on love and commitment. Related Episodes: Listen to Episode 54. Love in the Third Degree (with Eric Praniewicz) Additional Resources: Read Exploring Polyamory Among Gay Men: Redefining Love, Connection, and AuthenticityFollow Jeff on InstagramRead Deconstructing Us: My Trouble with a ThroupleEthical Non-Monogamy: Basics & Rules for ENM RelationshipsRooted Resilience Rooted Resilience: Intersectional Narratives of 2SLGBTQIA+ Creatives in MA Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify Support the show Get Your Merch

Duration:00:40:19

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147. The Ultimate Guide to Gaycations (with Jason Heidemann)

4/22/2025
In previous episodes, we've explored the key themes of gay villages and how destinations like Fire Island and Provincetown serve as sanctuaries for the queer community. Gay men, in particular, are often passionate about travel because it provides a sense of freedom, adventure, and the chance to engage with diverse cultures, communities, and experiences that affirm their identities. In this episode, Jason Heidemann, a Los Angeles-based LGBTQ+ travel writer, to discuss the significance of gaycations, share safety tips for LGBTQ+ travelers, and explore how to travel the world on a budget. Related Episodes: Listen to Episode 24. Gay Villages: Won't You Be My Gaybor?Listen to Episode 65. Fire IslandListen to 114. Provincetown Additional Resources: Check Out Jason's WorkTune in to Best Gaycation Ever! PodcastFollow Jason on InstagramFollow Jason on BlueskyRead The Great Gay American Road TripRead 8 Must-Do Experiences in NevadaRead The 8 Best LGBTQ+ & Gay Cruises for 2025Rooted Resilience Rooted Resilience: Intersectional Narratives of 2SLGBTQIA+ Creatives in MA Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify Support the show Get Your Merch

Duration:01:10:18

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146. The Velvet Rage

4/15/2025
Throughout many episodes, we’ve discussed how gay men continue to grapple with the shame they internalized as children growing up in a predominantly straight society that often invalidated or condemned their identities. This lingering shame can evolve into deep-rooted trauma, affecting their self-worth, relationships, and overall mental well-being. In this episode, we're exploring the theme of gay identity development from Dr. Alan Downs’ groundbreaking book, The Velvet Rage, and unpacking his three-stage framework for emotional well-being to live more fulfilling lives as proud gay men. Related Episodes: Listen to Episode 01. Hello, Trauma. It's Me, Rob.Listen to Episode 13. Perfectly Imperfect: Conquer Your PerfectionismListen to Episode 15. Understanding Attachment StylesListen to Episode 42. Are You Emotionally Unavailable?Listen to Episode 47. Say Goodbye to Abandonment IssuesListen to Episode 86. Turn Off Your Code-Switching Additional Resources: Read The Velvet RageAuthenticity Unmasked: Navigating Mental Health for Gay MenUnderstanding and Addressing Emotional Unavailability in Gay Men: Causes, Signs, and SolutionsPerfectly Imperfect: Understanding Perfectionism and Its Impact on Gay MenNavigating Love with Attachment Styles: Building Healthier Relationships for Gay MenUnderstanding Abandonment Issues in Gay Men: Navigating Fear of Rejection and Building Healthy RelationshipsSupport the show Get Your Merch

Duration:00:34:25

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145. Resisting Erasure: Preserving LGBTQ+ History (with Michael Venturiello)

4/8/2025
In past episodes, we've explored pivotal moments in LGBTQ+ history that have often been overlooked or erased, highlighting why remembering our past is so vital. With the current administration actively trying to erase our history, preserving and sharing these stories—from hidden queer figures to the fight for educational accessibility—is more urgent than ever. In this episode, Michael Venturiello, an LGBTQ+ historian and founder of Christopher Street Tours, joins us to talk about the importance of preserving LGBTQ+ history, the misconceptions that still exist, and how we can ensure these stories are passed down to future generations. Related Episodes: Listen to Episode 17. Mobsters & Mos: How the Mafia Owned Gay NightlifeListen to Episode 63. The Stonewall Riots Additional Resources: The Mafia’s Control of New York's Gay Bars: A Hidden Chapter in LGBTQ+ HistoryLearn More About Christopher Street ToursRead Christopher Street Tours’ LGBTQ+ Community GuideFollow Christopher Street Tours on InstagramConnect with Christopher Street Tours on FacebookFollow Christopher Street Tours on TikTokFollow Michael Venturiello on InstagramConnect with Michael Venturiello on LinkedInThe Spiritually Curious Therapist Redefining therapy at the intersection of mental health, spirituality and healing. Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify Support the show Get Your Merch

Duration:00:57:11

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144. Bullies Beware: Confronting LGBTQ+ Bullying (with Mike Keller)

4/1/2025
The current landscape of LGBTQ+ bullying remains pervasive, especially in schools and online, where discrimination and harassment can have devastating impacts on mental health and well-being. Not only does this isolate individuals, but it also perpetuates a culture of fear and exclusion, making it harder for the community to achieve acceptance and equality. In this episode, Mike Keller, an author and speaker focused on raising bullying awareness, joins us to discuss how we can work together to eradicate bullying against LGBTQ+ individuals, raise awareness, and advocate for inclusive, supportive environments. Related Episodes: Listen to Episode 69. That's So Gay (You Really Shouldn't Say That)Listen to Episode 118. Heterosexism: Take Off the Straight Jacket Additional Resources: Learn More About Mike KellerFollow Mike on InstagramRead Mike’s BooksSupport the show Get Your Merch

Duration:00:37:08

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143. Heal from Religious Trauma (with Ann Russo)

3/25/2025
For gay men raised in religious environments, they often internalize harmful messages that condemn their sexual orientation, fostering a deep sense of unworthiness or fear. This religious trauma can manifest in lasting struggles with shame and self-acceptance, but through self-compassion, supportive communities, and healing practices, they can reclaim their sense of authenticity and pride in their identity. In this episode, Ann Russo, a religious trauma and queer empowerment specialist and founder of AMR Therapy, joins us to discuss how religious trauma impacts LGBTQ+ individuals and share strategies for reclaiming their sexuality and improving their mental health. Related Episodes: Listen to Episode 62. Let Go of Your Religious Trauma (with Eric Feltes)Listen to Episode 76. Finally Free (with Seth Showalter) Additional Resources: Learn More About AMR Therapy & Support ServicesFollow AMR Therapy & Support Services on InstagramFollow AMR Therapy & Support Services on FacebookConnect with Ann on LinkedInSupport the show Get Your Merch

Duration:00:36:52

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142. Get Over Your Het Lag

3/18/2025
Het lag is a humorous term for the exhaustion and disorientation queer people experience after prolonged exposure to exclusively straight environments. While the term is lighthearted, it speaks to the very real psychological toll of minority stress—the mental and emotional burden of navigating predominantly heterosexual spaces, code-switching, and enduring heterosexism. In this episode, we’re diving into the concept of minority stress, exploring its impact on our well-being, and discussing how building community can help alleviate its physical and emotional effects. Related Episodes: Listen to Episode 08. Finding Your CommunityListen to Episode 11. Overcoming Internalized HomophobiaListen to Episode 26. Gay & AnxiousListen to Episode 53. Stop Comparing Yourself to Other GaysListen to Episode 86. Turn Off Your Code-SwitchingListen to Episode 118. Heterosexism: Take Off the Straight JacketListen to Episode 135. Don't Be A Mean Gay Additional Resources: Finding Your Community: Navigating LGBTQ+ Friendships Beyond the Party SceneUnpacking Internalized Homophobia: A Deeper Look at Self-Directed NegativityAnxiety in Gay Men: Understanding Unique Challenges and Effective Coping StrategiesHet-Lag (Reddit)Het Lag (Twitter)Minority StressTrauma, Minority Stress, and Disproportionate Health Burden Among LGBTQ+ PeopleMinority Stress Theory: Application, Critique, and Continued RelevanceMinority Stress and LGBTQ+ Patients’ Mental HealthLGBTQ+ Mental Health and the Role of Minority StressSocial Isolation and Connectedness as Determinants of Well-Being: Global Evidence Mapping Focused on LGBTQ YouthThe Epidemic of Gay LonelinessSupport the show Get Your Merch

Duration:00:20:30

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141. Queer All Year: 365 Days of Celebrating Pride (with Patrick Gevas)

3/11/2025
While many people equate Pride to June, Pride events happen across the world throughout the year, amplifying the voices of the LGBTQ+ community. Given the recent political climate and ongoing challenges to LGBTQ+ rights, it's more important than ever to celebrate, participate, and advocate for equality and inclusion 365 days a year. In this episode, Patrick Gevas from Miami Beach Pride joins us to dives into the significance of Pride events and shares insights on how to celebrate and amplify queer joy year-round.. Related Episodes: Listen to Episode 105. The Pride Divide (with Tyrell Brown)Listen to Episode 106. Long Live Queer Nightlife (with Amin Ghaziani)Listen to Episode 108. Celebrate Queer Joy Additional Resources: Learn More About Miami Beach PrideFollow Miami Beach Pride on InstagramFollow Patrick Gevas on InstagramSupport the show Get Your Merch

Duration:00:51:28

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140. Calling All Allies: It’s Time to Step Up (with Greg Baird)

3/4/2025
While many people support LGBTQ+ rights and equality, true allyship goes a step further by actively standing against discriminatory legislation and amplifying queer voices. In this current political climate, it’s crucial that our allies remain engaged to protect hard-fought rights and continue pushing for progress toward a more inclusive future. In this episode, Greg Baird, a global lecturer and educator on LGBTQIA+ civil rights, joins us to explore how our allies can stand alongside us to challenge and dismantle hate and bigotry. Related Episodes: Listen to Episode 09. Corporate Greed & Rainbow CapitalismListen to Episode 16. Being an Ally (with Cheyenne Filipczyk)Listen to Episode 110. Where Have All the Rainbows Gone? Additional Resources: Beyond the Rainbow: The Dark Side of Corporate Pride and Rainbow CapitalismTrue Allyship: Moving Beyond Performative Support for the LGBTQ+ CommunityLearn More About GregFollow Greg on InstagramSubscribe to Greg on YouTubeConnect with Greg on FacebookConnect with Greg on LinkedInSupport the show Get Your Merch

Duration:00:40:17

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139. You're Probably Gayish (with Mike Johnson & Kyle Getz)

2/25/2025
Gay stereotypes often arise from oversimplified and exaggerated portrayals in the media, which overlook the complexity of individual experiences and reinforce societal biases. While some of these stereotypes may seem harmless or humorous, they can lead to real-world consequences, including discrimination and alienation. In this episode, Mike Johnson and Kyle Getz, hosts of Gayish, join us to discuss their new book, You're Probably Gayish, which breaks down the most prevalent gay stereotypes in popular discourse. Additional Resources: Learn More About GayishBuy You’re Probably GayishFollow Gayish on InstagramSubscribe to Gayish on YouTubeFollow Mike on InstagramFollow Kyle on InstagramSupport the show Get Your Merch

Duration:00:41:19

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138. Will & Grace

2/18/2025
We’ve previously examined the history of gay representation in TV and film, tracing its evolution from early portrayals to groundbreaking moments like Ellen, which helped pave the way for greater visibility. Among these influential shows, Will & Grace stood out as a game-changer, bringing gay characters into mainstream sitcoms and normalizing LGBTQ+ identities for a wide audience—though its representation wasn’t without flaws. In this episode, we’re exploring the conception of Will & Grace, its cultural significance, and the lasting impact it had on queer representation in television. Related Episodes: Listen to Episode 07. The History of Gay Representation in TV & FilmListen to Episode 12. Queer as FolkListen to Episode 55. Gay for Pay: Should Straight Actors Play Queer Characters? Additional Resources: Streaming Through Stereotypes: The Progress and Pitfalls of LGBTQ+ Representation in MediaQueer as Folk: A Groundbreaking Journey of LGBTQ+ RepresentationWill & GracePilot (Will & Grace)Biden Says He is 'Absolutely Comfortable' with Same-Sex MarriageObama Backs Gay MarriageSupport the show Get Your Merch

Duration:00:25:55

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137. Who’s Your Daddy? (with Sal Zambito)

2/11/2025
The term "daddy" has been used as slang for over 300 years and was embraced by the gay community in the 1970s, particularly within the leather subculture, leading to the popular phrase "leather daddy." Today, in gay culture, "daddy" represents an older, confident, and nurturing figure, often admired for their authority, maturity, and sexual appeal, while also evoking playful and affectionate dynamics within romantic relationships. In this episode, For the Love of DILFs star Sal Zambito joins us to explore what it means to be a daddy in gay culture, the journey of embracing the daddy identity, and the valuable lessons daddies and boys can learn from one another within the gay community. Additional Resources: Follow Sal on InstagramFollow Sal on TikTokCheck out Sal on For the Love of DILFs Season 2Learn More About For the Love of DILFsConception of a Question: Who's Your Daddy?Here's an Outrageously Comprehensive Guide to the Term 'Daddy'Gay Daddy (Urban Dictionary)Daddy (Know Your Meme)S and M : Studies in dominance and submissionSupport the show Get Your Merch

Duration:00:46:08