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This week, Eric is joined by Melissa Seldon! Melissa is an artist, librarian-for-hire, and nature lover. Creating is a predominant part of her mental health and healing process that she is currently working through. Her art pieces can represent emotions and ideas that the deep and dusty corners of her brain offer up, as well as traits and behaviors that she is attempting to embody. The majority of Melissa’s art has an illustration bent to it and is inspired by nature. The execution can range from the representational to the fantastical, as well as more stylized designs. Watercolor is Melissa’s medium of choice, but lately, she has been revisiting metal jewelry, handbuilding with clay, and collage. Find Melissa on Instagram @apoideastudio Check out Melissa’s website at apoideastudio.wordpress.com Questions/Topics: [00:01:06] Introducing Melissa [00:02:50] Melissa recaps a tough year at work, advocating, and dealing with anxiety [00:05:29] Asking for accommodations and flexible deadlines [00:08:07] “Middle school is hard for everyone.” [00:08:37] ADHD in the workplace and coming out of the pandemic [00:12:39] Opening up about crippling generalized anxiety [00:18:43] Recovering from burnout and aching for creativity [00:21:03] “I bought an anvil” [00:22:50] Art and connecting with a creative longing [00:24:36] Creativity to cope with and manage anxiety [00:25:56] Executive functions and barriers to get started on creative work [00:28:25] Connecting creating with feelings [00:29:55] The role of subject matter in personal creativity [00:32:17] A discussion on music and albums [00:39:34] Selling a painting, a gathering gallery space, and The Veiled Crow [00:42:06] The importance of community and choosing ‘now’ to speak up about burnout [00:45:12] Life in the middle of burnout and recovery [00:47:53] “I’ll do that later” [00:49:14] Melissa shares her thoughts on success [00:51:57] “If you could change one thing…” [00:55:25] “We have to listen to our bodies.” [00:58:58] Closing thoughts & getting in touch with Melissa Resources & Honorable Mentions: Shop: The Veiled Crow Music: Nightfall in Middle Earth 🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community! 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

This week, Trina Haynes from MyLadyADHD joins the show! Trina is the founder of My Lady ADHD, which empowers and supports individuals facing ADHD challenges! She created a safe space and vibrant community for women, drawing from her own personal ADHD journey. Trina is also the host of the My Lady ADHD Podcast, and is the cofounder of Get Lost Retreats, featuring regular ADHD women’s retreats around the globe! Learn more about Trina at MyLadyADHD.com! Check out Get Lost Retreats at getlostretreats.com Questions/Topics: [00:00:42] Introducing Trina [00:01:55] Eric and Trina talk about the struggle of making friends and maintaining friendships [00:06:45] Executive functions, planning & scheduling, maintenance, and avoidance [00:07:47] Perceived rejections, shame, and assuming the best of intentions [00:10:18] Connecting with ADHDers vs. connecting with neurotypicals [00:11:25] An ADHD moment… then, a discussion on fizzled-out friendships [00:14:18] The difficulty of making friends after lockdown and isolation [00:15:15] Introversion, extroversion, and recovery time [00:16:44] FOMO (fear of missing out) and the challenge of transitions to stop when being with friends [00:23:44] Another ADHD moment… [00:24:30] Trina shares lessons learned from friendships that didn’t last, why friendships might not always last, and the importance of communicating clear intentions [00:26:48] Friendships, feedback, investing, and balance [00:31:13] Eric and Trina take an intentional moment to reach out to a friend [00:32:26] Managing emotions when worrying if friends will be upset with you, the importance of repair, and being a people-pleaser [00:36:36] Personal dumpster fires, healing, and exploring [00:39:37] The importance of going back to basics and max-capacities [00:47:16] Phone tools and apps to help with communication [00:50:23] Frontloading conversations with honesty and vulnerability [00:51:44] How to get in touch with Trina and closing thoughts Resources & Honorable Mentions: Hear Eric on Trina’s podcast on the My Lady ADHD Podcast Hear Trina and other panelists on ADHD reWired’s Live Q&A from August 8th - Episode 500 🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community! 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

This week, Eric is joined by Emily Karp! Emily is a 33-year-old entrepreneur, asexuality activist, and fan-work creator! She embraced her ADHD around age 30 and quit her tedious job to become self-employed as a funeral celebrant and memorial slideshow editor who crafts personalized funerals and celebration-of-life events for non-religious individuals. Emily went through the ADHD reWired coaching program in spring of 2021 and became a peer mentor in 2022. Emily is also one of the authors of the book Ace and Aro Journeys: A Guide to Embracing your Asexual or Aromantic Identity, and is a lead organizer of the Washington DC Metro Area Ace and Aro meetup group! Learn more about Emily at griefpictured.com! Questions/Topics: [00:01:39] Introducing Emily [00:02:41] Diving into the start of Emily’s ADHD journey [00:03:37] The stakes of getting an ADHD diagnosis [00:04:47] Life as an administrative professional before treatments [00:08:47] Burnout, becoming an entrepreneur, sleep struggles, and coaching [00:10:30] The “why” behind becoming a non-religious Funeral Celebrant [00:13:24] Helping others grieve and heal, family estrangements, memorial gatherings, and closure [00:17:17] Grief to acceptance with ADHD [00:24:07] The basics of asexuality and aromantics [00:26:04] Nuances of ace relationships, significant others, attraction, and more [00:28:25] Physical desire, libido, and other statistics in the asexual community [00:30:44] A discussion on dysfunction, orientation, sexual trauma, and gatekeeping [00:33:20] ADHD and neurodivergence in the Ace community [00:42:07] The positive impact of community and relationships [00:45:01] Emily’s facilitated sessions in the ADHD reWired community spaces [00:46:54] Sharing more wins [00:48:43] Emily’s work, website, and closing thoughts Resources & Honorable Mentions: Podcast: Aceterpretations Website: TAAAP - The Ace and Aro Advocacy Project @ taaap.org Book: Ace and Aro Journeys: A Guide to Embracing Your Asexual or Aromantic Identity Want to go to CHADD this year? Go to chadd.org to learn more! 🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community! 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A! If you want to join us live on Zoom, go to adhdrewired.com/events to register! You’ll also find the bonus Q&As from this recording and can listen in ad-free on Patreon when you become a Patron at $5.00 a month or more by going to adhdrewired.com/Patreon! Questions/Topics: [00:01:49] “For those who have done some individual coaching work on ADHD, how can groups offer to help with further progress if we’ve already learned some (ADHD management) strategies?” [00:03.06] An ADHD moment: introducing the panelists + sharing group-coaching experiences [00:08:21] Saying vs. Knowing [00:09:22] A listener asks about creating processes: “How do you draw the line between a useful process, but when it’s so complex, it becomes dreadful, then ends up getting in the way?” [00:13.49] Dare to start small [00:14:55] Decluttering your processes [00:18:22] “As parents with ADHD, what are the dos and don’ts with a potentially neurodiverse child in school?” [00:20.39] A discussion on advocating for your child [00:23:07] The importance of managing emotions while advocating [00:30:21] “Because ADHD sometimes comes with emotional dysregulation, which sometimes happens to me at not-so-opportune times, do you have any tips or strategies for coaching oneself beforehand or ways to get oneself out of dysregulation when it’s happening?” [00:30:55] DBT (dialectical behavior therapy), interrupting dysregulation in the body, and emotion in the body [00:32:38] The importance of knowing your tendencies [00:33:54] A discussion and sharing experiences with EMDR [00:35:21] The before, during, and after-care of emotions in certain situations; noticing physical responses [00:37:30] A listener asks about the Alumni Community versus Adult Study Hall and ADHD reWired’s free Facebook community [00:37:50] Kristin shares her experiences of the Alumni community after coaching [00:38:58] Laura talks about the relationships and connections made [00:40:05] Brian’s successes utilizing accountability and cultivating continuing growth [00:44:35] Closing thoughts & announcements Resources & Honorable Mentions Learn more about Wrightslaw What is EMDR? Join ADHD reWired’s online body-doubling community at AdultStudyHall.com! Interested in going to the CHADD conference? Check it out at CHADD.org/conference! 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

In today’s episode, Eric is joined by Edward Savio! Edward is a dad, has ADHD, wrote a musical, and grew up in Connecticut; after Howard University, Edward moved to Los Angeles to pursue screenwriting, where he became a 10-year overnight success! Savio’s first novel, Idiots in the Machine, was picked up by Sony Pictures from the academy award-winning producers of Forest Gump. After more deals with Sony, Disney, and others, Edward shifted his focus writing novels so he could spend more time with his family. He wrote his first three novels in the home overlooking San Francisco Bay, where Danielle Steel wrote her first two breakout novels. He also once nearly drove Val Kilmer off a cliff! Learn more about Edward at his website: EdwardSavio.com 🌟 Go to adhdrewired.com/Patreon where you can get an uninterrupted listening experience of this show! You’ll also catch the full content of today’s episode and Eric and Edward’s extended discussion when you become a Patron at $5 a month or more! You can even join Eric every 4th Tuesday of the month for a Patron-only monthly coaching call at $25 a month! Questions/Topics: [00:01:32] Introducing Edward Mentioned here: Book - Idiots in the Machine [00:02:50] How Edward became successful and a writer and managing ADHD [00:04:45] Routine, resistance, novelty, and plateauing [00:06:03] How to revisit a project that’s been put away for a while [00:09:10] Misunderstandings in writing and why inflection matters [00:10:50] Struggles with transitions [00:14:09] Getting help and taking action [00:15:04] Edward shares some of his writing process and mitigating distractions [00:21:23] Systems, built-in overhead, and a question about calendars [00:25:37] Planning for and putting fun stuff on your calendar, and guilt when not engaging with goal-directed behavior [00:29:04] “Do you know how many people said they wished they worked more?” and a creative person’s struggle [00:31:04] “I want to make sure [...] my writing does not overtake my ability to interact with people.” - Edward [00:33:00] Goals, good ideas, and basketball in the office [00:37:43] Tips for when your brain is faster than you can write and organizing thoughts [00:41:51] When you don’t want to write, do this. [00:42:52] What else has Edward been up to? Mentioned here: Book - The Velvet Sledgehammer [00:47:11] Closing thoughts & where to find more from Edward Resources & Honorable Mentions: ADHD reWired: Episode 497: Succeed in College with Hannah Choi Book: The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing by Bronnie Ware 🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community! 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

In today’s episode, Danielle Sullivan joins the podcast! Danielle is the founder of Neurodiverging Coaching, which offers sliding scale neurodiversity-affirming coaching options for the community. Danielle is also a certified Positive Psychology coach, a certified Parent Coach, and a certified trauma-informed specialist! They had intended to remain in academia to work on gendered disability and religion, but then pivoted after she was diagnosed as autistic around age 30 after her eldest child was also diagnosed. In looking for resources for herself, she found very little, and began producing the Neurodiverging Podcast to try and develop and offer resources for others like her. In this episode, you’ll hear about communication nuances and unpacking the challenges and adaptability for people with both ADHD and autism across different social contexts, managing the home, exploring home dynamics and practices for managing a neurodiverse household, and the importance of non-judgemental regulation. Then, you’ll hear discussions about advocacy, ableism, confronting ableism, burnout and understanding burnout with sensory overload, burnout strategies and prevention, and explorations with technology and ADHD. Learn more about Danielle and find their podcast at Neurodiverging.com Questions/Topics: [00:01:36] Episode Summary [00:03:21] Introducing Danielle [00:06:29] Sensory differences, being the “difficult child”, stereotypical presentations, and exploring autism as an adult [00:09:53] A discussion on politeness norms and how environment can affect presentation [00:13:28] Coping with variables and novel situations [00:15:08] Managing a neurodivergent household, sensory mismatches, overwhelm, and regulation strategies [00:19:34] “What if I just do one more thing?” [00:23:53] Raising awareness around autism in adults: What is Neurodiverging all about? [00:27:53] Industries attempting to accommodate [00:29:13] A discussion on internalized ableism [00:33:04] Overly formal speech, chronic ear infections, and asynchronous development [00:37:37] A discussion on burnout: neurotypical vs. neurodivergent burnout [00:41:33] Recognizing burnout, autistic behaviors, and the effects of a dysregulated nervous system [00:45:19] “If you can name it, you can tame it.” [00:46:30] Danielle’s go-to strategies for managing burnout and burnout prevention [00:47:03] Learning about your own sensory systems and triggers [00:48:49] An ADHD moment… [00:49:42] Addressing physical stress, emotions in the body, and closing the stress-cycle [00:53:29] Words of wisdom and closing thoughts Resources & Honorable Mentions: Book: Burnout - The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski, PhD and Amelia Nagoski, DMA 🌟 Go to adhdrewired.com/Patreon where you can get an uninterrupted listening experience of this show and bonus content when you become a Patron at $5 a month or more! You can even join Eric every 4th Tuesday of the month for a Patron-only monthly coaching call at $25 a month! 🌟 Looking for real-time accountability? Want weekly check-ins to keep your momentum going on your most dreaded tasks or projects? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community! 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

In today’s episode, Eric is joined by Dr. Ali Arena! Dr. Ali is passionate about social cognition, language processing, executive functioning, and creating meaningful friendships and relationships. She is both a speech and language pathologist and a board-certified behavior analyst, has a doctorate degree in educational leadership, is becoming a licensed educational psychologist, and uses a neurodiversity- and trauma-informed lens when working with all clients. Dr. Ali’s doctorate focus was unique, to say the least, as it addresses the dating intricacies of autistics, which led her to develop her private practice for anyone who wants help socially navigating in their workplace or relationships. Lastly, Dr. Ali feels social support is a biological necessity and wants to help all neurodivergent individuals to reach wholistic communication. Find out more and get connected with Dr. Ali at Connection-Squared.com Questions/Topics: [00:01:36] Introducing Dr. Ali [00:03:26] Eric asks Dr. Ali how she got into focusing on relationships and the dating intricacies of neurodivergent people [00:05:04] Emptying the dishwasher and other themes in neurodivergent relationships [00:06:40] A discussion on parentification [00:07:53] Ways to bring up difficult conversations with a partner [00:11:31] Cleaning up 99 percent, not assuming negative meanings, and shame responses [00:18:27] Listening, eye-contact, and different ways of processing while listening [00:22:35] “How do you cope with going out to eat in a noisy restaurant?” and other sensory challenges when communicating [00:24:41] Setting yourself up for talking with your partner [00:26:02] Communicating via text [00:32:47] A discussion on neurodivergent relationships and sex [00:36:57] Neurodiversity and the LGBTQ+ community [00:39:00] Explaining neurodiversity as part of one’s identity in a relationship [00:42:54] The impact of being in a relationship with someone who understands your neurodiversity [00:45:31] Finding support for neurodivergent relationships and how to get in touch with Dr. Ali [00:46:20] One more question for Dr. Ali & closing thoughts 🌟 Want to hear the bonus questions and answer at the end of this episode? Go to adhdrewired.com/Patreon where you can get an uninterrupted listening experience of this show and bonus content when you become a Patron at $5 a month or more! You can even join Eric every 4th Tuesday of the month for a Patron-only monthly coaching call at $25 a month! 🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community! 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

In today’s show, Brooke Schnittman joins Eric on the podcast! Brooke is a professional coach who understands, first-hand, the challenges of living with ADHD. As an adult with a late ADHD diagnosis, she knows what it feels like to feel frustrated, overwhelmed, and ashamed. But, instead of giving up, Brooke decided to use her personal experiences to help others with ADHD. She left a school system in 2018 to create a specially-tailored program for individuals for ADHD, called 3C Activation, which focuses on the importance of boundaries and small actions to activate potential and achieve continued success through maintaining momentum! Listen to Brooke’s Podcast: SuccessFULL with ADHD Check out Brooke’s website and find her book: CoachingWithBrooke.com Find Brooke on Instagram: @coachingwithbrooke Questions/Topics: [00:01:25] Introducing Brooke, a little ADHD tangent, and a relatable discussion about paperwork [00:04:12] What is 3C Activation? [00:06:10] The importance of intentionality behind small changes and habits vs. making many changes all at the same time [00:08:09] 3 steps for tasks and setting up the readiness for behavioral change [00:10:07] A moment of reading chicken scratch and controlling the chaos of your own ADHD brain [00:17:07] Consistency, resiliency, self-compassion, and persistence [00:19:41] The importance of sharing and acknowledging your wins [00:21:40] Overcoming negativity bias [00:22:26] A framework of boundaries, questions to check in with yourself, and saying “no” [00:25:21] The nervous system and its effect on decision-making [00:28:43] Discussing the resistance to delegation [00:32:43] “People actually want to help.” [00:35:09] Delegating creative tasks [00:36:46] ChatGPT, anyone? [00:41:14] Brooke talks about her book [00:45:01] Closing thoughts & announcements Resources & Honorable Mentions: Website: Dan Sullivan 🌟 Want to hear the bonus questions and answer at the end of this episode? Go to adhdrewired.com/Patreon where you can get an uninterrupted listening experience of this show and bonus content when you become a Patron at $5 a month or more! You can even join Eric every 4th Tuesday of the month for a Patron-only monthly coaching call at $25 a month! 🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community! 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A! If you want to join us live on Zoom, go to adhdrewired.com/events to register! You’ll also find bonus Q&As and can listen to this episode ad-free on Patreon when you become a Patron at $5.00 a month or more by going to adhdrewired.com/Patreon! Questions/Topics: [00:02:39] A listener asks the panelists for advice on how to help others take steps to get an ADHD diagnosis [00:05:02] Discussing online assessments [00:07:51] Red flags when seeking help for ADHD [00:10:07] “How do you all overcome the difficulty of transitions? I know what needs to be done, but why does transitioning from one thing to another feel like such a chore?” [00:12:17] Habit stacking and buffer space [00:17:14] A listener chimes in with suggestions for overcoming the difficulty of transitions [00:20:57] Resources, tips and tricks for a listener who was diagnosed with ADHD at 61 [00:24:52] A discussion about medication and side-effects [00:26:54] More resources and how coaching can help [00:29:54] The multi-pronged approach to ADHD management [00:35:53] “I am pretty burnt out at work, and I was given/voluntold to take 2 weeks of rest; I was wondering what can I do in these next two weeks to improve my burnout and ensure I continue to improve when I return so I don’t get burnt out again?” [00:38:14] A helpful resource on burnout and processes of introspection [00:44:51] Discussing health definitions and healthcare [00:47:24] Tips and strategies to engage with self-care and being “ready” for self-care [00:49:58] “ADHD is a performance disorder. We know what to do - that’s not the issue. The issue is doing it.” [00:52:03] Self-awareness, dealing with compounded shame, and trauma [00:57:45] “Do you have any suggestions on how to communicate with someone who doesn’t understand that the reason why I do something that doesn’t make sense to them, and defending my stance, how can I still show accountability and not be so defensive? [01:00:43] Closing thoughts & announcements Resources & Honorable Mentions ADHD reWired episode 342: Transitions and Balancing Work & Relationships with Adison Smith Book: Atomic Habits by James Clear Book: Still Distracted After All These Years by Kathleen G. Nadeau Book: Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski, PhD and Amelia Nagoski, DMA The ADHD Effect on Marriage by Melissa Orlov Website: The Gottman Institute at gottman.com The 6 Ways of Closing the Stress Cycle Loop (from Burnout by Emily & Amelia Nagoski): Physical Activity, Creativity, Laughing. Crying, Physical Affection, and Deep Breathing “Burnout is… the nervous system and body taking the rest it needs by force.” - Brian Entler “ADHD reWired Coaching is about iteration, reflection, feedback, and keep doing that over and over again.” - Eric Tivers “An ADHD diagnosis doesn’t change the past, but it does change our understanding of the past.” “Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change.” - Brene Brown 🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community! 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

In today’s show, Shell Mendelson joins Eric on the podcast! Since January 2021, Shell’s Your Next Career Move MasterclassSM has empowered ADHD adults to create confident career options and was trained by Richard Bolles, the author of “What Color is Your Parachute?” With a Masters in Career Counseling, Shell offers more than 35 years of client experience while bringing her counseling, coaching, teaching, training, and nurturing gifts to help others clarify and focus on a well-defined direction and abundant livelihood. Following her own diagnosis of ADHD later in life, Shell profoundly understands how ADHD can impact one’s work and to reliably choose the best career direction: one that takes our “interest-based ADHD brain wiring” into consideration. Get in touch and find out more about Shell’s Next Career Move MasterclassSM on her website at CareerCoachingWithShell.com Questions/Topics: [00:01:23] Introducing Shell [00:02:35] Training with Richard Bolles and how it changed Shell’s life [00:07:13] What are some examples of some of the questions Shell might ask when someone is trying to figure out a career direction? [00:09:32] Looking beyond money and Safekeeping Self [00:10:32] Addressing potential deficits in self-awareness and answering self-assessment questions [00:25:44] So what is the “best” career for someone with ADHD? [00:26:55] If you were to ask 100 people if they knew exactly what they wanted to do for work, what is the percentage of people who could actually answer this question? [00:30:11] The role of stepping-stone jobs and the difference between someone who doesn’t know what they want and someone who does know what they want [00:31:44] Addressing the person who holds a marketable skill set in a lucrative profession but hates the work [00:32:19] Stories that Shell hears from people who reach out to her [00:34:40] Looking at other career options: “How do we figure this stuff out?” [00:36:36] Once you discover your “what,” the “how” appears, and a discussion next steps and different types of research [00:47:40] What is Shell’s 8-Week Masterclass and who is her class for? [00:52:21] How to get in touch with Shell, closing thoughts, and words of wisdom Resources & Honorable Mentions: Book: What Color is Your Parachute by Richard Bolles 🌟 Want to hear the bonus questions and answer at the end of this episode? Go to adhdrewired.com/Patreon where you can get an uninterrupted listening experience of this show and bonus content when you become a Patron at $5 a month or more! You can even join Eric every 4th Tuesday of the month for a Patron-only monthly coaching call at $25 a month! 🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community! 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

In today’s show, Eric is joined by Jessica Ovadia! Jessica, who has a Bachelor of Science in communication from New York University and a Master of Public Health from Emory University, is a healthcare communicator and a problem solver with a decade of experience helping clients articulate their message through engaged interactions, artful language choice, and thoughtful strategy. Her love of healthcare and deep passion for effective clear communication naturally led to the foundation of her consulting firm - Jessica Ovadia: Healthcare Messaging! Having grown up with parents as physicians and being a parent herself, you’ll hear about Jessica’s struggles with the growing demands of life. Then, you’ll also hear about simplifying complexities, motivation and burnout, creating your own structure, and overcoming tendencies to overcomplicate the way we communicate. Finally, you’ll hear discussions on the importance of clarifications and knowing the audience, self-esteem when owning your own business, what communicating the ADHD experience can look like, and more! Learn more about Jessica at her website jessicaovadia.com! Questions/Topics: [00:01:25] Introducing Jessica [00:03:03] Jessica talks about ADHD and how becoming a parent brought her challenges to the surface [00:04:46] Getting reacquainted with ADHD and unlearning developed patterns [00:06:01] Eric asks Jessica about being a business owner with ADHD and what led her to her passion of clear communication around healthcare [00:09:49] A discussion on motivation and burnout [00:14:08] Managing scheduling, structure, and accountability when being your own boss [00:23:23] When it comes to communication, how do we recognize when we’re overcomplicating things, then how do we simplify what and how we’re communicating? [00:28:19] Read-receipts and challenges around writing and responding [00:29:26] What to think about when you have a message and keeping it simple [00:31:53] What can we do to make sure we are coming across clearly and are being understood? [00:34:15] “I would have written less if I had more time.” [00:35:00] Eric asks Jessica for a helpful reframe or a framework to think about effectively communicating different parts of ADHD in shorter-form content. [00:41:24] What has Jessica learned about her own brain through having her own business? [00:44:38] How can we communicate and get better public understanding and messaging about what ADHD really is? What would that messaging campaign look like? [00:47:31] A discussion & sharing thoughts about ADHD as a superpower [00:51:05] Closing thoughts 🌟 Want to hear the bonus question and answer at the end of this episode? Go to adhdrewired.com/Patreon where you can get an uninterrupted listening experience of this show and bonus content when you become a Patron at $5 a month or more! 🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community! 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

In this episode, Eric is celebrating ADHD reWired's 500-episode milestone. Joining him are members of ADHD reWired's Coaching & Accountability Group Alumni Community, where they will be sharing their Dear ADHD Letters. A huge thanks to the members who shared their letters and their stories. Whether you're new to the show or you've been listening since episode 1, thank you for being here for 500 episodes. We hope you'll keep joining us for the next 500 episodes to come. Special thanks to all of our coaching group members, Alumni members, coaches, volunteers, Patrons, Facebook community members, listeners of the show old and new, the ADHD reWired team, all the wonderful guests that have been on the show, and everyone everywhere around and in between. Thank you so much for your support. We wouldn't be here without you. We CAN do hard things, and you are not alone. ❤️ 🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community! 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get on our Fall interest list or to stay up to date on the most recent upcoming season if you're listening to this in the future!

📣 Hey there ADHD reWired listeners! Quick annoucment about our fall season of coaching and accountability groups: If you missed last week's announcements or recent emails, then BIG news! We rolled back the pricing of our coaching groups to pre-2020 levels. You can join our fall season of coaching groups for as low as $1650 when you join sections with coaches Brian or Kristin, or you can join Eric's section for only $1999. Payment plans are also available! Then, after you complete our 10-week coaching program, we will also be giving registrants 6 months of membership in our alumni coaching community for free! 🌟 Join us for our upcoming registration events by going to coachingrewired.com to start your preregistration process. The dates for our upcoming registration events are: Monday, September 18th at 8:00 Pacific / 11:00am eastern Wednesday, September 20th at 12:00pm Pacific / 3:00pm Eastern For the most up to date information and to start your pre-registration process, get your name on our interest list at coachingrewired.com! If you have any questions or need clarifiation, please email us at support@adhdrewired.com 👆👆👆

Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A! If you want to join us live on Zoom, go to adhdrewired.com/events to register! In this episode, Trina from My Lady ADHD joins the panel! You’ll get answers to your ADHD-related questions about relationships, motivation, satisfaction, and burnout. You’ll also hear about taking care of aging parents, the importance of community, disclosing in the workplace, engaging in self-care, and more! You’ll also find bonus answers and can listen to this episode ad-free on Patreon when you become a Patron at $5.00 a month or more by going to adhdrewired.com/Patreon! Learn more about Trina at her website MyLadyADHD.com! Resources & Honorable Mentions Book: Still Distracted After All These Years by Kathleen G. Nadeau Book: The ADHD Effect on Marriage by Melissa Orlov Book: Burnout by Emily Nagoski, PhD and Amelia Nagoski, DMA Website: Inclusively.com Website: The Gottman Institute - A Research-Based Approach to Relationships Mentioned - HALT: Am I Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired? 🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community! 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

In today’s show, Eric is joined by Bowie Winnike, a.k.a. Rainbow! Rainbow is a gender doula and neurodivergent support coach with a background in art, education, activism, and mental health. They are deeply rooted in the trans community and have a passion for co-imagining deeper levels of communal accessible care. Learn more about Rainbow at RainbowChrysalisCoaching.com In this episode, you’ll hear Eric and Rainbow explore gender, the different intersections of oneself, and coming out! You’ll also hear them talk about what a gender doula is, unmasking and transitions. Finally, you’ll also hear about the importance of community, the possibilities through the process, the difference between being accepted vs. being valued for who you are, and more! Questions/Topics: [00:01:11] Introducing Rainbow [00:02:58] Rainbow talks about the challenges of feeling like they didn’t fit in [00:08:44] Addressing discomfort, and being “othered” [00:10:51] “What if we could just release these expectations?” and a discussion on masking [00:14:32] Rainbow opens up about living their truth in the midst of fear [00:22:42] What is a gender doula, and how can they help? [00:24:46] ADHD, transitions, and identity [00:29:43] Eric asks Rainbow about living their truth and how it’s affected their neurodivergence [00:33:56] A transformational artform, being celebrated, and stirring the pot [00:41:13] Neurodivergence in LGBTQ+ communities and pushing the boundaries of “normal” [00:48:24] Closing thoughts Resources & Honorable Mentions Book - Rest is Resistance: A Manifesto by Trisha Hersey Book - Beyond the Gender Binary by Alok Vaid-Menon Essay - Audre Lorde: The Transformation of Silence into Language and Action 🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community! 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

In today’s show, Eric is joined by Dana Crews! Dana has been a coach, educator, facilitator, and trainer in the behavioral health and mental health field for over 15 years. She is currently combining her own personal practice, unique life experience, and education in the ancient wisdom traditions together with modern psychology and behavioral and neuroscience research in her newly-created mindfulness ADHD life-coaching business: Second Arrow Life Coaching! Dana is an advocate for invisible disabilities and neurodivergence. She believes that knowing and connecting to your core values and practicing basic mindfulness and yogic techniques allows us to transform self-judgment and fear into constructive reflection, insight, compassion, health, and creative solutions. Find Dana on LinkedIn Learn more about Dana at her website secondarrowlifecoaching.com Find Dana on Instagram @secondarrowlifecoaching Questions/Topics: [00:01:11] Introducing Dana [00:03:08] What is the difference between satisfaction and contentment? [00:05:03] Exploring contentedness and its different avenues [00:06:32] Where is the overlap and what is separate between contentment and gratitude? [00:11:51] A discussion about the discomfort in familiarity [00:14:24] Is the struggle of holding onto contentment an issue of emotional self-regulation? [00:20:00] How much of the struggle around contentment comes from societal ideas of feeling content and ADHD brains needing novelty? [00:21:40] A discussion on Buddhist psychology and philosophy [00:23:52] How does one strive through the lens of Buddhist philosophy? [00:27:27] Not thinking about the future vs. over-planning for the future [00:29:40] Overidentification, rumination, and separation of self [00:31:32] How much of being able to experience being content has to do with resilience? [00:39:40] Dana shares more about growing up, undiagnosed ADHD, travel, and meeting the Dalai Lama [00:41:58] What is Ayurveda? [00:44:33] How can self-awareness inform our understanding of our experiences? [00:46:30] A moment of an idea of contentment [00:48:26] Closing thoughts 🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community! 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

In this episode, Hannah Choi joins Eric on the podcast! Hannah is an Executive Function Coach for Beyond Book Smart and is the host of the podcast, Focus Forward: An Executive Function Podcast. Hannah works with both college-aged clients and adult clients, and lives in Connecticut with her husband and two kids. Her executive function strengths are time management and cognitive flexibility, and her challenges are working memory and attention. Hannah also loves to read, watch Korean dramas, exercise, travel, and spend time outdoors! You’ll hear about the importance of developing a relationship with your professors, strategies and skills for self-advocacy, the benefits of breaking down big projects, and emotional regulation to access executive function skills. Then, you’ll also hear about the importance of maintaining sleep, nutrition, and exercise, managing medication, a warning about due dates, course load, schedule design, and more! Learn more about Hannah at beyondbooksmart.com Listen to Focus Forward at beyondbooksmart.com/podcast Questions/Topics: [00:01:02] Introducing Hannah [00:02:14] How did Hannah begin working with college students? [00:04:56] Hannah shares her experiences in college while questioning her abilities [00:05:44] “If I knew then what I know now….” [00:07:18] A discussion on self-advocacy while in college and getting over the fear of getting to know your professors [00:11:45] Hannah shares a tool she uses with clients [00:13:56] Breaking down Steps/Time/Mapping [00:18:076] Finding balance between college work and socializing [00:22:44] A discussion on emotional regulation and accessing executive function skills [00:30:21] Managing ADHD medication and other mental health treatments [00:32:53] What are some other important accommodations that students can ask for? [00:41:56] Eric shares an experience and a warning about (a lack of) due dates [00:44:47] How important is course load and schedule design? [00:49:14] Navigating interests in college [00:51:41] Closing Thoughts 🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community! 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

In this episode, Eric is joined by Vernon T. Foster II! Vernon is an author, podcaster, and self-proclaimed Sommelier of video marketing. Diagnosed with ADHD just over 2 years ago, Vernon is passionate about sharing his experience as a black man living with ADHD and creating community. You’ll hear Vernon share his story from life as a kid to today, what prompted him to write his book, what it’s like to have to walk out the door as a black man in America while navigating ADHD, and dealing with challenges because of the layers society has placed on black American men. Learn more about Vernon T. Foster II on Linkedin or at his video marketing website at vernontfoster.com Get Vernon’s book at adhdblack.com - The Black Man’s Handbook to Living with ADHD: 5 Ways to Create a Better Tomorrow No Matter How You’re Feeling Today Check out his Instagram @vernononvideo Questions/Topics: [00:01:06] Introducing Vernon and his continuing process of figuring himself out and his ADHD journey [00:02:56] Vernon shares his experiences with various jobs and getting fired [00:04:47] A conversation about what led Vernon to ADHD, connecting the dots, and life as the “token black kid” in school [00:08:09] Experiencing covert racism [00:10:02] Vernon shares about his time at Florida State University and a discussion on testing [00:10:50] Eric and Vernon on Scantrons [00:14:44] The Stroop Test [00:16:34] ADHD medication, college, and an important message [00:20:45] Eric shares a test-taking strategy [00:21:38] Life after an ADHD diagnosis / A shocking statistic / What prompted Vernon to write his book [00:23:35] Vernon shares his reaction about the ADHD diagnosis statistics on African American and Latino children [00:23:58] “Why didn’t anyone tell me this sh*t?” [00:25:19] Eric asks Vernon, “As a black man, diagnosed later with ADHD, [...] what do you think is maybe not understood by most people?” [00:25:57] “The world is already against you, the odds are already stacked against you” / Other challenges navigating the world as a black man [00:27:52] Understanding ADHD and how it affects every aspect of Vernon’s life [00:29:34] The challenges of navigating the world with something very visible alongside something that is invisible and how one affects the other [00:32:02] “A lot of people who look like me…” / Level the playing field / Hoarding information and wealth and perpetuating the cycle [00:33:36] “It’s my duty to be a steward of those things to help support other people that look like me, people that also don’t look like me.” [00:39:34] Vernon shares his wisdom, tips, and being a work in progress [00:42:14] Tapping into the tools after an ADHD diagnosis [00:44:20] Managing emotions, emotional intelligence, and taking your power back / Mindfulness [00:48:17] Support, family, and community / “It’s really hard to do this alone.” [00:52:55] Communicating what you need when you have ADHD [00:57:33] Closing thoughts Resources & Honorable Mentions: ADHD reWired Episode 333: Race-Based Trauma, RSD & ADHD with Romanza McAllister LCSW Website: blackgirllostkeys.com - René Brooks: Living as a Black Woman with ADHD “How do we become better stewards of the gifts and the opportunities that we have to show other people that it’s possible? To invest in other people?” - Vernon 🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community! 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A! Go to adhdrewired.com/events to register so you can join the ADHD reWired Team live on Zoom and ask your ADHD-related questions! In this episode, you’ll get answers to questions about entrepreneurship, getting unstuck, learning from failures, setting boundaries, how coaching can help, systems as an artistic process, and more! You can even get an uninterrupted listening experience of this episode and all ADHD reWired episodes when you become a Patron at $5.00 a month or more by going to adhdrewired.com/Patreon! You might even catch some extra questions when you become a Patron and tune into the Patreon-only private podcast feed! Questions/Topics: [00:01:10] Introducing today’s panelists! [00:02:45] A listener, who was diagnosed in February 2023 and works in education, asks the panelists about using their skills to help others - specifically those with ADHD. What advice does the panel have to get unstuck and get started? [00:05:46] Eric asks what the listener would do if they were asked the same question. [00:12:08] Brian chimes in about struggling to find time to launch a business outside of work. [00:16:01] “How can I find more clarity and do something that’s going to be really powerful so I can follow that instead of doing way-too-many-things?” [00:18:19] Faisal talks about values and short-term goals. [00:21:35] Laura discusses the differences between excitement, overwhelm, getting overwhelmed from being excited, and feelings of boredom. [00:26:25] A listener, who is also a mom of two young children, is having difficulty “getting back into the groove” of their freelance work. What strategies do the panelists have to bounce back, and could the listener have time for group coaching? [00:28:51] Eric asks about self-care strategies. [00:30:56] Kristin talks about the impact on parents who have kids with special needs and medical needs. [00:34:13] Laura addresses how the coaching groups can help. [00:35:59] Eric asks about having boundaries around work-blocks and self-care. [00:39:09] A discussion about our inner critics and gardening! [00:44:02] “Can [ADHD reWired’s coaching groups] help people uncover what their goals/wants are? I think not knowing what I want and indecision are my biggest issues.” [00:45:37] Laura talks about people-pleasing, going with the flow, finding out who we are, and uncovering what’s truly important to us. [00:47:01] “Group is an experiential learning experience… Our biases [don’t] allow us to see how we’re doing these things that [aren’t] making it easier for us to move towards success.” - Faisal [00:48:58] Kristin addresses bringing life to group-coaching to integrate tools and strategies. [00:50:22] Brian talks about the differences between individual coaching and group coaching. [00:53:01] Kristin asks about creating systems. [00:55:40] Systems as an artistic process. [00:58:07] Closing thoughts. Resources & Honorable Mentions: ADHD reWired Episode 309 with Russell Ramsay: Rethinking Adult ADHD 🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community! 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

In today’s show, Caroleen Verly joins Eric on the podcast! Caroleen is a former data analyst turned business owner and financial coach who loves spreadsheets, numbers, problem solving, and data! She also loves working with clients to find order in the chaos of their financial lives. Caroleen has a degree in economics from Yale and spent the first 12 years of her career doing data analysis and data visualization. In addition to her business, Caroleen is also a mom to three young children! Check out Caroleen’s website UntangleYourMoney.com Learn more about Caroleen at her website Find UntangleYourMoney on Instagram at @adhdmoney Questions/Topics: [00:01:10] Introducing Caroleen! [00:02:26] What does it mean to create good systems that work by default? [00:03:55] A discussion on automation, bills, payments, resistance, and safety nets [00:07:32] Dedicating accounts, savings, and putting money in the right spots for different purposes [00:16:57] Banking and ADHD-friendly interfaces [00:18:37] Caroleen tries the Qube Money app [00:21:30] A discussion about credit cards and managing them successfully [00:25:02] Impulsive spending and the impact of credit scores [00:27:57] “The cheaper option is not always cheaper!” [00:38:27] Ways to start saving in the midst of debt and living paycheck to paycheck [00:41:30] Cutting costs vs. making more money: Which one is better? [00:45:56] Resources & closing thoughts Resources & Honorable Mentions: Book (and Editor’s choice!): I Will Teach You to be Rich by Ramit Sethi Website: I Will Teach You to be Rich at IWillTeachYouToBeRich.com 🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community! 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!