This is Not Therapy

S3E4 Where’d You Park Your Spaceship? Sometimes you take a risk and the risk comes off. I asked one of my all time heroes, New York Times bestselling author Rob Bell, if he would come on the podcast. And he said ‘Yep.’ What?! On my little old podcast? We talk creativity and resistance, creative resistance, and the healing power of bread. Oh and about his new novel, ‘Where’d you park your spaceship?’ A truly magical conversation, I’m so glad you can hear it too. REFERENCES Rob Bell https://robbell.com/ Where’d you park your spaceship? On Amazon David Whyte https://davidwhyte.com Poem: Loaves and Fishes, from River Flow Connect with Tina: Subscribe to Tina’s monthly newsletter here Website: www.tinasederholm.com Facebook: @tintpodcast @tinasederholmperformer Email: hello@tinasederholm.com If you love the show, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts here This podcast was developed thanks to a Develop Your Creative Practice grant, from Arts Council England, and through the Podcast Accelerator course available from www.witandwire.com

S3E3 Do This One Thing Every Day Early career writers often get the advice to ‘Write Every Day’. Adverts for fitness and self-improvement products exhort you to ‘Just do this for 10 minutes a day and your belly/ bank balance/life will change forever.’ But is it actually sustainable to do something every day? Let’s find out. REFERENCES Natalie Goldberg https://nataliegoldberg.com/ Adriene Mishler www.yogawithadriene.com Steven Pressfield https://stevenpressfield.com/books/ Colson Whitehead https://www.colsonwhitehead.com/ Connect with Tina: Subscribe to Tina’s monthly newsletter here Website: www.tinasederholm.com Facebook: @tintpodcast @tinasederholmperformer Email: hello@tinasederholm.com If you love the show, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts here This podcast was developed thanks to a Develop Your Creative Practice grant, from Arts Council England, and through the Podcast Accelerator course available from www.witandwire.com

S3E2 Winners Never Quit, Quitters Never Win What motivational quotes really get up your nose? In a slight departure from our normal format, I’m going to spend the next few episodes exploring common bits of life advice that are supposed to be uplifting and inspiring but can equally cause frustration. And the first one is…Winners Never Quit and Quitters Never Win. Thank you to Rick Dove for this suggestion. If you have a saying that you want me to deconstruct in an amusing yet nuanced way, let me know! REFERENCES Kenny Rogers - The Gambler https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7hx4gdlfamo Connect with Tina: Subscribe to Tina’s monthly newsletter here Website: www.tinasederholm.com Facebook: @tintpodcast @tinasederholmperformer Email: hello@tinasederholm.com If you love the show, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts here This podcast was developed thanks to a Develop Your Creative Practice grant, from Arts Council England, and through the Podcast Accelerator course available from www.witandwire.com

S3E1 Treat Your Money Like Your Lover This is Not Therapy is back for a third season, and yet again I’m kicking off with an off-piste episode where, instead of the usual format, I interview a fascinating individual to set the tone for the rest of the season. This time I am talking to my good friend Ivonne Senn about our relationship with money. Uh Oh… If thinking about money, handling money or just paying the bills is a source of stress for you , I highly recommend listening to our conversation. I don’t think I know anyone who has a more grounded, humane and functional relationship with finances. And it’s not scary. She gives actual advice that you can implement today. Imagine feeling better about money right now. Wouldn’t that be lovely. You can find Ivonne at: www.ivonnesenn.de https://www.linkedin.com/in/ivonnesenn Or email her directly hallo@ivonnesenn.de REFERENCES Rob Bell https://robbell.com/ Do What You Love, the Money Will Follow by Marsha Sinetar https://amzn.eu/d/2eHqr2W Connect with Tina: Subscribe to Tina’s monthly newsletter here Website: www.tinasederholm.com Facebook: @tintpodcast @tinasederholmperformer Email: hello@tinasederholm.com If you love the show, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts here This podcast was developed thanks to a Develop Your Creative Practice grant, from Arts Council England, and through the Podcast Accelerator course available from www.witandwire.com

S2E10 Read Hitchhikers! Do you have a book that you return to over and over again? What is it about that story? Is it getting lost in it that helps, or does it contain some wisdom, some clue that helps you makes sense of a chaotic world. In my early teens and twenties, that book for me was Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy. I lost touch with it for a couple of decades, though I’m reply sure there was always a copy on one of my bookshelves. Then, it came back to me at a most unexpected moment. But would it stand the test of time? Featured Poems: Read Hitchhiker’s! and Anyone Could Be Arthur, from the collection This is Not Therapy REFERENCES Douglas Adams Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy GIGS 10th -12th July This Is Not Therapy at Buxton Fringe 15th July Carnworth Fringe at Royal Station Hotel 16th Morecambe Fringe This is Not Therapy at West End Playhouse Connect with Tina: Subscribe to Tina’s monthly newsletter here Website: www.tinasederholm.com Facebook: @tintpodcast @tinasederholmperformer Email: hello@tinasederholm.com If you love the show, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts here This podcast was developed thanks to a Develop Your Creative Practice grant, from Arts Council England, and through the Podcast Accelerator course available from www.witandwire.com

S2E9 Till Debt Us Do Part Money and debt can be triggering at the best of times but during a cost of living crisis? Let’s not even go there. But maybe we should. Maybe it’s time to look those fears in the face, or at least peak between our fingers at them. In 2016, I wrote a show called Till Debt Us Do Part. Now I return to that show, to see if anything in it can calm my current brain weasels. (P.S. make sure you listen until after the credits because Neil has left the best Easter Egg of outtakes ever.) Featured Poem:Two Dresses , from the collection Everything Wrong With You Is Beautiful Excerpts from Till Debt Us Do Part, recorded live at the Wantage Literary Festival, 2016. GIGS 25th June Drafting Table (Oxford Poetry Library) at Gulp Fiction / 10th -12th July This Is Not Therapy at Buxton Fringe 15th July Carnworth Fringe at Royal Station Hotel 16th Morecambe Fringe at West End Playhouse Connect with Tina: Subscribe to Tina’s monthly newsletter here Website: www.tinasederholm.com Facebook: @tintpodcast @tinasederholmperformer Email: hello@tinasederholm.com If you love the show, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts here This podcast was developed thanks to a Develop Your Creative Practice grant, from Arts Council England, and through the Podcast Accelerator course available from www.witandwire.com

S2E8 Memo to Mothers (and Those Who Are Not) Whether you are blessed with child-bearing organs or not, I bet at some point in your life you tussled with yourself about whether to have children. I know I spent most of my twenties trying to avoid having children and then when the countdown to closing of that door began, I spent an inordinate amount of time and tears, trying to come to a definitive decision. Now I’m in my fifties, that door is bolted shut, so here are some stories about being the other side of that decision, and what that means to me about being a ‘woman’. Featured Poems: Memo to Mothers, and Memo to Those Who Are Not Mothers, from the collection This is Not Therapy GIGS 25th June Drafting Table (Oxford Poetry Library) at Gulp Fiction 10th -12th July This Is Not Therapy at Buxton Fringe Connect with Tina: Subscribe to Tina’s monthly newsletter here Website: www.tinasederholm.com Facebook: @tintpodcast @tinasederholmperformer Email: hello@tinasederholm.com If you love the show, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts here This podcast was developed thanks to a Develop Your Creative Practice grant, from Arts Council England, and through the Podcast Accelerator course available from www.witandwire.com

S2E7 Rest: The One that Got Away Ever find yourself saying, ‘I’ll just get that job done and then I’ll have a sit down,’ only to move onto the next task, having possibly put some water in the kettle, but never having made that cup of tea? No? Just me then. Seriously though, how easy do you find it to take a genuine day off, without worrying about that you have coming up next? If you are like me, you might make a right song and dance (or possibly even a show) about it. Featured poem: New Year’s Eve, 2019. REFERENCES Why We Sleep - Matthew Walker https://uk.bookshop.org/p/books/why-we-sleep-the-new-science-of-sleep-and-dreams-matthew-walker/1371280?ean=9780141983769 https://www.sleepdiplomat.com/ Rob Bell/ Menuha https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-wmx5c-9729b1 David Whyte tells this story of his conversation with Brother David Stendhal Rast that led up to this quote in many of his recordings but you can also find it in Crossing the Unknown Sea page 128-135, available from https://davidwhyte.com/ Connect with Tina: Subscribe to Tina’s monthly newsletter here Website: www.tinasederholm.com Facebook: @tintpodcast @tinasederholmperformer Email: hello@tinasederholm.com If you love the show, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts here This podcast was developed thanks to a Develop Your Creative Practice grant, from Arts Council England, and through the Podcast Accelerator course available from www.witandwire.com

S2E6 Hello Failure, My Old Friend In a world obsessed with success, Tina makes friends with disappointment, setbacks and the F-word. Featured Poem: Failure, You Make Me Interesting , from the collection Everything Wrong With You Is Beautiful REFERENCES Fat Boy Slim https://www.fatboyslim.net/ ‘Praise you’ (You should definitely watch this if you want to cry with happiness.) Connect with Tina: Subscribe to Tina’s monthly newsletter here Website: www.tinasederholm.com Facebook: @tintpodcast @tinasederholmperformer Email: hello@tinasederholm.com If you love the show, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts here This podcast was developed thanks to a Develop Your Creative Practice grant, from Arts Council England, and through the Podcast Accelerator course available from www.witandwire.com

S2E5 Snow Leopardess and Me Have you ever broken something you loved? Or been broken by it? My first love was horses, and yet by the age of 30, all the joy had gone out of the relationship, and I thought I could never get it back. I was wrong about that. Listen on to find out about the extraordinary set of circumstances that brought me back to my love of horses. REFERENCES https://www.charlielongsdonracing.com/ Snow Leopardess winning the Becher chase in 2021 UPCOMING GIGS Tuesday 11th April, Scribal Gathering, Stony Stratford Wednesday 19th April, This is Not Therapy and Door-Door-Poetry at Old Fire Station Oxford. https://oldfirestation.org.uk/whats-on/this-is-not-therapy-door-to-door-poetry-nationwide/ Connect with Tina: Subscribe to Tina’s monthly newsletter here Website: www.tinasederholm.com Facebook: @tintpodcast @tinasederholmperformer Email: hello@tinasederholm.com If you love the show, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts here This podcast was developed thanks to a Develop Your Creative Practice grant, from Arts Council England, and through the Podcast Accelerator course available from www.witandwire.com

How do you integrate lifechanging moments back into your everyday world? In fact, how do you return from anything? Tina goes on an unexpected pilgrimage with surprising results. Featured Poems: Revelation, from the collection This is Not Therapy REFERENCES Hotel des Arts https://www.arts-hotel-paris.com/ Rob Bell https://robbell.com/ Monet's Waterlilies (image) https://parisresidencesjamesjoyce.com/2020/09/10/claude-monet-and-his-water-lilies/ GIGS Wednesday 19th April, This is Not Therapy and Door-Door-Poetry at Old Fire Station Oxford. https://oldfirestation.org.uk/whats-on/this-is-not-therapy-door-to-door-poetry-nationwide/ Connect with Tina: Subscribe to Tina’s monthly newsletter here Website: www.tinasederholm.com Facebook: @tintpodcast @tinasederholmperformer Email: hello@tinasederholm.com If you love the show, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts here This podcast was developed thanks to a Develop Your Creative Practice grant, from Arts Council England, and through the Podcast Accelerator course available from www.witandwire.com

S2E3 Miss Coneybeare-Cross’s Composition Competition Why is it, that when you find something you want to do - write a book ,get a new job, get fit etc - your mind instantly comes up with all the reasons why you can’t or shouldn’t? In this week’s episode Tina tells the story of an early brush with resistance and reveals several ways she’s found to dissolve her resistance…well, to just about anything. Featured Poem: I Will Not Make Great Art Today, from the collection Everything Wrong With You Is Beautiful Subscribe to Tina’s monthly newsletter here REFERENCES The Artist’s Way - Julia Cameron GIGS Thursday 2nd March, Fire and Dust (+ pre-show workshop), Cafe Morso, Coventry. Free entry. Wednesday 19th April, This is Not Therapy and Door-to-Door Poetry:Nationwide at Old Fire Station Oxford. Connect with Tina: Subscribe to Tina’s monthly newsletter here Website: www.tinasederholm.com Facebook: @tintpodcast @tinasederholmperformer Email: hello@tinasederholm.com If you love the show, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts here This podcast was developed thanks to a Develop Your Creative Practice grant, from Arts Council England, and through the Podcast Accelerator course available from www.witandwire.com

S2 E2. Nellie’s Perfect Nuggets It’s all very well finding the marvellous in mundane yet pleasant things, but what about finding the marvellous in icky things? Tina takes on the challenge in this episode, with the help of Nellie the dog, Liz Gilbert, and a strong dose of toilet humour. Featured Poem: On Marriage, from the collection Everything Wrong With You Is Beautiful Subscribe to Tina’s monthly newsletter here GIGS Thursday 2nd March, Fire and Dust (+ pre-show workshop), Cafe Morso, Coventry. Free entry. Wednesday 19th April, This is Not Therapy and Door-to-Door Poetry:Nationwide at Old Fire Station Oxford. REFERENCES Big Magic by Liz Gilbert https://markmanson.net/ Brahma Kumaris Connect with Tina: Subscribe to Tina’s monthly newsletter here Website: www.tinasederholm.com Facebook: @tintpodcast @tinasederholmperformer Email: hello@tinasederholm.com If you love the show, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts here This podcast was developed thanks to a Develop Your Creative Practice grant, from Arts Council England, and through the Podcast Accelerator course available from www.witandwire.com

Welcome back to series 2 of This Is Not Therapy! In a change from our normal programming, today I interview Eleanor O’Brien, sex positive theatre maker and all round wonderful mensch. We talk about following wildly improbable dreams, making theatre with integrity that normalises pleasure and showing up with joyful vulnerability, and the peaks and pratfalls of performing at the Edinburgh Fringe. So if you are contemplating a wildly outrageous goal of your own this year, or your are somewhere in the trenches, agonising on how you have got so off-course, you will find a lot to resonate with in this episode. You can find Eleanor at https://www.dancenakedcreative.com/ On Patreon https://www.patreon.com/DanceNaked On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dancenaked Connect with Tina: Subscribe to Tina’s monthly newsletter here Website: www.tinasederholm.com Facebook: @tintpodcast @tinasederholmperformer Email: hello@tinasederholm.com If you love the show, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts here This podcast was developed thanks to a Develop Your Creative Practice grant, from Arts Council England, and through the Podcast Accelerator course available from www.witandwire.com

S1E10 Making Friends with Gratitude How do you feel when someone asks you what you are grateful for? It should feel good, right? I struggled with gratitude for years. It felt like a straitjacket imposed from the outside, as something I should be, but because I didn’t feel grateful inside, I must be a bad person. Good thing I sorted that one out then, isn’t it? Featured Poem: How I am held, from the collection This is Not Therapy, recorded live at the Edinburgh Fringe 2022 McCullough and Emmons research into the positive effects of gratitude: https://www.health.harvard.edu/healthbeat/giving-thanks-can-make-you-happier Connect with Tina: Subscribe to Tina’s monthly newsletter here Website: www.tinasederholm.com Facebook: @tintpodcast @tinasederholmperformer Email: hello@tinasederholm.com If you love the show, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts here This podcast was developed thanks to a Develop Your Creative Practice grant, from Arts Council England, and through the Podcast Accelerator course available from www.witandwire.com

S1E9 Who Are You? What do you say when a stranger asks you ‘What do you do?’ Is your job title enough to describe who you are? Or does the answer make you chafe? Tina takes an irreverent look at the labels we give ourselves and asks if they aren’t always a bit too small for us. Featured Poem: Prediction, from the collection Everything Wrong With You Is Beautiful Recorded live at the Cheltenham Poetry Festival, 2017 Connect with Tina: Subscribe to Tina’s monthly newsletter here Website: www.tinasederholm.com Facebook: @tintpodcast @tinasederholmperformer Email: hello@tinasederholm.com If you love the show, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts here This podcast was developed thanks to a Develop Your Creative Practice grant, from Arts Council England, and through the Podcast Accelerator course available from www.witandwire.com

S1E8 How Old Did You Say You Were? Ahhh….ageing. Happening to all of us, even those who look very young. Here’s a way to make peace with not only ageing, but any so-called youthful mistakes. Featured Poems: Letter to Tina of the early 90s, from the collection This is Not Therapy, recorded live at the Edinburgh Fringe 2022 Poem 2: Earlier Reports of my Flaws have been Exaggerated, also from the collection This is Not Therapy Special Offer codes Buy This Is Not Therapy at 25% off - TINT25 Buy Everything Wrong With You is Beautiful at 50% off - EWIB50 Offers last for whole of October 2022, go to https://www.tinasederholm.com/shop/ Connect with Tina: www.tinasederholm.com Facebook @tintpodcast Instagram @tinasederholm This podcast was developed thanks to a Develop Your Creative Practice grant, from Arts Council England, and through the Podcast Accelerator course available from www.witandwire.com Connect with Tina: Subscribe to Tina’s monthly newsletter here Website: www.tinasederholm.com Facebook: @tintpodcast @tinasederholmperformer Email: hello@tinasederholm.com If you love the show, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts here This podcast was developed thanks to a Develop Your Creative Practice grant, from Arts Council England, and through the Podcast Accelerator course available from www.witandwire.com

S1E7 How To Delight Your Dental Hygienist I know what you’re thinking. Ahh, Tina’s doing one about dentistry/people pleasing. And you could be forgiven for thinking that, bearing in mind the title. But in fact, it’s about…resistance. (Through the medium of resisting one particular aspect of dental hygiene, and the discussion thereafter.) So. What simple action or task do you ferociously resist doing? And how can you kindly melt that resistance. All that and more, in this episode. With thanks for the lovely Wendy Kay, for bravely discussing her own resistances around cooking. And botox. References: Four Thousand Weeks, by Oliver Burkeman https://www.oliverburkeman.com/books One Small Step can change your life: the kaizen way by Robert Maurer https://uk.bookshop.org/books/one-small-step-can-change-your-life-the-kaizen-way/9780761180326 Special Offer Codes Buy This Is Not Therapy at 25% off - TINT25 Buy Everything Wrong With You is Beautiful at 50% off - EWIB50 Offer last for whole of October 2022, go to https://www.tinasederholm.com/shop/ Connect with Tina: Subscribe to Tina’s monthly newsletter here www.tinasederholm.com Facebook @tintpodcast Instagram @tinasederholm This podcast was developed thanks to a Develop Your Creative Practice grant, from Arts Council England, and through the Podcast Accelerator course available from www.witandwire.com Connect with Tina: Subscribe to Tina’s monthly newsletter here Website: www.tinasederholm.com Facebook: @tintpodcast @tinasederholmperformer Email: hello@tinasederholm.com If you love the show, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts here This podcast was developed thanks to a Develop Your Creative Practice grant, from Arts Council England, and through the Podcast Accelerator course available from www.witandwire.com

S1E6 I Assume You Know What You Are Talking About Yes, yes we all know what assumptions do. They make an ass out of me and…umption. Seriously though, assumptions are tiny hidden engines that run our thinking and influence our decisions. In this episode, Tina seeks out some of her assumptions and explores a situation where several of them collide. Subscribe to Tina’s monthly newsletter here Featured Poem: Vegetarian Special at the Horse and Groom, from the collection This is Not Therapy, recorded live at the Edinburgh Fringe 2022 References: The Robcast, episode 77, T’shuvah! Connect with Tina: www.tinasederholm.com Facebook @tintpodcast Instagram @tinasederholm This podcast was developed thanks to a Develop Your Creative Practice grant, from Arts Council England, and through the Podcast Accelerator course available from www.witandwire.com Connect with Tina: Subscribe to Tina’s monthly newsletter here Website: www.tinasederholm.com Facebook: @tintpodcast @tinasederholmperformer Email: hello@tinasederholm.com If you love the show, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts here This podcast was developed thanks to a Develop Your Creative Practice grant, from Arts Council England, and through the Podcast Accelerator course available from www.witandwire.com

S1E4 How to Get Everything Done (or not) Is your to-do list a friend, or foe? Servant or master? To-do Lists, structure, planning apps….and yet it just takes one phone call for it all to go awry. Tina delves into our efforts to get everything done, and how to cope when you don’t. Subscribe to Tina’s monthly newsletter here Featured Poem: A Woman’s Search for Peace, from the collection This is Not Therapy, recorded live at the Edinburgh Fringe 2022 References: The question ‘What if this is for me?’ Courtesy of my friend, author Isabel Losada https://www.isabellosada.com Connect with Tina: www.tinasederholm.com Facebook @tintpodcast Instagram @tinasederholm This podcast was developed thanks to a Develop Your Creative Practice grant, from Arts Council England, and through the Podcast Accelerator course available from www.witandwire.com Connect with Tina: Subscribe to Tina’s monthly newsletter here Website: www.tinasederholm.com Facebook: @tintpodcast @tinasederholmperformer Email: hello@tinasederholm.com If you love the show, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts here This podcast was developed thanks to a Develop Your Creative Practice grant, from Arts Council England, and through the Podcast Accelerator course available from www.witandwire.com