ADHD reWired

What does it really mean to know when to push, when to pause, and when to let go? In this heartfelt conversation, Dr. Portia Preston returns to ADHD reWired to share insights from her book Hustle, Flow, or Let It Go? We talk about burnout, shame-free wellness, and the small practices that can help us create a more sustainable rhythm in life. This episode weaves together stories of resilience and grief, the reality of living with ADHD and autism, and Portia’s SANE model (Slow down, Acknowledge, Navigate, Evaluate)—a simple framework to help you reset when overwhelm takes over. We also talk about support squads, the hidden cost of hustle culture, and what it means to choose rest without shame. If you’ve been running on empty, carrying grief, or just wondering if there’s another way forward, this conversation is for you. 00:00 – Introduction: Shame Free Wellness and unlearning harmful beliefs 01:07 – Welcome to ADHD Rewired, host Eric Tivers introduces the show 01:31 – Eric shares personal news: loss of his father and recent illness 03:06 – Portia Preston joins: author, speaker, and executive coach 05:36 – Portia discusses the motivation behind her book and the concept of sustainable rhythm 07:54 – The SANE Cycle: a four-step process for self-reflection and growth 08:49 – Book launch experiences, balancing promotion, and authenticity 10:57 – Defining “hustle” and “flow” in the context of wellness 13:00 – Letting go: the challenge and importance of releasing what doesn’t serve you 15:21 – The SANE model explained: Slow down, Acknowledge, Navigate, Evaluate 17:06 – Portia’s favorite part of the book and audience reactions 17:52 – Break: Coaching and accountability group info - - 18:48 – Grief, burnout, and the importance of sitting with discomfort 22:00 – Building a support squad and the difference between solitude and isolation 25:00 – Neurodivergence, intersectionality, and Portia’s experience as a Black woman with ADHD and autism 29:00 – Audience feedback on the book and the importance of vulnerability 33:00 – Shame Free Wellness Manifesto (read aloud) 35:44 – The importance of rest, authenticity, and self-acceptance 39:00 – Context shifting, capacity vs. discipline, and self-compassion - Dr. Raquel Martin on Instagram: 43:00 – Teaching students about shame-free wellness and legacy 46:00 – Grief, community, and turning pain into purpose 49:00 – The value of showing up authentically and embracing imperfection 52:00 – Where to find Portia’s book and connect online - Book: “Hustle, Flow, or Let It Go: A Guide to Shame-Free Wellness” • • - Instagram: 54:00 – Closing thoughts: SANE model reminder and encouragement 56:00 – Outro: gratitude and next steps

People-pleasing isn’t a personality flaw—often it’s a nervous-system strategy. Licensed Professional Counselor and ADHD-CCSP Anita Sandoval joins Eric to unpack how the fawn response shows up with ADHD, trauma, and RSD; how it differs from masking and conflict avoidance; and what real change looks like. We cover Anita’s “Empower → Resilient → Authentic” model, ADHD-friendly EMDR adaptations, and the messy-but-worth-it work of boundaries (including with narcissistic family dynamics). Resources, Anita’s links, and a quick survey about a potential evening coaching group are in the full notes at ADHDreWired.com. Guest: Anita Sandoval, LPC-S, EMDR-Certified, ADHD-CCSP — therapist, supervisor, and author of Broken Chains (English & Spanish). Host of Empowering Women in Conversations and creator of Empower Her Pathways. We cover: People-pleasing as a neuro-adaptive response (fight/flight/freeze/fawn) People-pleasing vs. conflict avoidance vs. masking ADHD & RSD: why “neutral” feedback stings and how regulation shifts it Differentiating from personality disorders (dependent/BPD) Hypervigilance, ACEs, and emotional regulation circuits Boundaries with narcissistic dynamics (including the “victim narcissist” pattern) Anita’s staged model (Stages of Change × grief work): Unaware → Aware → Ready → Action → Maintenance → Integration (Empowered → Resilient → Authentic) Therapies that help ADHD brains: EMDR with resourcing, IFS/parts work, polyvagal-informed regulation Eric’s EMDR story: from trigger spirals to co-regulation Try this: Notice your next automatic “yes.” Ask: Is this aligned with my values, or is my nervous system chasing safety? Then practice one tiny boundary this week and track before/during/after. Resources mentioned: Anita Sandoval — (course: Empower Her Pathways) Broken Chains (English/Spanish) Dr. Ramani’s work on narcissism (Should I Stay or Should I Go?) Modalities: EMDR, IFS/Parts, Polyvagal-informed approaches Coaching & community: Evening Coaching Group — interest survey We’re exploring a fall evening section (proposed Wed, Sept 18 • 5pm PT / 8pm ET) led by ADHD reWired Coach & LCSW Kristin Marts, at a budget-friendly rate (starting at $999) if we move forward. Deadline to weigh in: Aug 15. Take the short survey at . Complete the survey to enter to win 6 months free in our Alumni community ($240 value) or 1 year free of Adult Study Hall ($240 value). Adult Study Hall (ASH) — virtual co-working & body doubling. Free 1-week trial, then $19.99/mo or $150/yr at . Connect with Anita: | Podcast: Empowering Women in Conversations

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What is OCD, really? It’s far more than the stereotypes of handwashing, tapping, or lining up your pens just right. On today’s episode, Eric is joined by Natalia Aíza — a therapist, parent, writer, and co-founder of Kairos Wellness Collective — who specializes in supporting individuals and families navigating OCD and anxiety. Together, they explore how OCD can show up in less obvious ways, especially for those with ADHD. You’ll hear: ✅ Why OCD is often missed or misdiagnosed in ADHD brains ✅ How intense nostalgia, perfectionism, and social media checking can all be forms of OCD ✅ The difference between typical anxiety and OCD ✅ Why intrusive thoughts don’t define you ✅ How exposure response prevention (ERP) and medication can help ✅ Eric’s own reflections on healing unexpected layers through EMDR and discovering his autism If you’ve ever felt stuck in mental loops, struggled with perfectionism, or wondered whether your patterns might be more than “just” ADHD, this episode is for you. Learn more about Natalia Aiza and Kairos Wellness Collective: 👉 Instagram: 👉 Kairos Wellness Collective: 👉 Email: Ready to take the next step with your ADHD? Don't miss our second 2nd chance Registration Event for the summer ADHD reWired Coaching & Accountability Groups on Thrusday, July 10. Visit to learn more and secure your spot.

Support Comes from ADHD reWIred's Coaching and Accountability Groups. Summer Sessions are July 24 - Sept 18. Join us at our next registration event on July 10th. Learn more by going to Episode Overview: In this episode, Eric is joined by Ari Tuckman, PSY.D, MBA, psychologist, international presenter, and author of the new "ADHD Productivity Manual." Together, they dive deep into the realities of productivity for people with ADHD, exploring motivation, activation, self-compassion, and practical strategies for getting things done. Key Topics Discussed: The difference between motivation and activation, and why both matter for ADHD brains How perfectionism and unrealistic expectations can sabotage progress The importance of understanding your "why" for each task, not just the "what" Social aspects of productivity: people-pleasing, setting boundaries, and communicating when you can’t meet a deadline Real-world strategies and creative hacks from Ari, Eric, and their clients (including timers, accountability, and engineering urgency) The value of celebrating small wins and tracking progress over time Self-compassion and letting go of impossible standards How to build systems that work for your unique brain, not just follow generic advice Guest Bio: Dr. Ari Tuckman is a leading ADHD expert, psychologist, and author of five books, including the "ADHD Productivity Manual." He brings decades of clinical experience and a practical, compassionate approach to helping people thrive with ADHD. Resources & Links: Learn more about Ari and his books: Join ADHD reWired Coaching & Accountability Groups: Check out Adult Study Hall for virtual coworking: Support the Show: Become a patron for bonus content and monthly coaching calls: Sign up for the newsletter and get episode resources: Takeaway: You’re not broken, and you don’t have to do hard things the hardest way or alone. Progress is possible—one step, one system, and one act of self-compassion at a time. Thanks for listening!

🎧 Special Announcement: Alumni Voices + Your Chance to Join ADHD reWired In this special announcement episode of ADHD reWired, Eric shares something a little different: a powerful 10-minute audio montage of alumni from our most recent coaching group — voices from ADHDers just like you who finished the program not long ago. You’ll hear, in their own words, why they joined, what they were struggling with, and what changed for them over 8 weeks of coaching, accountability, and connection. From burnout and overwhelm to self-doubt and shame, these stories highlight the real transformations that can happen with the right support. 👉 Our second-chance registration event is Thursday, June 26th at 10 AM Pacific / 1 PM Eastern! ✅ Pre-registration is due by Wednesday, June 25th at least 24 hours before the event. 📝 Session details: Mondays, Wednesdays, and Thursdays 10 AM Pacific / 1 PM Eastern July 24th through September 18th 💥 Ready to join us? Here’s your next step: 1️⃣ Go to 2️⃣ If you’re not already on our interest list, click the button to join 3️⃣ Check your email and confirm your address so you don’t miss anything When you join the interest list, you’ll also get: A free time tracker we use in group A letter you can share with your employer about the program 🎧 Even if joining this season isn’t possible for you, we hope these alumni stories remind you: 👉 You’re not alone. 👉 You can do hard things — and you don’t have to do them the hardest way possible.

🎧 Episode Overview Join host Eric Tivers and three incredible panelists—Nathan James, Meg Zirger, and Christal Wang—for the second-annual Neurodivergent Queer Pride panel, organized by Shimmer. In this landmark conversation, we explore: Masking vs. Unmasking: Why hiding feels safe and how reclaiming your authentic self fuels resilience. Intersectional Identities: How ADHD, autism, and LGBTQ+ pride intersect—and why that intersection is a source of strength. Political Climate & Pride: Strategies for holding onto joy and courage when the world feels heavy. Power of Community: From isolation to solidarity—why peer support is essential for lasting change. Whether you’re neurodivergent, queer, an ally, or simply curious, this panel offers actionable insights, heartfelt stories, and affirmations to help you thrive. 🎯 Key Takeaways Masking Is Exhausting Childhood “survival mode” often becomes adult burnout. Unmasking is an ongoing, courageous process of self-discovery. ADHD + Queer = Unique Superpower Both identities challenge “scripts” society hands us. Embracing difference unlocks creativity, empathy, and authenticity. Pride Under Pressure Celebrate safely: balance vigilance with joy. Collective conversation and advocacy build courage. Community as Catalyst Small cohorts and online groups reduce shame and spark accountability. Shared experiences create “me-too” moments that heal and empower. ⏱️ Timestamps 00:00 Welcome & Episode Intro 01:04 What Is Neurodivergent Queer Pride? 03:07 Panelist Introductions & Backgrounds 09:30 Personal Identity Journeys: “Scripts” & Masking 17:36 Societal Expectations: Fitting In vs. Standing Out 29:18 Deep Dive on Masking & Self-Acceptance 38:59 Holding Pride in a Difficult Political Climate 48:12 The Role of Community in Connection & Healing 54:48 Final Affirmations & Advice 57:41 Closing Thoughts & Next Steps 🔗 Resources & Links Join ADHD reWired Coaching & Accountability Groups (Season 41) ▸ Live kickoff: Wed, June 18 • 2 PM CT ▸ Pre-registration due: Tue, June 17 • 2 PM CT ▸ 👉 Shimmer (Episode organizer; online ADHD coaching platform) ▸ Co-founder & panel host: Christal Wang 👉 Adult Study Hall (24/7 ADHD-friendly coworking) 👉 💡 Next Steps Subscribe to ADHD reWired so you never miss an episode. Share this episode with friends who identify as neurodivergent, queer, or allies. Explore our summer Coaching & Accountability Groups to turn these insights into real-world growth. Your whole self belongs. Let’s celebrate, connect, and thrive—together.

In episode 550 of ADHD reWired, Eric Tivers sits down with Dr. Shannan Palma to explore Decide—a suite of AI-powered decision-support tools built by and for neurodivergent brains. Throughout this conversation, you’ll hear about: How Decide leverages AI (Gemini and large language models) to help with everyday choices and multi-step tasks. The story behind IT Assistive Technologies and the Autistic Self-Reliance Support Network. Real-world examples of “decision fatigue” and how Decide’s guided and randomized features ease choice paralysis. The balance between AI assistance and human insight—and why a trusting, well-prompted tool can feel like a personal neurodivergent life coach. Pricing, privacy, and the community-focused mission: 85 percent of ITI’s profits fund disability-led initiatives. Bonus segments on Pride Month, coaching groups, virtual coworking, and how to get involved with ADHD reWired’s summer programs. Use these show notes to get a quick overview, find useful links, and discover why Decide might become your new go-to when you’re stuck choosing dinner, figuring out a daily routine, or simply need a gentle “nudge” to move forward. Episode Summary Dr. Shannan Palma—co-founder of Decide and co-director of the Autistic Self-Reliance Support Network—joins Eric to unpack how tools designed by autistic and ADHD adults can transform decision making for all of us. Shannan shares her own late autism and ADHD diagnoses, the challenges she faced finding resources after getting “the piece of paper,” and how a 48-hour hackathon sparked a project that won first prize and secured nearly $400 k in grant funding. From door-dash dilemmas to life-altering choices (like whether to adopt a foster dog), Decide offers two core modes: Randomized Choice Generator Users create custom lists (e.g., favorite restaurants, daily routines) and assign energy costs. The app selects an option based on your current energy level—no more breakfast indecision or “what to watch next” paralysis. Guided Decision Assistance A series of friendly, “affirmative” prompts mirror a real-time coach. By reflecting back your own criteria (energy, resources, priorities), Decide delivers a percentage-confidence recommendation and rationale—so you can make a defensible, informed choice without overthinking. Along the way, Shannan emphasizes the importance of privacy (your data always belongs to you), ethical AI (focusing on “do no harm”), and how Decide’s freemium model avoids the “ADHD tax” by offering 10 free guided decisions per month. Premium access is available for $4.99/month, but you can cancel at any time without losing progress. Key Takeaways Why “Decision Fatigue” Matters: Neurodivergent brains often struggle with countless small choices (e.g., “What’s for dinner?”). Decide’s randomized generator isn’t just for fun—it reduces executive-function load by factoring in your energy level and pre-ranked options. Guided Mode = Personalized Neurodivergent Coaching: Instead of writing complex prompts for ChatGPT or Claude, Decide asks you targeted yes/no/unsure questions. Once you answer, it gives a clear recommendation (with a confidence score) plus a brief “why,” so you trust your decision-making process. Built by Autistic + ADHD Makers: After Shannan’s late autism diagnosis, she realized few supports existed for lower-visibility autistic adults. A 48-hour hackathon (Give Back Hack Columbus) brought together autistic and ADHD engineers, designers, and researchers—leading to Decide’s prototype and subsequent $400 k grant from Ohio’s Department of Developmental Disabilities. Community-First Funding Model: 85 percent of any IT Assistive Technologies’ profits flow back to the Autistic Self-Reliance Support Network (ASR). ASR focuses on autonomy and resources for autistic adults—rather than caregiver research—aiming to expand capacity and economic inclusion across the lifespan. Privacy & Data Rights: Decide won’t train AI on your personal data, and you retain full...

Summer coaching groups start on July 24th. LIstners can save $200 by signing up at the registration kickoff event on June 18th. Learn more and get on the interest list at Eric shares updates about prioritizing sustainable energy practices and coping with recent family challenges, including the passing of his grandmother and his father's health issues. The main segment features Dr. Shannon Palma, founder and CEO of ITI Assistive Technologies, discussing her late autism and ADHD diagnoses. She shares insights into her decades-long journey with executive function challenges, her comprehensive self-diagnosis process, and the development of support tools for neurodivergent adults. Shannon and Eric delve deeply into the nuances of autistic and ADHD burnout, the differences between autistic burnout and occupational burnout, and the challenges of masking and managing sensory sensitivities. The episode also reveals the host's own recent autism diagnosis, providing a reflective and personal perspective on understanding neurodivergence. The episode wraps up with contact information and a teaser for a follow-up episode focusing more on Shannon's work and the host's continued exploration of his diagnosis. 00:00 Introduction and Announcements 02:30 Eric’s Personal Updates and Challenges 05:12 Guest Introduction: Dr. Shannon Palma 06:32 Shannon's Diagnosis Journey 09:42 Sensory Sensitivities and Family Traits 16:56 Burnout and Neurodivergence ADS 26:56 Support and Community 28:36 Join Coaching Rewired This Summer 28:42 Introducing Adult Study Hall 30:54 Exploring Autism and ADHD 34:12 Self-Diagnosis and Professional Insights 35:29 Navigating Social Cues and Sensory Sensitivities 40:35 Understanding Neural Processing 46:56 Social Interactions and Coping Strategies 53:37 Wrapping Up and Contact Information

What happens when two ADHDers realize there's more to the story? In this deeply personal and exploratory episode, Eric is joined by his friend and fellow coach, Portia Jackson Preston, for an honest, vulnerable, and unmasked conversation about discovering—later in life—that they’re not just ADHD… they're also autistic. April is Autism Acceptance Month and there’s no better time to peel back the layers. Eric and Portia share their parallel journeys of exploring what it means to be AuDHD, how autism was hiding in plain sight for both of them, and how late diagnosis is reshaping their self-understanding, their relationships, their parenting, and their work. Together, they unpack: What unmasking looks like—and feels like—especially when it's not a conscious choice Why self-diagnosis is valid and often necessary How intersecting identities impact recognition and diagnosis The grief and growth that come with seeing your past through a new lens Why autistic burnout hit both of them so hard (and what they’re doing now to recover) And how this shift is impacting their businesses, boundaries, and sense of self You’ll also hear about how EMDR therapy played a pivotal role in both of their journeys, how the Johari Window concept reframed Eric’s understanding of his blind spots, and how reconnecting with their full, authentic selves has allowed for deeper joy—even in the weirdest places (like dancing at a Phish show with hand flaps in full glory). This is the kind of conversation that gives others permission to explore, to question, and to be. 👉 Related links & resources: Portia Jackson Preston on Instagram: 🎧 Takeaways: Unmasking isn’t a one-time event—it’s a process. Late diagnosis can be both a relief and a reckoning. Self-compassion isn’t optional; it’s a survival tool. You don’t have to prove your neurodivergence to anyone. It’s okay to change. It’s okay to grieve. And it’s okay to rest.

🎙 Guest Info: Today's guest, Elise Fillmore, is a queer and neurodivergent financial educator, bestselling author, and the founder of Elise focuses on identity-based finance, helping people navigate money through the lens of their lived experiences, challenges, and strengths. She’s also the author of Keeping Finance Personal and the host of the Dopamine Dollars podcast. 💡 Episode Highlights: How traditional financial advice often fails neurodivergent people Why financial planning should be tailored to your identity, lifestyle, and brain Strategies for making money management less overwhelming and more engaging The importance of automation and dopamine-driven finance systems Why shame and financial struggles are often systemic, not personal failings Common financial myths and why some mainstream advice (like Dave Ramsey’s) doesn’t work for ADHDers Practical ways to infuse joy into budgeting and create sustainable financial habits How to set up "fun money" accounts and make saving more rewarding Why financial tools and strategies “expire” for ADHDers – and what to do about it The role of external accountability in managing money 📌 Resources & Links: Elise Fillmore's Website: Instagram: TikTok: Book: Keeping Finance Personal – Available in hardcover, ebook, and audiobook Podcast: Dopamine Dollars – Available on , , and more 🔗 Mentioned in This Episode: A list of dopamine-boosting activities to help manage impulsive spending 📢 Support ADHD reWired! Leave a rating & review on Apple Podcasts or wherever you listen Share this episode with someone who might find it helpful Become a to help us keep creating great content! 🚀 Join ADHD reWired’s Coaching & Accountability Groups! Our Spring 2025 Coaching Groups are coming up soon! April 24 - June 19 Registration Events: March 27 & April 2 Learn more & sign up: 🖥 Adult Study Hall - ADHD reWired's Virtual Co-working community. New Zen Tangle and Journal with me sessions on Sundays at 8:30am PT / 11:30am ET 🎧 Don’t Miss the Next Episode! Subscribe & follow so you never miss an episode of ADHD reWired!

In this episode of ADHD reWired, Eric Tivers welcomes Chris Hooten, a LinkedIn Top Facilitation Voice and certified neuro-mindfulness coach. With over 15 years of experience, Chris specializes in helping neurodiverse organizations foster inclusive communication, leadership, and workplace strategies. Eric begins the episode with a personal update, sharing his ongoing journey of overcoming burnout and a recent formal autism evaluation. He also highlights his interviews on Chasing Life with Dr. Sanjay Gupta and Entrepreneur on Fire, as well as the pressing need for advocacy in the face of recent policy changes that threaten diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI) initiatives. The core discussion revolves around communication challenges in neurodivergent teams and how traditional workplace structures often fail to accommodate neurodiverse employees. Chris introduces the 4D Model of Neuroinclusive Communication—a framework designed to improve communication by making it more descriptive, deliberate, direct, and diverse. They discuss common workplace miscommunication issues, the pitfalls of platforms like Slack for neurodivergent individuals, and how managers can foster psychological safety. Chris also explores the systemic barriers that impact neurodivergent and marginalized individuals in professional spaces. They emphasize shifting away from medicalized, deficit-based narratives about neurodiversity and adopting an intersectional, affirming approach that values lived experiences. Eric and Chris conclude by reflecting on the evolving nature of work, the need for workplace wellness, and how neurodivergent individuals are often the first to recognize unsustainable work environments. Chris shares insights on fostering genuine inclusion rather than performative DEI efforts and provides strategies for improving workplace culture. 🔗 Find Chris Hooten: | LinkedIn | Instagram 💡 Resources & Announcements: Pre-registration is now open for the ADHD reWired Coaching & Accountability Groups. Secure your spot at . Spring Sessions April 24 - June 19th. Join Adult Study Hall for virtual co-working and upcoming Zentangle workshops at . Support the show on Patreon at . 🎧 Listen Now! Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast app! Contact Chris at ADHD reWired's Coaching and Accountability Groups: Adult Study Hall: Eric on the Chasing Life Podcast - Eric on Entrepuner on Fire 5 Calls

In this episode of ADHD reWired, I’m pulling back the curtain on two intertwined journeys: my own path toward sustainability and the incredible growth story of Jessica, an alumna of our ADHD Coaching and Accountability Groups. As I’ve navigated my own challenges with burnout and the pressures of juggling too much, I’ve made a commitment this year to focus on what matters most. My word for the year—sustainability—has reshaped how I approach my work, my energy, and even this podcast. Jessica’s story adds another layer of depth to this episode. After feeling stuck, overwhelmed, and disconnected while pursuing her PhD, Jessica joined our fall coaching group. Through her deeply personal and reflective audio journal, she shares how the program helped her build sustainable systems, reconnect with her goals, and find the motivation to tackle her work and her life with renewed energy. From discovering the power of accountability teams to replacing old habits with more supportive ones, Jessica’s transformation offers hope and inspiration for anyone seeking to live more intentionally with ADHD. This season, we’ve made changes to our coaching program to better support ADHDers like you. Now 8 weeks instead of 10, the program is more focused and accessible. We’ve also introduced on-demand access to our yearly planning sessions, allowing you to go at your own pace. These adjustments reflect the principle that less is truly more when it comes to creating meaningful and lasting growth. The final registration events for our Winter Coaching and Accountability Groups are Wednesday and Thursday of this week, so now is the time to take the next step. If you’re ready to stop juggling fireballs and start building a more sustainable, ADHD-friendly life, visit to pre-register today. Tune in to hear Jessica’s story, learn more about what makes our coaching groups so transformative, and find inspiration to start your own growth journey. Together, let’s challenge internalized ableism and reimagine what it means to thrive with ADHD.

Eric Tivers continues to reflect on his journey of overcoming burnout and seeking solutions for long-term sustainable energy management. ADHD at 80 MPH is a nod to the last episode recorded in the car about 9 years ago. Episode 47 called . Recording from his car during a road trip, Eric shares his experiences of taking a solo retreat to recharge and refocus and to think about yearly planning. He discusses his efforts to rebalance his work and personal needs, and some insights he's recently gained. The episode also touches on his continued discovery of being autistic alongside having ADHD and how it's shaping his approach to life and business. Eric also announces the opening of registration for winter coaching and accountability groups, reflecting on the value of community and structured support for ADHD individuals. The episode concludes with hearing from some recent coaching group alumi and with logistical details about upcoming coaching sessions and community events. 1:07 Winter Coaching and Accountability Groups 01:30 Road Trip Reflections 03:47 Burnout and Sustainability 15:45 Coaching Group Success Stories 22:02 Upcoming Events and Announcements 25:36 Conclusion and Farewell Registration for our winter groups starts Jan. 3, 2025. Winter sessions are January 30 - March 27. Add your name to our interest list at It's not to late to do your yearly planning with ADHD reWired in . Our 5-part yearly planning series is available on demand for Adult Study Hall Members. Join today. It's only $19.99 a month, or save with an annual membership for only $150 for the year. You can also support this work on *Note - There will be no Monthly Patreon Coaching Call, or Pomodoro Dance Party for Adult Study Hall Members in December. But we'll be back in January.

And We're Back!!! In episode 543 of ADHD reWired, host Eric Tivers returns to mark a new beginning for the podcast. Eric focuses this episode on recognizing and overcoming burnout. After 10 years of weekly episodes, plus other stressors in business and life, the pace became unsustainable, leading him to experience significant burnout. Eric elaborates on these elements of burnout, describing emotional exhaustion as a deep-seated fatigue that impacts life engagement, depersonalization as growing detachment and cynicism towards work, and diminished personal achievement as a sense of ineffectiveness despite efforts. He recounts personal struggles, including a divorce and other stressors that exacerbated his burnout. Eric discusses the importance of meaningful alone time to recharge, using his motorcycle trips as an example of finding mental clarity and rebalancing life. He also outlines changes in his coaching seasons to ensure sustainability. Additionally, Eric introduces a new offering for Adult Study Hall where he will be leading members through a 5-week guided workshop for planning your year beginning November 20th, 2024. Learn more at - Plus sign up with our new annual plan and get 37% off your membership. Join us for our Live Monthly Q &A every 2nd Tuesday of the Month at 10:30 AM PT / 1:30 PM PT. RSVP at Support ADHD reWired by becoming a Patron at 00:00 Welcome to ADHD reWired 01:19 Introduction to Season Two 02:40 Understanding Burnout 03:19 Emotional Exhaustion 04:48 Depersonalization and Cynicism 06:02 Reduced Personal Accomplishment 07:57 Diagnosing Burnout 09:47 Personal Journey and Realizations 13:03 Rebalancing Life and Work 14:25 Upcoming Coaching Groups and Community Events 18:50 Yearly Planning Sessions 21:27 Conclusion and Future Plans

In this episode of ADHD reWired, Eric Tivers is joined by Mattia Mauree, an award-winning composer, poet, and host of the AUDHD Flourishing Podcast. Mattia shares their insights into the unique challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals, particularly those with ADHD and autism, as they navigate trauma, self-expression, and what they describe as "attention tunnels." Mattia opens up about their personal journey, discussing the impact of complex PTSD, disordered eating, and their late diagnoses of ADHD and autism. They explain how monotropism—having a narrower field of focus—shapes their experience as a neurodivergent person. Through the lens of monotropism, Mattia explores how being stuck in an attention tunnel can make transitioning to different tasks or social situations feel overwhelming and distressing. Eric and Mattia dive deep into the intersections of trauma and neurodivergence, examining how neurodivergent brains may be more easily traumatized, especially in environments that fail to meet their unique needs. They discuss the profound impact of neurodivergent parents raising neurodivergent children and the challenges of navigating systems that don’t support their differences. This conversation also highlights the importance of self-expression in healing and flourishing. Mattia explains how self-expression, rather than achievement, has become central to their definition of success, emphasizing the importance of creating work that resonates emotionally, even if it doesn't fit the traditional metrics of success. Other topics discussed include: The connection between hyperfocus and monotropism in ADHD and autism How Mattia balances creativity, self-care, and flourishing as a neurodivergent individual The complexity of navigating trauma in neurodivergent families The importance of community and support systems for neurodivergent creatives and entrepreneurs This episode is a must-listen for anyone interested in understanding the complex interplay of trauma, neurodivergence, and flourishing. Whether you identify as neurodivergent or are simply curious about these experiences, this conversation offers valuable insights into the importance of creating space for self-expression, healing, and growth. Connect with Mattia Mauree: Website: Podcast: Support ADHD reWired on Patreon: If you’ve enjoyed this episode and want to support the podcast, consider becoming a patron at . Your support helps keep the podcast going and brings more episodes to listeners like you! Join ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups: Our coaching groups return this fall! Learn how to manage your ADHD more effectively in a supportive, community-based program. Visit to get all the details.

In episode 541 host Eric Tivers speaks with licensed marriage and family therapist Alex Bache about digital addiction and its impact on ADHD, anxiety disorders, and OCD, particularly in adolescents and young adults. The discussion covers identifying behavioral addictions, the role of dopamine in addiction, and interventions like motivational interviewing and harm reduction. They also explore the balance between gaming for social connection and potential addiction, offering strategies for parents and individuals. Additionally, Eric updates listeners on his coaching groups and upcoming plans for the podcast. Topics Include: Addressing Digital Addiction Meet Alex Bache: Expert on Digital Behavioral Addictions Understanding Behavioral Addiction Game Transfer Phenomena Explained Interventions for Digital Addiction The Role of Harm Reduction Digital Hygiene Practices The Power of Accountability and Connection Reflecting on Changes in ADHD Coaching Gaming and Social Connection Managing Screen Time Collaboratively Balancing Screen Time and Family Activities Recognizing Digital Addiction Conclusion and Contact Information Connect with Alex at

Welcome back to another episode of ADHD reWired. Our guest today is Dr. Gilly Khan, Ph.D., a licensed psychologist who specializes in working with children, teens, and young adults dealing with anxiety, depression, and ADHD. In this episode, Dr. Khan shares her personal journey with ADHD, discusses the impact of hormonal fluctuations on ADHD symptoms, and offers practical advice on improving emotional regulation and social skills. Dr. Gilly Khan's Journey with ADHD Dr. Gilly Khan was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 33, a revelation that came as no surprise to her. Like many women, she had suspected for years that she might have ADHD. Her journey towards diagnosis began when she noticed ADHD symptoms in her young daughter, leading her to seek a diagnosis for herself. Encouraged by a colleague who was open about her ADHD diagnosis, Dr. Khan decided to embrace her neurodiversity and advocate for herself and her clients. The Impact of Hormonal Fluctuations on ADHD One of the most significant insights Dr. Khan offers is the connection between hormones, particularly estrogen, and ADHD symptoms. She explains that hormonal fluctuations can significantly impact mood, memory, and overall ADHD symptoms. This is crucial for women, especially during periods of hormonal change such as menstruation, pregnancy, and menopause. Dr. Khan shares her personal experience with migraines, which she began having in college, and later discovered were linked to estrogen levels. Her experience highlights the importance of considering hormonal influences when diagnosing and treating ADHD in women. Practical Advice for Emotional Regulation Dr. Khan emphasizes that medication can significantly help reduce ADHD symptoms, including emotional dysregulation. However, she also discusses the importance of practical strategies to manage emotions. One key approach is to take a time-out when feeling overwhelmed and practice coping skills like deep breathing in a calm environment before re-engaging with the situation. Dr. Khan's recommendation to include parents in the process is particularly insightful. Coaching parents to help their children recognize emotional dysregulation and use coping strategies can make a significant difference. Social Skills in ADHD Addressing social skills, Dr. Khan discusses the effectiveness of social skills groups, especially when tailored to the needs of neurodivergent individuals. She notes the importance of applied practice and the role of parents in coaching their children outside of therapy sessions. For adults with ADHD, Dr. Khan suggests finding activities and clubs that align with their interests to facilitate meeting like-minded individuals. She also highlights the importance of planning social interactions, just like planning professional activities, to maintain relationships. Overcoming Social Challenges Both Eric and Dr. Khan share personal anecdotes about the challenges of remembering names and maintaining social connections. Practical tips such as using a planner to schedule social activities and taking photos to remember names illustrate how even small strategies can make a big difference. Advocacy and Self-Education Dr. Khan stresses the importance of self-advocacy and educating oneself about ADHD. She advises seeking out credible resources and being prepared to discuss specific symptoms and experiences with healthcare providers. Her message is clear: understanding and advocating for one’s own neurodiversity is crucial for effective treatment and self-acceptance. Conclusion Dr. Gilly Khan’s insights provide a deeper understanding of the complexities of ADHD, particularly in women. From the impact of hormonal fluctuations to practical strategies for emotional regulation and social skills, her expertise offers valuable guidance for both individuals with ADHD and those supporting them. To learn more about Dr. Gilly Khan, her work, and her upcoming book on emotional dysregulation, visit her website at drgillykhan.com and...

In episode 539 of ADHD reWired, host Eric Tivers welcomes neurodivergent coach Vida Carey, who specializes in sex and relationships. Together, they dive into conversations about sexuality, intimacy, and the unique challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals in these areas. Vida shares her experiences and provides insights on discussing sex openly, defining kink, exploring different relationship structures, and addressing sexual desires in a shameless and authentic manner. The episode emphasizes the importance of communication, understanding personal needs, and fostering intimacy while managing ADHD. Additionally, the podcast highlights resources and support available through ADHD reWired’s coaching programs and virtual community. Navigating ADHD and Intimacy: Conversations with Neurodivergent Coach Vida Carey In episode 539 of ADHD reWired, host Eric Tivers welcomes Vida Carey, a neurodivergent coach specializing in sex and relationships, who emphasizes comfort through humor and candid vulnerability. The discussion delves into the unique challenges of navigating sexual intimacy for those with ADHD, including overcoming societal norms, advocating for oneself, and understanding hyper- and hyposexuality. Vida shares her insights on redefining sex, utilizing intimacy menus, and having open conversations about one's desires. Additionally, the episode addresses the importance of developing healthy communication practices in relationships and offers a humorous yet candid look into making sex a more comfortable topic for neurodivergent individuals. The episode closes with reflections on how neurodivergent couples can better understand and support each other's needs. 00:00 Introduction to ADHD reWired 01:08 Meet Coach Vida Carey 02:36 Navigating Sex and Relationships 05:13 Understanding Kink and Communication 07:31 Advocating for Yourself in the Bedroom 10:16 Exploring Sexual Desires and Intimacy 18:33 Sex Rewards and Intimacy Menus 22:33 ADHD reWired Coaching Groups 28:38 Hyper and Hyposexuality in Neurodivergent Brains 30:44 The Reality of Life and Sex 31:48 Hypersexuality vs. Sexual Addiction 32:49 Exploring Relationship Structures 36:32 Navigating Intimacy and Communication 38:27 The Journey to Intimacy Coaching 41:41 Common Questions About Sex 47:51 The Importance of Communication in Sex 56:01 Final Thoughts and Resources

Episode 538 of the ADHD reWired podcast, hosted by Eric Tivers, addresses the complexities and intersections of neurodivergence (ADHD and autism) and LGBTQ identities. The episode features a panel discussion from a NeuroDivergent Pride event, co-hosted by Chris Wang from Shimmer. The panel includes Eric, Nate, and Vida, who share their personal journeys of coming out as queer and neurodivergent. They discuss the challenges of navigating societal expectations, masking, and the importance of supportive communities. The episode also emphasizes the impact of visibility and advocacy in both the ADHD and LGBTQ communities, encouraging listeners to join supportive spaces and take steps to be proud of their identities. 03:24 NeuroDivergent Pride Panel Introduction 09:14 Panelists Share Their Stories 22:34 Exploring Neurodivergent and Queer Identities 31:55 Impact of Heteronormative and Neurotypical Expectations 38:04 High-Level Masking and Personal Experiences 38:50 Coming Out and Family Reactions 40:40 Navigating Identity and Cultural Expectations 43:37 Unmasking and Embracing Neurodivergence 46:06 Challenges of Masking and Survival Strategies 53:30 The Continuous Process of Coming Out 01:04:12 Getting Involved in Neurodivergent and LGBTQ Communities 01:13:29 Conclusion and Final Thoughts