ManTalks Podcast

I sit down with AJ McQueen for a deeply honest conversation about trauma, masculinity, faith, and self-acceptance. AJ shares how violence, heartbreak, and survival shaped his early life, and how learning radical acceptance became the turning point in his growth as a man. We talk about sex, discipline, purpose, boundaries, and why so many men live stuck in survival mode. This is a raw, reflective discussion about becoming grounded, choosing yourself, and learning how to live with integrity. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introduction and Meeting AJ 01:00 - Heartbreak as a Catalyst for Growth 05:10 - Sex, Addiction, and Masculinity 10:00 - Growing Up Around Violence 16:20 - Defining Manhood and Fatherhood 21:15 - Autonomy, Boundaries, and Self-Respect 28:45 - Saying No and Taking Back Control 35:15 - Trauma, Gifts, and Acceptance 40:30 - Confidence Through Radical Acceptance 48:25 - Survival Mode vs Self-Understanding 53:30 - Enoughness and Self-Worth 01:01:10 - Travel, Perspective, and Expansion 01:06:20 - Faith, Spirituality, and Service 01:12:30 - Closing Reflections and Gratitude *** Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I break down what I call the modern man’s mother wound - how growing up with a deep distrust or disdain for men can shape a man’s identity, relationships, and sense of self. I explore how this wound forms, how it shows up in adult life, and why so many men struggle with boundaries, authority, and male relationships as a result. Most importantly, I walk you through practical, grounded steps you can take to reclaim your masculinity and build a stronger, more integrated sense of who you are as a man. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - The Modern Man’s Mother Wound 01:06 - Growing Up Distrusting Men 03:40 - Father Absence and Its Impact 06:01 - Missing Masculine Modeling 07:34 - The Negative Mother Complex 10:35 - How the Mother Wound Shows Up 16:29 - Healing Through Male Connection 24:24 - Integrating the Mother Wound *** Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I sit down with Josh to unpack what’s really happening with men today, why so many feel disconnected, and how culture, economics, and identity play into the decline we’re seeing. We get into whether men are being blamed, why institutions repel them, and how service can restore purpose, direction, and confidence. I also ask Josh what he fears most for the next generation and what responsibility, excellence, and manhood should look like in today's world. This one will challenge you, and I hope it pushes you to think, act, and share it forward. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 Welcome and opening question 03:10 Crisis of connection 08:25 Are men being seen as the problem 12:40 Economics, purpose, and identity 18:05 Why institutions repel young men 23:30 Why California launched this program 28:55 The role of service 33:10 Mentoring, coaching, and responsibility 39:20 Modern politics and polarization 45:05 How men build friendships 50:10 Skills, jobs, and opportunity 56:30 What Josh fears for his sons 01:00:45 Redefining responsibility and excellence 01:05:20 Closing thoughts and how to get involved *** Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

What happens when a Christmas moment goes completely off the rails? I share a genuinely hilarious Christmas story, reflect on the year that’s been, and take a moment to say thank you to you and yours for being part of this journey. It’s a lighter, more personal conversation about family, perspective, and gratitude. I hope it gives you a laugh and a reminder of what actually matters during the holidays. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 Christmas Check-In 01:12 Setting the Holiday Mood 02:45 The Christmas Story Begins 05:18 When Things Go Sideways 08:04 The Aftermath 10:22 What It Taught Me 12:06 Gratitude for the Audience 13:40 Final Holiday Wishes *** Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I unpack why turning a boy into a grounded, capable man has become so difficult in modern culture. I talk about the loss of initiation, the erasure of strong male role models, and the mistake of trying to repress male aggression instead of teaching men how to master it. We explore why maturity is not about becoming harmless, but about learning to contain and direct a man’s dangerous potential in a healthy way. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 Why Masculinity Maturity Matters 00:36 “Men Are the Problem” Narrative 01:23 Feminizing Boys to Fix Society 02:56 Fixing Systems vs Fixing Boys 03:26 Why It’s Hard to Make a Man 04:12 Loss of Initiation and Role Models 05:25 Biology vs Social Conditioning 06:08 Male Aggression as Biological Reality 06:53 Raising Boys Without Sedation 08:04 The Hellscape of Male Adolescence 09:21 You Can’t Socialize the Mammal Out 11:09 Learning to Contain Danger 13:38 Beauty and the Beast Archetype 15:13 Castrating Male Competition 16:47 The Cultural Pendulum Swing 18:04 Power, Initiation, and Surrender 20:55 Warrior in a Garden Principle 21:49 Guiding the Next Generation *** Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I sit down with Dr. Nicole McNichols to dismantle the biggest myths men believe about sex, attraction, and confidence. We talk about why performance anxiety kills connection, how curiosity builds real sexual confidence, and what actually drives desire in long-term relationships. This conversation goes deep into emotional attunement, power dynamics, attachment styles, and why better sex starts long before the bedroom. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - What Men Misunderstand About Attraction 01:07 - The Real Role of Confidence 01:25 - Porn, Netflix, and Sexual Myths 03:46 - The Reality of Sex Statistics 06:12 - Performance Anxiety and Spectatoring 07:31 - Sexual Curiosity Explained 08:02 - How to Improve Your Sex Life Tonight 10:18 - Talking During Sex Without Killing Desire 11:27 - Why Uncertainty Is a Myth 13:52 - Self-Growth vs Distance in Desire 16:09 - Planned Sex vs Spontaneity 17:49 - How Confidence Is Built Sexually 19:32 - The Sexual Unicorn Myth 22:50 - Getting Out of Your Head in Bed 24:32 - When Your Partner Says “I Don’t Know” 26:44 - Desire vs Arousal 29:27 - Why Bodies Don’t Always Match Desire 31:54 - Power Dynamics and Erotic Differences 35:57 - Madonna-Whore Complex Explained 42:47 - The Hierarchy of Sexual Needs 44:36 - Attachment Styles and Sex 48:33 - Emotional Attunement and Female Desire 52:42 - Dominance, Safety, and Masculinity 59:36 - When Men’s Needs Get Deprioritized 01:04:35 - What Women Can Do Better Sexually 01:07:44 - The Lost Art of Seduction 01:10:06 - Final Takeaways and Where to Find Nicole *** Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts |

I’ve been seeing a disturbing trend online where women claim that "incredible men are just average women," implying that men are simply playing catch-up to a female baseline. In this episode, I dive into the dangers of this "female supremacy" narrative and what I call the "Patriarchy Virus," which frames men as the root cause of every societal problem. I also break down why judging men by female metrics destroys relationships and discuss the immense, often overlooked effort it takes to chisel yourself into an exceptional man. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 The "Incredible Men Are Just Average Women" Narrative 01:43 Introducing the Patriarchy Virus 03:09 The "One Up, One Down" Relationship Dynamic 05:10 Society Values What Men Contribute, Not Who They Are 06:23 Identity: Community vs. Competency 08:52 Why Modern Culture Demonizes Hierarchies 10:04 Applying Female Metrics to Male Psychology 11:50 Misandry and the Contempt for Men 14:14 The Reality of Women Who Buy Into This Narrative 16:03 It Is Hard to Craft Yourself Into a Great Man *** Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I sit down with Josh Trent to explore how marriage, father wounds, and emotional epigenetics shape a man’s inner world. We talk honestly about porn, anger, healing the mother wound, and what it actually takes to build emotional safety with your partner. Josh unpacks how breathwork, mentorship, and men’s work helped him transform survival patterns into real love and leadership. This episode is raw, personal, and directly speaks to men who are ready to stop repeating cycles and start leading with truth. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 Welcome and setup 00:31 Marriage as transformation 01:13 Anger toward the feminine 02:26 Injuries from childhood 03:37 Unsafe relationship with women 04:53 Realizing wife is not mom 05:37 Breaking unconscious patterns 06:36 Avoiding emotional honesty 08:35 Growing up with bipolar parent 10:35 Creating safety by coping 11:39 Being shielded from truth 13:40 Moving to Hawaii 14:41 Womanizing and addiction 15:47 Mission to feel feelings 17:34 Hungry Ghost metaphor 19:08 Dysfunction in relationships 21:24 Men’s work and mentorship 23:05 Masculine leadership 26:24 Joining men’s communities 29:32 Emotional epigenetics 33:14 Containment in relationships 34:33 Safe emotional expression 35:36 Relationship with other men 38:13 How to communicate honestly 41:51 How to open up 43:52 Breathwork and embodiment 46:42 Middle path for men 48:51 Healing financial fear 50:23 Self leadership for men 53:27 Porn and disconnection 55:45 Why porn hooks men 58:51 Escape velocity 1:03:47 Healing lineage pain 1:06:55 Breaking generational cycles *** Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts |

I dive into the single most important skill that many modern men have lost but that women deeply crave: containment. I discuss why mastering your own internal fire—your anger, impulses, and emotions—is the key to shifting from being perceived as a potential predator to a trusted protector. We explore how developing this capacity doesn't mean castrating your masculinity, but rather harnessing it to create a sense of safety that feels like "shade in the desert" for your partner. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 Introduction 01:29 The #1 Skill Women Crave 02:32 Understanding the Predator-Prey Dynamic 04:30 Why Women Are Attracted to a "Dangerous" Edge 06:15 Becoming a Protector Instead of a Predator 08:45 Why She Needs You to Be an Emotional Container 11:55 The Rule: Contain Yourself First 14:15 The "Shade in the Desert" Metaphor 15:45 Personal Story: Providing Containment in a Crisis 21:00 How Boundaries Create Polarity *** Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I sit down with fertility specialist Gabriela Rosa for a blunt, science-driven conversation about what’s really happening to our reproductive health. We get into why fertility challenges are rising, how men contribute fifty percent of the equation, and the lifestyle choices that quietly sabotage conception. I also explore the emotional and relational pressures couples face when trying to conceive, along with practical steps to improve fertility before pregnancy even begins. This is one of the most eye-opening fertility discussions I’ve had on the show. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 Fertility As A Health Indicator 03:20 Generational Impact Of Reproductive Health 08:25 Fertility Rates vs Infertility Rates 14:50 How Technology Shaped Modern Family Choices 17:38 Why Sperm And Egg Quality Decline 24:50 The Big Lifestyle Factors Hurting Fertility 27:15 How Men Dramatically Improve Sperm Quality 30:55 Why Everything Starts Pre-Conception 36:13 Vulnerability, Masculinity And Fertility 41:30 The Cost Of Delaying Testing 48:53 What Men Should Stop And Start Doing 58:15 Metabolic Health And Testosterone 01:03:15 Emotional Toll And Seeking Support *** Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook |

I break down how women can naturally inspire a man’s masculine energy without controlling, nagging, or pushing him. I share what actually shuts men down and what makes us come alive in relationships. I also talk about playfulness, admiration, and the subtle shifts that completely change how a man shows up. If you want a more connected, confident, and balanced relationship, this conversation will help you get there. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Why Women Want to Understand Men 03:20 - Letting Go of Control 06:05 - The Nagging Trap 12:40 - The Power of Playfulness 16:35 - Tell Him What You Want 20:10 - Admire His Actions 24:40 - Your Way Isn’t Always the Best Way 31:10 - Notice the Good in Him *** Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I dive deep with Alex Grendi into the realities of performance anxiety, premature ejaculation, and the pressure men carry in the bedroom. We unpack how self-worth, porn, and emotional tension affect arousal and sexual confidence. Alex breaks down the psychology behind performance issues and shares practical solutions men can start using immediately. This conversation is honest, raw, and a must listen for any man who wants a healthier relationship with sex. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 Introduction 00:35 How self-worth affects sex 01:17 Emotional roots of performance issues 02:03 Porn and male conditioning 03:19 Nervous system and arousal 04:34 Porn induced dysfunction 05:37 Unrealistic expectations 07:22 Shame and performance pressure 07:45 Women influenced by porn 08:20 Monetization joke break 10:01 What men really want 12:49 Why men feel pressure 13:12 Saying no to sex 15:18 Handling anxiety during sex 16:53 Belief and awareness 17:36 Pressure when sex is infrequent 18:29 Communication with partners 19:59 Reducing pressure 22:14 In the moment anxiety tools 24:03 Breath control in sex 25:30 Parasympathetic vs sympathetic states 27:38 Arousal pacing and control 29:50 Hyper stimulation from porn 31:44 Self worth and performance links 33:15 Where low self worth comes from 34:45 Perfectionism and pressure 35:16 Support and standards 37:37 Using sex for validation 38:56 Understanding different dysfunctions 41:33 What causes ED in healthy men 43:54 Forcing erections vs allowing 44:30 Emotional litmus test 45:35 Nervous system signals 46:50 Emotional suppression 47:46 Performance with highly attractive partners 48:45 Self-sabotage 49:39 Building sexual confidence 49:58 Rituals and daily practice 53:57 Letting go of control 56:05 Reconnecting to the body 57:48 Sex as meditation 58:29 Romance novels conversation 01:00:20 Where to find Alex *** Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the

I break down what emotional intelligence truly means for men and why so many of us get it wrong. I talk about the four traps that keep men disconnected from their emotional life and how these patterns sabotage leadership, relationships, and self-trust. I also share a simple 3A framework you can use to build real emotional mastery without losing your edge. If you’re a man who wants to lead with clarity, presence, and strength, this one’s for you. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Why Men Struggle With Emotional Intelligence 01:07 - Emotions as Data 03:37 - The Myth of the Stoic Leader 06:09 - The Four Traps Men Fall Into 12:44 - Understanding Empathy & Boundaries 15:42 - What Healthy Masculine Leadership Really Is 17:20 - Seneca, Self-Conquest & Misinterpretations 18:25 - The 3A Model of Emotional Intelligence 23:30 - The Call for Modern Masculine Leadership 24:53 - Adaptability & Regulation for the Future 25:38 - Final Challenge to Men *** Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I sit down with Dr. Orion Taraban to break down what’s really happening in the modern dating and relationship landscape. We get into why dynamics between men and women have shifted, how power works in relationships, and what actually drives attraction today. Orion and I challenge a lot of popular narratives and get honest about what men need to focus on to succeed relationally. This one pulls no punches. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 Modern dating is deteriorating 04:50 Tech, AI, and dehumanized dating 10:30 Double standards in attraction 15:45 How the marketplace really works 22:00 What makes men attractive 27:40 Love vs relationship dynamics 33:55 Power shifts in modern relationships 41:10 Cultural narratives and ideology 48:00 Optionality and relationship power 55:00 What men should focus on 01:02:00 Where to find Dr. Orion *** Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I unpack the subtle and often misunderstood behavior known as avoidant gaslighting. I explore why avoidant partners distort truth, not always to manipulate, but to protect themselves, and how these patterns create distance and erode trust. You’ll learn how to recognize this behavior, respond without escalating, and set boundaries that foster accountability and connection. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - What is avoidant gaslighting? 02:50 - Truth distortion and misremembering 05:26 - “The Turn” and shifting blame 07:39 - Why avoidants retreat from closeness 10:04 - How to name and address the behavior 13:42 - Tools for shared accountability 15:56 - Avoidant awareness vs. defensiveness 17:27 - Building reflection and self-awareness *** Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I sit down with my guest to explore the pain that shaped his relationships, especially the deep wound left by his father. Together, we uncover how childhood neglect and emotional distance can carry into adulthood, shaping how men love, trust, and show up. You’ll hear the raw, unfiltered process of reconnection, forgiveness, and reclaiming the parts of ourselves we’ve hidden for too long. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - The struggle to connect in relationships 03:00 - Unpacking the father wound 06:00 - Facing hidden grief and sadness 10:00 - Speaking truth to his father 17:00 - Releasing anger and old pain 21:00 - Becoming the father he needed 29:00 - What he hides in love 33:00 - Healing the relationship with his dad 35:00 - Embracing the inner child 41:00 - Learning to express and reconnect *** Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I break down one of the biggest imbalances destroying modern relationships — the lack of reciprocity in expectations between men and women. I talk about how men are often taught to meet every expectation a woman has, but rarely to define their own standards. I’ll share how this dynamic leads to resentment, imbalance, and frustration, and what men can do to restore integrity, respect, and balance in their relationships. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – The core imbalance in modern relationships 00:57 – What women are taught vs. what men are taught 02:44 – The cost of overgiving and having no standards 06:17 – Bringing your own expectations into relationships 09:13 – The moving target of expectations 10:40 – Restoring balance and reciprocity 12:22 – Knowing your value and defining your standards 14:11 – Communicating expectations and setting boundaries 16:55 – Don’t reward disrespect 18:50 – Expect deeply, love generously *** Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I sit down with Glen Henry, creator of Belief in Fatherhood and author of Father Yourself First, to talk about the real work of becoming a better man and father. We dive into the challenges modern dads face—balancing ambition, healing our own wounds, and showing up with patience and presence. Glen shares raw insights on building relational equity, repairing trust, and learning to father yourself before fathering others. This one’s a heartfelt and honest look at fatherhood that every man needs to hear. Buy Glen's book here: https://a.co/d/3EP2YoD SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – The biggest challenges fathers face 02:40 – The crisis of absent fathers 05:00 – Mentorship and the power of guides 08:20 – Storytelling and fatherhood in Black culture 12:00 – Entering fatherhood with fear and purpose 17:20 – Accepting your child’s invitations 22:00 – Learning patience and self-compassion 28:40 – Healing, failure, and forgiveness 31:40 – What it means to father yourself 38:20 – The power of proof and mentorship 43:30 – Adventure, play, and connection 49:10 – Managing ambition and presence 56:40 – Rebuilding trust with your kids 01:00:25 – Understanding relational equity 01:02:20 – Glen’s message for fathers everywhere *** Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more, visit us at ManTalks.com |

I dive into how to desexualize your brain and regain control of your impulses in just 30 days. I break down the neuroscience of cravings, why willpower alone doesn’t work, and how to rewire your brain to stop falling into old patterns. I also share a practical five-step plan that you can follow to take back control of your urges and direct your energy where it matters most. This isn’t about shame—it’s about building trust, self-respect, and leadership within yourself. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Why impulse control matters 01:47 – You’re not weak, just conditioned 02:57 – How porn rewires your brain 07:42 – The 3 forces behind urges 12:22 – Step 1: Identify your triggers 14:33 – Step 2: Redesign your environment 16:44 – Step 3: Urge surfing 19:38 – Step 4: Implement intentions 21:03 – Step 5: Build your dopamine menu 24:00 – Closing thoughts *** Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I sit down with John Lee to unpack the critical difference between anger and rage. John shares his decades of experience helping men and women understand how rage can destroy connection, while healthy anger can build intimacy and trust. We explore the generational cycles of rage, how it gets passed down to children, and what it takes to break free. If you’ve ever struggled with anger or felt trapped in rage, this conversation will hit home. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:10 – Welcome back, John Lee 00:37 – Anger vs Rage 02:11 – Why Rage Never Resolves 04:24 – Rage Is Contagious 06:29 – The Illusion of Control 08:04 – Enragers and Outragers 11:38 – Fathers, Sons, and Rage 13:50 – No Models for Healthy Anger 16:08 – Anger as Sacred Energy 20:08 – Rage Equals Pain for Children 23:19 – Facing Personal Rage 24:24 – Four Styles of Rage 27:11 – Where Healing Begins 30:30 – Sobriety and Rage 32:57 – Why Men Resist Rage Work 36:59 – Reconnecting to the Body 41:13 – Why Rage Work Isn’t Filmed 44:06 – Gentle Practices to Reduce Rage 48:58 – Expressing Anger Appropriately 52:37 – Boundaries Around Rage 53:45 – Closing Thoughts *** Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook |