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Lets Chat!!! PM Me :) Have you ever pretended not to care when you actually did? Welcome to the puzzling world of "too cool culture" in modern dating, where emotional detachment is somehow considered a strength and vulnerability a weakness. From personally playing the "cool girl" with an army sergeant who invalidated my feelings to dating a man in an open marriage who expected exclusivity from me (the irony!), I've learned firsthand that hiding your authentic self only leads to pain. This episode dives into why we're all so afraid to show we care, and how the fear of rejection drives us to create connections built on performance rather than truth. Social media and trends like "hot girl summer" have conditioned us to believe that catching feelings is something to avoid, but what if vulnerability is actually the uncut gem we're all searching for? I'm challenging the notion that being emotionally unavailable is attractive, and making the case that authentic connection requires courage - the courage to send that text when you want to (not when it's "strategic"), to express genuine interest, and to have honest conversations about expectations. Whether you're trying to figure out why your date hasn't texted back for three days or you're wondering if you should tell someone how you really feel, this episode is a reminder that in a world where everyone's afraid to care too much, those brave enough to be emotionally available are the ones building relationships with meaning. Ready to stop pretending and start connecting? Listen in, and let's get real about dating. Support the show Connect with Jan: www.surejanpodcast.com Lets Connect Instagram : surejanpodcast_ email: surejanpodcast@gmail.com Merch: Check it out ! Go get you some merch here! xoxo Jan

Send us a text After a year-long hiatus that tested her spirit, Janice makes a vulnerable return to the Sure Jan Podcast with raw honesty about her journey through job loss, depression, and the crushing weight of imposter syndrome. What began as a professional setback spiraled into an emotional struggle that left her questioning her worth and purpose – a deeply human experience many of us can relate to when life suddenly veers off course. In this comeback episode, Janice doesn't just scratch the surface; she dives deep into the complicated emotions of rejection both professionally and romantically. From hiding her unemployment from friends out of shame to navigating the awkward aftermath of casual hookups (including the hilariously mortifying story behind her new nickname for a recurring character: "Tippy Toes"), her authenticity shines through every confession. The heart of this episode explores the paralyzing fear of rejection that shapes our dating experiences. Janice brilliantly articulates the internal dialogue that keeps her from approaching attractive men at bars, while also examining the added complexities of dating as a Black woman. Her reflections on wanting to experience her "soft girl era" – finding someone who allows her vulnerability instead of requiring constant strength – resonates powerfully against the backdrop of society's expectations. Perhaps most surprisingly, Janice shares how finding hope came from an unexpected source: her first parasocial relationship with a Love Island USA couple. Seeing authentic representation of a Black woman being genuinely cherished gave her a template for the love she deserves, proving that inspiration can find us in the most unexpected places when we're rebuilding ourselves. Whether you're navigating your own comeback story, struggling with dating insecurities, or simply seeking authentic conversation about the messier parts of life, this episode reminds us that our most challenging seasons often lead to our greatest growth. Join Janice as she reclaims her voice and invites you to reconnect on this journey through dating, pop culture, and the beautiful chaos of being human in your thirties. The clip I was referring too: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AcdinPapMZw --Soul Ties Kiss https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Rex86hix2M- WWHL appearance appreciation of her man and this clip had me bawling lol xo Jan Connect with Jan: www.surejanpodcast.com Lets Connect Instagram : surejanpodcast_ email: surejanpodcast@gmail.com Merch: Check it out ! Go get you some merch here! xoxo Jan

Hello Beautiful People! Its been a minute but your girl is back , for real this time lol! In this episode I give you a small update on why I was away . Also we talk about breadcrumbing and why it has been infiltrating the dating world in 2024! Learn some signs on how to avoid being breadcrumbed! As always happy to be back , I missed yall :) Connect with Jan: www.surejanpodcast.com Lets Connect Instagram : surejanpodcast_ email: surejanpodcast@gmail.com Merch: Check it out ! Go get you some merch here! xoxo Jan

Hello Loves, Long time no talk, well I have been absent for a bit but your girl is back! We talk about an update on what's going on with me and my current dating life. I also get into how annoying it is as we get older the pressure of already having it figured out with marriage and children. Grab some liquor or a joint and lets get deep! Connect with Jan: www.surejanpodcast.com Lets Connect Instagram : surejanpodcast_ email: surejanpodcast@gmail.com Merch: Check it out ! Go get you some merch here! xoxo Jan

Hello My Loves! We are really officially back, your girl has been extremely busy and life has just been a lot! So much to catch up on and lets get into that. The new slang word delulu has been my favorite word lately and of course I am going to share it with my favorites. Sit Back , Relax, Grab a beverage and lets be delulu together :) Connect with Jan: www.surejanpodcast.com Lets Connect Instagram : surejanpodcast_ email: surejanpodcast@gmail.com Merch: Check it out ! Go get you some merch here! xoxo Jan

Hello everyone , I’m back !!! In this episode it’s a mini catchup/ therapy session so let’s catch up with your fav host Xoxo Connect with Jan: www.surejanpodcast.com Lets Connect Instagram : surejanpodcast_ email: surejanpodcast@gmail.com Merch: Check it out ! Go get you some merch here! xoxo Jan

Hello Everyone! Happy New Year my loves! Hope you notice something different in the beginning . Yes we starting the new year with a new intro and more episodes this year. I am holding my ass accountable and that means getting you guys more episodes this year. Lets do it! In this episode to start the new year we talk about dating in a new body. I will say during this pandemic your girl did gain some weight and I will not lie , it messed with my confidence on how I viewed myself in this dating world. I talk about the good and the ugliness of dating in a different body. Connect with Jan: www.surejanpodcast.com Lets Connect Instagram : surejanpodcast_ email: surejanpodcast@gmail.com Merch: Check it out ! Go get you some merch here! xoxo Jan

Hello Eveyone, Lets get down to this title because dating right now is not doing what is needs to be doing. Because baby I am tired of these wack guys and the dating pool that has pee in it. Lets dive in and take several shots, I know I did. Connect with Jan: www.surejanpodcast.com Lets Connect Instagram : surejanpodcast_ email: surejanpodcast@gmail.com Merch: Check it out ! Go get you some merch here! xoxo Jan

Hello Everyone , Happy Hump Day , i hope all my listeners get humped ;) love y'all Any ways we are bringing it back to the beginning, the first episode to be exact. Reflecting on two years of starting this podcast and a little refresher of the first episode. I will also tell yall my crazy lyft story as well , and learn to do the opposite haha Laugh at my lyft story, relfect on knowing your worth and grab a bottle of red and dive in ! Connect with Jan: www.surejanpodcast.com Lets Connect Instagram : surejanpodcast_ email: surejanpodcast@gmail.com call/text me : 339-545-9945 Merch: Check it out ! Go get you some merch here! xoxo Jan Connect with Jan: www.surejanpodcast.com Lets Connect Instagram : surejanpodcast_ email: surejanpodcast@gmail.com Merch: Check it out ! Go get you some merch here! xoxo Jan

Hello Everyone :) Did you miss me? I know sure as hell I missed you all and our chats . So I thought I'd come back with an episode on my latest sex-capades. So once started as a teaser of the story turned into a whole episode . So sit back and enjoy my latest story with the pornstar :) Grab some popcorn while I spill the tea on my latest endeavors Connect with Jan: www.surejanpodcast.com Lets Connect Instagram : surejanpodcast_ email: surejanpodcast@gmail.com call/text me : 339-545-9945 Merch: Check it out ! Go get you some merch here! xoxo Jan Connect with Jan: www.surejanpodcast.com Lets Connect Instagram : surejanpodcast_ email: surejanpodcast@gmail.com Merch: Check it out ! Go get you some merch here! xoxo Jan

Hello Everyone ! So yes you are seeing this right .. two episodes this week :) ! I missed you guys so much that I decided to release two episodes this week so you have an extra Jan chit chat session. In today's episode we get into situationships and why they are the literal worst thing ever! Do you think you are in one ? Or Have you been in one ? This may be the episode for you! Let's chat about the good & bad of being in a situationship! Connect with Jan: www.surejanpodcast.com Lets Connect Instagram : surejanpodcast_ email: surejanpodcast@gmail.com call/text me : 339-545-9945 Merch: Check it out ! Go get you some merch here! xoxo Jan Connect with Jan: www.surejanpodcast.com Lets Connect Instagram : surejanpodcast_ email: surejanpodcast@gmail.com Merch: Check it out ! Go get you some merch here! xoxo Jan

Hello Everyone, In today's episode we discuss growing an attachment to someone especially when you are intimate. Also I talk about my latest rendezvous and why my throat has been killing me. take a shot with the girls and lets get into attachments. Connect with Jan: www.surejanpodcast.com Lets Connect Instagram : surejanpodcast_ email: surejanpodcast@gmail.com call/text me : 339-545-9945 Merch: Check it out ! Go get you some merch here! xoxo Jan Connect with Jan: www.surejanpodcast.com Lets Connect Instagram : surejanpodcast_ email: surejanpodcast@gmail.com Merch: Check it out ! Go get you some merch here! xoxo Jan

Hello Everyone , In today's talk we chat about the infamous oscar slap and how that correlates with your partner having your back! Let's take a deep dive in this and compare some notes. Grab some shots , wine or tequila and chit chat Connect with Jan: www.surejanpodcast.com Lets Connect Instagram : surejanpodcast_ email: surejanpodcast@gmail.com call/text me : 339-545-9945 Merch: Check it out ! Go get you some merch here! xoxo Jan Connect with Jan: www.surejanpodcast.com Lets Connect Instagram : surejanpodcast_ email: surejanpodcast@gmail.com Merch: Check it out ! Go get you some merch here! xoxo Jan

Hello Everyone, We are back just in time for the lovey dovey holiday that us single folks have rubbed in our damn faces ! We get into Love Bombing and how toxic af it is to be apart if it ! If you or someone you know that has been personally victimized by Love bombing , we are here to talk about it and drink some tequila to wash our sorrows away. Lets compare notes y'all Connect with Jan: www.surejanpodcast.com Lets Connect Instagram : surejanpodcast_ email: surejanpodcast@gmail.com call/text me : 339-545-9945 Go get you some merch here! xoxo Jan Connect with Jan: www.surejanpodcast.com Lets Connect Instagram : surejanpodcast_ email: surejanpodcast@gmail.com Merch: Check it out ! Go get you some merch here! xoxo Jan

Hello Everyone, In today's episode we discussing hooking up during the holidays . Giving tips if you should be doing that or not. Listen hooking up during the holidays is fun especially when we are lonely and horny . So do it up and get that back blown out. Pour a glass a wine and lets get into it Connect with Jan: www.surejanpodcast.com Lets Connect Instagram : surejanpodcast_ email: surejanpodcast@gmail.com call/text me : 339-545-9945 xoxo Jan Connect with Jan: www.surejanpodcast.com Lets Connect Instagram : surejanpodcast_ email: surejanpodcast@gmail.com Merch: Check it out ! Go get you some merch here! xoxo Jan

Hello Everyone! In today's episode we talk about rebounds and why they can work out and when they do not. If you ever thought you couldn't be in more embarrassing situation during a rebound .. whelp hold my beer because my rebound story is a doozy . You made need a shot and you might have some second hand embarrassment after listening to this story. Get your friends and let's talk about it ! Grab some booze as well ;) Connect with Jan: www.surejanpodcast.com Lets Connect Instagram : surejanpodcast_ email: surejanpodcast@gmail.com call/text me : 339-545-9945 xoxo Jan Connect with Jan: www.surejanpodcast.com Lets Connect Instagram : surejanpodcast_ email: surejanpodcast@gmail.com Merch: Check it out ! Go get you some merch here! xoxo Jan

Hello Everyone! In today's episode we dive into online dating vs meeting someone in a social setting. We talk about what is more normal now in the dating world then back in the day. Are these methods actually better or is it being shoved down our throats. Get your friends and let's talk about it ! Grab some booze as well ;) Connect with Jan: www.surejanpodcast.com Lets Connect Instagram : surejanpodcast_ email: surejanpodcast@gmail.com call me : 339-545-9945 xoxo Jan Connect with Jan: www.surejanpodcast.com Lets Connect Instagram : surejanpodcast_ email: surejanpodcast@gmail.com Merch: Check it out ! Go get you some merch here! xoxo Jan

Hello Everyone, I back!! I know I know I have been gone for a bit but I am officially back . In today's episode we are getting into holidays and how being single and being around families. I also throw in some advice about being taken during the holidays meeting the family. So sit back and lets drinks some spike eggnog and get into it. Connect with Jan: www.surejanpodcast.com Lets Connect Instagram : surejanpodcast_ email: surejanpodcast@gmail.com call me : 339-545-9945 xoxo Jan Connect with Jan: www.surejanpodcast.com Lets Connect Instagram : surejanpodcast_ email: surejanpodcast@gmail.com Merch: Check it out ! Go get you some merch here! xoxo Jan

Hey Everyone, In this weeks episode we talk about toxic men and why sometimes we can not detect them right away. We go into how some disguise themselves as good guys but in reality they are straight up trash. I give the signs that you need to look for . Connect with Jan: www.surejanpodcast.com Lets Connect Instagram : surejanpodcast_ email: surejanpodcast@gmail.com call me : 339-545-9945 xoxo Jan Connect with Jan: www.surejanpodcast.com Lets Connect Instagram : surejanpodcast_ email: surejanpodcast@gmail.com Merch: Check it out ! Go get you some merch here! xoxo Jan

Hello Everyone, Nothing beats some good old girl talk , especially when you get a chance to talk to Anna from Annatude Podcast. Here us exchange fun stories and get a cool feel of Anna from Annatude Podcast is all about . How to follow Anna: Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/annatudepod/?hl=en Her Podcast Connect with Jan: www.surejanpodcast.com Lets Connect Instagram : surejanpodcast_ email: surejanpodcast@gmail.com call me : 339-545-9945 xoxo Jan Connect with Jan: www.surejanpodcast.com Lets Connect Instagram : surejanpodcast_ email: surejanpodcast@gmail.com Merch: Check it out ! Go get you some merch here! xoxo Jan