Dear Black Gay Men Podcast

I used to be drawn to a “project”: men who I dated for their potential. That was my virgo-ish-ness on full display. I’ve unlearned my overthinking, hyper-critical, project seeking mannerisms and replaced them with some more self-actualized behaviors. But those lessons came from dating men like “Tony”. Luckily, I caught this lesson before it was too late. ➡️ Shop DBGM Merch: https://www.dearblackgaymen.shop ➡️ Become an Insider: https://youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen/join ➡️ Join the newsletter: http://dearblackgaymen.substack.com 📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men Podcast Apple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7s YT: YouTube.com/@DearBlackGayMen 🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFI Our purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward. ➡️ Connect with Jai The Gentleman IG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentleman http://www.dearblackgaymen.com

Thirsty Thursday, every week, 8pm on YT : youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen This week Jai The Gentleman discusses: The time I had an entanglement in my front yard. Subscribe to second channel: youtube.com/@jaithegentleman Shop Brand New Merch: https://dearblackgaymen.shop Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/49lxwQaRAKrBwjxeRN0NAu?si=0b830412dcf141df Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-black-gay-men-podcast/id1581655281

Thirsty Thursday, every week, 8pm on YT : youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen This week Jai The Gentleman discusses: One of my regulars broke his routine and showed me how he really feels about our entanglements. Subscribe to second channel: youtube.com/@jaithegentleman Shop Brand New Merch: https://dearblackgaymen.shop Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/49lxwQaRAKrBwjxeRN0NAu?si=0b830412dcf141df Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-black-gay-men-podcast/id1581655281

Thirsty Thursday, every week, 8pm on YT : youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen This week Jai The Gentleman discusses: It was an unexpected threeway that turned into a HUGE lesson. Subscribe to second channel: youtube.com/@jaithegentleman Shop Brand New Merch: https://dearblackgaymen.shop Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/49lxwQaRAKrBwjxeRN0NAu?si=0b830412dcf141df Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-black-gay-men-podcast/id1581655281

Thirsty Thursday, every week, 8pm on YT : youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen This week Jai The Gentleman discusses: This entanglement left me drained...and I enjoyed it. Subscribe to second channel: youtube.com/@jaithegentleman Shop Brand New Merch: https://dearblackgaymen.shop Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/49lxwQaRAKrBwjxeRN0NAu?si=0b830412dcf141df Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-black-gay-men-podcast/id1581655281

Why are open relationships EVERYWHERE. Jai The Gentleman got a DM from a viewer after his interview on the show about Open Relationships. The guests and the audience agree that poly and non-monogamous guys are everywhere. Why are these relationship types so prevalent and what can singles do about in the dating pool? The Unlikely Throuple DC: https://posh.vip/e/the-unlikely-throuple-dc-2 For more information on HIV Vaccine Trials Network: https://www.helpendhiv.org ➡️ Shop DBGM Merch: https://www.dearblackgaymen.shop ➡️ Become an Insider: https://youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen/join ➡️ Join the newsletter: http://dearblackgaymen.substack.com 📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men Podcast Apple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7s YT: YouTube.com/@DearBlackGayMen 🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFI Our purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward. ➡️ Connect with Jai The Gentleman IG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentleman http://www.dearblackgaymen.com

Jai The Gentleman posted this reel about dating trans men and the part that got the most commentary was when I said “f*ck people not parts”. As much as I know this applies to dating people of trans experience, I think the rest of Black gay culture still can use the memo. This is how Jai The Gentleman learned about the fetishization of men in Black gay culture, and what the culture must do about it. The Unlikely Throuple DC: https://posh.vip/e/the-unlikely-throuple-dc-2 For more information on HIV Vaccine Trials Network: https://www.helpendhiv.org ➡️ Shop DBGM Merch: https://www.dearblackgaymen.shop ➡️ Become an Insider: https://youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen/join ➡️ Join the newsletter: http://dearblackgaymen.substack.com 📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men Podcast Apple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7s YT: YouTube.com/@DearBlackGayMen 🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFI Our purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward. ➡️ Connect with Jai The Gentleman IG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentleman http://www.dearblackgaymen.com

Jai The Gentleman posted this reel about dating trans men and the part that got the most commentary was when I said “f*ck people not parts”. As much as I know this applies to dating people of trans experience, I think the rest of Black gay culture still can use the memo. This is how Jai The Gentleman learned about the fetishization of men in Black gay culture, and what the culture must do about it. ➡️ Shop DBGM Merch: https://www.dearblackgaymen.shop ➡️ Become an Insider: https://youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen/join ➡️ Join the newsletter: http://dearblackgaymen.substack.com 📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men Podcast Apple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7s YT: YouTube.com/@DearBlackGayMen 🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFI Our purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward. ➡️ Connect with Jai The Gentleman IG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentleman http://www.dearblackgaymen.com

This epsiode Jai The Gentleman does a deep dive into the dating pool: why can't we find a man. Team DBGM gets emails, DMs, mentions/tags from listeners wondering why the dating pool hasn't yielded a relationship. Jai is going through some similar woes, but has finally uncovered that it might not be the dating pool; it's actuall him. New uploads TUESDAYS, WEDNESDAYS & THURSDAYS Support the Channel: https://bit.ly/43lQ2N9 Listen to the podcast: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 ➡️Shop DBGM Merch: https://www.dearblackgaymen.shop ➡️Become an Insider: https://youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen/join ➡️Join the newsletter: http://dearblackgaymen.substack.com 📲Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men Podcast Apple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7s YT: YouTube.com/@DearBlackGayMen 🎹Theme music by The Passion HIFI Our purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward. ➡️Connect with Jai The Gentleman IG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentleman http://www.dearblackgaymen.com

This episode Jai The Gentleman dives deep into a challenge a lot of Black gay men (and people) in the dating pool deal with: why can't he just do what I want him to? Jai unpacks how a celebration for a friend's new job turned into an internal dialogue that, he says, has held him back from a relationship. New uploads TUESDAYS, WEDNESDAYS & THURSDAYS Support the Channel: https://bit.ly/43lQ2N9 Listen to the podcast: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 ➡️Shop DBGM Merch: https://www.dearblackgaymen.shop ➡️Become an Insider: https://youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen/join ➡️Join the newsletter: http://dearblackgaymen.substack.com 📲Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men Podcast Apple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7s YT: YouTube.com/@DearBlackGayMen 🎹Theme music by The Passion HIFI Our purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward. ➡️Connect with Jai The Gentleman IG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentleman http://www.dearblackgaymen.com

In this episode, Jai The Gentleman discusses a recent break-up he went through. The topic came up on a previous episode of Dear Black Gay Men where Jai talked through sexual incompatibility. Today, Jai goes a little deeper on some lessons that he uncovered after a couple months distance. The big question is, should Jai go back. Screenshot this episode, share it to your IG and let us know what you think. New uploads TUESDAYS, WEDNESDAYS & THURSDAYS Support the Channel: https://bit.ly/43lQ2N9 Listen to the podcast: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 ➡️Shop DBGM Merch: https://www.dearblackgaymen.shop ➡️Become an Insider: https://youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen/join ➡️Join the newsletter: http://dearblackgaymen.substack.com 📲Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men Podcast Apple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7s YT: YouTube.com/@DearBlackGayMen 🎹Theme music by The Passion HIFI Our purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward. ➡️Connect with Jai The Gentleman IG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentleman

Judge me later, but I was at a sex club the other week. Guy walks up to me and said the weirdest things in an effort to avoid saying what he actually wanted to share. New uploads Tuesdays, Wednesdays & Thursdays on YouTube: youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen Support the Channel: https://bit.ly/43lQ2N9 Listen to the podcast: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 ➡️ Shop DBGM Merch: https://www.dearblackgaymen.shop ➡️ Become an Insider: https://youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen/join ➡️ Join the newsletter: http://dearblackgaymen.substack.com 📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men Podcast Apple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4 Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7s YT: YouTube.com/@DearBlackGayMen 🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFI Our purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward. ➡️ Connect with Jai The Gentleman IG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentleman

Thirsty Thursday, every week, 8pm on YT : youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen This week Jai The Gentleman discusses: The guy at the gym and why he could never Subscribe to second channel: youtube.com/@jaithegentleman Shop Brand New Merch: https://dearblackgaymen.shop Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/49lxwQaRAKrBwjxeRN0NAu?si=0b830412dcf141df Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-black-gay-men-podcast/id1581655281

Thirsty Thursday, every week, 8pm on YT : youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen This week Jai The Gentleman discusses: Why I need a man, and exactly what kind of man he needs to be. Subscribe to second channel: youtube.com/@jaithegentleman Shop Brand New Merch: https://dearblackgaymen.shop Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/49lxwQaRAKrBwjxeRN0NAu?si=0b830412dcf141df Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-black-gay-men-podcast/id1581655281

Thirsty Thursday, every week, 8pm on YT : youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen This week Jai The Gentleman discusses: Why "wyd" is never wyd. Subscribe to second channel: youtube.com/@jaithegentleman Shop Brand New Merch: https://dearblackgaymen.shop Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/49lxwQaRAKrBwjxeRN0NAu?si=0b830412dcf141df Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-black-gay-men-podcast/id1581655281

Thirsty Thursday, every week, 8pm on YT : youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen This week Jai The Gentleman discusses: How I stumbled into interviewing my #1 dream guest and why my vision just got a whole lot bigger. Subscribe to second channel: youtube.com/@jaithegentleman Shop Brand New Merch: https://dearblackgaymen.shop Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/49lxwQaRAKrBwjxeRN0NAu?si=0b830412dcf141df Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-black-gay-men-podcast/id1581655281

Thirsty Thursday, every week, 8pm on YT : youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen This week Jai The Gentleman discusses: The "what's your type" question and why a date was so surprised by my answer. Subscribe to second channel: youtube.com/@jaithegentleman Shop Brand New Merch: https://dearblackgaymen.shop Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/49lxwQaRAKrBwjxeRN0NAu?si=0b830412dcf141df Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-black-gay-men-podcast/id1581655281

Thirsty Thursday, every week, 8pm on YT : youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen This week Jai The Gentleman discusses: How I gave two dudes d*ck they didn't deserve and taught me a very valuable lesson about dating. Subscribe to second channel: youtube.com/@jaithegentleman Shop Brand New Merch: https://dearblackgaymen.shop Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/49lxwQaRAKrBwjxeRN0NAu?si=0b830412dcf141df Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-black-gay-men-podcast/id1581655281

Thirsty Thursday, every week, 8pm on YT : youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen This week Jai The Gentleman discusses: This virgin who slid in my DMs, why that would have never worked, and the root of what's killing our dating lives. Subscribe to second channel: youtube.com/@jaithegentleman Shop Brand New Merch: https://dearblackgaymen.shop Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/49lxwQaRAKrBwjxeRN0NAu?si=0b830412dcf141df Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-black-gay-men-podcast/id1581655281

Thirsty Thursday, every week, 8pm on YT : youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen This week Jai The Gentleman discusses: Why the dating pool is trash and what exactly you can do about it. Conversation with Dwayne: https://youtube.com/live/hR-O0g_1nyc?feature=share Subscribe to second channel: youtube.com/@jaithegentleman Shop Brand New Merch: https://dearblackgaymen.shop Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/49lxwQaRAKrBwjxeRN0NAu?si=0b830412dcf141df Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-black-gay-men-podcast/id1581655281