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We are here for people who have discovered how challenging day-to-day marriage is and are searching for a resource to grow through the process. Join Our Inner Circle Here: https://www.themarriagesecrets.com/

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Episodes
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Why Your Spouse May HATE Your Apology

2/3/2026
https://www.themarriagesecrets.com/ In this episode, you will learn the 3-step "apology system" that does more than just stop the fighting—it actually "disarms" your spouse and turns your biggest arguments into "bouquets of roses." If you’ve ever felt like your apologies don't get very far, you cannot afford to miss the advice at 7:25 regarding the one thing that matters more than words.… 0:00 – Introduction Young Black Married Christian1:42 – Biblical Foundation for Reconciliation Matthew 5:232:44 – Tip 1: The Speed of Your Apology 4:03 – Tip 2: Explaining the Impact 5:04 – Real-Life Example: Sleep Deprivation and Irritability 7:25 – Tip 3: The Plan for Changed Behavior Ephesians 4:289:05 – Public vs. Private Apologies 10:55 – Thorns vs. Roses 12:00 – The Phenomenal Family Inner Circle 16:20 – Final Encouragement and Closing Key TakeawaysDon't Let the Sun Go DownValidate Their PainActions Speak Louder Never Forget.... The people who want the best in their marriage... Invest in their marriage.

Duration:00:18:55

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How to Parent Without Losing Your Cool

4/26/2025
02:41 – The Challenge of Parenting Without a Playbook 03:39 – Guiding Scripture: 1 Corinthians 13:4–7 04:38 – How the Love Test Became Their Family’s Only Rule 05:37 – Teaching Kids to Filter Behavior Through Love 07:05 – Integrating Faith and Parenting with Simplicity 08:05 – The Love Test as a Filter for Parenting Books and Advice 09:03 – Discipleship Through Daily Love and Behavior 10:59 – Teaching Love from the Inside Out (Not Just Compliance) 12:25 – Parenting With Virtue Over Rules 13:23 – Reflection: Are You Parenting From a Framework or Just Rules? 13:51 – Action Step: Propose “Love as the One Rule” to Your Spouse 14:46 – Extending Love Beyond Parenting: Leadership and Integrity 15:46 – Love-Centered Leadership Shifts Priorities From Profit to People 19:02 – Companies Built on Love Outperform the S&P 500 by 1400% 20:27 – Don’t Use Business-Only Tools for Parenting 21:54 – Using Love as the Core Framework Across All Life Arenas 23:17 – The Power of Consistency: Being the Same at Work and Home 24:44 – C.S. Lewis and the Idea That the Mask Is Your True Self 26:10 – Love in Apology: How to Repair Mistakes as a Parent 27:35 – Redo Moments: Letting Kids Practice the Right Behavior 28:32 – Recap: Love, Leadership, and Living with Integrity 29:58 – Ask Your Questions via SpeakPipe or Access More Resources 30:59 – Final Word: “Connect Before You Correct” 🤔 Submit Your Question:🎤 Leave a voice question via SpeakPipe 📚Get All Our Resources:🎁 Join the Phenomenal Family Inner Circle Bundle – Lifetime Access, One Flat Price

Duration:00:32:39

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How to Talk About Money Without Shutting Down or Blowing Up

4/15/2025
01:49 – What Jesus and Proverbs Teach Us About Money 02:47 – The S.A.F.E. Framework for Budgeting 03:48 – How to Steward Your Money to Honor God 05:42 – How to Get on the Same Page with Your Spouse 10:35 – How to Focus on One Budgeting Goal 14:48 – How to Bring Enthusiasm to Your Budget Meetings 16:42 – Final Recap: Stewardship, Agreement, Focus, Enthusiasm 17:11 – Action Step: What’s Your Small Step Today? 🤔 Submit Your Question:🎤 Leave a voice question via SpeakPipe 📚Get All Our Resources:🎁 Join the Phenomenal Family Inner Circle Bundle – Lifetime Access, One Flat Price

Duration:00:18:12

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How to Reflect God's Forgiveness in Relationships

12/21/2023
LaShaude and Dorianna James explore how the gospel strengthens marriages by fostering heaven on earth, emphasizing forgiveness and rejecting perfection. They advocate for modeling relationships after Jesus' love, promoting forgiveness and deeper spiritual connections. 04:16 - Understanding the Gospel's Impact: Experiencing Heaven on Earth 06:35 - The Power of Gospel Understanding: Creating Paradise in Marriage 08:57 - Reflecting God's Love: How Forgiveness Transforms Relationships 11:37 - Role of Forgiveness: Overcoming Resentment in Marriage 14:49 - Gospel's Solution: Addressing Selfishness, Fear, and Laziness 18:00 - The Gospel as a Role Model: Influencing Marital Dynamics 21:41 - Conclusion & Engagement: Resources for Enhanced Marital Bonds 🤔 Submit Your Question: https://www.speakpipe.com/JamesFamily Free Training: https://www.themarriagesecrets.com/family Let Us Coach Your Relationship Today: https://www.themarriagesecrets.com/coaching

Duration:00:22:44

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Breaking the Chains of Laziness: Igniting Action in Your Marriage

12/14/2023
🤔 Submit Your Question: https://www.speakpipe.com/JamesFamily Free Training: https://www.themarriagesecrets.com/family Personalized Coaching For Your Relationship from the James Family: https://www.themarriagesecrets.com/coaching In this episode, you'll discover tips to reignite passion and overcome obstacles, unraveling the secrets behind nurturing an enduring connection. Timestamps: 08:38 - Surpass Apathy, Nurture Love 09:31 - Realize Your Marriage Dream Board 10:31 - Break Free from Ignorance's Grip 11:57 - Craft a Vision for Remarkable Relationships 13:18 - Discover True Relationship Wealth 14:17 - Seek Wisdom in Marriage Models 15:41 - Elevate Your Marriage: Extraordinary! 17:01 - Expand Imagination for Relationship Blessings 18:00 - Journey Beyond Familiar Relationship Paths 19:21 - Reimagine God's Plan for Your Marriage 20:17 - Embrace a Boundless Vision for Love 21:41 - Unfold God's Plan for Your Relationship 23:36 - Unveil Miracles in Your Marriage 24:27 - Redefine Relationship Boundaries 25:50 - Open Doors to Divine Relationship Growth

Duration:00:27:16

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From Fig Leaves to Fully Known: Overcoming Barriers to Intimacy in Marriage

12/7/2023
🤔 Submit Your Question: https://www.speakpipe.com/JamesFamily Free Training: https://www.themarriagesecrets.com/family Personalized Coaching For Your Relationship from the James Family: https://www.themarriagesecrets.com/coaching This episode delves into the profound essence of intimacy, guiding listeners through the transformative power of vulnerability in relationships. It offers insights on shedding masks and embracing authenticity, fostering stronger connections. The discussions touch on the importance of genuine community, encouraging listeners to create safe spaces for emotional expression and growth. It navigates the complexities of intimacy, spanning beyond physicality to encompass emotional, financial, and spiritual aspects. With tangible examples and relatable anecdotes, it equips individuals with tools to cultivate openness, trust, and grace in their relationships. Ultimately, this episode serves as a roadmap for fostering deeper connections and experiencing the richness of genuine intimacy in all facets of life. Below are some detailed timestamps. Feel free to HOP in wherever! <3 00:00 - Introduction, Setting the Stage 00:26 - Encouragement to Download, Introduction of Hosts 00:54 - Reflection on Podcast Evolution and Material Sharing 01:24 - Reflecting on the Last Episode's Depth 01:50 - Banter on Parenting and Topic Introduction: Fear of Intimacy 02:19 - Exploring Fear of Intimacy in Relationships 03:18 - Concealing True Selves, Withholding in Relationships 04:13 - Importance of Being Fully Known for Full Love 05:11 - Gospel's Role in Allowing Openness in Relationships 06:08 - Encouraging Intimacy with God's People and Spouse 07:03 - Experience of Love Within Community and Marriage 07:31 - Impact of Vulnerability in Strengthening Relationships 07:56 - Battling Enemy's Lies through Openness and Community 08:54 - Strengthening Against Enemy's Attacks Through Support 09:50 - Importance of Genuine Christian Community 10:19 - Experiencing God's Grace Through Community 10:47 - Actively Participating in a Godly Community 11:16 - Fighting for Authenticity in Relationships 11:44 - Shedding Secrecy to Embrace Vulnerability 12:11 - Overcoming Past Family Dynamics for Intimacy 12:39 - Consistently Pushing for Emotional Openness 13:03 - Creating Safe Spaces for Vulnerability 13:27 - Cultivating a Safe Place for Emotional Expression 13:56 - Integrity and Wholeness Through Openness 14:26 - Addressing the Tiring Facade of Secrecy 14:44 - Biblical Perspective on Wholeness and Intimacy 15:11 - Analogies of Wearing Fig Leaves in Relationships 15:35 - Encouragement to Drop the Mask, Embrace Fullness 16:03 - Establishing a Groundwork for Intimacy 16:33 - Ensuring Forgiveness and Grace in Relationships 17:00 - Initiating Tough Conversations for Intimacy 17:30 - Encouraging Full Disclosure and Support 17:59 - Cultivating an Environment of Forgiveness 18:23 - Embracing Imperfections and Growth Together 18:51 - Transition to Defining Intimacy 19:19 - Into-Me-See: Defining True Intimacy 19:41 - Intimacy Beyond Physical Connection 20:08 - Sharing Vulnerabilities, Insecurities, and Stories 20:35 - Intimacy in Financial and Emotional Sharing 21:05 - Aim for Progress, Not Perfection 21:34 - Building a Relationship Rooted in Trust 22:02 - Encouraging Openness in Marriage 22:26 - Preparation for Uncomfortable Conversations 22:55 - Embracing Fullness in Relationships 23:22 - Dive into Intimacy's Core Meaning 23:51 - Beyond Transactional Relationships 24:20 - Fighting for Emotional Transparency 24:49 - Acknowledging Challenges in Vulnerability 25:19 - Various Forms of Intimacy to Explore 25:49 - Conclusion & Encouragement for Intimacy

Duration:00:27:42

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How To Improve Your Communication and Intimacy Without Feeling Lost For Words : Revisited

12/5/2023
🤔 Submit Your Question: https://www.speakpipe.com/JamesFamily Free Training: https://www.themarriagesecrets.com/family Personalized Coaching For Your Relationship from the James Family: https://www.themarriagesecrets.com/coaching [02:17] Some Scripture [02:58] Don't Be A Fool [03:55] Report vs Rapport [04:20] Destination vs Journey [05:19] What Happened To Them & In Them [08:27] The Train VS The Rollercoaster [10:00] Questions For Reflection & Action Steps For Application [11:00] Our Best Conversations Have This [12:20] Intimacy In Conversations [13:05] I'm Too Tired To Talk At Night [13:55] Be A Man (or Woman) Of The Second Shift [14:55] Do You Give Your Best To Everyone But Your Spouse? [18:30] Dorianna Makes It Wierd

Duration:00:21:46

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Overcoming Selfishness: A Guide to Spiritual Unity in Marriage

11/30/2023
Discover the beauty of marriage through the lens of faith! In this episode, we'll explore how shared beliefs and prioritizing each other are strengthened by faith. Uncover invaluable tips on building a resilient, loving bond, navigating challenges, and experiencing the profound impact of including God in your marriage. 05:09 - How to Understand the Impact of Selfishness on Oneness 07:58 - How to Prioritize Your Spouse's Spiritual Growth 10:20 - How to Trust God's Work in Your Spouse's Life 12:04 - How to Develop Spiritual Rhythms Together 16:22 - Conclusion: How to Focus on Overcoming Selfishness & Personal Growth 🤔 Submit Your Question: https://www.speakpipe.com/JamesFamily 14 DAY Free Online Training: https://www.themarriagesecrets.com/family

Duration:00:29:36

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How To Hold My Cheating Spouse Accountable

10/7/2022
What does forgiveness, grace, & ACCOUNTABILITY look like when your spouse cheats? 🤔 Submit Your Question: https://www.speakpipe.com/JamesFamily 14 DAY Free Online Training: https://www.themarriagesecrets.com/family

Duration:00:27:06

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How To Submit When Your Husband Has a Bad IDEA ?!?

10/1/2022
We're bringing sexy SUBMISSION back! 🤔 Submit Your Question: https://www.speakpipe.com/JamesFamily One-on-One Coaching: https://calendly.com/ybmc/coach 14 DAY Free Online Training: https://www.themarriagesecrets.com/family

Duration:00:25:06

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Singleness, Celibacy and Sexual Purity (FOR MARRIEDS TOO)

9/24/2022
In this episode you'll learn: How EVERYONE needs boundaries with people of the opposite sex. The goal is not celibacy or just not cheating. The real goal is... How community keeps your relationships safe. ...and so much more! 🤔 Submit Your Question: https://www.speakpipe.com/JamesFamily One-on-One Coaching: https://calendly.com/ybmc/coach 14 DAY Free Online Training: https://www.themarriagesecrets.com/family
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PT2 Become a MASTER of Intimacy, Communication and Prayer With This Simple Tool [B.L.E.S.S. Framework]

5/22/2022
🤔 Submit Your Question: https://www.speakpipe.com/JamesFamily Free Training: https://www.themarriagesecrets.com/family Become a MASTER of Intimacy, Communication, and Prayer With This Simple Tool

Duration:00:28:45

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How God Uses One Spouse To Save The Most Toxic Marriages & Relationships

5/22/2022
How God can use one spouse to save the most toxic failing marriages in the world! You're trying to... invite your spouse into marriage counseling and they will not go invite your spouse to read the books that you're reading and they won't do it better your marriage and your relationship but you are in a relationship with the spouses completely unwilling to take steps forward BUT it feels like... you're just beating your head against the wall you're destined to fail because you feel like it takes two to tango but your spouse is not moving whatsoever you feel like a fool because your spouse is making you look bad in front of your friends and your friends are telling you you should quit you want to treat your spouse the way that they treat you Scripture: And the Word became flesh and dwelt among us, and we beheld His glory, the glory as of the only begotten of the Father, full of grace and truth" (John 1:14). Or do you despise the riches of his kindness, restraint, and patience, not recognizing that God’s kindness is intended to lead you to repentance? (Romans 2:4) We love him, because he first loved us. (1 John 4:19) but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. (Romans 5:8)

Duration:00:12:09

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Bonus Teaching On How To Prevent Cheating (From 2020)

5/22/2022
This is an episode that we recorded for the Phenomenal Family Inner Circle back in 2020, but it's still 🔥. Enjoy!

Duration:00:40:10

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I Cheated On My Spouse

5/19/2022
🎁Here's All Our Teachings on Overcoming Cheating https://www.themarriagesecrets.com/cheating 🎁Here's everything we have... https://www.themarriagesecrets.com/family In this episode, you will learn … 1. Physically cheating on your wife or husband is not an isolated event. 2. I loved my wife even though I cheated? What? How??? 3. God used this terrible event to lead me to Him. 4. It gets better. It gets better than ever. Never Forget... The people who want the best in their marriage... Invest in their marriage. 🤔 Submit Your Question: https://www.speakpipe.com/JamesFamily

Duration:00:23:41

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Become a MASTER of Intimacy, Communication and Prayer With This Simple Tool

5/17/2022
🤔 Submit Your Question: https://www.speakpipe.com/JamesFamily Free Training: https://www.themarriagesecrets.com/family Become a MASTER of Intimacy, Communication, and Prayer With This Simple Tool [01:45] Shut Up And Listen! [04:05] Learn The O2 Prayer [05:00] How To Ask Good Follow-up Questions [09:30] What is Discipleship? [12:25] Do You Know Your Spouse's Obstacles and Opportunities? [13:30] Getting To Know Your Host

Duration:00:21:22

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How To Improve Your Communication and Intimacy Without Feeling Lost For Words

5/3/2022
🤔 Submit Your Question: https://www.speakpipe.com/JamesFamily Free Training: https://www.themarriagesecrets.com/family [02:17] Some Scripture [02:58] Don't Be A Fool [03:55] Report vs Rapport [04:20] Destination vs Journey [05:19] What Happened To Them & In Them [08:27] The Train VS The Rollercoaster [10:00] Questions For Reflection & Action Steps For Application [11:00] Our Best Conversations Have This [12:20] Intimacy In Conversations [13:05] I'm Too Tired To Talk At Night [13:55] Be A Man (or Woman) Of The Second Shift [14:55] Do You Give Your Best To Everyone But Your Spouse? [18:30] Dorianna Makes It Wierd

Duration:00:21:43

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3 Free Gifts That Will Make You Money and Save You Time

4/18/2022
🎙Entrepreneurship and Professional Development: https://www.themarriagesecrets.com/podcast2 🤔 Submit Your Question: https://www.speakpipe.com/JamesFamily 💪🏾 14 Day Training: https://www.themarriagesecrets.com/family

Duration:00:07:45

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Using Your Family Calendar To Win and Worship

3/28/2022
Free Training: https://www.themarriagesecrets.com/mba Submit Your Marriage Question, One-on-One Coaching, Workshops: https://forms.gle/dyw1sr2WSh5eidw79 [04:12] S.A.F.E. Budgets and Family Calendar

Duration:00:21:35

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How God Uses Community To Bless Your Marriage

3/20/2022
Free Training: https://www.themarriagesecrets.com Submit Your Marriage Question, One-on-One Coaching, Workshops: https://forms.gle/dyw1sr2WSh5eidw79 [02:00] What is "Christian community"? [04:55] The Power Of Accountability [06:00] Scripture On Christian Community [08:20] I Want God In My Marriage [09:20] God Works Through His People [11:05] The Gifts Of God In Our Marriage [19:15] You Need Intimacy In Your Small Group

Duration:00:28:21