Behavioural Alignment

In this week’s episode, I talk about tall poppy syndrome. I explain the detrimental effect this behaviour can have in a group and how it harms others in a team. I also offer some tips on how to deal with it, should it ever come your way.

In this week’s episode, I discuss going beyond motivation to address underlying issues. I lay out the difference between motivation and commitment and I explain why we often (erroneously!) make motivation our first port of call. There are also useful suggestions on what you can do instead.

In this week’s episode, I talk about the flip side of uncertainty and encourage you to use it as a jumpstart into creativity and innovation. I reference a great book called “The Upside of Uncertainty” and I offer tips to help you manage the negative thought patterns and unpleasant emotions that uncertainty can trigger.

In this week’s episode, I talk about changing your experience by controlling your attention. I discuss interdependency and explain the secret to staying positive when dealing with the unexpected. I also lay out ways to keep yourself on track when other people, places and priorities unwittingly impact your intentions.

In this week’s episode, I break down some of the challenges teams encounter when building trust. I discuss ways to align team thinking, as well as approaches to develop emotional trust and increase practical trustworthiness inside any group.

In this week’s episode, I discuss the difficult decisions many are facing right now and explain why our brains are currently primed to jump into threat mode. I also offer some tips on ways you can counter negative feelings when someone else’s choice feels like a personal rejection.

In this week’s episode, I discuss Brené Brown’s ‘great awkward’ and talk about how humans normalise behaviour. I also offer some tips on ways everyone can help themselves and each other during these difficult post-pandemic times when so many people are raw and reactive plus lots of things still feel wobbly and off balance.

In this week’s episode, I discuss FODO (the fear of disappointing others) and share thoughts on how it can adversely affect teamwork. I also offer some tips on ways to beat this fear, designed to reduce stress and anxiety, improve team communications and avoid overwhelm for those who find it hard to say no.

In this week’s episode, I link my poor customer service experience at the vet’s to the challenge employees face when their voices are not heard at work. I talk about how a poor business culture makes staff members feel and urge those who want to see a change in their working culture to stand up and speak out.

In this week’s episode, I discuss the many difficulties associated with a toxic working environment. I outline some of the issues you may encounter, talk through the negative consequences they can cause and provide a couple of suggestions which may help.

In this week’s episode, I discuss how two people can experience the same event with very different results. I explain the aspects hiding behind your personal response and illustrate how this leads some people to have a more resilient reaction than others.

In this week’s episode, I talk about the way labels often prove unhelpful in trauma resolution. Because trauma is a highly subjective emotional response, it can be provoked by a wide range of personal experiences. Sharing your journey with other survivors brings a deeper understanding than any label someone who wasn’t there might want to apply to your situation.

In this week’s episode, I talk about why overthinking is so common and explain the two types of overthinking. I also share tips to help you break the overthinking loop, allowing you to control your attention and choose more helpful thoughts.

In this week’s episode, I talk about the challenges we all face when starting over. I share my top tips for breaking out of your comfort zone, together with a super easy technique to bring you out of hiding when you spot the signs of panic creeping in!

In this week’s episode, I focus on self-confidence and how to handle other people’s opinions which may be causing you anxiety and concern. I share my top tips for pushing worry aside, together with a quick and easy assertiveness technique that will help train your mind to care much less about what other people think!

In this week’s episode, I discuss how lots of small choices create your flow. There’s a great deal of preparation behind every achievement, but most of it is invisible. When you look deeply, you can spot a series of seemingly insignificant experiences, feelings and thoughts which stack together to lift you higher! In short, flow is about who you keep choosing to be.

In this week’s episode, I discuss self-confidence, highlighting some of the reasons why trust issues and self-esteem difficulties are prevalent right now. I offer suggestions to help you manage your vulnerability and I encourage all kiwis to be gentle with each other as the population starts to come back together.

In this week’s episode, I explain how taking everything with a pinch of salt helps you introduce a third choice to binary (accept or reject) situations. I outline a couple of important thinking biases and suggest ways to challenge black or white thinking which create space to brainstorm alternatives.

In this week’s episode, I talk about the effect your environment has upon your thinking, feelings and behaviour. I briefly explore the theory of reciprocal determinism and suggest quick tips you can use to ensure your environment works better for you.

In this week’s episode, I talk about the cost of jumping to conclusions, which has been scientifically linked to a wider pattern of errors in thinking and behaviour. I also suggest some positive techniques you can use with others who repeatedly push their (potentially false!) conclusions upon you.