Made in America

Welcome back to The American Sex Pod. My name is John David. I host this podcast because we, my friends and I, have something to say, contribute and hopefully have the ability to help people interested in and navigating the new world of real, authentic, and personal relationships revolving around “love”. Last year, we talked about what people “think” love is. This year we are going to focus on what the reality of separating love from sex and if that is even possible. Thank you all for...

What do you get out of an open relationship? It can’t be stability, companionship, ride or die, love conquers all - hell, you sleep with other people! I MUST NOT BE ENOUGH!!! If you’ve had, have or fear you’ll have these thoughts, this final interview of the year is for you. I’ll spoil the ending - you are. -The American Sex Pod

More and more and more.... Nick and Auryn met when they didn’t want to. They were both coming out of long term relationships with no or little experience in poly relationships, kink or otherwise. They are a wonderful example of how when you’re ready, you may meet that certain person who is on the same wavelength and you both begin to oscillate in the same way and change together. Its what we all dream of, many of us won’t experience, but its worth the try. This is was it looks like when...

So if you’ve been paying attention, we think sex is pretty great. We like to do it as much as possible, and experiment, and well, play. While we have the doctor’s ear, we talk about those questions regular couples can’t answer. Is there such as thing as too much sex? Am I an addict? Am I “NORMAL”??? We have our own thoughts on this, but listen in and see what the doctor has to say about it. Again, many thanks to Dr. Chavez for her time and expertise. We are very grateful to be able to...

We continue with this wonderful and enlightening conversation with Epiphany who tells her life journey and discovery. She talks about why she felt the need for increased touch after a sexual relationship ended, and she struggled to find a new relationship given her age, demographic, location and other casual circumstances. I think more people relate to Epiphany than our society wants to imagine, and the benefit from her suggestions for increased touch could, without hyperbole, change the...

We speak to a lot of couples, and we get to hear about their lives and their relationships. Why they make the choices they make, and how they make those choices work, or not. Today, we talked with Dr. Shannon Chavez, a sex therapist in Beverly Hills, California. She chats with us about her personal journey with her own relationships, her youth, and why she chose sex therapy as her way to interact with her community. Her insights verify much of what we have discovered with many of our...

We talk an awful lot about sex here, but what happens if you’re asexual, possibly due to circumstance such as age or health? Do your needs of human contact and the chemical experience of oxytocin diminished? We don’t think so. A book came across our desk called “Somebody Hold Me” by Epiphany Jordan. Epiphany lives in Texas. She wrote a “how to” book on the power of human touch through “cuddling” or simply increased human contact. If you’re like my mother, and find this silly, you probably...

We continue with Bella this week. She has simply experienced more in her life than most of us could hope to experience in 10 lifetimes. Her wisdom and outlook on life and its relationship to sex is fascinating. She talks about children, polyamory, dom/sub relationships and so much more. Its 25 min of constant learning. We were mesmerized. -The American Sex Pod You can find out more on Bella at: www.belllavey.com and read her book “Fetish Girl” available for download everywhere.

One of the most wonderful aspects of deciding to talk in a public forum about sex and relationships are the wonderful people I am getting to meet. We are chatting with Bella Lavey from Texas. Bella is a wonderful spirit who has spent her life working in and around the sex industry from erotic wrestling to erotic dancing to dominatrix and more. She’s very candid, and very self aware. She has a unique ability to communicate her experiences driven by her intense desire to effect her world in...

Hillary and Berg are very authentic and realized. I’d say that they are fully realized, but that would be counter to the idea of a constant journey. We talk about several different points from #metoo, from dealing with your parents and the loss of the generational wisdom as we begin to live openly and outwardly in ways that the previous generations simply don’t understand as a generalization. -The American Sex Pod

I had the privilege of attending Hillary and David’s wedding at Burning Man, and how we get to chat with them about their new commitment to their relationship. They’re in their 20’s and living in Denver, CO. They are a wonderfully original couple and talk about their status for themselves, and how that relates to their family life and friends. If you’re curious or wondering what the conversation sounds like when you want to authentically live a life thats your own. -The American Sex Pod

We’re back with Janet who is wonderfully open and fun. She talks more about her work and her life, and really opens up to us about her relationship with her work to her family life. Its not all sunshine and roses, and choosing to live an authentic lifestyle can have consequences and challenges. As in Janet’s case, we hope you too find that “the truth will set you free.” If you enjoyed this episode, please remember to like and comment. We hope this is helping. -The American Sex Pod Who is...

Why is sex so important? Is it the sex at all? Is it touch? If sex isn’t desired or possible, what now? Meet Janet: She’s the first of a few guests that are going to focus on the importance of touch in their lives. Why they need it and where they get it from. The rabbit hole is about to get deeper. Janet Trevino is a Platonic Touch and Cuddling Specialist. I am devoted to exposing and creating a brave space for one of society's largest unspoken and unmet needs: platonic touch. When not...

We talk with Brian. Brian is a pansexual male living and working in Los Angeles. He’s insightful and articulate and explains how living his true self is not always the easiest thing to do. Don’t worry, its got a happy ending. -The American Sex Pod

Genevive and Alex return to talk about role playing, a particular fantasy of Genevive’s. We talk about the how and why. Interested? How to get your partner interested or excited. Here are some fun games to try and play. This is at the heart of the podcast. How to have a better relationship through better sex. -The American Sex Pod We realized, for reasons unknown, this original post was silent. We’re trying to figure out why, but nonetheless, here you go. The next episode release will be...

Alex and Genevive are back post Burning Man to talk about duration, porn and how long is too long? Men and women climax differently and with different stimulus. The key to being a great lover is putting your attention on the other person, and then everyone has at least one person focused on them. Porn focuses you on yourself UNLESS you can retrain your “practice” to do just that...practice. If you allow porn to be totally self-indulgent and not self-exploratory then it can be problematic...

We are at Burning Man. Recorded on the playa with Purr and Gadget, they are a homosexual monogamous couple. We talk all about why they make the choices they make, and they even have for the first time a conversation about a third party in their relationship. If you’ve ever wondered or speculated about who goes to Burning Man and why, I think Purr and Gadget might shed some light and really give you a perspective of the wide variety of people and things happening at this world famous...

We’re back with Alex and Genevive and honestly it's not often I, as a sex podcast host, learn something completely new during a podcast, but wow, I was doing dirty talk all wrong. Are you doing it right? Check in and find out what turns men and women on when you want to use your voice to make everything sexy. It can be a vulnerable state opening yourself up and talking about all the wonderful and naughty things, and that vulnerability can be scary. Of course, that is what makes it so good. I...

So now we come back around to Alex and Genevive who are now almost 5 months pregnant....with twins!! We check in on them and how they are doing. How is being pregnant affected their open relationship and their sex life in general. You’ll get to hear the truth on what is happening and how each are dealing with a new direction This isn’t the typical candy coated “being pregnant is beautiful” session. You get the good, the bad, and the sexy. Listen in! - The American Sex Pod

We’re concluding our introductory sessions with Jackie and Mike, and we say introductory because any more sessions with them will simply be wonderful. What does it mean to be “open”? How do we define that in a world that is both defining and redefining sexuality and gender and at the same time seems to be insisting we stop defining things. It can be confusing. Hopefully, after 30 minutes with Jackie and Mike, it will be less daunting for you, you and your partner or partners. -The American...