U Up?

On this Friday’s Feels ep, J&J review You’ve Got Mail, the iconic Upper West Side rom-com starring Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan, diving into the movie that kicked off the era of online dating while nostalgically saying goodbye to small bookstores. They explore the magic of falling in love online before apps made dating complicated, from over-30 chat rooms to the classic AOL dial-up sound that defined a generation. From slow, meaningful email connections to Joe Fox’s low-pressure dating style, they debate whether this vintage romance still holds lessons for modern love. Plus, they question if Kathleen was actually forced to fall for Joe after his store puts hers out of business, wondering if romance can survive a little ruthless competition. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J go virtual and Jordana recaps her time at a wedding and dives into the buzz around ZYN nicotine pouches, the Gen Z trend creeping into adult life. They dish on dating dilemmas like when a guy stalls intimacy and the tricky etiquette of phone number exchanges. Plus, they weigh in on dancing at weddings, and how not dancing can be seen as a turn off. During the red flag dealbreaker segment they learn about a guy who refuses to ever give gifts to couples, to which Jordana jokes, “If I ever married this guy, we would get no gifts!” They also tackle an icky or picky moment where a listener likes the guy, but can’t get past all that back hair! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana realize it’s October 3rd! The “basic bitch Christmas”is a perfect fall day as it is Taylor Swift’s album release, Mean Girls Day, and a perfect day to drink spice lattes and put on a Gilmore Girls marathon. Jared takes on “Rejection October,” trying to get turned down three times, while they also break down a first date gone icky when the guy pressured a tired listener to reschedule. Plus, they analyze a performative ex sending unsolicited travel updates, showing how some people use breakups to make themselves look good. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared starts off the podcast with a redflag dealbreaker he heard: a straight guy has been to 30 Taylor Swift concerts. He and Jordana debate whether it makes him a groupie, a walking turn-off, or just a man who unapologetically loves what he loves. They help a woman who writes in who is dating without wanting kids, and why singles constantly get dismissed with “maybe you’ll change your mind.” A listener wonders if it’s icky or picky that her chef boyfriend eats PB&J every single day, and another listener confesses a crush that ends with the dreaded “don’t wait for me.” Plus, J&J prove that the best dates can cost just $10, and break down what it really means when your partner hides a secret Finsta! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared is feeling “very single” these days, a term he never thought he’d describe himself as! Jordana and Jared dive into the latest dating trends, from “Shrekking” and dating down with charm to the etiquette of bringing a plus one to a wedding. They also tackle hilarious friendship dilemmas like telling someone their dog smells, they have B.O., or if a guy has gone overboard with Botox. Would you be brave enough to tell a friend if they smelled? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dating fails, ghosting, and awkward first dates collide in this week’s episode of U Up? with Jared and Jordana. A listener writes in wondering if he was unmatched on Hinge by mistake or if it was just ghosting in disguise? J&J give another listener step-by-step advice on how to ask out a roommate without creating a “half-boyfriend” or awkward living situation. Plus, they dive into a few red flag dealbreakers: Venmo requests before dinner, and first date Groupons. Red Flag? Or just not sexy? Jared also pitches a clever idea for single-person restaurant menus so you can try more food without wasting a full plate! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are joined this week by Dateable podcast hosts Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu on U Up? Julie opens up about her journey as a self-proclaimed “type A dater” and how letting go of control ultimately led her to the right partner. She was just married last Saturday, with Yue officiating the wedding. Yue shares the shocking story of discovering her long-term boyfriend was cheating while she was writing a dating book, and how interviewing “the other woman” on their podcast became one of the most therapeutic experiences of her life. They also play “Icky or Picky: Fashion Edition,” debating whether showing up underdressed to a fancy restaurant is an ick or just being picky. Check out more on Dateable here 👉 Take the ⁠Dating Archetype Quiz⁠, check out ⁠How to Be Dateable⁠, and listen to ⁠“The Other Woman”⁠ episode too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana dive into the small etiquette moments that can make or break a date, debating whether table manners like placing a napkin on your lap or holding a fork the wrong way are serious red flags. They explore celebrity engagements from Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce to Brooklyn Beckham and the real-life pressure couples feel on their own timelines. Listeners write in with wild dating stories, from a guy who lies about it being your birthday to a baseball hat worn on back-to-back first dates, and Jared and Jordana unpack whether these are quirky personal choices or dealbreakers. They even tackle unconventional living situations, like sharing a home with grandparents, weighing when this is endearing or potentially a red flag. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s Friday the 12th, not the 13th, as Jared hilariously discovers when he falls for a meme about Halloween’s “666-year Friday the 13th” joke! Jordana sympathizes after being duped into thinking the Astronomer CEO apologized on LinkedIn, which sparks a discussion of Chris Martin and Gwyneth Paltrow’s “conscious uncoupling” and how to handle messy breakups with humor and style. They answer listener questions on dating, debating whether a two-year age difference is an ick and if it is rude to ask for a plus one at a wedding. We know the bride and groom are not kings and queens, but do they deserve the final ruling on a plus one? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Fall is for flirting, but dating comes with its own set of challenges, especially when reality TV obsessions, sports fandom, or constant phone use get in the way. Jared and Jordana break down what makes a relationship work, from the perfect season for flirting to navigating jealousy and attention struggles. They explore how being overly attached to your phone can impact intimacy and connection. The hosts also tackle first date ex talk, navigating a partner’s sports obsessions, and even the quirks and turnoffs of vanity plates. Plus, Jordana shares the mix up when she confuses her husband’s favorite football team, the Jets, with the Giants. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Jared and Jordana tackle dating red flags, starting with a listener’s story about a guy wearing obvious shoe lifts, sparking comparisons to push-up bras, stuffed socks, and bald men in hats. They dive into the dreaded height conversation, unpack why “short king” talk is a lose-lose, and share their own insecurities. The duo also dishes out expert advice on solo travel in their “Go Solo?” game, weighing options like hostels, group tours, and adventure spots. Plus, Jared reveals his top tips for celebrating a birthday alone, from breakfast in town to massages and movie marathons, proving that solo days can be just as indulgent and fun! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared reveals a potential red flag: falling asleep to The Golden Girls, and yes, Betty White is involved. In this episode, Jordana and Jared break down texting disasters, from one-word pre-date replies to three-day gaps, and debate whether you’re genuinely excited to see someone or just excited to date. They weigh in on whether meeting the right person at the wrong time is actually real. Plus, they dissect the ultimate minimalist text: the dreaded “thumbs-up” emoji. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kat Sadler, creator and star of the Hulu series Such Brave Girls, joins J&J on U Up to talk dating, relationships, and her chaotic personal life. She opens up about her disorganized attachment style, stories of making dates cry, and navigating love while dealing with past trauma and parental influence. From comparing the energy of New York versus London to debating whether coworker gossip is a relationship essential, Kat keeps the conversation lively and unfiltered. She also shares behind-the-scenes insights from her show and reflects on what it’s like to grow up with complicated family dynamics! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

From fro-yo runs in his parents’ Neil Sedaka-signed red Jaguar to unexpected parking lot meet-cutes, Jared is enjoying his Del Ray Summer. A listener shares a quirky first-date story where everyone says her date looks like Lil Dicky, and he eventually snaps! Jared and Jordana debate whether his reaction was fair or a red flag. They also tackle tricky dating dilemmas: when it’s fair to ask for a breakup refund after a partner cheats, how to date confidently with an invisible disability, and whether frugal habits in love are charming or a hard pass. Plus, they unpack a first date with an eight-year sex hiatus, weighing the context and what questions matter before moving forward. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kamie Crawford is on the podcast, and we learn right away how she’s the 1% dater who found her boyfriend on the very first day of swiping! As the eldest of five sisters, she shares their collective conclusion on men and how she gives her sister's advice. She opens up about the unsettling realities of dating while Miss Teen USA and how men reacted to the title. The three also debate whether certain breakup moves are petty or justified, including Kamie’s infamous story of spitting on an ex’s belongings before giving them back! By the end, you’ll understand exactly why she calls it one of her proudest break-up moments. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana kicks things off by reminiscing about Billy Joel and a second date she went on, while Jared shares a story about a voice memo mishap that didn’t go as planned. In our listener emails, we dive into issues of cheating, mistrust, and an unemployed boyfriend. Jared and Jordana also dissect an “Icky or Picky?” as one listener discovers their date is a potentially full-blown Disney Adult - yep, it's a thing. Per usual the warps with the signature Red Flag or Deal Breakers covering everything from overly passionate kissers to awkward wedding plus-one scenarios! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, comedian Whitney Cummings joins J & J for a chaotic and hilarious deep dive into everything she’s done once and never again—from Ozempic to dating emotionally unavailable men. She gets into her current relationship, why she’s officially tired of mean girl energy, and her take on what makes a real friend (spoiler: they’ll tell you your outfit is trash). They also get into freezing your eggs and how men vs. women interpret toxic behavior. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week J & J dig into Jared’s hilarious origin story as a summer camper in New England, and how it still resonates with his life today. The episode kicks off with listener feedback on Jared’s ongoing Summer Dating Challenge, followed by a laugh-out-loud “Icky or Picky” that’s both “yummy” and divisive. Next, the hosts answer a listener’s question about how to date more intentionally in a world full of people still "figuring out their relationship type." Finally, J+J wrap up with a Red Flag or Deal Breakers, where they dive into travel compatibility, the chronic relationship type, and a bold move from someone handing out their number. 00:00 - Intro 13:00 - Jared's New England Camp Days 20:39 - Summer Dating Challenge 39:12 - More Is Not More 54:01 - Different Vacation Styles in Couples #Dating #Advice #Hinge #Debate #RedFlag #Dealbreaker #DatingApps #Podcast #Summer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana sit down with Sophie, who’s originally from the UK and now building her life in New York City, to unpack a long-distance love that won’t quite let go. After a whirlwind month together, she and her high school crush tried to make it work across continents, but mismatched communication styles and visa hurdles got in the way. Now he says he’s willing to wait until her “New York chapter ends,” but Sophie’s unsure if that’s romantic or just unrealistic. Is it love, pressure, or emotional limbo? They explore long-distance struggles, the tension of timing, and the culture clash between UK and NYC dating! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana unpack the dos and don’ts of dating in the age of social media. Jared explains why unfollowing your ex immediately after a breakup is a crucial act of self-care and shares the three things you need to consider when managing your breakup posts online. They talk about the subtle ways we use stories to check if someone’s watching and break down which ex photos to keep, edit, or delete to protect your new dating life. We also discuss a listener's question, do you need permission to follow you best friend's new boyfriend? It's a social media themed episode, be sure to listen and take notes! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices