Hush Your Mind: Empowered Boundaries for Soulful Relationships

When the world feels chaotic, our nervous systems often react with tension, anxiety, or fatigue. In this episode, we explore how nervous system regulation can help you restore calm and clarity—and how that inner work supports collective healing in our communities and beyond. You’ll hear gentle insights on why we feel so reactive when the world seems upside down, and how small acts of self-regulation can ripple outward into families, workplaces, and society as a whole. We’ll also pause for a short EFT tapping reflection to help you ground yourself, breathe, and return to a sense of steadiness. If you’d like to continue this practice, download my free EFT meditation on people-pleasing and join my Hush Your Mind newsletter, sent twice a month with reflections and practices for emotional freedom and healthy relationships: https://hushyourmind.com/newsletter/ Blog article: https://www.hushyourmind.com/collective-healing-through-nervous-system-regulation/ Free EFT Session / Interview: https://www.hushyourmind.com/interview/ Speak Your Truth Program: https://hushyourmind.com/coaching/ Break Free From People-Pleasing Course: https://www.hushyourmind.com/people-pleasing-course/ More resources How to Stay Positive in a Troubled World - E59: https://www.hushyourmind.com/how-to-stay-positive-in-a-troubled-world/ Produced by Loïc Moussu | Music by Chris Collins The Hush Your Mind podcast is for informational and/or entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

Do you ever feel powerless, stuck, or like life is stacked against you? That’s the pull of the victim mindset, a pattern that leaves us resentful and waiting for others to change. In this episode, I’ll share what the victim mentality really is, why it’s so hard to break, and 5 gentle tips on how to stop being a victim without falling into self-blame. You’ll also learn how to shift into what I call the "thriver mindset"—one rooted in compassion, responsibility, and choice. You’ll discover: If you’ve ever thought, “Why does this always happen to me?”, this episode will help you meet yourself with compassion and gently move toward empowerment. Tune in now to start your journey beyond the victim mindset. Blog article: https://www.hushyourmind.com/how-to-stop-being-a-victim/ Free EFT Session / Interview: https://www.hushyourmind.com/interview/ Free EFT Meditation for People-Pleasing: https://hushyourmind.com/newsletter/ Speak Your Truth Program: https://hushyourmind.com/coaching/ Break Free From People-Pleasing Course: https://www.hushyourmind.com/people-pleasing-course/ More resources How the 4 Survival Archetypes Drive Our Relationships - E2: https://hushyourmind.com/4-survival-archetypes/ Why Do I Create Drama in Relationships? - E51: https://www.hushyourmind.com/why-do-i-create-drama-in-relationships/ Produced by Loïc Moussu | Music by Chris Collins The Hush Your Mind podcast is for informational and/or entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

Are you being truly kind—or just stuck in people-pleasing mode? In this episode, I’ll share 7 signs of people-pleasing and how to tell the difference between genuine kindness and saying “yes” out of fear or obligation. You’ll discover: If you’ve ever felt resentful after helping, apologized too much or relied on others’ approval, this episode is for you. Learn how to set healthy boundaries, protect your energy and show up with authentic kindness. Tune in now to break free from people-pleasing and embrace kindness rooted in confidence and choice. Blog article: https://www.hushyourmind.com/signs-of-people-pleasing/ Free EFT Session / Interview: https://www.hushyourmind.com/interview/ Free EFT Meditation for People-Pleasing: https://hushyourmind.com/newsletter/ Speak Your Truth Program: https://hushyourmind.com/coaching/ Break Free From People-Pleasing Course: https://www.hushyourmind.com/people-pleasing-course/ More resources Am I Codependent? 5 Glaring Signs of Codependency - E27: https://hushyourmind.com/signs-of-codependency/ Reddit post: https://www.reddit.com/r/Codependency/comments/1mksyev/is_the_word_codependency_outdated/ How to Stop Constant Fighting in a Relationship - E5: https://www.hushyourmind.com/how-to-stop-constant-fighting-in-a-relationship/

Perhaps traditional talk therapy hasn't helped much. Or you've tried several different coaches and modalities and you're thinking, There must be an easier way! You've heard of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT or tapping) and are curious if it could be helpful. This evidence-based therapeutic method made the biggest difference in my own codependency recovery. Listen to this episode to learn 3 easy EFT Tapping tips for codependency that you can try on your own to feel more calm and clear. Blog article (+ photo of tapping points): https://www.hushyourmind.com/eft-tapping-tips-codependency/ Free EFT Session / Interview: https://www.hushyourmind.com/interview/ Free EFT Meditation for People-Pleasing: https://hushyourmind.com/newsletter/ Speak Your Truth Program: https://hushyourmind.com/coaching/ Break Free From People-Pleasing Course: https://www.hushyourmind.com/people-pleasing-course/ Mentioned resources How Does EFT Tapping Work? Here's the Science Behind It - E6: https://www.hushyourmind.com/how-does-eft-tapping-work-science/ Emotional Freedom Techniques: A Brief Guide to Relieve Stress and Pain - E3: https://www.hushyourmind.com/what-is-emotional-freedom-techniques/ Guilt After Setting Boundaries EFT Tapping Session - E46: https://www.hushyourmind.com/setting-boundaries-guilt-eft-tapping/ What Is the Inner Critic & 3 Ways to Deal With It - E33: https://www.hushyourmind.com/inner-critic/ Soothing Your Inner Critic: EFT Tapping Demo (+ video) - E53: https://www.hushyourmind.com/soothing-your-inner-critic-eft-tapping/

The future depends on all of us learning how to find compassion for our enemies. Our own inner battles may contribute to outer conflicts and a fractured society. We all have a role to play to create a better world where everyone is valued. Find out what compassion truly is and how to cultivate it. Blog article: https://hushyourmind.com/how-to-find-compassion-for-our-enemies Free EFT Session / Interview: https://www.hushyourmind.com/interview/ Free EFT Meditation & Guide for People-Pleasing: https://hushyourmind.com/newsletter/ Speak Your Truth Program: https://hushyourmind.com/coaching/ Break Free From People-Pleasing Course: https://www.hushyourmind.com/people-pleasing-course/

"Have you ever left your relationship?" It's a question a few of my readers and listeners have asked me during my research interviews. Oof, some things are harder to talk about! The decision to stay or leave is different for each person. Even if the situation is detrimental to your well-being, there are many factors to carefully consider. Tune in to learn a few common reasons why it's hard to leave abusive relationships. Blog article: https://www.hushyourmind.com/why-its-hard-to-leave-abusive-relationships/ Free EFT Session / Interview: https://www.hushyourmind.com/interview/ Free EFT Meditation & Guide for People-Pleasing: https://hushyourmind.com/newsletter/ Private sessions: https://hushyourmind.com/coaching/ Break Free From People-Pleasing Course: https://www.hushyourmind.com/people-pleasing-course/

Setting boundaries is radical… In a society that pressures us to be like everyone else, it takes guts to stand up for yourself and live life on your terms. Listen to this episode to learn the top 3 “mistakes” aka opportunities in setting boundaries. Blog article: https://www.hushyourmind.com/top-3-mistakes-in-setting-boundaries/ Break Free From People-Pleasing Course: https://www.hushyourmind.com/people-pleasing-course/ Free EFT Session / Interview: https://www.hushyourmind.com/interview/ Free EFT Meditation & Guide for People-Pleasing: https://hushyourmind.com/newsletter/ Private sessions: https://hushyourmind.com/coaching/

Sexuality is about so much more than having sex. It's about knowing ourselves, noticing our senses and becoming present. My erotic awakening taught me that joy and pleasure are our birthright. In this episode, sexologist Iva Veazey shares why we need to embrace our sexuality and simple tips to improve our sex life, with or without a partner. Blog article: https://www.hushyourmind.com/sexual-wellness-with-iva/ Connect with Iva Website: https://www.ivaveazey.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iva.veazey/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/iva-veazey-014abb7/ Substack: https://ivaveazey.substack.com/ Connect with Annie Free EFT Session / Interview: https://www.hushyourmind.com/interview/ Free EFT Meditation & Guide for People-Pleasing: https://hushyourmind.com/newsletter/ Insight Timer: https://insighttimer.com/hushyourmind/ Private sessions: https://hushyourmind.com/coaching/

Many people assume that you can’t transform a romantic relationship if both partners are codependent. It’s common to believe there are only 2 choices—break up, or stay and tolerate the drama. Reinventing an unhealthy relationship is possible, but it takes time and grueling work. Listen to this episode to learn 3 tips that helped me salvage my codependent relationship and restore connection. This episode is part of Podcasthon, the global charity podcast event, and dedicated to the National Domestic Violence Hotline, a cause close to my heart. The hotline provides essential tools and free support 24/7 to help survivors of domestic violence, so they can live their lives free of abuse. Blog article: https://www.hushyourmind.com/can-a-codependent-relationship-become-healthy/ Free EFT Session / Interview: https://www.hushyourmind.com/interview/ Free EFT Meditation & Guide for People-Pleasing: https://hushyourmind.com/newsletter/ Private sessions: https://hushyourmind.com/coaching/ National Domestic Violence Hotline: https://www.thehotline.org/

Telling our inner critic to shut up doesn't work. If we’ve learned that having unrealistic expectations fills our basic needs, our subconscious will ferociously hold on to this mindset. So how can we release perfectionism? We start by soothing our nervous system to build a sense of safety within ourselves. In this special episode, follow along to this free EFT Tapping session to release perfectionism and reclaim your innate self-worth. Blog article: https://www.hushyourmind.com/releasing-perfectionism-eft-tapping/ Free EFT Session / Interview: https://www.hushyourmind.com/interview/ Free EFT Meditation & Guide for People-Pleasing: https://hushyourmind.com/newsletter/ Insight Timer: https://insighttimer.com/hushyourmind/ Private sessions: https://hushyourmind.com/coaching/

At a certain point on the journey, you realize that fighting against reality gets tiring. You just want your life to glide smoothly. To attract the right relationships and opportunities. More ease and grace, even when things go awry. What I yearned for was that feeling of complete alignment with myself and the universe. But I couldn’t help trying to control the outcome. How do we actually relax into life’s arms, trusting that all our needs will be met? Listen to the episode to learn 3 tips to release control and experience more ease and grace. Blog article: https://www.hushyourmind.com/surrender-to-the-flow-of-life/ Free EFT Session / Interview: https://www.hushyourmind.com/interview/ Free EFT Meditation & Guide for People-Pleasing: https://hushyourmind.com/newsletter/ Insight Timer: https://insighttimer.com/hushyourmind/ Private sessions: https://hushyourmind.com/coaching/

Social gatherings used to always drain my energy. I'd get pulled into the drama and negativity. I'd always go home feeling muddled and sluggish. It'd take days to recuperate. Does this happen to you too? Listen to this episode to learn how to stay grounded while socializing and actually have a good time. Blog article: https://www.hushyourmind.com/how-to-protect-your-energy-while-socializing/ Free EFT Session / Interview: https://www.hushyourmind.com/interview/ Free EFT Meditation & Guide for People-Pleasing: https://hushyourmind.com/newsletter/ Insight Timer: https://insighttimer.com/hushyourmind/ Private sessions: https://hushyourmind.com/coaching/

Sexual energy is extraordinary. It's the creative life force, animating all that exists in the universe. Unfortunately, our society discourages women from enjoying sexual pleasure. Shame is rampant. Unresolved sexual trauma keeps us small. But valuing our sexuality is key to our individual and collective well-being. Listen to this episode to discover my erotic awakening, how our sexual energy can revitalize our life and 6 tips to celebrate your pleasure. Blog article: https://www.hushyourmind.com/sexual-healing/ Free EFT Session / Interview: https://www.hushyourmind.com/interview/ Free EFT Meditation & Guide for People-Pleasing: https://hushyourmind.com/newsletter/ Insight Timer: https://insighttimer.com/hushyourmind/ Private sessions: https://hushyourmind.com/coaching/

On my journey of reclaiming my power, I devoted lots of energy to learning how to speak my truth in personal relationships. I had no idea that these humbling lessons would also translate into public speaking skills years later! So when I recently met Soulful Speaking Coach Lauri Smith, we clicked immediately. Lauri treats speaking as a spiritual practice that raises consciousness by healing old wounds, guiding us home to our true selves. Join us in our conversation where we discuss her aha moments, integration process, vulnerability on and offstage and best tips for new and experienced speakers. Blog article: https://www.hushyourmind.com/discovering-your-unique-voice-lauri-smith/ Watch this interview: https://youtu.be/as8OZlOdO3E - Connect with Lauri Website: https://voice-matters.com/ Podcast: https://voice-matters.com/podast LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauri-smith-voice-matters/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/voice_matters_llc/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh91RFKkYB7WF83p4_DG9Ug Linktree: https://linktr.ee/voicematters - Connect with Annie Free EFT Session / Interview: https://www.hushyourmind.com/interview/ Free EFT Meditation & Guide for People-Pleasing: https://hushyourmind.com/newsletter/ Insight Timer: https://insighttimer.com/hushyourmind/ Private sessions: https://hushyourmind.com/coaching/

Do you know that feeling of never quite “making it”? Many of us tend to fixate on achieving goals, always be in a rush and avoid taking breaks. Our days might be full. But when we look back, it’s like we weren’t there. We miss out on life when each moment is a means to the next. Tune in to learn 5 mindset shifts when you have too much to do to create more ease and flow. Blog article: https://www.hushyourmind.com/too-much-to-do/ Free EFT Session / Interview: https://www.hushyourmind.com/interview/ Free EFT Meditation & Guide for People-Pleasing: https://hushyourmind.com/newsletter/ Insight Timer: https://insighttimer.com/hushyourmind/ Private sessions: https://hushyourmind.com/coaching/

Loving ourselves makes us happier. We know we should eat healthy, take breaks, practice gratitude, set boundaries and forgive ourselves for mistakes. Then why is it so hard to love ourselves and do the things that make us feel good? ⁣Tune in to learn about 3 common reasons. Blog article: https://www.hushyourmind.com/why-its-so-hard-to-love-yourself/ Free EFT Session / Interview: https://www.hushyourmind.com/interview/ Free EFT Meditation & Guide for People-Pleasing: https://hushyourmind.com/newsletter/ Insight Timer: https://insighttimer.com/hushyourmind/ Private sessions: https://hushyourmind.com/coaching/

Have you ever thought, “When will I stop healing and finally live my life?” When our past creeps into our daily lives, it can be super frustrating. We may feel a near-constant sense of urgency, desperation and powerlessness. I remember feeling that way. You're putting in all the effort, becoming more aware of your patterns, reading all the self-help books… But life just keeps triggering you. Listen to these practical tips to create more ease on your healing journey. Blog article: https://www.hushyourmind.com/do-we-ever-fully-heal-from-the-past/ Free EFT Session / Interview: https://www.hushyourmind.com/interview/ Free EFT Meditation & Guide for People-Pleasing: https://hushyourmind.com/newsletter/ Insight Timer: https://insighttimer.com/hushyourmind/ Private sessions: https://hushyourmind.com/coaching/

Our society is steeped in the scarcity mindset. Though many people don’t realize it, they feel its soul-crushing effects—fear, guilt, shame, anxiety, depression and disconnection. In this episode, learn about common beliefs of lack, how they can show up in your life and tips to start cultivating sufficiency. Blog article: https://www.hushyourmind.com/scarcity-mindset/ Free EFT Session / Interview: https://www.hushyourmind.com/interview/ Free EFT Meditation & Guide for People-Pleasing: https://hushyourmind.com/newsletter/ Insight Timer: https://insighttimer.com/hushyourmind/ Private sessions: https://hushyourmind.com/coaching/

Sexual trauma is sadly common. Unhealed, it can show up in unexpected ways in different areas of our life even years later. So today, I’d like to dive into 3 surprising things I’ve learned about sexual trauma. Some of these things may or may not seem obvious, but learning about them helped me validate my experiences. I hope this information supports you in making sense of your own experience and making peace with the past. Blog article: https://www.hushyourmind.com/surprising-things-about-sexual-trauma/ Free EFT Session / Interview: https://www.hushyourmind.com/interview/ Free EFT Meditation & Guide for People-Pleasing: https://hushyourmind.com/newsletter/ Insight Timer: https://insighttimer.com/hushyourmind/ Private sessions: https://hushyourmind.com/coaching/

Mindfulness meditation was the first essential step on my journey that helped me heal from the ruthless grip of codependency. I’ve become acutely aware of my thoughts and emotions, so that I can choose how to show up in my relationships and all aspects of life. In this episode, I’ll share about my personal experience, the benefits of mindfulness meditation and tips on how to start cultivating daily peace and presence. Blog article: https://www.hushyourmind.com/mindfulness-meditation/ Free EFT Session / Interview: https://www.hushyourmind.com/interview/ Free EFT Meditation & Guide for People-Pleasing: https://hushyourmind.com/newsletter/ Insight Timer: https://insighttimer.com/hushyourmind/ Private sessions: https://hushyourmind.com/coaching/