Siblinghood of Recovery

Join me in a fabulous interview with Catherine Borgman-Arboleda, Founder of Collaborative-Insights Coaching, as we cover the vital importance of self-work. We hear that term everywhere, this Episode digs in to what self-work comprises of and how Catherine's insights can lead to a tremendous amount of healing, letting go false expectations and developing a deep connection with our loved ones, no matter where they are at in the walk of Recovery. I hope you gain as much knowledge as I did in this insightful dialogue. Please visit to Catherine's website for resources at https://www.collaborative-insights.com/. 2:15 - Introduction to Catherine's Global work on Policy and the work 'on ourselves'. 3:00 - Catherine's daughter's journey 3:30 - How it's easier to change a law than change our children 4:45 - Her daughter's journey through depression, self-harm, identity-issues 5:15 - The 'Fixing' journey 6:00 - Buddhism and discovering Dr. Shefali Tsabary , the concept of our children being sovereign beings and deconstructing the story that only we are the only teachers in our relationship with our Children 7:15 - Shifting the definition of 'Success' in the defined story of raising children 8:15 - Being aware of our own Agenda and feeling, instead of managing, our fears 10:00 - How we cannot orchestrate someone's healing 11:00 - Grieving the false expectations we've been fed in the Recovery process 12:15 - Father's and Mother's 'Letting Go' and the differences 13:30 - Thanking God that the Child is not buying INTO the concept of Expectations (or The Matrix) 14:15 - Conquering the Fear 15:15 - Trying to Control 15:30 - How fear blocks Connection 16:30 - Changing the External verses the Internal Environment 18:30 - How Culture can prioritize the "Wrong" traits 18:45 - Dr. Gabor Mate's training and Genetic transference of Addiction 18:55 - Dr. Gabor Mate's book, The Myth of Normal 20:50 - Going inward to heal, Wisdom Traditions, allowing the uncomfortable emotions 22:50 - The Efficient Parent, Rescuing, Solving the Problems and how that may not benefit your Child 24:35 - NARM Therapy identifying fear, sadness, anger and which emotions are the 'true' feeling we are experiencing 25:10 - Conscious Coaching and Catherine's resources to finding more self-awareness and shifting into greater Wisdom 28:30 - Our Children's self-blame and how our words are not magic to heal that shame 29: 45 - Can our Face be a Trigger to past strong emotions? 31:20 - The Energy you bring to engagements with our Children: holding the image of possibility 33:15 - The falseness of 'The Vision Board' 34:30 - How our efficiency counters our Children's Agency 36:45 - The Concept of 'Coming Home Contracts' and Catherine's Blog Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

Welcome to a Mom's Recovery Journey. Tracy offers a rich perspective on how Wilderness Treatment not only changed her daughter's life but positively impacted the entire Family System. The goal, as always, is to share experience, resources, and connection. We hope you'll find information here to help your own Recovery Journey. 1:40 - Tracy's Journey: the Pandemic's impact on her daughter's anxiety, depression, and safety. 3:30 - What Tracy would say to her 2020-self. 4:45 - Decision making with and without fear. 6:30 - Researching Residential Treatment Center (RTC): how to utilize communities, parents, interviewing the RTC Therapist, and creating your own foundation of personal support. 7:30 - How Al Anon and AA Meetings can heal the Family System. 10:10 - How an Educational Consultant can facilitate RTC engagement. 12:30 - Tracy's experience with the Oasis Treatment Center in Utah and Transport Companies. 15:00 - RTC research: go deeper than the reviews. 16:00 - What RTC's can teach parents about Self-Regulation and Self-Care. 20:00 - Discovering how what we lack impacts our children. 22:00 - How our children become a mirror and we can't just "fix" the mirror(see Episode 36 with Kevin Johnson). 23:30 - The shift from chaos to healing for Tracy's Family at Open Sky Wilderness. 25:00 - The Family Quest experience. 28:00 - Regulation in the Treatment Center industry. 29:15 - Wilderness Treatment Center costs, insurance, Scholarships like Sky's the Limit Fund, and negotiating the daily rate. 30:15 - Preventative Care cost vs RTC costs. 32:30 - Adult Children of Alcoholics & Dysfunctional Families The Loving Parent Guidebook and how this can break down Family System dysfunction. 33:15 - How Therapy is becoming more common, even with the NFL recommending BetterHelp . 35:30 - Tracy's recommended resources, Brad Reedy's Finding You Podcast, and books, The Audacity to be You and The Journey of the Heroic Parent. Krissy Pozatek's The Parallel Process. Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., and Mary Hartzell, M.Ed.'s book Parenting from the Inside Out. Tim R. Thayne PhD.'s book Not by Chance. Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

Welcome to 2024! If you're listening to this, you may have a child in recovery, in the chaos of substance use, or you are engaged with a Treatment professional to help your child. Here are Resources for you, as a Parent, to continue your own growth which is the best thing you can do as you support your child's journey through addiction. Resources 4:10 - Local Al Anon Groups & Meetings 5:00 - Social Media Challenges: the mistake of perceiving your children as a Family Asset instead of an individual, the easy route of comparing your Family to the "perfect Families" portrayed on Social Media. 7:00 - Understanding the dysfunction we as Parents bring to the Family system. 7:40 - A commitment to doing your own work to understand yourself and avoid the Blind Spots of self-awareness. 8:25 - The value an Al-Anon Group can offer specific to treatment resources 9:20 - How to understand what a Treatment Center's focus is on and determining if that program is good for your child. 10:00 - Books and Podcasts, Evoke Therapy, Hopestream, Buddy C Tao of our Understanding, and the references available on my 'Educational Resources page on the Siblinghood of Recovery site. 10:515 - Networking with Other Parents who are in the same position, i.e., have a child in treatment or is working through a child with substance use disorder. 12:00 - Resources Recap 1) Go to 12 Step Meetings 2) Network at 12 Step Meetings 3) Manage Social Media seeking to filter healthy input into your brain 4) Separate your Self from your Child 5) Understand the Dysfunction You are bringing to the Family System 6) Stop thinking Other Families are Perfect (now!) 7) Commit to dealing and healing your own dysfunction 8) Vet any Therapist you plan to engage with for your Child 9) Research Treatment Centers to ensure it is a fit for your Child 10) Books (read) and Podcasts (listen) can further educate you for your Journey 11) Get a Lifeline, someone you can call, when you are freaking out to help talk you out of your Anxiety tree Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

For my amazing Recovery community, this is being dropped one day before my Loved One's Birthday. What an amazingly beautiful and hard Journey this has been and I can't think of a better day to publish this one as I watch my Loved One create his own Path. In tandem, I also continue to 'Do The Work' and know I will never take my foot off the gas as I have oh-so much to learn. I'll be back soon with research, resources, links and more but, for now, I hope you enjoy this interview of how I got here from there. As always, sending big wishes for self-care and love, and wishing everyone strength and wellness. Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

Abigail Batchelder, PhD, MPH is an Assistant Director of Behavioral Medicine Program for Stigma and Substance Use Research and Assistant Professor in Psychology, Harvard Medical School, as well as the Director of the Substance Use Scientific Working Group, at Harvard University's Center for AIDS Research. What grabbed my attention of the research article, The shame spiral of addiction: Negative self-conscious emotion and substance use, was the succinct conclusion of, "Shame and guilt are barriers to reducing stimulant use, and expanded efforts are needed to mitigate the deleterious effects of these self-conscious emotions in recovery from a stimulant use disorder." This is what so many of us learn in the Recovery process and, as relayed in the podcast, is cited so many times in our 12 Step mantras: reduce the shame to increase your progress towards healing. I listen to Abby and have hope that the system we've built to react to substance use disorders can instead shift towards addressing the root cause of so many addiction challenges we face in our world today: mental health. Thank you for listening. 1:40 - Introduction to Abby, her work as a Harvard Researcher and her role at Massachusetts's General Hospital 2:30 - Abby's CAFLIN Distinguished Scholar Award 4:00 - Shame and the impact on Recovery 5:15 - Strategies for bringing evidenced based mental health care to people who have limited access 5:30 - The convoluted misconception that one has to deal with substance use disorder prior to obtaining mental health support (both can be addressed conjointly), and the danger of not intervening with both strategies (harm reduction). 8:00 - The impact of self-compassion during intervention and Project Matter 9:00 - Bringing concepts of intervention to the population, based on self compassion, to mitigate, 'When I feel bad about myself, I use more.' 12:15 - Gathering patterns from the communities Abby serves 16:45 - Shame's manifestation and the impact of self-compassion 17:15 - The complexity of addiction and recovery, how external shame impacts that complexity, and leaning towards humanizing addiction to facilitate recovery 18:15 - Othering 23:15 - Abby's Portfolio of study and community engagement 25:45 - The Trail of Truth 26:45 - How Abby's lab is on the front line of the addiction community 31:45 - The type of interventions Abby is focused on creating that fit with the community Abby and her colleagues serve Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

MaryBeth lost her son Matt to the disease of addiction. What MaryBeth has done with that loss is nothing short of amazing. The drive to work hard in the arena of Recovery comes from the simple fact that MaryBeth would do anything to ensure a parent never experiences the devastating grief she has felt in losing Matt. This interview covers so much in the walk with addiction as a parent. Ranging from anger, to chaos, to building a community of resources, MaryBeth shares all that she's learned. I know you will benefit from listening to MaryBeth and her limitless ability to give back to the recovery community despite losing Matt. Please join me in sharing her journey. 2:50 - Mothers for All Paths of Recovery (Facebook Group) 3:00 - Susan Ousterman, another Warrior Mom who lost her son, Tyler, and Founder of Vilomah Memorial Gardens 3:25 - The Trail of Truth as MaryBeth experiences the Memorial Cemetery as a Committee Planner and a Mother who has lost her son. Over 2,000 names will be recognized this year in Washington, DC, September 23rd, 2023. 6:30 - Matt's story. 7:30 - Withdrawing from Oxycodone 10:30 - MaryBeth's quest for Legislative action regarding Sober Home certification and licensing 11:00 - Delaware's Legislative passing of HS214, signed 8/1/2023. 14:15 - Shame connected to the disease of addiction 18:15 - Resources for those struggling 18:45 - MaryBeth's fight with Cancer 19:15 - How fighting the disease of addiction can make the Family system ugly 21:30 - Building community 24:00 - Building your lifeline, those who you can call any time, any day, any where 27:45 - The Family system evolves 31:00 - MAT, Medically Assisted Treatment 32:45 - Supporting your loved one's journey 33:45 - Keeping the lines of communication open 34:45 - How pushing the punishment directive can lead to death 36:00 - Know your addicted love one already feels shame, love them where they are at 38:30 - The tipping point in getting Legislation passed 39:40 - How the CEOs of Treatment Centers and good Sober Homes supported the Legislation 41:00 - Other states looking at similar Legislation 41:20 - The FARR in Florida (my home state!) 41:50 - MaryBeth's advice to parents who have lost their child to the disease of addiction 43:40 - MaryBeth reads the Preface of her book, 'Letters to Matt' Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

To have Jackie Werboff on this Podcast is nothing short of an incredible honor. Jackie directly contributed to my own Recovery through an offering space to begin understanding, in the most compassionate of ways, how my own childhood development was impacting the Family System I sought to build. I hope you enjoy this conversation that includes the NeuroAffective Relational Model(NARM) model of Therapy, attunement between parent and child, substance use as self-medication for unmet emotional needs in teens, the value of the 12 Step Program, and more. We explore options to help the Family system through therapy, learning, and relational-model engagement, all of which contribute to becoming healthier humans and healthier parents for our kids. As with each instance of engagement with Jackie, we end with hope. 1:15 - 2:55 - Dr. Larry Heller, What is NARM? 3:55 - Developmental verses Shock Trauma 5:45 - Mis-attunement 6:30 - Attuning at the parental level 10:15 - The impossibility of being constantly emotionally attuned 11:35 - Self medication specific to substance misuse 12:30 - Unmet needs and emotional pain 12:45 - Strategies: read about the Core Surviving Strategies here 14:10 - The power of words 16:15 - Shame and the impact on Recovery 17:00 - The challenge of behavior in substance misuse and how NARM can help navigate this challenge 19:00 - How Recovery can re-set a Family 19:50 - Addiction is a Family System challenge 20:50 - The dead-end of blame 21:55 - Apologizing as a Parent and the value that offers our Children 23:10 - Accountability 24:20 - The 12 Steps and Recovery 27:00 - NARM Therapy and listening 27:35 - Curiosity and NARM 28:00 - Breaking down the power dynamics in the therapeutic relationship 30:45 - Self regulation and the importance of having a caregiver self-regulate 33:35 - Nervous System Therapeutic approaches (Somatic and Polyvagal) 33:45 - Dr. Stephen Porges 33:50 - The Polyvagal Institute, About Deb 34:30 - Jackie's Contact info at Wide Awake Counseling 35:35 - The Journey Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

Shame-based emotional triggers, linked to substance use, can be detrimental especially if parents employ shame as a behavioral deterrent. Instead, our best offense is to heal ourselves. Article cited, Published online 2022 Mar 18. doi: 10.1371/journal.pone.0265480, PMCID: PMC8932605, The shame spiral of addiction: Negative self-conscious emotion and substance use. Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

Embarking on a personal journey of recovery from family dysfunction and substance use challenges can offer invaluable lessons. Through our effort to understand why our children are using substances, we must focus on the essential concepts of self-regulation, the impact of our parenting styles, and how we can become better parents through building up our own resilience. I offer up my own experience of learning how crucial it is to manage emotions and learn to focus on the present moment in order to create a safe emotional environment for my Family. Together, as a Siblinghood of Parents in Development, we can navigate through the storm, learn from our past, and pave the way for a healthier future for our children and us. 9:35 - From Parents.com, 'What's Your Parenting Style?' 12:20 - Newport Academy's, 'Resilience Toolkit' OTHER RELATED LINKS 1) Authoritative Parenting: The Pros and Cons, According to a Child Psychologist 2) What's Your Parenting Style? 3) From the Parenting for Brain website, 'Emotional Regulation in Children | A Complete Guide' - as seen on the American Academy of Pediatrics website, and an excerpt here specific to Substance Use: A child who has poor emotion regulation skills throws tantrums constantly and puts a strain on the parent-child relationship. This can impact the climate of the whole household, including siblings or everyone around them, and lead to a negative spiral. Similarly, for friendships, kids who don’t have the ability to control their big feelings have fewer social skills. They have a harder time making or keeping friends. The inability to self-regulate big emotions can lead to traits like anger, withdrawal, anxiety, or aggressive behavior. All this can snowball into further negative consequences: Children who are rejected by their peers are at increased risk of dropping out of school, delinquency, substance abuse, and antisocial behavior problems ​1 ​. Those who are withdrawn and rejected by peers are also more likely to get bullied​ 2 ​. Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

What if you discovered your role as a parent isn't as straightforward as you thought, particularly when dealing with a child's addiction? That's the tough pill we're swallowing in today's conversation. As a parent, your influence can shape your child's life in ways you may not fully comprehend. As we explore the murkier waters of parenting and addiction, we'll address the importance of examining our own upbringings, the impact of our parenting styles, and reconciling our expectations with our child's reality. Navigating through this complex landscape, we'll also delve into handling the discovery of your child's addiction, touching on the urgency of providing a safe, supportive environment and the necessity of professional intervention. Shifting gears, we'll then journey through the recovery process - a path that's as challenging as it is transformative. As we discuss the role a parent plays in their child's addiction, we'll emphasize the necessity of fostering a safe space for recovery. Throughout our exploration of this pressing issue, remember, we are not alone on the path to recovery. Let's walk together. Link to Krissy Pozatek's Parallel Process website Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

It has been a minute! I moved into our new home, caught COVID, then battled with Pink Eye, and now have a hernia from coughing so much. But I'm still alive and kicking! I am back with a slightly new format but still have that drive towards bringing resources to any parent working through the challenges of substance use in the family. This Episode is dedicated to Safety planning and how easy it is to access the potentially life-saving safety-net: NARCAN. 1:20 - Moms for All Paths of Recovery 1:30 - Siblinghood of RecoveryPodcast, Interview with Susan Ousterman, Episode 34 1:55 - Harm Reduction in Recovery 2:30 - C.R.A.F.T. 2:45 - Siblinghood of RecoveryPodcast, Interview with Cordelia Kraus, Episode 37 3:05 - Bringing up NARCAN with Teenagers 3:25 - New England Journal of Medicine, Fentanyl-Associated Overdose Deaths Outside the Hospital, note the Supplemental Appendix link in the letter to provide readers access to the mentioned work w/in the Letter to the Editor composed by Molly M. Jeffery, Ph.D., M.P.P., Maria Stevens, M.A., M.P.H., Mayo Clinic, Rochester, MN, Gail D’Onofrio, M.D., Edward R. Melnick, M.D., M.H.S., Yale University, New Haven, CT 4:15 - Fire Blankets 5:40 - Dr. Peter Attia, Episode 243,The fentanyl crisis and why everyone should be paying attention | Anthony Hipolito 6:00 - Fentanyl Flow into the US from China, DEA Report 6:30 -Justice Department Announces Charges Against China-Based Chemical Manufacturing Companies and Arrests of Executives in Fentanyl Manufacturing 6:15 - Senator Chris Murphy's Blog onBipartisan Meeting with Mexico President Obrador to curb fentanyl production 9:30 -NextDistro, site where I submitted a form to receive NARCAN 10:10 - Florida Harm Reduction Collective, the site for the Florida organization that sent me the NARCAN for free. Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

Join me in this great conversation about CRAFT with Cordelia Kraus, LPC, CADC-I. 0:35 - Helping Families Help 1:30 - Redefining the definition of, 'A Good Mother' (expectation & control) 2:40 - How our expectations impacts relationships 2:60 - How reading the book, 'Beyond Addiction', changed Cordelia's perspective 3:25 - Shifting our perspective to WHO we are and HOW we show up as parents 6:55 - The importance of Language 8:40 - Connection 9:35 - Cordelia's journey towards being a safe place to return home to 12:45 - What we hope for and how that thread runs through C.R.A.F.T. 13:30 - Invitation to Change : the strategic assumption on behaviors 13:45 - The functional analysis of why our Loved ones are using 15:45 - Krav Maga Self Defense, and how that satiated a need for intensity and became a cornerstone of building community 16:45 - Responses as parents, and how control is all we know 17:30 - How repetitive behaviors are somehow being reinforced 18:35 - B.R.A.V.E., a local St. Augustine resource (no affiliation) 19:00 - The long term game of shifting dynamics in the home 19:30 - Meeting, 'Beyond Addiction', author Jeffrey Foote, PhD., and studying to become a Licensed Practitioner 20:00 - Becoming a part of the , 'Invitation to Change', approach, engaging with The CMC Foundation, Center for Motivation for Change and becaming certified in C.R.A.F.T. Training. 20:55 - Inheriting the Families Helping Families site, establishing community, and providing a space for C.R.A.F.T. based providers 23:15 - The incredible importance of Language and labels 25:35 - Susan Ousterman, it's about Love 26:15 - Bringing in Invitation to Change to our healing process 27:45 - Shifting from What To Expect in our Children to self-awareness as PARENTS 28:45 - How today's challenge can change how we parent our younger children 29:15 - It's about WHY someone is using substances (different for each individual) 33:15 - Community Reinforcement within Treatment Centers, how clients thrive, and the challenge of returning home 35:30 - The Canary in the Coal Mine within a Dysfunctional Family 36:00 - Ownership and becoming better people 37:45 - Connection and recognizing small increments towards a more vibrant life 40:15 - We will mess up and that's okay 40:50 - C.R.A.F.T. 41:05 - Invitation to Change 41:20 - Smart Recovery Families and Friends 41:55 - Helping Families Help Families Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

I am so excited to have an upcoming interview on C.R.A.F.T., Community Reinforcement and Family Training. The farther I travel on my Recovery Journey, the more I learn about the importance to embrace each individual, each Family, each Parent, each child's nuanced environment and challenge in recovering from addiction. We are all different, each addiction is different, each Family is different. Walk with me as I learn more about the C.R.A.F.T. technique. 1) American Psychological Association - An underappreciated intervention: CRAFT 2) Partnership to End Addiction -The CRAFT Approach 3) Overdose Lifeline -CRAFT Training Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

This Episode is dedicated to my Army: Amra, Amy, Angela, Buddy, Chip, Chris, Christine, Elisabeth, Glen, Jen, Jen, John, Judy, Kris, Laura, Lisa A., Lisa C., Lisa R., Kathryn, Kevin J, Kim, Michele, Mike, Monica, Nathan K., Norma, Sandy, Sheila, Tim. 0:40 - NARM, Neural Affective Relational Model of Therapy 1:20 - Sobriety SoldiersInstagram 4:30 - Writing down your priorities, so you can plan your Recovery and see, based on the list, who can be a part of that Journey 6:05 - Recovery networks and community connections: identifying connection needs and community linkage opportunities in early recovery populations 7:14 - The Recovery Pathway is enhanced by Positive Social Networks 8:20 - Community Recovery Capital, and the Visual mentioned (see link above), on Page 12 9:15 - Page 14 of the study, that ties in Community Assets and the development of those Assets Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

In this Episode, I interview Alex White, a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor based out of Salt Lake City, Utah. I met Alex as a Facilitator of an Evoke Therapy Finding You Intensive program. I knew I had to begin doing my own work in order to contribute to a healthy family system and I was fortunate enough to have Alex lead our intensive group. You will hear in Alex's voice his steady and gentle approach to counseling. And throughout the dialogue, you'll learn how Alex utilizes advanced clinical training to work through a patient's complex and developmental trauma. One of Alex's applications in therapy, which attracted me to the Intensives program, is the NeuroAffective Relational Model®(NARM). Combined with Alex's own priorities within therapy of consent, curiosity, and non-judgement, Alex provides his clients incredible space to reach new levels of healing. All of Alex's contact details are provided below if you'd like to get in touch with Alex to begin your own journey in an incredibly supportive and safe therapeutic space. 0:45 - Alex White Counseling & Consulting 2:20 - University of Utah Counseling Center (UCC), "We provide developmental, preventive, and therapeutic services and programs that promote the intellectual, emotional, cultural, and social development of University of Utah students." 2:30 - Evoke Therapy 4:15 - Psychology Today article, 'What is Complex Trauma?', Ingrid Clayton Ph.D., Emotional Sobriety, Aug 2021. 8:15 - Parents as the common denominator in the layered Family System. 11:00 - Feelings and behavior as communication. 13:00 - The "Shame" parents feel and how that can block showing up for the child. 14:00 - We can't Recover for someone else. 18:20 - Over identification with another person's behavior, and how that brings insight into what we need to heal inside. 19:30 - What does it mean to you that this person Relapsed? 21:30 - Patterns and Strategies developed while growing up in an environment that does not meet our needs. 27:10 - Parallel process often found in Parent Groups. 28:45 - Superpowers we develop as kids. 31:15 - Letting go does not mean leaving. 32:45 - Alex's overview of what parents new to this journey can lean on, a) The Practical Guide for Healing Developmental Trauma (also available on Amazon), b) Finding You Podcast 37:20 - Alex's future plans 40:35 - Reach Alex at alex@alexwhitecounseling.com Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

It is January and you know what means? We are working on Step 1, "We admitted we were powerless over others – that our lives had become unmanageable”. The premise of this Episode is to begin the process of understanding addiction, not controlling addiction (because that truly will never happen). As Parents begin the Journey of their own Healing, gaining a true understanding of how we each embrace our Higher Power, will create opportunity for a fruitful building of our foundation of Faith. And, though this is not a Religious Episode, it is definitely an encouragement to building out Faith in, at the very least, you. 1:00 - ACA, Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families 1:05 - Al-Anon 2:55 - Looking for an Addiction Therapist, here's a Psychology Today link as a resource. 3:05 - Gavin Whitteker, Outreach Coordinator and Episode 38 Guest, Resilience Recovery Resources 3:10 - Kevin Petersen, CEO of Chronic Hope Institute 4:05 - Mike McGuire, MS LMHC MCAP, MS LMHC DMCP, McGuire Counseling (Jacksonville, FL area) 5:20 - Higher Power, and how this is not about Religion 5:50 - A Pastor's take on the Higher Power 7:00 - The gift of finding people who understand what you are experiencing 10:30 - Families Anonymous, 12 Daily Actions, "12 DAILY ACTIONS IN APPLYING THE STEPS, Step One: clarifying our responsibilities to others and to ourselves—I am powerless over addiction, other people, their beliefs and actions." 11:30 - What other people think of me is none of my business (an AA oldie but goodie). Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

As we move into the new year, I've made a commitment to myself, and anyone listening to this Podcast, to condense concepts covered to no more than one or two. I realized in 2022, there are so many aspects of Recovery that attempting to combine three or four subjects does not give enough time to highlight many of foundational practices that can help parents grow within as they deal with their child's substance use disorder. So, this year, we're going to get to work on finetuning how we can become healthier individuals, contributing to the Family System, one concept and one step at a time. Welcome 2023, and let's get to work! 1:00 - Mentioned Forbes Article, What is Emotional Intelligence? 2:20 - The shift Damar Hamlin's Cardiac Arrest brought to the concept of strong men showing emotions on the Gridiron*. Tying that into the aspect of significant research showing Emotional Intelligence is a desirable trait in leadership AND family health. 2:30 - *A Forbes Article on the benefit of showing your emotions, The Benefits Of Expressing Your Emotions, which is in my mind is representative of what happened this week in the NFL where our top level athletes were leaders in showing their emotions this week. 3:30 - American Psychological Association definition of containment 3:35 - Oxford CBT Article, What Is Emotional Containment?helping kids process strong emotions 5:45 - Holding space with a person in active addiction, 'Enhancing Motivation for Change in Substance Use Disorder Treatment' 6:25 - The value of learning how to contain for your child: you'll learn how your child thinks and more about their feelings. 7:05 - My 2023 commitment to myself and this Podcast 8:00 - Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration site 8:40 -The Three Circles Communication Tool Posted by Emma Reedy, Senior Intensive Staff on December 09, 2016 11:45 - 48th Annual Winter Symposium for Psychotherapy Associates 12:00 - Episode 37 Interview with Kevin Petersen 12:45 - Chronic Hope Institute 13:00 - Siblinghood of Recovery Job 2:13 “So they sat down with him upon the ground seven da Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

I continue my Journey with YOU by offering this wonderful interview. Dr. Marcy Willard is Founder & CEO of Cadey. Dr. Willard is a tech entrepreneur, licensed psychologist, nationally certified school psychologist, and published author. Dr. Willard, or Marcy, is one of my fellow Moms who has offered me insight and gentle guidance. Lots of show notes, so short introduction. Enjoy! 1:00 - How Marcy entered this Journey 2:05 - Addiction is not biased 3:05 - Understanding the intense pain when you're a "Good Parent" 4:30 - The Myth of Rehab being a 'Short term fix', how Rehab is NOT Recovery and Marcy's Article on 'Drug Addition and Teens' 5:15 - Honestly, Recovery does not have an end...and that is okay 5:40 - Genetics, and how it is not just from the Parents 7:10 - Family Patterns and Marcy's article on 'Common Family Problems' 8:25 - Self Medication at the Adolescent level 8:55 - The Treatment Center viewed as the Training Camp / Boot Camp 10:00 - Surrendering to being "Okay" 10:50 - Building Community to support Post Treatment Center Recovery 11:15 - The Key to Recovery "was within me" 11:30 - Michael Singer, 'Everything will be okay when you're okay with everything', Living from a Place of Surrender 12:30 - The strength and power in choosing how to react, Victor Frankel's Man's Search for Meaning and Edith Eger's The Choice 13:30 - Choosing not to attend the party we are invited to 14:30 - Expectations: STOP bringing your Expectation Guy! 15:30 - Measuring the Gain, not the Gap and referencing Dr. Ben Hardy's book The Gap and the Gain 16:45 - Honoring the Addict 17:30 - Marcy's article, Addict has Entered the Room 19:00 - Seeing the Addict in front of you and how that can be a part of your own Recovery Journey 20:00 - Debra Jay on the Master Manipulator, don't underestimate the power of addiction as it is the undoing of many Families, Debra Jay's website, lovefirst.net 22:00 - Engaging professionals as SOON as you can as that's when the Magic starts to happen as the addict shrinks and your Child starts to grow 23:45 - Five stages of Grieving 24:15 - Marcy connects losing a brother to addiction and how that impacted the Journey with her child 28:00 - Supporting your Child in developing their Self, including boundaries 29:00 - Don't personalize, your Child's Addiction is not about YOU 31:45 - Even in the toughest of circumstances, try to listen and SEE your child 32:45 - Marcy's Courses (click here) Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

We are getting close to end of the year Holiday Season. We all know these times can be triggering if we have loved ones battling addiction. This Podcast takes a walk into understanding what triggers may arise, and what we can do to be more in touch with our emotions as we navigate loving our Family Member and recognizing the battle with substance use disorders. This is not easy. This. Is. Hard. Hopefully, this Podcast offers some resources and support. 1:30 - Emotional Regulation for the Holiday Season 2:15 - National Institute on Drug Abuse, Trends & Statistics, some of which is heartening, other areas not so much as there is a significant uptick in Fentanyl deaths. There is a downward trend in reported drug use in 2021, Percentage of adolescents reporting drug use decreased significantly in 2021 as the COVID-19 pandemic endured. So while drug use is declining, the drugs are becoming more dangerous with a greater likelihood of being laced with Fentanyl. 2:30 - Research 2:50 - Dr. Anna Lembke'swebsite 4:00 - Huberman Lab Podcast with Dr. Anna Lembke, author of 'Dopamine Nation' 4:30 - Dr. Nora Volkow's Profile 5:30 - Dr. Volkow's work on Addiction Stigma and the article in the New England Journal of Medicine, 'Perspective: Stigma and the Toll of Addiction' 10:25 - Article cited in Dr. Volkow's article, 'Improving translation of animal models of addiction and relapse by reverse translation' 12:30 - The concept of working on one's own self to support creating a healthier environment for the addict and the Family 13:30 - Newport Institute's article on Authentic Relationships, 'Creating Authentic Relationships and Connections' 13:45 - Having an Authentic Relationship with your Child by doing your own work 15:15 - 3 Steps to Building an Authentic Relationship in your Family 18:15 - FIFA World Cup Advertisement featuring The Lumineers in conjunction with the Partnership to End Addiction Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

A short but timely Episode on who to turn to in the Holiday Season if you're a parent in the midst of Recovery, no matter what stage you may find yourself today. So many of us are going through challenges that not everyone can understand. Be sure to get your resources ready as there will be a moment when you need to speak with someone walking a similar journey. So, as you pass the cranberry sauce (and please contact me if you have any great recipes, contact info is on the website), remember: you are not alone in this journey. Find your people. Find us. 3:55 - Dianne Sawyer's Interview with Matthew Perry, ABC News YouTube 5:45 - Brain Thrive by 25 6:20 - Definition of ACEs, Adverse Childhood Experiences 7:30 - Resources for Discussing SUDs and how we, as parents, can manage around this condition 8:45 - Chronic Hope Institute, and excellent Professional Resource for Family Addiction Education led by my friend Kevin Petersen 10:10 - Matt Perry's book, Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing: a Memoir 10:45 -GetHelp linkto a list of Meetings for Parents in Recovery Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.