The Couch and The Chair

TRIGGER WARNING: 37:40-37:47 Kate and Michelle both share their experiences of joy throughout different stages of life. They also talk about challenges that interfere with their ability to feel joy and what they are working on in therapy to overcome those challenges. They share suggestions for how to think about joy in a new way and how to bring more of it into your life. RELEASE DATE: August 30, 2024 Subscribe wherever you listen: Apple Podcasts - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dbt-me/id1498826998?uo=4 Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/0q4Ri6Mc8npuq3qZk1ONRV iHeartRadio - https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-dbt-me-57859525/ Check out our Etsy shop for DBT-inspired items and our journaling workbook (only $7.50!): https://www.etsy.com/shop/dbtandme Order our book “DBT for Everyone” on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/ Consider providing ongoing support to the podcast by becoming a patron at https://www.patreon.com/dbtandme You can join our facebook community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dbtandmepodcast If you need support/have questions, email us at dbtandmepodcast@gmail.com Support the Show. If you'd like to join the Facebook group, go to: www.facebook.com/groups/thecouchandthechair If you want to be a guest, have a topic idea in mind or any other questions/feedback, send us an email at thecouchandthechair@gmail.com Our book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/

Kate and Michelle talk about the challenges and successes they've experienced with establishing friendships in adulthood. They discuss the reasons why adult friendships are difficult to start and maintain and provide tips for how you can start connecting with new people and making friends yourself. Support the Show. If you'd like to join the Facebook group, go to: www.facebook.com/groups/thecouchandthechair If you want to be a guest, have a topic idea in mind or any other questions/feedback, send us an email at thecouchandthechair@gmail.com Our book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/

Kate and Michelle talk about each of their relationships with their fathers during childhood and adulthood. They both share how they have found close connections with their fathers, as well as sharing flaws and past incidents of hurt. They also share suggestions for men who are fathers and how to heal wounded father relationships as an adult. TRIGGER WARNING: Material that may be triggering is discussed from 7:10-7:50, 46:32-47:15 and 1:02:58-1:03:06. Support the Show. If you'd like to join the Facebook group, go to: www.facebook.com/groups/thecouchandthechair If you want to be a guest, have a topic idea in mind or any other questions/feedback, send us an email at thecouchandthechair@gmail.com Our book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/

The holiday season is upon us! Kate and Michelle talk about each of their own childhood memories from the holidays, both positive and challenging. They share how they each celebrate holidays currently as adults. They also share suggestions that may help you during this time of year if you find yourself struggling to cope with stresses this time of year can bring. Support the Show. If you'd like to join the Facebook group, go to: www.facebook.com/groups/thecouchandthechair If you want to be a guest, have a topic idea in mind or any other questions/feedback, send us an email at thecouchandthechair@gmail.com Our book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/

Kate and Michelle share about their current struggles in their marriages and their reasons for deciding to stay with their husbands in spite of the challenges. They both share tips for how to seek support and adjust your thinking if you also find yourself in a struggling relationship that you want to continue. Support the Show. If you'd like to join the Facebook group, go to: www.facebook.com/groups/thecouchandthechair If you want to be a guest, have a topic idea in mind or any other questions/feedback, send us an email at thecouchandthechair@gmail.com Our book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/

Kate and Michelle are joined by special guest Sarah Kardelen to talk about coercive control in romantic relationships. Coercive control is a specific type of intimate partner violence defined as "a pattern of controlling behaviors that create an unequal power dynamic in a relationship." Sarah and Kate share their stories followed by Sarah, Kate and Michelle sharing guidance and resources on what you can do next if you are experiencing coercive control in your relationship. TRIGGER WARNING: The topic of this episode may be triggering as a whole to many. Specific details of abuse are discussed throughout Sarah and Kate's personal stories. Sarah shares from 7:04-42:47 and Kate shares from 47:47-1:04:22. Support the Show. If you'd like to join the Facebook group, go to: www.facebook.com/groups/thecouchandthechair If you want to be a guest, have a topic idea in mind or any other questions/feedback, send us an email at thecouchandthechair@gmail.com Our book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/

Kate and Michelle are joined by Ashley Wilkinson as she and Kate discuss their experiences living with ADHD. They both talk about how it felt to be diagnosed with ADHD in adulthood and open up about how ADHD impacts their daily lives. Strategies are shared for how to help manage ADHD while also having compassion for yourself. Support the Show. If you'd like to join the Facebook group, go to: www.facebook.com/groups/thecouchandthechair If you want to be a guest, have a topic idea in mind or any other questions/feedback, send us an email at thecouchandthechair@gmail.com Our book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/

Michelle is joined by Jason Wilkinson to talk about conflict avoidance in romantic relationships. Michelle and Jason both talk about how their childhoods and past experiences have led to avoiding conflict in their marriages and how therapy has helped them work on this. Support the Show. If you'd like to join the Facebook group, go to: www.facebook.com/groups/thecouchandthechair If you want to be a guest, have a topic idea in mind or any other questions/feedback, send us an email at thecouchandthechair@gmail.com Our book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/

Kate and Michelle are joined by Shannon Heers, a perinatal mental health therapist, to talk about post-partum experiences, specifically the challenges of the "4th trimester" (the first three months after giving birth). Michelle and Shannon share their experiences with transitioning to motherhood and also share valuable tips and resources. Support the Show. If you'd like to join the Facebook group, go to: www.facebook.com/groups/thecouchandthechair If you want to be a guest, have a topic idea in mind or any other questions/feedback, send us an email at thecouchandthechair@gmail.com Our book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/

Kate and Michelle announce that the frequency of episodes will now be reduced and explain reasons for making this decision. Support the Show. If you'd like to join the Facebook group, go to: www.facebook.com/groups/thecouchandthechair If you want to be a guest, have a topic idea in mind or any other questions/feedback, send us an email at thecouchandthechair@gmail.com Our book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/

Kate and Michelle are joined by special guest Chris Campassi to talk about panic attacks. Chris and Kate share their stories and backgrounds prior to experiencing panic attacks and how they each experience intense anxiety. Tips are shared for how to prevent panic attacks and take care of yourself during and after them. TRIGGER WARNING: Material that may be triggering is discussed from 34:05-34:20. Support the Show. If you'd like to join the Facebook group, go to: www.facebook.com/groups/thecouchandthechair If you want to be a guest, have a topic idea in mind or any other questions/feedback, send us an email at thecouchandthechair@gmail.com Our book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/

Kate and Michelle are joined by Dr. Tara Sanderson to talk about experiences with burnout. Tara shares how she started noticing burnout during COVID and Michelle talks about being burnt out at a job she worked at 10 years ago. Tips are shared at the end of the episode about how you can prevent and treat burnout if you start to notice it yourself. TRIGGER WARNING: Material that may be triggering is discussed from 15:20-16:52. Support the Show. If you'd like to join the Facebook group, go to: www.facebook.com/groups/thecouchandthechair If you want to be a guest, have a topic idea in mind or any other questions/feedback, send us an email at thecouchandthechair@gmail.com Our book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/

Kate and Michelle talk about their sexual histories and how past sexual experiences have either been helpful or harmful to their mental health. They both share how they are re-inventing their sex lives currently and tips that can help you do the same if you want to find more authentic sexual pleasure. Support the Show. If you'd like to join the Facebook group, go to: www.facebook.com/groups/thecouchandthechair If you want to be a guest, have a topic idea in mind or any other questions/feedback, send us an email at thecouchandthechair@gmail.com Our book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/

Kate and Michelle talk about living as females and messages they have received about three different topics: what it means to take care of other people, how the female body is viewed by others (specifically men), and the ability to keep yourself safe/take care of yourself. TRIGGER WARNING: Material that may be triggering is discussed from 49:55-51:40 and from 56:25-1:01:30. Support the Show. If you'd like to join the Facebook group, go to: www.facebook.com/groups/thecouchandthechair If you want to be a guest, have a topic idea in mind or any other questions/feedback, send us an email at thecouchandthechair@gmail.com Our book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/

Kate and Michelle talk about personal experiences with chronic pain throughout their lives, including how they accepted it and how it impacted their mental health to experience it. They share tips for how to start treating your body with greater kindness if you also experience chronic pain. Support the Show. If you'd like to join the Facebook group, go to: www.facebook.com/groups/thecouchandthechair If you want to be a guest, have a topic idea in mind or any other questions/feedback, send us an email at thecouchandthechair@gmail.com Our book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/

Kate and Michelle talk about how they personally engage in self-care as well as challenges they've experienced with making room for it in their lives. They share tips based off of what they've learned for how you can prioritize self-care yourself. Support the Show. If you'd like to join the Facebook group, go to: www.facebook.com/groups/thecouchandthechair If you want to be a guest, have a topic idea in mind or any other questions/feedback, send us an email at thecouchandthechair@gmail.com Our book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/

Kate and Michelle are joined by Rebecca Nystrom to discuss childhood trauma. Rebecca and Kate share personal experiences of childhood trauma followed by a discussion about ways to process childhood trauma in therapy, reducing blame, and finding other support resources. TRIGGER WARNING: The topic of this episode may be triggering as a whole to many. Specific details of trauma are discussed throughout Rebecca and Kate's personal stories. Rebecca shares from 4:00-18:55 and Kate shares from 28:30-54:54. Other triggering content is discussed from 1:09:38-1:09:52 and from 1:12:16-1:12:40. Support the Show. If you'd like to join the Facebook group, go to: www.facebook.com/groups/thecouchandthechair If you want to be a guest, have a topic idea in mind or any other questions/feedback, send us an email at thecouchandthechair@gmail.com Our book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/

Michelle is joined by Catherine Lee to discuss perfectionism. Both Michelle and Catherine share their personal histories with perfectionism and how therapy has helped them become less perfectionistic over time. They also talk about tips that may be helpful in combating perfectionism for those who struggle with it, too. Support the Show. If you'd like to join the Facebook group, go to: www.facebook.com/groups/thecouchandthechair If you want to be a guest, have a topic idea in mind or any other questions/feedback, send us an email at thecouchandthechair@gmail.com Our book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/

Kate and Michelle are joined by Jaclyn George to discuss self-harm. Jaclyn and Kate share personal experiences of self-harm followed by a discussion about ways to cope with self-harm, "do's" and "don'ts" for what to look for in a therapist and how they address this topic, how self-harm is similar to addiction and how to support a loved one who self-harms. TRIGGER WARNING: The topic of this episode may be triggering as a whole to many. Specific details of self-harm are discussed throughout Jaclyn and Kate's personal stories. Jaclyn shares from 8:16-16:45 and Kate shares from 23:20-40:05. Support the Show. If you'd like to join the Facebook group, go to: www.facebook.com/groups/thecouchandthechair If you want to be a guest, have a topic idea in mind or any other questions/feedback, send us an email at thecouchandthechair@gmail.com Our book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/

Kate and Michelle are joined by Phebe Brako-Owusu to discuss the topic of sexual trauma. Phebe and Kate share personal experiences of sexual trauma followed by a discussion about how you can start healing if sexual trauma is something you've experienced personally at any point in your life. TRIGGER WARNING: The topic of this episode may be triggering as a whole to many. Specific details of sexual violations are shared from 9:22-13:40, 33:33-33:55, 40:00-41:58, and 45:10-49:42. Support the Show. If you'd like to join the Facebook group, go to: www.facebook.com/groups/thecouchandthechair If you want to be a guest, have a topic idea in mind or any other questions/feedback, send us an email at thecouchandthechair@gmail.com Our book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/