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SFS 072: How to Become Resourceful

10/24/2018
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Last time, we discussed how crucial Resilience is for success, how it’s vital to have the strength of mind and body to weather the bumps on the road to success. The second crucial ability you need is Resourcefulness. Resourcefulness is the ability to skillfully and quickly solve problems, overcome challenges, and generate creative solutions. Without it, you're dead in the water. In today's podcast, we cover what Resourcefulness is, why it's critical to your success, what happens when you...

Duration:00:19:32

SFS 071: How to Become Resilient

10/10/2018
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Resilience is crucial for success in anything. When you pursue big dreams or goals, challenges, problems and setbacks inevitably arise. If you lack Resilience to withstand those challenges, you will fail. Resilience means having the strength of mind and body to face and overcome challenges as you pursue your goals and dreams. It’s the ability to take a hit and bounce back. A resilient boxer can take punches and keep fighting, and stay in the fight until success. You must learn to do the...

Duration:00:21:55

SFS 070: Why 90% or More of Success is Your MINDSET

9/26/2018
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There's a lot of talk about mindset. But WHY is mindset so important, and why does your success in EVERY area of your life depend on it? Your mindset is the fundamental beliefs you hold about yourself and the world. It determines how you feel, what actions you take, and the habits you develop. It creates who you are and what happens in your life. Your life right now (your level of success, emotional state, level of self-esteem, income, and how happy you are) is a direct reflection of your...

Duration:00:35:58

SFS 069: Perfectionism – A Recipe For Failure

9/12/2018
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Perfectionism means always trying to meet high standards AND not making mistakes or failing as you try to meet those standards. The problem with perfectionism is NOT high standards, but the rules for HOW to meet those standards. And the rules are: I can NEVER make mistakes, perform at an average or sub-par level, fail, stumble, and not be the best I can be--ALWAYS. If you try to live by these rules, it'll cause enormous havoc on your mental health, happiness, and enjoyment of life. WHY does...

Duration:00:24:32

SFS 068: Procrastination – How to Stop It

8/29/2018
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Everyone procrastinates. But when it becomes chronic or stops you from performing tasks required to move towards your dreams and goals, it can have a devastating impact on your life. Today, I reveal what causes procrastination, and the most effective strategies for overcoming it so it doesn't stop you from creating the life you want. Episode highlights: The 3 main causes of procrastination How procrastination can literally KILL you Why sometimes it's GOOD to procrastinate Procrastination is...

Duration:00:25:37

SFS 067: The Fear of Making Decisions (And How to Conquer It)

8/15/2018
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Life consists of making decisions, small and big, every day. If you have fear or difficulty making decisions, it can cripple and inhibit your ability to accomplish your goals and be happy. WHY do so many people fear making decisions? The main reason is they fear making the WRONG decision. But that's not even the real fear. Today, I talk about what really drives the fear, and give you 6 keys for becoming good at making decisions. Episode highlights: The 4 fears underlying the fear of making...

Duration:00:32:39

SFS 066: How Fear of Failure KILLS Your Dreams

8/1/2018
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Fear of failure is probably the #1 reason people don’t go after their dreams. Fear comes from the perception of danger or threat. But with fear of failure, the threat is NOT physical, but something more powerful. Today, we're going to delve into fear of failure and reveal why it's so deadly and stops so many people in their tracks. Episode highlights: What you're REALLY afraid of when you fear failure The way most people handle fear is completely WRONG and actually INCREASES their fear The...

Duration:00:23:01

SFS 065: Should You Give Up Your Dreams For Others?

7/25/2018
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One of my email subscribers, a 20-year-old named Muskaan, emailed me in response to an email I sent out about "Why it's so hard to put yourself first" (you can read his full email below). It raised some big questions for him. Like, should we give up our dreams for others? When he was 12, Muskaan gave up his dream of being a tennis player to please his father who wanted him to focus more on his studies. Later, Muskaan gave up his dream of being an artist, also for his father. This is an issue...

Duration:00:22:22

SFS 064: I’ll Pursue My Dream When…

7/18/2018
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How many times have you heard someone say: "I'll pursue my dream (or goal) when..." and then they name some condition that has to be met BEFORE they go for their dream. Maybe you've done this or are doing it now with a dream you have. The condition might be when you have enough confidence, or money, or the right credentials, or have improved yourself enough. Whatever it is it must be met first before you go after your dream. Waiting is deadly to your dreams and goals and it's almost always...

Duration:00:17:31

SFS 063: A Rarely-Talked-About Key to Success

7/11/2018
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A very overlooked and rarely talked about key to success is Responsibility. I'm not talking about doing chores or fulfilling dreaded obligations, but taking responsibility for the course of your life. It comes down to two choices: 1. Take 1000% responsibility for your life, happiness and success 2. Leave it up to someone or something else to give you the life you want The choice you make will have a PROFOUND impact on your success, happiness and self-esteem. Episode highlights: Why giving up...

Duration:00:24:46

SFS 062: How to Get ANYTHING You Want

7/4/2018
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Today I give you a step-by-step process for getting ANYTHING you want. This is not hyperbole. If there's something you want in your life, this is the process you need to follow every time to get it. Episode highlights: Even if you know what you want (and how to get there) these TWO things can stop you The best way to learn how to do something you don't know how to do The main ROADBLOCKS that must be navigated successfully Why the last step is the hardest and what you need to nail it Don't...

Duration:00:23:58

SFS 061: The Secret to Self-Confidence

6/27/2018
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To get anything you want--a successful career, fulfilling relationship, peak health--you need to believe in yourself. You need to have self-confidence. If you don't, you won't go after big goals or dreams, or you will give up quickly. Strong self-confidence is essential for life success and happiness. Today, I talk about what confidence is and isn't, and how you can foster and build it within yourself. Episode highlights: The HUGE difference between uncertainty and self-doubt (and why you...

Duration:00:18:54

SFS 060: The Difference Between Fear and Anxiety (Why it’s CRUCIAL To Know)

6/20/2018
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Today I talk about the crucial difference between fear and anxiety, and why it's so important for your mental health and well being. Episode highlights: What CAUSES fear and anxiety The KEY difference between anxiety and fear How fear and anxiety can paralyze you and limit your life Fear stops MANY people from going after their dreams and goals How a phobia (intense fear) can be cured in minutes 99% of the time when you feel fear there's NO actual danger Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode...

Duration:00:20:40

SFS 059: Are you living the life you want?

6/13/2018
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Are you living the life you want? Today I talk about why I'm asking this question and why answering it is crucial to your success and happiness. Episode highlights: Why this is such a scary question for most people What to do if the answer is "NO"? Why some people know what they want but still don't go after it The huge risk of NOT asking this question How to use this question to create a life you love Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Share the Value If you're enjoying the...

Duration:00:16:19

SFS 058: Will Smith’s Tweet and Romantic Love

6/6/2018
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An article on the Today Show's website features a Tweet by Will Smith to his wife Jada Pinkett Smith for their 20th wedding anniversary. The Tweet got 1.3 million likes and 37,000 comments. I thought it was worth commenting on because there was much I agreed with, and some I didn't that I think is worth highlighting. Will Smith's full Tweet: “20 Years Ago Today we held hands and walked naively down that aisle. Here’s what I’ve learned since. . Love is Like Gardening... I have learned to...

Duration:00:15:14

SFS 057: Stop Bitching and Start Living

5/30/2018
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Are you a complainer or do you spend time around people who bitch a lot? If so, you'll want to listen to this episode to learn why this is damaging to your life and happiness, and ways to stop doing it or disengaging from those people in your life. Episode highlights: How complaining can undermine your mood, success and motivation You have to first catch yourself complaining to break the habit Focus ONLY on what you have control over in your life Why it's USELESS to complain about other...

Duration:00:15:51

SFS 056: BedJet Founder Mark Aramli on Sleep, Success and Surviving Shark Tank

5/23/2018
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Mark Aramli is CEO and founder of BedJet, a climate control device he engineered for beds. BedJet is the #1 customer rated product in the mattress category on Amazon and has received hundreds of five-star reviews. Mark is one of the most famous “failures” from the hit TV show Shark Tank. After various roles as a management consultant assisting start-up environmental technology companies with their new products, Mark decided that developing cool new innovative home gadgets using applied...

Duration:00:32:39

SFS 055: Are You Selfish if You Prefer the Window Seat?

5/16/2018
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Are you more selfish if you prefer the window seat on an airplane? That's what an article in the The Telegraph says. And they quote two psychologists who claim this is science. My first question after reading the article was: Where’s the science? There's no study referenced, no definition of “selfish”provided (of course they mean it negatively), and they treat the concept of selfishness very superficially. This may seem like a frivolous article, but it reflects some major problems with the...

Duration:00:11:41

SFS 054: Andy Lurling on Managing Fear and Advising 7 Disruptive Startups

5/11/2018
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Andy Lurling is a serial entrepreneur, mostly known for founding iOpener Media GmbH, which develops a technology that allows gamers to participate virtually and in real time. He's also a co-founder of LUMO Labs, a two-year venture builder program that besides providing seed funding, actively supports entrepreneurs with a ''hands on'' approach. LUMO labs is active in Eindhoven (The Netherlands) and Los Angeles. Episode Highlights: Why Andy takes 5 minutes a day to envision success How he...

Duration:00:22:42

SFS 053: 5 Reasons It’s So Hard to Pursue Things You Really Want (and the Solution)

5/2/2018
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When there's something you really want, it can sometimes be the hardest thing to pursue. It might be a dream career, a person you're wildly attracted to or excellent health, but you find yourself not going after it and even pushing it away or avoiding it. Unfortunately, this happens to many people, and they end up living without ever pursuing the things they really wanted. This is tragic, because (in my view) the purpose of life is to go after and achieve your dreams. This came up for me...

Duration:00:28:19