Birth Mother Matters in Adoption

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Podcast 138: Why Choosing Adoption for an Unplanned Pregnancy May Be Benefit A Birth Mother’s Other Biological Children Choosing adoption for an unplanned pregnancy is one thing when you do not have other children to consider, but another when you do. Choosing adoption in these cases may benefit your other children in ways you may not even realize. If you are pregnant and currently struggling to provide the necessary items for your children on a daily basis,...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Season 2: 137: Biological Grandparents Role in the Adoption Process What roles can Birth Grandparents play in an adoption plan? The “birth grandparents” are direct lineage to the adopted child, their medical history and social history matter to both the adoptee, the Aps and the birth parents. They are more than just an extension of the BPs they can contribute the following: Be a source of support for the Birth Parentss, especially when discussing the adoption...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption, Season 2, Episode 136: Adoption Matters; 2020 A Year in Review Take a walk back with us as we review 2020 in the adoption world. Looking back at 2020, we discuss all the factors that played into successful and unsuccesfful adoption outcomes. We look at the status of the Paul Peterson case. We look at where the abortion laws stand today. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter: Azadoptpodcast Happy New Year!!!!!!

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Season 2, Ep. 135: The CHRISTMAS EPISODE Remember to: Give yourself and your family grace regarding phone calls/skypes and facetime since COVID-19 has prevented so many families get together.Avoiding holiday parties and get togethers is the best idea for a newborn for many reasons- and COVID-19 adds another layer!Relish in the small things.Make little special memory holiday crafts (ornaments in honor of this year.)Newborns do not have memories of the holidays...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption S 2 Ep.134: Choosing CPS/DCS Over Adoption- P2 When making the choice to work with DCS, Birth Mothers may be given the opportunity to participate in services to rectify the issue that brought their baby into the state’s care and custody. The Department of Child Safety Reunification Plan may include the following depending on the birth mother’s circumstances for the state’s involvement: treatment services to help the Birth Mother obtain and maintain a sober...

When experiencing an unplanned pregnancy, sometimes there may not be a favorable option. These two paths are quite different journeys and understandably can present a difficult decision. For some women, after delivering their baby they must choose between private adoption or placing their baby in the care and custody of Department of Child Safety (in some states this entity is referred to as Child Protective Services.) In some instances, Birth Mothers make the decision to work with the...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Season 2, 132: The Profile of a Birth Father Some interesting things that the public may not understand or be aware of regarding birth fathers: We see repeat birth fathers with different birth mothers at different times.Birth fathers can have access to many adoption services, but rarely engage: CounselingCommunication with the Adoptive ParentsDevelop an independent relationship with the adoptive familySign Adoption ConsentsDevelop a Post Adoption...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Season 2, #131: Birth Mother Expenses Both adoptive parent and birth parents have many questions surrounding birth parent funding. This podcast will address birth parent expenses and what an adoption agency or adoption attorney in the State of Arizona is allowed to disburse to a birth mother. This podcast is geared to the laws for Arizona State only, however for those living in a state with alternative laws, this will give you insight into why, what, how,...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Season 2, 130: Being the Bearer of Bad Tidings Sometimes in the adoption world, we have to deliver bad news. No one likes to be the bearer of bad news. One of the reason is they are the ones to catch the brunt of the bad news, regardless of whether it is within their control or not. The concerns of the deliverer of bad news really focus on: How to manage their own anxietyHow deliver the news without altering or impairing the news, while making sure they do...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Podcast, Season 2, Episode 129: Understanding Desperation in Adoption Some Birth Mothers come into an adoption agency because they are pregnant, and many women have reached a point of desperation due to situations such as: Being Homeless; scared to remain on the street due to being pregnant, and they are hungry and cold/hotThe pregnancy may be the result of an act of prostitution/solicitation or they may be a victim of abuse.Feeling trapped in a domestically...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Season 2, 128: Birth Mother Support Birth Mothers need and want your support as an adoptive family. Here are some ways you can effectively show your support. (Always make sure these ideas and suggestions are in compliance with your state adoption laws, your attorney and/ or agency adoption laws.) Send support notes to your birth mother that are handwritten that she can save forever. A small note can carry a big message. Make sure that you understand what is...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Season 2, 127: Why Holidays Can Be Hard Holidays can be tough on people regardless of whether or nor they have an adoption plan. Sometimes both Adoptive Families and Birth Parents have a difficult time. Christmas is considered by many to be the “most wonderful time of the year,” but often it is just magnifying the trying times you may be experiencing . The holidays can magnify senses of loss and grief. Memories of past holidays both good and bad can trigger...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Season 2, 126: What Happens When a Family Walks Away Sometimes an adoptive family is matched with a birth mother and changes their mind and walks away either after being matched or after the baby is born. This podcast will dive into the reasons as to why adoptive families would pour time, resources and emotions into an adoptive match and then walks away from the birth mother and the baby they planned on adopting. Why? How often does this happen? What happens...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Season 2, 125: Covid-19 & Adoption Updates Updates on Covid-19 as they impact and affect birth mothers/birth fathers and adoptive families. What we as an adoption agency are doing: Masks are mandatoryTemperature checksFollowing all social distancing guidelinesMedical grade air purifiersAcrylic ShieldsHandwashing / Hand Sanitizer are available and advisedOffices are professionally cleaned & sanitizedIn Maricopa County, some hospitals have eased up on their...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Season 2, 124: Is Adoption a Taboo Subject? Definition of taboo according to the Merriam-webster.com/dictionary a: a prohibition imposed by social custom or as a protective measure… b: something that is not acceptable to say, mention, or do : something that is taboo… As part of the adoption community, it is our responsibility to increase adoption awareness, promote adoption education and dispel myths. Facts are what will set adoption from being considered...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Season 2, Podcast 123: Factors Contributing to Successful Adoptions Many adoptive families inquiring about adoption what they could have done to increase their chances of their adoption being a success. We have spoken in previous podcasts about why adoptions sometimes fail due to the birth mother or birth parents. So that begs the question; can adoptive families do anything to improve or increase the chances? YES. Also, sometimes it is the adoptive family...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Season 2 Episode 122: Adoption & Abortion News National Adoption Day is Saturday, November 21, 2020 National Adoption Day is a collective effort to raise awareness of the more than 120,000 children waiting to be adopted from foster care in the United States. A coalition of national partners — the Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption, Congressional Coalition on Adoption Institute, Alliance for Children’s Rights and Children’s Action Network — founded National...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Season 2, 221: Holding a Marriage Together When an Adoption or Fertility Treatment Doesnt Work Out Steps to Take to Preserve Your Marriage Factors that have a negative impact on marital success, happiness and cohesion after the unsuccessful journey to become parents: Grieving the loss of their dreams and expectations of having childrenstillborn births and miscarriages The blame gameThe relationship or spouse may be a reminder of childlessness.Tension /...

Birth Mother Matters Season 2 Podcast 120: When Families Are Not Ready to Adopt What can happen when families are not ready to adopt but begin the process anyway? Marital DiscordDepression / Anxiety / PanicHave a lower level of satisfaction with the adoption processDifficulty engaging in the adoption process and bonding with your birth motherMaking decisions that may not have been made had in desperation that you may not be happy with laterAreas where Adoptive families may not be ready to...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Podcast, Season 2: Episode 119: Sexual Violence & Its impact On Pregnancy and Adoption The CDC defines sexual violence as a sexual activity when consent in not obtained or not freely given. It is a serious public health problem in the United States. Sexual violence impacts every community and affects people of all genders, sexual orientations, and ages—anyone can experience or perpetrate sexual violence. The perpetrator of sexual violence is usually someone...