Life in Black & White (and all the shades in between)

Can AI really support mental health — or is it quietly changing how we connect, feel, and heal? In this thought-provoking episode, psychotherapist Susie Masterson explores the growing role of AI in mental health and therapy, including tools like ChatGPT. We unpack the benefits, risks, and ethical dilemmas of using artificial intelligence for emotional support — especially for women and vulnerable communities. We talk openly about algorithmic bias, false empathy, emotional dependency, and why AI can sometimes collude with harmful thoughts rather than challenge them. Susie also explains why human connection still matters deeply, and how technology may be reshaping relationships, vulnerability, and self-regulation in ways we don’t always notice. This conversation is honest, nuanced, and essential listening if you’re curious (or concerned) about the future of AI, therapy, and human connection. In this episode, we cover: 👉 How AI is being used for mental health support 👉The lack of regulation around AI therapy tools 👉 Why dependency on AI can affect emotional processing 👉 Algorithmic bias — and how it impacts women and underrepresented groups 👉 The illusion of empathy and connection in AI 👉 Ethical concerns in AI development 👉 Whether AI could increase isolation and disconnection 👉 How users can challenge and correct AI bias Chapters: 00:00 – Introduction to AI and Mental Health 04:18 – The Role of AI in Therapy 12:45 – Algorithmic Bias and Its Implications 20:57 – AI’s Impact on Women and Vulnerable Populations 29:17 – The Future of Relationships in an AI World 36:40 – Navigating the Messiness of Life with AI If this episode made you pause, question, or rethink your relationship with technology, please like, subscribe, and share — it really helps get these conversations out into the world. SUPPORT THIS PODCAST: https://buymeacoffee.com/thepokus CONNECT WITH SUSIE: Website: https://www.ultraliving.uk/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susiespeaksforwomen LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/susie-masterson FOLLOW US ON SOCIALS: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550640089772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/life_in_black__and__white/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@life.in.black.whi A big shoutout also to Time Capsule Productions: https://www.timecapsuleproductions.co.uk/ #neuroplasticity #bias #chatgptinsights #chatgptvideo #AIandMentalHealth #TherapyAndTechnology #AlgorithmicBias #AIethics #WomenAndMentalHealth #HumanConnection #AItherapy #MentalHealthPodcast #EthicsInAI #Vulnerability #EmpathyAndAI

Can we really change our beliefs — and bridge cultural divides? In this powerful conversation, Dipti Tait, The Hypnotherapist, breaks down the science of soft wiring in the brain and how our beliefs, biases, and snap judgments are formed — and more importantly, how they can be changed. We explore why humans are wired to divide, where identity and culture come into play, and how the brain’s need for shortcuts can shape how we see others. Dipti explains how neuroplasticity allows us to update old belief systems, improve communication, and build stronger, more understanding relationships — even across deeply opposing viewpoints. This episode is an honest, thoughtful discussion about identity, culture, racism, media influence, and the lost art of healthy debate. It’s not about convincing anyone — it’s about listening, understanding, and finding common ground in a world that feels more divided than ever. If you’re interested in psychology, human behaviour, cultural identity, bias, or meaningful conversations — this episode is for you! In this episode, we cover: • What soft wiring is and how it changes belief systems • Why snap judgments are a natural brain reflex • The psychology behind division, identity, and culture • How communication can bridge cultural and ideological gaps • The role of media in shaping perception • Racism, urban environments, and lived experience • Why debate should be about understanding, not winning • How vulnerability creates deeper human connection Key takeaways: ✔ Beliefs are not fixed — they can change ✔ Most people aren’t as divided as we think ✔ Cultural differences can unite us ✔ Open conversations lead to real understanding SUPPORT THIS PODCAST: https://buymeacoffee.com/thepokus CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIALS: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550640089772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/life_in_black__and__white/ CONNECT WITH DIPTI TAIT: https://diptitait.com/ A big shoutout also to Time Capsule Productions: https://www.timecapsuleproductions.co.uk/

Motherhood. Fatherhood. Parenting. No one really tells you how hard it can feel behind closed doors. In this raw and honest episode of Life in Black & White podcast, we sit down with Candice Davis, the founder of After Birth London to talk about the unspoken hardships of parenting — the ones we don’t post on Instagram and rarely say out loud. We dive into the realities of becoming a parent, the pressure to “hold it all together,” and how mental health quietly shapes both motherhood and fatherhood. From postpartum depression and fear of judgement, to feminism, identity, and the myth of the “perfect mum,” this episode pulls back the curtain on what parenting really looks like. BUY US A COFFEE & SUPPORT THIS PODCAST https://buymeacoffee.com/thepokus/membership FOLLOW LIFE IN BLACK & WHITE ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550640089772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_pokus/ Visit AfterBirth London: https://www.afterbirth.london/ A big shoutout to Time Capsule Production: https://www.timecapsuleproductions.co.uk/

Ever wondered what it’s really like to live with ADHD as an adult? In this episode, we're sitting down with Mhairi, who shares her story - her late diagnosis, the ups and downs in relationships, parenting struggles, and the emotional rollercoaster it brings. We talk about coping strategies, why ADHD isn’t just a challenge but can actually be a superpower, and how just a bit of awareness can make a huge difference. It’s honest, real, and full of takeaways you’ll actually use - whether for yourself or someone you care about. Pull up a chair, pour yourself a drink, and join the conversation. TAKEAWAYS: BUY US A COFFEE & SUPPORT THIS PODCAST https://buymeacoffee.com/thepokus/membership FOLLOW LIFE IN BLACK & WHITE ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550640089772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_pokus/

In this episode of Life in Black & White, we chat with Julia Boccio, who went from copywriting to photography, and ultimately to becoming a successful rom-com author. Julia shares the highs and lows of changing careers, navigating traditional publishing, and turning a viral wedding dance video into life-changing opportunities (yes, that includes meeting Patrick Swayze and Oprah!). Julia opens up about the importance of mental health, support systems, and having a solid strategy when chasing your passions. Her journey is packed with inspiration, practical tips, and proof that it’s never too late to follow your dreams! BUY US A COFFEE & SUPPORT THIS PODCAST https://buymeacoffee.com/thepokus/membership CONNECT WITH JULIA BOGGIO: https://juliaboggio.com/ FOLLOW LIFE IN BLACK & WHITE ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550640089772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_pokus/

Following our recent run-in with online trolls, today’s episode of Life in Black & White is all about trolls, haters, and those unwanted opinions that seem to appear everywhere—whether it's on social media or in real life. We share personal experiences, unpack why people throw shade, and explore how to protect your peace while staying confident in who you are. We also emphasise the importance of understanding the context behind opinions and the need for empathy. Tune in for honest stories, and practical tips on how we can create more love and understanding in the world, together. BUY US A COFFEE & SUPPORT THIS PODCAST https://buymeacoffee.com/thepokus/membership CONNECT WITH FLORENCE: https://www.facebook.com/florenceolajideauthor/ https://www.instagram.com/flora.jide/ https://twitter.com/florenceolajide FOLLOW LIFE IN BLACK & WHITE ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550640089772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_pokus/

Today we’re joined by the wonderful Florence Ọlájídé, a woman whose story will stay with you long after you hear it. Born in Britain to Nigerian parents, Florence was privately fostered by a white family before being taken to Nigeria by her birth parents. Her journey is one of incredible strength - overcoming loss, loneliness, poverty, and maltreatment, while fighting fiercely for her education and identity. It’s a moving and deeply inspiring story about resilience, courage, and finding your true voice through hardship. Florence’s memoir, Coconut, has received glowing reviews and was featured on the Graham Norton Book Club. Her second book, The Stolen Daughter, is a powerful historical novel inspired by a family secret - the story of one of her ancestors forced into slavery. Florence was also shortlisted for Penguin Random House’s WriteNow London workshop in 2018. This conversation will remind you that no matter where you come from or what you’ve faced, your story matters - and it’s never too late to rewrite it with courage and heart. With love, Ivana & Yaw xx BUY US A COFFEE & SUPPORT THIS PODCAST https://buymeacoffee.com/thepokus/membership CONNECT WITH FLORENCE: https://www.facebook.com/florenceolajideauthor/ https://www.instagram.com/flora.jide/ https://twitter.com/florenceolajide GET FLORENCE'S BOOKS: The stolen daughter: https://bit.ly/3LlYeWU Coconut: https://bit.ly/3Wcu3I2 FOLLOW LIFE IN BLACK & WHITE ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550640089772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_pokus/

In today's episode of Life in Black & White, we sit down with mindset coach Hayden Griffiths for an honest, no-filter chat about what it really takes to transform your life. Hayden opens up about his journey from battling addiction to helping others rewrite their own stories. Together, we dive into how childhood experiences shape who we become, why mindset is everything, and how embracing vulnerability can unlock real success. We also tackle big questions, like why self-development should be taught in schools and how understanding your own mind can uncover the genius within you. This conversation is raw, inspiring, and a must-listen for anyone ready to break free from old patterns and start living with purpose. Tune in and discover how your mindset could be the key to the life you’ve been searching for. Love, Ivana & Yaw

How much of what we believe is truly ours—and how much is “soft-wired” into our brains? In this eye-opening conversation, the Hypnotherapist Dipti Tait dives into the science of soft wiring, showing how our beliefs and biases shape the way we perceive others. We explore why identity and culture can be so divisive, the primitive roots of snap judgments, and how these hidden patterns influence our relationships. More importantly, Dipti shares practical insights on how communication, curiosity, and thoughtful debate can help us bridge divides, update old beliefs, and foster deeper understanding. Tune in to learn how small shifts in thinking can lead to bigger connections—and a more open-minded, empathetic way of navigating the world. BUY US A COFFEE & SUPPORT THIS PODCAST https://buymeacoffee.com/thepokus/membership CONNECT WITH DIPTI TAIT: https://diptitait.com/ CONNECT WITH US: Website: www.thepokus.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550640089772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/life_in_black__and__white/

Join us on this inspiring episode of Life in Black & White as we sit down with Charlotte Kelly, the talented voice behind the iconic band Soul to Soul. From navigating the highs and lows of the music industry to embracing the power of songwriting, Charlotte opens up about the challenges of fame, the role of cultural identity in her artistry, and the realities of performing live. Beyond music, she shares her honest experiences with confidence, mental health, and personal growth, offering heartfelt advice for aspiring artists and young dreamers alike. Plus, Charlotte reflects on the joys and lessons of parenting, giving listeners a glimpse into how life off-stage shapes her journey. Tune in for an intimate conversation packed with insight, inspiration, and practical guidance for anyone chasing their dreams while staying true to themselves. SUPPORT THIS PODCAST AND BECOME A PATREON https://buymeacoffee.com/thepokus/membership CONNECT WITH US: Website: www.thepokus.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550640089772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/life_in_black__and__white/

What happens when love meets culture? In this episode of Life in Black & White, we chat with Dr. Melissa Cancel about how cultural differences shape marriage, communication, and even parenting. From individualism vs collectivism to those “lost in translation” moments in everyday conversations, we explore why understanding (not judging) each other’s backgrounds is so important. Expect honest stories, practical tips, and plenty of encouragement for couples navigating cultural diversity. With love, Ivana & Yaw SUPPORT THIS PODCAST AND BECOME A PATREON https://buymeacoffee.com/thepokus/membership CONNECT WITH DR. MELLISA CANCEL: https://thecommunicationdoc.com/home CONNECT WITH US: Website: www.thepokus.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550640089772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/life_in_black__and__white/

What happens when your child’s race isn’t your own? In this raw and eye-opening episode, we explore the unspoken challenges of parenting across racial lines. Joined by Sarah Wood, a fellow white mum raising mixed-race children, we dive into the complex realities of navigating identity, having tough conversations, and confronting the biases that society (and sometimes we) hold. This isn’t about having all the answers - it’s about learning, listening, and showing up for our children in ways that truly honour who they are. Whether you’re parenting across race or simply want to raise more empathetic, aware kids, this episode will challenge what you think you know - and leave you with powerful takeaways you can start using today. With love, Ivana & Yaw SUPPORT THIS PODCAST AND BECOME A PATREON https://buymeacoffee.com/thepokus/membership CONNECT WITH US: Website: www.thepokus.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550640089772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/life_in_black__and__white/

Ever wondered what it’s really like raising kids to speak more than one language? In this episode, we’re diving into our personal journey of raising bilingual children. Our boys speak English and Slovak, and we’re also introducing them to Ghanaian Chi. We’re sharing: The little known benefits of bilingual parenting The challenges no one talks about Practical ways to keep multiple languages alive at home How language shapes our kids’ identity and confidence Whether you're just getting started or deep into the bilingual journey, you’ll walk away with fresh insights, relatable stories, and real tips you can actually use. Tune in, and let’s explore the beautiful chaos of multilingual parenting together. Love, Ivana & Yaw xx SUPPORT THIS PODCAST AND BECOME A PATREON https://buymeacoffee.com/thepokus/membership CONNECT WITH US: Website: www.thepokus.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550640089772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/life_in_black__and__white/

Can you go through life thinking you're kind, open-minded, and still discover a racist within you at 40? In this bold and honest conversation, we sit down with our friend and psychophonetics counsellor Natalia Cervinkova, who bravely shares her personal story of uncovering deep-seated racial bias within herself: something she didn’t even realise was there. We talk about: Why this is more common than people think How racism and unconscious bias works The difference between being “not racist” and being anti-racist And most importantly - what needs to change if we want to raise better humans and build a better world together This episode isn’t about blame - it’s about courage, self-reflection, and change. It’s raw. It’s uncomfortable. And it’s exactly the kind of conversation we all need to have. With love, Ivaana & Yaw SUPPORT THIS PODCAST AND BECOME A PATREON https://buymeacoffee.com/thepokus/membership CONNECT WITH US: Website: www.thepokus.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550640089772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/life_in_black__and__white/

Meet Dennis and Tessa: The Team Helping People Feel Brave and Confident In this episode, we’re chatting with Dennis and Tessa from Dstnct Art Media - a creative duo who use photography to help people feel good about themselves. Dennis is an award-winning photographer with over 7 years of experience. But he doesn’t just take pretty pictures - he helps people see how amazing they really are. His photoshoots boost confidence, fight negative self-image, and inspire people to chase their dreams. Tessa used to be an indoor skydiving coach. Yep, flying in the air kind of thing! She loved helping people face their fears and do something they didn’t think they could do. Now, she brings that same energy into her work with Dennis - helping people feel calm, strong, and confident during their photoshoots. She even trained with a top supermodel, Coco Rocha, to become the best at what she does. Together, Dennis and Tessa make photoshoots more than just pictures - they’re powerful, life-changing moments. Tune in to hear how they help everyday people feel bold, beautiful, and ready to take on the world—one photo at a time. Love, Ivana & Yaw SUPPORT THIS PODCAST AND BECOME A PATREON https://buymeacoffee.com/thepokus/membership CONNECT WITH DENNIS AND TESSA: https://www.dstnctartmedia.com/ CONNECT WITH US: Website: www.thepokus.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550640089772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/life_in_black__and__white/

In a world that often feels loud, rushed, and disconnected, kindness can seem like a lost art - and good manners, an outdated concept. But what if these "small things" are actually the foundation of a more connected, compassionate world? In this heartfelt episode, I’m diving into why kindness and manners still matter. From everyday interactions at the school gate to the way we speak to ourselves and our children, we explore how simple words and actions can shape relationships, self-worth, and even the future our kids grow up in. 💛 Why kindness is not weakness 💛 How manners model respect for both kids and adults 💛 Real-life moments that reminded me how powerful small gestures can be 💛 Easy ways to bring more kindness into your daily life (without adding pressure) Whether you’re a mum trying to raise kind little humans or just someone who wants to feel more grounded in a fast-paced world, this episode will leave you with a full heart. Because kindness isn’t just nice. It’s necessary. With love, Ivana & Yaw SUPPORT THIS PODCAST AND BECOME A PATREON https://buymeacoffee.com/thepokus/membership CONNECT WITH US: Website: www.thepokus.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550640089772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/life_in_black__and__white/

In this episode, we chat with the lovely Oona Alexander - a parenting mentor known for her pressure-free and empowering approach to navigating challenging behaviour in children. Oona has helped countless families raise happy kids and feel good about themselves as parents. Her magic? She doesn’t force a one-size-fits-all method. Instead, she listens, adapts to each family’s lifestyle, and supports parents in a way that actually works for them. We talk about: Why traditional discipline often backfires How to handle tricky behaviour without shouting or shame The power of connection over correction Practical tips you can try today to create more peace at home Whether you’re deep in the toddler years or navigating older kids, there’s something in this episode for every parent. We promise you’ll leave feeling hearand a little lighter! With love, Ivana & Yaw SUPPORT THIS PODCAST AND BECOME A PATREON https://buymeacoffee.com/thepokus/membership CONNECT WITH OONA: Website: https://oonaalexander.co.uk/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/oona.alexander Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/parentingspecialist/ Download Oona's FREE parenting guide: https://oonaalexander.co.uk/solve-the-struggle-with-your-kids/ CONNECT WITH US: Website: www.thepokus.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550640089772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/life_in_black__and__white/

Ever wonder why men and women seem to think so differently? You're not alone - and you're going to love this conversation. In this episode, we dive into the fascinating (and often hilarious) differences in the way men and women process thoughts, emotions, and everyday situations. From communication quirks to misunderstandings in relationships, we unpack it all with honesty, laughter, and plenty of "aha!" moments. You’ll hear us laugh, pause, and nod along as we explore how these differences can either drive us crazy - or bring us closer together, depending on how we approach them. Whether you're in a long-term relationship, dating, or just curious about how the other side ticks, this episode is for you. We truly loved recording this one, and we hope it makes you feel seen, understood, and maybe even a little less alone in the chaos of love and connection. Big love, Ivana & Yaw xx SUPPORT THIS PODCAST AND BECOME A PATREON https://buymeacoffee.com/thepokus/membership CONNECT WITH US: Website: www.thepokus.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550640089772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/life_in_black__and__white/

Divorce can feel like the end of everything you knew - painful, terrifying, and utterly overwhelming. But what if it could also be the beginning of something beautiful? In this deeply moving episode, we speak with Farhana, the UK's only Divorce Doula, whose own journey through heartbreak and fear led her to a life of strength, purpose, and peace. Farhana shares how she now walks alongside others in their darkest moments, offering the emotional support, practical tools, and unwavering belief that healing is not just possible, it’s inevitable. We explore the raw realities of divorce, the silent struggles so many face, and how to reclaim your power even when the future feels uncertain. Farhana’s story is one of hope, resilience, and courage - and her message will stay with you long after the episode ends. If you are in the midst of loss, or simply need a reminder that you are stronger than you think, this episode will speak to your heart. SUPPORT THIS PODCAST https://buymeacoffee.com/thepokus/membership CONNECT WITH FARHANA: Website: https://mydivorcedoula.org.uk/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/rebirthyouthroughbreakup Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/farhana_mydivorcedoula LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/farhana-hussain-144193192/ CONNECT WITH US: Website: www.thepokus.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550640089772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/life_in_black__and__white/

Do you ever feel like your past still shapes the way you think, react, or feel today? Maybe it’s that deep-seated fear of not being good enough or an overwhelming sense of guilt or anxiety that you can’t quite explain. What if the key to healing wasn’t just moving forward—but going back and reparenting the child within you? In this heart-opening episode, we sit down with Jenny Barber, a certified tapping practitioner, to explore the inner child—what it truly is, how it silently influences our lives, and how we can begin to heal the wounds we’ve carried for far too long. Tapping is often used for anxiety, but Jenny shows how it can go even deeper—helping to heal childhood wounds and release emotional pain. She also shares how we, as parents, can break the cycle, creating a more emotionally secure future for our kids Love, Ivana & Yaw SUPPORT OUR PODCAST 🙂👇 https://buymeacoffee.com/thepokus/membership CONNECT WITH JENNY: Website: www.thetappingwitch.com TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@jennythetappingwitch Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jennythetappingwitch/ CONNECT WITH US: Website: www.thepokus.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550640089772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/life_in_black__and__white/ We can't wait to hear from you! xx