Life in Black & White (and all the shades in between)

Today we’re joined by the wonderful Florence Ọlájídé, a woman whose story will stay with you long after you hear it. Born in Britain to Nigerian parents, Florence was privately fostered by a white family before being taken to Nigeria by her birth parents. Her journey is one of incredible strength - overcoming loss, loneliness, poverty, and maltreatment, while fighting fiercely for her education and identity. It’s a moving and deeply inspiring story about resilience, courage, and finding your true voice through hardship. Florence’s memoir, Coconut, has received glowing reviews and was featured on the Graham Norton Book Club. Her second book, The Stolen Daughter, is a powerful historical novel inspired by a family secret - the story of one of her ancestors forced into slavery. Florence was also shortlisted for Penguin Random House’s WriteNow London workshop in 2018. This conversation will remind you that no matter where you come from or what you’ve faced, your story matters - and it’s never too late to rewrite it with courage and heart. With love, Ivana & Yaw xx BUY US A COFFEE & SUPPORT THIS PODCAST https://buymeacoffee.com/thepokus/membership CONNECT WITH FLORENCE: https://www.facebook.com/florenceolajideauthor/ https://www.instagram.com/flora.jide/ https://twitter.com/florenceolajide GET FLORENCE'S BOOKS: The stolen daughter: https://bit.ly/3LlYeWU Coconut: https://bit.ly/3Wcu3I2 FOLLOW LIFE IN BLACK & WHITE ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550640089772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_pokus/

In today's episode of Life in Black & White, we sit down with mindset coach Hayden Griffiths for an honest, no-filter chat about what it really takes to transform your life. Hayden opens up about his journey from battling addiction to helping others rewrite their own stories. Together, we dive into how childhood experiences shape who we become, why mindset is everything, and how embracing vulnerability can unlock real success. We also tackle big questions, like why self-development should be taught in schools and how understanding your own mind can uncover the genius within you. This conversation is raw, inspiring, and a must-listen for anyone ready to break free from old patterns and start living with purpose. Tune in and discover how your mindset could be the key to the life you’ve been searching for. Love, Ivana & Yaw

How much of what we believe is truly ours—and how much is “soft-wired” into our brains? In this eye-opening conversation, the Hypnotherapist Dipti Tait dives into the science of soft wiring, showing how our beliefs and biases shape the way we perceive others. We explore why identity and culture can be so divisive, the primitive roots of snap judgments, and how these hidden patterns influence our relationships. More importantly, Dipti shares practical insights on how communication, curiosity, and thoughtful debate can help us bridge divides, update old beliefs, and foster deeper understanding. Tune in to learn how small shifts in thinking can lead to bigger connections—and a more open-minded, empathetic way of navigating the world. SUPPORT THIS PODCAST AND BECOME A PATREON https://buymeacoffee.com/thepokus/membership CONNECT WITH DIPTI TAIT: https://diptitait.com/ CONNECT WITH US: Website: www.thepokus.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550640089772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/life_in_black__and__white/

Join us on this inspiring episode of Life in Black & White as we sit down with Charlotte Kelly, the talented voice behind the iconic band Soul to Soul. From navigating the highs and lows of the music industry to embracing the power of songwriting, Charlotte opens up about the challenges of fame, the role of cultural identity in her artistry, and the realities of performing live. Beyond music, she shares her honest experiences with confidence, mental health, and personal growth, offering heartfelt advice for aspiring artists and young dreamers alike. Plus, Charlotte reflects on the joys and lessons of parenting, giving listeners a glimpse into how life off-stage shapes her journey. Tune in for an intimate conversation packed with insight, inspiration, and practical guidance for anyone chasing their dreams while staying true to themselves. SUPPORT THIS PODCAST AND BECOME A PATREON https://buymeacoffee.com/thepokus/membership CONNECT WITH US: Website: www.thepokus.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550640089772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/life_in_black__and__white/

What happens when love meets culture? In this episode of Life in Black and White, we chat with Dr. Melissa Cancel about how cultural differences shape marriage, communication, and even parenting. From individualism vs collectivism to those “lost in translation” moments in everyday conversations, we explore why understanding (not judging) each other’s backgrounds is so important. Expect honest stories, practical tips, and plenty of encouragement for couples navigating cultural diversity. With love, Ivana & Yaw SUPPORT THIS PODCAST AND BECOME A PATREON https://buymeacoffee.com/thepokus/membership CONNECT WITH US: Website: www.thepokus.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550640089772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/life_in_black__and__white/

What happens when your child’s race isn’t your own? In this raw and eye-opening episode, we explore the unspoken challenges of parenting across racial lines. Joined by Sarah Wood, a fellow white mum raising mixed-race children, we dive into the complex realities of navigating identity, having tough conversations, and confronting the biases that society (and sometimes we) hold. This isn’t about having all the answers - it’s about learning, listening, and showing up for our children in ways that truly honour who they are. Whether you’re parenting across race or simply want to raise more empathetic, aware kids, this episode will challenge what you think you know - and leave you with powerful takeaways you can start using today. With love, Ivana & Yaw SUPPORT THIS PODCAST AND BECOME A PATREON https://buymeacoffee.com/thepokus/membership CONNECT WITH US: Website: www.thepokus.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550640089772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/life_in_black__and__white/

Ever wondered what it’s really like raising kids to speak more than one language? In this episode, we’re diving into our personal journey of raising bilingual children. Our boys speak English and Slovak, and we’re also introducing them to Ghanaian Chi. We’re sharing: The little known benefits of bilingual parenting The challenges no one talks about Practical ways to keep multiple languages alive at home How language shapes our kids’ identity and confidence Whether you're just getting started or deep into the bilingual journey, you’ll walk away with fresh insights, relatable stories, and real tips you can actually use. Tune in, and let’s explore the beautiful chaos of multilingual parenting together. Love, Ivana & Yaw xx SUPPORT THIS PODCAST AND BECOME A PATREON https://buymeacoffee.com/thepokus/membership CONNECT WITH US: Website: www.thepokus.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550640089772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/life_in_black__and__white/

Can you go through life thinking you're kind, open-minded, and still discover a racist within you at 40? In this bold and honest conversation, we sit down with our friend and psychophonetics counsellor Natalia Cervinkova, who bravely shares her personal story of uncovering deep-seated racial bias within herself: something she didn’t even realise was there. We talk about: Why this is more common than people think How racism and unconscious bias works The difference between being “not racist” and being anti-racist And most importantly - what needs to change if we want to raise better humans and build a better world together This episode isn’t about blame - it’s about courage, self-reflection, and change. It’s raw. It’s uncomfortable. And it’s exactly the kind of conversation we all need to have. With love, Ivaana & Yaw SUPPORT THIS PODCAST AND BECOME A PATREON https://buymeacoffee.com/thepokus/membership CONNECT WITH US: Website: www.thepokus.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550640089772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/life_in_black__and__white/

Meet Dennis and Tessa: The Team Helping People Feel Brave and Confident in Front of the Camera In this episode, we’re chatting with Dennis and Tessa from Dstnct Art Media - a creative duo who use photography to help people feel good about themselves. Dennis is an award-winning photographer with over 7 years of experience. But he doesn’t just take pretty pictures - he helps people see how amazing they really are. His photoshoots boost confidence, fight negative self-image, and inspire people to chase their dreams. Tessa used to be an indoor skydiving coach. Yep, flying in the air kind of thing! She loved helping people face their fears and do something they didn’t think they could do. Now, she brings that same energy into her work with Dennis - helping people feel calm, strong, and confident during their photoshoots. She even trained with a top supermodel, Coco Rocha, to become the best at what she does. Together, Dennis and Tessa make photoshoots more than just pictures - they’re powerful, life-changing moments. Tune in to hear how they help everyday people feel bold, beautiful, and ready to take on the world—one photo at a time. Love, Ivana & Yaw SUPPORT THIS PODCAST AND BECOME A PATREON https://buymeacoffee.com/thepokus/membership CONNECT WITH DENNIS AND TESSA: https://www.dstnctartmedia.com/ CONNECT WITH US: Website: www.thepokus.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550640089772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/life_in_black__and__white/

In this episode, we chat with the lovely Oona Alexander - a parenting mentor known for her gentle, pressure-free approach to navigating challenging behaviour in children. Oona has helped countless families raise happy kids and feel good about themselves as parents. Her magic? She doesn’t force a one-size-fits-all method. Instead, she listens, adapts to each family’s lifestyle, and supports parents in a way that actually works for them. We talk about: Why traditional discipline often backfires How to handle tricky behaviour without shouting or shame The power of connection over correction Practical tips you can try today to create more peace at home Whether you’re deep in the toddler years or navigating older kids, there’s something in this episode for every parent. We promise you’ll leave feeling hearand a little lighter! With love, Ivana & Yaw SUPPORT THIS PODCAST https://buymeacoffee.com/thepokus/membership CONNECT WITH OONA: Website: https://oonaalexander.co.uk/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/oona.alexander Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/parentingspecialist/ Download Oona's FREE guide: http://www.oonaalexander.co.uk/solve-the-struggle-with-your-kids CONNECT WITH US: Website: www.thepokus.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550640089772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/life_in_black__and__white/

Back by popular demand! We’re resharing one of our most-loved episodes – a raw, fun, and honest dive into how differently men and women think. This one had us laughing, pausing, and nodding a lot. If you're in a relationship, figuring one out, or just curious about how the other side ticks, this one’s for you. Big love, Ivana & Yaw xx SUPPORT THIS PODCAST https://buymeacoffee.com/thepokus/membership CONNECT WITH US: Website: www.thepokus.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550640089772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/life_in_black__and__white/

Divorce can feel like the end of everything you knew - painful, terrifying, and utterly overwhelming. But what if it could also be the beginning of something beautiful? In this deeply moving episode, we speak with Farhana, the UK's only Divorce Doula, whose own journey through heartbreak and fear led her to a life of strength, purpose, and peace. Farhana shares how she now walks alongside others in their darkest moments, offering the emotional support, practical tools, and unwavering belief that healing is not just possible, it’s inevitable. We explore the raw realities of divorce, the silent struggles so many face, and how to reclaim your power even when the future feels uncertain. Farhana’s story is one of hope, resilience, and courage - and her message will stay with you long after the episode ends. If you are in the midst of loss, or simply need a reminder that you are stronger than you think, this episode will speak to your heart. SUPPORT THIS PODCAST https://buymeacoffee.com/thepokus/membership CONNECT WITH FARHANA: Website: https://mydivorcedoula.org.uk/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/rebirthyouthroughbreakup Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/farhana_mydivorcedoula LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/farhana-hussain-144193192/ CONNECT WITH US: Website: https://lifeinblackandwhite-thepokus.podbean.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550640089772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_pokus/ Email: ivana.poku@gmail.com

Do you ever feel like your past still shapes the way you think, react, or feel today? Maybe it’s that deep-seated fear of not being good enough or an overwhelming sense of guilt or anxiety that you can’t quite explain. What if the key to healing wasn’t just moving forward—but going back and reparenting the child within you? In this heart-opening episode, we sit down with Jenny Barber, a certified tapping practitioner, to explore the inner child—what it truly is, how it silently influences our lives, and how we can begin to heal the wounds we’ve carried for far too long. Tapping is often used for anxiety, but Jenny shows how it can go even deeper—helping to heal childhood wounds and release emotional pain. She also shares how we, as parents, can break the cycle, creating a more emotionally secure future for our kids Love, Ivana & Yaw SUPPORT OUR PODCAST 🙂👇 https://buymeacoffee.com/thepokus/membership CONNECT WITH JENNY: Website: www.thetappingwitch.com TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@jennythetappingwitch Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jennythetappingwitch/ CONNECT WITH US: Website: https://lifeinblackandwhite-thepokus.podbean.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550640089772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_pokus/ Email: ivana.poku@gmail.com We can't wait to hear from you! xx

Ever thought about changing careers but felt too scared to take the leap? In this episode, we chat with Julia Boggio, bestselling romance writer, who has made not one, not two, but three major career changes! She shares her journey, the challenges she faced, and practical advice for anyone considering a career switch. We also dive into: ✅ The biggest fears around changing careers (and how to overcome them) ✅ The pros and cons of making a big career shift ✅ Answers to the most commonly asked questions about career changes Bonus: Julia once appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Show, dancing with Patrick Swayze! Of course, we HAD to ask her all about that moment too! Tune in now for another inspiring and insightful conversation! HELPS US GROW https://buymeacoffee.com/thepokus/membership CONNECT WITH JULIA: Website: https://juliaboggio.com/ Books: https://juliaboggio.com/books Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/juliaboggio/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julia-boggio-b91b163/ CONNECT WITH US: Website: https://lifeinblackandwhite-thepokus.podbean.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550640089772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_pokus/ Email: ivana.poku@gmail.com

Let’s be real - life is BUSY, and somehow, taking care of our health has become more complicated than ever. In this episode, we’re joined by the lovely Chloe Myers, founder of #TheBePlan, to chat about why so many of us are struggling with our physical health these days - and more importantly, what we can actually do about it. Chloe opens up about her own journey and how #TheBePlan is helping people make simple, realistic changes that work with their lifestyle (not against it). Think easy wellness habits, whole food nutrition, and the kind of support that makes you feel like you’ve finally got this. We cover: Why it feels so hard to stay healthy in today’s world The small things you can start doing right now to feel better How to create balance when you’re constantly juggling life Why self-care isn’t selfish, it’s essential! If you’ve been feeling a bit off, run-down, or like your health has taken a back seat, this chat will leave you feeling uplifted, motivated, and ready to take those first doable steps towards feeling your best again. Grab a cuppa and join us - you’ll love this one! HELP US GROW https://buymeacoffee.com/thepokus/membership CONNECT WITH CHLOE: Website: https://thebeplan.info/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chloemyersthebeplan/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chloemyers_ig/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/chloemyers.thebeplan CONNECT WITH US: Website: https://lifeinblackandwhite-thepokus.podbean.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550640089772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_pokus/ Email: ivana.poku@gmail.com

In today’s world, loneliness is on the rise—and many families simply can’t be there for their loved ones as much as they want to. That’s where companionship steps in. In this heart-led episode, we talk to Marlyn Baxter, director of Ageless Companions, about why companionship is quickly becoming the future of care. It’s not just about keeping someone company—it’s about creating joy, sparking connection, and giving families peace of mind. We dive into what inspired Marlyn to start this meaningful work, the power of presence, and how her service is reshaping support for older adults and their carers alike. Tune in to discover why moments of genuine connection are more vital than ever—and how they’re changing lives. HELPS US GROW https://buymeacoffee.com/thepokus/membership CONNECT WITH AGELESS COMPANIONS: Website: https://agelesscompanionsltd.co.uk/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/companions2019 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/agelesscompanionsltd/ CONNECT WITH US: Website: https://lifeinblackandwhite-thepokus.podbean.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550640089772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_pokus/ Email: ivana.poku@gmail.com

Ever feel like stress and tension get stored in your body, no matter how much you try to relax? In this episode, we're diving into TRE (Tension & Trauma Releasing Exercises)—a powerful yet simple way to help your body shake off stress, literally! Join us as we chat with Sylvia Tillmann about how TRE works, why it's a game-changer for mental and physical well-being, and how you can try it yourself. Whether you're a busy parent, struggling with anxiety, or just curious about new ways to feel better, this is one you won’t want to miss! Tune in now and let’s talk about shaking off stress and tension for good. Love, Ivana & Yaw HELP THIS PODCAST GROW! 🙂👇 https://buymeacoffee.com/thepokus/membership CONNECT WITH SYLVIA: Website: https://www.tremendoustre.co.uk/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/learntre/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/WhatIsTheAlternative LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sylvia-tillmann/ CONNECT WITH US: Website: https://lifeinblackandwhite-thepokus.podbean.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550640089772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_pokus/ Email: ivana.poku@gmail.com

In today's episode, we chat with Zuzana Kanuchova, a woman in her 40s who's living life on her own terms—single, without children, and embracing this path. Zuzana shares her story of choosing a different route from the usual ‘get a job, get married, have kids’ pattern, and how that decision has shaped her life. We dive into whether she's happy with her choices and what message she has for others who might be in a similar position. Tune in for an inspiring conversation about living authentically and creating your own definition of happiness! Love, Ivana & Yaw SUPPORT OUR PODCAST 🙂👇 https://buymeacoffee.com/thepokus/membership CONNECT WITH ZUZANA: https://www.linkedin.com/in/zuzana-ka%C5%88uchov%C3%A1/ CONNECT WITH US: Website: https://lifeinblackandwhite-thepokus.podbean.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550640089772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_pokus/ Email: ivana.poku@gmail.com We can't wait to hear from you! xx

Courage isn’t just about facing fears—it’s about stepping into the life you truly want. In this powerful episode, we dive deep into what courage really means, why it’s essential for growth, and most importantly, how to cultivate it in your own life. We’re joined by coach Simon, who shares expert insights on breaking through fear, building confidence, and embracing challenges with a brave heart. Whether you're chasing a dream, navigating uncertainty, or simply trying to find your inner strength, this episode will leave you feeling empowered and ready to take action. Tune in now and discover how courage can transform your life! With love, Ivana & Yaw SUPPORT OUR PODCAST 🙂👇 https://buymeacoffee.com/thepokus/membership CONNECT WITH SIMON: Website: https://www.deeperchange.academy/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sipowers/ CONNECT WITH US: Website: https://lifeinblackandwhite-thepokus.podbean.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550640089772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_pokus/ Email: ivana.poku@gmail.com We can't wait to hear from you! xx

In today's episode, we dive deep into the world of neurodivergence with Talia Zamora, a mum of two boys and a Neurodivergent Business and Family Coach. Talia shares her personal journey of raising neurodivergent children and how her experiences have shaped her coaching approach. She talks about the unique challenges that neurodivergent families face and offers valuable insights on how to support children in a way that honors their differences. Talia also discusses the importance of creating an inclusive environment and how women from neurodivergent families can build confidence, achieve their goals, and redefine success on their own terms. Tune in for practical advice and heartfelt stories that will inspire and empower families navigating the neurodivergent journey! With love, Ivana & Yaw IF YOU WANT TO SUPPORT THIS PODCAST, CLICK HERE 🙂👇 https://buymeacoffee.com/thepokus/membership CONNECT WITH TALIA: Website: https://www.taliazamora.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TaliaZamoraBusinessandFamilyCoach LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/taliazamora/ CONNECT WITH US: Website: https://lifeinblackandwhite-thepokus.podbean.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550640089772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_pokus/ Email: ivana.poku@gmail.com