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Jen Lumanlan always thought infancy would be the hardest part of parenting. Now she has a toddler and finds a whole new set of tools are needed, there are hundreds of books to read, and academic research to uncover that would otherwise never see the light of day. Join her on her journey to get a Masters in Psychology focusing on Child Development, as she researches topics of interest to parents of toddlers and preschoolers from all angles, and suggests tools parents can use to help kids thrive - and make their own lives a bit easier in the process. Like Janet Lansbury's respectful approach to parenting? Appreciate the value of scientific research, but don't have time to read it all? Then you'll love Your Parenting Mojo. More information and references for each show are at www.YourParentingMojo.com. Subscribe there and get a free newsletter compiling relevant research on the weeks I don't publish a podcast episode!

Jen Lumanlan always thought infancy would be the hardest part of parenting. Now she has a toddler and finds a whole new set of tools are needed, there are hundreds of books to read, and academic research to uncover that would otherwise never see the light of day. Join her on her journey to get a Masters in Psychology focusing on Child Development, as she researches topics of interest to parents of toddlers and preschoolers from all angles, and suggests tools parents can use to help kids thrive - and make their own lives a bit easier in the process. Like Janet Lansbury's respectful approach to parenting? Appreciate the value of scientific research, but don't have time to read it all? Then you'll love Your Parenting Mojo. More information and references for each show are at www.YourParentingMojo.com. Subscribe there and get a free newsletter compiling relevant research on the weeks I don't publish a podcast episode!
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Jen Lumanlan always thought infancy would be the hardest part of parenting. Now she has a toddler and finds a whole new set of tools are needed, there are hundreds of books to read, and academic research to uncover that would otherwise never see the light of day. Join her on her journey to get a Masters in Psychology focusing on Child Development, as she researches topics of interest to parents of toddlers and preschoolers from all angles, and suggests tools parents can use to help kids thrive - and make their own lives a bit easier in the process. Like Janet Lansbury's respectful approach to parenting? Appreciate the value of scientific research, but don't have time to read it all? Then you'll love Your Parenting Mojo. More information and references for each show are at www.YourParentingMojo.com. Subscribe there and get a free newsletter compiling relevant research on the weeks I don't publish a podcast episode!

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072: What to do when your child refuses to go to school

9/16/2018
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We're a couple of weeks into the new school year by now and I hope that for most of you the morning drop-offs have gotten a bit easier than they were in the beginning. But some of you may still be struggling with a child who doesn't want to go to school, who resists you leaving at drop-0ff time, and who might be suddenly suffering from stomachaches and headaches (particularly on Sunday nights or weekday mornings) that had not previously been a problem. Today's interview with Dr. Jonathan...

Duration:01:01:25

071: Is the 30 Million Word Gap Real: Part II

9/2/2018
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This episode revisits the concept of the 30 Million Word Gap concept, which we first covered in an interview with Dr. Doug Sperry a few weeks back. After she heard that I was going to talk with Dr. Sperry, Dr. Roberta Golinkoff - with whom we discussed her book Becoming Brilliant almost two years ago now - asked to come back on to present a rebuttal. We're going to learn a lot more about the importance of child-directed speech! This episode serves two purposes: it helps us to understand...

Duration:01:03:23

071: How your child can benefit from intergenerational relationships

8/19/2018
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We recently did an episode on the impact of intergenerational trauma, which was about how the ways we were parented, and even the ways our parents were parented, ends up influencing the relationship we have with our children - and often not in a positive way. But there's another side to this story: relationships between the generations can actually have enormously beneficial effects on children's lives, even when these are affected by issues like radically different parenting styles, and...

Duration:00:53:01

070: Why isn’t my child grateful?

8/5/2018
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"I spent the whole morning painting and doing origami and felting projects with my daughter - and not only did she not say "thank you," but she refused to help clean up!" (I actually said this myself this morning:-)) "We took our son to Disneyland and went on every ride he wanted to go on except one, which was closed, and he spent the rest of the trip whining about how the whole trip was ruined because he didn't get to go on that one ride." (I hope I never have to say this one...I'm not sure...

Duration:00:45:59

069: Reducing the impact of intergenerational trauma

7/22/2018
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Ever get red-hot angry at your child for no reason, or out of proportion to the incident that provoked it? Have you wondered why this happens? The way we were parented has a profound impact on us - it's pretty easy to 'fall into' parenting the way you were parented yourself unless you specifically examine your relationship with your parent(s) and how it impacts the way you parent your own child. This can be great if you have a positive relationship with your parents, but for those of us with...

Duration:00:57:16

068: Do I HAVE to pretend play with my child?

7/8/2018
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Pretty regularly I see posts in online parenting groups saying "My child loves to pretend, and they always want me to participate. I dare not tell anyone else, but I CAN'T STAND PRETEND PLAY. What should I do?" In this final (unless something else catches my interest!) episode in our extended series on play, Dr. Ansley Gilpin of the University of Alabama helps us to do a deep dive into what children learn from pretend play, and specifically what they learn from fantasy play, which is pretend...

Duration:00:49:06

067: Does the Marshmallow Test tell us anything useful?

6/24/2018
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The Marshmallow Test is one of the most famous experiments in Psychology: Dr. Walter Mischel and his colleagues presented a preschooler with a marshmallow. The child was told that the researcher had to leave the room for a period of time and the child could either wait until the researcher returned and have two marshmallows, or if the child couldn’t wait, they could call the researcher back by ringing a bell and just have one marshmallow. The idea was to figure how delayed gratification...

Duration:00:51:34

066: Is the 30 Million Word Gap real?

6/10/2018
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You all know that on the show we pretty much steer clear of the clickbait articles that try to convince you that something is wrong with your child, in favor of getting a balanced view of the overall body of literature on a topic. But every once in a while a study comes along and I think "we really MUST learn more about that, even though it muddies the water a bit and leads us more toward confusion than a clear picture." This is one of those studies. We'll learn about the original Hart &...

Duration:01:04:57

065: Why storytelling is so important for our children

6/3/2018
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"Storytelling? I'm already reading books to my child - isn't that enough?" Your child DOES get a lot out of reading books (which is why we've done a several episodes on that already, including What children learn from reading books, How to read with your child, and Did you already miss the boat on teaching your toddler how to read?. But it turns out that storytelling benefits our relationship with our child in ways that reading books really can't, because you're looking at the book rather...

Duration:00:38:34

064: Compassion (and how to help your child develop it)

5/20/2018
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"Social and Emotional Learning" is all the rage in school these days, along with claims that it can help children to manage their emotions, make responsible decisions, as well as improve academic outcomes. But what if those programs don't go nearly far enough? What if we could support our child in developing a sense of compassion that acts as a moral compass to not only display compassion toward others, but also to pursue those things in life that have been demonstrated - through research -...

Duration:00:55:08

063: How family storytelling can help you to develop closer relationships and overcome struggles

5/6/2018
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"How much can there really be to learn about storytelling?" I thought when I started on this mini-series. It turns out that there's actually quite a lot to learn, and that family storytelling can be a particularly useful tool for parents. We're all trying to figure out how to transmit our values to our children, and storytelling can be quite an effective way of doing this. Further, storytelling can be a really valuable way to support children in overcoming traumatic experiences. In this...

Duration:00:27:19

062: Why we need to let our kids need to take more risks

4/22/2018
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We should protect our children from risks, right? Isn't that our job as parents? This episode comes mid-way in an extended series on the importance of play for children. The first episode in the series was an interview with Dr. Stuart Brown of the National Institute for Play on the value of play, both for children and for adults. Then we followed with a look at the research on the benefits of outdoor play, followed by an interview with Dr. Scott Sampson who wrote the book How to Raise a Wild...

Duration:00:38:45

061: Can Growth Mindset live up to the hype?

4/9/2018
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Growth mindset is everywhere these days. Dr. Carol Dweck's research showing that a growth mindset can help children to overcome academic struggles is being incorporated to curriculum planning across the U.S. and in many other countries, and school districts in California are even using it to evaluate schools' performance. I get ads popping up in my Facebook feed every day for a journal that helps children to develop a growth mindset, and judging from the comments those folks selling the...

Duration:00:44:33

060: What do children learn from reading books?

3/24/2018
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We’ve done a couple of episodes on reading by now; episode 3 (which seems so long ago!) asked whether you might have missed the boat on teaching your toddler to read. Of course, we know that you’ve only missed the boat on that if you think that sitting your child in front of a video so they can recite the words they see without really understanding them counts as "reading." Much more recently in episode 48 we talked with Dr. Laura Froyen about the benefits of shared reading with your child...

Duration:00:53:56

059: How to Raise a Wild Child

3/11/2018
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So you listened to episode 58 and you're convinced of the benefits of outdoor play. But you're a grown-up. You don't play outdoors. And you don't know anything about nature. How can you possibly get started in helping your child to play outdoors more? There are a number of books out there on getting outside with children - some arguably more well-known than this one, but I have to say that Dr. Scott Sampson's book How to Raise a Wild Child is the BEST book I've seen on this topic because it...

Duration:00:44:30

058: What are the benefits of outdoor play?

2/25/2018
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This is the second in our extended series of episodes on children's play. We kicked off last week with a look at the benefits of play in general for children, and now we're going to take a more specific look at the benefits of outdoor play. Really, if someone could bottle up and sell outdoor play they'd make a killing, because it's hard to imagine something children can do that benefits them more than this. This episode also tees up our conversation, which will be an interview with Dr. Scott...

Duration:00:33:39

057: What is the value of play?

2/11/2018
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Does play really matter? Do children get anything out of it? Or is it just messing around; time that could be better spent preparing our children for success in life? Today we talk with Dr. Stuart Brown, founder of the National Institute for Play, about the benefits of play for both children and - I was surprised to find - adults. This is the first in a series of episodes on play - lots more to come on outdoor play (and how to raise kids who love being outdoors), risky play, and imaginative...

Duration:00:44:42

056: Beyond “You’re OK!”: Modeling Emotion Regulation

1/28/2018
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I hear a huge crash. It’s my favorite glass vase. I hear “I didn’t mean to hurt it, Mommy! It just fell!” as I run full-pelt from the other end of the house. It was a family heirloom passed down by my grandmother. I’ve asked her not to touch it a hundred times. I am beyond furious. “Please don’t be mad, Mommy. It was an accident.” I clench my teeth. “I’m not mad.” _______________________________________________________ What does my daughter learn from this exchange? How does my own emotional...

Duration:00:12:55

055: Raising Your Spirited Child

1/12/2018
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Is your child 'spirited'? Even if they aren't spirited all the time, do they have spirited moments? You know exactly what to do in those moments, right? No? Well then we have a treat for you today. Dr. Mary Sheedy Kurcinka, author of Raising Your Spirited Child, walks us through the ins and outs of her book on the same topic. Best yet, we do the interview as a consult with a parent, Kathryn, who has read and loved the book, but struggled with implementing the ideas. Warning: we spend quite a...

Duration:00:52:20

054: Three reasons not to say “You’re OK!”

12/31/2017
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“I hear parents on the playground all the time saying “You’re OK!” after their child falls over. Often it does make the child stop crying…but doesn’t it invalidate the child’s feelings?” It turns out that this question is related to a skill that psychologists call emotional regulation, and learning how to regulate emotions is one of the most important tasks of childhood. This to-the-point episode is a trial of a shorter form of episode after listeners told me this show is "very dense." It's...

Duration:00:14:52