Anger Secrets

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. Ever feel like you and your partner are speaking different languages, even when you're in the same room? In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs reveals why active listening is the missing link in most relationships, and how mastering it can bring you closer than ever before. If you’re tired of arguments that go nowhere, this episode offers a better way forward. Key Takeaways: -Active listening means being fully present, not planning your reply while your partner is still talking. -It’s not about winning the conversation; it’s about making your partner feel truly heard and understood. -Four core skills: Minimal encouragers, open-ended questions, reflecting and positive feedback can transform the way you communicate. -Simple changes in how you listen can open up emotional connection and reduce defensiveness. -Practicing these skills builds trust, de-escalates conflict and strengthens your relationship at its core. Links referenced in this episode: angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycle angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. After an anger outburst, the silence can feel unbearable. In this heartfelt episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs reveals the one essential ingredient most people overlook when trying to change: a powerful personal “why.” Through real stories from men and women just like you, this episode will help you uncover the deeper reason you want to control your anger, and help you finally break free from the cycle for good. Key Takeaways: -Change only lasts when it’s driven by a deeper purpose, not just guilt or willpower. -Real-life stories show that many people want to control their anger for their families, their children, or their sense of self-respect. -Identifying your personal “why” gives you strength in tough moments and keeps you committed to growth. -Anger can destroy relationships. But with a clear reason to change, you can rebuild connection and trust. -Your “why” must be stronger than your anger to truly transform your life. Links referenced in this episode: angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management angersecrets.com/training — Breaking The Anger Cycle angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. Have you ever found yourself in an argument before you even realise what triggered it? In this powerful episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs explores how defensiveness quietly damages relationships, and how you can stop it. Learn why your instinct to defend yourself often masks deeper fears, and how choosing connection over combat can transform your relationship. Key Takeaways: -Defensiveness often stems from the fear that we're to blame, even when we don’t want to admit it. -The key to change is awareness: notice your emotional triggers before reacting. -Taking even partial responsibility can immediately diffuse tension and build trust. -Empathy transforms conflict: put yourself in your partner’s shoes to respond with care, not combat. -Honest, calm communication breaks the cycle of blame and opens the door to healing. -Change won’t happen overnight, but with intention and practice, defensiveness can be replaced by understanding. Links referenced in this episode: angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycle angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. Have you ever said, “You made me so mad”? In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs unpacks the hidden cost of blaming others for your anger—and the freedom that comes when you take full responsibility for your actions. If you’re ready to step out of blame, stop the cycle of conflict and take back control of your emotions, this episode offers the insights and tools you need to begin. Key Takeaways: -Blaming others for your anger gives away your power and keeps you stuck in reactive, unhealthy patterns. -Taking responsibility for your actions means owning your choices, not justifying or excusing hurtful behavior. -Four common reasons people avoid responsibility include fear of consequences, family conditioning, entitlement and shame. -Real change begins with acknowledging your actions, accepting the consequences, and committing to a plan for change. -Anger management programs provide essential skills for managing emotions in real time—something therapy often doesn’t cover. -Taking ownership of your anger is a courageous step that leads to more respectful, loving, and empowered relationships. Links referenced in this episode: angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycle angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. When therapy didn’t work, Katie feared she’d never get control of her anger. Her relationship was falling apart, her parenting was suffering and she was terrified of repeating the cycle of anger she grew up with. In this inspiring episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs interviews Katie about her powerful journey—how she broke free from past patterns, what finally helped and how her family life has transformed as a result. Key Takeaways: -Therapy often focuses on the past, but anger needs to be managed in the present with clear, practical tools. -Katie’s turning point came through the Complete Anger Management System, where she learned how to recognise her early warning signs of anger and take real-time action. -Using the Tension Scale, Positive Self-Talk and the Anger Diary, Katie was able to reflect, grow and change how she responds to stress. -Change is not always linear, but with commitment and support, progress is absolutely possible—even in a few short weeks. -Healing generational anger is possible and Katie’s story shows that with the right tools, you can create a better future for yourself and your children. -Supportive, relationship-focused anger management can lead to real breakthroughs for both individuals and couples. Links referenced in this episode: angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycle angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. Have you ever felt the urge to prove you're right—especially in the heat of an argument? In this powerful episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares a personal story and a lesson from a truck-driving client that will change the way you think about conflict. Discover why letting go of the need to be right isn’t weakness—it’s one of the most powerful things you can do to protect your relationships and your peace of mind. Key Takeaways: -The need to “be right” often fuels conflict, putting your relationships and emotional health at risk. -Trying to prove someone else wrong rarely creates connection—it usually leads to resentment and defensiveness. -Seeking to understand instead of arguing your point helps de-escalate tension and fosters mutual respect. -Letting go of being right doesn’t mean giving in—it means valuing the relationship over the need to win. -Even small changes in behavior, like giving others space, can have a big impact on your calmness and safety, both emotionally and physically. -When you release the urge to control others, you gain true control over yourself. Links referenced in this episode: angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycle angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. Arguments that start small often end in deep emotional disconnect. In this heartfelt episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs explores how seemingly minor issues can spiral into major conflicts—and how you can change that. He shares three simple but powerful tips that will help you manage conflict better, communicate more effectively and reconnect with your partner in a meaningful way. Key Takeaways: -Conflict doesn’t have to damage your relationship—when handled well, it can actually bring you closer together. -Trying to “win” arguments only leads to both partners losing; the goal is mutual understanding, not victory. -Active listening and asking thoughtful, open-ended questions can break patterns of miscommunication and foster deeper connection. -Small, intentional acts of appreciation and quality time go a long way in keeping a relationship strong and loving. -Making your relationship a priority—despite life’s busyness—helps build emotional intimacy and trust. -Even couples on the brink of separation can rebuild connection with the right tools and willingness to grow together. Links referenced in this episode: angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycle angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. Have you ever felt like your anger comes out of nowhere—one moment you're fine, and the next you're exploding? In this insightful episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs breaks down the real reasons why you might think you get angry so quickly. By understanding what's truly happening beneath the surface, you can learn to spot the early warning signs of anger, break unhelpful habits and regain control before things spiral. Key Takeaways: -Anger rarely comes out of nowhere—there are always warning signs, and learning to spot them is the first step to staying in control. -The Tension Scale is a simple but powerful tool to help you track your stress before it boils over into anger. -Anger can become a learned habit, especially if you grew up around frequent outbursts—but habits can be unlearned with awareness and effort. -Your brain works incredibly fast, processing emotions and past experiences in the background, which can make anger feel sudden even when it’s not. -Reframing your thoughts in moments of conflict can help you choose understanding over outburst, even in high-stress situations. -With practice, patience and the right tools, you can replace reactive anger with calm, respectful responses that strengthen your relationships. Links referenced in this episode: angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycle angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. Have you ever said something in anger that you instantly regretted? In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares six powerful, practical tips to help you stay calm and in control—even in the heat of the moment. Whether you're struggling with sudden outbursts or lingering tension, these strategies can help you shift from reactive to reflective, strengthening your relationships and your emotional well-being. Key Takeaways: -Anger is a habit, not your identity—and habits can be changed with the right tools and awareness. -Your thoughts—not the events themselves—are what trigger your anger, which means you have the power to shift your emotional response. -The Tension Scale helps you recognise how close you are to an angry outburst so you can act before things escalate. -Expressing anger aggressively or abusively never helps—it often worsens the situation and damages trust in your relationships. -Simple relaxation techniques, like deep breathing and reframing your thoughts, can calm your body and mind in moments of stress. -Taking a Time-Out—done respectfully and with clear agreements—can prevent conflict from spiralling out of control and protect your connection with others. Links referenced in this episode: angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycle angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. What if one moment of clarity could save your relationship? In this heartfelt episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs sits down with Paul, a single father whose anger was slowly pushing away the people he loved most. When his partner said life felt like “walking on eggshells,” Paul knew something had to change — and in just a few weeks, everything began to shift. This is a story of courage, self-awareness and the power of choosing a different path. Key Takeaways: -Constant stress and anger can make home life feel unsafe — even when there’s no physical violence -Awareness is the first step to change; noticing the signs in your body helps you stop before you snap -Small changes like pausing and using calm language (“That hurt”) can radically improve communication and connection -Many people grew up in angry households and inherited poor emotional tools — but you can learn better ones -Real progress doesn’t happen overnight. It’s gradual, honest, and deeply worth it. -When someone says, “I have my best friend back,” that’s the real power of anger management Links referenced in this episode: angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Days angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. Are you telling yourself you'll deal with your anger someday? In this compassionate yet eye-opening episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs breaks down the five most common reasons people avoid anger management — and why those reasons might be keeping you stuck. If you're ready to stop making excuses and start changing your life, this episode is your wake-up call. Key Takeaways: -Believing “anger management won’t work” often stems from past disappointments — but the right tools can lead to real, lasting change. -You don’t need years of therapy — just a few minutes a day with the right strategies can start to shift your reactions in as little as 21 days. -Anger management is personal — and modern programs, like Alastair’s, combine universal principles with one-on-one support and coaching. -The true cost of not dealing with your anger isn’t financial — it’s measured in broken trust, damaged relationships and missed opportunities. -Even if you’re not tech-savvy, online anger programs are designed to be simple and accessible, with support every step of the way. Links referenced in this episode: angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Days angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. Have you ever poured a drink to unwind, only to find yourself angrier than before? In this eye-opening episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs explores the often misunderstood connection between alcohol and anger. Whether you're a casual drinker or someone who struggles with outbursts after a night out, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and a practical path forward. Key Takeaways: -Alcohol lowers your inhibitions and impairs judgment, making you more likely to lash out in anger -If you already have unresolved anger, alcohol can act like gasoline on a fire — intensifying aggression and conflict -Drinking doesn’t cause abusive behavior, but it does magnify emotions that are already beneath the surface. Recognising your personal limits and planning ahead can help prevent alcohol-fueled arguments -If drinking regularly leads to regret or outbursts, it may be time to reconsider its role in your life. -True change comes from looking inward — at the beliefs, habits and triggers that drive your anger — not just cutting back on alcohol. Links referenced in this episode: angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Days angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. What if 30 years of anger could be transformed in just five weeks? In this powerful episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares the remarkable story of Raymond, a man whose volatile temper nearly ended his marriage — until one turning point helped him change everything. If you've ever felt like your anger is out of control, Raymond's journey will give you hope, practical tools, and a reminder that it’s never too late to change. Key Takeaways: -Even deeply rooted anger can be overcome — Raymond went from yelling five or six times a day to raising his voice just once in five weeks -Understanding that you can control your anger, rather than it controlling you, is a game-changer -Simple strategies like taking a Time-Out and not reacting immediately can prevent arguments and rebuild connection -Anger often has deep roots in past experiences, but healing and change are still possible at any stage of life -Online anger management programs offer the flexibility and repetition needed to reinforce lasting change -When you manage your anger, the effects ripple through your entire life — from your marriage to your workplace to your sense of peace. Links referenced in this episode: angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Days angersecrets.com/course — Enrol in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. Have you ever promised yourself you'd stay calm—only to find anger rising before you even realised it? In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares three powerful, easy-to-apply steps that will help you recognise, defuse and communicate through anger before it takes control. If you're tired of the regret that follows angry outbursts, these practical tools can help you shift from reaction to intention, and start creating more peaceful moments in your relationships. Key Takeaways: -Anger often builds slowly—learning to recognise the early warning signs gives you time to respond instead of react. -Your thoughts fuel your emotions; changing your self-talk helps reduce anger and increase perspective. -Clear, respectful communication is key to resolving tension and building deeper trust in relationships. -Expressing feelings with calm honesty can open the door to connection instead of conflict. -These three steps—awareness, reframing and communication—can be practiced daily and lead to lasting emotional change. Links referenced in this episode: angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Days angersecrets.com/course — Enrol in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. This episode dives into one of the most difficult but essential topics: understanding how abuse and violence may show up in your life—and how to end the cycle. Anger expert Alastair Duhs speaks with clarity and compassion about behaviors that cause harm, whether through words, control, silence or physical actions. If you’ve ever questioned the impact of your anger or wondered if your actions have crossed a line, this episode offers a courageous path forward. Key Takeaways: -Abuse isn't just physical—it can be verbal, emotional, psychological or sexual, and all forms can leave deep, lasting harm. -If you’ve used anger to intimidate, control or manipulate, it’s time to look honestly at your behavior and its impact. -Alastair explains why abuse and violence are the same—because both hurt and control others, often in invisible but devastating ways. -Taking responsibility for your actions is not a sign of weakness—it’s a brave step toward healing and change. -True transformation begins with clarity, accountability and the willingness to break old patterns. -Help is available, and no matter what your past has looked like, it’s never too late to build respectful, safe, and loving relationships. Links referenced in this episode: angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Days angersecrets.com/course — Enrol in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. Arguments in relationships often start small but quickly spiral into deep disconnection. In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs reveals why conflict escalates with the people we love most—and how to stop it before it starts. With three powerful, practical techniques, Alastair guides you to shift from reaction to response, helping you transform your most difficult moments into opportunities for connection. Key Takeaways: -Anger is one of the biggest obstacles to resolving conflict—but even small changes can prevent regretful blow-ups. -Trying to “win” an argument often sacrifices what truly matters: your connection and mutual respect. -Shifting your mindset from defending your position to understanding your partner creates space for healing and collaboration. -The “Magic Six Hours” technique helps couples intentionally invest in their relationship, building trust before conflict arises. -Conflict is inevitable—but how you handle it determines whether it brings you closer or drives you apart. -Support is available if you feel stuck—you're not alone, and real change is possible. Links referenced in this episode: angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Days angersecrets.com/course — Enrol in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. In this heartfelt episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs explores the emotional toll of anger—not just on the people around you, but on your own sense of self. If you’ve ever whispered an apology and still felt the weight of guilt, this episode will help you understand why anger shows up and how you can begin to break free from its grip. Real stories of transformation offer hope, showing that lasting change begins with awareness and a simple, courageous first step. Key Takeaways: -Anger is natural—but when left unchecked, it can damage trust, create fear and leave emotional scars. -Even well-intended apologies can feel empty if the deeper patterns of anger aren't addressed. -Children are especially vulnerable to the emotional impact of anger, which can affect their confidence and sense of safety. -Stories from real people like Nathan and Peter show that no matter your past, healing and change are absolutely possible. -Breaking the anger cycle doesn’t require perfection—just awareness, reflection and the willingness to respond differently. -You can begin to rebuild trust and connection with the people you love starting today. Links referenced in this episode: angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Days angersecrets.com/course — Enrol in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. In this deeply moving episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares the powerful transformation of Cameron—a husband, father and successful businessman—who took brave steps to change the legacy of anger in his family. After a painful outburst left his daughter afraid, Cameron realised he was repeating patterns he swore he’d never pass on. What followed was a journey of self-awareness, emotional growth and quiet victories that began with enrolling in The Complete Anger Management System. Key Takeaways: -Recognising anger patterns—especially those modeled in childhood—is the first step toward breaking them. -Emotional abuse doesn’t require physical violence; creating an unstable environment through tone and reaction can be just as harmful. -Small, conscious shifts—like responding with calm empathy instead of anger—can rebuild trust in relationships. -Early warning signs of anger offer an opportunity to pause and choose a new response before things escalate. -Cameron’s story highlights the power of self-awareness, reflection and learning new emotional skills—even later in life. -Online anger management allows for flexible, private and personalised growth at your own pace. Links referenced in this episode: angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Days angersecrets.com/course — Enrol in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. In this powerful episode of The Anger Secrets Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs explores a transformative truth: anger doesn’t start in the world around you—it starts within. Through vivid storytelling and real client experiences, Alastair reveals how your thoughts shape your emotions and how shifting your perspective can bring calm, clarity and deeper connection to your life. Key Takeaways: -Anger is not caused by external events, but by your thoughts and interpretations of those events. -Recognising your role in creating anger gives you the power to choose a different response. -Even deeply ingrained patterns of blame and frustration can be changed with awareness and practice. -Real-life examples from Alastair’s clients show how changing thought patterns leads to stronger relationships and more peace. -A simple but powerful question—“What am I thinking about this?”—can help interrupt the cycle of anger in any moment. -With support and commitment, you can rewrite your story and live with more pride and emotional freedom. Links referenced in this episode: angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Days angersecrets.com/course — Enrol in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. Have you ever snapped at someone you love — and immediately regretted it? In today’s powerful episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs reveals what he considers the missing key to managing anger. This simple yet essential shift has helped thousands of people break the cycle of outbursts, regret, and disconnection — and it could do the same for you. Key Takeaways: Links referenced in this episode: For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/. To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.