Purposely Thriving Podcast

The topic of "Dating" is widely discussed, with much advice on how, when, and whom to date. Following divorce, you frequently get asked "When are you doing to date again?" that brings much pressure to just "put yourself back out there" however, is that the best approach? It's important to recognized that re-entering the dating scene post divorce is different. This involves the people you meet, yourself and even your life experiences. From being too vulnerable, dating similar people to even relationship bouncing can lead to more of an emotional setback and hinder your journey towards going forward. On this week's podcast join me in a conversation with Sade Curry, a Dating Coach for Divorced Women as we discuss her divorce after two decades of marriage, her journey to meeting her husband over a two-year dating period, the importance of your healing journey, and green flags on when you're ready to date. Follow Sade Curry on Instagram: @sadecurry Sade's Website: https://sadecurry.com/ Grab Sade's free "50 Green Flags of a Healthy Partner" by clicking here https://pages.datingafterdivorceacademy.com/is-he-the-one Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - ⁠http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com⁠. Also available on Amazon: ⁠https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn⁠ Follow me on IG - ⁠⁠@iamtonyacarter ⁠⁠Follow me on Facebook - ⁠⁠Tonya Carter⁠⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠⁠Tonya Carter⁠

Motherhood is a multifaceted journey that encompasses a variety of roles, experiences, and emotions. Striking a balance between family, work, and personal needs can be quite demanding. So, what happens when divorce is added to the mix? For mothers facing this change, their children's well-being and their ability to parent effectively in this new situation become major concerns. Worries about not doing enough, overextending themselves, and comparing themselves to other parents can lead to mom guilt, resulting in overwhelm, doubt, increased stress, fatigue, burnout, and exhaustion. Oftentimes this area of motherhood goes unchallenged, causing us to not redefine what motherhood can be and look like. We adopt beliefs and outdated narratives that can keep us stuck in old patterns that may no longer serve us or our children. This can hinder our ability to grow as parents and individuals. By questioning these assumptions and embracing a new, more authentic approach to motherhood, we can better navigate this journey and create a nurturing environment that supports both our children and ourselves. Tune in to this week's podcast as I share my top six insights on motherhood and tips for becoming the best you can be. Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter ⁠Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter ⁠Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

Navigating the divorce process can significantly affect your mental health. The legal proceedings, financial changes, shifts in living situations, custody and co-parenting arrangements, lifestyle adjustments, and changes in social circles can all contribute to persistent stress and impact a person's quality of life for a period of time. This can trigger anxiety, depression, and potentially harmful coping strategies, which can intensify mental health issues and hinder your progress. In this week's podcast, join me as I talk about the potential mental health challenges during a divorce and explore four ways to protect your mental health during this time. Playback episode #112 "How Can I Be Grateful In A Season of Uncertainty" by clicking here Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

It's natural to want something better for your life, but what happens when you're faced with the challenge of pursuing it? Do you make excuses for why you can't achieve it? Do you focus on what's wrong out of fear for yourself? Do you convince yourself not to try? Do you withdraw as a means of self-protection?Do you resist embracing change? Do you revert to familiar patterns? Following a divorce, self-sabotage can become a real concern. Making better choices, nurturing healthier relationships, forgiving yourself, embracing change, and seizing new opportunities can feel unattainable when your life takes an unexpected turn. You may feel powerless and uncertain about the future, leading you to stay stuck in a past chapter of your life instead of embracing a new path forward. How can someone break free from self-sabotage? Join me on this week's podcast as I discuss ways you may be self-sabotaging your life after a divorce or breakup, along with four steps to help you move forward. Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter ⁠Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

"Moving On" can be much harder than it sounds, specifically when dissolving a partnership of 31 years. The process to disentangle yourself can be emotionally and logistically challenging, compounded by the weight of shared history and intertwined lives. After spending the majority of your adult life with someone, picking up the pieces and creating a new one can seem dauting, overwhelming and uncertain. On this week's podcast, join me as I answer a question from an email I received from someone in regards to her partner leaving after being together for 31 years. Throughout the episode, I address three pivotal questions essential for her journey forward, offering guidance to navigate the complexities of her situation and facilitate her path to healing and growth. Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠⁠Tonya Carter ⁠⁠Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠⁠Tonya Carter⁠

When you hear things such as: You could be left to wonder "What does that mean?", "What does that look like for me?" And when you're unsure on what it means, it becomes ignored due to the lack of understanding on why this is necessary and how it can enhance your quality of life. Although everyone's journey of doing their own inner work looks different, there are similar activities that "inner work" involves for anyone. On this week's podcast, join me as I discuss what "inner work" is, ways to identify if you need to start your inner work, as well as three main activities that apply to anyone. Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - ⁠http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com⁠. Also available on Amazon: ⁠https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn⁠ Follow me on IG - ⁠⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠⁠Tonya Carter⁠⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠⁠Tonya Carter⁠

As women, no matter the role or position you're called to fill...we celebrate you! From our mothers, our sisters, our leaders, our educators, those in healthcare, to entrepreneurship, athletics, politics, etc...your significance is acknowledged! The month of March is dedicated to honoring the bravery and contributions of women, spanning from the past to the present, who have paved the way for today's generation of women. Understanding the history of recognizing the contributions that women have made encourages our current and future generations to mirror that success in a way to blaze their own trails. In this week's podcast episode, join me in a conversation about forging your own path and explore three crucial factors on how to initiate this journey. Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

Women are known for wearing multiple hats. From motherhood, marriage, working, taking care of the home, and being there for others selflessly. However, what gets lost in all of those roles is herself. When an life-altering event such as divorce takes place, the need to advocate for your well-being takes more of a back seat. The default setting shifts to autopilot, and survival mode becomes the new normal. While conventional wisdom advises self-care, the question arises: How is that possible when managing so many roles in your life? In this week's podcast episode, join me for a conversation with one of my past clients as we discuss the importance of advocating for herself after the dissolution of her marriage of 13 years, raising four children (one with autism), how to effectively manage a challenging custody battle, being a caregiver and working dual jobs. To apply for the T.H.R.I.V.E program, please click here! Classes start 3/12! Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

What often goes unnoticed is the significance of sharing core values when making the decision to get married. While people are frequently advised on various aspects, such as societal expectations, fear of loneliness, or the notion that one's identity is solely defined by relationship status, the crucial factor of alignment in values tends to be overlooked. These misleading influences can lead individuals to engage in relationships that lack the essential foundation of shared values. Consequently, people may find themselves compromising their authentic selves and entering into marriages that feel forced or incompatible. Recognizing and addressing the importance of aligning values can help individuals make more informed and fulfilling decisions about their partnerships, fostering relationships built on mutual understanding, respect, and shared aspirations. In this week's podcast episode, join me for a conversation with one of my past clients as we discuss the dissolution of her marriage of two years, marital misalignment, struggles with people-pleasing, and the impact of perfectionism. To apply for the T.H.R.I.V.E program, please click here! Classes start 3/12! Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

One of the most challenging yet essential pieces of wisdom when navigating life after a marriage or relationship is envisioning a brighter future for yourself and your children. Divorces and breakups reshape the trajectory of your life, disrupting carefully laid plans. However, it is crucial to recognize that these changes, though difficult, offer opportunities for personal growth and the creation of new possibilities. Join me on this week's podcast, as I discuss three key insights about the transformative effects of living beyond divorce and the positive impact it can have on your life. ⁠Register for my five day Beyond The Breakup Workshop that starts February 26th by clicking here! Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

The perception of "being single" is frequently clouded by misconceptions, including judgment, pity, and the misguided belief that there must be something wrong with an individual in this status. Society commonly presents being in a relationship as the ultimate accomplishment to validate one's significance in the world. This is a poor representation of many individuals who are single however feels "less than" because they are. What often goes unnoticed is the importance of embracing the unique aspects of oneself and recognizing the sacredness of this phase of life. On this week's podcast episode, join me as I discuss how to shift your perspective on being single. I'll be offering four pieces of advice to navigate and appreciate this unique season of life. Register for my five day Beyond The Breakup Workshop by clicking here: Checkout last week's episode: "Navigating Valentine's Day After a Divorce/Breakup: 5 Helpful Tips" Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

Valentine's Day can pose challenges for those who have gone through a divorce or breakup. It can be a reminder of the memories you've shared, a shift in your relationship status, to even feelings of perceived failure accompanied by emotions of disappointment, sadness and loneliness. In this week's podcast episode, join me as I discuss five helpful tips on managing Valentine's Day after a divorce/breakup. Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter ⁠Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

Research reveals that a significant 70% of divorces are instigated by women. While common discussions often attribute this trend to notions of women not needing a partner or seeking independence, the underlying data suggests a more nuanced reality. The decision for women to end their marriages is complex and varies from person to person, yet there are shared reasons that resonate across the spectrum. In this week's podcast episode, I'll discuss the top four reasons why women often take the lead in initiating divorces, going beyond surface-level explanations. Join me as we explore the multifaceted dynamics influencing women's decisions to dissolve their marriages more frequently than men. Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter ⁠Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

Contrary to what many may believe, your divorce is a big deal. It's not about dwelling in shame, guilt, or a sense of failure, but rather acknowledging the profound impact it can have on various aspects of your life. Some downplay its significance while other remain in so much criticism that there's no room to identify what steps can be taken next. It's pivotal to navigate this phase with self-awareness and openness to understand the path forward for personal growth and recovery. On this week's podcast, join me as I present three questions to determine whether you need a strategy and a eye-opening exercise that can help you gain clarity on your situation. Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

2024 is here and although January is known for new beginnings, it's also the closing of many marriages/relationships. Yet, what often goes unnoticed is the crucial importance of actively progressing forward and leaving the past behind. The dissolution of a marriage or relationship can significantly impact your psychological well-being, potentially influencing your self-perception, emotional state, and mental health. Once the decision is made that it's in the best interest of both parties to part ways, the key is the intentional effort to move forward. Join me on this week's podcast episode as I provide three essential questions for you to contemplate, ensuring that you navigate the path forward after a divorce or breakup this year. Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

The holiday season after divorce can bring much added stress and overwhelm for both parents and children. Moving away from established traditions towards new arrangements can trigger a range of emotions including loneliness, sadness and anxiety. A primary concern for parents remains centered on safeguarding their children's welfare. Providing reassurance, emphasizing emotional stability, and preserving a sense of normalcy are paramount during this period of transition. Although it may seem unrealistic, it's crucial to remember that small steps can make a significant difference. On this week's podcast episode, join me as I give five essential tips for parents, guiding them through a smoother journey during the holiday season. Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Checkout podcast Episode #135- Breaking Free: Overcoming Guilt About Your Divorce/Breakup - 5 Essential Strategies Follow me on IG - @iamtonyacarter Follow me on Facebook - Tonya Carter Subscribe to my YouTube - Tonya Carter

The attitude that a person should just be grateful even in difficult times can become burdensome due to the current conditions that they're in. When a person is "forcing" themselves to just be grateful it strips away the genuineness of it's authentic purpose. Does this indicate to not be grateful? of course not! However, in displaying gratitude even in seasons of difficulty, the trade off shouldn't be to avoid what's going on around you and within you. On this week's podcast, join me as I give three things you must do to cultivate authentic gratitude without emotional avoidance. Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠⁠⁠iamtonyacarter⁠⁠⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠⁠⁠Tonya Carter⁠⁠⁠ Follow me on YouTube - ⁠⁠⁠Tonya Carter

Feeling worn out? Not just physically, but mentally, emotionally, and spiritually drained? Divorces or breakups often usher in a level of exhaustion that leaves you functioning on autopilot, unable to fully engage with life and struggling with hope for the future. You might experience a sense of emptiness, your thoughts and emotions scattered, grappling with uncertainty about what lies ahead. This weariness can manifest as mental fatigue, emotional numbness, and spiritual depletion. Over time, it might evolve into depression, isolation, bitterness, cynicism, a negative outlook, and even regret. In this week's podcast episode, Join me as I share three essential steps to transition out of this period of exhaustion and uncertainty. Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠⁠iamtonyacarter⁠⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠⁠Tonya Carter⁠⁠ Follow me on YouTube - ⁠⁠Tonya Carter

Experiencing a sense of failure and the belief that you've disappointed your loved ones is a common emotional response during a divorce. However, when these feelings become a lasting, permanent emotional state, it can develop a unhealthy self-perception about an individual resulting in self-sabotage, fear, a loss of trust, and even a pervasive pessimistic outlook. Persisting in this state of perceived failure can drain your motivation and result in a feeling of defeat, making it challenging to move forward. It's crucial to acknowledge that while feeling like a failure is a natural initial response, allowing it to persist can harm your self-image and set you on a downward spiral of self-criticism, shame, guilt, and a victim mindset. On this weeks podcast, join me as I discuss three important reminders to move past this feeling of failure. Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Checkout podcast Episode #117 - The Skill of Self-Forgiveness...Why It's Needed & 4 Things You Must Do To Start! Follow me on IG - ⁠iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Follow me on YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter

Reentering the dating scene is a familiar concept for those going through the divorce process. Yet, putting yourself out there encompasses more than just meeting new people; it's fundamentally about your internal state. The process of divorce inevitably transforms you but the key question is how it transforms you? Despite the societal and cultural emphasis on dating, when considering post-divorce dating, the focus should be on approaching it with intentionality rather than allowing pain to steer the course. On this week's podcast, join me as I was interviewed with Sade Curry, host of Dating After Divorce Podcast as we discuss taking a pause on dating to discern, how your core values impact how you date, and the importance of how you internalied your singleness as it influences your dating decisions. Follow Sade on IG: @sadecurry Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Click here to submit any topics that you're interested in hearing on the podcast Follow me on IG - iamtonyacarter Follow me on Facebook - Tonya Carter Follow me on YouTube - Tonya Carter