Men Speaking Out

We would love to hear your feedback on any episode. Episode 84 Men seek peace and desire to be loved, appreciated, and respected. As men, it is important to ensure that our associations contribute positively to our value, happiness, focus, and emotional well-being. Join Bazz, Rekardi and Shawn discuss this sensitive topic and hopefully listeners you'll take note or two (smile). Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

We would love to hear your feedback on any episode. "Family needs to be at the center of our culture" Quoted by Dr. George C. Fraser Think about that statement for a second? Is family the center of your life. We (black marriages / families) are in a state of crisis. African American relationships have experienced various challenges and triumphs over time, with only one-third of African American couples being married. Why is that? Listen in as my guest (Foxy) and I speak on this subject and maybe you'll get a nugget or two of information. Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

We would love to hear your feedback on any episode. Communication is huge, we all know that. Or I would think most of us do. Nevertheless, are we effective when we communicate? Especially if we are creating dating profiles online. Are we showing our authentic self? Are we talking "to" or "with" each other? Are we presenting ourselves in true form? Well join me (Bazz) with dating profile expert and author James Newberry of https://datingprofilesecrets.com/ as we tap into the world of virtually communicating with our dating profiles. Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

In March 2022 at the 94th annual academy awards, Will Smith got upset with Chris Rock by when he (Chris) made a "GI Jane 2" joke about his (Will) wife Jada. Will Smith was laughing at first until he saw the facial expression of his wife who was not pleased with all about the joke. At that time Will went on stage and assaulted/smacked Chris Rock in front of the entire world. Questions to ask are: Well, at least we know one thing that came out of this...Will Smith could not take a joke but Chris Rock could take a punch. Listen in as we (DBazz, JD, Meach, Bazz, and Iman Saahir) speak on this crazy event. You can also see it on youtube - here. Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

Superbowl 2022 weekend the fellas and I just doing our normal annual Orlando trip as we have done in the past. It's a great opportunity for us to fellowship, hang out, laugh, smoke cigars, drink and little and just practice "Men Self Care". Think about the term "Men Self Care" for a second...as a man are you getting that? WE ALL NEED IT! Life is stressful enough with the day-to-day challenges we face. It's always nice to be able to get away from time to time and reconnect with your dear friends in an environment that is conducive to your mental well-being. Well, I won't spoil the podcast anymore notes here - just listen to Eric, JD, Cory, and myself (Bazz) as we tap into the importance of Men Self Care. Another great podcast! Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

What is an Audible? An audible is when a change is made from the original plan. In life, we should have the ability to adapt or change a plan on the fly if needed. For you football fans out there – when a QB comes to the line of scrimmage to run a play, he looks at the defensive and may or may not call an audible if he needs to change the play. This gives the QB a chance to be successful and either set his team up for another series of downs or a touchdown. Audibles can be called with family, friends, careers, and even relationships. Nevertheless, we do this all the time with life…but the questions are: When and how often? So listen in with BJ, Big E, John, JD and myself (Bazz) as we talk through some of the audibles we've made in our lifetime and their impacts. Watch it on YouTube here. Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

In this podcast, I am joined with my dear friend Tanisha Harris as we discuss the subject "Iceberg Success". Well simply put...the “Iceberg Theory of Success” helps us to realize that every famous or extraordinary successful person had to invest a lot of effort and work until this person achieved his/her goals. We only see the top layer or the final result. But it takes much more than just showing up or using your words in order to be successful. In order to be successful, it takes hard work, sacrifice, good habits, failure, persistence, being goal-oriented, focus, and risk. And even if this formula doesn’t pan out as perfectly planned, it is your job to get up and keep trying. The original quote that sums it up by Jeffrey Fry is “Success is like an iceberg. Nobody sees the work that comprises it.” Another great discussion - I even learned a few things. Also, you can watch it on YouTube. Bazz Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

Let’s Talk about Relationships. This has a significant impact on American culture. Relationships drive a billion-dollar retail industry (holidays, birthdays – and the big one Valentine’s Day). But are relationships a necessity or a Luxury? Well, listen as JD, VirgoBlu, Big E, and myself (Bazz) discuss the differences between each two. We talk about the necessities in a relationship such as: IntimacyRomanceFriendshipMOSTTransparencyBeing Fully PresentWe also discuss luxuries which include: TimeMoneyResourcesRest / Peace of MindLastly, we cover "the fine print" of relationships...something we never look for when we get involved with someone. Check it out! This podcast is also on YouTube. Click here to view! Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

Listen in as Joe Dilla (JD) and myself (Bazz) - speak on the subject of "Marry Before You Carry" The data doesn't lie... Over the last few decades, marriage has been a declining institution among all Americans and this decline is even more evident in the Black community. In 2019 only 30% of African Americans were married compared to 48% of all Americans. Half or 50% of African Americans have never been married compared to 34% of all Americans. https://blackdemographics.com/households/marriage-in-black-america/ Currently, 74% of black women are having babies out of wedlock. https://singlemotherguide.com/single-mother-statistics/ In 2020, there were about 4.25 million Black families in the United States with a single mother. This is an increase from 1990 levels when there were about 3.4 million Black families with a single mother. https://www.statista.com/statistics/252847/number-of-children-living-with-a-single-mother-or-single-father/ WE REALLY NEED TO FIGURE THIS OUT! Bazz Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

Shortly after my mom passed on Oct 30, 2019, I lost my dad almost exactly 8 months later on July 29, 2020. He is missed and loved by many! My father was an honorable man of principle and he created a legacy for our family by changing our last name from Wallace to Shabazz. He was a husband, father, brother, son, cousin, uncle, and friend. He also was a minister with the Nation of Islam and a proud army veteran. I invite you to listen in on this podcast as we capture some of the memorable times growing up with him and some of the life lessons we still carry today. Lastly, we recorded this podcast on this birthday (September 23, 2021). He would have been 85 years old at this time. So in closing We love and miss you dad - please listen from heaven as your sons (Dawud, Nasir, and myself) give you honor with this podcast. Al Salamu Alaykum Brother John 59X. Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

The Real Truth Behind Your SMV (Sexual Market Place Value). When you go to an auto dealer to purchase a car – what are some of the features you look for when researching? Most people look for the Year, make, model, mileage, performance, comfort, features, maintenance frequency, etc. You have the sales price, then you have the bluebook value. Well...we do the same thing when it comes to people. We all have an SMV, but most of us don't understand what that really is. So I employ you to listen in on this podcast with Mika and Bazz and learn something. Maybe your value isn't what you think it is. SMV Questions for the listeners: How do women view attraction to a man? Youth/Status/Resources/Stability How do men view attraction on a woman? Looks/Youth/WombNow that's real! Lastly, we reference an SMV chart on this podcast which is located here. Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

In this world we live in everyone has a value. Some people place value on their career, items, experiences but not the same value on family. In this podcast, I ask my guests the million-dollar question "Is Your Price Tag Too High?" The responses are very interesting. So listen in as my guests (Eric, Mika, Boz, Kim, and LaTonia) share their views on relationships, a value of a person, and do modern women know how the value of a traditional man? Bazz Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

What is it? – Critical Race Theory is an academic concept that’s more than 40 years old. The core idea is that race is a social construct and that racism is not just a product of individual bias or prejudice, but is also systemic and embedded in our legal, political, economic, and sociological society that states patterns of racism are ingrained in all of these modern institutions. In other words, It is a framework Listen as we (Abdul, Kyla, James, BJ, Tory, and Bazz) answer the following questions about CRT: Great conversation! This was also streamed live on YouTube, you can watch it here! Stay tuned for Part II. Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

First Corinthians 13:4-7 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. In a study done by – psychcentral.com in 2019 on 36 children on the effects of parental rejection (lack of love) on their child. All 36 studies reported the same conclusion. Children who felt rejected/unloved by their parents were more anxious, insecure, hostile, and aggressive towards others in comparison to those who weren’t. Listen in as we (Bazz, Boz, and Streeter) discuss the following below: Lastly – we discuss solutions on getting away from the enslaved feeling of inadequacy then you step into a realm of ways to learn to feel, give and receive real authentic love. This episode was also streamed live on YouTube. Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

Legally just because you marry someone does not mean you have any legal rights to the child immediately upon that marriage… But even with all that said - you do not have the same rights as the biological parent. You’re a second-class parent, but providing first-class benefits. Is that fair? Parents deal with: Listen with Bazz, Breeze, and Isiah as we speak on this topic from a child and parent point of view, and check out this same podcast streamed on youtube - https://youtu.be/_bt_1XKqfRY. Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

Children are a blessing. They bring joy, love, value, and even education to our lives. We want to give them the best, we want them to not make the same mistakes we did growing up. So, we try to help them navigate life – helping them learn along the way. In some cases, they make us much better parents and people in general. Now on the other hand some children – not most but some can be disrespectful, ungrateful, entitled, and even narcissistic. They exemplify behaviors such as: Thank youJoin us as we (Eric, Breeze, Joe, Steve, and Bazz) talk about how we handle these family challenges and give recommendations on how to handle them. Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

This is the final episode of the Men of Fire Series - Part 3: What's Your Motivation To Keep Us Happy? This episode is also in video format on YouTube at: https://youtu.be/4YA836lNepc In the beginning, we focus so much of our attention on the person we are dating/married to that we can sometimes make you lose focus of ourselves. Then, on the other hand, certain life events take place that can make you lose sight of your other half as well. Hey, I get it – life happens, but when we get off course, but why do we stay off? I call that “Getting attention but not maintaining retention”. So that’s basically what this podcast topic is about – how do we work on retaining each other in the relationship? It sums up all the challenges we face in relationships with this issue. Now don't get me wrong we got tons of more to discuss but for now, check out this podcast and hear what we (Joe, Eric, John, Tory, and Bazz) have to share. You might find it a bit interesting. This episode is also in video format on YouTube at: https://youtu.be/4YA836lNepc Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

This is Part 2 of 3 of our Men of Fire Series titled: Defining a High-Value Man Most women want a good quality man, but does that include the traits of an HVM? Everyone's opinion is different and could be quite subjective. Nevertheless, we (Latonia, Big Boz, and Bazz) discuss in this podcast just that. So check out some of the traits we researched online (www.lovequestcoaching.com ) and see if any of those apply to you. MSO figured to be considered an HVM, they should have at least 9 out of the 12 listed below. These traits consist of: not all high-earning men are high-value mencan’t be High-Value and homelessAlso, this podcast is streamed on YouTube. You can check out the video at: https://youtu.be/ZNBIvvq89_A Stay tuned for part 3. Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

Welcome to part one of a three-part series titled - Men on Fire: What Am I Asking A Man To do? This episode is also on YouTube - https://youtu.be/UUdICdnI_PI Ladies think about that for a second. Men are considered to be the priest, protectors, and providers of the home. If he is doing all of this, what more do you want out of him? So my questions for the men are: For the women: order of familyWell, join us in part one of this series as we (Eric, Big O, Izzy, Tamika, Fatty, Corey, and Bazz) discuss some of the bullet points above. Also, this is our very first streaming episode. You can see it here https://youtu.be/UUdICdnI_PI. We want to apologize in advance - you can't hear Bazz that well...first-time mic mistakes. MSO promises the next one will be on point. Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

This is Part III which will conclude our “cheating podcast series". Make sure you check out the previous two episodes (34 - Why Do People Cheat In Relationships & 35 - Sex, Sandwiches, and Silence). So what does "Shining In The Background” mean – simply put it's main chick vs side chick. The main chick is more visible to the public, official, and has priority in the relationship, but the side chick is always "shining in the background". Most men don't, and some men do have side chicks, why? What is the benefit of having a woman on the side? Is it greed? Is it conquering the challenge? Or is it because the side chick fills a void that's missing from the relationship? Well, listen in as I have a conversation with my guests (Tonia, Joe, and Tamika) on this topic. Also, on this episode, I have my first co-host (Tamika from the Hustle Goddess Blog Site) and she leads the discussion on the current controversy around Derrick Jaxn and the negative impact he's made on himself, and the disappointment of his fan base with the current actions of his cheating behavior. Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com