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Episode 45 - A McCain Sized Hole In The World

9/2/2018
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The world lost a light when Sen. McCain passed. Yet I know, and those closest to him will say the same, that he would want his life to be an example for others. A life of duty, honor, integrity, service, and humility.

Episode 44 - A Man Falls Into A Hole

8/5/2018
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Searching for your true calling that way often leads you to doing what you believe you "should" be doing. Instead of being your authentic self, you find yourself forcing yourself to fit within a proscribed box dictated by culture and society. Instead, your calling is that thing that tickles the back of your head. That passion project that brings you joy. That 'spiritual practice' of sorts that tunes you into something greater than yourself. Your calling is to be the friend who jumps in the...

Duration:00:18:30

Episode 43 - Are You Living As Pavlov Or The Dog?

7/8/2018
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We all know the story of Pavlov and the dog. Pavlov rings the bell, the dog gets a treat, and eventually the bell rings and the dog automatically starts salivating. Unfortunately that’s how we live most of our lives, automatically “salivating” whenever the “bell rings”.

Duration:00:15:24

Episode 42 - Pursuing Happiness Can Ruin Your Self Esteem

6/3/2018
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Does pursuing happiness wreck our self esteem? Is being unhappy in our DNA? How does one find true and lasting happiness?

Duration:00:19:29

Episode 41 - On The Wars Within Yourself

5/27/2018
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There are two wars we fight with ourselves. 1) The war between who we think we are and who we really are. 2) The war with those thoughts/beliefs/patterns we need to overcome if we want to move forward in life.

Duration:00:19:15

Episode 40 - On Losing My Shit

4/30/2018
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Last night I lost my shit, broke one of my favorite glasses, and then broke down in tears. And I'm ok with that.

Episode 39 - Guts, Balls, And Brains

4/22/2018
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When you're listening to your gut, and have the balls to follow through, you're living in alignment with who you are at your core and are a powerful, influential, fulfilled, happy man. When you allow your brains to retreat from the tough choices or allow them to silence your intuition, you're destined for a unhappiness.

Duration:00:22:40

Episode 38 - On Men, Space, And A Sense Of Belonging

4/16/2018
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In this episode I discuss the need for us men to accept that we appreciate beauty and to not forfeit our voice on creating a home environment. A home should reflect the aesthetic of both partners and us men need to be comfortable in expressing what we like, what we don't like, what we find beautiful, and how having space within the home is necessary to feeling like we belong there.

Duration:00:39:03

Episode 37 - On @TonyRobbins, #MeToo, And White Male Privilege

4/9/2018
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In the last 72 hours, a video of Tony Robbins disparaging the Me Too movement as a way for women to seek "significance" through anger and their status as victims has blown up on the internet. Tony blew it. He not only blew it as a coach, a trainer, and a personal development icon, he blew it as a man and as a victim of abuse himself.

Duration:00:14:09

Episode 36 - Four Wheel Alignment With Dmitry Kondratyev

4/6/2018
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In a world where considerable time is spent traveling from A to B and back again, the mechanisms responsible for driving our life experiences often go unnoticed. As a former Master Technician and current finance professional, he developed a simple method for bringing those features—principles, metaphorically—to the forefront of our daily thinking, harmonizing the personal with the efficacy of the professional and coloring life as a whole

Duration:00:35:31

Episode 35 - Sex, Meditation, And Buddhism With Coleman Baker

3/10/2018
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Coleman Baker is a coach and mindfulness trainer who works with men struggling with pornography, sex addiction, and other compulsive sexual behaviors. In this episode, he shares his own story, how he overcame his compulsion, and his mission to free men from the chains of addiction.

Duration:00:26:14

Episode 34 - The Power of Connection

3/4/2018
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Once upon a time in order to connect with someone we had to either call them up or go knock on their doors. Today, we see the lives of our friends and families scroll by our newsfeeds and timelines and we feel that clicking "like" can substitute for an actual connection. Social media is making us more connected and disconnected at the same time.

Episode 33 - Our Boys Are Broken: Masculinity, Mental Health, And Mass Shooters

2/18/2018
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Among the 35 OECD nations, mass shootings are a uniquely American and male phenomenon. Why is this? Without getting into the debate over gun policy, this episode dives into the secondary and tertiary discussions around mass shooters. Why men? Why American men in particular? Why not women? And why reflexively labeling the assailants as 'mentally ill' is offensive as hell.

Episode 32 - Masculinity and #MeToo

2/14/2018
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It's a brave new world, one that's going to require an intense conversation about what masculinity is and is not in the age of #MeToo. So, where do we start? What stays, what goes, and what can we learn and embrace from the women in our lives to make us better men tomorrow than we were yesterday?

Episode 31 - Okay

2/11/2018
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Taking a cue from "This Is Us" I want to give you a little encouragement. All we want as parents is for our families and kids to be okay. We can have our hopes and dreams for them, but when it comes down to it, we just want them to be okay.

Episode 30 - Walls, Boundaries, And Social Media Stalkers

1/29/2018
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In today's social media heavy world, it's difficult if not impossible to avoid trolls, potshots from the peanut gallery, or petty bullsh*t. It's even more difficult to avoid it when relationships go south. Building walls to keep out the riff raff is necessary. Boundaries are doors, the inspection points, that we allow those we want in our lives through.

Episode 29 - Men Need To Feel Safe, Too

1/13/2018
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There's no deficit of relationship advice for men on how to make your woman feel safe. There is far less advice for women on how to make their men feel safe.

Episode 028 - Do Your Outsides Match Your Insides?

1/7/2018
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Confidence comes from the congruence of your outsides matching your insides. How you dress, how your house looks, how your car looks are reflections of how you feel about yourself. If you want to uplevel your life, uplevel your wardrobe.

Episode 027 - Unf*ck Yourself In 2018

12/31/2017
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As 2017 comes to a close, it's the time where we look back and typically see only the sh!t we've gone through and the challenges we faced. Yet the lessons those challenges were trying to teach you are exactly what you need to focus on in 2018. Whether it's finances, relationships, career... somewhere along the way things didn't turn out exactly as you had planned. Take what you learned, what you found out you were lacking, and focus on that in 2018 so you can continue to unfuck...

Episode026 - What Do Men Really Want? Appreciation

12/17/2017
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Ever notice how your man acts like he's conquered the world when he's done the dishes, folded laundry, or done some task around the house? Although it may seem silly, it's really not. He's looking for appreciation. Simple acts of service are one of the ways he shows you that he cares about you and if the response is one of sarcasm, you can be doing more damage to your relationship than you realize.