Real Men Feel

Real Men Feel reminds you that men are human beings and are entitled to feel and express the full range of emotions. I'm going to emphasize that more today, thanks to an email I received last week. "About 3-4 years ago, I came out as a trans man. I deal with a lot of imposter syndrome when it comes to my identity. Whenever I hear the name of your podcast, it makes me cringe a little because I don't see myself as a "real" man. It makes me feel like this is advice that isn't for me. ...does...

Real Men Feel exists to remind you that men are human beings entitled to feel and express the full range of emotions. I look forward to the day when a man can cry in public, and people notice and say to themselves, "Now, that's a man." Not sarcastically, not ironically, but because they recognize that publicly expressing emotions could be the bravest, most courageous thing a man can do. Recently I got an email and the title was The Laws for Manhood. I rolled my eyes and marked it to follow....

Real Men Feel is about reminding men that they are human and entitled to feel and express the full range of emotions. Some of those emotions can you have feeling like absolute shit, but that never means that you are shit. If you've read any of my books, seen me speak live, listened to many Real Men Feel episodes, perhaps heard me as a guest on other shows, or even know me as an actual, physical, human being, you are aware that I don't hide the fact that I've tried to end my life multiple...

This episode could be titled Real Men Fear. Today's guest is Dr. Avrum Weiss, a psychotherapist, an award-winning author, and teacher. His decade-long work on understanding men's internal lives culminated with his recently published bestseller "Hidden in Plain Sight: How Men's Fears of Women Shape Their Intimate Relationships." Avrum is a regular contributor to the Psychology Today website and offers workshops nationally about psychotherapy with men and helping men and women understand each...

Real Men Feel #268 Not Allowed to Die | Paws For Patrick My guest, Dan Maigler, shares his journey from politics to lobbying, to counseling, always knowing he wanted to help people. The kids that Dan works with reminded me of myself a lot. Some of the things they express resonated deeply with me. Fair Warning: This is an open conversation on suicidal thoughts and attempts. If you are in crisis, call or chat 988 right now. Dan is the mental health director for Paws for Patrick, a non-profit...

Real Men Feel #267 8/19/22 Receiving Praise | Being Worthy Men One of the goals of this podcast, my books, and my coaching... is to be inspiring. But whenever someone tells me I'm inspiring, I'll try to deflect it. Some of that is humility, but at times I can also notice strong resistance, an outright rejection of the praise. I might even want to argue about it. -- which is ridiculous. This sort of experience showed up big time in my first guest appearance in about a year when I was on the...

Real Men Feel #266 Moonshot Mission for Mankind & Humanity Research shows that men live sicker and die sooner than women. Dr. Jed Diamond is on a mission to change that. His moonshot mission focusing on men's mental health could save 375,000 lives each year in the United States alone. My Guest, Jed Diamond, is one of the world's leading experts in Gender Medicine and Men's Health. He has written sixteen books, including international best-sellers Surviving Male Menopause and The Irritable...

Real Men Feel #265 8/6/22 Don't Always Push | 3 Life Lessons Over the past two weeks, I've done a lot of clutter clearing and overall cleanup. My home can get pretty nasty after ignoring it for over half a year, but I attacked the basement and garage today. I started with the basement, liberated the world's most ignored furnace filter, and then on to the garage - clearing trash, cobwebs, and random garage shit. I was sweeping the floor with a push broom — I pushed so hard that I snapped...

Real Men Feel #264 7/29/22 Love You, Bro I could not always tell people I loved them, especially male friends. Love you, dude. Love ya, mean it. I love you, man -- are just some of the ways I've said and heard men expressing affection for other men. Recently, I've been talking with and getting messages from many friends I haven't spoken to in many months or years. I've noticed many signing off with -- Love you, bro. I've never been a fan of that phrase. I get that it is short for...

Real Men Feel 263 7/22/22 Reaching Out -- Being Ignored One thing that struck me after my 8-month-long withdrawal from life was how many told me that they noticed I was quiet and wondered what was up. Some said I'd been on their mind, yet they didn't reach out. Some said they energetically reached out but were quickly shut down. When I did finally speak up and share, the number of people who said that I'd been on their mind or that they considered reaching out but didn't… made me wonder...

Real Men Feel #262 7/15/22 Thinking I Want to Die WARNING: This episode discusses suicidal thoughts and attempts. If you are in a crisis, do not listen to this. Please call or text 988 to be connected to trained counselors that are part of the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline network. If you are outside of the US, please search for suicide prevention in your country. You matter! Please choose life. In recent years, I've become more careful in referring to my suicidal thoughts and...

Real Men Feel #261 7/6/22 WTF Happened? Where Is Andy? This is the first episode of Real Men Feel since October of 2021. Such a long break was not my plan. Today I attempt to explain what happened and open up about my dark night of the soul and all the underlying shame that had me withdraw from everything. I've spent months living in complete apathy. I've only recently gotten to a place of genuinely wanting that to change. You can't help anyone who doesn't want to be helped. I did not want...

“So many of us grew up with male emotion just being an explosion rather than an expression,” says Charles Matheus, author and Mankind Project facilitator. In today's episode, Charles describes how men’s emotions are frequently neglected and explains how a different approach to emotions can give men powerful spaces to be fully authentic. Charles dives deep into a common masculinity trope: men who rarely express their emotions sober. Instead, men wait until they are inebriated and let their...

“What is resiliency?” Andy Grant asks Resilient Culture Specialist, Jodi Woelkerling. Jodi is a coach and author who works with individuals and business leaders to help them build resilient cultures and individuals. In today’s episode, Jodi and Andy have a topical discussion about the importance of stress management and how it goes hand in hand with resilience training. Jodi explains her three-level process to helping her clients build resilience skills. She begins with level one, which...

“Men are fixers. We think we need to know how to fix everything. I tell the men pretty much every week that we are not here to fix each other,” explains Alan Cantor, Spiritual Guide, Transformational Coach, and Founder of The Surround Men’s Group. Alan Cantor has dedicated his life to creating a vision for children to live in a better world, and that starts with men. He believes there are three core concepts to improving a man’s life – connection, trust and listening. Alan opens up about...

“Change is a good thing,” says Rick Ornelas, Positive Change Expert, Author and Founder of I Spark Change. On this episode of Real Men Feel, guest Rick Ornelas explains the importance of maintaining a positive attitude, looking at life with a glass-half-full mentality, and acknowledging that change is not always a negative thing. Rick introduces the positive mindset of learning to adapt, grow and overcome obstacles, even if they are uncontrollables. He preaches about the insignificance of...

“The truth is a lot of people just need to be heard,” says Kimberly Hill, Dating and Relationship Coach. Kimberly explains her not-so direct path to her current position. She started out her career overseas in the world of finance and was one of two women on a floor of 100 men. Kimberly explains how being around men, observing their lives and being their point person with relationship and life issues introduced her to her current career path. Kimberly describes the complex emotions that men...

“Value family over everything, over everything,” says Billy Potter, the Zen Plumber. On today’s episode, host Andy Grant and special guest Billy dive into the intricacies of families and how unconditional love trumps all. They dive deep on the many ways a father’s role during childhood can dramatically impact our perception of the world. Billy opens up about his father’s drug problems and how substance abuse may test a family, but does not prevent them from coming out stronger in the end....

“I think the really beautiful thing about me partnering in these groups of men is for them to see what a healthy role model is for dialogue with a woman.” Elysia Jane Buss is a coach, speaker, equine connector, massage therapist, and men's group facilitator. We discuss her passion of advocating for men's rights. Episode 254, Aug 31, 2021 Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @andy_grant Personal Website | theandygrant.com for coaching,...

“There's something greater out there that we can’t comprehend that is helping guide us and I think certain animals are brought to certain people for certain reasons.” Michael Overlie is an energy healer, life-purpose coach, and dog fanatic. Michael's purpose is to help men awaken to their path by letting their dogs lead. We discuss how men can live a fulfilled life. Episode 253, Aug 24, 2021 Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Instagram | @realmenfeelshow &...