Real Men Feel

Breaking the Stigma: The Dude Project with Kyle Mitchell In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant speaks with Kyle Mitchell, a renowned mental health advocate and creator of the Dude Project. Kyle's mission is to transform the lives of one million teens from socially anxious to socially confident by changing the narrative around mental health, specifically for boys. The discussion covers the importance of mental resilience, strategies for connecting with boys, and parents' role in supporting their children. Kyle also shares personal experiences and insights on handling social media challenges that teens face today, emphasizing the importance of mental strength and proactive mental health practices. Andy and Kyle highlight the need for creating supportive tribes where boys feel safe to share their emotions, ultimately aiming to break the stigma surrounding men's mental health. 00:00 Welcome to Real Men Feel 00:19 Introducing Kyle Mitchell 01:18 The Dude Project Explained 02:29 Connecting with Boys on Mental Health 04:39 Core Principles of the Dude Project 05:47 Kyle's Personal Journey 10:22 Challenges Teens Face Today 18:08 Advice for Parents 23:34 Kyle's Mission and Vision 30:04 Preventing Suicides 32:09 The Power of Sharing and Support 36:37 Conclusion and Contact Information Men of all ages should be allowed to feel and express their emotions. Links Kyle Mitchell -- https://socialanxietykyle.com Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Interested in a Clarity Call with Andy? - visit https://theandygrant.com/talk Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Personal Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Podcast Website | http://realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related! RMF Facebook Group | http://realmenfeel.org/group Support this podcast | https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/support YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel ep 323 --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/realmenfeel/support

Embracing Emotions: The Path to Genuine Happiness with Matt O'Neill In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant engages in a deep conversation with happiness expert Matt O'Neill, discussing the societal conditioning that discourages men from expressing emotions and the journey to reclaiming their natural happiness. Matt shares his personal struggles growing up with conflicting parental influences and how these experiences propelled him into darkness, only to resurface with a mission to spread joy. Together, they explore the concept that happiness is hindered by suppressing emotions and emphasize the importance of awareness, gratitude, and meditation in overcoming negative beliefs. Personal anecdotes highlight how shifting focus from negative to positive thoughts can reshape one's mood and destiny. They also discuss Matt's book, 'The Good Mood Revolution,' and practical strategies for cultivating happiness. The dialogue underscores the message that true power lies in vulnerability, and that happiness is attainable through inner work and self-awareness. 00:00 Welcome to Real Men Feel 00:20 Introducing Matt O'Neill: Happiness Expert 01:10 The Journey from Darkness to Joy 02:45 Suppressing Emotions: The Impact on Happiness 06:32 Understanding and Overcoming Negative Beliefs 09:00 The Power of Choice and Perspective 19:26 The Eight Primary Bad Moods 23:40 The Bond Between Men and Dogs 24:05 The Impact of Pets on Mental Health 25:30 Finding Hope in Despair 26:11 Understanding and Managing Anger 28:20 The Power of Meditation 33:05 The Illusion of Being Right 37:30 The Journey to Writing a Book 40:33 The Importance of Gratitude 46:38 Conclusion and Resources You are worthy of being happy. Resources Good Mood Revolution: Igniting the Power of Conscious Happiness, Matt O'Neill -- https://amzn.to/48atnYl Still Here: How to Succeed in Life After Failing at Suicide, Andy Grant -- https://amzn.to/3zHzdDF Homer the Hound Dog's Guide to Happiness: 6 Life Lessons I Learned From My Dog!, Andy Grant -- https://amzn.to/47Vno9w The Secret, Rhonda Byrne -- https://amzn.to/3NaRhsG Improve Your Life and Happiness with The Power of Gratitude (Course) -- https://www.udemy.com/course/the-power-of-gratitude/?referralCode=B74A64550F8336E24CA9 Links Matt O'Neill -- https://MattONeill.com Good Mood Revolution Podcast -- https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/good-mood-revolution/id1617660263 Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Interested in a Clarity Call with Andy? - visit https://theandygrant.com/talk Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Personal Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Podcast Website | http://realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related! RMF Facebook Group | http://realmenfeel.org/group Support this podcast | https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/support YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel ep 322 --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/realmenfeel/support

Transformative Journeys and the Six Rules of Happiness with Ray Martin Host Andy Grant interviews Ray Martin, a multifaceted entrepreneur, author, coach, and mindfulness teacher. Ray shares his profound journey of personal transformation, discussing the losses that led him to take a sabbatical, his experiences of running a marathon, and spending 14 years living out of a backpack. He delves into the foundational principles and six rules of happiness he discovered and shares how mindfulness and meditation played a key role in his evolution. Ray's inspiring story highlights the importance of living authentically, finding one's true path, and empowering others. 00:00 Welcome to Real Men Feel 00:19 Introducing Ray Martin 00:45 Ray's Journey of Loss and Transformation 04:46 The Turning Point: Helping Others 09:45 A New Path: From Businessman to Actor 13:42 Guiding Principles for Life 18:36 Discovering Mindfulness and Meditation 21:19 Connecting Through Service and Adventure 23:32 The Marathon Dream 24:38 Fundraising Success 26:01 The Call to Write a Book 26:39 Learning to Write 27:50 Returning to the UK 30:42 Six Rules of Happiness 39:57 Intentional Relationships 41:00 Empowering Others 43:18 Conclusion and Resources Resources Life Without A Tie, Ray Martin -- https://amzn.to/3Bl3kRD The Untethered Soul: Journey Beyond Yourself, Michael Singer -- https://amzn.to/3Bngwpj The Hero's Journey, Joseph Campbell -- https://amzn.to/4gKyj9V Managing Transitions: Making The Most of Change, William Bridges -- https://amzn.to/3Bl3OqV Links Ray Martin -- https://LifeWithoutATie.com Follow Ray on LinkedIn -- https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachraymartin/ Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Interested in a Clarity Call with Andy? - visit https://theandygrant.com/talk Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Personal Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Podcast Website | http://realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related! RMF Facebook Group | http://realmenfeel.org/group Support this podcast | https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/support YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel ep 321 --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/realmenfeel/support

Understanding and Strengthening Modern Relationships with Kristal DeSantis In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant discusses with Kristal DeSantis, a licensed marriage and family therapist, her expertise in trauma work and relationships. Kristal shares her journey from avoiding marriage to becoming a leading authority in relational therapy. She insightfully states, 'I wanted my practice to reflect two things: tactical skills and a strength-forward approach.’ They delve into Kristal's STRONG model of relational therapy, which includes six pillars aimed at fostering healthy relationships. The conversation also covers the evolution of relationships, the challenges men face, and the often overlooked issue of male sexual abuse. Kristal notes, 'The experience of the intersection of pain and helplessness is often where trauma begins,’ emphasizing the transformative power of trauma-informed and attachment-based approaches in therapy. 00:00 Welcome to Real Men Feel 00:20 Introducing Kristal DeSantis 01:18 Kristal's Journey to Therapy 04:34 Focusing on First Responders 06:54 Understanding Trauma in Relationships 09:56 The STRONG Model of Relational Therapy 19:53 Challenges Men Face in Modern Relationships 24:41 Redefining Modern Protection 25:56 Debunking Misconceptions About Men and Relationships 27:53 The New Relationship Paradigm 29:42 Navigating the Modern Dating Landscape 35:25 Men as Survivors of Abuse 43:50 Resources and Final Thoughts Resources STRONG: A Relationship Field Guide for the Modern Man, Kristal DeSantis -- https://amzn.to/3Zw3IXu The Abuse OF Men by Women: It Happens, It Hurts, And It's Time to Get Real About It, Ann Silvers -- https://amzn.to/3XxaEB1 His History, Her Story: A Survival Guide for Spouses of Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse and Trauma, by Debra Warner -- https://amzn.to/4d8uZ5y Links Kristal DeSantis -- https://www.strong.love Follow Kristal on IG -- www.instagram.com/atxtherapist Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Interested in a Clarity Call with Andy? - visit https://theandygrant.com/talk Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Personal Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Podcast Website | http://realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related! RMF Facebook Group | http://realmenfeel.org/group Support this podcast | https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/support YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel ep 320 --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/realmenfeel/support

Overcoming False Accusations and Personal Growth: Ghasan Alesayi's Journey In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant speaks with Ghasan Alesayi, an actor and filmmaker from Toronto. Ghasan shares his rollercoaster journey of dealing with false legal accusations and public scrutiny after being arrested for voyeurism while working with a dating coach. He talks about his battle with fear, insecurities, and the lessons he learned about vulnerability, consent, and empathy during this challenging period. Throughout the conversation, Ghasan emphasizes the importance of understanding one's emotions, embracing personal growth, and how he is navigating life after this experience, including his ongoing project—a documentary titled 'Uncancelled' that details his story. 00:00 Introduction to Real Men Feel 00:19 Meet Ghasan Alesayi: Actor and Filmmaker 01:05 Ghassan's Rollercoaster Journey Begins 03:03 Facing Fears and Seeking Therapy 10:01 The Dating Coach Experience 18:11 The Arrest and Legal Battle 26:09 Facing Serious Charges 27:15 Contemplating the Future 28:19 Seeking Legal Help 30:57 The News Breaks 32:36 Support and Isolation 34:33 Impact on Career 38:27 Lessons Learned 41:23 Rebuilding and Moving Forward 48:36 Documenting the Journey 50:37 Final Thoughts and Resources Ghasan discusses the impact on his life, the lessons he learned about consent, and his journey towards recovery and empowerment. Links Ghasan on Medium -- https://medium.com/@ghasan.alesayi/love-lies-and-legal-trouble-b6f853a7567c Ghasan AKA Sam Al Esai -- https://samalesai.ca/ Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Interested in a Clarity Call with Andy? - visit https://theandygrant.com/talk Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Personal Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Podcast Website | http://realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related! RMF Facebook Group | http://realmenfeel.org/group Support this podcast | https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/support YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel ep 319 --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/realmenfeel/support

Rediscovering Humanity and Integrity: A Conversation with Colin Kingsmill on Real Men Feel In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant talks with Colin Kingsmill, a former Swiss banker turned healer and advocate for the Enough Already movement. They delve into topics such as success, worthiness, and the need for a deeper human connection. Colin shares his personal journey from corporate success to fulfillment in serving others, highlighting the significance of living with integrity and confronting psychological suffering. They also discuss the role of corporations in society, challenges in modern spirituality, and the roots of a lack mindset. The conversation underscores the importance of redefining success and fostering an abundant mindset through intentional daily practices. "Enough Already is saying no to all of those things or saying yes to humanity. Yes to integrity. Yes to being fearless and no to psychological suffering and becoming free and untethered." - Colin Kingsmil 00:00 Welcome to Real Men Feel 00:19 Introducing Colin Kingsmill 01:27 The 'Enough Already' Movement 02:57 Defining Humanity and Integrity 04:46 Colin's Journey: From Success to Self-Discovery 07:32 The Wake-Up Call 17:06 The Power of Service and Joy 20:18 The Challenge of Corporatism 24:24 Rethinking Success Metrics 24:50 The Awakening of Individuals 25:32 Challenges of Modern Life 27:49 Taking Local Action 28:33 Personal Worth and Acceptance 32:38 Financial Insecurity and Abundance 38:14 The Power of Intentionality 42:24 Final Thoughts and Resources Resources Mel Robins podcast on goalsetting --https://www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-29 The Power of Now, Eckhardt Tolle -- https://amzn.to/3Xfezm2 What The Bleep Do We Know?! on DVD -- https://amzn.to/3yZkvYn The Secret, Rhonda Byrne -- https://amzn.to/3TmTB3A Love Money, Money Loves You, Sarah McCrum -- https://amzn.to/3XzcqmE Links Colin Kingsmill -- https://colinkingsmill.com Enough Already -- https://www.enoughalreadymovement.com/ Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Interested in a Clarity Call with Andy? - visit https://theandygrant.com/talk Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Personal Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Podcast Website | http://realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related! RMF Facebook Group | http://realmenfeel.org/group Support this podcast | https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/support YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel ep 318 --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/realmenfeel/support

Real Men Feel: Embracing Authenticity with Jason Lange In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant welcomes Jason Lange, a men's embodiment coach and certified No More Mr. Nice Guy coach. They discuss the origins and impact of nice guy syndrome, the importance of men's groups for growth and support, and the journey toward authenticity and emotional expression. Jason shares insights into how nice guys are created, the significance of setting boundaries, and the role of men's work in fostering healthier relationships. The conversation also touches on men's cultural conditioning to disconnect from their emotions and the need for men to rebuild their connection to their bodies and instincts. Highlights: 00:00 Welcome to Real Men Feel 00:20 Introducing Jason Lange 02:20 Understanding Nice Guy Syndrome 09:15 The Impact of Men's Groups 15:21 The Importance of Embodiment 21:13 Challenges Men Face 25:20 The Role of Men's Groups in Emotional Health 37:34 Nice Guy Recovery and Authenticity 44:39 Jason Lange's Podcast and Final Thoughts Resources No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex, and Life by Dr. Robert Glover - https://amzn.to/3ALB1eT Dr. Glover on Real Men Feel - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/whats-wrong-with-being-a-nice-guy/id1107137758?i=1000507430169 Links Jason Lange -- https://evolutionary.men Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Interested in a Clarity Call with Andy? - visit https://theandygrant.com/talk Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Personal Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Podcast Website | http://realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related! RMF Facebook Group | http://realmenfeel.org/group Support this podcast | https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/support YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel ep 317 --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/realmenfeel/support

Generational Healing and Integrating Masculine and Feminine Energies with Gao Motsemme In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant welcomes Gao Motsemme, a psychic surgeon and embodiment queen dedicated to helping individuals break free from patterns of generational toxic relationships. Gao discusses her journey into ancestral healing, energy work, and the importance of connecting with one's inner child and sexual energy. The conversation delves into the integration of masculine and feminine energies, the impact of generational trauma, and the significance of authentic leadership in both personal and professional settings. Listeners are invited to explore their own emotional and energetic landscapes to achieve deeper healing and self-awareness. 00:00 Introduction to Real Men Feel 00:21 Meet Gao Motsemme: Psychic Surgeon and Healer 01:39 Understanding Generational Trauma 03:53 Gao's Personal Journey and Awakening 06:53 The Role of Ancestral Healing 09:36 African Ancient Quantum Medicine 15:28 The Power of Sexual Energy 22:27 Leadership and Presence 23:55 Integrating Masculine and Feminine Energies 27:31 Connecting with the Inner Child 31:11 The Importance of Emotional Resilience 39:34 Conclusion and Contact Information Links Gao Motsemme -- https://www.gaomotsemme.com/ Book a complimentary call with Gao -- https://bit.ly/Orgasmicclarity Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Interested in a Clarity Call with Andy? - visit https://theandygrant.com/talk Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Personal Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Podcast Website | http://realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related! RMF Facebook Group | http://realmenfeel.org/group Support this podcast | https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/support YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel ep 316 --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/realmenfeel/support

Exploring the Flavors of Emotions with Kim Korte In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant converses with Kim Korte, a sensory perception and emotion management strategist. Kim explains her unique metaphor for emotions, comparing them to flavors and cooking ingredients. They discuss how emotions are formed, the impact of memories, and the importance of acknowledging and working through emotions rather than suppressing them. Kim shares insights from her book, 'Yucky Yummy Savory Sweet: Understanding the Flavors of Emotions' and discusses how external sensory perceptions and past experiences influence emotional responses. She also emphasizes the significance of emotional granularity and the benefits of being attuned to one's feelings to improve overall well-being. 00:00 Welcome to Real Men Feel 00:32 Introducing Kim Korty 01:43 Exploring Emotions Through Food Metaphors 04:29 Understanding Emotional Processes 06:27 The Importance of Emotional Awareness 20:09 Practical Exercises for Emotional Insight 27:48 Personal Reflections and Impact 34:15 Final Thoughts and Farewell Links Kim Korte -- https://kimkorte.com Yucky Yummy Savory Sweet: Understanding the Flavors of Emotions -- https://amzn.to/46S79t6 Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Interested in a Clarity Call with Andy? - visit https://theandygrant.com/talk Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Personal Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Podcast Website | http://realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related! RMF Facebook Group | http://realmenfeel.org/group Support this podcast | https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/support YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel ep 315 --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/realmenfeel/support

In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant welcomes pioneering coach and author Owen Marcus, who discusses integrating emotional physiology, attachment theory, and somatic therapies into men's emotional connection and leadership development. Owen shares insights from his new community, MELD, which focuses on men's emotional leadership development. They explore diverse subjects such as rolfing, polyvagal theory, anti-fragility, and the importance of co-regulation and vulnerability in emotional intelligence. The conversation highlights the significance of using somatic experiences for emotional growth and how men can improve their relationships and leadership skills through these practices. Owen also emphasizes the role of safe spaces for practicing emotional skills and the benefits of such spaces on men's personal and professional lives. The episode wraps up with a discussion on the common challenges men face and how women can support men in their emotional journeys. Topics and Highlights 00:00 Welcome to Real Men Feel 00:26 Introducing Owen Marcus 01:50 The Journey to MELD 02:38 Understanding Somatic Therapy 04:26 Exploring Rolfing 06:57 Men's Emotional Leadership Development 08:39 Polyvagal Theory Explained 11:28 The Importance of Vulnerability 14:09 Emotional Intelligence and Leadership 24:35 Challenges Men Face Today 26:17 MELD Programs and Offerings 28:40 Couples Retreat and Coed Programs 31:23 The Impact of Men's Groups 36:14 Advice for Women Supporting Men 42:08 Conclusion and Contact Information Links Owen Marcus & MELD -- https://meld.community Resources Our Polyvagal World: How Safety and Trauma Change Us, by Dr Stephen W. Porges The Pocket Guide to the Polyvagal Theory: The Transformative Power of Feeling Safe, by Dr Stephen W. Porges Antifragile: Things That Gain from Disorder, by Nassim Nicholas Taleb Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love, by Dr. Sue Johnson Attachment Theory in Practice: Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with Individuals, Couples, and Families, by Dr. Sue Johnson Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Interested in a Clarity Call with Andy? - visit https://theandygrant.com/talk Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Personal Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Podcast Website | http://realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related! RMF Facebook Group | http://realmenfeel.org/group Support this podcast | https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/support YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel ep 314 --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/realmenfeel/support

In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant interviews psychotherapist Marc Azoulay about the unique challenges and shortcomings of traditional therapy for men. Marc shares his personal journey from client to therapist, highlighting how his own struggles with addiction and identity shaped his approach to helping men. The discussion delves into the importance of challenging men within a supportive community, the need for both masculine and feminine love in therapy, and the transformative power of male initiation rituals. Marc also introduces Men's Therapy Online, a community-based service designed to offer tailored support and foster meaningful relationships among men. Topics and Questions 00:20 Meet Marc Azoulay: Psychotherapist and Founder of Men's Online Therapy 01:15 Marc's Personal Journey: From Client to Therapist 03:07 The Challenges Men Face in Therapy 06:09 Redefining Masculinity and Therapy 07:35 Marc's Addiction and Transformation 13:41 The Importance of Male Support Systems 16:06 Marc's Therapy Approach and Personal Experiences 18:07 Vision Quests and Fasting: A Deep Dive 18:53 The Importance of Initiation Rituals 20:03 The Power of Fasting and Survival 22:01 The Mankind Project Experience 24:50 Leading Wilderness Retreats 28:43 Men's Therapy Online: A Community for Men 31:32 Emotional Strength and Vulnerability 34:18 Conclusion and Resources Links Marc Azoulay -- http://www.menstherapy.online/ Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Interested in a Clarity Call with Andy? - visit theandygrant.com/talk Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Personal Website | theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Podcast Website | realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related! RMF Facebook Group | realmenfeel.org/group Support this podcast | https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/support YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel ep 313 --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/realmenfeel/support

Leadership In Chaotic Times | Principles of Harmonic Leadership "Lots of people are seeing the world in a negative way right now. So many people are waiting for someone else to come along and fix it." My returning guest today is James Greenshields. James is a husband of over 20 years and an honored father of two amazing women; he served 17 years as an Australian Army Officer and woke up in combat. With over 14 years post-military, James has Co-Founded and been the Lead Facilitator for Leadership and Men's Well-being at the Emergent Leaders Foundation. He couples experience with First Nation people around the globe, running youth rites of passage for ten years, overlayed on a practical understanding of leadership in environments as diverse as the battlefield, boardrooms, and professional sports, have enabled him to create a new paradigm of leadership - he calls Harmonic Leadership. We discuss our current chaotic times, the power of community, and how indigenous people helped heal James' PTSD. James expands on his belief that every issue on the planet can be solved at a community level and that community is the essence of why we are alive. Listen in and learn the true pandemic of the last four years. We also explore alchemy, power vs. force, states of fear and love, and much more. Topics and Questions 2:15 - Lots of people are seeing the world in a negative way.4:45 - Every issue on the planet can be solved at a community level within a global context.7:14 - Everyone is waiting for someone else.7:36 - What made you say yes to a Life Activation?9:19 - We must move beyond fighting against everything.11:00 - Consequences of people operating from fear.14:40 - People will give up their safety to belong.17:30 - We are seeing more people tilting towards authoritarianism across the globe.21:24 - Michigan football metaphor.23:07 - The biggest pandemic of the last four years is the lack of critical thinking.27:07 - Clarifying your values.28:53 - We need to understand how powerful we are.34:56 - Completely healing from trauma.37:50 - 3-month online program on Harmonic Leadership.40:20 - What's the best way for people to learn more and connect with you? James Greenshields and his wife Kirsty joined us in February 2017 to explore how you can empower your family to positively affect your community and the world. That was Real Men Feel ep #48: Empowering the Family Unit Links James Greenshields -- https://www.emergentleadersfoundation.org/ Facebook -- https://www.facebook.com/james.greenshields1 Email James at james@emergentleadersfoundation.org Resources Power vs. Force, by Dr David Hawkins Escape from Freedom, by Erice Fromm Psychology and Alchemy, by Carl Jung Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Interested in a Clarity Call with Andy? - visit theandygrant.com/talk Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Personal Website | theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Podcast Website | realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related! RMF Facebook Group | realmenfeel.org/group Support this podcast | https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/support YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel ep 312 July 26, 2024 --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/realmenfeel/support

"It's amazing to love people every day as a job." A random feature of Real Men Feel is Regular Guy Chats. That is when I converse with an average dude who has nothing to promote but a willingness to share. It's been a year and a half since my last Regular Guy Chat. Today, I'm talking to Jake Marko, a young man I met last month in a Self-Leadership class we both attended. We discuss Jake's experiences with purpose, spiritual growth, and overcoming challenges. Jake discusses his life before and since his initiation with the Modern Mystery School. Jake also opens up about times he felt hopeless and what he's done to live a life of joy. Through it all, there's been a desire to share his voice and help people. Topics and Questions 1:49 - Why did you say yes to coming on Real Men Feel?2:55 - What does sharing your voice mean to you?4:53 - Have you always had this desire?7:36 - What made you say yes to a Life Activation?16:13 - What was it like becoming a healer?20:59 - Andy's experience receiving a Life Activation.25:34 - What are you proud of?30:11 - What is one thing that you wish more men knew?32:10 - Can you share a habit, book, or practice that has helped you?34:43 - What are you looking forward to?36:16 - What's the best way for people to learn more and connect with you? Links Jake Marko -- https://www.JakeMarko.com Instagram -- https://www.instagram.com/jakemarkohealing Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Interested in a Clarity Call with Andy? - visit theandygrant.com/talk Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Personal Website | theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Podcast Website | realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related! RMF Facebook Group | realmenfeel.org/group Support this podcast | https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/support YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel 311 --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/realmenfeel/support

Sometimes, the bravest thing you can do is ask for help. Men face a stigma about that, too. My guest today is Laverne Friesen. He is a former first responder who is passionate about raising awareness around the stigma of mental health after experiencing his own mental health crisis. Now, as a transformation coach, Laverne shares the wisdom he gained from his traumatic experiences to help others live fulfilling lives. Laverne shares his experience as a sexual abuse survivor in a fundamentalist family who went on to become a police officer and hid his mental health crisis for years. He shares what kept him going, the tools that helped him turn his life around, and the three-year-old angel that brought him back from the brink of suicide. Through it all, the stigma of what other people would think about him if they knew how badly he felt kept him quiet. Topics and Questions 1:31 - What is stigma?2:32 - I know you had an interesting childhood; let's start there.5:30 - First time seeing a police officer.7:48 - Validating myself by helping others.10:08 - I thought I had it made.13:53 - Stigma of seeing a therapist.18:50 - I had nothing left. I was completely apathetic.25:59 - Having hope again.27:33 - So angry at work.36:49 - Laverne's most profound epiphany.40:37 - The beauty of hardship.47:16 - Directing our thoughts.49:49 - What is the best way for people to discover what you are up to? Links Laverne Friesen -- https://www.TrueEmotion.ca TikTok -- https://www.tiktok.com/@trueemotionhealing Facebook -- https://www.facebook.com/LaverneFriesen97 Instagram -- https://www.instagram.com/trueemotioncoach Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Interested in a Clarity Call with Andy? - visit theandygrant.com/talk Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Personal Website | theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Podcast Website | realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related! Support this podcast | https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/support RMF Facebook Group | realmenfeel.org/group YouTube | https://youtube.com/realm #RealMenFeel 310 July 12, 2024 --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/realmenfeel/support

Today, we are exploring the power of words, especially the words we use when talking to ourselves. I'm going to share some tips on moving from belittling language to empowering phrases that you can use in your self-dialogue and conversations with others. One of my favorite things about coaching clients is listening and noticing what words they repeat the most and then pointing out how often their own words are working against them. Our words express our subconscious beliefs. They also express our thoughts, and thoughts become things. We put our words into the universe, and they are reflected back to us. Do you speak to yourself the way you would to your best friend, mom, child, or spouse, or are you much harsher, a tyrant to yourself? I invite you to raise your awareness of the words you use. In Africa, the Big Five are what everyone wants to see on safari. They are the big five game animals: the lion, leopard, rhinoceros, elephant, and African buffalo. In this episode of Real Men Feel, I share the Big Shitty Five - the most disempowering words and phrases we can all avoid for a better life. Wherever you discover Real Men Feel, please like, subscribe, follow, comment, and share. You can always email me your reaction or comments at realmenfeel@gmail.com Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Interested in a Clarity Call with Andy? - visit theandygrant.com/talkInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @andyfgrant Personal Website | theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Podcast Website | realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related! YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel Support this podcast | https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/support RMF Facebook Group | https://realmenfeel.org/group #RealMenFeel ep 309 --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/realmenfeel/support

I recommend watching this episode instead of only listening to it, as I share some of my downsizing journey and give a tour of my home. We are preparing to move to a house 2,000 square feet smaller than the one we've lived in for the past 21 years. Listen in to discover how my father's sharing of Buddism made me think life sucks then you die. Also, learn how the experience of donating, selling, and trashing our possessions has been so far. Do you own your stuff, or does your stuff own you? I wish you successful detachment. Links Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @andy_grant Personal Website | theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Podcast Website | realmenfeel.org is for all things podcast-related! YouTube | Real Men Feel --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/realmenfeel/support

Earlier today, I was part of a Let's Talk Fabulous panel discussing positive male role models. I enjoyed that conversation so much that I want to share more in a motor-mouth 10-minute brain dump. Topics Include What male role models did you see/have while growing up? What do you think are traits of a positive male role model? If the person who taught you what it means to be a man, through their words or actions, was a miserable bastard -- why would you continue to follow their example? Before I invited you to the show, did you already consider yourself a positive male role model? What are some challenges you see men going through today? Any advice or tips for men who are trying to do/be better? What do you want women to know? How can women support you in your experience of being the best man you can be? How can men support each other? Too many men would rather be right than be happy. Be willing to be wrong. Here are three places to see the Let's Talk Fabulous episode on Positive Male Role Models. FACEBOOK -- https://www.facebook.com/letstalkfabulousshow/videos/474192231817313 YOUTUBE – https://www.youtube.com/live/5ef7AWjYk9k?si=k08zodgdryq0EPnF LINKEDIN – https://www.linkedin.com/events/let-stalkaboutpositivemalerolem7206140973528084480/theater/ Links Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @andy_grant Personal Website | theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Podcast Website | realmenfeel.org for all things podcast related! YouTube | Real Men Feel #RealMenFeel --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/realmenfeel/support

I've often called myself a failure. But why? Why does something not turning out the way I wanted it to become my identity? It all comes down to the ego. Today, I explore definitions and perceptions of failure and ways to reframe it. Failure can be a valuable lesson. We can fail forward into something better with the right mindset. In my experience, when I'm depressed, my self-judgment is much harsher than usual, and I see a history of nothing but failures. That is not true. It is a very distorted lens. What if you could let the label of failure dissolve? You can. Don't be attached to one specific outcome. Be open to all outcomes and results. We live in a Universe of infinite possibilities. Links Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @andy_grant Personal Website | theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Podcast Website | realmenfeel.org for all things podcast related! YouTube | Real Men Feel --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/realmenfeel/support

Today, I share many of the subjects I've been journaling about in the last few days. Subjects including past patterns, current patterns that I haven't figured out yet, and challenges of all-or-nothing thinking. I open up about my self-judgment, spiritual experiences, psych meds, and reactions to being called a positive male role model. I also contemplate what I'm addicted to that keeps my hellish patterns going. Over my adult life, I've tried meditation, counseling, personal growth, energy work, spiritual healing... I've never done all of them at any particular time. I've always expected one thing to cover all I need. Then, at times, I've chosen to do NONE of them and am somehow surprised to find myself at the bottom again. I must want to be at the bottom of all my possible moods and outlooks. But why? I'm at a point when I need to use all the methods that might help me simultaneously. In this episode, I also share one prominent danger of feeling better when you have an all-or-nothing mindset. One lesson I must keep learning is that healing and growth are not linear and never complete. You are never complete. We are always works in progress. Value the small steps forward. Discover the practices that help you, and don't let them go. Be willing to ask for help. Be willing to live. WARNING: This episode discusses suicidal thoughts and attempts. If you are in a crisis, do not listen to this. Please call or text 988 to be connected to trained counselors that are part of the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline network. If you are outside of the US, please search for suicide prevention in your country. You matter! Please choose life. Links Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @andy_grant Personal Website | theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Podcast Website | realmenfeel.org for all things podcast related! YouTube | Real Men Feel --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/realmenfeel/support

WARNING: This episode discusses suicidal thoughts and attempts. If you are in a crisis, do not listen to this. Please call or text 988 to be connected to trained counselors who are part of the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline network. If you are outside of the US, please search for suicide prevention in your country. You matter! Please choose life. After a year-long gap, much of it spent in a deep depression and with lots of suicidal ideation, I'm back. The best way to prevent suicide is to talk about suicide. So I'm doing that while also exploring why I wasn't willing to speak for so long, suicidal procrastination, and worthiness. I don't feel great about this episode. I hope it has some value in it. I know I could not have said what I shared today two days ago without crying, so perhaps all the necessary value. Links Instagram | ⁠@realmenfeelshow⁠ & ⁠@theandygrant⁠ Personal Website | ⁠theandygrant.com⁠ for coaching, healing, and book info! Podcast Website | ⁠realmenfeel.org⁠ for all things podcast-related! YouTube | ⁠https://youtube.com/realmenfeel --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/realmenfeel/support