Real Men Feel with Andy Grant

From Burnout to Boundaries: Clarity, Values, and Life Reboot Host Andy Grant interviews coach Loren Silverman, who helps overwhelmed high performers set healthier boundaries, clarify values, and rebuild steadier lives, including through his gamified 12-week “Life Reboot Nerd Edition” (a Dungeons & Dragons-style framework where clients “level up” real-life skills like boundaries and energy mastery). Silverman shares his own burnout and how the 2022 Ukraine invasion—impacting his Ukrainian dev team—prompted him to travel to Poland to transport refugees, reshaping how he wanted to serve people. Loren emphasizes pausing for self-awareness, naming emotions (using tools like a feelings wheel), and choosing clarity over trying harder when misaligned with values: “Are you just not satisfied, or are you despondent?” He defines boundaries as protecting time and energy, warns against reflexive yeses, describes “cleaner conversations” via clear requests, and uses pinball’s “dead bounce” as a metaphor for patience and measured response. He encourages men to embrace vulnerability and intimacy with male friends. 00:00 Name Your Feelings 00:18 Meet Loren Silverman 00:57 Burnout to Coaching 01:36 Ukraine Turning Point 05:20 What Burnout Felt Like 07:25 Values Before Action 08:27 Pause Reboot Grow 09:01 Clarity Beats Effort 11:15 Life Reboot Nerd Edition 14:03 Boundaries That Protect 17:25 Clean Conversations 19:44 Feelings Wheel Basics 20:58 Tracking Real Progress 22:04 Pinball Life Lessons 24:56 Connect and Final WisdomConnect with Loren Loren Silverman — https://www.silvermancoach.com/ LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/lorensilverman/ Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/lorensilvermancoach/ Facebook — https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61578400050255 Connect with Andy: Join other like-minded men in the Authentic AF Community | https://www.realmenfeel.org/group⁠ Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Andy Grant | https://theandygrant.com⁠⁠ for coaching, healing, and book info! Real Men Feel | http://⁠⁠realmenfeel.org⁠⁠ YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel⁠⁠⁠⁠ #RealMenFeel ep 401

Episode 400: The Invisible Scorecard Host Andy Grant marks Real Men Feel’s 400th episode and 10-year anniversary with returning guest Vanessa Cardenas, a relationship reset expert, to examine how men constantly measure themselves through an “invisible scorecard” of success, money, status, age, and relationship milestones. They discuss how comparison “pulls a man out of his life and puts him onto someone else’s timeline,” eroding confidence and intimacy, especially when men fill gaps with imagined stories about past partners. Cardenas emphasizes authenticity, dropping the mask, reducing destructive scorekeeping, and using milestones in healthy ways, noting that clarity builds confidence, which in turn supports intimacy. She shares coaching approaches that focus on the here-and-now, appreciation and recognition in relationships, and practical communication shifts. They also explore how significant transformation can happen in 400 minutes, hours, days, or months, and close by urging men to stop measuring by others’ standards and focus on who they are becoming. 00:00 Episode 400 Milestone 01:24 Vanessa Returns 03:35 Why We Measure 04:50 Men Internal Scorecard 08:27 Comparison Social Media 12:17 Mythic Man Programming 14:06 Find Your People 17:19 Comparison Kills Intimacy 20:20 Clarity Builds Confidence 22:22 Say It Differently 25:03 Relationship Reset Work 26:32 Coaching Not Therapy 27:49 Starting Sessions With Praise 29:30 Drop Comparisons And Scorecards 31:06 Milestones Versus Keeping Score 32:14 Transform In 400 36:29 Men Need Appreciation 39:03 Compliments And Being Noticed 42:41 Invest In The Work 43:39 Authenticity And Connection 46:24 Metallica Quote And Joy 47:51 Final Takeaways And Thanks Connect with Vanessa Understanding Ear — https://understandingear.com LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/vanessa-cardenas-relationship-reset/ Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/vanessa_understandingear/ YouTube — https://www.youtube.com/@Vanessa-Cardenas Resources Prior appearances of Vanessa Cardenas — https://www.realmenfeel.org/guests/vanessa-cardenas/ Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Join other like-minded men in the Authentic AF Community | https://www.realmenfeel.org/group Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Andy Grant | https://theandygrant.com⁠ for coaching, healing, and book info! Real Men Feel | http://⁠⁠realmenfeel.org⁠ YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel⁠⁠ #RealMenFeel ep 400

Betrayal, Shame & Rebuilding Trust: The Therapy Brothers on Real Recovery On Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant talks with licensed clinicians Brannon Patrick and Tyler Patrick (the Therapy Brothers) about betrayal, shame, trust, and recovery after relationship rupture. They share what drew them into trauma, addiction, infidelity, and betrayal work, why men often seek help only after disclosure or rock bottom, and how fear of rejection and “unlovability” drives hiding, overperforming, and defensiveness. They describe betrayal trauma as complex trauma with PTSD-like symptoms and explain that healing requires safety, validation, and time rather than pressure to “just get over it.” They unpack “Mr. Nice Guy” patterns as fear-based manipulation, distinguish apology from accountability rooted in personal integrity, and emphasize rebuilding trust through authenticity, empathy, and consistent action. They outline shame resilience—awareness, self-compassion, and courageous disclosure—and discuss surrendering performance-based spirituality. 00:00 Shame and Hiding 00:32 Show Intro and Guests 01:29 Why They Became Therapists 05:33 Men and Rock Bottom 09:29 Betrayal Trauma Explained 11:53 Why Just Get Over It Fails 13:27 Mr Nice Guy Pattern 18:07 Authenticity and Self Trust 21:03 Roots of Betrayal and Addiction 22:12 Apology Versus Accountability 23:32 Integrity Apologies 24:18 Building Safety Trust 25:29 Shame Hiding Cycle 28:38 Shame Resilience Tools 30:03 Surrender Not Performance 33:05 Tyler Rock Bottom Story 36:40 Reclaim Your Heart 39:19 Connect With Brothers 40:16 What Men Need Know 42:36 Final Takeaways Connect with Brannon and Tyler Reclaim Your Heart — https://reclaimyourheart.org Therapy Brothers — https://therapybrothers.org/ Instagram — https://instagram.com/therapy.brothers YouTube — https://youtube.com/@therapy.brothers Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Join other like-minded men in the Authentic AF Community | https://www.realmenfeel.org/group Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Andy Grant | https://theandygrant.com⁠ for coaching, healing, and book info! Real Men Feel | http://⁠⁠realmenfeel.org⁠ YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel⁠⁠ #RealMenFeel ep 399

Success, Intuition, and Purpose: Paul Davis on Unlocking Your Genius Host Andy Grant interviews business growth consultant and intuitive advisor Paul Davis about aligning business success with purpose, meaning, and self-care. Davis explains that financial turnarounds don’t last if the owner’s mindset, beliefs, and unresolved childhood trauma aren’t addressed, citing ACE scores and how fear, shame, and guilt can escalate depression and suicidal ideation. He shares his own lifelong suicidal thoughts, why he hid them to avoid appearing weak or risky in senior roles, and how his brother Eugene’s death prompted him to speak openly and develop a methodology for purpose. Davis outlines “genius” as an innate spirit and describes four purpose elements: a life quest/mission, divine inspiration, three “genius drivers” for fulfillment, and a “genius role” archetype. He emphasizes giving “from the saucer, not from the cup,” building intuition, and living with an “open hand” rather than a constant focus on productivity. 00:00 Why Leaders Stay Silent 00:27 Meet Paul Davis 01:29 Business Meets Mindset 03:22 Sunrise Wake Up Call 05:15 Dark Questions Early 06:29 Research And New Method 08:35 Service And Mission 09:57 Why Success Feels Empty 10:38 Trauma Triggers Self Care 15:04 Why He Hid It 18:17 Loss Changed Everything 20:19 Defining Genius 21:02 Divine Inspiration Explained 21:32 Why Finding Your Why Fails 22:10 Genius Drivers And Fulfillment 22:49 Genius Roles And Alignment 24:27 Success Without Purpose 26:23 Intuition And Seventh Son 29:19 What Leaders Need Most 31:24 Find Your Lifelong Quest 35:00 Meaningful Life And Legacy 37:04 Open Hand Living Advice 38:59 Final Wrap And Resources Connect with Paul Paul Davis — https://davisbusinessconsultants.com/ LinkedIn — linkedin.com/in/pauldavisdublin YouTube — https://www.youtube.com/davisconsultants Resources Genius Unlocked: Discover Your Life Purpose & Innate Genius by Paul Davis — https://amzn.to/4tq8JNc All of Paul’s books — https://amzn.to/4tq8JNc Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Join me and connect with other like-minded men in the Authentic AF Community | https://realmenfeel.org/group⁠ Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Andy Grant | https://theandygrant.com⁠ for coaching, healing, and book info! Real Men Feel | https://www.realmenfeel.org/ YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel⁠⁠ #RealMenFeel ep 398

Rebuilding After Betrayal, Divorce, and the Dead Bedroom: Ralph Brewer on Men, Shame, and Support Host Andy Grant interviews men’s coach Ralph Brewer about rebuilding after infidelity, divorce, and relationship collapse. Ralph shares his own experience of being divorced within 60 days after his spouse’s infidelity and becoming a single father of three, including how he blamed himself for years and later learned he couldn’t control another person’s choices. He explains how therapy and connecting with other men led him to create the “Dad Starting Over” platform, write five books—starting with the breakout “The Dead Bedroom Fix”—and build HelpForMen.com and the paid Brotherhood community with frequent Zoom meetings, forums, conferences, and coaching. They discuss common patterns among anxious, codependent “Mr. Nice Guy” men paired with avoidant partners, how “man up” emotional suppression causes flatness and mental health issues, the risks of bitterness and rapid rebound dating, and why peer support and asking for help are essential. 00:00 Shame and Masculinity 00:19 Show Intro and Guest 01:28 Ralph's Divorce Story 02:34 Owning Too Much Blame 03:58 Therapy and Brotherhood 05:10 From Blog to Brand 07:32 Identity After Breakup 10:29 Man Up Culture Costs 12:15 Anxious Avoidant Trap 15:48 Rewiring Shame and Self-Worth 18:07 Dead Bedroom Explained 19:58 First Step Honest Inventory 21:11 Why Men Choose Wrong 21:51 Pragmatic Partner Vetting 22:55 Divorce Patterns Repeat 23:56 Avoiding Bitter Blame 25:36 Rebound Relationship Trap 26:53 Neurodivergence And Dating 29:27 Rock Bottom And Coping 32:04 Brotherhood And Community 36:52 How To Find Ralph 38:31 Ask For Help 40:01 Final Takeaways Connect with Ralph Ralph Brewer — https://helpformen.com/ Facebook — https://www.facebook.com/dadstartingover Instagram — https://instagram.com/dadstartingover Resources The Dead Bedroom Fix by Ralph Brewer — https://amzn.to/4tgMJ7n All of Ralph’s book — https://amzn.to/4s85KYM Join other like-minded men in the Authentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/group Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Andy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.org YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel ep 397

The Hollow Man Syndrome: Redefining Success, Vulnerability, and the New Alpha Host Andy Grant interviews Kenyada Meadows, a Bank of America senior vice president and master certified executive coach, about “hollow man syndrome”—men who appear successful but feel empty and unfulfilled. Meadows explains the metaphor of a strong tree with decaying roots and describes how hollowing out can manifest as strained relationships, self-medicating, short tempers, or acting out. He contrasts traditional “alpha” achievement-driven masculinity with “emotional integrity,” emphasizing vulnerability, community, and emotional literacy as skills for connection and asking for help. Meadows outlines his “New Alpha” framework of three domains—relationships at work, at home, and with oneself—critiques the myth of perfect work-life balance with the idea of “wobbling well,” and discusses re-parenting the inner child, grace, and intentional reflection. He shares taking four months of paid parental leave in a competitive Wall Street environment, finding no downside, and encourages men to broaden “providing” beyond money to presence and communication. 00:00 The Hollow Tree Metaphor 00:31 Meet Kenyada Meadows 01:32 Defining Hollow Man Syndrome 04:19 Personal Turning Points 05:37 Mentorship and The New Alpha 08:23 Costs of Traditional Alpha 09:56 Emotional Integrity Skills 14:38 Why High Achievers Feel Empty 16:31 Wobbling Work Life Balance 18:40 Reparenting the Inner Child 21:07 Taking Paternity Leave 24:02 Providing Beyond Money 28:04 Three Domains Framework 29:49 Rethinking Alpha Culture 32:46 Connect and Final Takeaway 36:15 Closing and Community Invite Connect with Kenyada Kenyada Meadows — https://www.executiveparentcompany.com/ LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/kenyadameadowscpaciacfe/Resources The New Alpha: Be Three Times the Leader Through Balance, Not Dominance by Kenyada Meadows — https://amzn.to/4bA4BCV Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Join me and connect with other like-minded men in the Authentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/group Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Andy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.org YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel ep 396

Men’s Health, Loneliness, and Real Masculinity Host Andy Grant opens by saying men need truth and connection, not shame or fake strength. After a guest postpones due to health news, Andy shares he has a colonoscopy scheduled and urges men to prioritize physical health: get annual checkups, know family history, ask doctors questions, and follow colorectal cancer screening guidance, noting rising deaths under 50 and citing Chadwick Boseman and James Van Der Beek. He then discusses an international survey reporting that about a third of Gen Z men believe wives should obey husbands and husbands should have final say, interpreting this as a search for identity, direction, belonging, respect, purpose, and brotherhood. Andy argues that men are hurting without language, loneliness increases vulnerability to harmful online narratives, and real masculinity is responsibility, integrity, presence, and emotional honesty, inviting listeners to join his community at https://realmenfeel.org/group. 00:00 What Men Really Need 00:18 Welcome and Plans Change 00:44 Colonoscopy Wake Up Call 01:22 Screening Facts and Risks 02:31 Gen Z Survey Shock 03:18 What Men Are Hungry For 04:32 Pain Turns Into Anger 05:15 Loneliness and Online Voices 06:05 Masculinity Without Domination 07:17 Why Real Men Feel Exists 07:38 Two Reminders and Next Steps Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Join us in the Authentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/group Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Andy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.org YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel ep 395

Escaping the Success Trap: When Achievement Still Feels Empty Host Andy Grant discusses “the success trap,” where men achieve promotions, money, status, and accomplishments yet feel empty, disconnected, and numb. Citing a Forbes article, he explains the paradox that believing we’re successful can limit growth by creating fear of risking standing in others’ eyes, even when success lacks meaning. Drawing from his corporate experience and nearly 400 Real Men Feel episodes, he describes signs and outcomes such as identity tied to performance, discomfort with rest, emotional inaccessibility, burnout, midlife crisis, relationship struggles, addiction, and self-destructive behavior. Grant shares quotes from Johnny Cash, Maya Angelou, Albert Schweitzer, and Winston Churchill, then offers three solutions: redefine success to include meaning and connection, reconnect with feelings through reflection and journaling, and build brotherhood to counter isolation, inviting listeners to the Authentic AF community. 00:00 The Success Trap 00:36 Welcome and Setup 01:34 Why Success Feels Empty 03:03 My Corporate Wakeup 03:44 Signs You Are Stuck 04:42 Achievement Armor Costs 06:03 Patterns From 400 Talks 07:01 Redefining Real Success 08:01 Three Ways Out 09:53 Join Authentic AF Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Join us in the Authentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/group Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Andy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.org YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel ep 394

Midlife Identity, Men Speaking Up, and Finding Fulfillment After 50 Andy Grant interviews UK-based Philip Briscoe, host of the Mid-life Men Podcast, about his midlife turning point at 50 after leaving a tech job where he felt undervalued and realizing he didn’t know who he was beyond work. Philip describes how stress and lack of fulfillment contributed to depression, anxiety, poor sleep, and lifestyle-related health issues including type 2 diabetes, high blood pressure, obesity, and fatty liver, many of which improved after he stepped away. He explains creating his podcast to fill a lack of resources for men, finding purpose by sharing men’s recovery narratives, and later turning interviews into his book Men Speak Up, focused on communication and getting help. They discuss misconceptions about the “midlife crisis,” hormonal and mental-health realities, ageism, normalizing taboo topics like suicidal thoughts, and the importance of supportive friendships and groups. 00:00 Burnout and Identity Loss 00:57 Meet Philip Briscoe 02:08 Turning 50 Wake Up Call 03:32 Health Alarms and Change 04:09 Finding Purpose Through Podcasting 06:46 Work Family and Delayed Joy 09:44 Why Mid-life Men Exists 12:24 Lessons Men Speak Up 15:15 Depression Signs and Support 18:45 From Podcast to Book 20:51 Midlife Crisis Myths 25:59 Purpose as a Continuum 27:25 Connect and Final Takeaway 30:13 Closing and Community Invite Connect with Philip Philip Briscoe — https://www.mid-lifemen.com/ Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/midlifemenpodcast/ Facebook — https://www.facebook.com/midlifemen/ LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipbriscoe/ Resources Men Speak Up: Journeys Through Mental Health by Philip Briscoe — https://amzn.to/4kT4QgJ Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Join me and connect with other like-minded men in the Authentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/group Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Andy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.org YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel ep 393

Real Men Feel: 10-Year Anniversary—From Blab to Authentic AF Andy Grant celebrates 10 years of Real Men Feel, which first went live on February 23, 2016 on Blab, and thanks co-founder Appio Hunter, past guests, and listeners for helping create a space where men can talk about the full range of emotions. The episode features audio from the very beginning of the first 2016 episode, a clip from episode 100 about two and a half years later reflecting on how the show grew from a planned monthly, 30-minute format into weekly hour-long conversations with guests, and additional segments from more recent discussions. Across multiple guest clips answering the recurring question, “What’s one thing you wish more men knew?”, themes include vulnerability as strength, listening, empathy, belonging and finding a tribe, not having to be the strongest or prove masculinity, being allowed to say no and speak up, self-acceptance and compassion, and not having to go it alone. Andy concludes that men need more connection rather than more advice and invites listeners to join the Authentic AF community at realmenfeel.org/group, offering live calls, men’s circles, meditations, honest conversations, and relationships without performance or posturing. 00:00 10-Year Anniversary: Why Real Men Feel Exists 02:02 How the Episode Will Unfold: Clips From 2016 to Now 02:47 Flashback to Episode 1 (2016): Andy’s Mission & Creating Space for Men 04:18 Meet Co-Host Appio Hunter: Emotional Healing & Men as Human Beings 06:22 Episode 100 Throwback: Celebrating the Journey & Early Blab Days 11:01 From Monthly to Weekly: How the Show’s Format Evolved 13:09 “One Thing I Wish More Men Knew” Montage Begins: Vulnerability & Belonging 15:49 Relationships as a Portal: Communication, Healing & Intimacy 18:58 More Wisdom From Guests: Listening, Ego, Empathy & Authenticity 22:45 You Don’t Have to Go It Alone: Voice, Support & Self-Acceptance 27:53 Closing Reflections: Connection Over Advice + Join Authentic AF Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Join me and connect with other like-minded men in the Authentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/group Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Andy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.org YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel ep 392

Are You Being Real? In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant addresses the skepticism surrounding authenticity, particularly among men. He explores how the term has been diluted and misused across contexts, reducing it to a mere buzzword. Andy revisits the core values of his show—authenticity, vulnerability, and compassion—while sharing personal experiences that illustrate the genuine meaning of being authentic. He emphasizes the importance of honesty, responsibility, and emotional openness to truly embody authenticity. Finally, Andy invites listeners to join his online community, Authentic AF at http://realmenfeel.org/group, to further explore and practice genuine self-expression. 00:00 Introduction and Host Welcome 00:29 The Misuse of Authenticity 01:11 Defining True Authenticity 02:13 Personal Journey to Authenticity 04:13 Practicing Authenticity in Daily Life 05:45 Challenges Men Face with Authenticity 07:28 Living Authentically and Community Invitation 08:07 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Join me and connect with other like-minded men in the Authentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/group Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Andy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Real Men Feel | https://realmenfeel.org YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel ep 391

Unlocking the Real You: The Power of Animal Archetypes In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant is joined by Eric Gee, a published author, life and writing coach, who shares his unique personality typing system based on animal archetypes. They discuss how this system provides deeper insights into oneself beyond superficial traits, helping individuals make better life choices across careers, relationships, and personal growth. Eric elaborates on common misconceptions in traditional personality models and the importance of embracing one's true nature. They explore the real-life application of these archetypes in education, relationships, and creative work, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and authenticity. Highlights include discussions of specific animal types, such as stags and peacocks, and their relevance to personal and professional life, as well as the impact of societal and parental expectations on identity. 00:00 The Dangers of Not Being Yourself 00:18 Introduction to Real Men Feel 00:26 Meet Eric Gee: Author and Personality Expert 01:23 Understanding Personality Typing 03:52 The Power of Animal Archetypes 06:14 Common Personality Types and Their Traits 07:36 Personality Types in Men and Society 11:57 Discovering Your True Personality 13:19 Impact of Social Programming on Boys 18:55 Upcoming Book and Common Questions 19:25 Relationship Dynamics and Personality Types 21:12 Creative Expression and Animal Types 22:58 Finding Your Authentic Voice 25:44 Understanding and Accepting Your Personality 29:29 Harry Potter Characters and Personality Types 32:43 Empowerment Through Self-Discovery 34:38 Where to Learn More and Final Thoughts Connect with Eric Eric Gee — https://www.projectyoutopia.com/ Take The Test — https://youtopiaproject.com/ Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/the_power_of_personality/ Facebook — https://www.facebook.com/eric.c.gee/ LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/eric-gee-3565a79/ Resources Power of Personality: Unlock the Secrets to Understanding Everyone in Your Life by Eric Gee — https://amzn.to/3Zq3eky Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Join me and connect with other like-minded men in the Authentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/group Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Andy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.org YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel ep 390

Transformative Fatherhood with Jon Hord: From Reactive to Present In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant speaks with Jon Hord, founder of the Engaged Father Project. Jon shares his journey from a stressed-out father to becoming an emotionally regulated, present parent. They discuss intentional parenting, emotional regulation, and redefining strong fatherhood. Jon explains the importance of self-awareness, vulnerability, and conscious choices in improving fatherhood. He also discusses his transition from a corporate career to life coaching and the development of the Engaged Father Project, which helps fathers become the best versions of themselves. Jon offers practical advice for daily practices that can help fathers align their actions with their parenting goals. 00:00 The Power of Vulnerability in Fatherhood 00:27 Introduction to Real Men Feel 00:41 Meet Jon Hord: From Reactive to Present Parenting 01:06 The Biggest Disconnect in Fatherhood 03:10 Jon's Journey: Becoming the Father He Didn't Want to Be 05:40 The Turning Point: Finding a Life Coach 08:31 Creating the Engaged Father Project 14:03 The Role of a Life Coach 15:56 The Importance of Vulnerability in Fatherhood 34:54 Daily Practices for Intentional Fatherhood 38:09 Final Thoughts and Resources Connect with Jon The Engaged Father Project — https://theengagedfatherproject.com/ Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/theengagedfatherproject/ TikTok — https://www.tiktok.com/@theengagedfatherp YouTube — https://www.youtube.com/@TheEngagedFatherProject LinkedIn — http://www.linkedin.com/in/jon-hord Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Join me and connect with other like-minded men in the Authentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/group Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Andy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.org YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel ep 389

Overcoming Life's Inner Prisons In this compelling episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant interviews Matt Melvin, author of 'Bullied Behind Bars.' Matt shares his harrowing experiences of incarceration, bullying, and isolation, focusing on the mental prison of blame and anger that lingered long after his physical release. The conversation delves into the challenges many men face, such as shame, fear, and past trauma, and discusses the importance of emotional survival, men's groups, and what it truly means to feel free inside. Matt talks about his journey to self-love and forgiveness and his plans to create a supportive community for men. This episode provides a powerful reminder that freedom is more about inner connection and honesty rather than external conditions. 00:00 Introduction to Forgiveness and Accountability 00:13 Welcome to Real Men Feel 00:34 Meet Matt Melvin: Author and Survivor 02:01 Matt's Journey Through Incarceration 05:31 Life After Prison: Challenges and Growth 13:11 The Importance of Men's Work and Vulnerability 19:23 Matt's Vision for the Future 27:45 Final Thoughts and Contact Information Connect with Matt Matt Melvin — https://www.bulliedbehindbars.com/ Facebook — https://www.facebook.com/matthew.melvin.5621 X — https://x.com/barsbullied Resources Bullied Behind Bars: A Gay Christian Trump Supporter Goes to Prison by Matt Melvin — https://amzn.to/4r2mSi8 Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Join me and connect with other like-minded men in the Authentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/group Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Andy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.org YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel ep 388

Embracing Vulnerability and Authenticity In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant is joined by Tyler Foley, a keynote speaker and author of 'The Power to Speak Naked.' They delve into topics such as masculinity, leadership, vulnerability, and the complexities of jealousy and control for men. Tyler shares how his communication skills and diverse influences shape his masculinity and confidence. The conversation also explores relationship dynamics, including how to be supportive of a successful partner and how traditional notions of 'being alpha' are outdated. They discuss how true leadership involves listening, authenticity, and the power of stripping away the facade to reveal the raw, honest truth. 00:00 Introduction and Opening Thoughts 00:28 Welcome and Guest Introduction 00:43 Exploring Masculinity and Leadership 01:53 Tyler's Personal Journey and Influences 09:12 The Power of Vulnerability 13:29 The Concept of Speaking Naked 15:46 Authenticity and Self-Awareness 16:40 Supporting a Partner's Success 21:24 Challenging the Alpha Male Stereotype 27:13 Effective Leadership and Communication 29:45 Final Thoughts and Farewell Connect with Tyler Tyler Foley — https://seantylerfoley.com Facebook — https://www.facebook.com/SeanTylerFoleyYYC LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/seantylerfoley Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/seantylerfoley/ Resources The Power to Speak Naked: How to Speak with Confidence, Communicate Effectively, and Win Your Audience by Tyler Foley — https://amzn.to/3LmZ1ea Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Join me and connect with other like-minded men in the Authentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/group Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Andy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.org YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel ep 387

Overcoming Sexual Performance Anxiety In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant discusses the often taboo topic of erectile dysfunction, sexual performance anxiety, and the fear of being broken with guest Shay Doran. Shay, a coach who helps men overcome these issues, shares his personal journey and insights on why ED is rarely just about the body but more about mindset. They discuss the societal pressures and beliefs that contribute to performance anxiety, the impact on relationships, and the importance of seeking help. Shay also explores the harmful cycle of quick fixes and the cultural differences in perceptions of masculinity and sexual performance. The episode emphasizes that these challenges are normal and that men aren't alone in their struggles. 00:00 The Influence of Porn on Sex Education 00:36 Introduction to Real Men Feel and Today's Topic 00:52 Meet Shay Doran: Overcoming Sexual Performance Anxiety 01:43 Shay's Personal Journey with Performance Anxiety 04:24 The Root Causes of Performance Anxiety 06:31 The Performative Mindset and Its Impact 07:17 Distinguishing Between Medical and Mindset Issues 10:06 The Trap of Quick Fixes and Marketing Scams 13:10 The Importance of Seeking Help and Guidance 17:37 The Relational Impact of Erectile Dysfunction 20:31 Addressing the Elephant in the Room 21:11 Non-Judgmental Support and Communication 22:10 Working with Men on Performance Issues 23:19 Unique Challenges for Gay and Bi Men 25:43 Decoupling Masculine Identity from Sexual Performance 28:26 Common Aha Moments in Therapy 30:30 Cultural Differences in Masculinity and Performance Anxiety 32:01 Normalizing Sexual Performance Fluctuations 34:10 Impact of Porn on Sexual Performance 34:56 Connecting with Shay Doran 36:14 Beyond Sexual Performance: Living Authentically 38:28 Final Thoughts and Resources Connect with Shay Shay Doran — https://shay-doran.com YouTube — https://www.youtube.com/@shay-doran Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Join me and connect with other like-minded men in the Authentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/group Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Andy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.org YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel ep 386

Navigating Grief with Gratitude: A Conversation with Steve Gamlin In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant welcomes Steve Gamlin, known as the Motivational Firewood Guy. Steve shares his journey of grief and gratitude after losing his wife, Tina, in December 2024. The conversation delves deep into the process of living and creating with a broken heart, the power of visualization, and the impact of everyday kindness. Steve also discusses the importance of authentic expression and being honest about where you are in life. This heartfelt discussion is both uplifting and profoundly human, providing insights into how to find strength and purpose amid profound loss. 00:00 Introduction and Personal Tragedy 00:41 Meet Steve Gamlin: The Motivational Firewood Guy 01:46 The Origin of Motivational Firewood 03:50 Understanding Visualization and Vision Boards 08:15 The Power of Everyday Kindness 14:02 Navigating Grief and Sharing the Journey 19:09 Personal Journey Through Grief 20:49 Rebuilding and Moving Forward 21:26 The Importance of Lived Experience 23:26 Honoring Tina Through Vision Boards 27:03 Daily Habits and Positivity 33:29 Future Relationships and Self-Discovery 35:32 Final Thoughts and Connection Connect with Steve Steve Gamlin — http://SteveGamlinSpeaker.com Facebook — https://www.facebook.com/SteveGamlin LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/stevegamlin/ Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Join me and connect with other like-minded men in the Authentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/group Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Andy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.org YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel ep 385

Breaking Down Barriers with the LezBro In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant talks with Aastha Lal, a lesbian coach who is transforming men's relationships by providing a safe, non-competitive, and non-judgmental space for growth. Aastha shares her journey in creating the LezBro, a coaching practice where men can explore vulnerability, emotional honesty, and mindfulness. They discuss common challenges men face, such as reactivity and the need for connection, and highlight practical solutions through mindfulness and meditation. Aastha's unique approach bridges the divide in how men approach emotional openness and mental well-being, creating a ripple effect that benefits their relationships and communities. Join Andy and Aastha as they dive deep into the importance of emotional safety and the unexpected benefits of having a lesbian coach for straight men. 00:00 Introduction: The Starvation for Connection 00:29 Meet the Guest: Aastha Lahl, The LezBro Coach 01:17 The Birth of LezBro: A Safe Space for Men 03:00 Common Reactions and Client Experiences 04:46 The Importance of Vulnerability and Mindfulness 09:43 Challenges Men Face: Emotions and Reactivity 12:38 Mindfulness in Practice: Real-Life Applications 17:12 Connection in Relationships: Single vs. Married Men 19:18 Outdated Masculinity and Emotional Expression 27:35 Practical Steps for Men: Starting the Journey 31:29 Conclusion: Final Thoughts and Resources Connect with Aastha TheLezBro — https://www.thelezbro.com/ Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/the.lezbro/ Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Join me and connect with other like-minded men in the Authentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/group Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Andy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.org YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel ep 384

In this unique clip show, host Andy Grant of Real Men Feel compiles powerful, honest answers from 17 previous guests to one pivotal question: 'What do you wish more men knew?' These responses shed light on the significant themes of love, vulnerability, self-worth, and emotional resilience. From emphasizing the importance of self-love and accountability to advocating for better sexual health and emotional expression, these insights reveal a common thread—strength and vulnerability are not opposites, but essential mates. This episode encourages men to be true to themselves and engage deeply with others. 00:00 Introduction to Real Men Feel 00:37 The Power of Vulnerability 03:34 Embracing Emotional Resilience 07:35 Redefining Masculinity 14:18 The Importance of Sexual Health 17:20 Conclusion and Community Invitation Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Join me and connect with other like-minded men in the Authentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/group Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Andy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.org YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel ep 383

From Silence to Strength: A Veteran's Journey In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant interviews Louis Stockley Jr., an army veteran, father, coach, and founder of Before 22. Louis shares his story of serving 17 years in military and federal service, facing emotional shutdowns, and nearly losing his family to his video game addiction. He discusses the pressures of masculinity, how the military shaped him, and the harrowing experiences of transitioning to civilian life. Louis also talks about his turning point and the creation of Before 22, a movement to help veterans find purpose, brotherhood, and support before falling into severe mental health crises. Join Andy and Louis as they explore the importance of vulnerability, brotherhood, and service in reclaiming one's life and voice. 00:00 Military Programming and Emotional Suppression 00:40 Introduction to Real Men Feel and Guest Louis Stockley Jr. 01:27 Louis Stockley's Military Background and Early Challenges 03:13 Lessons in Masculinity and Military Discipline 07:55 A Painful Lesson in Commitment 10:17 Transitioning to Civilian Life 18:28 Struggles with Trust and Isolation 21:32 The Turning Point: Overcoming Video Game Addiction 28:01 Discovering the Power of Fitness 29:00 Helping a Friend in Need 32:56 The Impact of Brotherhood 35:32 Facing Personal Challenges 38:10 Understanding Veterans' Struggles 41:18 The Mission of Before 22 47:33 Encouraging Vulnerability and Seeking Help 52:33 Final Thoughts and Resources Connect with Louis LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/lstockley/ Louis on TikTok — https://www.tiktok.com/@vetcoachlouis Before 22 — https://www.tiktok.com/@before22aday Louis on IG — https://www.instagram.com/vetcoachlouis Before 22 — https://www.instagram.com/before22aday/ Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Join me and connect with other like-minded men in the Authentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/group Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Andy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.org YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel ep 382