A Field Guide for Anxious Hearts
Andi Denali
This audiobook is narrated by a digital voice.
If you’re tired of feeling like you're too much—too clingy, too needy, too sensitive—and your brain won’t stop spiraling every time someone takes a little too long to text back... welcome. You’re not crazy, and you’re definitely not alone.
You’re just dealing with anxious attachment.
This is your field guide out of the emotional chaos.
Written in the voice of your most honest, emotionally-aware friend, A Field Guide for Anxious Hearts is the no-fluff, deeply compassionate, and research-backed roadmap for anyone who’s ever felt addicted to the idea of love but terrified of actually losing it. If you overthink every message, replay every conversation, or panic the second someone pulls away—this book gets you.
Inside, you’ll learn how to:
yourselfThis isn’t about playing it cool or pretending you don’t care. It’s about finally feeling secure without having to perform for love.
Whether you're in a relationship, dating, or trying to break old patterns, this guide will help you stop living in fear and start loving from a place of wholeness. No therapist jargon. No toxic positivity. Just honest tools and emotional truth bombs that will change how you show up in love—forever.
You’re not too much. You’ve just never had love that felt safe. Let’s change that.
Duration - 4h 40m.
Author - Andi Denali.
Narrator - Digital Voice Andi Denali E.
Published Date - Thursday, 30 January 2025.
Copyright - © 2025 Find the Other ©.
Location:
United States
Description:
This audiobook is narrated by a digital voice. If you’re tired of feeling like you're too much—too clingy, too needy, too sensitive—and your brain won’t stop spiraling every time someone takes a little too long to text back... welcome. You’re not crazy, and you’re definitely not alone. You’re just dealing with anxious attachment. This is your field guide out of the emotional chaos. Written in the voice of your most honest, emotionally-aware friend, A Field Guide for Anxious Hearts is the no-fluff, deeply compassionate, and research-backed roadmap for anyone who’s ever felt addicted to the idea of love but terrified of actually losing it. If you overthink every message, replay every conversation, or panic the second someone pulls away—this book gets you. Inside, you’ll learn how to: yourselfThis isn’t about playing it cool or pretending you don’t care. It’s about finally feeling secure without having to perform for love. Whether you're in a relationship, dating, or trying to break old patterns, this guide will help you stop living in fear and start loving from a place of wholeness. No therapist jargon. No toxic positivity. Just honest tools and emotional truth bombs that will change how you show up in love—forever. You’re not too much. You’ve just never had love that felt safe. Let’s change that. Duration - 4h 40m. Author - Andi Denali. Narrator - Digital Voice Andi Denali E. Published Date - Thursday, 30 January 2025. Copyright - © 2025 Find the Other ©.
Language:
English
Love Without Fear: The Path from Anxious to Secure Attachment: Master Emotional Independence and Cultivate Lasting, Secure Relationships in Under a Year
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Preface
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The Fear That Follows Us
Duration:00:00:59
The Attachment Revolution
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From Chaos to Calm
Duration:00:01:09
What You'll Find Inside
Duration:00:00:59
Your Invitation
Duration:00:01:11
Chapter 1: In the Shadows of the Past: Understanding Your Anxious Attachment
Duration:00:00:06
The Ghost That Follows You From Childhood to Dating Apps
Duration:00:03:42
The Shadows That Follow Us
Duration:00:00:40
The Night She Realized It Wasn't About Him
Duration:00:02:33
Where It All Begins
Duration:00:02:01
The Emotional Footprints That Follow Us
Duration:00:04:04
The Ghost in the Relationship Machine
Duration:00:02:02
The Bridge to Secure Attachment
Duration:00:01:22
Connecting the Dots
Duration:00:01:45
Chapter 2: Breaking the Mold: Cultivating Secure Attachment
Duration:00:00:06
Your Past Doesn't Have to Be Your Relationship Future
Duration:00:01:19
Breaking the Cycle
Duration:00:03:16
How She Decided to Fix Her Heart When Everyone Said It Couldn't Be Done
Duration:00:03:11
Cultivating Secure Attachment Against All Odds
Duration:00:02:20
Becoming Your Own Attachment Detective
Duration:00:04:05
The Liberating Path Toward Secure Attachment
Duration:00:01:58
The S.A.D.P. Framework: Secure Attachment Development Process
Duration:00:00:32
Component 1: Self-Awareness
Duration:00:01:39
Component 2: Active Intervention
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Component 3: Daily Practice
Duration:00:01:54
The Interplay Between Components
Duration:00:01:20
Practical Implementation
Duration:00:03:05
Chapter 3: Master Your Emotions: Techniques to Regain Control
Duration:00:00:06
Are Your Emotions Running the Show? It's Time to Take Back the Remote
Duration:00:00:05
The Emotional Rollercoaster We Never Asked to Ride
Duration:00:03:12
Can You Stop the Spiral Before It Starts?
Duration:00:03:55
Emotional Regulation Tools That Actually Work
Duration:00:03:48
When Emotions Are Running the Show
Duration:00:03:50
The Magic of Emotional Calmness
Duration:00:02:47
Creating Your Emotional Stability Plan
Duration:00:05:28
Chapter 4: Choose Wisely: Learning to Identify Healthy Partner Traits
Duration:00:00:07
Why Your Heart Keeps Finding The Wrong Home: When Meeting the Same Toxic Type Becomes a Pattern
Duration:00:07:26
The Dating Detective's Guide
Duration:00:03:23
The Ex-Files: Partners Who Amplify Your Anxiety
Duration:00:03:46
The Gardener's Guide to Relationship Growth
Duration:00:02:57
Rewiring Your Attraction System
Duration:00:03:37
Breaking Free From Familiar Patterns
Duration:00:03:48
The Secure-Partner Checklist
Duration:00:03:52
Your Picker's Upgrade: From Autopilot to Conscious Choice
Duration:00:03:38
The Growth Zone
Duration:00:02:55
Your Attachment Revolution
Duration:00:03:28
Conclusion
Duration:00:02:20
Chapter 5: Relationship Audits: Ensuring Emotional Health
Duration:00:00:06
Is Your Relationship Slowly Dying? Time for an Emotional Health Check
Duration:00:03:31
When Old Wounds Create New Walls
Duration:00:05:26
The Relationship Check-In Revolution
Duration:00:03:13
Creating Security Through Transparency
Duration:00:03:48
Catching Problems Before They Explode
Duration:00:03:36
The Courage to See Clearly
Duration:00:01:30
Communication Roadmaps for Rocky Terrain
Duration:00:01:42
The Reward System That Actually Works
Duration:00:02:00
Closing the Loop: From Awareness to Action
Duration:00:02:56
Chapter 6: Breaking Free from Overthinking and Clinginess
Duration:00:00:05
From Clingy Chaos to Calm: There's Freedom On The Other Side
Duration:00:01:23
Breaking the Invisible Chains
Duration:00:02:14
How She Couldn't Stop Checking His Last Seen Status
Duration:00:03:07
The Tell-Tale Signs of Attachment Anxiety
Duration:00:03:08
Finding Your Way Back to Yourself
Duration:00:03:56
Creating New Neural Pathways
Duration:00:02:11
The A.U.M. Framework: Attachment Understanding Model
Duration:00:00:19
Awareness Component
Duration:00:01:24
Understanding Triggers Component
Duration:00:01:15
Modification Strategies Component
Duration:00:01:21
Component Relationships and System Dynamics
Duration:00:01:07
Practical Application
Duration:00:01:18
When the Heart Races, the Mind Follows
Duration:00:04:49
Chapter 7: Self-Soothing: Building Emotional Independence
Duration:00:00:06
When Your Partner Can't Fix What's Broken Inside You: When Self-Soothing Became Sarah's Superpower
Duration:00:05:51
When You Need to Be Your Own Emotional First Responder
Duration:00:03:29
Creating Your Emotional Independence Toolkit
Duration:00:03:59
Refilling Your Own Cup First
Duration:00:02:44
The Self-Soothing Revolution
Duration:00:01:58
Emotional Independence: Your Superpower
Duration:00:02:07
Chapter 8: Drawing the Line: The Power of Setting Boundaries
Duration:00:00:07
Why Most "People-Pleasers" Are One Boundary Away From Freedom: Do We Need Walls to Feel Safe?
Duration:00:07:17
The Boundary Blueprint
Duration:00:02:54
The Self-Respect Revolution
Duration:00:03:24
The Relationship Ecosystem
Duration:00:02:31
The Boundary Toolbox
Duration:00:02:01
The Consistency Challenge
Duration:00:02:09
The Recovery Process
Duration:00:02:33
The Identity Safeguard
Duration:00:02:07
The Growth Enabler
Duration:00:01:45
The Freedom Framework
Duration:00:02:39
Drawing the Line
Duration:00:02:36
Chapter 9: Think Again: Reframing Mindset with Cognitive Behavioral Strategies
Duration:00:00:07
Breaking the Chains of Your Inner Critic - Without the Self-Help BS
Duration:00:03:00
How Sarah Fought the War in Her Mind
Duration:00:03:57
Breaking Free From Mental Prisons
Duration:00:02:54
Rewiring Your Inner Dialogue
Duration:00:03:26
The Relationship Revolution
Duration:00:02:38
From Anxious to Secure: A Mental Makeover
Duration:00:05:48
Chapter 10: Speak Freely: Building Trust through Communication
Duration:00:00:06
When Silence Suffocates, Communication Breathes Life
Duration:00:02:43
Attachment Theory - A Broken Heart Finds a New Way
Duration:00:03:58
The Cornerstone of Attachment Transformation
Duration:00:02:20
Building Your Communication Toolkit
Duration:00:03:55
The Foundation of Lasting Security
Duration:00:01:37
The Trust-Building Communication Framework (TBCF)
Duration:00:00:23
Component 1: Active Listening
Duration:00:01:31
Component 2: Transparent Dialogue
Duration:00:01:29
Component 3: Vulnerability
Duration:00:01:27
Component 4: Conflict Resolution
Duration:00:01:22
Integration and Application
Duration:00:01:40
Building Your Communication Legacy
Duration:00:01:25
The Heart of It All
Duration:00:01:16
Where It All Comes Together
Duration:00:01:02
Your Secure Future
Duration:00:01:34
Epilogue
Duration:00:00:02
The Real Work Starts Now
Duration:00:02:35
Your Relationships Will Transform When You Do
Duration:00:01:38
Maintaining Your Secure Foundation
Duration:00:01:50
The Unfinished Story
Duration:00:02:27