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Multiamory.com is a relationship blog and podcast from the perspective of three polyamorous individuals: Emily Matlack, Jase Lindgren, and Dedeker Winston. Our insights come from our personal experience with polyamory, but the information found here is useful for people in any type of relationship. Whether you are poly, considering diving into it, or just looking to have better monogamous relationships, our tips and ideas will help you to have the healthiest, happiest dating life possible.

Multiamory.com is a relationship blog and podcast from the perspective of three polyamorous individuals: Emily Matlack, Jase Lindgren, and Dedeker Winston. Our insights come from our personal experience with polyamory, but the information found here is useful for people in any type of relationship. Whether you are poly, considering diving into it, or just looking to have better monogamous relationships, our tips and ideas will help you to have the healthiest, happiest dating life possible.
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Multiamory.com is a relationship blog and podcast from the perspective of three polyamorous individuals: Emily Matlack, Jase Lindgren, and Dedeker Winston. Our insights come from our personal experience with polyamory, but the information found here is useful for people in any type of relationship. Whether you are poly, considering diving into it, or just looking to have better monogamous relationships, our tips and ideas will help you to have the healthiest, happiest dating life possible.

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Episodes

226 - Sex Talk With My Mom

6/25/2019
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We're joined by the mother-son duo who host Sex Talk With My Mom and talk about their experiences talking openly and personally about their sex lives in a culture that is terrified of it.

Duration:00:52:11

225 - Real Relationship Talk with Lola Phoenix

6/18/2019
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We're joined by writer Lola Phoenix to talk about common non-monogamy advice and how it can sometimes miss the mark. Lola (pronoun: they) is a queer, non-binary disabled American living in the UK. Lola writes and produces a weekly advice column and podcast called Non-Monogamy help and has been previously published in Violet Blue’s Best Women’s Erotica. Lola also writes personal essays and articles on a variety of topics on social justice issues from gender to disability to poverty in...

Duration:01:04:57

224 - Feelings Are Not Facts

6/11/2019
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An expression we've used on the show in the past is "feelings are not facts." It's been somewhat controversial so we decided to dedicate an episode to exploring that it really means and how a better understanding of the inner workings of thoughts and feelings can benefit our lives.

Duration:01:01:37

223 - Six Secretly Toxic Relationship Behaviors

6/4/2019
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Today we're having a round table discussion with our friend Ben Day about six relationship behaviors that most people think are normal (or even romantic) that are actually toxic and destructive to your relationships. We also get deep and share some of our personal struggles with these behaviors in our own pasts. You can check out more of Ben at PeaceThroughProgressCoaching.com ----- Go to Patreon.com/Multiamory to learn about getting access to our private communities, bonus episodes,...

Duration:01:04:23

222 - Zen and the Art of Relationships

5/28/2019
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What does Buddhism have to do with relationships? Actually a lot! In this episode we talk to priest Annalisa about what all of us can learn from Buddhism to have better, happier, and healthier relationships. We also cover the difference between learning to control your emotions and allowing someone to walk all over you. ----- Go to Patreon.com/Multiamory to learn about getting access to our private communities, bonus episodes, discussion groups, and more. Multiamory was created by Dedeker...

Duration:01:08:21

221 - Precious Moments - A Best of Episode

5/21/2019
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It’s time for our Patron’s favorite moments! This episode was created by suggestions from our awesome private Patreon group members. We asked Patron’s what some of their favorite moments have been on the show and these are just a few of some of their favorite moments. Find out which moments made the list and we've love to hear your feedback about future episodes like this! Here's a list of the included episodes (in no particular order): 170 | Taking for Your Pleasure 178 | The Basics of...

Duration:01:04:14

220 - Secrecy vs Privacy

5/14/2019
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This is a big question that comes up in non-monogamy, especially when it comes to talking about other partners to one another. So what is the difference between privacy and secrecy. Is there really anything that we should be hiding from our partner? What about power dynamics. Who decides what should be private and what shouldn’t be? What is mine to share? We talk about mental health, STI status, personal boundaries and other relationship dynamics where these questions come into consideration.

Duration:01:14:01

219 - Labels By Any Other Name

5/7/2019
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Millennials don’t do labels these days or do they? Some folks despise labels while others live and die by them. Today we describe labeling the holy trinity - Sexuality, Gender and Relationship Styles. We describe our expierences and difficulties with labeling our own individual selves and how those labels have changed or even evolved over time.

Duration:01:06:18

218 - I've HALTed. Now What?

4/30/2019
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Let's chat about the acronym HALT, which stands for - Hungry Angry Lonely or Tired. We also like to include horny, drinking and sick to the mix but HHALTDS just doesn't have the same ring to it. This acronym is used often in addiciton recovery to encourage an addict to check in with themselves and see what is causing their urge to use. We also like to use it for relationship checkins AND actually halting and taking time to process. So once you've halted, now what do you do? On this episode,...

Duration:01:02:20

217 - Commitment in Non-Monogamy

4/23/2019
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Commitment is so often misunderstood when it comes to non-monogamy. We discuss definitions of commitment and identifying the traditional markers of commitment we've all grown up with. We realize that it can be difficult defining what it means exactly within the confines of non-monogamy as it doesn't necessarily fit the stereotypical mold (but that is nothing new!). Infidelity seems to be the final end all be all when it comes to breaking common commitment rules in monogamous relationships so...

Duration:00:59:36

216 - What is Emotional Support?

4/16/2019
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So what exactly is emotional support. How do you ask for it? How do you go about learning what kind of emotional support that you need. What kind does your partner need? Even not knowing what kind of support you need in the moment and admitting it can go a long way! On this episode, we explore what emotional support is, what it is not and learning what you need emotionally from a partner. We even cover co-dependence or emotional negligence in a relationship.

Duration:01:04:34

215 - The Science of Jealousy

4/9/2019
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Jealousy happens in all types of relationships, but what is the science behind why we respond with jealousy to certain situations. What happens inside our bodies and minds in response things that make us feel jealousy. On this episode, we explore the scientific why behind jealousy and some ways to combat that internal struggle.

Duration:01:05:44

214 - Ghosts of Normativity Past

4/2/2019
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Are you suffering from a Monogamy Hangover? We'll give you a dose of medicine to help cure what ails you. Many of us have been given a set of relationship expectations growing up and with changing those expectations, some pieces of those old beliefs and expectations are still left over. On this episode, we talk about some of the topics that can affect non-monogamous relationships when you or your partner(s) subscribe to beliefs from normative past.

Duration:01:14:48

213 - Relationship Goals

3/26/2019
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RelationshipGoals - No, we're not chatting about the infamous Instagram hashtag. On this episode, we take a trip on the relationship escalator. What does your relationship escalator look like? Does it match your partner's? What happens when you aren't sure? Do those expectations ever change?Sometimes we think we have certain expectations, achieve them and realize it wasn't what we wanted at all. So many questions but what is most important is discovering what your personal relationship goals...

Duration:00:55:59

212- Relationship Baggage

3/19/2019
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Get ready for the travel metaphors! They will be plentiful! We've covered this before in a previous episode, but we think it's time to tackle this subject again. In this episode, we talk about baggage, but not neccessarily all the bad stuff. We talk about evaluating your own personal baggage and what you bring to a relationship. Are you carrying around past experiences that are influencing your future ones? Are you participating in Transference? Is this good or bad? We unpack some strategies...

Duration:01:08:22

211 - Thinking Critically about Sex Positivity and Sex Negativity

3/12/2019
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What does Sex Positivity and Sex Negativity actually mean? There is a lot of confusion surrounding these terms. People have a tendancy to throw these terms around with little to no explanation which just seems to add to the confusion. On this episode, we attempt to help define these two terms as best as we can while idetifying the potential problems with each definition. We also discuss some of the evolution and background and history of Sex Negativity and Sex Positivity in the process.

Duration:01:05:31

210 - Take the Fight Out of Your Fights

3/5/2019
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Conflict is inevitable, but conflict can be productive. Everyone gets into fights and arguments but that doesn't mean your relationship is unhealthy or in trouble. On this episode, we talk about fighting fair instead of fighting dirty. Some of us fight with the misconception that we MUST win the fight to succeed. Sometimes we fight for no good reason at all. We take off the boxing gloves and talk about fighting best practices so you can make the most out of your arguments instead of keeping...

Duration:01:15:51

209 - To Cohabitate or Not to Cohabitate, that IS the Question

2/26/2019
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Are you currently living together? Thinking about moving in? Why do you want to move in together? On this episode, we tackle some of the situations & questions that arise when cohabitation is on the table as well as statistics about living together for couples. We cover questions to ask yourself, actionable items to make your living situation great and cover special considerations for living harmoniously non-monogamously.

Duration:01:10:17

208 - Failure is an Option

2/19/2019
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Failure is always an option, but it doesn't have to be the end of the world. We hear about failure quite a bit when it comes to schooling and even jobs/career but failure doesn't always get talked about in regard to relationships. It seems to be a dirty word when it comes to relationships because folks can feel ashamed or don't want to drudge up the past. Failure can be scary but avoiding it altogether shouldn't be the ultimate goal. It can sometimes prevent someone from taking action or...

Duration:01:07:58

207 - Self-Sabotage

2/12/2019
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Listen all ya'll, it's a sabotage! Okay this episode isn't really about the famous Beastie Boy song, it's about something much more serious. Self-Sabotage can be a vicious cycle. On this episode, we tackle self-Sabotage in relationships and in life. Procrastination, addiction, self-worth issues and so much more. We also provide some insight on how to recognize when it's happening and stop the cycle.

Duration:01:00:24