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Changing the human conversation of love and inclusion. Susan Cottrell is the Mom of two LGBTQ children; the founder of FreedHearts; an international speaker with a viral TEDx talk; a pastor and theologian; an acclaimed author; and a fierce advocate and ally. In her unique tender, relatable style, Susan is a prominent voice of unconditional love and lavish inclusion. Powerful, authentic, and relevant in today’s society, Susan has a lot to say. The Advocate calls her their “Favorite Affirming Matriarch.” OutSmart magazine calls her "The Mother of all MamaBears!" Reverend Ashley Harness from Auburn Seminary says, “Susan has this fierce, loving, don’t mess with me, Mom vibe.” If you have been excluded, or if someone close to you has been excluded because of who they are or who they love - or maybe you have been the one doing the excluding - the FreedHearts podcast is for you. Join Susan, along with her husband Rob, on the journey. You are not alone. Welcome home!

Changing the human conversation of love and inclusion. Susan Cottrell is the Mom of two LGBTQ children; the founder of FreedHearts; an international speaker with a viral TEDx talk; a pastor and theologian; an acclaimed author; and a fierce advocate and ally. In her unique tender, relatable style, Susan is a prominent voice of unconditional love and lavish inclusion. Powerful, authentic, and relevant in today’s society, Susan has a lot to say. The Advocate calls her their “Favorite Affirming Matriarch.” OutSmart magazine calls her "The Mother of all MamaBears!" Reverend Ashley Harness from Auburn Seminary says, “Susan has this fierce, loving, don’t mess with me, Mom vibe.” If you have been excluded, or if someone close to you has been excluded because of who they are or who they love - or maybe you have been the one doing the excluding - the FreedHearts podcast is for you. Join Susan, along with her husband Rob, on the journey. You are not alone. Welcome home!

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United States

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Changing the human conversation of love and inclusion. Susan Cottrell is the Mom of two LGBTQ children; the founder of FreedHearts; an international speaker with a viral TEDx talk; a pastor and theologian; an acclaimed author; and a fierce advocate and ally. In her unique tender, relatable style, Susan is a prominent voice of unconditional love and lavish inclusion. Powerful, authentic, and relevant in today’s society, Susan has a lot to say. The Advocate calls her their “Favorite Affirming Matriarch.” OutSmart magazine calls her "The Mother of all MamaBears!" Reverend Ashley Harness from Auburn Seminary says, “Susan has this fierce, loving, don’t mess with me, Mom vibe.” If you have been excluded, or if someone close to you has been excluded because of who they are or who they love - or maybe you have been the one doing the excluding - the FreedHearts podcast is for you. Join Susan, along with her husband Rob, on the journey. You are not alone. Welcome home!

Language:

English


Episodes

What Does it Really Mean to Deconstruct My Faith?

4/7/2021
What Does it Really Mean to Deconstruct My Faith? When you leave your previous understanding of your faith, it may feel as if you lost your entire identity because of how tightly you held those beliefs. In this episode, we talk about what it really means to deconstruct your faith. What affirms our deconstruction is realizing that God is in all the places we were told not to go.

Duration:00:28:04

The Enemy Within: Internalized Queerphobia

3/31/2021
Do you wish you could get away from that internalized voice of disapproval and shame? This is one of the hardest issues to face for LGBTQ+ people on their path to acceptance, and for families and loved ones — especially those with a faith background. Today, we talk about the enemy within: internalized queerphobia.

Duration:00:28:15

Freedom from Fight or Flight

3/24/2021
What a time it is! I’ve had to pull myself back from living in a constant state of fight or flight. How about you? Fight or flight is meant to be a temporary state, a brilliant way to protect us from that proverbial tiger. But that should be a very small portion of our lives. If we find ourselves stuck in fight or flight - what’s the alternative? What is the ideal state look like?

Duration:00:28:35

Top 5 Questions from Parents of LGBTQ Children

3/17/2021
This episode is for parents of LGBTQ children; or LGBTQ people with parents; or those allies and friends who know parents. In other words, this is for you! In our work with tens of thousands of parents of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer children, there are 5 questions that almost always come up. Things they are concerned about; things they wonder and worry about. In this episode, we answer those questions! We help set hearts free to fully affirm and accept; to love and be...

Duration:00:29:03

In a Deconstructing Faith, What About the Bible?

3/10/2021
It’s common in today’s non-affirming church teaching to talk about the Bible as “the inerrant, unchanged word of God,” meaning, if you even question what you’ve been taught about the Bible or what it says, you are labeled a heretic! But, as we have discovered on our own deconstruction journey, there are a lot of problems with that! In this episode, we talk about what to do with the Bible in the midst of a deconstructing faith.

Duration:00:28:14

Christian Myth Busters: My 7 Biggest Shockers

3/3/2021
I went to seminary as an evangelical. I had no idea it was going to hold so many surprises. Here are the top 7 shockers that change the entire game of Christianity. Knowing these will help us continue to unravel the hurtful, destructive teachings that, in truth, really have nothing to do with Jesus, God or the Bible. It was the beginning of the deconstruction of my faith, and the beginning of a much deeper, more beautiful, more satisfying faith and spirituality.

Duration:00:33:18

Responding to the Teaching of Contempt in Our Own Lives

2/24/2021
The teaching of contempt, the teach of “us vs them,” has seeped into our culture and thinking. There’s no magic answer to fix it, and it has taken root in our lives, in society. So, what can we do? In this powerful episode, we discover how to recognize and deal with contempt in our lives - that we are receiving and that we are giving. This episode is about beginning to truly see ourselves and each other.

Duration:00:32:48

A Love Letter to the Past and Future You!

2/17/2021
If you could write a love letter to your past self - to little Susie Q or little Bobby - what would you say? And if you could write a love letter to your future self - in 10, 20, 30 years - what would you say? In this episode, we talk about the thread of love running through your life, what may be hindering that, and how we can free our hearts to love and be loved - as we deserve. The most important love you will give or receive is the love you give to, and receive from yourself.

Duration:00:31:19

Don't Waste Time Explaining Yourself!

2/10/2021
How often do you find yourself responding to the same old questions and hurtful comments from non-affirming people? In this episode, we discuss why you should never waste your time, never waste your heart debating with, or explaining yourself to someone who is committed to misunderstanding you. It can be toxic! You don't deserve it, and we'll talk about how we can respond instead.

Duration:00:31:43

Susan's Story: Heart-Breaking Loss to Heart-Freeing Love

2/3/2021
By the time Susan turned 24, both her parents and three brothers had died! She had been relentlessly bullied; and was married and divorced. This personal, intimate episode is for those of us who have experienced pain and heart-breaking loss, and how to turn that into heart-freeing love. Susan opens up and shares her heart and her incredible story in this special episode.

Duration:00:37:01

Jesus and the Church: What's the Difference??

1/27/2021
So much pain has been inflicted in the name of God. We have been deeply hurt, we get triggered and we want nothing to do with Jesus. But what has been used to hurt us has been absolute lies and is not really about God or Jesus! One of the worst things that ever happened to Jesus was the religion of Christianity, and non-affirming Christianity has largely gotten him wrong. Jesus is still one of the best-kept secrets because his truth has been grossly distorted by people who claim to speak...

Duration:00:38:32

Life Without Breasts: A Discussion of Femininity

1/13/2021
In this beautiful, intimate episode, Susan talks openly about her decision to have her breasts and ovaries removed as part of her battle with cancer, and how it impacted her femininity. "I learned the power of loving my body. I learned how much I took my body for granted and how much more I wanted to love it. We have tied our femininity so much to our body -- our shape, our size, our sexiness -- a lot about how others see us. And it's so much more than that. It's about confidence, which...

Duration:00:35:05

A Christmas for the Rest of Us

12/23/2020
In a beautiful, very special holiday episode, we share three stories - one from Alice Walker, author of The Color Purple; one from Sandra Cisneros; and a unique retelling of the Biblical story for us outliers, the rest of us. I hope these unwrap the way we see and celebrate this Christmas holiday season. It is about reconstructing Christmas in the midst of a deconstructing faith. Celebrating for the rest of us.

Duration:00:27:01

False Teachings that Steal Our Love

12/16/2020
Why do parents struggle with loving their LGBTQ children? The false teachings and faulty arguments that lead parents to reject their LGBTQ children. Why do LGBTQ struggle with internalized homophobia, with loving themselves? The false teachings and faulty arguments that lead LGBTQ people to reject themselves. Important information; and a tender, powerful message on how to respond to those who use these false teachings to hurt us. An episode to help set your heart free!

Duration:00:33:57

Answering Your Questions!

12/9/2020
Our first visit to the FreedHearts Podcast Inbox! In this special episode we answer questions we have received from our listeners. I am pretty sure you have heard them, or even asked them yourself! Questions about supporting an LGBTQ person who is in the middle of a very non-affirming environment; talking to anti-gay pastors and church leaders; the difference between a welcoming and a truly affirming church; microaggressions; when is it time to leave a church; dealing with internalized...

Duration:00:37:44

What happens when your faith starts to change?

12/2/2020
“My child is walking away from God!” “I know I don’t believe what I used to but I don’t know what I believe now!” “How can I believe in God at all anymore?” What happens when your faith starts to change? Deconstructing our faith is letting go of any part of whatever you believe that does NOT tell you that you are absolutely, unconditionally acceptance, included, loved and beloved. It can be scary and feel overwhelming. But it is one of the most beautiful things you will ever do. What...

Duration:00:25:35

Holidays or Helladays? When you can’t, or don’t want to go home.

11/25/2020
Have you been uninvited to a holiday or family gathering? Is that kind of event the last place you would want to be because of things that are said or just because of how you are made to feel? Let’s talk about how to navigate difficult family situations, and also about options for when you can’t, or don’t want to go home for the holidays.

Duration:00:29:31

Infuriating Family Fanatics! Love in the midst of hurt.

11/18/2020
How do we deal with infuriating family fanatics? When we are afraid, angry, and even hurt, how do we love people we don’t even like that much? What does that mean, and what does it not mean?

Duration:00:33:42

A Love Letter... to Ourselves!

11/11/2020
What a time it has been! We have been through a lot, almost like going through a war together. Many of us are exhausted! And for a lot of you, all of this is in addition to the daily rejection and hurt we receive from family and friends - just because you are LGBTQ. Now is the perfect time for self care. Now is the perfect time for a love letter… to ourselves.

Duration:00:30:00

Stressed? Afraid? Angry? Powerful & profoundly simple ways to help.

10/29/2020
Even the most optimistic people, this year is doing a number on us. It seems as if every day something else is happening – wildfires, floods, protests, politics, racial tension, and deaths and suffering on so many levels from COVID. Our emotional and mental health is fragile. We just can’t seem to get our footing. And it just keeps piling up. We are stressed, afraid, angry. The present is overwhelming and unbelievably painful and difficult for so so many. The future is uncertain. In this...

Duration:00:24:03