Manhood Restored

We are "de-Cathinated" (but definitely not decaffeinated) for this BONUS episode. Ben is joined by three of his pastor friends (Adam Poe, Phil Bange, and Justin Monfort), all from local churches of different Protestant denominations, to discuss this episode's title question. While we will be without the Catholic Chadder, these dynamic men are poised to deliver some absolutely great insights. In true Man Talk fashion, there's a four-way free-flowing discussion throughout; as the conversation draws down, each co-host gives their final weigh-in. The four co-hosts discuss how to effectively minister in our homes and in society, and how to reach our youth for Christ and the role technology plays in that effort. Then it's off to new and exciting things for Ben and Chad! Thanks again for listening and supporting us! Of course, you can always find out what Ben is up to at: Home - Ben Neff Recommendations from our Co-hosts: The Gospel comes with a House Key by Rosiario Butterfield Joining Jesus on His Mission by Greg Finke Questioning Evangelism by Randy Newman Evangelism in a Skeptical World by Sam Chan

Beacons of Light, implemented in the Archdiocese of Cincinnati in July of 2022, is an attempt to address difficult realities facing Catholics, realities like declining Mass attendance and growing priest shortages. A consolidation of parish churches into groupings called “Families” has ensued with the hope that shared resources might enable Catholics to move "from a mindset of maintenance to a mindset of mission." Despite its good intentions and its arguably necessary measures, Beacons has proven disruptive and often trying for many of the lay faithful. Chad takes this BONUS opportunity to bring in three Mighty Catholic laymen (John Paul Slonkosky, Nick Rentz, and Jared Pottkotter), for a 4-mic Man-Talk, to discuss this episode’s title question. The four of them roundtable the challenges, the realizations, and the divisions brought on by Beacons. What has been the experience of Beacons “on the ground” by the average Catholic? How much of the difficulties during these first two years of Beacons has to do with parish consolidations, and how much has to do with younger priests moving toward more traditional liturgical celebrations? What is the future of Catholicism in Cincinnati, and (at the episode’s end) what advice would these four men give to lay men and women as we move forward together? SHOW NOTES: Beacons of Light Parish Families - Archdiocese of Cincinnati (catholicaoc.org)

Episode 138 - It's the last hurrah here on the Manhood Restored podcast! Two and half years of weekly episodes add up to 150 (counting BONUSES!), and we find ourselves having one last mighty conversation. Ben and Chad could think of no better way to sign off than to interact with questions from you, Dear Listener. We sincerely THANK YOU for coming along with us on this project - it's been a blast! God Bless you! Here are the question topics, in order of how we answer them: SHOW NOTES: See what Ben is doing, read his blog or have him come speak at your event. Check out...www.benneff.com

Plug 'em in and pass 'em around - the microphones, that is! Four microphones to be exact. And four men, for the last MAN TALK, convene a roundtable on this crucial leading question. Two hosts and two guest hosts have a very timely and important conversation. A really great conversation. A beautiful conversation. By the end, each man reveals how he'll be voting in the 2024 --okay, not really. But they do each finally give their conclusion on the question at hand. (Feel free to weigh in, dear listener, by emailing us at mightymen@manhoodrestored.tv) Craig Flack and Andy Muhlenkamp are two very thoughtful and mighty men. They join Ben and Chad to add some healthy balance to this ("HUGE") politically charged topic. Craig is the Pastor at Celina First Church of God in Celina, Ohio; Andy is a member of the sure-to-be-renowned-someday local book club, the Blinklings. The four face the elephants (and donkeys) in the MR "studio". Which presidential option is more problematic for a Christian-in-good-conscience: Trump or Biden? Do the various elements at play in today's political landscape make it uniquely difficult for a Chrisitian to stay faithful in his beliefs AND be engaged in the political process? And how can a man's core identity be a key to whether or not he's voting faithfully on any given issue or for any particular candidate?

Episode 136 - We've established that feminism has a fatal foothold in all sorts of cultural and societal institutions - it's made schooling anti-boy; it's made dating and marriage miserable for many--men and women alike; it's turned our storytelling into unrealistic propaganda; it's opened the floodgates for every form of gender confusion under the sun. But is it possible that it's also managed to emasculate our theology? Ben does the opposite of smooth things over in this, his last lead episode--that is, he just makes more waves (and too many puns), while Chad carries a memorable tune as co-host in this "fruity" episode. The two toss around the novel notion that the Holy Spirit animates men and women differently. How might "fruits" of the Spirit like peace and love take on a uniquely masculine character? What would cause or motivate someone to "read feminism into" the Scriptures? And what are examples of how the manly bearing of spiritual fruit can benefit the home, the church, and the culture at large? SHOW NOTES: Slugs & Bugs – Slugs and BugsAbiding in Christ- Andrew MurrayGalatians 5:22 NIV - But the fruit of the Spirit is love, - Bible Gateway2 Timothy 1:6-14 NIV - Appeal for Loyalty to Paul and the - Bible Gateway

Episode 135 - One hundred and thirty-five episodes in and the core message of this podcast remains the same: Men—MIGHTY MEN—are the solution to the problems besetting western society today. What kind of men in particular? What makes a man mighty and how can he become fit for the task of righting the ship? Piece by piece, that is the puzzle we’ve been putting together at the Manhood Restored podcast. This episode puts a frame around that puzzle’s final, integrated picture. Chad takes the mound in the final game of this seven-game “series” of an episode, while Ben waits in the bullpen for the call to close as the “wild” card co-host. The two take a step back and marvel at the manly picture that’s materialized over the course of two years of recording. Which of Chad’s “man” episodes have come together to form a helpful road map to Mighty Mandom? What does it mean to be an Integrated Man? And what are some saintly and biblical examples of men who fit the Integrated-Man mold? SHOW NOTES: Chad's Challenge movie: A Man for All Seasons (1966) - IMDb

Episode 134 - We have "grilled" each other on our differences, come together on the ways we agree, and debated big topics like salvation. Now with the end of our conversations drawing near, we couldn't conclude the podcast without one last Catholic vs. Protestant debate! Ben , professing to be the titleholder, heard a challenge in a recent Man Talk episode and can't resist leading the protest; Chad, relishing the role of "underdog", is all too happy to oblige as contender and co-host! The two turn inward again to talk on a major point of departure between Catholics & Protestants: the sacraments. Ben pushes back strongly against the need for the priesthood in administering grace. Chad appeals to the necessity of form and ritual in worship and prayer - regardless of denomination. They seek understanding and clarification by: going to the Bible (Chad, believe it or not!); telling about their own recent experiences (Ben's got an interesting one!); and both expressing their own deep-seeded sensibilities of how to relate to God.

Episode 133 - The trends in survey data on friendship are indicating steep declines in recent decades - in both friendship quality and quantity. That trend, it's popularly believed, has most especially affected men. One 2021 survey found that men with at least six "close friends" has dropped from 55 percent to 27 percent since1990! How can that be in a society that purports to be so "social" and "connected"? Oh, the irony! Chad's parades as the Grand Poohbah in this secret man club of an episode, while Ben gets a co-host's initiation, coughing through the club's cloud of cigar smoke as he tries to perfect the Manhood Restored secret handshake. The two friends puzzle over the recent friendship trends and reflect on the value of friendship. What could be the contributing factors to such sharp declines in friendship among men? How important are friendships to men, especially given the time and energy required to maintain them? And how have Ben and Chad fared personally with making and maintaining friendships into their adult lives? SHOW NOTES: The State of American Friendship: Change, Challenges, and Loss - The Survey Center on American Life (americansurveycenter.org)American Men Suffer a Friendship Recession - The Survey Center on American Life (americansurveycenter.org)

Episode 132 - It's been a long many years since the tectonic times of the Seneca Falls Convention; the societal fracture left at its feminist epicenter has widened into a canyon-sized divide between the sexes. The tremors of nearly 200 years of feminism have been felt by nearly every corner of our society. Its harmful effects are found in culture, education, economics, sexuality. Even Christian institutions have been far from immune. That's including the institution of marriage. Ben calls up his inner Anchorman for this magnum opus of an episode, while Chad chases the storm stirred up therein as co-host. The two batten down the hatches for a headlong dive into the whipping winds of a "Her-ricane". How would one accurately define Feminism as a cultural phenomenon from the Manhood Restored perspective? What are some ways in which feminism has found its way into Christian households and Christian Marriages? How can men and women begin to reverse its negative effects, and could the solution have anything to do with the A-Word? SHOW NOTES: The Seneca Falls Declaration 1848 < 1826-1850 < Documents < American History From Revolution To Reconstruction and beyond (rug.nl)Mike Winger Women in Ministry IntroMike Winger Men as Head of HouseholdJohn Michael Clark- The Family CaptainMichael FosterThe Cherishing Nurture of a Godly FeminineThe End of Woman: How Smashing the Patriarchy Has Destroyed Us: Gress, Carrie: 9781684514182: Amazon.com: Books

Episode 131 - *LISTEN IN FOR A MANHOOD RESTORED SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT* Parents and grandparents passing along hard-earned wisdom to the next generation is probably most often accomplished through oral storytelling, impromtu lectures, and incidental conversation. But there's nothing like the written word (or a written-up podcast episode) to really focus and articulate the "the things you want them to know"; taking the time to think through what's worth sharing and putting those thoughts to paper, is a a great way of leaving behind your words even after you're gone. Chad busts out his "quill" and plays the sage for this personal letter of an episode, as Ben lingers around as co-host hoping an idea will light him up (because that's what Bens do best!). The two contemplate the "letter to my son" concept as Chad lays out six pieces of advice he wants to pass along to his children. Along with each six, he also gives real life examples of how the advice has helped him in his own life. Ben piggybacks off each idea and then adds his own elderly advice at the end. SHOW NOTES: Andrew Peterson song referened at episode's end: https://lyrics.lyricfind.com/lyrics/andrew-peterson-youll-find-your-way

Episode 130 - Facing down a question of far-wielding proportions is yet again the task of this MAN TALK episode, setting loose four men and four microphones on a topic that requires substantial time to work out. Hosts and Guest Hosts hash out this perennially debated question and aim at "solving the world's problems" in just over 90 minutes! The four will each give their final answers by episode's end. (What's your opinion, dear listener? Email us at mightymen@manhoodrestored.tv .) Pete Mustard and Josh Wendel coincidentally both have experience in the automotive industries; while that has absolutely nothing to do with this episode's topic, their common penchant for the peculiar does. Both fancying themselves as history nuts, they hope to help Ben and Chad ascend this Everest-like episode question. What are some of the unique factors faced by the modern world that could arguably sway one's opinion in either direction on this question? What's the best lens through which to filter out an answer to this question - religious/moral, human progress/advancement, wealth/prosperity? Was there a time in history, from a Christian's point of view, when humanity was most in harmony with God?

Episode 129 - A world where every temporal necessity is given and every environmental factor optimized is a world poised for flourishing. Plentiful food and drink. Adequate space and healthy conditions. Safety and comfort and communal harmony. You couldn't imagine a more perfect existence; it'd be a veritable Utopia. Except that there's no such thing. And that's a curious fact--for mice, and for men. Ben watermelons his way back to his junior high days and channels his inner Vanilla Ice as lead for this episode, while Chad busts out his sociological magnifying glass to offer his "illustrious" analysis as co-host. The two use the results of a mouse experiment from the '70s to springboard into a discussion about the perils of Progress. In what ways does mouse behavior in the "Universe 25" experiment mirror that of modern human society? What about material prosperity and relative societal safety makes us particularly susceptible to self-induced crisis? What can men, as leaders and fathers, do to head off our progression toward an utopian way of life so as to avoid its inevitable pitfalls? SHOW NOTES: Universe 25 Mouse Experiment : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7ReBJfxHjFU

Episode 128 - Nobody likes being told a lie. That is, unless you agree up front to go along with the lie. But what if you've gone along with the lies so long, you're not so sure you know what’s true anymore? Maybe what's real is only a matter of what you're willing to go along with. Enter five foot-five, one-hundred- and fifteen-pound girl-boss action heroes. Enter Angelina Jolie and Scarlett Johansson. Enter the Feminist Fatale. Chad classes up as a cruiserweight and takes his first official swing at feminism's fatal flaws, while his possibly-welter, but probably-super lightweight, co-host Ben Neff, loves to tap in. The two ring a bell that most likely cannot be un-rung by calling out the emperor's fantastically feminist clothes. Is it misogynistic to feel a little too faked-out when yet another pretty, petite female actress wins in a fist fight with a man more than twice her size? Ought not women be offended when the only way for today's female movie characters to be heroic is by acting like men? How might a seemingly harmless feminist idea actually turn out to be fatal? SHOW NOTES: Chad's resource market research: Strong Women: 15 Action Movies Starring Badass Women (screenrant.com) Andrew Klavan episode referenced: Hello, Lady Ballers (youtube.com) Brett Cooper's episode referenced: The "Girl Bosses" Are Waking Up (youtube.com)

Episode 127 - This mighty good guest is a coffee aficionado if there ever was one! Jeff Hazel is the owner of Hazelnut Coffee Company, a very popular coffee shop in Celina, Ohio. He also roasts beans under his own label, Old Hatch Coffee Roastery, supplying beans for other coffee shops. Jeff joins the podcast to discuss, debate, and otherwise educate listeners on what's arguably one of man's favorite drinks! Chad, the smooth-finishing Frenchman by heritage, is the frontline interviewer on this episode; Ben Neff helps navigate as the small-to-medium-bodied, (possibly) decaffeinated cohost. The two steep in the many fun facts their guest shares about coffee, while wishing they could be sipping on their subject matter (were it not for the late hour). What are the many ways one might make coffee, and what are the how's and why's behind each? What are some of Jeff's secret tips and tricks for maximizing the goodness of a cup of coffee (what to drink out of, what kind of water to use, what kind of milk to use, etc)? How, from Jeff's point of view as a coffee shop owner, can coffee bring people together as a community in a unique way? SHOW NOTES: Jeff's coffee shop Facebook Page: Facebook Jeff's roastery: OLD HATCH COFFEE ROASTERY (oldhatchroastery.com)

Episode 126 - Picture a roadside diner, a cozy spot with booths and tables for four. Inside the air is thick with grease and the smell of all-day coffee; there's the white-noise clatter of cooking and plates and silverware. Then notice the lunch patrons, some sitting together, others alone. The waitresses are taking orders, joking and smiling. It's a familiar scene all over America, a routine acted out by millions daily. And then, there in this diner, picture Ben sitting off at a table on his own - doing one of his favorite things. Ben is the adventurous social scientist analyzing the wildly commonplace for this episode, as Chad interprets the scene to see if he can cover Ben's claim to have a found a phenomenon worth capturing. The two ponder the potential significance of men taking meals in restaurants alone. What about the familiarity and routine of stopping at a diner to eat can be comforting and almost therapeutic? Is there anything superficial, or even sad, about men regularly taking lunch alone at a restaurant? How could the communal setting of a diner or coffee shop indicate a craving for connection for those who make a habit of going?

Episode 125 - G.K. Chesterton once wrote, "We make our friends; we make our enemies; but God makes our neighbor." It can be the hardest thing, can't it, to see--to really notice--the people who live in our most direct proximity? For all the "connectedness" that we presume to possess through things like social media, there's something too often lacking in our person-to-person neighborliness these days. And that's not just a shame, it's a failure to heed a Gospel admonition. Chad sings a familiar little ditty as the lead vocals on this episode, while Ben stares smilingly ahead as co-host, humming along and changing out his jacket and shoes during the long (12 mins), opening banter. The two contemplate the care demanded of Christians toward the people God's placed right next door us. Who's the mystery neighbor that's given Chad and his family a schooling in the art of proper neighboring? Are there things about our current cultural condition that make being a good neighbor more challenging? And how can men lead the charge to reignite a neighborly spirit in our respective communities? SHOW NOTES: Mister Rogers Documentary: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YEYI4UJMcc4 Full Length Chesterton quote: https://www.breakpoint.org/chesterton-on-loving-neighbors/

Episode 124 - Carter Hellwarth is first-year college student at Bowling Green State University studying communication and film production. Carter grew up on a dairy farm in Mercer County, Ohio, was Class President of this graduating glass, and ranked near the top of his class at Parkway High School. He also placed 2nd in the Nation at the 2023 National FFA Convention for Extemporaneous Public Speaking. Ben takes on the role of mastermind behind this "sneak attack" of an episode, while Chad tries to fly under the radar by drafting off their guest & fellow Falcon's soaring altitude. The two are determined to secret away the real answers to their "Should I Send My Kids to College" question from a real-life (and undercover) college student. What was Carter's journey of discernment that landed him at a 4-year university, and why did he think that it was the right path to success for him? Are there any ways in which Carter's upbringing and Christian faith have been tested while attending college? How is Carter's first year at college going, and how has his pro-active approach to getting involved on campus been a critical part of his early experience?

Episode 123 - Since legalizing sports betting in January of 2023, the gambling scene in Ohio is going full tilt! First there was Powerball and Mega Millions, then came the Casinos. Now on the scene is the likes of FanDuel and DraftKings. Gambling in Ohio is on the ascendency, and the sports betting variety is particularly popular with men (as high as 80% sports betting app users are men!). And something about the trend bothers Ben. Or does it? Ben, the consummate competitor and faithful fixer, is "all-in" as the lead for this episode, while Chad--Mr. Pennypincher himself--holds his cards close as co-host. The two wager their opinions on this growing phenomenon and try to tease out its proper place in the life of a Mighty Man of Valor. What is the allure of gambling in general, and is sports betting online more or less alluring than the traditional forms of gambling? Does the Bible condemn gambling as sinful? What are the personal and societal pitfalls to gambling, and are there certain segments of the population that are more susceptible to them? SHOW NOTES: Stats on sports betting: Sports betting in the U.S. - statistics & facts | Statista Catholic answer on gambling: Isn't gambling a sin? How can you Catholics justify playing bingo in church? | Catholic Answers Q&A Got Questions answer on gambling: Is gambling a sin? What does the Bible say about gambling? | GotQuestions.org

Episode 122 - When a man knows the history of his ancestors, he knows his place in the world. He knows the names of those who passed on his name; he knows how he came to be at the place he presently stands; he knows the kind of character he ought to (or ought not) emulate in order to bring honor to his family. But when a man does not know the history of his ancestors, he's left adrift and grasping without direction. Chad-son of Douglas, son of James, son of Victor, son of Albert, son of John, son of Frank, son of Joseph--takes the lead for this episode, as Ben lets on a little of his own newly found family history as co-host. The two try to encourage curiosity towards the many rabbit holes of a personal family history. What are Ben & Chad's family histories like? How could you risk losing meaning when you detach or distance yourself from your past? And what are some examples of how digging deep into genealogical details can yield new insights into, and appreciation for, the life handed down to us? SHOW NOTES: Websites for geneological research: Ancestry® | Family Tree, Genealogy & Family History RecordsFind your family. Free Genealogy Archive | FamilySearch • FamilySearchGenealogy: Search your ancestors, Create your family tree, Find archival records, ... - GeneanetSearch Historical NewspapersFind a Grave - Millions of Cemetery Records

Episode 121 - Joel Penton is a former defensive tackle and national champion for the Ohio State University Buckeyes, as well as a Danny Wuerffel Trophy recipient (the "humanitarian Heisman"). He is the author of three books and the founder and CEO of LifeWise Academy--a groundbreaking program providing Bible education to students in over 300 of our nation's public schools, during school hours. He is a widely sought-after speaker with over 1,000 live audiences having taken in his message. Joel and his wife Bethany live in Columbus, Ohio, with their five children. Ben loads his sling and shines his helmet for this giant guest interview, while Chad backs Ben up with his armory of big words as co-host. The two take up a great conversation with this purveyor of the Gospel in the public-school setting. How is it possible--through LifeWise Academy--that public school students are legally allowed to study the Bible during school hours? What kinds of opposition has LifeWise Academy faced from secular and anti-religious groups? And if someone is interested in brining Bible education to their school district, what are the steps necessary to make that happen? SHOW NOTES: LifeWise in the headlines: More than 300 public schools nationwide will learn from the Bible this year (foxnews.com) LifeWise website (how to initiate in your school): During School Hours - LifeWise Academy Joel's latest book telling of LifeWise successes: Amazon.com: During School Hours: WHY and HOW LifeWise Academy is Reinstalling Religious Education into the Public School Day: 9798987617519: Penton, Joel: Books