Men After God

Are you tired of "cookie-cutter Christianity"? Many Christian men feel exhausted and guilty, trying to squeeze their life into a rigid spiritual system that wasn’t designed for their wiredness or current season of life. In this powerful transition episode, Dr. Dustin Alley and Luke Sorensen address the dangerous distinction between a rigid "system" and a customizable "framework." Using examples from bad marriage counseling to the ideal time for devotions, they explore how to stop copying other people's spiritual habits and start following Jesus as the man God uniquely made you to be. If deepen your relationship with Jesus is your foundation, this framework provides the architectural necessary to hold up the other essential areas of your life. We introduce the five areas every Christian man must schedule into his week—and if you can't find room for these five, you are overbooked. In this episode, we break down: The "Perfectly Normal" Trap:System vs. Framework:A philosophical Friday night text:frompursuingLuke’s Struggles:The Permission Slip:The 5-Pillar Framework Identified: We define the five pillars you need to maintain balance, authority, and peace: DeepenDevoteDevelopDeliverDo nothingHave a question or want to share how the framework is working for you? Email Dustin directly at alley1230@icloud.com

Are you tired of "cookie-cutter Christianity"? Many Christian men feel exhausted and guilty, trying to squeeze their life into a rigid spiritual system that wasn’t designed for their wiredness or current season of life. In this powerful transition episode, Dr. Dustin Alley and Luke Sorensen address the dangerous distinction between a rigid "system" and a customizable "framework." Using examples from bad marriage counseling to the ideal time for devotions, they explore how to stop copying other people's spiritual habits and start following Jesus as the man God uniquely made you to be. If deepen your relationship with Jesus is your foundation, this framework provides the architectural necessary to hold up the other essential areas of your life. We introduce the five areas every Christian man must schedule into his week—and if you can't find room for these five, you are overbooked. In this episode, we break down: The "Perfectly Normal" Trap:System vs. Framework:A philosophical Friday night text:frompursuingLuke’s Struggles:The Permission Slip:The 5-Pillar Framework Identified: We define the five pillars you need to maintain balance, authority, and peace: DeepenDevoteDevelopDeliverDo nothingHave a question or want to share how the framework is working for you? Email Dustin directly at alley1230@icloud.com

The conversation delves into the depth of the book, the physical man, and holistic health, as well as the importance of physical well-being and accountability. The hosts share personal experiences and insights, encouraging listeners to take responsibility for their physical health and well-being. Takeaways Chapters

The conversation delves into the depth of the book, the physical man, and holistic health, as well as the importance of physical well-being and accountability. The hosts share personal experiences and insights, encouraging listeners to take responsibility for their physical health and well-being. Takeaways Chapters

The conversation explores the themes of intentional living, relational priorities, deepening friendships, and challenges in friendship. It emphasizes the importance of active listening, navigating surface conversations, and addressing challenges in male fellowship. The role of pride in friendships and the impact of unfulfilling relationships are also discussed. Takeaways Chapters

The conversation explores the themes of intentional living, relational priorities, deepening friendships, and challenges in friendship. It emphasizes the importance of active listening, navigating surface conversations, and addressing challenges in male fellowship. The role of pride in friendships and the impact of unfulfilling relationships are also discussed. Takeaways Chapters

Dr. Dustin Alley shares insights on the discipline of focus and the impact of fragmented attention on productivity and peace. He emphasizes the importance of order, directed attention, and the stewardship of focus. The conversation explores the economic case for focus, the value of depth, and provides a framework for a more focused life. Takeaways Chapters

Dr. Dustin Alley shares insights on the discipline of focus and the impact of fragmented attention on productivity and peace. He emphasizes the importance of order, directed attention, and the stewardship of focus. The conversation explores the economic case for focus, the value of depth, and provides a framework for a more focused life. Takeaways Chapters

The conversation explores the themes of intentional living, relationship with Jesus, and the impact of technology on relationships. It delves into the importance of intentional actions, the significance of movement in purpose, and the dangers of comparison and busyness. It also emphasizes the need for intentional communication and interaction in relationships. Takeaways Chapters

The conversation explores the themes of intentional living, relationship with Jesus, and the impact of technology on relationships. It delves into the importance of intentional actions, the significance of movement in purpose, and the dangers of comparison and busyness. It also emphasizes the need for intentional communication and interaction in relationships. Takeaways Chapters

The podcast hosts discuss the concept of focus and obedience in the context of their personal experiences and faith. They emphasize the importance of prioritizing and aligning with God's will, as well as the challenges of distractions and overcommitment. The conversation delves into the themes of time management, decision-making, and the significance of waiting for God's guidance. Takeaways Chapters

The podcast hosts discuss the concept of focus and obedience in the context of their personal experiences and faith. They emphasize the importance of prioritizing and aligning with God's will, as well as the challenges of distractions and overcommitment. The conversation delves into the themes of time management, decision-making, and the significance of waiting for God's guidance. Takeaways Chapters

Episode Description In this episode of the Men After God podcast, Dustin Alley and Luke Sorensen continue Season 2 by exploring what it means to have a heart that is truly set on God. Building from Chapter Two of Becoming a Man After God, they introduce the idea of “heart set” versus mindset—arguing that while the mind may be easier to manage, the heart is what ultimately shapes who we become. Through the life of George Müller, Dustin and Luke examine what surrender looks like in real life, especially when obedience requires stepping away from what is safe, expected, or culturally approved. They discuss faith as an action, not just a belief, and wrestle honestly with the tension between trusting God and trying to meet your own needs. The conversation challenges men to stop living on autopilot, stop blaming circumstances or counsel for inaction, and instead live with a heart fully surrendered to God’s leading. The episode closes with a strong call to personal responsibility, cheerful obedience, and giving God not just your behavior—but your heart. Chapters 00:00 Season 2 introduction and the concept of “heart set” 00:48 Why the heart is more dangerous—and more powerful—than the mind 01:30 “You are what you love” and how affection shapes identity 02:22 Chapter Two overview and why it’s so short 03:33 What was missing from the chapter and lessons learned after publishing 04:55 George Müller’s life and the challenge of living by faith 06:24 Faith as action, not just surrender language 08:56 Safe paths versus surrendered paths 10:23 Getting out of God’s way and unbelief as an obstacle 11:22 Seasons, obedience, and when God changes direction 13:30 Müller’s story of provision and God’s “royal” supply 14:38 When we meet our own needs and credit God anyway 15:51 Faith, surrender, and unique personal battles 16:18 Why your walk with God cannot be borrowed from someone else 17:11 Owning your story, suffering, and responsibility 18:10 Obedience over counsel when God is clearly leading 20:02 Suffering, growth, and surrendering what “ought to be” 20:25 Faith that can’t be tested can’t be trusted 22:48 Personal obedience and resisting people-pleasing 23:47 God’s Word over the “easy button” of leadership 24:20 Emotions, logic, and cheerful obedience 25:28 Final challenge: surrender your heart, not just your actions Resources Mentioned in This Episode Becoming a Man After God https://a.co/d/iA5BV3qSupport the Show 📌 Connect with Men After God: 🌍 Website: https://www.menaftergod.net 📺 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@menaftergodpod 📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/menaftergodpod 👥 Join Our Community: https://facebook.com/groups/menaftergod 🛒 Get MAG Merch: https://menaftergod.myshopify.com 💙 Support Us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/MenAfterGod 🎙️ Available on: Apple Podcasts | Spotify

Episode Description In this episode of the Men After God podcast, Dustin Alley and Luke Sorensen continue Season 2 by exploring what it means to have a heart that is truly set on God. Building from Chapter Two of Becoming a Man After God, they introduce the idea of “heart set” versus mindset—arguing that while the mind may be easier to manage, the heart is what ultimately shapes who we become. Through the life of George Müller, Dustin and Luke examine what surrender looks like in real life, especially when obedience requires stepping away from what is safe, expected, or culturally approved. They discuss faith as an action, not just a belief, and wrestle honestly with the tension between trusting God and trying to meet your own needs. The conversation challenges men to stop living on autopilot, stop blaming circumstances or counsel for inaction, and instead live with a heart fully surrendered to God’s leading. The episode closes with a strong call to personal responsibility, cheerful obedience, and giving God not just your behavior—but your heart. Chapters 00:00 Season 2 introduction and the concept of “heart set” 00:48 Why the heart is more dangerous—and more powerful—than the mind 01:30 “You are what you love” and how affection shapes identity 02:22 Chapter Two overview and why it’s so short 03:33 What was missing from the chapter and lessons learned after publishing 04:55 George Müller’s life and the challenge of living by faith 06:24 Faith as action, not just surrender language 08:56 Safe paths versus surrendered paths 10:23 Getting out of God’s way and unbelief as an obstacle 11:22 Seasons, obedience, and when God changes direction 13:30 Müller’s story of provision and God’s “royal” supply 14:38 When we meet our own needs and credit God anyway 15:51 Faith, surrender, and unique personal battles 16:18 Why your walk with God cannot be borrowed from someone else 17:11 Owning your story, suffering, and responsibility 18:10 Obedience over counsel when God is clearly leading 20:02 Suffering, growth, and surrendering what “ought to be” 20:25 Faith that can’t be tested can’t be trusted 22:48 Personal obedience and resisting people-pleasing 23:47 God’s Word over the “easy button” of leadership 24:20 Emotions, logic, and cheerful obedience 25:28 Final challenge: surrender your heart, not just your actions Resources Mentioned in This Episode Becoming a Man After God https://a.co/d/iA5BV3qSupport the Show 📌 Connect with Men After God: 🌍 Website: https://www.menaftergod.net 📺 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@menaftergodpod 📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/menaftergodpod 👥 Join Our Community: https://facebook.com/groups/menaftergod 🛒 Get MAG Merch: https://menaftergod.myshopify.com 💙 Support Us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/MenAfterGod 🎙️ Available on: Apple Podcasts | Spotify

In this episode of the Men After God podcast, Dustin Alley and Luke Sorensen continue Season 2 by diving into Chapter One of Becoming a Man After God. They reflect on the joy of recording together again, share gratitude for the Men After God community and Patreon supporters, and explain the renewed direction of the ministry—producing free, accessible content while staying surrendered to where God is leading. The conversation centers on what it truly means to be a “man after God’s heart” by examining the life of David. Rather than viewing David as a flawless spiritual hero, Dustin and Luke unpack how David’s identity was shaped by repentance, humility, and persistent pursuit of God—even in failure. They challenge the idea that background or upbringing determines spiritual potential and emphasize personal responsibility, repentance, and ownership as key markers of spiritual maturity. The episode closes with a direct challenge to men: stop blaming your past, take responsibility for your walk with God, and recognize that your relationship with Him will only grow as deep as your willingness to repent. Chapters 00:00 Welcome back, Season 2 energy, and recording together again 01:06 Gratitude for Patreon supporters and the Men After God community 03:30 Vision for Season 2 and introducing the “Becoming” series 03:56 Why Chapter One matters: From History to His Story 05:14 Who the book is for—and why it applies beyond men 05:45 What Dustin wishes he had added to Chapter One 08:09 David’s life, failure, and the myth of spiritual perfection 10:00 What “a man after God’s heart” actually means 11:26 Pursuing God vs. achieving fulfillment 13:30 Why there is no finish line apart from God 14:50 The advantage New Testament believers have through the Holy Spirit 17:13 Becoming is a choice, not a personality trait 17:43 Repentance, responsibility, and owning your life 20:13 Why repentance is the gateway to restoration 21:32 Final thoughts and closing encouragement Resources Mentioned in This Episode Becoming a Man After God https://a.co/d/iA5BV3q dustin@menaftergod.net https://riverside.fmThe Diary of a CEO https://www.youtube.com/@TheDiaryOfACEOSupport the Show 📌 Connect with Men After God: 🌍 Website: https://www.menaftergod.net 📺 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@menaftergodpod 📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/menaftergodpod 👥 Join Our Community: https://facebook.com/groups/menaftergod 🛒 Get MAG Merch: https://menaftergod.myshopify.com 💙 Support Us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/MenAfterGod 🎙️ Available on: Apple Podcasts | Spotify

In this episode of the Men After God podcast, Dustin Alley and Luke Sorensen continue Season 2 by diving into Chapter One of Becoming a Man After God. They reflect on the joy of recording together again, share gratitude for the Men After God community and Patreon supporters, and explain the renewed direction of the ministry—producing free, accessible content while staying surrendered to where God is leading. The conversation centers on what it truly means to be a “man after God’s heart” by examining the life of David. Rather than viewing David as a flawless spiritual hero, Dustin and Luke unpack how David’s identity was shaped by repentance, humility, and persistent pursuit of God—even in failure. They challenge the idea that background or upbringing determines spiritual potential and emphasize personal responsibility, repentance, and ownership as key markers of spiritual maturity. The episode closes with a direct challenge to men: stop blaming your past, take responsibility for your walk with God, and recognize that your relationship with Him will only grow as deep as your willingness to repent. Chapters 00:00 Welcome back, Season 2 energy, and recording together again 01:06 Gratitude for Patreon supporters and the Men After God community 03:30 Vision for Season 2 and introducing the “Becoming” series 03:56 Why Chapter One matters: From History to His Story 05:14 Who the book is for—and why it applies beyond men 05:45 What Dustin wishes he had added to Chapter One 08:09 David’s life, failure, and the myth of spiritual perfection 10:00 What “a man after God’s heart” actually means 11:26 Pursuing God vs. achieving fulfillment 13:30 Why there is no finish line apart from God 14:50 The advantage New Testament believers have through the Holy Spirit 17:13 Becoming is a choice, not a personality trait 17:43 Repentance, responsibility, and owning your life 20:13 Why repentance is the gateway to restoration 21:32 Final thoughts and closing encouragement Resources Mentioned in This Episode Becoming a Man After God https://a.co/d/iA5BV3q dustin@menaftergod.net https://riverside.fmThe Diary of a CEO https://www.youtube.com/@TheDiaryOfACEOSupport the Show 📌 Connect with Men After God: 🌍 Website: https://www.menaftergod.net 📺 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@menaftergodpod 📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/menaftergodpod 👥 Join Our Community: https://facebook.com/groups/menaftergod 🛒 Get MAG Merch: https://menaftergod.myshopify.com 💙 Support Us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/MenAfterGod 🎙️ Available on: Apple Podcasts | Spotify

In this episode of the Men After God podcast, Dustin Alley and Luke Sorensen talk about why most New Year goals die fast and what to do instead. They unpack the difference between setting goals and building daily disciplines, then pull back the curtain on the origin story of Dustin’s book Becoming a Man After God. Dustin shares how a season of overload pushed him to the edge and how one question shifted everything from doing things for God to learning how to do life with God. Together, they challenge men to prioritize what matters, build rhythms that protect their walk with Christ and their families, and pursue holistic stewardship that includes spiritual, mental, and physical health. They close with a simple reflection tool that turns listening into action so growth becomes real and repeatable. Chapters 00:00 Why goals die by January 5 and why daily agenda matters 02:01 Dustin’s goals and the action plans behind them 04:48 Spiritual goals at home and intentional discipleship with kids 05:26 Luke’s goals, Working Genius, and teaching core principles to children 07:12 Why Dustin wrote Becoming a Man After God 08:55 The overload season, the warning signs, and the breaking point 13:30 The five part framework that shaped the book 18:00 Who you are becoming and how decisions shape identity 20:37 Discipline, rhythms, Daniel 1, and the power of small choices 23:42 Why you never arrive and why that is the point 27:56 Holistic stewardship and why spiritual, mental, and physical are connected 29:59 Reflection questions that turn content into change Resources mentioned in this episode Becoming a Man After God by Dustin Alley - https://a.co/d/5KZkPq0 Working Genius assessment and certification - https://www.workinggenius.com/ John Beasley, Mind and Body Fitness - https://mindandbodystrength.com/ Greater Oaks Foundation and Spartan fundraiser - https://fundraise.spartan.com/page/Dustin-26972750 Dustin’s Airbnb in Kissimmee Florida - https://www.airbnb.com/rooms/1569707871787434572?source_impression_id=p3_1767051701_P35rKxpUcJYzGAiH Support the show 📌 Connect with Men After God: 🌍 Website: www.menaftergod.net 📺 YouTube: www.youtube.com/@menaftergodpod 📷 Instagram: www.instagram.com/menaftergodpod 👥 Join Our Community: facebook.com/groups/menaftergod 🛒 Get MAG Merch: https://menaftergod.myshopify.com/ 💙 Support Us: www.patreon.com/MenAfterGod 🎙️ Available on: Apple Podcasts | Spotify

In this episode of the Men After God podcast, Dustin Alley and Luke Sorensen talk about why most New Year goals die fast and what to do instead. They unpack the difference between setting goals and building daily disciplines, then pull back the curtain on the origin story of Dustin’s book Becoming a Man After God. Dustin shares how a season of overload pushed him to the edge and how one question shifted everything from doing things for God to learning how to do life with God. Together, they challenge men to prioritize what matters, build rhythms that protect their walk with Christ and their families, and pursue holistic stewardship that includes spiritual, mental, and physical health. They close with a simple reflection tool that turns listening into action so growth becomes real and repeatable. Chapters 00:00 Why goals die by January 5 and why daily agenda matters 02:01 Dustin’s goals and the action plans behind them 04:48 Spiritual goals at home and intentional discipleship with kids 05:26 Luke’s goals, Working Genius, and teaching core principles to children 07:12 Why Dustin wrote Becoming a Man After God 08:55 The overload season, the warning signs, and the breaking point 13:30 The five part framework that shaped the book 18:00 Who you are becoming and how decisions shape identity 20:37 Discipline, rhythms, Daniel 1, and the power of small choices 23:42 Why you never arrive and why that is the point 27:56 Holistic stewardship and why spiritual, mental, and physical are connected 29:59 Reflection questions that turn content into change Resources mentioned in this episode Becoming a Man After God by Dustin Alley - https://a.co/d/5KZkPq0 Working Genius assessment and certification - https://www.workinggenius.com/ John Beasley, Mind and Body Fitness - https://mindandbodystrength.com/ Greater Oaks Foundation and Spartan fundraiser - https://fundraise.spartan.com/page/Dustin-26972750 Dustin’s Airbnb in Kissimmee Florida - https://www.airbnb.com/rooms/1569707871787434572?source_impression_id=p3_1767051701_P35rKxpUcJYzGAiH Support the show 📌 Connect with Men After God: 🌍 Website: www.menaftergod.net 📺 YouTube: www.youtube.com/@menaftergodpod 📷 Instagram: www.instagram.com/menaftergodpod 👥 Join Our Community: facebook.com/groups/menaftergod 🛒 Get MAG Merch: https://menaftergod.myshopify.com/ 💙 Support Us: www.patreon.com/MenAfterGod 🎙️ Available on: Apple Podcasts | Spotify

In this episode of the Men After God podcast, Dustin Alley and Luke Sorensen kick off Season 2 by looking back on what God did in Season 1 and casting vision for what is next. They talk honestly about real life constraints, why they are shifting toward shorter episodes, and how the goal stays the same: serve men, strengthen families, and equip leaders with practical, biblical help. A major focus is Dustin’s book Becoming a Man After God and how churches can use it as a mens ministry resource through the included group facilitation guides. They also highlight the value of reflection after listening, the need for rest as worship, and how God sometimes leads by stopping you, not just by accelerating you. Chapters 00:00 Season 2 kickoff and life updates 04:39 Season 1 recap, wins, losses, and what God taught them 10:23 Vision for Season 2 and the shift to shorter weekly episodes 13:06 Overview of the book Becoming a Man After God and the five principles 22:02 How to use the book and facilitation guides in a mens ministry or Bible study 28:58 The 15 minute format and how to turn listening into action 34:36 Valleys, being stopped by God, and the book Deeper 38:10 Shout outs, non sponsor promotions, and ways to connect Resources mentioned in this episode Becoming a Man After God by Dustin Alley -https://a.co/d/iA5BV3q Group facilitation guides for the book, available by request as free PDFs - dustin@menaftergod.net Deeper by Dane C Ortlund - https://a.co/d/ft43HrK Riverside FM for recording - riverside.fm Men of Valor Ministries - https://www.movministries.org/ John Beasley, Mind and Body Fitness - https://mindandbodystrength.com/ Huberman Lab podcast - https://www.hubermanlab.com/podcast The Diary of a CEO podcast - https://www.youtube.com/@TheDiaryOfACEO Support the show 📌 Connect with Men After God: 🌍 Website: www.menaftergod.net 📺 YouTube: www.youtube.com/@menaftergodpod 📷 Instagram: www.instagram.com/menaftergodpod 👥 Join Our Community: facebook.com/groups/menaftergod 🛒 Get MAG Merch: https://menaftergod.myshopify.com/ 💙 Support Us: www.patreon.com/MenAfterGod 🎙️ Available on: Apple Podcasts | Spotify

In this episode of the Men After God podcast, Dustin Alley and Luke Sorensen kick off Season 2 by looking back on what God did in Season 1 and casting vision for what is next. They talk honestly about real life constraints, why they are shifting toward shorter episodes, and how the goal stays the same: serve men, strengthen families, and equip leaders with practical, biblical help. A major focus is Dustin’s book Becoming a Man After God and how churches can use it as a mens ministry resource through the included group facilitation guides. They also highlight the value of reflection after listening, the need for rest as worship, and how God sometimes leads by stopping you, not just by accelerating you. Chapters 00:00 Season 2 kickoff and life updates 04:39 Season 1 recap, wins, losses, and what God taught them 10:23 Vision for Season 2 and the shift to shorter weekly episodes 13:06 Overview of the book Becoming a Man After God and the five principles 22:02 How to use the book and facilitation guides in a mens ministry or Bible study 28:58 The 15 minute format and how to turn listening into action 34:36 Valleys, being stopped by God, and the book Deeper 38:10 Shout outs, non sponsor promotions, and ways to connect Resources mentioned in this episode Becoming a Man After God by Dustin Alley -https://a.co/d/iA5BV3q Group facilitation guides for the book, available by request as free PDFs - dustin@menaftergod.net Deeper by Dane C Ortlund - https://a.co/d/ft43HrK Riverside FM for recording - riverside.fm Men of Valor Ministries - https://www.movministries.org/ John Beasley, Mind and Body Fitness - https://mindandbodystrength.com/ Huberman Lab podcast - https://www.hubermanlab.com/podcast The Diary of a CEO podcast - https://www.youtube.com/@TheDiaryOfACEO Support the show 📌 Connect with Men After God: 🌍 Website: www.menaftergod.net 📺 YouTube: www.youtube.com/@menaftergodpod 📷 Instagram: www.instagram.com/menaftergodpod 👥 Join Our Community: facebook.com/groups/menaftergod 🛒 Get MAG Merch: https://menaftergod.myshopify.com/ 💙 Support Us: www.patreon.com/MenAfterGod 🎙️ Available on: Apple Podcasts | Spotify