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Dr. Wendy Walsh uses science, personal interviews and pop culture to reveal that mating strategy is the secret evolutionary motivation for most every human behavior. It’ll help you understand yourself better! Let’s face it, we are wired to reproduce. So powerful is this instinct that it has secretly embedded itself in almost every human behavior. But we are so used to being human and hanging out with humans that most people can’t see it. I’m going to help you understand yourself a little better. Human mating strategy plays out in the suburbs, in high- stakes boardrooms, stately capitals, on Wall Street and even on war fields. Sex is a motivator, a weapon, and a salve. It’s the oldest profession, the best marketing tool, and the preferred extractor of international secrets. But get this. Even when we are not thinking about sex, our ancient programming makes us respond to reproductive cues that impact just about every decision we make. Dr. Wendy Walsh, explores human behavior through a lens of reproduction, showing that even when people are not thinking about sex, ancient programming makes us respond to mating cues that impact just about every decision they make.

Dr. Wendy Walsh uses science, personal interviews and pop culture to reveal that mating strategy is the secret evolutionary motivation for most every human behavior. It’ll help you understand yourself better! Let’s face it, we are wired to reproduce. So powerful is this instinct that it has secretly embedded itself in almost every human behavior. But we are so used to being human and hanging out with humans that most people can’t see it. I’m going to help you understand yourself a little better. Human mating strategy plays out in the suburbs, in high- stakes boardrooms, stately capitals, on Wall Street and even on war fields. Sex is a motivator, a weapon, and a salve. It’s the oldest profession, the best marketing tool, and the preferred extractor of international secrets. But get this. Even when we are not thinking about sex, our ancient programming makes us respond to reproductive cues that impact just about every decision we make. Dr. Wendy Walsh, explores human behavior through a lens of reproduction, showing that even when people are not thinking about sex, ancient programming makes us respond to mating cues that impact just about every decision they make.
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Dr. Wendy Walsh uses science, personal interviews and pop culture to reveal that mating strategy is the secret evolutionary motivation for most every human behavior. It’ll help you understand yourself better! Let’s face it, we are wired to reproduce. So powerful is this instinct that it has secretly embedded itself in almost every human behavior. But we are so used to being human and hanging out with humans that most people can’t see it. I’m going to help you understand yourself a little better. Human mating strategy plays out in the suburbs, in high- stakes boardrooms, stately capitals, on Wall Street and even on war fields. Sex is a motivator, a weapon, and a salve. It’s the oldest profession, the best marketing tool, and the preferred extractor of international secrets. But get this. Even when we are not thinking about sex, our ancient programming makes us respond to reproductive cues that impact just about every decision we make. Dr. Wendy Walsh, explores human behavior through a lens of reproduction, showing that even when people are not thinking about sex, ancient programming makes us respond to mating cues that impact just about every decision they make.

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Mating Message: Hold up, Dr. Walsh

9/19/2019
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Season 2 begins next week and we thought this question posed by a listener recently was the perfect primer for the premier episode: Poly-Wanna-Cracker? Polyamory seems to be all the rage in recent years and the idea of getting to love - or at least be intimate with multiple people is certainly intriguing for many. Polyamory's definition, though, is kind of slippery and there may be some confusion out there. Dr. Wendy explains to a caller what true polyamory is in this baby bonus episode. We...

Duration:00:04:03

Mating Message of Sex Vs. Intimacy

9/17/2019
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In this little bite size bonus, Dr. Wendy addresses listener Alex from Michigan's question she left on our Mating Matters message line. Is it possible to share yourself completely without sex? How intimate can you be before a line is crossed? It's something we've AAALLL struggled with at one time or another as we navigate love and monogamy and sex. Yes, I did say AAALL. I know, a gross generalization. I should have said "many" or "most of us," but I'm just going for it, cuz deep down, isn't...

Duration:00:07:17

BEHIND THE MINDS: Dr. Justin Garcia

9/12/2019
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BEHIND THE MINDS is a new series in Mating Matters that opens up our expert interviews to anyone who is sciencey and nerdy and curious enough to want to hear it all! Want to know more? Here it is. Justin Garcia, MS, PhD, was the cool expert you heard in Dating App-athy. He's an evolutionary biologist and sex researcher at the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University. Dr. Wendy's interview with him is definitely one of the tops of the season. He and Dr. Wendy go deep on topics like the...

Duration:00:31:11

#MeToo Round Two

8/13/2019
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There's been some rumblings that we have now entered the "Post #MeToo" era. Dr. Wendy says, whoa, whoa, whoa!. Not so fast. Well, actually things are moving super fast, but we aren't there quite yet. Instead, it's more like the world has just been taking a breather. In fact, the second wave has just begun. Of course Jeffrey Epstein was a huge sexual offender of young girls, but the last bomb to drop is opera's legendary singer and undisputed "God," Placido Domingo. At least nine women have...

Duration:00:14:58

The Evolution of Epstein

7/10/2019
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Uber wealthy millionaire Jeffrey Epstein has a thing for girls. Epstein has been arrested a second time on charges of sex trafficking in Florida and now also in New York. He was sentenced in 2008 to 18 months in a Palm Beach "jail," but ended up doing 13. (It was anything but hard time.) Dr. Wendy Walsh digs through the evolutionary reason a man with boundless resources goes to the dark side. And despite a bottomless stash of cash, he and other men like him can't do it alone. You know what,...

Duration:00:13:27

Listeners Talk: Pornography Trigger

6/19/2019
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Listeners Talk is a series of full interviews with Mating Matters fans who have called our message line. Ashli has had some troubling times over the years in her relationships because of pornography. She contacted Dr. Wendy for some clarity and advice. We used some of her interview in Pornography Mindf**k, but, truly, the conversation she had with Dr. Wendy was so great and it's about something that is affecting so many people, we thought we'd just let you all be the fly on the wall and...

Duration:00:29:06

Pornography Mindf**k

6/5/2019
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Pornography. It feels like it’s everywhere. And the debate about porn keeps heating up. Is porn addictive? Are our relationships being hurt or helped by pornography? Why did humans evolve to copulate with a screen? Well, it's definitely complicated. Pornography might simply be what is known to scientists who study sexual behavior in other animal species as a "mating error." Our Mating Matters Message Line is 323-207-8277 If you have anything to say about breaking up, including break up...

Duration:00:34:19

Mean Girls, Gold Diggers and Sluts

5/29/2019
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You know them; you've seen them; maybe you're even one of them. All the gossip, trash talk and slut shaming nearly every woman has grown up with? It actually has a reproductive purpose. The same kinds of female disses take place across our entire species around the world and have been from the beginning of time. But the truly tricky part is that women actually need each other...badly! From the early days of our species’ evolution, it was a circle of women practicing co-operative parenting...

Duration:00:26:59

BONUS: Beware the Silver Medal

5/22/2019
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Did you already know that to your brain there is no difference between physical pain and emotional pain? There's a scientific reason people describe hurt feelings as a slap in the face or a punch in the gut - it's real. Dr. Wendy explains the importance of social integration, finding your tribe, and looking down when you're feeling bad - especially when you're finding your mate. Oh, the silver medal? For some, that would be a slap in the face. Mating Matters Message Line: 323-207-8277 Hot...

Duration:00:21:47

Listeners Talk: An Alpha and His Junk Food Sex

5/15/2019
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A listener called in to ask Dr. Wendy for some advice about his rampant promiscuity. At almost 7-feet tall. our friend says he went from high school "freak" to college basketball golden boy and the ladies lined up. He's been taking advantage of the sexual opportunities, but he says he isn't any happier than all of the guys he knows who can't even get a date. Men, is he living the dream? You may be surprised by what he says is lacking. Ladies, is he a dog? What's a young, single guy to do...

Duration:00:26:40

BONUS: The Chosen One

5/8/2019
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The genes we inherit from our ancestors may set us up for emotional and relationship challenges, but that doesn't mean we are doomed. Biology is not destiny. Dr. Wendy gets in to some new research on intergenerational psychology. If you have unexplained anxiety and depression, you may be carrying trauma from your family's past. You may be "The Chosen One" in your clan to investigate your family's history and heal your family today. But not to worry! It's a gift. Mating Maters Message Line:...

Duration:00:21:24

Mating Message of Interracial Hots

5/1/2019
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In this BONUS tweener (between episodes) Dr. Wendy explores race in evolution and in love, What turns you on? Why? Well, believe it or not for once there is a pretty simple answer! Can't give it all away, but let's just say a joyful squeal from mom might have something to do with it. We love hearing from you. Thanks to everyone who has called to tell us what they like, would prefer, and want to hear more of. Speaking of callers... Our Mating Matters Message Line is 323-207-8277. If you...

Duration:00:18:39

The Price of Manhood

4/24/2019
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What does it mean to be a man? Why did uber masculine behavior evolve in the first place? Is there a mating advantage? Spoiler alert. There used to be an advantage, but the environment is changing and men are adapting to a different kind of hunting ground. Way back in 1874 Charles Darwin had human mating figured out. In fact, he once wrote “if each male secures two or more females, many males cannot pair.” That’s the biggest fear of any man. No guy wants to be the one who misses out on...

Duration:00:35:02

Mothers, MILF's & Wives - Part 2

4/17/2019
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There’s probably no deeper, heart-wrenching emotional experience for women than the feelings that surround reproduction. Hope for a baby, the loss of a baby, the joy of a baby, the worry over a baby, and the feelings of sadness when a woman’s fertility window closes with no baby in sight. The risks and burden of reproduction seem to fall unfairly on women who face the challenges of survival with children in tow, and sometimes have to make heart-breaking decisions. This isn’t new. Our...

Duration:00:31:32

Introducing: Committed Season 2

4/11/2019
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We’re back, baby! On April 11th, the Committed podcast is coming back for Season Two. Get ready to believe in love all over again as host Jo Piazza interviews couples navigating the good, the bad, the messy, the wonderful and sometimes the hilarious —-often all in the same story. As she did in season one, Piazza will cover an array of poignant and timely topics such as coping with a spouse stricken with a sudden illness, an engagement put in limbo because of immigration status, watching a...

Duration:00:02:07

Mothers, MILF's & Wives - Part 1

4/10/2019
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Motherhood is tricky. That's because motherhood is all about sacrifices and...worry. They worry about health, shelter, nutrition, education, and money. Despite this, about 80% of women become mothers one way or another, and most of the others are mothers to the village. Women have long had plenty of reproductive choices - if they have a baby, when they have a baby, with whom they have a baby, whether that baby will survive, and whether they’ll care for their own or others. If you’re a woman,...

Duration:00:32:37

Mating Messages of Status and Sexuality

4/3/2019
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Mating Matters has busted out a new message line for people to ask questions and tell stories. While we're super busy producing more episodes for you, we thought we could cover some other territory in the meantime. On this BONUS episode, Dr. Wendy focuses on two interesting calls she has received - one about how a short man can raise his dating status in this new world of trigger swiping dating apps; the other from a woman who got married young to a man she loves deeply, but has never been...

Duration:00:20:12

BONUS: Evolution's Hard Truth

3/27/2019
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Evolution's Hard Truth addresses the fact that "survival of the fittest" can be a tough pill to swallow. About 10% of men never mate and about 18% of women never reproduce. Human mating is an inside job. though, and there are things you can do to make sure you find yourself a mate, if you want one. Dr. Wendy gives some tips on how we can win the mating game by raising our mate status and focusing on things we CAN control. No, you do not need to be rich and great looking, but you do need to...

Duration:00:15:25

Survival of the Gayest

3/20/2019
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Ever wonder why same-sex behavior evolved in our species? If we are wired to reproduce, being gay - and theoretically not reproducing - seems like a sure fire way for our species to struggle to exist. For the record, at this point in our evolution, humans still need an egg, sperm and a womb to reproduce. So how have people who may not reproduce stay in our gene pool? Historically, same-sex behavior actually has increased chances for survival. And did you realize heterosexual people have a...

Duration:00:34:38

Sexy Money

3/13/2019
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In this episode of Matting Matters Dr. Wendy explores how the pursuit of money is really pursuit of sex for men, and why it works in reverse for women; why some singles pay more for sexual opportunity than they do for rent; why prostitution rates rise when women are disadvantaged, and why the price of sex drops drastically when women rise in economic power! No matter how you reckon it, sex costs. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://news.iheart.com/podcast-advertisers

Duration:00:33:02