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Minisode 1 - HELP! My partner needs friends!

In their first-ever minisode, Kristen & Nikki answer a listener’s question about how to help their partner in creating friends of his own!



Kristen & Nikki announce a brief intermission from publishing their full-length episodes and let listeners know how to stay in touch! [Hint: MINISODES!! // the web: // instagram: @ther.a.friends // facebook: There-A-Friends // twitter: Ther_a_friends]


Episode 15 - Breaking up with Friends!

Curl up in a comfy chair, and grab your tissues because in Episode 15, Kristen and Nikki are talking about friendship break-ups! They both share stories about painful friendship losses, and what each of them learned from those experiences. In FriendFacts Nikki shares findings from a sociological study on the rate of turn over in our friendship networks, and Kristen and Nikki weigh in on a listener question about ending a new friendship in Friend Q&A! Last but not least, Nikki and Kristen...


Episode 14 - Working with Friends!

In Episode 14, Kristen and Nikki explore the benefits and potential pitfalls of friendships that develop at work! Nikki shares some stories from past and present experiences working with friends, and Kristen shares a situation with tricky friend boundaries from a past job. Nikki shares an interesting study about how productivity is related to friendship connections at work in Friend Facts, and Kristen and Nikki weigh in a listener question about maintaining work friends in Friend Q&A! Last...


Episode 13 - Exposed! The Social Media Trap!

In Episode 13, Kristen and Nikki discuss the potential pitfalls of social media and its impact on friendships. (Full disclosure: Kristen and Nikki are GenXers so have a particular perspective on life before and life after social media!) Kristen and Nikki share moments of friend awkwardness due to photos posted on Facebook and Instagram. In FriendFacts, Nikki shares a study on the impact of Facebook usage on emotional well-being, and in Friend Q&A, Kristen and Nikki weigh in on a painful...


Episode 12 - When Friends Disappoint!

In Episode 12, Nikki shares a recent incident in which she was let down and hurt by a good friend. Kristen weighs in with some perspectives on how she historically learned to fear disappointing others that helps Nikki understand her friend’s behavior in the aftermath of the incident. Nikki shares a dissertation on factors that foster forgiveness after a relationship transgression in Friend Facts and Nikki and Kristen tackle the topic of challenges to making new friends that comes with age...


Episode 11 - We had a fight!

In Episode 11, Kristen and Nikki model a healthy repair after having a fight! Nikki introduces the exercise, Beginning Anew, adapted from The Plum Village, a monastic community in France established by Thich Nhat Hanh, as a way to repair misunderstandings between its members. Turns out, conflict leads to increased personal growth and deeper understandings as evidenced by their repair and by research findings presented in this week’s Friend Fact! In Friend Q&A, Kristen and Nikki tackle a...


Episode 10 - Can I trust you?

In Episode 10, Kristen and Nikki dare to ask the question, “Can I trust you?” Referencing a lecture Brene Brown gave at Oprah’s SuperSoul Sessions called, “The Anatomy of Trust”, Kristen and Nikki take the temperature on trust in their friendship by looking at the factors that make up trust in Dr. Brown’s research-based acronym B.R.A.V.I.N.G. Nikki shares the crucial steps to repairing a relationship after a betrayal using research from Emotionally Focused Couples therapy (EFT) in Friend...


Episode 9 - New Year’s FriendsAloutions!

In episode 9, Nikki and Kristen introduce a new word for a new year — FriendsAloutions! They share their own New Year’s rituals and talk about ways to place emphasis on your friendships in 2018! In Friend Facts, Nikki unpacks the very real impact meaningful friendships can have on your overall health and wellbeing and in Friend Q&A, Nikki and Kristen discuss ways to navigate friendships as individuals move through various life milestones.


Episode 8 - You’re family….but are you my friend?

In Episode 8, Kristen and Nikki tackle the thorny topic of being friends….with your family members! They share their own efforts to be more friendly with family, and suggest a few tips for setting intentions for how you want to relate to family BEFORE family gatherings! In Friend Facts, Nikki shares a study that validates that resolving ambivalent feelings towards our parents is good for our health and in Friend Q&A, Kristen and Nikki respond to a listener question about how to stay...


Episode 7 - Our Friendship is a Gift!

In Episode 7, Kristen and Nikki unwrap the etiquette of giving and receiving gifts! They propose a helpful framework for how to respond when a friend gives you a gift you don’t like. In Friend Facts, they review a fascinating study about giving “thoughtful” gifts. In Friend Q&A, Nikki and Kristen respond to the question that inspired this episode where the listener doesn’t know what to do with an expensive gift from a friend that isn’t her style!


Episode 6 - Friendsgiving!

In Episode 6, Kristen and Nikki explore the pros of celebrating Friendsgiving as both a holiday and a season to share your gratitude for your friends! In Friend Facts, they explore the concept and importance of chosen family, and salute two friends who are part of their chosen families! In Friend Q&A, Nikki and Kristen weigh in on a friend situation where the the meaning of the friendship to both parties in unclear and they explore ways to cultivate the courage to define the friendship!


Episode 3 - Combating Sexism & Its Impact on Female Friendships!

In their 3rd episode, Kristen and Nikki take on the hard topic of sexism and the historical and current impact it has on female friendships as well as looking at the role of our own internalized sexism and how to combat this now! In Friend Facts, Nikki looks to sociology and anthropology to unpack the primal survival instinct that can lie beneath women betraying women. Kristen and Nikki salute female friendships that inspire us as role models for undoing negative stereotypes of...


Episode 2 - We’re Making New Friends

In their second episode, Kristen and Nikki talk about the good, the awkward, and the bravery of making new friends! In Friend Facts, Kristen challenges the myth of self-reliance for figuring out our feelings, Kristen and Nikki salute some admirable new friends, and weigh in on an important question about maintaining a lifelong friendship in Friend Q&A!


Episode 1 - Welcome to Ther-a-friends!

On their first episode, Kristen and Nikki reflect on becoming friends, our transition from local to long-distance friendship, and how the podcast came to be! In Friend Facts, Nikki gives us a brief history of the role of politics in female friendships in the wake of the recent Women’s March; Kristen and Nikki salute…….each other; and we weigh in on a different type of friend transition in Friend Q&A!


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