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Diane Bonilla joins Carol n Cheryl in this episode to talk about self forgiveness. You may remember Diane from prior episodes. See links below under resources. Diane is a licensed professional counselor with over 25 years of clinical experience in both community mental health and private practice. She specializes in emotional regulation, stress management, work life balance, caregiver self care, grief, loss, and anxiety. Diane is a Certified Grief Informed Professional (CGP). We begin our conversation with why self forgiveness is so important. Cheryl shares a story about her mother and Diane points out how much self awareness and time it takes to process what happened to Cheryl. Diane breaks down the four Rs. Responsibility, repair, receive the lesson and release the negative stuff. We also discuss how powerful it is to write down what you would say to another person in the same situation and read it back to yourself. Carol shares two stories one about her father and one about her daughter. Diane highlights how the four R’s are used in these stories and walks us through self forgiveness. Diane recommends looking into Jack Kornfield’s work on meditation and how it can aid in self awareness and forgiveness. She also recommends journalling, therapy and a whole lot more. Resources: Diane’s Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/dianebonilla.lpc Diane’s Website: https://dianebonilla.com Anxiety 101: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/carol-n-cheryl/id1488345423?i=1000548356970 Guiding Parents of Young Adults Coping With Pandemic Loss: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/carol-n-cheryl/id1488345423?i=1000529693045 Alma Mater Advising: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/carol-n-cheryl/id1488345423?i=1000492216289 Jack Kornfield: https://jackkornfield.com Grief: https://grief.com

Diane is a licensed professional counselor with over 25 years of clinical experience in both community mental health and private practice. She began her work in Anxiety during the early 90’s. She owns her own practice and specializes in grief, loss, anxiety and panic issues with young adults and adults through the generations. Diane currently provides Telehealth counseling sessions, where Brody, her adopted, 13-year-old Beagle-mix, is often asleep in the office, sending out healing vibes. Find out more about Diane here: Website: https://dianebonilla.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dianebonilla.lpc Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dianebonilla.lpc/ In this episode, Diane walks through the basics of anxiety management with an emphasis on physical wellness, breathing strategies, and mindfulness exercises to help calm anxiety symptoms and quiet anxious thoughts. She includes information that helps explain the science behind anxiety and helps the listener become their own anxiety expert! Peter Levine Interventions: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f75enR6DPjE Unwinding Anxiety Card Deck, Brewer and Abblett: https://www.amazon.com/Unwinding-Anxiety-Card-Deck-Science-Based/dp/1683734106 Please “Like” our Conversations with Carol n Cheryl Facebook and Instagram page. Please subscribe to our YouTube Channel. Visit our website here: https://carolncheryl.com . . . . . #anxietyfighter #anxietyawareness #anxietyrelief #anxiety #panic #worrying #anxietyattack #worry #anxietyproblems #anxietyhelp #anxietysupport #panicattack #panicattacks #anxietyrecovery #mindfulnessmeditation #mindfulnessmoment #mindfulnesspractice #mindfulnesswalk #mindfulness

Tete from Tete’s Kitchen on Youtube, joins Carol and Cheryl in this episode to chat about how she developed a passion for cooking. She shares how Tete’s Kitchen was born. Tete explains how she reinvented herself during COVID and found a new purpose after her children left home. Tete says cooking is an art and art is love. Click listen to get to know Tete and find out why Carol and Cheryl love Tete’s Kitchen. Tete’s YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCcJp3r_bK3raQ8KqdKdn__Q/videos Please “Like” our Conversations with Carol n Cheryl Facebook and Instagram page. Please subscribe to our YouTube Channel. Visit our website here: https://carolncheryl.com

Diane is a licensed professional counselor with over 25 years of clinical experience in both community mental health and private practice. She began her work in grief and loss during the mid 90’s working with those affected by HIV. She continues her work at Healthy Minds Therapy, specializing in grief, loss, anxiety and panic issues with young adults and adults through the generations. Diane’s Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/wavesofwellness21 Diane’s Website: https://9700bonilla.myportfolio.com/work In this episode Diane Bonilla returns to the Carol n Cheryl Podcast to have a conversation about coping with pandemic loss. Diane delves into the impact of the pandemic on young adults, especially students. During the pandemic students were experiencing depression, anxiety, suicidal thoughts, insomnia, and greater symptoms were reported in the LBGTQ community. Surveyed students reported six to seven losses as defined by themselves. College students were hit harder than we thought and maybe more so than other age groups. Diane explains why this age group is more impacted by loss. As a parent it is important to process our own losses and support our young adults through their losses. She talks about what grief is and what it looks like. Diane addresses the question: Why am I sad when I should be happy? This question arises often now the pandemic is ending. Lastly Diane gives us tools to process our loss and find resiliency. Resources: Websites: https://grief.com https://www.psychologytoday.com/us https://healthymindstherapy.blog Podcasts: https://theanxietyguy.com APPS: Calm Headspace Betterhelp Instagram: Kreft’s Couch Books: “The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma,” by Dr Bessel van der Kolk “Finding Meaning: the 6th Stage of Grief,” by David Kessler

Join us in this episode as Carol n Cheryl catch up on what they are doing now that the world is opening after the pandemic. Cheryl brings us up to date on the Royal Family, Love is Blind stars Lauren and Cameron and more. Find out how Carol n Cheryl’s grand-puppies, Zuko and Daisy, end up in California and how they feel about it. We have home improvement projects galore and learn what cockroaches enjoy dining on most. Cheryl supports Carol at her father’s Memorial Service and a whole lot more. Please “Like” our Conversations with Carol n Cheryl Facebook and Instagram page. Please subscribe to our YouTube Channel. Visit our website here: https://carolncheryl.com

Carla joins us in this episode and explains what a conspiracy theory is. She discusses how normal people shift to extremes. She further talks about how her own husband went down the conspiracy theory rabbit hole and is driving her crazy. She touches on QAnon, eating babies, stolen election, America is a corporation, the vaccine is altering DNA, Marshall Law, The Clintons, Jeffery Epstein and child trafficking. What would you do if you husband put a loaded gun in every room of the house? If he put plywood on the windows and created barricades in the basement? Do you worry that your husband might think you are in intruder and shoot you in the middle of the night? Click play to find out how Carla addresses the conspiracy theories in her marriage and a whole lot more. You can also find Carla on our Sex Toys episode as well as our Birds and Bees episode. Please “Like” our Conversations with Carol n Cheryl Facebook and Instagram page. Please subscribe to our YouTube Channel. Visit our website here: https://carolncheryl.com . . . . . #conspiracy, #creepy, #scarrystories, #newworldorder, #unknownfact, #diagree, #marriage, #nottrue, #weirdhusband, #crazyhusband,

Cindy Sellitto Founder and President of Kim’s Krew joins Carol n Cheryl in this episode. Cindy’s daughter Kim was murdered November 17, 2013. As a way to heal from her tragedy, she started doing small acts of kindness for the homeless and needy. Helping people was a passion of Kim’s and so Kim’s Krew began. Listen along as Cindy speaks in detail about Kim and her brutal murder. She shares how Kim’s death affected her family and how the Survivors of Homicide group helped her cope. Cindy has advice for outsiders on what to say to families who have lost a child. Click listen to hear Cindy’s story about a mother’s love, courage and a whole lot more. To make a donation: to Kim’s Krew click here: https://kims-krew-inc.mybigcommerce.com Kim’s Krew Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KimsKrewInc/?ref=page_internal Kim’s Krew Email: kimskrewmanatee@gmail.com Kim’s Krew General Information: (860)986-0555 Please “Like” our Conversations with Carol n Cheryl Facebook and Instagram page. Please subscribe to our YouTube Channel. Visit our website here: https://carolncheryl.com . . . . . #domestic violence #violence against women #domestic abuse #physical abuse #assault #violence #mother’s worst fear #my daughter was murdered #coping with murder #helping the homeless #beds for the bedless

Lisa joins Carol n Cheryl in the episode and shares her leg amputation story. She begins with her loose ankle ligaments and proceeds with ankle fusion, ankle replacement, knee replacement and below the knee amputation. She talks about inner strength, support from her husband Jim and a whole lot more. Click listen to find out what Lisa is doing now. Please “Like” our Conversations with Carol n Cheryl Facebook and Instagram page. Please subscribe to our YouTube Channel. Visit our website here: https://carolncheryl.com . , , , , #What to expect when you have a leg amputation #artificial ankle #amputee life #amputee strong #amputee #prosthetic #prosthetic leg #disability #amputation podcast #amputation #life after amputation #amputation story #limb loss

Gail joins Carol n Cheryl in this episode and shares her leg amputation story. Gail worked in the travel industry, and was an active dancer, hiker and swimmer. She slipped on black ice and her life changed forever. Gail shares her experience with fantom pain, setting goals and how important good support is after surgery. Click listen to find out who pushed Gail too hard in a kayak, who has an I can do it attitude and a whole lot more. A note from Gail: I would like to thank my wonderful spouse Howie, my OT and PT team at Sarasota Memorial rehab, my doctors and nurses, Hermun and Robyn at OPC and the incredible Elizabeth Trefil of Auto Owners insurance along with all my friends here in Florida and in Michigan for their assistance, encouragement and support Please “Like” our Conversations with Carol n Cheryl Facebook and Instagram page. Please subscribe to our YouTube Channel. Visit our website here: https://carolncheryl.com . . . . . What to expect when you have a leg amputated Artificial ankle Amputee life Amputee strong Amputee Prosthetic Prosthetic leg Disability Amputation podcast Amputation Life after amputation Amputation story Limb loss

Elaine joins Carol n Cheryl in this episode and talks about her “No Death Experience” after being mangled in a motorcycle accident at the age of fifteen. She walks us though her out of body experience and her lessons learned in awareness, choice, pureness and the human experience. She explains her early childhood relationship with archangels and how they gave her courage to have her voice and stand in her power. The angels helped her to understand her purpose, how she was created and the meaning of heaven on earth. Click below to listen to this fascinating story or find us wherever you listen to podcasts. Contact Elaine at: freespirit_soul@yahoo.com Please “Like” our Conversations with Carol n Cheryl Facebook and Instagram page. Please subscribe to our YouTube Channel. Visit our website here: https://carolncheryl.com . . . . . dead died after death what happens when you die out of body experience near death experience podcast archangels archangel Raphael archangel Michael the source god power to speak up how to use your voice stand in your power motorcycle accident awareness heaven on earth what happens after you die what happens after death your body when you die afterlife

Join Carol n Cheryl in this episode as they explore fetishes. Find out who likes to be tickled, who was a voyeur for a night and who likes their feet pampered. They discuss dom daddy’s and a whole lot more. Please “Like” our Conversations with Carol n Cheryl Facebook and Instagram page. Please subscribe to our YouTube Channel. Visit our website here: https://carolncheryl.com

Join Carol n Cheryl as they chat about Christmas with their families, Netflix picks and positive things that happened in 2020. Cheryl wonders where pop music went. They discuss their note worthy accomplishments including launching their fiftieth podcast episode. Find out who wants to go to Las Vegas and who is biking the Allegheny Passage in 2021. Carol shares an embarrassing moment right before departing for the doctors office. Find out who wants to retire to California. Carol n Cheryl reminisce about wearing panty hose and commuting to work everyday. Cheryl discusses flying with dogs and a whole lot more. Please “Like” our Conversations with Carol n Cheryl Facebook and Instagram page. Please subscribe to our YouTube Channel. Visit our website here: https://carolncheryl.com

Join Carol n Cheryl in this episode as they walk down memory lane. When you were a kid did you have an easy bake oven, a hippity hop, hot wheels or an eight track tape player? Laugh along as they reminisce about all fun things in their childhood. Please “Like” our Conversations with Carol n Cheryl Facebook and Instagram page. Please subscribe to our YouTube Channel. Visit our website here: https://carolncheryl.com • • • • • #memories #goodtimes #goodtime #besties #friendship #goodfriends bestfriends #forever #lovethem #chill #bestfriend #throwback #moments #funtimes #childhood #live #partying #best #matel #barbie #bigwheel #cars #collectable #diecast #hotwheels #matchbox #toys

In this episode we chat about our Thanksgiving dinners, Christmas plans and Carol’s recent trip to Florida where she may have found the fountain of youth. Rebecca Robenson https://www.youtube.com/user/robesondesign Please “Like” our Conversations with Carol n Cheryl Facebook and Instagram page. Please subscribe to our YouTube Channel. Visit our website here: https://carolncheryl.com • • • • • #christmas #xmas #christmastree #santa #christmasdecorations #merrychristmas #santaclaus #christmasornaments #christmasdecor #christmastime #christmasparty #december #presents #want #snowflakes #tagforlike #christmaslights #winter #festive #christmasart

Please join us in this episode as Carol shares her experience as a Sugar Baby. She begins her story as a nineteen year old college dropout and guides us though an eight year relationship with an older man. Was she a gold digger? What were the family reactions? She delves into their sex life and a whole lot more. Please “Like” our Conversations with Carol n Cheryl Facebook and Instagram page. Please subscribe to our YouTube Channel. Visit our website here: https://carolncheryl.com • • • • • #romance #december #together #kisses #hugs #forever #lovehim #unforgettable #loveher #kiss #girlfriend #xoxo #bf #boyfriend #romantic #couple #smiles #gf

Join Carol n Cheryl as they say good-bye to Cheryl’s beloved dog Sparky. We also share what happened over the 2019 holidays, why we don’t decorate and our plans for next holiday season. Please “Like” our Conversations with Carol n Cheryl Facebook and Instagram page. Please subscribe to our YouTube Channel. Visit our website here: www.carolncheryl.com

Join Carol n Cheryl in this episode as they explore oversharing on social media, their kitten rescue at the beach, Cheryl’s favorite seasonal apps and a whole lot more. Peaceful Snowfall App: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/peaceful-snowfall-hd/id1046409533 Autumn Ambience App: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/autumn-ambience-hd/id1054389159 Please “Like” our Conversations with Carol n Cheryl Facebook and Instagram page. Please subscribe to our YouTube Channel. Visit our website here: http://www.carolncheryl.com

Join Carol n Cheryl in this episode as they discuss how having a baby changed them forever. They have a conversation around daycare, hiring a nanny, working or staying home with the baby. Carol talks about the fear of giving up her career and how going part-time became an option. They talk about how the role of the father has changed. Tips on how to motivate your husband to help with baby chores and a whole lot more. Please “Like” our Conversations with Carol n Cheryl Facebook and Instagram page. Please subscribe to our YouTube Channel. Visit our website here: https://carolncheryl.com

Join Carol n Cheryl in this episode as they have a conversation around the Netflix Documentary Social Dilemma. Both agree there are a lot of positive aspects to social media. Carol n Cheryl give their opinions on fake news, advertising, kids and a whole lot more. Please “Like” our Conversations with Carol n Cheryl Facebook and Instagram page. Please subscribe to our YouTube Channel. Visit our website here: https://carolncheryl.com

Diane Bonilla, Founder of Alma Mater Advising joins Carol n Cheryl in this episode and has a wealth of information to share about college admissions especially during COVID 19. First we discuss ways to show universities and colleges you are serious about being a part of their community without making an actual visit. Geographic considerations and opportunities. Essay do’s, don’ts and the new COVID 19 essay. When to start letters of recommendation and who to ask. Evaluating your high school Fall semester and a whole lot more. Alma Mater Advising Website: https://almamateradvising.com/ Alma Mater Advising Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/almamateradvising/ Diane’s Email Address: almamateradvising@gmail.com Please “Like” our Conversations with Carol n Cheryl Facebook and Instagram page. Please subscribe to our YouTube Channel. Visit our website here: https://carolncheryl.com