Self-Helpless

Delanie Fischer is joined by certified coach and HR expert, Shelby McGuire Canlas, to candidly share all of her juiciest job search tips. This episode offers guidance for how to approach applications, résumés, cover letters, interviews, follow-ups, integrating your values with your next move, and keeping your spirits high when nothing seems to be working. Whether you're looking for your first job, considering making a pivot to a different title or industry, or simply want to learn about other career opportunities to keep your options open, you'll leave this discussion with much needed clarity and the practical next steps that feel right for you. Plus: + The #1 Tip That Helps You Land More Interviews (Takes Under 5 Minutes!) + How To Make Your Résumé AI Friendly — Even If You Suck At Technology + The 3 Lists To Create That Will Make The Whole Process Way Smoother You can join our Patreon community here: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Your Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Delanie Fischer is chatting with Dr. Sahar Martinez, licensed marriage and family therapist, doctor of psychology, and founder of The Process Wellness Collective. Dr, Sahar shares a peak behind-the-scenes into how she approaches her work and her wellness including how she's set up her practice, the approach of abundance she has when connecting with clients and other practitioners, and the pressures that her and other clinicians experience. Whether you work in this field or not -- abundance, staying grounded in our values, cultivating community, and tending to self-care before you care for others, are things we can all resonate with and implement. You can join our Patreon community here: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Your Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Delanie Fischer is joined by slow fashion stylist, Jenna Flood, to share how we can simplify our wardrobe for more energy, confidence, creativity, and way less decision fatigue. You'll not only learn a variety of tips for implementing sustainable practices, but also for experimenting with a capsule wardrobe, determining what to keep and what to let go of, finding what you feel awesome in -- and the first, and most important, step before adding new stuff to your closet. Plus: + The #1 thing to consider before curating your wardrobe + How to repurpose clothing you don't currently wear much + What percentage of our clothes we ACTUALLY wear (shocking!) You can join our Patreon community here: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Your Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Delanie Fischer is chatting with Maia Toll, co-owner of The Herbiary and best-selling and award-winning author of Letting Magic In, The Night School, and Wild Wisdom Series. Maia shares about her decision to leave her teaching career to study herbalism in Ireland, and what led to this change of course. If you're amidst an autumn season of life — things are falling away, and you're caught between resisting change, or going with the flow, Maia's offering up a very cool experience she had, and some practical tips, that might really help you during this time. You can join our Patreon community here: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Your Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Delanie Fischer is chatting with her friend and former Operations Manager, Kris Hillberg, about some of her favorite tips for podcasting, and growing a platform, as an introvert. If you've been trying to find a balance between professional success, the right kind of visibility for you, and your peace and privacy — this episode will surely get the creative juices flowing. Plus: + What You Can Delegate In Order To Preserve Your Energy + How Effective Are Ratings And Reviews, Really? + Working With Your Personality vs. Against It You can join our Patreon community here: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Your Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Delanie Fischer is chatting with magician, motorcyclist, and nonprofit founder, Brock Gill. Brock shares about a calling he had that came out of nowhere. He decided to follow it, despite all of the uncertainty and obstacles, and it changed the course of his life. This episode will leave you asking, what does an adventurous life mean to you? You can join our Patreon community here: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Your Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Delanie Fischer is joined by author, Najwa Zebian, to discuss authenticity, uncertainty, and navigating change -- especially the change in our lives that we don't choose. Plus: + A Peak Inside Najwa's Writing and Creative Process + The Fear and Liberation of Uncertainty and Loss + How Other People Can Heal Something Inside of You You can join our Patreon community here: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Your Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Delanie Fischer is chatting with her sister-in-law, Olivia Mulford, about her very unexpected dream career. Whether you're in school, entering the workforce for the first time, or you're considering a pivot of some kind, this nugget of wisdom will help you view your next decision through a new lens. You can join our Patreon community here: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Your Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Welcome to Self-Helpless! Where we have light conversations about heavy sh*t. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Delanie Fischer is joined by author, former women's rights lawyer, and host of The UnF*ck Your Brain podcast, Kara Loewentheil. Kara shares how our socialization as women impacts everything — our relationship with productivity, the anxiety and impostor syndrome we experience, and our self-worth. Get ready to question your conditioning, challenge societal expectations, and become more of who you are. Plus: + The #1 Question To Ask Yourself For An Instant Perspective Shift + How You Might Be Using Feminism Against Yourself + Guidance For Rewiring Your Brain For More Confidence You can join our Patreon community here: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Your Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Delanie Fischer is sharing 5 of her favorite tips for optimizing a small space. Whether you're simplifying, decluttering, or downsizing because you want to, you have to, or a mix of both, these simple, quick, and affordable solutions will assist with your brainstorming for storage options, repurposing, fun upgrades, and more! You can join our Patreon community here: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Your Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Delanie Fischer is joined by podcaster, author, and first-ever recurring guest host of The Self-Helpless Podcast, Em Schulz! Ever wondered if that strong feeling you had was your gut instinct, or a trauma response that led to self-sabotage? Delanie and Em discuss common behaviors of self-sabotage, signs and physical symptoms of gut instinct, as well as share a variety of personal experiences around spotting self-sabotage, acting on intuition, and what helps them decipher which feeling they're experiencing. Plus: + 10 Signs You May Be Self-Sabotaging + The Biggest Clue That You're Experiencing Gut Instinct + 5 Tips For Telling The Difference Between Intuition vs. Sabotage For exclusive rewards and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Delanie Fischer is joined by co-authors of "Defiant Dreams: The Journey of an Afghan Girl Who Risked Everything for Education," Sola Mahfouz and Malaina Kapoor. What would you do if your education, autonomy, and freedom was stripped from you in an instant? Activists and friends, Sola and Malaina, share Sola's story of self-educating behind closed doors in the face of devastating threats, finding refuge in the United States to attend college, and becoming a quantum computing researcher despite all obstacles, odds, and fear. You will leave this episode with a shift in perspective, overwhelming gratitude, motivation to keep fighting for the life you want, and a desire to make an impact. Plus: + What Sola told herself in times of intense fear and discouragement + THE quote that will forever change your relationship with education + How Sola and Malaina practice self-care (and what they do for fun!) For exclusive rewards and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, Delanie Fischer is joined by licensed therapist, Anna Aslanian, to discuss how to identify, and work through, feelings of jealousy in our relationships. Anna shares why jealousy comes up, what it’s telling us, and how to approach it. Plus: + The 2 root causes of jealousy + Which unlikely behavior is linked with this emotion + 3 simple tips for processing feelings You can join our Patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, Delanie Fischer is joined by Jessica Frew, co-host of The Husband In Law Podcast -- where she shares stories of marriage, infidelity, coming out, remarriage, and co-parenting alongside her co-hosts, Steve (her gay ex-husband) and Matt (her current husband). Yes, you read that right. Jessica shares about her first marriage, which included discovering that her then-husband is gay, the pain of betrayal, and reinventing herself after divorce. This episode will absolutely make you feel less alone if you're navigating deceit, separation, or loss, and offers some great steps for reconnecting with your gut, rebuilding your confidence, and nurturing new life and relationships. Plus: + How Jessica's Intuition Led To A Huge Reveal + Handling Criticism When Sharing Your Story + How To Reframe Betrayal To Aid In Healing For exclusive rewards and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, Delanie Fischer is joined by licensed clinical psychologist and leading expert on narcissism, Dr. Ramani Durvasula. Dr. Ramani shares guidance for identifying and healing from narcissistic relationships, including the first steps for leaving or reestablishing boundaries, health issues that may arise due to enduring this kind of toxicity, how long you should stay single after a narcissistic relationship ends, what co-parenting with a narcissist can look like, why not everyone may be supportive of the changes you’re making in your relationship, the range of guilt you may experience, and so. much. more. Plus: + The 3 Groups of People You’ll Meet on Your Road to Recovery + Why Status Quo Relationship Advice Does NOT Work For Narcissistic Relationships + How To Keep Your Good (And Bad) News To Yourself Around A Narcissist For exclusive rewards and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, Delanie Fischer is joined by Codependency and Addiction Expert and Author of “Codependent Attachment Personality Patterns,” Heidi Rain. Heidi describes the different styles of codependent attachments, the relationship between addiction and codependency — including codependency being an addiction in itself, why holding onto control doesn’t work (and how to relinquish it), and what we need to let go of in order to break away from, or transform, damaging relational dynamics. If you're experiencing similar, undesirable outcomes in your work, life, or relationships on loop, and you're ready to make some changes, do NOT miss this episode. Plus: + The difference between expectations vs. standards in a relationship (and how to face reality) + Recognizing codependent behaviors — even when they've been normalized for you + Heidi's #1 quote for building unshakable confidence in the face of criticism and rejection For exclusive rewards and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, Delanie Fischer is joined by her cousin and professional softball player, Sam Fischer. Sam shares how she feels about leaving her dream job, what she's considering for her next career move, the biggest challenges, blessings, and sacrifices she's experienced, and what's aided her longevity over 10+ years as a professional athlete. Failure, starting over, grief, recognition, and identity are just a few things covered during this discussion - if you're amidst a life or career transition, this episode is packed with takeaways for you. Plus: + How Sam is approaching her last season + The #1 value she ascribes to her success + How she crafted a plan for starting over For exclusive rewards and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, we have a stacked compilation episode for you filled with life-changing relationship advice from some of our brilliant past guests. NYT bestselling author, Greg Behrendt, Relationship Therapist from Married At First Sight, Dr. Viviana Coles, Sexologist, Goody Howard, Comedian, Ken Garr, Communication Expert from Married At First Sight, Rachel DeAlto, Licensed Therapist, Kati Morton, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, Dr. Alex Katehakis, and Licensed Psychologist and Sex Therapist, Dr. Kate Balistrieri are sharing their best tips for breaking toxic patterns, cultivating healthy relationships, and healing trauma. Plus: + How The 4 Intimacy Styles are different from The 5 Love Languages + 4 simple (and free) tips for boosting excitement with a long-term sexual partner + Why you might be stuck in a pattern of getting "the ick" and what to do about it For exclusive rewards and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

12 ADHD Life Hacks With Em Schulz This week, Delanie Fischer is joined by Em Schulz, New York Times bestselling author and co-host of the hit paranormal and true crime podcast, And That's Why We Drink. Em shares about their personal experience with ADHD, the feelings that can coincide with receiving this diagnosis as an adult, and fantastic hacks for jumpstarting motivation, getting chores done with less rumination, and prioritizing self-care. Whether you're neurodivergent or not, these tips are brilliant for creating more ease, accessibility, and fun in your life. Plus: + Em's #1 tip for keeping a tidy space + Advice for neurodivergent entrepreneurs + Em's favorite thing about having ADHD For exclusive rewards and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.