Self-Helpless

Delanie Fischer chats with neuroscientist and author of Smitten, Dr. Tom Bellamy, about limerence. They discuss the evolutionary roots of limerence, why only 50% of the population experiences it, guidance for those amidst infatuation (whether reciprocal or not), when it crosses the line into prolonged limerence, and practical tips for breaking the cycle of romantic obsession. Episode Highlights: Why Romantic Partners May Not Understand Your Feelings Dopamine: The Common Misconception and How It Really Works When Limerence Should Wear Off (And What If It Doesn’t?) Prolonged Limerence: Why Eradicating Uncertainty is Key Limerence and Infatuation vs. Delusion and Stalking ____ A quick 5-star rating means a ton! ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416⁠ Get a bunch of free Self-Helpless goodies: ⁠https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/⁠ Ad-free episodes (audio & video) now on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless⁠ Your Host, Delanie Fischer:⁠ https://www.delaniefischer.com⁠ ____ Related Episodes: Cracking The Code To Behavior Change: Troubleshooting Tiny Barriers That Destroy Big Goals with Molly Maxwell: ⁠https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/24e651e8/cracking-the-code-to-behavior-change-troubleshooting-tiny-barriers-that-destroy-big-goals-with-molly-maxwell 7 Shocking Truths About Codependency And Addiction with Heidi Rain: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/24c74079/7-shocking-truths-about-codependency-and-addiction-with-heidi-rain The Dark Side of Fetishization: Representation, Stereotypes, and Origins with Kaila Yu: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/3b8cfe65/the-dark-side-of-fetishization-representation-stereotypes-and-origins-with-kaila-yu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Delanie Fischer chats with Yousuf Ahmed, founder and CEO of B-SIDES, about upcycling, sustainability, and building an ethical CPG brand—from origin story to sourcing, manufacturing, and growth. Yousuf also shares the routines and mindset practices that keep him grounded through the highs and lows of entrepreneurship, offering practical takeaways for anyone building a conscious business or looking for inspiration to upcycle in daily life. Episode Highlights: Inside the Evening Ritual That Keeps Yousuf Grounded Where You Start Isn't Likely Where You'll End Up 2 Mindsets Every Entrepreneur Can Use as Needed Releasing Perfectionism for the Sake of the Mission Inside Scoop: Production in the U.S. vs. Canada ____ A quick 5-star rating means a ton! ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416⁠ Get a bunch of free Self-Helpless goodies: ⁠https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/⁠ Ad-free episodes (audio & video) now on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless⁠ Your Host, Delanie Fischer:⁠ https://www.delaniefischer.com⁠ ____ Related Episodes: We Need Your Art! For Health, Community, and More with Amie McNee: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/25b6ee3e/we-need-your-art-for-health-community-and-more-with-amie-mcnee Q&A: Publishing, Podcasting, and Creative Entrepreneurship with Literary Agent Lindsey Smith and Podcaster Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/23bfb9d7/qanda-publishing-podcasting-and-creative-entrepreneurship-with-literary-agent-lindsey-smith-and-podcaster-delanie-fischer The Shocking Ingredients in Menstrual Products: Toxic Truths, Safe Alternatives, and the Future of Period Care with Arielle Loupos: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2bd21fe3/the-shocking-ingredients-in-menstrual-products-toxic-truths-safe-alternatives-and-the-future-of-period-care-with-arielle-loupos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Delanie Fischer chats with Cherian Koshy, author of Neurogiving and a leading researcher on generosity, about the science of giving—and why it’s not just nice, it’s powerful. They discuss the research-backed benefits of giving for mental, emotional, and physical health, and how we can leverage generosity not only to help others, but also to improve our lives, work, and relationships. Episode Highlights: The $5 Happiness Experiment The Baby Study: Are We Wired for Generosity or Selfishness? 4 Unconscious Biases That Drive Buying Behavior Giving’s Health Benefits: Stress, Anxiety, Blood Pressure & Loneliness The Power of (Individual) Storytelling: Rebecca the Chicken! Tips for Nonprofit Workers Who Want to Increase Donation Efficacy The Power of Identity, Belonging, Framing, and Cognitive Dissonance ____ A quick 5-star rating means a ton! ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416⁠ Get a bunch of free Self-Helpless goodies: ⁠https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/⁠ Ad-free episodes (audio & video) now on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless⁠ Your Host, Delanie Fischer:⁠ https://www.delaniefischer.com⁠ ____ Related Episodes: 10 Fascinating Tricks For More Wins And Improved Well-Being with Janice Kaplan: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/23c60009/10-fascinating-tricks-for-more-wins-and-improved-well-being-with-janice-kaplan It’s Not a Mental Health Crisis: Human Reactions to a Loneliness Epidemic with Dr. Jody Carrington: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2d626d7b/its-not-a-mental-health-crisis-human-reactions-to-a-loneliness-epidemic-with-dr-jody-carrington Stop Asking Yourself the Wrong Questions: How to Unlock Deeper Fulfillment with Elliott Connie: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/365204fb/stop-asking-yourself-the-wrong-questions-how-to-unlock-deeper-fulfillment-with-elliott-connie Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s another Subscriber Stories episode! Delanie Fischer chats with subscriber Sadie, who made the bold choice to stop dating for six years to focus on raising her son, deep personal growth, and meaningful friendships. Sadie shares the tools and resources that have supported her most—including ones she created herself—as well as how she met her partner when she was truly ready. Want to be considered for a "Subscriber Stories" Series episode? Apply here: https://www.delaniefischer.com/submissions Visit jonesroadbeauty.com and use code HELPLESS for a free Cool Gloss on your first order. Episode Highlights: The Dating App Sadie Met Her Partner On Destigmatizing Sexuality for Women & Moms 2 Tips for Healthy Non-Attachment in Dating How to Make a “Bad Girl” List 1 Simple Tool to Release Everyday Guilt 2 Book Recs for Intimacy & Connection Sadie’s 1-Year Dating Experiment Sadie's Medium: ⁠https://medium.com/@sadiefreely⁠ Sadie's Substack: ⁠https://feckyes.substack.com/⁠ ____ A quick 5-star rating means a ton! ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416⁠ Get a bunch of free Self-Helpless goodies: ⁠https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/⁠ Ad-free episodes (audio & video) now on ⁠Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless⁠ Your Host, Delanie Fischer:⁠ https://www.delaniefischer.com⁠ ____ Related Episodes: Reinventing Midlife: Career, Identity, and Aging Your Way with Sherri Dindal: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/1e7637e8/reinventing-midlife-career-identity-and-aging-your-way-with-sherri-dindal Your Burning Relationship Questions Answered with Rachel DeAlto: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/3f1ddb9c/your-burning-relationship-questions-answered-with-rachel-dealto When You're Single At 35 (+ Eldest Daughter Syndrome) with Natalie Katona: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/23f054b6/when-youre-single-at-35-eldest-daughter-syndrome-with-natalie-katona Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Delanie Fischer chats with the host of Cramped, Kate Downey, about why we know so little about period pain. They discuss Kate's experience with endometriosis, as well as her research findings—including expert insights on what might be at the root of period pain and menstrual cramps, little-known biological facts about menstruation and conception, historical gaps in women's health, and the latest innovations in menstrual care. Turns out, periods are way more fascinating than we’ve been told. Episode Highlights: Latest Breakthroughs in Period Pain: 1 New Test & Treatment Menstruation Isn't Common: Only These Animals Do It How the Womb Heals Itself (and What it can Heal for Others) Forget What You've Been Told: The Egg is in Charge, Not the Sperm! The Connection Between Inflammation and Period Pain 3 Powerful Ways to Advocate for Women's Health Alright...What's the Deal with Period Poops?! Visit jonesroadbeauty.com and use code HELPLESS for a free Cool Gloss on your first order. ____ A quick 5-star rating means a ton! ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416⁠ Free goodies like The Quote Buffet + The Docs & Books List: ⁠https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/⁠ Ad-free episodes (audio & video) now on ⁠Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless⁠ Your Host, Delanie Fischer:⁠ https://www.delaniefischer.com⁠ ____ Related Episodes: The Shocking Ingredients in Menstrual Products: Toxic Truths, Safe Alternatives, and the Future of Period Care with Arielle Loupos: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2bd21fe3/the-shocking-ingredients-in-menstrual-products-toxic-truths-safe-alternatives-and-the-future-of-period-care-with-arielle-loupos Hormone Imbalances and Your Menstrual Cycle with Dr. Jolene Brighten: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/c4a75fbe/hormone-imbalances-and-your-menstrual-cycle-with-dr-jolene-brighten Infertility, IVF, Silent Endometriosis, Adoption, Surrogacy and Creative Living with Riki Lindhome: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/233c0ebf/infertility-ivf-silent-endometriosis-adoption-surrogacy-and-creative-living-with-riki-lindhome Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Delanie Fischer chats with Dr. Michael Greger, physician, New York Times bestselling author, and founder of NutritionFacts.org, about the impact of meat, dairy, and eggs from both industrialized and local sources on human health. They discuss hormones, antibiotics, contaminants, toxins, and disease-causing pathogens commonly found in animal products, as well as how animal flesh, breast milk, and reproductive cells themselves affect health independent of these factors. Episode Highlights: Why Cow’s Milk is Linked to Shorter Lifespan & Infertility Combat the World’s #1 Killer with 1 Simple Swap The Soy Controversy: 20+ Years of Data Demystified 2 Essential Tips for Cancer Survivors Protein & Calcium Choices: Baggage vs Benefits Swap 3% of This for a 20% Longer Life 1 in 5 of These at Grocery Stores Test Positive for Salmonella Have a health question? Check out the search engine at https://nutritionfacts.org/ ____ A quick 5-star rating means a ton! ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416⁠ Free goodies like The Quote Buffet + The Docs & Books List: ⁠https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/⁠ Ad-free episodes (audio & video) now on ⁠Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless⁠ Your Host, Delanie Fischer:⁠ https://www.delaniefischer.com⁠ ____ Related Episodes: Heal Your Gut, Change Your Life: Insights on Inflammatory Bowel Disease (IBD), Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS), Crohn’s, Ulcerative Colitis & Everyday Digestive Issues with Dane Johnson: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/1ac8b40e/heal-your-gut-change-your-life-insights-on-inflammatory-bowel-disease-ibd-irritable-bowel-syndrome-ibs-crohns-ulcerative-colitis-and-everyday-digestive-issues-with-dane-johnson Rethinking Alcohol: Mommy Wine Culture, Daddy Beer Culture, and More with Suzanne Warye: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/1be0c2c8/rethinking-alcohol-mommy-wine-culture-daddy-beer-culture-and-more-with-suzanne-warye The Shocking Ingredients in Menstrual Products: Toxic Truths, Safe Alternatives, and the Future of Period Care with Arielle Loupos: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2bd21fe3/the-shocking-ingredients-in-menstrual-products-toxic-truths-safe-alternatives-and-the-future-of-period-care-with-arielle-loupos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Delanie Fischer chats with biopsychologist and Brave New You author Dr. Mary Poffenroth about how fear drives what we often label as anxiety, stress, and nerves. They explore the root causes of fear and share practical, science-backed strategies and neurohacks for calming the nervous system, navigating intimidating situations, and building trust and confidence in our ability to manage life's challenges—and accomplish cool stuff. Episode Highlights: Fears: Internal, External, Fictional, and Nonfictional The 2 Feelings at the Root of Our Fear Response Why We Like True Crime & Scary Movies The RAIN Method + 5 Neurohacks for Quick Calm What's The Deal With Nervous Poops?! Worry and the "10 Coins Per Day" Analogy Why Cringing is Actually Fear (and What It Means) ____ A quick 5-star rating for Self-Helpless means a lot! ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416⁠ Free goodies like The Quote Buffet + The Doc & Book List: ⁠https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/⁠ Ad-free episodes (audio & video) now on ⁠Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless⁠ Your Host, Delanie Fischer:⁠ https://www.delaniefischer.com⁠ ____ Related Episodes: Mortality Awareness: Meaning, Motivation, and Your To-Die-For Life with Karen Salmansohn: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2367345e/mortality-awareness-meaning-motivation-and-your-to-die-for-life-with-karen-salmansohn Hurry Sickness And The Busy Brain Cure with Dr. Romie Mushtaq: ⁠https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/243d15fa/hurry-sickness-and-the-busy-brain-cure-with-dr-romie-mushtaq How To Approach Your Loved One About PTSD with Licensed Therapist, Nadirah Habeebullah: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2305ae72/self-helpless-snack-how-to-approach-your-loved-one-about-ptsd-with-licensed-therapist-nadirah-habeebullah Overcoming the Fear of Death with Kelvin Chin: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/20d70e6d/overcoming-the-fear-of-death-with-kelvin-chin 15 Tips For Managing Stage Fright In Work And Life with Em Schulz and Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/21e3bc9e/15-tips-for-managing-stage-fright-in-work-and-life-with-em-schulz-and-delanie-fischer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Delanie Fischer chats with Kathy Oneto, strategy executive and author of Sustainable Ambition, challenging what we've learned about ambition, productivity, and success. They explore how to avoid burnout, create life-work sustainability, and prioritize focus, fulfillment, and manageability in career and personal life—so you can achieve what you want, when you want, and actually enjoy yourself along the way. Episode Highlights: The Myth of Work-Life Balance Right Ambition, Right Time, Right Effort Ambition as a State, Not a Trait Constraints as a Catalyst for Creativity 3 Questions to Ask at Your Next Party Making Your World Smaller When Needed Identifying the Tradeoffs of Your Current Ambition ____ A quick 5-star rating for Self-Helpless means so much! ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416⁠ Free goodies like The Quote Buffet + The Watch & Read List: ⁠https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/⁠ Ad-free episodes on ⁠Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless⁠ Your Host, Delanie Fischer:⁠ https://www.delaniefischer.com⁠ ____ Related Episodes: Creating A Life Brief And Getting "Fuzzy Clear" with Bonnie Wan: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/251bf5df/creating-a-life-brief-and-getting-fuzzy-clear-with-bonnie-wan Hurry Sickness And The Busy Brain Cure with Dr. Romie Mushtaq: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/243d15fa/hurry-sickness-and-the-busy-brain-cure-with-dr-romie-mushtaq Is The "Dream Job" Concept A Lie? What To Look For Instead + Tips For Transitioning with HR Expert Shelby McGuire Canlas: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2279bacd/is-the-dream-job-concept-a-lie-what-to-look-for-instead-tips-for-transitioning-with-hr-expert-shelby-mcguire-canlas Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Delanie Fischer chats with Jacob Ward, veteran technology journalist and correspondent, about how AI differs from past technological inventions and why this moment feels fundamentally different. They explore some of the inner workings of artificial intelligence including LLMs, the effects of over-reliance on these tools, and what the future may look like for regulation, responsibility, and human connection. Episode Highlights: AI Psychosis, Addiction, Romance, Friendship, And How We’ll Define It The Risk Of Outsourcing Critical Thinking, Creativity, And Connection Two Problematic Features Of Large Language Models (LLMs) AI Slop, Clanker Culture, And Undetectable Fake Imagery Is Ad Placement Next, And Will We Know We’re Being Sold To? Tech Leaders: Responsibility, Ideology, And Profit Motives Desire And Purpose: The “Smoker” And “Heroin” Problem Analogies ____ A quick 5-star rating for Self-Helpless means so much! ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416⁠ Free goodies like The Quote Buffet + The Watch & Read List: ⁠https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/⁠ Ad-free episodes on ⁠Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless⁠ Your Host, Delanie Fischer:⁠ https://www.delaniefischer.com⁠ ____ Related Episodes: AI, Robotics, and The Future of Work and Life with Dr. Catie Cuan: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2458ba1f/ai-robotics-and-the-future-of-work-and-life-with-dr-catie-cuan The Lost Secrets of Civilization: Ancient Innovation and Forgotten Wisdom with Jack R. Bialik: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/d6769440/the-lost-secrets-of-civilization-ancient-innovation-and-forgotten-wisdom-with-jack-r-bialik It’s Not a Mental Health Crisis: Human Reactions to a Loneliness Epidemic with Dr. Jody Carrington: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2d626d7b/its-not-a-mental-health-crisis-human-reactions-to-a-loneliness-epidemic-with-dr-jody-carrington Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Delanie Fischer chats with Erin Claire Jones, author of How Do You Choose? and founder of Human Design Blueprint, to discuss how a system integrating astrology, the I Ching, chakras, and Kabbalah can serve as a practical framework for self-awareness, effective communication, and informed career choices—helping us navigate work, relationships, and life with greater ease, confidence, and fulfillment. Highly recommend looking up your HD type so you can follow along and get the most out of this episode! Episode Highlights: A Snapshot of the 5 Human Design Types 1 Question to ask Yourself Based on Your Type Common Pitfalls When Integrating HD Strategies The Now vs. Not Now Framework for Projects You Won't Look at The Rock's Career the Same Way Again This Unconventional Move Saved a Relationship Examining Mystical Origins in Modern Tech & Tools ____ A quick 5-star rating for Self-Helpless means so much! ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416⁠ Free goodies like The Quote Buffet + The Watch & Read List: ⁠https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/⁠ Ad-free episodes on ⁠Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless⁠ Your Host, Delanie Fischer:⁠ https://www.delaniefischer.com⁠ ____ Related Episodes: Human Design: Origin, The Basics & Readings with Krystle Alfarero: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/4eebd9b0/whats-the-deal-with-human-design-origin-the-basics-and-readings-with-krystle-alfarero What's The Deal with Astrology? 12 Archetypes and Your Cosmic Zone with Madi Murphy: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2588a22f/whats-the-deal-with-astrology-12-archetypes-and-your-cosmic-zone-with-madi-murphy Enneagram Personality Test Results with Taylor Tomlinson, Kelsey Cook, and Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/93ee0232/enneagram-personality-test-results-with-taylor-tomlinson-kelsey-cook-and-delanie-fischer Myers Briggs Personality Test Results with Taylor Tomlinson, Kelsey Cook, and Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/82eb04b2/myers-briggs-personality-test-results-with-taylor-tomlinson-kelsey-cook-and-delanie-fischer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Delanie Fischer chats with Brian Karr, environmental consultant and co-founder of We Inspect, about the hidden world of mold, mycotoxins, and the surprisingly wide range of symptoms and health conditions that result from exposure—many of which are often misdiagnosed. Brian also debunks common mold myths and shares practical tips for finding, removing, and preventing mold in your home. Episode Highlights: Signs of Exposure: Brain Fog, Skin Reactions, and More Where to Get Reliable Mycotoxin Testing for Your Body How To Avoiding Scams From Inspectors and Remediators Debunking The 3 Most Common Myths About Mold Simplifying Mold Detection and Remediation 2 Everyday Tools To Prevent Mold Growth at Home Navigating Mold Issues at Rentals and Workplaces ____ A quick 5-star rating for Self-Helpless means so much! ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416⁠ Free goodies like The Quote Buffet + The Watch & Read List: ⁠https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/⁠ Ad-free episodes on ⁠Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless⁠ Your Host, Delanie Fischer:⁠ https://www.delaniefischer.com⁠ ____ Related Episodes: Mysterious Symptoms (And Finally Getting Answers) with Sharon Okun: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2248a087/mysterious-symptoms-and-finally-getting-answers-with-sharon-okun Flip the Script on Aging: Strength, Vitality, and Purpose with 74 Year-Old Icon Babette Davis: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/23c49ad2/flip-the-script-on-aging-strength-vitality-and-purpose-with-74-year-old-icon-babette-davis Heal Your Gut, Change Your Life: Insights on Inflammatory Bowel Disease (IBD), Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS), Crohn’s, Ulcerative Colitis & Everyday Digestive Issues with Dane Johnson: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/1ac8b40e/heal-your-gut-change-your-life-insights-on-inflammatory-bowel-disease-ibd-irritable-bowel-syndrome-ibs-crohns-ulcerative-colitis-and-everyday-digestive-issues-with-dane-johnson Dr. Joel Warsh on Vaccine Research, Public Trust, and What's Not Taught in Medical School: ⁠https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/28a85104/dr-joel-warsh-on-vaccine-research-public-trust-and-whats-not-taught-in-medical-school⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Delanie Fischer chats with Jessica Frew, author of Shove Your Shoulds, about building confidence around decision-making. They dive into practical strategies for identifying and shifting out of “should” thinking, learning to make value-based decisions (big or small) more swiftly, and overcoming the overwhelm that can keep us stuck in indecision. Episode Highlights: How to Build Your Decision-Making Muscle Identifying Your Daily “Shoulds” Looking for “Proof” vs. Trusting Your Gut When to Stay or Leave a Situation 7 Practical Tips for Getting Decisive Why Judging Others Is Hurting You Most The 1 Small Decision To Make When Overwhelmed ⁠CozyEarth.com ⁠- Right now, my code HELPLESS can give you up to 40% off in savings. ____ A quick 5-star rating for Self-Helpless means so much! ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416⁠ Free goodies like The Quote Buffet + The Watch & Read List: ⁠https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/⁠ Ad-free episodes on ⁠Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless⁠ Your Host, Delanie Fischer:⁠ https://www.delaniefischer.com⁠ ____ Related Episodes: When My Husband Came Out: Sexuality, Betrayal, and Healing with Jessica Frew: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/229e6642/when-my-husband-came-out-sexuality-betrayal-and-healing-with-jessica-frew Stop Asking Yourself the Wrong Questions: How to Unlock Deeper Fulfillment with Elliott Connie: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/365204fb/stop-asking-yourself-the-wrong-questions-how-to-unlock-deeper-fulfillment-with-elliott-connie Release Your Perfectionism Handbrake: Power Planning, Clean Rest, and Demystifying Procrastination with Sam Laura Brown: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/22e1c287/release-your-perfectionism-handbrake-power-planning-clean-rest-and-demystifying-procrastination-with-sam-laura-brown Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Delanie Fischer chats with Jack R. Bialik, technologist and author of Lost in Time: Our Forgotten and Vanishing Knowledge, to explore the mind-bending question: If only a fraction of history is recorded, what has been lost that we're rediscovering—and what has been lost forever? From ancient medical breakthroughs to engineering feats that outperform our modern technology, this episode dives into the forgotten brilliance of past civilizations, the cycles of destruction, and what these revelations mean for us as a society and personally. Episode Highlights: The Process and Efficacy of Cranial and Cataract Surgery as Early as 800 BC 2010 BC Swords That Are Still Sharp (Plus a New, Old Discovery) An Ancient Battery, Roman Vending Machine, and Superior Concrete Disposal and Sanitation Solutions That Rival and Surpass Modern Systems How Do We Know If We’re Interpreting Artifacts Correctly? The Secrets of the Pyramids: Calculations and Construction Theories The Cycle of Destruction and What Could Wipe Out Modern Knowledge What Knowledge of Ours Might Survive a Civilizational Collapse? Wise Practices to Reclaim for Sustainable Living and Preservation What's Stood the Test of Time: Materials, Tools, and Concepts That Endure ⁠CozyEarth.com ⁠- Right now, you can stack my code HELPLESS on top of their sitewide sale - giving you up to 40% off in savings. ____ A quick 5-star rating means so much! ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416⁠ Free goodies like The Quote Buffet + The Watch & Read List: ⁠https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/⁠ Ad-free episodes on ⁠Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless⁠ Your Host, Delanie Fischer:⁠ https://www.delaniefischer.com⁠ ____ Related Episodes: 20 Documentaries To Watch This Year: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2542cab6/self-helpless-snack-whats-your-favorite-documentary-20-documentaries-to-watch-this-year AI, Robotics, and The Future of Work and Life with Dr. Catie Cuan: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2458ba1f/ai-robotics-and-the-future-of-work-and-life-with-dr-catie-cuan The Future of Mental Health and Medicine: Psychedelic Therapy, Technology, and Ancient Healing with Dr. Dave Rabin: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/f08920eb/the-future-of-mental-health-and-medicine-psychedelic-therapy-technology-and-ancient-healing-with-dr-dave-rabin Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Delanie Fischer chats with licensed therapist and relationship specialist, Dr. Joy Berkheimer, about the challenges and rewards of adult friendships. Dr. Joy shares practical strategies for finding new friends as an adult, building trust, navigating conflict, and knowing when it’s time to let a friendship go — all while honoring your own capacity, interests, and boundaries. Discussed in this episode: Find Your Purpose, Find Your People Clarify Desire & Capacity: Close Friend or a Casual One? 7 Ways to Make New Friends as an Adult 3 Apps That Help You Build Aligned Friendships Effective Conversation Skills for New Friendships When "Letting It Fizzle" Doesn't Work Friendship Breakups: Talking vs. Blocking Let’s Talk About the Term “Best Friend” Setting New Boundaries in Old Friendships Friendship Takes Many Forms: The Remarkable Life of Ibelin ⁠CozyEarth.com ⁠- Right now, you can stack my code HELPLESS on top of their sitewide sale - giving you up to 40% off in savings. ____ If Self-Helpless has supported you, a quick 5-star rating or review (if you haven’t already) means so much! ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416⁠ Free goodies including The Quote Buffet and The Watch & Read List: ⁠https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/⁠ Ad-free episodes now available on ⁠Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless⁠ Your Host, Delanie Fischer:⁠ https://www.delaniefischer.com⁠ ____ Episodes related to this topic: Craving A Healthy Relationship? Understand Your Attachment Style with Thais Gibson: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/228cc412/craving-a-healthy-relationship-understand-your-attachment-style-with-thais-gibson How To Un-F*** Your Relationships: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/22c987e4/how-to-un-fck-your-relationships The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/dd3a637b/the-5-love-languages-by-gary-chapman How Enmeshment Trauma Impacts Every Relationship You Have with Dr. Kate Balestrieri: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/316bfe5c/how-enmeshment-trauma-impacts-every-relationship-you-have-with-dr-kate-balestrieri Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Delanie Fischer chats with psychologist Dr. Jody Carrington—flipping the narrative of “we’re in a mental health crisis." They explore the loneliness epidemic sweeping our generation, even amid unprecedented access to people and information. They unpack record levels of burnout, the real dangers of disconnection (including life-threatening consequences), and how our society (not our minds) is often the problem. Dr. Jody shares practical tools for emotional regulation, fostering authentic interactions, and reconnecting with the best parts of ourselves—and why nothing can replace the power of in-person connection in a hyper-digital world. Discussed in this episode: A Jaw-Dropping Parenting Stat From Our Great-Grandparents’ Era #1 Skill Every Kid and Adult Needs To Learn For Consistent Wellbeing Hidden Cost of Lost Proximity (and How to Get it Back) The 4-Minute Challenge That Exposes Your Capacity for Connection Why “Boys Don’t Cry” Culture Must End For Good The Greatest Predictor and Habit of Mental Wellness Today The Difference Between Being Alone vs. Being Lonely What If It’s Not Anxiety, Depression, ADHD, or Autism? What’s Behind The 2006 & 2009 Decline in Mental Health Does Your Daily Routine Reduce Cortisol or Heighten It? ⁠CozyEarth.com ⁠- Right now, you can stack my code HELPLESS on top of their sitewide sale - giving you up to 40% off in savings. ____ If Self-Helpless has supported you, a quick 5-star rating or review (if you haven’t already) means so much! ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416⁠ Free goodies including The Quote Buffet and The Watch & Read List: ⁠https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/⁠ Ad-free episodes now available on ⁠Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless⁠ Your Host, Delanie Fischer:⁠ https://www.delaniefischer.com⁠ ____ Episodes related to this topic: Netflix Documentary Discussion: The Social Dilemma: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/230bfddf/netflix-documentary-discussion-the-social-dilemma The Future of Mental Health and Medicine: Psychedelic Therapy, Technology, and Ancient Healing with Dr. Dave Rabin: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/f08920eb/the-future-of-mental-health-and-medicine-psychedelic-therapy-technology-and-ancient-healing-with-dr-dave-rabin 12 ADHD Life Hacks with Em Schulz: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/252910dc/12-adhd-life-hacks-with-em-schulz 7 Reasons Why You May Have Insomnia (And How To Treat It) with Dr. Brian F. Licuanan: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/215f937b/7-reasons-why-you-may-have-insomnia-and-how-to-treat-it-with-dr-brian-f-licuanan Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Delanie Fischer chats with Dane Johnson, founder of CrohnsColitisLifestyle and Board-Certified Nutritionist, who specializes in supporting people with Crohn’s disease and Ulcerative Colitis. They explore the factors that contribute to IBD, IBS, Crohn’s, and Colitis, practical ways to take control of your health and environment, and how to step away from the “culture of fake.” Dane also shares his life-threatening experience with Crohn’s and the strategies he used to reverse his symptoms without medication or surgery. Whether you have one of these conditions or simply want to elevate your health, there are 50+ actionable takeaways from this episode. Discussed in this episode: Navigating Conflicting Health Info (and Becoming Your Own Sherlock Holmes) 3 Areas of Focus for Creating Your Healing Home What To Audit in Your Bedroom for Optimal Sleep Made Lifestyle Changes but Still Unwell? Try This Next What’s Really in Your Peanut Butter and How It Impacts Your Gut 2 Book Recommendations for Understanding Toxins & Mold This Could Help Clear Your Skin and Reverse Acne Why You Might Be Exhausted — and Why Coffee Isn’t Working You Don’t Need To Eliminate, Swap! (+ Product Tips) 4 Questions To Ask Before Trying Something New ⁠CozyEarth.com ⁠- Right now, you can stack my code HELPLESS on top of their sitewide sale - giving you up to 40% off in savings. ____ If Self-Helpless has supported you, a quick 5-star rating or review (if you haven’t already) means so much! ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416⁠ Free goodies including The Quote Buffet and The Watch & Read List: ⁠https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/⁠ Ad-free episodes now available on ⁠Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless⁠ Your Host, Delanie Fischer:⁠ https://www.delaniefischer.com⁠ ____ Episodes related to this topic: What's Your Poo Telling You? With Dr. Anish Sheth: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/72b07ffc/whats-your-poo-telling-you-with-dr-anish-sheth Mysterious Symptoms (And Finally Getting Answers) with Sharon Okun: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2248a087/mysterious-symptoms-and-finally-getting-answers-with-sharon-okun Adrenal Insufficiency with Dr. Shirisha Avadhanula: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/19d5b231/adrenal-insufficiency-with-dr-shirisha-avadhanula A Shocking Connection Between Trauma And Thyroid Health with Judith Gonzalez: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/22ae66d2/a-shocking-connection-between-trauma-and-thyroid-health-with-judith-gonzalez Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Delanie Fischer chats with Suzanne Warye, author of The Sober Shift and host of The Sober Mom Life, about the culture, conditioning, and emotional underpinnings of alcohol. They unpack everything from mommy wine culture, dude beer culture, and the dark side of normalizing drinking to the marketing tactics increasingly targeting women, how relationships can shift in sobriety, and the freedom, opportunity, and unexpected impact that come from simply not thinking about alcohol. Discussed in this episode: Mommy Wine Culture vs. Daddy Beer Culture Have We Been Duped? Pink Labels, “Wellness” Wine , and Champagne Yoga 5 Alcohol Myths (and Why Rock Bottom Isn’t Required for The Sober Life) How Alcohol Blocks Intimacy and Connection + Forming Fake Friendships The Impact of Alcohol on Social Anxiety, OCD, and Overall Health “I Know It’s Bad for Me, But Alcohol is What I Look Forward To” What to Ask Yourself About Your First (and Most Recent) Drink Criticism, Pressure, and How Relationships Shift When You Stop Drinking 2 Book Recs, Simple Drink & Lifestyle Swaps, and Exit Plans for Parties The Freedom of Not Thinking About Alcohol (and Its Ripple Effect) ⁠CozyEarth.com ⁠- Right now, you can stack my code HELPLESS on top of their sitewide sale - giving you up to 40% off in savings. ____ If Self-Helpless has supported you, a quick 5-star rating or review (if you haven’t already) means so much! ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416⁠ Free goodies including The Quote Buffet and The Watch & Read List: ⁠https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/⁠ Ad-free episodes now available on ⁠Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless⁠ Your Host, Delanie Fischer:⁠ https://www.delaniefischer.com⁠ ____ Episodes related to this topic: Is Hangxiety Worth The Buzz?: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/263a8ad9/is-hangxiety-worth-the-buzz Rock Bottom vs. High Bottom and Working The 12 Steps with Amanda Hill: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/237b7862/working-the-12-steps-with-amanda-hill I Quit Drinking And Had The Best Year Ever with Helen Hong: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/23e92cd3/how-i-had-the-best-year-ever-with-helen-hong When You're A High Functioning Addict (And Modernizing The 12 Steps) with Dr. Samantha Harte: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/233469a8/when-youre-a-high-functioning-addict-and-modernizing-the-12-steps-with-dr-samantha-harte Coping With Social Anxiety: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/22bb89df/coping-with-social-anxiety Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Delanie Fischer chats with author of Fetishized: A Reckoning with Yellow Fever, Feminism, and Beauty Kaila Yu to discuss the dangerous side of fetishization. She shares about the evolving perception of Asian women, the impact of media and representation (or lack thereof), and practical ways to recognize and dismantle harmful patterns. * This episode contains sensitive subject matter. Listener discretion is advised. Discussed in this episode: Preference vs. Fetish: Where's The Line? The Origin of "Yellow Fever" and Its Impact What Lies Beneath Perceived "Compliments" 4 Asian Tropes in TV, Music, and Film Asian Violence: Past and Present The "Model Minority" and Infighting The Belief That Asian Women Serve 3 Masters Embracing Femininity Without Being "Submissive" Kaila's Favorites: TV Character & Book Recommendation Addiction, Recovery, and a Healing Routine ---- If Self-Helpless has supported you, a quick 5-star rating or review (if you haven’t already) means so much! ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416⁠ Free goodies including The Quote Buffet and The Watch & Read List: ⁠https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/⁠ Ad-free episodes now available on ⁠Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless⁠ Your Host, Delanie Fischer:⁠ https://www.delaniefischer.com⁠ ---- Episodes related to this topic: How Confidence, Culture & Self-Worth Shape Success with Big Asian Energy’s John Wang: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/228fec8c/how-confidence-culture-and-self-worth-shape-success-with-big-asian-energys-john-wang “You’re So Sensitive”: Understanding Everyday Microaggressions, Implicit Bias, and Best Practices with Billie Lee & Dr. Gina Torino: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2396d366/youre-so-sensitive-understanding-everyday-microaggressions-implicit-bias-and-best-practices-with-billie-lee-and-dr-gina-torino Cancel Culture vs. Accountability with Sonya Renee Taylor: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/38432784/cancel-culture-vs-accountability-with-sonya-renee-taylor Exploring Fetishes, Kinks, and Pleasure with Goody Howard: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/234275b9/exploring-fetishes-kinks-and-pleasure-with-goody-howard Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Delanie Fischer chats with Arielle Loupos, founder of Flower Girl, for a revealing look at the hidden toxins in mainstream menstrual products and their impact, the history of “feminine hygiene” marketing, and the safe alternatives everyone should know about. They explore cycle stigma, period traditions, and why rethinking our everyday products is essential for our health. Please share this with the females in your life. ✨ This episode is part of the Self-Helpless “Subscriber Stories” series! Got a story, resource, or experience that could help others? Email selfhelplesspodcast@gmail.com to be considered as a guest. Discussed in this episode: 2024 Menstrual Products Study Results How The Industrial Revolution Changed Periods Ancient Traditions for Celebrating Cycles Is The Free Bleed Movement The Future? Toxic Shock Syndrome Causes and Risks Tampons, Pads, Cups, Period Underwear Cramps and Infertility Questions Postpartum, Perimenopause, and Leaks Cycle Syncing Tips in the Workplace Ending Period Stigma (and Starting Young) ---- If Self-Helpless has supported you, a quick 5-star rating or review (if you haven’t already) means so much! ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416⁠ Free goodies including The Quote Buffet and The Watch & Read List: ⁠https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/⁠ Ad-free episodes now available on ⁠Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless⁠ Your Host, Delanie Fischer:⁠ https://www.delaniefischer.com⁠ ---- Episodes related to this topic: 20 Documentaries To Watch This Year: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2542cab6/self-helpless-snack-whats-your-favorite-documentary-20-documentaries-to-watch-this-year Hormone Imbalances and Your Menstrual Cycle with Dr. Jolene Brighten: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/c4a75fbe/hormone-imbalances-and-your-menstrual-cycle-with-dr-jolene-brighten UTIs, Interstitial Cystitis, and Pelvic Floor Dysfunction with Dr. Rena Malik: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/1c573a89/utis-interstitial-cystitis-and-pelvic-floor-dysfunction-with-dr-rena-malik Flip the Script on Aging: Strength, Vitality, and Purpose with 74 Year-Old Icon Babette Davis: ⁠https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/23c49ad2/flip-the-script-on-aging-strength-vitality-and-purpose-with-74-year-old-icon-babette-davis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Delanie Fischer chats with bestselling author and artist Rebecca Campbell about how creativity, ritual, and our connection to nature can transform the way we think and feel. They dive into how belief systems shape our health and choices, approaching traditions with mindfulness and respect, and what happens when we start listening to the natural rhythms around us — and within us. Discussed in this episode: The Question of Free Will Herbalism and Nature-Based Rituals The Rational vs. Intuitive Mind Using Your Skills for What You Love Creativity and Open-mindedness Career Transitions and Sharing Dreams 3 Tips for a Mindful, Respectful Practice A Fresh Way to Use an Oracle Deck Full Circle Life and Career Moments Learning from the Earth's Intelligence ---- If Self-Helpless has supported you, a quick 5-star rating or review (if you haven’t already) means so much! ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416⁠ Free goodies including The Quote Buffet and The Watch & Read List: ⁠https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/⁠ Ad-free episodes now available on ⁠Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless⁠ Your Host, Delanie Fischer:⁠ https://www.delaniefischer.com⁠ ---- Episodes related to this topic: Unblock Yourself With These 7 Oracle Deck Prompts with Lucy Sherman: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/40ac1320/unblock-yourself-with-these-7-oracle-deck-prompts-with-lucy-sherman Rethinking Intuition, Belief, and The Nature of Reality with Vincent Genna: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/23db0212/rethinking-intuition-belief-and-the-nature-of-reality-with-vincent-genna A Step-By-Step Manifestation Exercise with Intuitive Consultant, Jennifer Wai: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/224cee0c/a-step-by-step-manifestation-exercise-with-intuitive-consultant-jennifer-wai Cultural Appropriation vs. Cultural Appreciation with Trevia Woods: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2505c934/cultural-appropriation-vs-cultural-appreciation-with-trevia-woods Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices