Widow Cast: Widows Empowering Widows - How to Self Coach Through Grief

Welcome widows to episode 156. A new year has always been a fresh start to me - but not after the death of my husband. That New Year, I was still in shock and did not expect to see that year coming in without Jim. Yes, the new year can become one of those milestones that tug at the heart, just like their birthday, wedding anniversary, and day of their passing. But you CAN learn how to turn this new year into a new start again. You can check out my website: https://joannthelifecoach.com My subscription membership for widows: https://widowcoachingcenter.com or email me at: Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com

Today, I'm sharing all that I've learned over the years of widowhood about becoming widowed and those first months. We have also opened the doors to our subscription membership program today (Dec 2020) - so go check it out! Email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Website: https://joannthelifecoach.com Subscription Program: https://widowcoachingcenter.com

First off - The Widow Coaching Center subscription membership program is open until 9 p.m. EST on Sept. 24, 2020. So if you've been waiting to take that leap, go check it out at https://widowcoachingcenter.com Today's episode is a fantastic opportunity to Jamie's story first hand as she went through widowhood and started on that long journey back to self. What Jamie shares is so very valuable. Jamie went from the trauma to building a new life. Email me at joann@joannthelifecoach.com Website: https://joannthelifecoach.com

This week I had two excellent examples of the struggle we have at times as widows when we are making a decision or even wanting something more in our life, but feel a little guilty about that. Have you ever thought about doing something or buying something and it felt a bit extravagant, so you shyed away from it? Today I'm sharing a couple of stories that you just might identify with . . . . . . how it is when we are wanting permission. Find me at https://joannthelifecoach.com Email: Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com

This episode was inspired by a member in Widows Empowering Widows on Facebook who had both a wedding anniversary coming up, quickly followed by the first anniversary of her husband's death. She had been keeping herself very busy since he passed. But now feels like she cannot keep herself busy enough to distract herself from the pain of these upcoming dates. What happens when busy works for a while, but then you can't be busy enough? Email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Website: https://joannthelifecoach.com

Widows, don't run away! "Get on your death bed" will make total sense if you join me in listening to this episode. It is the practice that I think everyone should apply to constantly stay motivated in their life. It is what some very very successful people practice to keep focused on what's important. More about widow coaching: https://joannthelifecoach.com Subscription membership: https://widowcoachingcenter.com Email me: Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com

Have you ever encountered another widow who was left "better off" than you were? How did you feel about that? What do you think when you read another widow who is thriving in life after her loss? Are you envious? A little jealous? I saw this come up in my free Facebook Group: Widows Empowering Widows. Today I want to share how jealously can actually rob you of what you desire! It holds you back. Want to know how to process that feeling and come out the other side? Listen in! Email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Website: https://joannthelifecoach.com

As widows, most of us are on our own without family nearby or older children at home to step in and help. So it makes sense that we are always prepared to take care of ourselves - now more than ever. How do you manage the uncertainty and fear around this pandemic? How do you NOT touch your face when it is such an urge to do so? On this episode I'm directly addressing something I never expected to be talking about on my podcast. But here we go - let's talk Coronavirus and making smart...

How anticipation, good or bad, can affect your physiology and well being. If you are widowed, be sure to check out my books on Amazon and find me on Facebook. Email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Website: https://joannthelifecoach.com/ Book links: https://joannthelifecoach.com/books/ Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Widow...

Today's Widow Cast podcast was recorded live while broadcasting on video to my free Facebook group: Widows Empowering Widows. In our group, conversations had come up around the feeling that the relationship with their spouse who had passed on was gone and no more. On the contrary, relationships are all about how we think about the other person. Because those relationships are part of who we are, they can live on even as we move through the grief process. Find out how on today's episode. You can reach out to me at joann@joannthelifecoach.com Check out the subscription membership at https://widowcoachingcenter.com

What are you thinking as a widow? About you? About your loss? About your life? About your money? About all your external relationships? Our thoughts often are all over the place. Sometimes our brain is telling us thoughts that make us feel awful or fearful. I think many thoughts are "thought errors." You are not at the mercy of every thought your brain fires at you! Learn more in this podcast about what "thought errors" are how to deal with them. email: Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com

Widows - Do you see too many social media posts that are like a kick in your soul? They are depressing - make your sadness heavier. It is one of the reasons I took on opening a Facebook Group page called Widows Empowering Widows - I wanted to share a message that was UPLIFTING. You CAN begin to turn that sadness into a life that brings you joy. I want to share with you quotes from the writings of Elizabeth Kubler-Ross. email me at Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com

Ever wonder how on earth to not feel so sad? One of the widows in the Widow Coaching Center membership posed this question. Listen in to hear more about feeling so sad. email: Joann@Joannthelifecoach.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com

When your spouse passed away, did you wonder, "How long will the money last until I run out?" Did you struggle with money issues even as you were consumed with grief? For most of us, we think we are going to become a bag lady. I speak very openly from a place of complete authenticity to share how I felt and the fact that you CAN be okay. There are ways you can build your own support. email: Joann@Joannthelifecoach.com Website: https://joannthelifecoach.com Widow Coaching Center: https://widowcoachingcenter.com

Lately, I've been asked this question a lot: "Do you still have good days and bad days?" The answer is yes, of course. But it is not as black and white as that answer may seem. So listen in to how I feel after nearly 5 years, with some self examination and a lot of coaching! email: Joann@Joannthelifecoach.com Website: https://Joannthelifecoach.com

Are you widowed and beginning to feel anxious about the upcoming holidays? I'm beginning to see posts about this in our Facebook Group, Widows Empowering Widows, so wanted to share a few thoughts about this. Listen in for how to face the holidays, some great ideas and suggestions, but even more importantly - how it is that you are upping the ante on your anxiety. email: Joann@Joannthelifecoach.com Website: https://joannthelifecoach.com Membership: https://widowdoachingcenter.com

Are you finding it difficult to finish tasks or get anything accomplished since your spouse died? It is possible to commit to doing something and follow through on it. Here is a short boost to help you tackle that ONE thing this month! Email me at joann@joannthelifecoach.com Subscription membership: https://widowcoachingcenter.com

Have you ever read about "self-care" and think you need to scheduled the beauty spa? Or maybe it felt like you have to be completely selfish about your time - taking care of you at the expense of everyone else around you. A fellow professional life coach shared a post that beautifully defined what self-care means to her. It is with Corinne Crabtree's permission that I am sharing her post with you. You might be very surprised at what self-care can be. Email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Subscription membership: https://widowcoachingcenter.com

Have you ever wanted to just go out to a new restaurant, but the thought of going there alone as "party of 1" is daunting? How do you tackle doing things alone? This subject came up more than ever after I sold my house in New York, drove to Texas and bought a new place here. I was constantly being asked, "How did you move and drive across country alone?" Today I help you understand why this feels scary and how to overcome that fear. Email me at joann@joannthelifecoach.com Check out the membership! Subscription membership: https://widowcoachingcenter.com

How do you change how you see yourself? There is an entire before and after process to being able to see yourself differently. But first, you need to decide how it is you WANT to see yourself! Today I share the process of being able to shift into a new view of YOU. Step into new shoes of new you Take a chance on YOU New habit stacks Letting go of old you email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Subscription membership: https://widowcoachingcenter.com