Queer Sex Ed Podcast

On this episode of QSE, Sara talks with Mia Schachter (they/them) from Consent Wizardy and the You're Doing it Wrong Podcast about all things consent! Discussion includes people pleasing, lying to ourselves, moving beyond the victim/perpetrator binary, what to do with accountability through a non-police state lens, and consent as an atmosphere of your relationship instead of a one-time conversation. You can find more of Mia's work at www.consentwizardry.com and on Instagram @consent.wizardry. You can hear more from them by signing up for their consent educator classes and listening to their podcasts: "Share the Load" and "You're Doing it Wrong: A Podcast About Consent from a Twink and a Wh*re". You can also read their writing at www.consentwizardry.substack.com

This episode Sara talks with Aura (she/her), Star (she/it), and Deluge (any pronoun) from Effigy Films about how they got started camming and making trans-only porn, get a dom who'll tell you to take your daily meds, what it means to be a non-binary lesbian, and what scenes would they want to film with an infinite budget. Find more about Effigy at www.effigyfilms.com and follow Deluge, Aura, and Star on OnlyFans, BlueSky, and Instagram. You can watch them on Chaturbate every weekday and buy their individual videos across the net. Queer Sex Ed is a sex education project by and for trans people, queer people, and polyamorous people. We believe pleasure is necessary to building a kind and caring world free from racism, ableism, sexual violence, queerphobia, and trans antagonism. QSE exists to empower everyone to claim the sexual life they desire built on a foundation of communication, trust, and awareness of the power dynamics that influence interpersonal and community relationships. Learn more at www.queersexed.org and follow Sara on these social media platforms: https://bsky.app/profile/queersexed.bsky.social www.instagram.com/queersexed/ www.facebook.com/QueerS3xEd/ www.youtube.com/@queergamingshow www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd

This is a live workshop with Sara from the Southwest Love Fest conference in Phoenix, AZ. Discussions include finding overlapping desires, consent as a practice instead of a one-time agreement, safe words, and pain calibration (with a live demo). Follow along with the slides at www.queersexed.org and please share this with anyone who needs this information! Welcome back to QSE, everyone. I've missed you.

A relaunch message from Sara about what to expect for the QSE relaunch and teasing upcoming content in the feed! This is different from the previous reintroduction episode from February for reason that I discuss. Welcome back to QSE!

Queer Sex Ed is coming back with Sara (she/her) and Leigh (they/them) in April 2025! We could use your help getting ready to go live in the next few months. Here are some ways you can help with your money, time, or both! 1. Sign up for our Patreon to help get the ball rolling and pay for our increased tech/bandwidth needs (there's also a free tier now!) https://www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd 2. Email us (non-urgent) questions for the show, possible interview connections, and general excitement for the return: queersexed@gmail.com 3. Book us for your 2025 workshop, training, conference presentation, boudoir photography, campus event, live episode recording and more! Email queersexed@gmail.com to discuss prices and travel arrangements! Queer Sex Ed is an educational project by and for trans people, queer people, and polyamorous people. We believe pleasure is necessary to build a kind and caring world free from racism, ableism, sexual violence, queerphobia, and trans antagonism. QSE exists to empower everyone to claim the sexual life they desire built on a foundation of communication, trust, and awareness of the power dynamics that influence interpersonal and community relationships.

Sara and Jay are back this week to finish our discussion of justice-centered sex education! This week we discuss moral panics and also provide structure, guidance, and questions to ask yourself to build sex ed centered on trans justice. We tried to focus on offering structures, guidelines, and tangible ways you can question your own work, but there's no way we could cover everything in one show. For more on this, check out our previous episode, number 63, and also Episodes 1, 9, 11, 21, 23, 24, 34, and 53. Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/IicmJZnuTvGPk7Ojfgieqg Segments: 1:30 - Intro 4:59 - Word of the Show: Moral Panic 20:33 - Famous Moral Panics of the Past and Present 28:43 - Patreon Message 32:30 - Main Topic Intro 38:49 - 5 (+2 Extra) Steps for Building Justice-Centered Sex Education 44:32 - Working Backwards to Build a Foundation 49:11 - Power Dynamics and Sex Ed 56:11 - We Can't Do This Work in a Vacuum 59:02 - Helpful Guidelines to Start From 1:07:15 - Questions to Ask Yourself Show Links: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/wicked-deeds/201507/moral-panic-who-benefits-public-fear https://www.newstatesman.com/culture/games/2019/08/moral-panic-over-fortnite-and-purpose-play https://www.aier.org/article/the-anatomy-of-a-moral-panic/ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/youre-wrong-about/id1380008439 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/american-hysteria/id1441348407 https://rossieronline.usc.edu/youth-and-racism/akiea-gross-op-ed https://www.bgdblog.org/2016/04/how-sex-education-fails-people-of-color-in-the-united-states/ https://wearyourvoicemag.com/sex-and-health/sex/sex-education-centering-whiteness https://www.huffpost.com/entry/afrosexology-sex-positivity_n_5b69b913e4b0de86f4a59f1a http://www.nativeyouthsexualhealth.com/whatwebelievein.html https://rewire.news/article/2015/04/09/can-teach-kids-consent-without-bringing-sex-conversation/ https://theestablishment.co/the-sad-case-of-laci-green-feminist-hero-turned-anti-feminist-defender-322515344297/ https://www.themarysue.com/laci-green-terf-impression/ Sex Education Guidelines: https://www.bzga-whocc.de/en/publications/standards-in-sexuality-education/ https://siecus.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/07/Guidelines-CSE.pdf https://culturallyboundgender.wordpress.com/2013/03/09/toward-an-end-to-appropriation-of-indigenous-two-spirit-people-in-trans-politics-the-relationship-between-third-gender-roles-and-patriarchy/ https://www.bgdblog.org/2016/07/appropriating-two-spirit/ https://intersexroadshow.blogspot.com/2016/08/the-problematic-ideology-of-natural-sex.html

This week, Sara and Jay talk about the difference between "trans-inclusive" sex ed and building sex ed based on a justice framework more broadly. Also discussed, inclusion, virginity, life-long sex ed, and reproductive justice. Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/yxW1Eq_tTeefHcc5G02ZVg Segments: 1:30 - Intro 3:22 - Accountability Corner 17:57 - Word of the Show: Inclusion 25:00 - "The Language of Appeasement" Article Discussion 35:09 - Patreon Message 36:40 - Main Topic Intro 41:41 - What's Wrong With Sex Ed? 54:12 - Why Make Sex Ed Better? 1:04:59 - Being Justice-Centered 1:15:03 - Risk Aware Sex Ed 1:28:00 - Sex Education isn't a Biology Class Show notes: www.them.us/story/sex-with-acrylics-is-safe www.twitter.com/DrDLStewart www.insidehighered.com/views/2017/03/30/colleges-need-language-shift-not-one-you-think-essay www.zora.medium.com/when-black-women-go-from-office-pet-to-office-threat-83bde710332e www.queersexed.org/archive/2018/4/20/reproductive-justice-and-family-building-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-21 www.queersexed.org/archive/2018/1/18/identifying-desire-asexuality-and-aromanticism-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-9 www.queersexed.org/archive/2018/2/5/sharing-your-desires-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-11 www.queersexed.org/archive/2019/4/21/biological-sex-and-expanding-the-trans-medical-model-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-53 www.medium.com/@QSE/the-xx-xy-lie-our-social-construction-of-a-sex-and-gender-binary-4eed1e60e615 www.coloradoindependent.com/2019/05/23/colorado-laws-sex-ed-consent/ Audre Lorde Reads Uses of the Erotic: www.youtube.com/watch?v=xFHwg6aNKy0 (CW: cissexism, anti-pornography) Text version: https://uk.sagepub.com/sites/default/files/upm-binaries/11881_Chapter_5.pdf www.akpress.org/pleasure-activism.html www.medium.com/@JessieRaeFisher/on-neopronouns-eec46705c5dc www.nonbinary.miraheze.org/wiki/English_neutral_pronouns www.cnn.com/2010/HEALTH/10/01/guatemala.syphilis.tuskegee/index.html www.siecus.org/sex-ed-is-a-vehicle-for-racial-justice/

Join Jay and Sara as we explore the innies and outies of genital torture play (sometimes called CBT). We'll talk about pain tolerance, dysphoria, safety tips, and give examples of genital torture play you might never have thought about before! Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/Bjuvrzx9T2mvJ37L3CWrAQ Segments: 1:30 - Intro 7:21 - Word of the Show: Pain Tolerance 14:40 - How Do You Find Your Pain Tolerance? 22:40 - Patreon Message 25:57 - What is Genital Torture Play? 29:48 - Why Not Just Use "CBT"? 33:23 - Types of GT Play 52:42 - Trans-Specific Tips for GT 1:10:28 - Harm Reduction Safety Tips 1:23:04 - Negotiating GT Show notes: https://www.cnet.com/how-to/australian-fires-everything-we-know-about-the-crisis-and-how-you-can-help/ https://www.npr.org/2019/01/31/690363402/how-the-cia-overthrew-irans-democracy-in-four-days https://www.vice.com/en_ca/article/mg4pqn/we-asked-a-cock-and-ball-torture-expert-about-the-art-of-dilating-urethras https://www.teenvogue.com/story/anal-sex-what-you-need-to-know https://theprincessfantasy.com/blogs/news/figging-101-from-ancient-punishment-to-modern-pleasure https://sextoycollective.com/best-sex-machines/sybian-saddle/

Sara and Jay jump into the first topic discussion of Season 2, how to navigate sex and dysphoria as a trans person! We discuss strategies, validate the struggles, and give some tips from our experience. Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/FM-xOB1SR4ek6UXYWOjcRg Segments: 1:30 - Intro 2:10 - Word of the Show: Gender Dysphoria 20:09 - Dysphoria Tips 45:46 - Patreon Message 47:54 - Exploring Sex As A Trans Person 59:17 - HRT Effects on Sex and Orgasm 1:19:58 - Final Takeaway Tips Show notes: https://everydayfeminism.com/2015/08/not-all-trans-folks-dysphoria/ https://www.teenvogue.com/story/how-to-navigate-gender-dysphoria-during-sex https://www.buzzfeed.com/kaichengthom/the-search-for-trans-womens-orgasms [NSFW] https://crashpadseries.com/ [NSFW] http://troublefilms.com/ http://instar-books10.mybigcommerce.com/nerve-endings-the-new-trans-erotic/

Season 2 kicks off with a question episode catching up on your emails to us over the break! We discuss endometriosis, herpes transmission, identity-based humiliation play, and more! We are so excited to be back in your podcast feed with regular weekly episodes again. Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/p3FKnWmQTyS8jynNBQ_Mvw Segments: 2:35 - Season 2 changes to QSE 6:18 - Endometriosis and Testosterone HRT 20:11 - Identity-based Humiliation Play and Slurs 32:26 - Patreon Message 36:32 - Oral Herpes Transmission and Communicating Boundaries 53:21 - STI Risk with New Tongue Piercing 1:05:53 - Wrap Up 1:09:51 - Bonus! An Anti-Fascist Rant Show notes: [Last Week Tonight, Bias in Medicine] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TATSAHJKRd8 https://www.history.com/news/chamberlain-kahn-act-std-venereal-disease-imprisonment-women https://www.akpress.org/pleasure-activism.html Editors note: I accidentally left the same small clip of audio in the show at the end twice. I don't know how it happened, but I can't redo it without redoing the entire time-coded transcript so I'm leaving it in. I'll try and be more careful in the future.

This week, Jay and Sara spend some time talking about the general changes people can expect when starting testosterone or estrogen, progesterone, and spironolactone as hormone replacement therapy (HRT). Also discussed: muffing, exploring new sensations, and a response to Buck Angel's recent fearmongering about the risks of taking testosterone. Segments: 3:48 - Word of the Show, Muffing 13:13 - Patreon Message 14:46 - Intro to Hormones and HRT 25:21 - Talking with the doctor about HRT and sex 36:26 - Effects of Testosterone 49:17 - Effects of Estrogen 1:01:10 - Effects of Spironolactone 1:10:07 - Effects of Progesterone 1:15:12 - In Response to Buck Angel's Recent Post About Hysterectomy 1:26:12 - Wrap-up and Tease for Next Week Show Links: www.vice.com/en_us/article/59dxw3/a-guide-to-muffing-the-hidden-way-to-finger-trans-women Direct link to buy Fucking Trans Women by Mira Bellwether: https://payhip.com/b/hRtK https://www.wpath.org/publications/soc www.hrc.org/resources/safer-sex-for-trans-bodies www.transhealth.ucsf.edu/trans?page=guidelines-home www.instagram.com/p/Bz57jmKjtTj/ (SERIOUS CW for body gore and bloody images. This is the Buck Angel post Jay is responding to around the 1 hour 15 minute mark. I feel we describe it well enough in the show to make our larger point without needing to see the actual picture, but I know some people will want to see the original thing for context.) Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019/2020 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Jay and Sara answer more questions from you, the listeners! Questions include bondage for disabled folks, lower sex drive on SSRIs, period sex, and Fetlife tips. Also discussed: new HHS regulations that discriminate against LGBTQ people. Segments: 3:07 - Accountability Corner 6:22 - New "Conscience Rule" in Effect Now 18:55 - Future HHS Regulation Proposed to Allow Discrimination 28:34 - Rope Bondage and Disability 38:35 - Lower Sex Drive on SSRI Medication for Depression 55:27 - Patreon Message 57:54 - Period Sex Taboos 1:14:32 - Fetlife Tips and Navigating Kink as a Newbie Show Links: Make a comment and learn more about new HHS guidelines at www.protecttranshealth.org https://www.huffpost.com/entry/and-then-they-came-for-tr_b_9258678 https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/acts-of-faith/wp/2015/03/23/indiana-house-passes-controversial-religious-freedom-bill/ https://www.splcenter.org/hatewatch/2018/05/15/10-things-you-need-know-about-tony-perkins-and-family-research-council http://www.brynntannehill.com/drums-in-the-deep/ https://www.postroehandbook.com/ Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Sara and Jay spend this week's episode discussing the legal and political movement to outlaw abortion in the United States, including the propaganda strategy of CPCs, the history of US abortion law, the current state of abortion rights, and how you can help protect abortion access in your area. Segments: 4:44 - Accountability Corner 8:54 - Word of the Show, Crisis Pregnancy Centers (CPCs) 21:08 - Patreon Message 23:43 - Intro to Abortion Rights 26:20 - Pushing Back on Anti-Abortion Propaganda 35:55 - US History of Abortion (1800-1990s) 47:04 - TRAP Laws After PP v Casey Supreme Court Case 1:06:57 - Current State of US Abortion Rights 1:12:35 - What Can We Do to Protect Abortion Rights? Show Links: https://www.politico.com/magazine/story/2014/05/religious-right-real-origins-107133 https://www.thecut.com/2019/05/how-extreme-abortion-bans-in-alabama-and-georgia-happened.html https://www.marieclaire.com/politics/a27615254/abortion-bans-the-south/ https://qz.com/1620691/alabama-abortion-law-kay-ivey-and-the-white-women-for-trump/ https://www.motherjones.com/politics/2019/05/georgia-alabama-abortion-ban-hollywood-dont-boycott https://rewire.news/article/2019/05/21/the-auntie-network-local-funds/ https://www.thecut.com/2019/05/how-to-help-alabama-6-week-abortion-ban-georgia.html https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/After_Tiller Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

This week Jay and Sara give tips on doing kink play in free and cheap ways! Also discussed: Pervertables, classism in kink spaces, where to find cheap toys, and kinky craft time. Segments: 3:18 - Word of the Show, Pervertables 8:03 - Kinky Craft Time! 14:34 - Our Favorite Pervertables 26:50 - Pervertable Safety Tips 40:29 - Patreon Message 43:27 - Kink Doesn't Need to Be Expensive to Be Good 58:16 - Planning Your Cheap Kinky Play 1:06:12 - Tips for Exploring Kink Alone, With Partners, and With Strangers/Acquaintances Show Links: http://www.asubmissivesjourney.com/bdsm_toy_bag.html https://archive.org/details/ThePrivilegeOfPerversitiesRaceClassAndEducationAmongPolyamoristsAndKinksters Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

This week Sara and Jay are talking about online dating, hooking up, consent communication online, and the culture of dick pics and other boundary crossing online. Also discussed: the male gaze, what app developers could do better, what we can do better as users, and tips for making your online dating focused on consent, communication, and mutually sexy fun. Segments: 5:56 - Word of the Show, Dick Pic 14:55 - How All Men Benefit From Misogyny #yesallmen 22:30 - Why Are Dick Pics So Bad? 31:36 - Patreon Message 35:06 - What We Mean By "The Male Gaze" 43:05 - Apps Designed By Cis White Men & For Cis White Men 58:00 - Using Tools That Weren't Meant For Us 1:10:08 - Better Online Communication Show Links: https://everydayfeminism.com/2016/01/why-men-send-dick-pics/ https://www.nytimes.com/2019/02/13/magazine/women-coding-computer-programming.html https://www.1843magazine.com/features/the-scientists-who-make-apps-addictive Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

This is the culmination of our four-part series on transgender medicine, focused on what a trans liberation future really looks like. What would it mean for all people to live, express, and love free from shame and the threat of violence? How can we work in solidarity with all marginalized people of intersecting identities to build a future of mutual support, honest communication, and unlimited love? Also discussed: A trans research update from Jay's conference including exciting news about HRT, fertility, PReP, and more! Segments: 2:32 - Trans Research Update of the Show! 6:57 - WPATH Changes Are a Mixed Bag 10:28 - HRT Research Updates 20:02 - PReP & HIV Prevention Research 28:16 - HRT and Fertility Study 44:18 - Public Health Updates 58:39 - Patreon Message 1:00:31 - What Would Trans Liberation Really Be? 1:20:15 - Envisioning Revolution Without Centering Violence 1:24:53 - Trans Liberation Isn't "Genderless" It's Genderful 1:33:02 - What Does Full Bodily Autonomy Look Like? 1:37:48 - What Else Would You Be Doing? Show Links: http://transhealth.ucsf.edu/protocols https://www.huffpost.com/entry/opinion-broadnax-afrofuturism-black-panther_n_5a85f1b9e4b004fc31903b95 https://chicagounbound.uchicago.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1052&context=uclf https://www.law.columbia.edu/pt-br/news/2017/06/kimberle-crenshaw-intersectionality Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

This week Jay and Sara dig down into "biological sex" and break down why it's a problem, how it's more complicated than you probably know, and new ways to discuss bodies without binary sex. Also discussed: research impacts of using biological sex, expanding the trans medical model, and how we project gender and sexuality onto animals. Segments: 5:46 - Word of the Show, Biological Sex, Real Sex, or Sex 42:02 - Patreon Message 45:01 - Quick Medical Model Review 48:34 - How Research Focuses on Binary Sex AKA "We Start With Gender to Prove Gender" 1:04:26 - Animals Don't Have Binary Sex or Gender 1:11:40 - How The Medical Model Has Been Helpful Show Links: https://medium.com/@QSE/the-xx-xy-lie-our-social-construction-of-a-sex-and-gender-binary-4eed1e60e615 https://www.queersexed.org/archive/2018/3/3/audio-article-the-xx-and-xy-lie-our-social-construction-of-a-sex-and-gender-binary-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-15 https://www.nature.com/news/sex-redefined-1.16943#/spectrum https://www.newstatesman.com/future-proof/2015/02/sex-isn-t-chromosomes-story-century-misconceptions-about-x-y https://broadly.vice.com/en_us/article/qvyq8p/transgender-non-binary-stock-photos-gender-spectrum-collection Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

This week Sara and Jay begin their series about everything anal! This show covers the basics of butt anatomy, ass play safety tips, and all of the many reasons we enjoy butt stuff. Future episodes will cover more specific activities, answer your butt questions, and dive further into why there is so much stigma built up around butt sex and ass play. Segments: 3:16 - Word of the Show, Lube 29:43 - Patreon Message 33:19 - Basics of Ass Anatomy (Ass-natomy) 48:05 - Ass Play Examples 1:02:23 - Butt-Specific Safety Tips 1:26:48 - What We Like About Anal Sex and Ass Play Show Links: https://www.teenvogue.com/story/anal-sex-what-you-need-to-know https://www.redbubble.com/people/queersexed/works/32887307-buttbase-queer-sex-ed-t-shirt?p=classic-tee https://www.redbubble.com/people/queersexed/works/32890343-buttbase-queer-sex-ed-tote-bag?p=tote-bag&size=large https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j8ZF_R_j0OY https://www.ohjoysextoy.com/buttsex/ http://www.newnownext.com/ive-contracted-my-third-gastrointestinal-parasite-from-rimming-and-i-cant-be-the-only-gay-man-suffering/01/2018/ Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Jay and Sara continue their discussion of trans medicine by focusing on current barriers to care caused by our medical model of trans identity. Also discussed: transmedicalism, solidarity work, and what non-binary transition can look like. Segments: 4:44 - Word of the Show, Transmedicalism 32:09 - Patreon Message 35:12 - Medical Model Recap 39:18 - How does the medical model influence trans medicine? 1:06:37 - Political and social impact of the trans medical model Show Links: http://feministing.com/2016/03/10/my-auntie-buffalo-bill-the-unavoidable-transmisogyny-of-silence-of-the-lambs/ http://bilerico.lgbtqnation.com/2013/03/the_emergence_and_danger_of_the_acceptable_trans_n.php https://everydayfeminism.com/2015/07/not-born-in-the-wrong-body/ https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2015/jul/24/alena-bradford-transgender-south-georgia Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Sara and Jay discuss the recently finalized trans military ban, including how we must address the impact of that on our community and still be abolitionist in our criticism of US imperialism and the military as an institution of violence. We also answer listener questions about staying dominant while you are bottoming, and navigating when one partner needs space when the other has abandonment trauma. Segments: 7:36 - Trans Military Ban 30:30 - Patreon Message 34:30 - Question Intro 41:22 - Question 1, Staying dominant while bottoming 52:30 - Question 2, What to do when one partner needs space and the other struggles with abandonment 1:10:18 - Question 3, Finding a trans-competent therapist for my son Show Links: - www.apnews.com/ae07308b29c342429c3c627b7fc0b404 - www.queertranswarban.wordpress.com - www.polyamoryonpurpose.com/polyamory-drama Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.