Eat the Rules with Summer Innanen

I’m sharing Laura’s story who was one of the incredible women who worked with me during the You, On Fire program. She talks about how she was consumed with body and food thoughts and had been on and off diets for nearly 3 decades. She shares how she learned to accept her body and how that’s unlocked so many great things in her life. You’ll find all the links mentioned in this podcast at summerinnanen.com/296. You, On Fire is the online group coaching program that gives you a step-by-step way of building up self-worth beyond your jean size with personalized coaching from me and lifetime access to the program—so you can break out of the diet culture cage, get free from body shame and live your fiery, free, untamed life. Go here to get all the details and get on the waitlist: summerinnanen.com/youonfirewaitlist Get the shownotes: summerinnanen.com/296 Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap

I’m looking at the influence of perimenopause - the transitional period before menopause - on sexuality and how this intersects with body image. I also talk about how hormonal changes that occur during perimenopause can influence sexual desire, and why understanding our sexual functioning and desire is important when talking about body image, as part of the Body Image Series. Show notes: summerinnanen.com/295 In this episode, I talk about: - How sexual desire and sexual functioning change as we age as a result of hormonal changes as well as aging in general, - The “breaks vs accelerator” framework as it relates to sexual desire, - That it’s not uncommon to have lower sexual desire during perimenopause, - Some of the perimenopause symptoms that can create changes in sexual functioning, - Why perimenopause can cause an increase in pelvic pain, - Some of the results of the studies that have been done of this topic, - Plus so much more! Get the shownotes: summerinnanen.com/295 Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap

I’m talking about the influence of perimenopause – the transitional period before menopause – on body image. I’m looking at what the research says about perimenopause and body image, why our body image is worse during perimenopause compared to menopause, and what we can do to build resiliency and mitigate these effects, as part of the Body Image Series. Show notes: summerinnanen.com/294 In this episode, I talk about: - What influences body image in perimenopause, - How a history of dieting can put you in a more vulnerable position as your body changes with age, - The other stressors that impact body image during this time, - Why this time in life can also be liberating, - The importance of unpacking our beliefs around aging, - The importance of resilience and how to strengthen it, - Plus so much more! Get the shownotes: summerinnanen.com/294 Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap

I’m joined by Lael Atkinson, a certified professional recovery coach who works at the intersection of drinking and dieting. They are talking about the similarities between drinking culture and diet culture and how they have both set us up to steal our time, energy and money. They also talk about how dieting fuels drinking, why we should not compare food addiction to alcohol addiction, and signs that you should visit your relationship with alcohol. Show notes: summerinnanen.com/293 In this episode, we talk about: - The similarities in how dieting and drinking are marketed to us, - That society encourages us to both drink and diet, - How their drinking was intertwined with their body image and their queerness, - The stats on the co-occurrence between eating disorders and substance abuse, - Ways that drinking and dieting are the same, - Advice to someone starting to visit their relationship to alcohol, - Plus so much more! Get the shownotes: summerinnanen.com/293 Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap

In this episode, I’m cohosting with my best buddy Vinny Welsby. Have you ever read the “Am I The Asshole” questions on Reddit? If you don’t know what AITA is: People ask the internet if they were in the right or wrong about a situation that happened in their life. In the second half of this two-part episode, Vinny and I are reading some of these to give our verdict on AITA posts around weight and diets. Show notes: summerinnanen.com/291 In this episode, we talk about: - The cognitive dissonance we see in the responses, - How you can hear the anti-fat attitudes in what people write, - How we would have handled these situations, - How people’s own self-esteem influences how they treat and view the people around them, - Plus so much more! Get the shownotes: summerinnanen.com/291 Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap

In this episode, I’m cohosting with my best buddy Vinny Welsby. Have you ever read the “Am I The Asshole” questions on Reddit? If you don’t know what AITA is: People ask the internet if they were in the right or wrong about a situation that happened in their life. Vinny and I are reading some of these to give our verdict on AITA posts around weight and diets. Show notes: summerinnanen.com/291 In this episode, we talk about: - How much our views differ from the popular public opinion, - That people’s bias can create exaggerations in storytelling, - The incorrect assumption that someone’s ability is related to their size, - How universal the experience of being fat shamed as a kid is and the impact it has on your future body image, - Plus so much more! Get the shownotes: summerinnanen.com/291 Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap

I’m joined by Nia Patterson, author of the newly released “What’s The Story” A Guided Walkthrough of the Stories You Tell Yourself About Your Body. Nia shares their story of recovering from an eating disorder, what helped them in recovery, what body neutrality means when your body isn’t neutral in our culture, how core beliefs influence our body image, the importance of self-affirmation, and why eradicating anti-fat bias helps everyone. Show notes: summerinnanen.com/290 In this episode, we talk about: - Their relationship with their body growing up, - How the way we perceive our bodies as kids is so different, - The hardest parts of being in recovery, - What helped them the most in recovery, - That there’s no one way to define body neutrality, - How if you work to benefit marginalized people, it benefits everyone, - Plus so much more! Get the shownotes: summerinnanen.com/290 Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap

I’m joined by Tiffany Ima, who is also a body image coach. She shares her story of how she developed exercise bulimia and bulimia and what helped her to overcome that. We also talk about why body neutrality isn’t enough for her, how she’s learned to celebrate and embrace her body, and the importance of using self-expression to heal. Show notes: summerinnanen.com/289 In this episode, we talk about: - Her relationship with her body growing up and when her body image took a turn for the worse, - How the diet culture mentality remained even after she was recovered from her eating disorder, - What she called her “personal recovery phase,” - The comment that led her to shift her mindset and find her current path, - How body neutrality helped her initially and why she no longer feels it’s enough, - Why she worked to expand her idea of beauty and define her own beauty standard, - Plus so much more! Get the shownotes: summerinnanen.com/289 Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap

I’m joined by Amapoundcake - we are talking about some of the recent headlines in the news around anti-fatness including the photos of Emily Ratajkowski in the extra large jeans and Oprah’s announcement that she’s been using weight loss drugs. We segue into talking about what to do if you still want to lose weight or if you work with clients who still want to lose weight. Finally, we talk about the re-launch of our Body Image Coach Certification program, including our newest offering the Body Image Coaching Foundations course. Show notes: summerinnanen.com/288 In this episode, we talk about: - Why we think people are wanting to lose weight, - Why we can’t criticize people for wanting to lose weight, - The importance of owning your privileged and the power dynamic when working with clients, - What it means to be “stuck on your privileged” and how it can get in the way, - The importance of grace and empathy, - Who our new offering is for and how it differs, - Plus so much more! Get the shownotes: summerinnanen.com/288 Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap

I’m joined by Janine, who was one of the incredible women who worked with me during the You, On Fire program. She talks about how she struggled with her weight for over 4 decades and even went through two weight loss surgeries to find herself still feeling hatred and shame about her body. She talks about how she had had enough of being in that cycle of weight loss and gain and how she was able to move to a place of acceptance with her body. You’ll find all the links mentioned in this podcast at summerinnanen.com/287. You, On Fire is the online group coaching program that gives you a step-by-step way of building up self-worth beyond your jean size with personalized coaching from me and lifetime access to the program—so you can break out of the diet culture cage, get free from body shame and live your fiery, free, untamed life. Go here to get all the details and get on the waitlist for the upcoming cycle: summerinnanen.com/youonfirewaitlist Get the shownotes: summerinnanen.com/287 Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap

I’m joined by Samantha, who was one of the incredible women who worked with me during the You, On Fire program. She talks about how aging had brought up some old body image concerns and had made her more concerned about what other people are thinking of her. Through our work together she was able to let go of that external validation and be unapologetically herself. You’ll find all the links mentioned in this podcast at summerinnanen.com/286. You, On Fire is the online group coaching program that gives you a step-by-step way of building up self-worth beyond your jean size with personalized coaching from me and lifetime access to the program—so you can break out of the diet culture cage, get free from body shame and live your fiery, free, untamed life. Go here to get all the details and get on the waitlist for the upcoming cycle: summerinnanen.com/youonfirewaitlist Get the shownotes: summerinnanen.com/286 Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap

I’m talking about what to do if you feel triggered by someone in your life who is “watching their weight,” and five things to consider when this happens. Plus, how the weight loss industry is designed to make us question ourselves, as part of the Body Image Series. Show notes: summerinnanen.com/285 In this episode, I talk about: - Why my rage is directed at society, not the other person, - That it’s important to remind yourself how dieting worked out for you in the long run before, - Why weight loss doesn’t actually increase self-worth, - How calling out your assumptions can help put things into perspective, - That dieting is usually not in alignment with our values, - The importance of finding community, - Plus so much more! Get the shownotes: summerinnanen.com/285 Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap

I’m joined by Cole Kazdin, author of the book What’s Eating Us - Women, Food and the epidemic of Body Anxiety. We’re talking about what “recovery” actually looks like and whether being fully recovered even exists. We also talk about the problems with the eating disorder treatment industry and what’s helped her maintain recovery from a decade’s long eating disorder. Show notes: summerinnanen.com/284 In this episode, we talk about: - The lack of research into this epidemic, - The great work being done by grassroots organizations and eating disorder survivors, - That there is not a standard of care in eating disorder recovery, - The lack of an agreed upon clinical definition of recovery and Cole’s personal definition, - How freeing it was to realize that the inner voice is not yours, it’s a voice that echoes systems of oppression, - The commonalities between the eating disorder treatment and weight loss industries, - Plus so much more! Get the shownotes: summerinnanen.com/284 Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap

I’m walking you through different steps you can take to navigate shame you may have about your aging body and the importance of being curious about what you’ve attached to your younger body, as part of the Body Image Series. Show notes: summerinnanen.com/283 In this episode, we talk about: - Where I’m at with my own aging changes, - That many of the principles I use around weight change also apply to aging, - How much more pervasive anti-aging pressure is now, - That it’s normal to experience weight changes as you age, - How we often neglect thinking about aging when doing body image work, - How my 3-phase framework for dealing with weight change applies here as well, - Some of the things you may find yourself mourning as your body changes with age, - That we need to look at what we believe and what’s feeding those beliefs, - The importance of normalizing aging through finding variety in aging role models, - That aging is looked at differently across cultures, - How to reframe this as an opportunity to discover yourself, - That looking for community in different social circles is a critical part of the process, - Plus so much more! Get the shownotes: summerinnanen.com/283 Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap

I’m talking about the similarities between diet culture and anti-aging culture, and the importance of being more discerning of the messages we’re taking in, as part of the Body Image Series. Show notes: summerinnanen.com/282 In this episode, we talk about: - How aging concerns spans generations, - The surprising stats on the growth of the anti-aging industry, - That they both stem from and profit off of oppressive systems, - How anti-aging upholds anti-fatness, sexism, classism, and ableism, - That once you’re invested, you have to keep investing, - A question to ask yourself to bring awareness to where anti-aging is impacting your decisions, - Plus so much more! Get the shownotes: summerinnanen.com/282 Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap

I’m joined by Leah V, author of Unashamed: Musings of a Fat, Black, Muslim. We talk about her incredible story of how she battled an eating disorder, mental illness, and body shame to own who she is unapologetically and become an international plus-size Hijabi model, award-winning author and body-positive activist. We also talk about her thoughts on NYFW and her experiences dating while fat. Show notes: summerinnanen.com/281 In this episode, we talk about: - Her relationship with her body growing up and how it has evolved, - Growing up without any fat role models in pop culture, - How she found herself by breaking free of the expectations of her identities, - How she got into modeling, - The tools she uses to feel confident, - Advice for people who are fat and dating, - Plus so much more! Get the shownotes: summerinnanen.com/281 Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap

I’m walking you through a 3-phase framework to deal with weight change and talking about the importance of processing the feelings that come with weight change, as part of the Body Image Series. Show notes: summerinnanen.com/280 In this episode, I talk about: - How it’s common to go onto investigation and problem-solving mode and the problem with that, - The distress of losing access to things because of body changes, and that our culture is the problem, - The dangers of skipping over processing your feelings and grief, - That self-compassion is integral and it is not the same as positive self-talk, - What it means to see yourself as a whole human, - That acceptance gives you time, energy, and freedom back, - Plus so much more! Get the shownotes: summerinnanen.com/280 Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap

I’m talking about what to do when you fear weight gain. I also explore where this fear comes from and how it holds us back, as part of the Body Image Series. Show notes: summerinnanen.com/279 In this episode, I talk about: - The importance of aiming for unconditional acceptance, - This fear’s root in anti-fat bias and anti-Blackness, - The issue of accessibility and how our culture is the problem, - The importance of unpacking your belief system and challenging it, - 2 game-changing reframes to help you move past this fear, - Plus, 4 things we have to be doing on an ongoing basis to undo this conditioning, - Plus so much more! Get the shownotes: summerinnanen.com/279 Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap

This is the premier of season 9 of the podcast. I’m giving you an update on some changes that are happening, what to expect from this season, and I’m sharing some survey results about what you want more of. Show notes: summerinnanen.com/278 In this episode, I talk about: - An update on some exciting personal changes happening this year and how that will impact this podcast, - Questions I ask myself whenever I’m contemplating big life changes, - Results of the listener survey I did over the summer, - What topics you want more of this year, - The top episodes from last season and where to start if you’re newer here, - Plus so much more! Get the shownotes: summerinnanen.com/278 Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap

I’m talking about when you “intellectually get it” but still feel bad in your body, what this process can look like, and what you can do to move forward and feel better in your body, as part of the Body Image Series. Show notes: summerinnanen.com/277 In this episode, I talk about: - A useful analogy between becoming a parent and starting on the path to a positive body image, - TWO things we can do to feel better in our bodies and why one of them is WAY more powerful than the other, - Where “intellectually getting it” sits within the 4 stages of acceptance and how to bust past that barrier, - Why you have to be intentional about challenging your negative thoughts, - That it’s normal to still have bad body days, - ONE question to visit daily to propel you towards giving less F’s about your body, - Plus so much more! Get the shownotes: summerinnanen.com/277 Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap