The Angry Therapist Podcast

In the final episode of the Red & Green Flags in Dating series, John talks about how important having capacity for yourself and others is in your relationships. He defines what capacity is, gives examples and what it looks like in action, and explains the difference between having a healthy vs an unhealthy amount of capacity in dating and relationships.

In this episode, John does a deep dive on the second C of Red & Green Flags in Dating, communication. John discusses what healthy and unhealthy communication looks like in relationships, and what red flags you should look for that shows someone does not communicate well in the early stages of dating.

In the first episode of a three part series, Red & Green Flags in Dating, John breaks down the three most important C's in dating: connection, communication, and capacity. He defines what connection is, gives examples of what healthy and unhealthy forms of connection are, and discusses red and green flags to look for in connection when you're first dating someone.

In this episode, John talks about how to be open to love after your heart has been broken. He dives into how practicing opening your heart up in your relationships is an exercise you need to practice daily in order to create the opportunity to heal and grow from your break up. He also talks about forgiveness, treating yourself, closure, finding people who understand you, and much more.

In this episode, John reflects on his 51st birthday and shares his revelations and insights about life. He discusses the importance of self-reflection, accepting oneself as a 'B-side', the value of movement and fitness, the power of asking for what you want, the significance of friendships, the importance of finding peace, the process of closure, the cumulative nature of life, and the need to let go of what no longer serves us.

In this episode, John answers a listener's question, and discusses the reasons why people cheat, including emotional disconnection, curiosity, and unhappiness within oneself. He also addresses the issue of ghosting, the fear of having difficult conversations, the importance of exploring patterns in relationships and understanding one's contribution to them, and provides insights on creating a safe space for partners to work through infidelity and rebuilding trust.

In this episode, John explores the different dimensions of intimacy, including emotional, spiritual, mental, passionate, physical, and energy intimacy. He emphasizes the importance of creating a safe space for emotional vulnerability, engaging in meaningful conversations, and practicing empathy and compassion. He also highlights the significance of continuous self-examination and personal growth in building deep, true intimacy, and provides practical suggestions for cultivating a deeper level of love and intimacy in relationships.

In this episode, John brings on Mark Groves to discuss his book 'Liberated Love' and the journey of relationships. Mark shares his personal experience of going through Relationship 1.0 and 2.0 with his partner. They discuss codependency, the importance of self-erasure in relationships, the role of the nervous system in relationships, and the signs of losing oneself in a relationship. They also touch on the considerations in deciding whether to stay or go in a relationship, the hierarchy of ideal relationship structures, the importance of being well-resourced in relationships, the significance of freedom in relationships, and much more. Mark Groves is a Human Connection Specialist, founder of Create the Love, host of the Mark Groves Podcast and co-author of Liberated Love. Mark's work bridges the academic and the human, inviting people to explore the good, the bad, the downright ugly, and the beautiful sides of connection. Preorder Liberated Love here! Mark's Website: createthelove.com + markgroves.com Mark's Podcast: markgrovespodcast.com Mark's Instagram: @createthelove

In this episode, John gives us a list of unhealthy behaviors we mistake for love in dating and our relationships. He talks about why we're attracted to unhealthy behavior, and does a deep dive on how we might exhibit some of these behaviors in current or past relationships without realizing it.

In this episode, John talks about the challenges people face when they stay in a relationship after infidelity. He encourages people who are in this situation to ask themselves a very important question: why are you staying in this relationship? Especially when there hasn't been any growth, or change on the other person's end.

In this episode, John talks to James Rhee about his journey as a Korean American and experiences in leadership. He shares the story of the red helicopter and how it impacted his perspective on kindness. James explains his philosophy of kindness in math, how he designs systems that reward true agency, the importance of joy and finding contentment in everyday moments, the significance of championing Asian-Americans in media, and the positive changes happening in representation. James Rhee is a high school teacher turned private equity investor and CEO. James’ leadership story first grabbed global attention during his unlikely seven-year tenure as Chairman and first-time CEO at fashion retailer Ashley Stewart. After his radical approach fueled a transcendent comeback story for the company, James concretized his leadership philosophy—kindness plus a little math—in the form of red helicopter, his media-education platform. A graduate of Harvard Law School, he is now a Senior Lecturer at Duke Law School and MIT Sloan School of Management and the Johnson Chair of Entrepreneurship at Howard University—the first joint appointment of its kind in history. His TED Talk and Dare to Lead interview with Brené Brown have captured the imagination of millions. He is the author of red helicopter (HarperOne; April 9, 2024).

In this exciting episode, John hosts a panel with the speakers for the upcoming In Bloom: A Love and Relationships Summit. They talk about everything love and relationships including artificial intimacy, sex as a cultural and relational issue, emotional availability, and the practice of interdependence. The conversation also touches on communication in relationships, the challenges of navigating different attachment styles, the importance of understanding and empathy in relationships, rather than labeling and blaming, and much more. In Bloom: A Love and Relationships Summit April 12-14, 2024 Fairmont Waterfront Hotel, Vancouver BC (virtual attendance is also available) Featuring Dr. Gabor Maté, Rae Maté, Logan Ury, Dené Logan, Shaun Galanos, Dr. Jess O'Reilly, Dr. Jody Carrington, John Kim, Vanessa Bennett, Todd Baratz, and Sophie Grégoire Trudeau. Take your relational skills to the next level. Real Love Ready is putting you in the room with your favourite relationship experts—and the most trusted names in love—for a weekend of learning, growth, and community. Use the discount code INBLOOM25 for 25% off in person and virtual. SIGN UP HERE

In this episode, John shares his thoughts on the twenty things every man should have or have done by age forty. He covers a wide range of topics including: finding purpose, developing personal style, maintaining good credit, experiencing heartbreak, expressing love for other men, setting boundaries with parents, saving and investing, practicing forgiveness, experiencing rebirth, and much more.

In this episode, John talks with Keila and Joe about their relationship history, communication issues, and recent conflicts. They also talk about the baggage from past relationships, the challenges of feeling safe and secure, external stressors, different social lives, and the pressure to be everything for each other. They also discuss the impact of living together and the pressure of time and fertility. John ends this episode with a little behind the scenes commentary on the reality of recording the real couples sessions episodes.

In this episode, John talks about how complicated the aftermath of cheating is. He talks about the importance of not taking things personally, forgiveness if you want to repair the relationship, why people cheat, how to heal if you've been cheated on, and more.

In this episode, John reflects on his personal growth journey through social media and the power of documenting one's story. He shares how he found his voice and embodied his potential through podcasting. John also discusses the importance of building a local community and serving others. He explores themes of love, relationships, acceptance, and the need to surrender and let go. He also emphasizes the significance of dreaming and staying curious throughout life.

In this episode, John talks to Annie Undone about monogamous vs non-monogamous relationships. They talks about what non-monogamy is, what is looks like in a romantic relationship, what judgements surround non-monogamy, debunk myths about non-monogamy, how to be in a healthy non-monogamous relationships, and more. Annie is an artist and writer working to normalize diverse relationship styles and varied sexual experiences. She is a queer, kinky, relationship anarchist on a mission to incite individuals to experience personal revolutions. Annie has explored a variety of relationship styles, and is currently continuing her journey of self discovery. She has wide experiential knowledge in non-monogamy, kink, and exploring healthy relationship dynamics. You can learn more about Annie and her services HERE or follow her on Instagram HERE

In this episode, John answers all of Vanity Fair's Proust questions, and does a deep with each answer. He shares vulnerable moments of his life by talking about his childhood, happiness and fears, his current state of mind and struggles, occasional lies he's told, and more.

In this episode, John brings back the hosts of "Guys We Fucked," Corinne Fisher and Christina Hutchinson, to discuss the lasting influence of childhood on adult life, emotional vampires, the necessity of solitude for creativity, and their positive outlook on aging. They delve into how childhood experiences shape self-worth and emotional health, with personal anecdotes about family dynamics. The importance of alone time is emphasized as crucial for meeting creative demands, with each host sharing their strategies for fostering inspiration. The episode concludes on an uplifting note, with the hosts expressing excitement for the wisdom and freedom that come with reaching their 40s and 50s, challenging societal fears around aging. You can find out more about Guys We F*cked HERE

In this emotional episode, John and his retreat members get vulnerable and share their experience attending March's Miserable F*cks Retreat. They dive into why they decided to attend this month's retreat, what fears they have going through with experience with strangers, what feelings were brought up that they had to work through, and much more.