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In this episode of the KindnessCan podcast, the hosts welcome guest Naomi Holdt, a psychologist and well-known author of the parenting book 'Bounce'. They discuss the concept of resilience, its importance in child development and how parents can foster it in their children. Holdt shares the journey of writing her book, her insights into the real-world challenges faced by children, and strategies for parents to strengthen their connection with their children. The conversation also centres on the importance of self-care for parents, effective boundary setting, handling bullying, dealing with children's anxiety, and navigating the complexities of parenting in the digital age. A key takeaway is the emphasis on love, connection, and understanding as crucial elements in fostering a child's resilience. Among other things the trio talk about: • Understanding Resilience • The Role of Parents in Building Resilience • The Importance of Self-Awareness in Parenting • The Impact of Parenting on Children's Self-Esteem • The Value of Boundaries and Connection in Parenting • Dealing with Bullying and Building Confidence • The Role of Parents in Problem-Solving • Maintaining Connection and Love in Parenting • The Importance of Conscious Parenting KindnessCan Website

Step into 2024 with a fresh perspective on tech use! Join Jane Linley-Thomas and psychologist Paul Bushell as they unveil their ‘New Year, new tech habits’ episode. Packed with insights, they share details of a screen-time contract designed for a balanced and mindful family digital lifestyle. If it’s not part of your New Year intentions for and your family, it probably should be. Our handheld devices have become an important part of our daily lives. We work, play, connect and entertain ourselves via our phones. And as much as this can be useful and fun, there can also be a terrible downside. Jane and Paul talk through their New Year intentions to have a better relationship with their hand-held devices. They talk about a contract for you and your family to consider entering into, outlining specific goals and boundaries for using your phones. It’s a practical way to hold yourself and the people around you accountable to healthy screen time. KindnessCan Website

This holiday season, ditch the stress and expectations and focus on what truly matters – meaningful connections with yourself and the people who make your heart sing. In the latest episode of the KindnessCan podcast, Jane Linley-Thomas and psychologist Paul Bushell delve into navigating tricky family dynamics, setting healthy boundaries, and rewriting the script of your holidays to find authentic joy. "You don't have to live by a script written by other people in your life!" says Paul, reminding us that true happiness lies in forging connections on our own terms. Whether you're craving new traditions or feeling pressure to tick all the boxes, Jane and Paul offer honest and practical nuggets of wisdom, sprinkled with plenty of laughter and kindness. They explore themes like: • Setting boundaries for authentic connections • Reconnecting with your genuine self • Navigating expectations and prioritizing real joy • Top tips for staying connected to those who matter most So, step off the holiday hamster wheel and tune in to KindnessCan this episode. Learn how to rewrite the script, embrace your true self, and foster genuine connections that fill your heart with warmth, not overwhelm. KindnessCan Website

It’s report card time! And we all know this can be a stressful time for learners and parents. Jane Linley-Thomas and psychologist Paul Bushell talk through how this can be an amazing moment for connection and growth for families. This starts with making your child feel safe and seen, followed, by a focus on the remarks before the marks. And then a deep dive into what went well and not so well, and ways to set realistic goals for next year. Jane shares how she and her Dad used to fold the report card in half and start with the comments. As always, their insight is real, practical, and fun. It’s about turning something potentially hard, into something healing and hopeful. KindnessCan Website

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Jump into the latest KindnessCan episode with Jane Linley-Thomas and psychologist Paul Bushell as they unpack "The Power of Human Connection." This one's all about the simple stuff—why laughter matters, the beauty of slowing down, and the magic in connecting with each other in our crazy-fast world. Paul emphasises the importance of giving ourselves permission to laugh and play, underlining the underestimated value of these moments. This episode isn't about grand gestures; it's the small, everyday kindness that can change the game. Jane reminds us that changing the world doesn't need a superhero cape—it can start with your next-door neighbour. They spill the beans on their recent trip to Pietermaritzburg for World Homeless Day. Forget serious stuff; they found out how play and connection can be superheroes, too. No capes required. Listen in for a chat that's as real as it gets – with some heartwarming stories that might just change the way you see kindness. KindnessCan Website

In this episode, Jane talks us through her very inspiring and evocative Movember Campaign. For every day in November, the campaign has been highlighting a different KZN person in a photographic portrait and a brave testimony around their mental health. Styled colourfully by Jane’s Rejoyce Collection and photographed by Amy White - the images are playful, personal, and powerful. Answering questions like - “how is your mental health?” - the testimonies highlight some of the very real vulnerabilities of men and people from all walks of life. A stand out theme is the imperative to be kind to every one, because you don’t alway know the journey that they are walking. KindnessCan Website

Join Jane Linley-Thomas and Paul Bushell in a heartfelt discussion about South Africa's incredible victory in the men's Rugby World Cup Final and what it means for South Africa. This unfiltered conversation is filled with enthusiasm, laughter, and love as the two explore the emotions and valuable lessons that come with winning a world championship. Discover how empathetic, kind, and conscious leadership not only secured victory on the rugby field but also holds the potential to transform various aspects of South African life. The Springboks, through their actions, have set an inspiring example that every South African can emulate, becoming true heroes of the South African narrative. As Paul says, "Despite all the challenges we face as a country, we can be champions of the world." KindnessCan Website

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Is “lazy” parenting sometimes better for our children? It's another light, fun, and practical KindnessCan podcast episode. This time Jane and Paul dip into the world of parenting and look at ways that parents can be kinder on their parenting journey. And you might be surprised that being kinder doesn’t always mean saying yes, giving in, or doing all the work for your children. As counter-intuitive as it may sound, having obstacles in our path is an important way to learn how to deal with obstacles, and that we are able to deal with these obstacles. This becomes the basis for our Emotional Intelligence and other useful skill sets that are becoming more and more important in a constantly changing world. KindnessCan Website

Jane and Paul share some of the new and old wisdom that they’ve been collecting over the last two years in a post-pandemic world. Through many eye-to-eye and heart-to-heart conversations with schools, corporates and all of you, Jane and Paul keep hearing how important taking care of the relationship you are having with YOU is to being a kinder version of you. Your cup can’t just be full to help others and be the best version of you, it needs to be overflowing. But are the things that are doing to fill your cup really filling your cup? Or, are they adding to the drain? In this episode, the Kind Duo take a look at how to separate real energizers from the sometimes and the fake energizers that we all for. As always, it’s light, practical and positive! KindnessCan Website

In the first episode of the much-awaited new season of KindnessCan, Jane and Paul take a moment to reflect on life in a post-pandemic world. From hiding out to over-filling our schedules, life has sometimes felt like a pendulum of extremes. We could all benefit from pausing and trying to find the words to describe what we have experienced. Choosing the right words has the potential to help us make sense of the past and move forward in an empowered way. The kind duo are as real, supportive and practical as ever – sharing personal insights, funny moments, and useful affirmations. The new season promises to be fun, light and practical, and you are invited to come as you are and leave inspired and empowered. KindnessCan Website

One of Durban’s brightest and happiest fashion enthusiasts, Jane Linley-Thomas has at long last put together a collection of pre-loved fashion. Inspired by Jane’s grandmother, Joyce – the collection is bright, colourful and eccentric. On the back of a personally tough 2020, the collection is also a celebration of life, kindness, optimism, self-care and connection. This week Jane and Paul talk about Jane’s new fashion collection and shop, The Rejoyce Collection. Website KindnessCan Website

This week Jane and Paul talk about Paul’s new book, #raisingMINDFULkids. KindnessCan co-founder and Durban-based author, Paul Bushell is releasing a new book - #raisingMINDFULkids. A follow-up to his first #raisingkids book, this book is a beautiful and practical toolkit with over 80 activities to introduce mindfulness onto the ‘raising kids journey’. These activities are a great way of connecting, reflecting and learning how to physically and emotionally self-regulate. This seems to be more and more important in a world that is not only constantly changing, but also filled with distractions, instant gratification, unrealistic ideas of happiness and unhealthy role models. Website · Website KindnessCan Website

Two months after the violence and looting that rocked KZN, Jane and Paul catch up with one very special community member who's been instrumental in restoring peace - and hope. Upper Highway resident, Nick Nzama has become a beacon of light for his community. Growing up in the Embo Village, he received a scholarship to Kearsney College. Little did he know then, but he began fostering a deeper understanding of the different parts and groups that made up his greater community. This would allow him to become a bridge during the recent violence, where he was able to get different groups to sit around the table and find ways out of the growing tension and violence. Get a glimpse into some of the behind-the-scenes fears, negotiating and unsung heroes. Outer West Business & Community Initiative Facebook page · Website KindnessCan Website

This week Jane and Paul catch up with Durban-based journalist, Glynis Horning. Glynis and her husband Chris woke up one morning to the devastating discovery of their 25-year old son Spencer dead in his bed. Two years on, Glynis has released her personal account of loss and grief in her book, 'Waterboy' - released ahead of World Suicide Prevention Day on 10 September. In this podcast, Glynis talks through the devastation and agony of losing a child to a suicide. Through her own personal experience and research as a mental health journalist, she offers insights into mental health and suicide prevention. This podcast will touch anyone who has directly or indirectly experienced this ultimate heartbreak. Glynis' wisdom and insights are moving and extraordinary. Get help through SADAG · Website KindnessCan Website

*This week’s podcast is brought to you by Van Wyk Law Incorporated.* Cami B is the founder of Connect with Cami Be Yoga ZA and Yogi Bears ZA. In this podcast, she talks about the importance of connecting with oneself, especially during stressful and busy times. As counter-intuitive as this sometimes feels in a busy world, there is healing and restorative value on slowing the world down for a moment. Jane and Paul learn about how yoga is a tool that we can all add to our emotional coping toolbox. It's also a great skill to be teaching young people. And although yoga for children might be very different for adults, the lessons and value are much the same. Learn more about how you can incorporate stretching, breathing and affirmations into your daily routine. Website KindnessCan Website

This week Jane and Paul get some practical tips and tools for managing fear and unlocking our negative belief systems. They also play with the idea of walking on FIRE! Join them as they chat with Specialised Kinesiologist Kerry Van Huyssteen. Kerry shares some real and accessible tools that we can all use in our everyday life to overcome fear. She even talks us through how someone might prepare to walk over a fire! This especially useful in a time where we all have our own fires that we are walking through. Website · Website KindnessCan Website

It has been a time of global loss and grief. It is often hard to know what to do with these feelings. It can also be very hard to know how to be there for other people. In this episode, Jane and Paul catch up with speaker and author, Bridget McNulty. Bridget has written 'The Grief Handbook' in which she offers personal insights and practical advice that enables people to grieve in their own way. In this episode, we talk through practical ideas for recovering through loss and grief. Website KindnessCan Website

You don't want to miss the latest KindnessCan podcast. Jane and Paul chat with Durban born photographer and videographer, Kierran Allen. They talk through the images he captured last week in Durban, and the conflicting feelings and moments he witnessed on the ground. Website KindnessCan Website