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Married sexuality has its challenges, internal and external, and it can be tempting to quit having sex or step outside the marriage, but there are ways to address some of the issues and overcome them as a couple. Christian sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma joins Juli to talk about: How to manage mismatched libidos Why foreplay matters What to do if you experience symptoms of Erectile Dysfunction Why sex is important in marriage How to re-enter holy sexuality and eroticism after abstaining without it becoming sin Guest: Dr. Michael Sytsma Website: Building Intimate Marriages Instagram: @buildingintimatemarriages Explore more resources on Sex in Marriage Sign up for Second Cup! Learn more about becoming a member. Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

What do your attractions say about you? Do they say anything about you? Is attraction always about sex, or are there more layers to it than we tend to think? Hannah Nitz joins Juli for a conversation all about attraction and desire. Co-host: Hannah Nitz Hannah’s Website: hannahnitz.com Hannah’s Instagram: @hannahnitz Blog: 3 Subconscious Beliefs You May Hold About Living With Same-Sex Attraction Partner with AI! Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

For most marriages, the most challenging years are the earliest ones. Marital problems can come in any number of forms, but sometimes the most difficult to navigate are those you don’t see coming. Few know this better than Chris and Stephanie Teague, the duo behind Out of the Dust, who experienced divorce suddenly after only three and a half years of marriage. The couple join Juli to discuss exactly what happened before their marriage fell apart, and what God did in both of them to put it back together. Guests: Out of the Dust (Chris and Stephanie Teague) Website: outofthedustmusic.com Instagram: @outofthedustmusic Check out the new album from Out of the Dust, releasing April 26th! Q&A: Where do I begin healing? Explore more resources on healing Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Gender dysphoria is becoming more and more common, and parents with kids who are struggling are at a loss at what to do. Should they affirm their kids? Should they approve hormone blockers? In this week’s episode of Java with Juli, Juli is joined by Dr. Miriam Grossman, a child psychiatrist and author who has testified before congress about some of the hidden dangers behind transgender activism. Guest: Dr. Miriam Grossman, MD Book: "Lost in Trans Nation: A Child Psychiatrist's Guide Out of the Madness" by Miriam Grossman M.D. Book: “You’re Teaching my Child What?!” by Miriam Grossman M.D. Java with Juli: #507 What You Need To Know About The Gender Conversation Java with Juli: #508 What Does Healthy Masculinity Actually Look Like? Check out more resources about sex and culture! Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

While many of us are familiar with the concept of abuse, we are typically familiar with the conventional stereotypes around abuse. We typically picture a younger, weaker party who is taken advantage of by a dominant person. It’s rare we picture a friend, mentor or someone we trust harming us. Unfortunately this is what happened to Tricia Lott Williford. In the same 72-hour span in which she experienced the sudden and unexpected death of her husband, she experienced sexual assault from someone she considered a friend and a mentor. Tricia and her therapist, Jana Richardson, join Juli to talk about how to recognize, fight, and recover from abuse in all its forms. Guests: Tricia Lott Williford and Jana Richardson Website: tricialottwilliford.com Instagram: @tricialottwilliford Book: You Are Safe Now by Tricia Lott Williford and Jana Richardson, MA, LPC, EMDR Book: And Life Comes Back by Tricia Lott Williford Find more resources on healing and collect your free resource here. Java with Juli: #497 Trying to Heal? Here’s Why Knowing Your Story is Essential Blog: How Do I Know If I’m in an Abusive Relationship? Blog: As Christians, How Do We Respond to Abuse Allegations in the Church? If you're a member, we’ll be discussing this episode in more depth and taking your questions, live, during Second Cup tomorrow, April 9. Members, sign up for Second Cup here! If you're not a member you can learn more here. Learn more about the Authentic Intimacy member community Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Is laughter important? Why did God give us the ability to laugh? Laughter might not be top of mind when it comes to how we live as Christians or how we live in relationship with others, but laughter is a gift God has given to us, and there are many reasons why. This week, comedian, author and Pastor Ted Cunningham is Juli’s guest, and he explains the health and relational benefits of laughing much and laughing often. Guest: Ted Cunningham Website: Woodland Hills Church Book: A Love That Laughs by Ted Cunningham Blog: Your Marriage Should Be Fun Partner with Authentic Intimacy Join the Love Like You Mean it Cruise in 2025! Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Accidental influencer and author of “Forever Home”, Anh Lin, shares her story of journeying through trauma and brokenness to a place of healing. You’ll hear Anh talk about: Her unlikely encounter with Jesus How she medicated her pain and grief with partying and alcohol Experiencing rock bottom, even after finding Jesus Guest: Anh Lin Anh’s website: girlandtheword.com Anh’s Instagram: @girlandtheword Book: “Forever Home: Moving Beyond Brokenness to Build a Strong and Beautiful Life” by Anh Lin Blog: How Do I Know If I’m in an Abusive Relationship? Blog: Don’t Waste the Pain Sign up for Second Cup on April 9th! Learn more about the Authentic Intimacy member community This is the last episode you’ll be able to listen to on your Google Podcasts App. If you usually listen to Google Podcasts, don’t worry, our episodes are still available on YouTube and Spotify, or if you’re an iPhone user, you can find us on Apple Podcasts as well. Make sure to subscribe to us on Apple Podcasts, on YouTube, or on Spotify. Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness

David and Terri Sumlin are the founders of Marriage Life Ministries, a ministry that helps couples improve their marriages through a focus on communication, conflict and intimacy. Years ago, when their own marriage was on the brink of divorce and rocked by a 3-month affair, this ministry was exactly what they needed. Join Juli, David and Terri, as the couple talk about how God’s intervention saved and restored their marriage. Guests: David and Terri Sumlin David and Terri’s Website: marriagelifeministries.com/ David and Terri’s Instagram: @marriagelifeministries Blog: Forgiveness is Hard, Grace is Harder Find out more about becoming an Authentic Intimacy member! Google Podcasts is closing at the end of March. Make sure you’re subscribed to Java with Juli on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or YouTube. Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

What can we learn from close examination of the lives of the men we read about in scripture? These were real people,who the Bible reveals had their own very human struggles, battling insecurity, pride, deception, and lust. This week’s podcast guest, Chase Replogle, is a pastor at Bent Oak Church in Missouri, and is the author of “The Five Masculine Instincts". The book covers the lessons we can learn from male Biblical figures like Samson, Moses, and Cain. This is a great episode that discusses some common motivators for men (and women), and offers guidance on how to address inner motivations that push us further from God’s heart and calling on our lives. Guest: Chase Replogle Website: chasereplogle.com/ Instagram: @thepastorwriter Find out more about becoming an Authentic Intimacy member! Google Podcasts is closing at the end of March. Make sure you’re subscribed to Java with Juli on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or YouTube. Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Is there a theological approach or framework to understanding gender? Is there scriptural support for the messages we receive about gender from movies, books, and institutions? And what does it mean for us to live as ‘lights on a hill’ within a culture that continually evolves in its discussions about gender and sexual issues? Join John and Sarah Stonestreet from the Colson Center as they join Juli in exploring some of the underlying beliefs surrounding sexuality in our culture, and talk about how we can embrace and pursue the good and beautiful narrative found in scripture. Guests: John and Sarah Stonestreet Website: The Colson Center Website: identityproject.tv/ Instagram: @thecolsoncenter Google Podcasts is closing at the end of March. Make sure you’re subscribed to Java with Juli on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or YouTube. Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Ed and Lisa Young, founding pastors of Fellowship Church, join Juli for an honest and faith-filled conversation about their journey through grief. The couple’s oldest daughter, Lee-Beth, passed away a little over two years ago after an ongoing battle with poor mental health and alcohol abuse, and in this powerful interview, they share about the unexpected comfort and hope they discovered as they wrestled with their pain, loss and sorrow and held their faith in tandem. Guests: Ed and Lisa Young Website: Fellowship Church Book: A Path Through Pain by Ed and Lisa Young Blog: How To Heal And Grow: Four Surprising Pathways To Christ-Likeness Blog: God’s Healing Stinks Sign up for Second Cup Become a Member Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

For too long, many Christians have heard and believed the misconception that living in God’s freedom and redemption means they’ll never struggle with sin or temptation. This is one of the things the Bible is pretty clear on. The heroes of the faith like Paul, David, Moses, and Abraham loved and new God and still lived imperfectly. Maybe it’s time for us to recognize that being saved doesn’t mean we’ll never sin again, but that it means we’re on a journey of loving Jesus, pursuing Him, falling short and returning to Him. This week’s podcast guest, Lina Abujamra, knows this well. She joins Juli to talk about what it looks like to spend a lifetime struggling with lust and sexual temptation, and still choose Jesus. Guest: Lina Abujamra Book: Don't Tell Anyone You're Reading This by Lina Abujamra Website: livingwithpower.org/ Q&A: What Is the Difference Between Sexual Integrity and Purity? Book: God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery Workbook: God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery Become a member! Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

What does it look like to let God reclaim sex in your marriage…when sex is painful? Or when it feels like an obligation? Or when your spouse wants to engage in BDSM? In this special Live Q&A episode from Reclaim 2022, Juli is joined by Dr. Jennifer Degler and Dr. Michael Sytsma as they provide biblical, practical answers to questions on sex that some of us are too afraid to ask. Guests: Dr. Jennifer Degler and Dr. Michael Sytsma Jennifer’s Website: jenniferdegler.com/ Mike’s Website: intimatemarriage.org/ Website: (American Board of Certified Sex Therapists) abcst.org Website: mycounselor.online Website: (International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health) isswsh.org Blog: 3 Reasons Why “Faking It” is Making Your Bad Sex Life Even Worse Register for Reclaim! Become a Member Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

It’s one thing to hear someone say secrets and sexual addiction are destructive to a marriage and a family, it’s another thing entirely to experience it. Phil and Priscilla Fretwell understand this more than most. One afternoon, while her husband was at work, Priscilla got a call from the video store enquiring for an overdue video. Shocked and confused, she called her husband to ask him about it. His only response was: ‘I’m coming home’. Many years, tears and miracles later, Phil and Priscilla have seen God move in their hearts and in their marriage in ways they could never have imagined. Guests: Phil and Priscilla Fretwell Instagram: @savagemarriageministries Website: savagemarriageministries.com Podcast: The Savage Marriage Podcast Book: Savage Marriage: Triumph over Betrayal and Sexual Addiction Java with Juli: #482 Trying to Overcome a Sexual Addiction? Here’s Why You Can’t Do It Alone Blog: 5 Healthy Ways to Respond to Your Husband’s Porn Problem Sign up for Second Cup! Become an Authentic Intimacy Member! Register for Reclaim 2.0! Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Pregnancy has its ups and downs, but where the rubber hits the road for most is postpartum. If you’re a woman who has had a baby or you’re a man married to one, you understand that there are fairly common challenges specifically around postpartum sex. There’s a lot to navigate—changing bodies, new responsibilities, challenging hormones, it’s no wonder women struggle to figure out how they feel about sex and couples are hard pressed to find a new sexual rhythm. In this much-needed and highly requested podcast episode, Juli is joined by pelvic floor therapist Heather Marra, and Dr. Jennifer Degler as they explain why sex is so different postpartum, and what wives and their husbands can do about it. Guests: Dr. Jennifer Degler, and Heather Marra, PT, MPT Jennifer’s website: jenniferdegler.com/ Heather’s website: onesimplestep.today/ Jennifer’s Instagram: @drjenniferdegler Heather’s Instagram: @onesimplesteptoday Sign up for Reclaim 2.0! Blog: What If I Hate Sex? Java with Juli: #484 Duty Sex, Feeling Objectified, and Other Reasons Women Don’t Enjoy Sex in Marriage Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

How do we move from a faith that is shallow and superficial to one that is rooted in relationship? What does it take to take a prayer life that feels like a duty and make it into one of delight? Author, teacher, and poet Jackie Hill Perry joins Juli to talk about the inspiration behind her latest book, “Upon Waking”, and why God isn’t looking at the amount of time we spend with Him so much as He’s looking at the condition of our hearts. Guest: Jackie Hill Perry Website: jackiehillperry.com Instagram: @jackiehillperry Book: Upon Waking by Jackie Hill Perry YouTube: With the Perrys Register for Reclaim 2.0 Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

We’ve all heard it said many times that marriage can be tough. But it’s possible we don’t discuss enough how good, sweet, and awesome marriage can be! Scott Kedersha, marriage pastor and author, joins Juli to share some of the things he’s learned in almost two decades of marriage ministry. In this episode, Juli and Scott discuss: How couples should handle sexual history and ongoing issues What qualities to look for in a potential spouse When to call off an engagement The role of prayer and spirituality in the dating relationship Whether you’re married, engaged, dating or single, this is an eye-opening episode guaranteed to help you navigate your intimate relationships with Godly wisdom and intention. Guest: Scott Kedersha Website: scottkedersha.com Book: Ready or Knot: 12 Conversations Every Couple Needs to Have Before Marriage by Scott Kedersha Book: The Ready or Knot Prayer Guide: 100 Prayers for Dating and Engaged Couples by Scott Kedersha Java with Juli: #494 Purity Culture, Men and Sexual Entitlement Blog: 4 Lies the Movies Told Us About Sex and The Truths You Need to Know Are you ready to claim your 1-year membership? Click here to visit the website and enter your code. Free membership code: Java500 Discount membership code: JJ10 Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery - Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness

If you caught someone in sin, how would you respond to them? Tim Ross was 18 years old when his mother caught him watching porn. Her response was to ask one question: “What are you doing?” and then to turn, walk away, and pray. 30 years later that night remains seared in Tim’s memory as the night grace, mercy and truth reached in and pulled him out of darkness and into light. Tim tells Juli: What finally prompted him to share what he had been through How a faith-filled response led him to more vulnerability What he did to overcome his addiction to porn, and Why honesty and vulnerability are so necessary for our healing Guest: Tim Ross Tim’s Website: upsettheworld.com/ Tim’s Podcast: The Basement Register for Reclaim 2.0

What’s getting in the way of you becoming more like Christ? Could it be that while your knowledge of God is good, you haven’t embraced how He has designed you on your journey to become more like Him? Author and consultant Michel Hendricks is the first guest of 2024 for Java with Juli. He shares what he has observed from his years working as a Pastor of Spiritual Formation, and what he has learned from adopting a more right-brained approach to discipleship and formation. His advice may surprise you. Guest: Michel Hendricks Book: The Other Half of Church by Michel Hendricks and Jim Wilder Website: Life Model Works Sign up for an Online Book Study

When was the last time you took time to reflect on your story? As you reflect on the year you’ve had, why not take some time to think more about your past and do some healing work? Cathy Loerzel, co-founder of The Allender Center and co-author of “Redeeming Heartache” joins Juli to talk about why sharing and hearing our stories helps us heal from past trauma and is crucial for cultivating emotional and spiritual maturity. Guest: Cathy Loerzel Website: cathyloerzel.com Cathy’s Instagram: @cathy.loerzel Book: Redeeming Heartache: How Past Suffering Reveals Our True Calling by Cathy Loerzel and Dr. Dan Allender Java with Juli: #479 More Than Just Behavior: Why Your Struggles With Sexual Sin Run Deeper Than You Think Donate