Seeing Other People

To celebrate the release of her new novel, “This Summer Will Be Different,” my favorite author Carley Fortune joins the podcast today! Carley and I chat about what we’ve learned about love and relationships from the characters and love stories in her three novels. We discuss how her childhood experiences shaped the characters and settings in her books, how female friendships play a major role in relationships, and if “right person, wrong time” holds true. Carley tells us her transformation from award winning journalist to NYT best selling author, and we hear how she met her husband and how he’s supported her through various life changes. Disrupt your anxious spirals with Presently Mindfulness Bracelets. Head to https://presentlybracelets.com/discount/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use the code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE for 10% off your order. Say goodbye to your anxiety and say hello to relaxation with Sunset Lake CBD. Head to https://sunsetlakecbd.com/coupon/sop and use code SOP for 20% off your order. Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Fast and powerful relief is just a quick trip away. Find Claritin D at the pharmacy counter. Ask for Claritin-D at your local pharmacy counter. You don’t even need a prescription! Go to claritin.com right now for a discount so you can Live Claritin Clear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by a woman who opens up about how her nine-year relationship with her high school boyfriend that was filled with infidelity and emotional abuse finally came to an end. She shares how she held onto the idea of what the person she wanted him to be vs the person he was, along with how she became stronger because of what she went through. We discuss dating after a breakup of this magnitude, what she learned from working with a life coach, and what she's looking for now. Plus, we chat about how we're all guilty of accepting less than we deserve and that you're never alone no matter how isolated you feel in what you're going through. Say goodbye to your anxiety and say hello to relaxation with Sunset Lake CBD. Head to https://sunsetlakecbd.com/coupon/sop and use code SOP for 20% off your order. Get 10% off a beautiful and impactful mindfulness bracelet at presentlybracelets.com promo code seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Fast and powerful relief is just a quick trip away. Find Claritin D at the pharmacy counter. Ask for Claritin-D at your local pharmacy counter. You don’t even need a prescription! Go to claritin.com right now for a discount so you can Live Claritin Clear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by Jennifer Teplin, LCSW and founder of Manhattan Wellness, joins the show to talk about how we can own that your 20s might not be the best time of your life, and that’s okay. We discuss the idea of who we thought we would be vs who we are, how to embrace where we’re at, and why you should never compare yourself to anyone else’s timeline or life milestones. We chat about the pressure to find, “the one,” and answer listener questions about managing anxiety in the early stages of dating and relationships. Check out @Manhattan.wellness on Instagram and learn more at https://manhattanwellness.org/ Disrupt your anxious spirals with Presently Mindfulness Bracelets. Head to https://presentlybracelets.com/discount/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use the code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE for 10% off your order. Say goodbye to your anxiety and say hello to relaxation with Sunset Lake CBD. Head to https://sunsetlakecbd.com/coupon/sop and use code SOP for 20% off your order. Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Fast and powerful relief is just a quick trip away. Find Claritin D at the pharmacy counter. Ask for Claritin-D at your local pharmacy counter. You don’t even need a prescription! Go to claritin.com right now for a discount so you can Live Claritin Clear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by a 25-year-old listener who is wise beyond her years. She shares the various ways her dating mindset has changed over the past year (which she documents in a note on her phone). I don’t want to spoil them, but if you listen to one thing this week, let it be this episode! Disrupt your anxious spirals with Presently Mindfulness Bracelets. Head to https://presentlybracelets.com/discount/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use the code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE for 10% off your order. Say goodbye to your anxiety and say hello to relaxation with Sunset Lake CBD. Head to https://sunsetlakecbd.com/coupon/sop and use code SOP for 20% off your order. Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Fast and powerful relief is just a quick trip away. Find Claritin D at the pharmacy counter. Ask for Claritin-D at your local pharmacy counter. You don’t even need a prescription! Go to claritin.com right now for a discount so you can Live Claritin Clear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kayla Kleinman, book lover, introvert, and realistic wellness content creator joins the SOP family today. Kayla and I chat about learning to be unapologetically yourself, the difference between being alone and being lonely, and how to differentiate your feelings vs. your anxiety. We chat living alone, enjoying your own company, saying no to plans you don’t want to do, and embracing the weird things you’re obsessed with. Kayla opens up about her experience in couples therapy and how it allowed her and her partner to successfully work through challenges they faced together. Finally, Kayla shares what she’s learned about love from books and what books are most representative of modern dating and relationships. Disrupt your anxious spirals with Presently Mindfulness Bracelets. Head to https://presentlybracelets.com/discount/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use the code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE for 10% off your order. Say goodbye to your anxiety and say hello to relaxation with Sunset Lake CBD. Head to https://sunsetlakecbd.com/coupon/sop and use code SOP for 20% off your order. Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Fast and powerful relief is just a quick trip away. Find Claritin D at the pharmacy counter. Ask for Claritin-D at your local pharmacy counter. You don’t even need a prescription! Go to claritin.com right now for a discount so you can Live Claritin Clear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My friend Emily joins the podcast today to open up about taking a leap of faith and moving across the country. She shares the mindset that she had that allowed her to meet other people, say yes to everything, and create the life she wanted for herself. We discuss dating in NY vs LA, comparing yourself to your younger siblings, and making new friends in your 30s. Finally, Emily tells us what went into her decision to freeze her eggs and how she feels now that she went through the process. Disrupt your anxious spirals with Presently Mindfulness Bracelets. Head to https://presentlybracelets.com/discount/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use the code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE for 10% off your order. Say goodbye to your anxiety and say hello to relaxation with Sunset Lake CBD. Head to https://sunsetlakecbd.com/coupon/sop and use code SOP for 20% off your order. Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Fast and powerful relief is just a quick trip away. Find Claritin D at the pharmacy counter. Ask for Claritin-D at your local pharmacy counter. You don’t even need a prescription! Go to claritin.com right now for a discount so you can Live Claritin Clear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by Carleigh Ferrante, writer and host of the dating and wellness podcast Mostly Balanced. Carleigh and I chat about how she went from being avoidant and fiercely independent to manifesting her now-boyfriend of over a year. We discuss how she maintained her independence in her relationship, why it’s important to look within when considering what you’re looking for, and how you can set yourself up for dating success. We answer listener questions about the ick, saving friendships, and making the first move. Follow @mostlybalancedpodcast on Instagram and check out the podcast on Spotify! Disrupt your anxious spirals with Presently Mindfulness Bracelets. Head to https://presentlybracelets.com/discount/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use the code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE for 10% off your order. Say goodbye to your anxiety and say hello to relaxation with Sunset Lake CBD. Head to https://sunsetlakecbd.com/coupon/sop and use code SOP for 20% off your order. Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Fast and powerful relief is just a quick trip away. Find Claritin D at the pharmacy counter. Ask for Claritin-D at your local pharmacy counter. You don’t even need a prescription! Go to claritin.com right now for a discount so you can Live Claritin Clear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this Unfiltered, I’m joined by a woman who opens up about the year long relationship she was in where her boyfriend was unable to love her due to trauma from past relationships. She shares how he continuously told her he wanted to get there, how she remained patient, and how it became an elephant in the room and often prevented her from expressing her love. We hear what finally led her to break things off with him, and how she’s working to move forward knowing that she’s worthy of love. Disrupt your anxious spirals with Presently Mindfulness Bracelets. Head to https://presentlybracelets.com/discount/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use the code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE for 10% off your order. Say goodbye to your anxiety and say hello to relaxation with Sunset Lake CBD. Head to https://sunsetlakecbd.com/coupon/sop and use code SOP for 20% off your order. Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Fast and powerful relief is just a quick trip away. Find Claritin D at the pharmacy counter. Ask for Claritin-D at your local pharmacy counter. You don’t even need a prescription! Go to claritin.com right now for a discount so you can Live Claritin Clear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My oldest brother Andrew interviews me about my journey with Seeing Other People over the last few years. I open up about the imposter syndrome I've faced, my biggest challenges with my role, and what I fear people finding out about me. We discuss how I decided what parts of my life to reveal on the podcast, how I've grown from it over the years, and what the most rewarding parts of my job are. Andrew shares what the cringiest part of his sister hosting a podcast is, what it's been like seeing me build my brand, and what it feels like watching his younger sister find love and get married. Say goodbye to your anxiety and say hello to relaxation with Sunset Lake CBD. Head to https://sunsetlakecbd.com/coupon/sop and use code SOP for 20% off your order. Disrupt your anxious spirals with Presently Mindfulness Bracelets. Head to https://presentlybracelets.com/discount/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use the code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE for 10% off your order. Say goodbye to your anxiety and say hello to relaxation with Sunset Lake CBD. Head to https://sunsetlakecbd.com/coupon/sop and use code SOP for 20% off your order. Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Fast and powerful relief is just a quick trip away. Find Claritin D at the pharmacy counter. Ask for Claritin-D at your local pharmacy counter. You don’t even need a prescription! Go to claritin.com right now for a discount so you can Live Claritin Clear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ava Nouri, RD and host of the Loving Wellness podcast, joins us to discuss how to approach dating and relationships in a more loving and intentional way. Ava shares how relationships should be a vehicle for self-discovery and how we can stay in gratitude in our relationships and not take our partner for granted. We hear how Ava and her partner successfully survived their years of being in a long-distance relationship, and she opens up about how she’s maintained her independence in her relationship. Learn more and get in touch with Ava at https://www.avanouriwellness.com/ Disrupt your anxious spirals with Presently Mindfulness Bracelets. Head to https://presentlybracelets.com/discount/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use the code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE for 10% off your order. Say goodbye to your anxiety and say hello to relaxation with Sunset Lake CBD. Head to https://sunsetlakecbd.com/coupon/sop and use code SOP for 20% off your order. Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Fast and powerful relief is just a quick trip away. Find Claritin D at the pharmacy counter. Ask for Claritin-D at your local pharmacy counter. You don’t even need a prescription! Go to claritin.com right now for a discount so you can Live Claritin Clear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Minaa B, LCSW and author of Owning Our Struggles joins the show to share her expertise on healing and embracing our past experiences. We hear how everyone has something they can heal from and the accessible ways anyone can begin their healing journey. Minaa explains how we often contribute to our own suffering in dating by over romanticizing, and she breaks down how the stories we create in our minds are more rewarding than reality, which leads to more pain when something doesn’t work out. Follow @minaa_b on Instagram, learn more at minaab.com, and get a copy of Owning Our Struggles wherever books are sold. Say goodbye to your anxiety and say hello to relaxation with Sunset Lake CBD. Head to https://sunsetlakecbd.com/coupon/sop and use code SOP for 20% off your order. Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nearly 8 months after coming on the podcast to commiserate about being in a dating drought, Erica Shea is back on to share how she found her person and has built a happy and healthy relationship. Erica shares what changed for her in her dating life and mindset leading up to meeting him, their romcom-worthy meet-cute, and how going slow allowed her to feel more secure. She shares how they both knew it was right, and we hear what it’s been like introducing each other to their families and planning to move in together soon. Unlock Jennifer-Anniston-Approved hair at Lolavie.com and get 15% off with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at checkout Find your new uniform at Jenni Kayne with promo code SOP for 15% off jennikayne.com Get 50% off Factor’s delicious, ready-to-eat meals with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE50 at factormeals.com/seeingotherpeople50 Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by Brianna McCabe, author of "The Red Flags I Repeatedly Ignored" to discuss why it's so important to consider our role in the things that happen to us. We chat about how our self-worth, friendships, and alcohol consumption all relate to the dating and relationship experiences we have, and why it's incredibly important to look within at our personal red flags. We discuss behaviors we've exhibited in the past that we're horrified about now, why the answers are always right there in front of us, and why college drinking and hookup culture has gotten out of hand. Get "The Red Flags I Repeatedly Ignored" on Amazon! Unlock Jennifer-Anniston-Approved hair at Lolavie.com and get 15% off with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at checkout Find your new uniform at Jenni Kayne with promo code SOP for 15% off jennikayne.com Get 50% off Factor’s delicious, ready-to-eat meals with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE50 at factormeals.com/seeingotherpeople50 Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by my childhood friend Jordan who made a sudden move from New York to Amsterdam, four years ago. Jordan shares why she took the risk to move to a new country, how her family and friends reacted to the news, and what it was like picking up and starting a new life in a new place. Jordan opens up about how she approached making friends, establishing roots, dating, and feeling comfortable and at home in a foreign country. We hear how she met her now longterm boyfriend and what her fears were surrounding meeting someone abroad and how that would impact her future. Jordan gives us incredible advice for taking chances, making the most of life, and not having any regrets. Unlock Jennifer-Anniston-Approved hair at Lolavie.com and get 15% off with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at checkout Find your new uniform at Jenni Kayne with promo code SOP for 15% off jennikayne.com Get 50% off Factor’s delicious, ready-to-eat meals with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE50 at factormeals.com/seeingotherpeople50 Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Emma Wilson, Life Coach and host of the Turning 30 Podcast, joins the show today! Emma and I discuss how to navigate feeling like you’re falling behind. We about the pressure we’ve felt at different phases of our lives to have it all figured out and get to that next stage, and why it’s so much better to wait for the right person rather than saying yes to one you don’t feel sure about. Emma opens up about breaking off a four-year long relationship at the age of 33 and how instead of setting her back, it set her free. Unlock Jennifer-Anniston-Approved hair at Lolavie.com and get 15% off with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at checkout Find your new uniform at Jenni Kayne with promo code SOP for 15% off jennikayne.com Get 50% off Factor’s delicious, ready-to-eat meals with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE50 at factormeals.com/seeingotherpeople50 Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

TW: This episode may be triggering to those with sensitivities around eating disorders and body image. My friend Elana Rubin joins the show today to open up about how her struggle with disordered eating and body image has impacted her self-confidence, relationships, and dating life. She shares how a conversation with a boy when she was fourteen changed the way she viewed herself and had a lasting impact on her self-worth. Elana vulnerably discusses how she's worked through her struggles, what she's learned in therapy, and where she's at now. Check out Elana's horror comedy short film Scalped and follow along on Instagram @scalpedmovie Unlock Jennifer-Anniston-Approved hair at Lolavie.com and get 15% off with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at checkout Find your new uniform at Jenni Kayne with promo code SOP for 15% off jennikayne.com Get 50% off Factor’s delicious, ready-to-eat meals with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE50 at factormeals.com/seeingotherpeople50 Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by celebrity fitness trainer, Daniel McKenna, AKA The Irish Yank, to hear about how becoming mentally and physically stronger can transform your confidence and change your dating life. We discuss why fitness has the ability to get someone through a difficult time, and how to get yourself to go to the gym if you’re intimidated. Daniel shares what he’s observed from his female clients when it comes to their dating lives. We hear what he wishes women understood about men and what he sees women struggling with in dating. We debate whether couples who work out together, stay together, and how we can rewrite a healthier narrative for ourselves surrounding going to the gym and working out. Follow Daniel @theirish_yank, learn more at irishyank.com, and download Daniel’s incredible at home workout app at irishyank.app Unlock Jennifer-Anniston-Approved hair at Lolavie.com and get 15% off with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at checkout Find your new uniform at Jenni Kayne with promo code SOP for 15% off jennikayne.com Get 50% off Factor’s delicious, ready-to-eat meals with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE50 at factormeals.com/seeingotherpeople50 Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week's Unfiltered episode, I’m joined by Mitchell, a 26-year from Minnesota who shares his experience starting a situation off casual, but later having it turn to more. We discuss how "box theory" doesn't account for how dynamic we are as individuals and how our feelings are constantly evolving. Mitchell opens up about learning from each dating experience and relationship he's had, and how he holds himself accountable for not making the same mistake twice. Finally, we discuss the pros and cons of dating as an introvert. Unlock Jennifer-Anniston-Approved hair at Lolavie.com and get 15% off with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at checkout Find your new uniform at Jenni Kayne with promo code SOP for 15% off jennikayne.com Get 50% off Factor’s delicious, ready-to-eat meals with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE50 at factormeals.com/seeingotherpeople50 Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Remi Stern, life coach, and her husband Jonathan are cohosts of the "You're Allowed to Hate Your Hubsand" podcast. Remi and Jonathan join the show to talk about what they were looking for when they met each other, the expectations vs. realities of marriage, and how they view marriage as a dedication vs. "work." Jonathan shares how he thinks women can approach dating in a better way, and we discuss how we can shift our mindsets to have less pain and more success in our dating lives and relationships. Unlock Jennifer-Anniston-Approved hair at Lolavie.com and get 15% off with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at checkout Find your new uniform at Jenni Kayne with promo code SOP for 15% off jennikayne.com Get 50% off Factor’s delicious, ready-to-eat meals with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE50 at factormeals.com/seeingotherpeople50 Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by Jacob, a 28 year old in NYC who opens up about going from a tumultuous, long distance, on again off again relationship to now being one year into a healthy relationship with someone he met on Hinge. We hear what his frustrations were when navigating the apps for the first time, what stood out about his now-girlfriend's profile, and how they stayed in touch when she went away for a few weeks after their first date. He shares how guys vs girls in his life approach dating when it comes to texting and overthinking. Finally, Jacob and I answer listener questions about exclusivity, photos of exes on Instagram, and more. Unlock Jennifer-Anniston-Approved hair at Lolavie.com and get 15% off with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at checkout Find your new uniform at Jenni Kayne with promo code SOP for 15% off jennikayne.com Get 50% off Factor’s delicious, ready-to-eat meals with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE50 at factormeals.com/seeingotherpeople50 Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices