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Do you remember your dating years and how awesome it was to make out? It was such a rush! The often drawn out experience really allowed for so many emotions and sensations to build up in our bodies. We often enjoyed it so much that we usually looked forward to next time, and were even craving it. When we were dating, make out sessions seemed to last much longer than they do once you get married. When sex is introduced into the relationship, couples seem to just rush to the pleasure part of orgasm. This leaves behind the magic of making out and leaves foreplay forgotten. Listen in as we take a closer look at the way in which slowing things down can actually lower sexual inhibitions, increase blood flow, and allow women to feel more flooded with desire for more. The fabulous effects of foreplay need to be at the forefront of our sexual experiences. FREE Discovery Session at www.shellie.andersoncoaching.com

Book your FREE Discovery Session at www.shellie.andersoncoaching.com today! Have you ever thought of inducing and intimacy in the same sentence? I hadn't either, until recently, when I heard a song on the radio that really caught my attention. The male singer talked about birthing lyrics and inducing songs. Interesting concept coming from a man who cannot physically birth babies. Listen in on today's episode, where we will take some awesome notes from these intriguing lyrics and apply them to intimacy. These insights can really help a husband and wife when they are operating from very different arousal styles. Learn how the 4 steps of "inducing" labor can totally be applied to "inducing" intimacy!

Book a FREE Discovery Session at www.shellie.andersoncoaching.com. Have you ever thought that your sex life is an illusion? While dating life was fun and spontaneous, married life and the sexual aspect of it seems to be a lot different than what you thought it would be. This is where our lovely expectations come face to face with reality. Things have changed and shifted, and we may end up feeling like we were being played all along and that we are now just being used. But sex in marriage doesn't have to feel this way. Listen in on today's episode as we take a closer look at where we are "seeing" things incorrectly, which creates a false illusion, that we then respond to. Learn three simple tips that help get couples out of the trap of this illusion and to help your vision of intimacy become a reality.

Book your FREE Discovery Session at www.shellie.andersoncoaching.com Have you ever thought that married sex turned out to be a scam? If so, you are not alone. Husbands feel scammed when the quantity of sex is not as high as they had hoped for. Wives feel scammed when the quality of sex is not as high as they had hoped for. Both spouses feel scammed for different reasons. This will leave each spouse attempting to solve the problem with approaches that will meet their own needs, but not both spouse's needs. So, what do we do? Listen in on today's episode where we discover how a simple shift can help us evolve with the evolution of sex and marriage for today's world.

Sign up for a FREE Discovery Session at shellie.andersoncoaching.com. Have you ever wondered why men seem to enjoy and want sex so much more than their wife? While many might assume that its simply because their testosterone levels are higher, it's not the only reason. The arousing shenanigans of procreation actually requires the man to have "pleasure in the process" in order for it to be successful; it's mandatory. But this is not the same for women. The sweet spot of their most pleasurable nerve endings doesn't automatically line up the same way, and is located in a totally separate place. So, on the one hand, its completely possible that women are having ZERO pleasure during sex while still successful with the reproductive process. They consistently experience "success without pleasure." But on the other hand, its completely impossible for men to be successful without pleasure! For them, sex requires pleasure, consistently. So, what do we do about this? Listen in on today's episode as we dive into some insightful definitions that shed a little light on what has been missing, then make a decision to start using The Intimacy Trek, and sign up for a FREE Discovery Session with Shellie

Book your FREE Discover Session today at www.shellie.andersoncoaching.com Have you ever wondered what approach a husband takes when he is feeling in the mood for sex? Often, there is no strategic approach at all. And even more often, the approaches they do try often fall short. Listen in on today's episode where we look closer at a not-so-obvious trap about rhetoric that seems to be at the root of the many faulty approaches and quick fix attempts. Discover 3 tips for having a better discussion about sex that benefits BOTH the husband and the wife.

Have you ever considered that there could be some awesome intimacy insights that could be gained during this unique time of the solar eclipse? If you haven't, maybe this could be your invitation to do just that. Listen in as we discuss some of the obvious occurrences that happen in nature during an eclipse and how it can relate to intimacy. During this time of transformation, when the sun is obscured by the moon, can act as a signal for our own internal transformation... as we allow the superficial ways of approaching intimacy to gain the corona (higher way of thinking) approach, with 5 eclipsing ideas.

Do you want to try something fun with intimacy this week? Then this is the episode for you. And while many women end up on the short end of the stick when it comes to how much pleasure they are experiencing with intimacy, there is so much potential that has yet to be discovered. Listen in on today's episode where we explore the ratio of potential pleasure that is possible for couples and how to advocate for it. With the fun and adventure of searching for Easter eggs as a guide, you can create your own sexy hunt with a brand new challenge hidden inside the eggs. Spring into this fun and easy activity to improve intimacy this week.

Did you know that there are a lot of married women who don't put the words sex and fun in the same sentence? If you are a married woman reading this, it might seem like common knowledge. But a married man reading this might be feeling like a freight train just hit him. He may even wonder, how can sex NOT be fun? In today's episode, we take a closer look at this concept and the meta-message that takes root when a spouse thinks that sex is not fun. While it may seem like an impossible task to overcome, when one spouse thinks sex is fun and the other doesn't, there is a beautiful opportunity hidden within this opposition. Listen in as we challenge this opposition and use it as an invitation, inviting newness and creativity to the table as well as a movement closer to one another instead of further apart. Sentences are seeds for our intimate experience... so let's plant some fun sexy seeds!

Have you ever felt like, just when things were going well and headed towards a romantic night of intimacy, things got sabotaged? I'm guessing it's happened to most of us, even if we didn't mean for it to happen... and the sexiness gets derailed. And sometimes, we can even get off track for days, or even weeks, at a time when this takes place. But what would happen if the next time, we were able to get back on track much faster? That would be amazing. Listen in on today's episode where we discuss a faster system to ignite female arousal, the way that advocating and activating it makes a difference, and how knowing this system is valuable for BOTH husband and wife. Bring it on, and let's get turned on, faster.

Have you ever had some deep introspective thoughts about sex and intimacy while you were eating a salad? If not, you are not alone. I hadn't either, until recently. As I looked down at all of the ingredients in my salad, the cucumbers really caught my attention. Why? I realized that I normally don't like cucumbers on their own. I find them boring. I don't crave them and I'm never upset when I don't have them around. But when they are mixed in with the other ingredients, I absolutely love them! Listen in on today's episode where we challenge ourselves to add other ingredients into our intimate experience so that it will be more fun, enjoyable and satisfying... and maybe even something we crave.

Have you ever heard the word entropy before? Have you ever applied the concept to the intimacy in your marriage? While most of us probably have a general idea of what entropy is, we may never have thought of it when it comes to sex with our spouse. On today's episode, we dive into this topic just a little bit deeper to see how entropy will take its toll on our relationship if we don't make a decision to do something about it on purpose. If you have ever thought, "I haven't really done anything different, but things seem to be getting a little worse," then you are probably falling into the cycle of entropy. Listen in to find out just how easy it can be to get out of the entropy trap and to experience intimacy on a much more enjoyable level.

Have you ever wanted to seek help to improve intimacy, only to be held back by some fears? This is very common, and is sadly that thing that keeps us stuck and keeps us from feeling closer to our spouse faster. Listen in on today's episode where we dive into the top 5 fears that prevent improvement in the challenging topic of intimacy. These are the fears that my clients wish they would have addressed sooner... before things got so bad that they were just feeling desperate and even considering divorce.

Have you ever wondered what contributes to having the best sex ever? While we might think it comes when we fulfill a checklist of sorts, it might come as a surprise that it can happen under even the most challenging and unexpected circumstances. Listen in as we take a closer look at some of the surprising elements that led to such an experience. It was not planned in advance and it did not involve any elaborate or large romantic gestures. But it did come through the process of two adults actually facing some hard challenges in their life. Don't miss out on what you could be putting into your life to create more opportunities for the best sex ever!

Do you know what the most researched topic is when it comes to Valentine's Day? It might not be what you think it is. With all that is going on in the world today, people seem to be wanting to get back to their roots, and are wondering what love really is. Listen in as we remind ourselves with love really is, the things that might sabotage it during Valentine's Day, and what we can do to feel the love even more. Don't limit love, but instead, put more into your week on purpose with the following 5 tips!

Have you ever felt like you were longing for a little bit more from you intimate experience? If so, you are not alone. In a world of instant gratification, it should come as no surprise when we sometimes feel like something is lacking that may require just a little more of our time. Listen in on today's episode where we explore how sexy it is to slow the intimate experience down, include the senses, and involve the brain as well as the body. Heightening the journey to pleasure can be a total turn on for women and can help to increase the level of fulfillment experienced.

Did you know that there is a National Spouse's Day? Don't worry, I didn't know either, until very recently. But how cool is that? This is not the same as Valentine's Day. Since most people don't even know about it, there aren't any expectations to plan elaborate romantic dates or buy expensive gifts. It's just a day to celebrate your spouse. You can choose to celebrate any amazing aspect about them. We get to tap into our creativity and celebrate any way we want. Listen in on today's episode as we share some quick and easy ways to include this fun and unique holiday into our lives. And you never know, adding some fun and spontaneous celebrations might be just the thing that our relationship needs to get the sparks ignited again.

Have you ever wondered why so many wives don't seem to have as strong of a desire for sex as their husband? While a huge difference in their natural and normal hormone levels does exist, there is often a different kind of connection that is missing. It's interesting to note that while husbands and wives are pretty much having the same amount of sex with each other, the husbands are experiencing much more pleasure than their wife... leading them to want to have more of it. Sadly, their wife is having a less than pleasurable experience, leading her to want to have less of it. But it doesn't need to be that way. Listen in on today's episode where we dive deep into the connection between the pleasure we are having during sex, how it creates the desire for more of it, and how a missing chemical reaction in the brain could easily be at the heart of it all!

Have you ever felt like certain parts of you were being ignored by your spouse while other parts were getting all the attention? It's fairly common to have thoughts like this from time to time and it can easily lead to us feeling a bit down in the dumps. Listen in as we dive just a little bit deeper into what it actually means to be ignored and what we can do when we feel we need more attention than we're getting. The options available to us on how we can respond are pretty simple and easy to implement. And to make things even better, we will also take a closer look at what it means to be ignited about something... even certain aspects about ourselves. Being ignited is a much more fun experience and certainly a much more empowering approach to our relationships.

Have you ever found yourself feeling used by your spouse? It's not a fun feeling. For a lot of women, they often feel like they are being used by their husband for sex. And for many husbands, they feel like they are being used for their money. But what if that is not actually the case? Sadly, we can easily think these kinds of negative thoughts and make assumptions and interpretations about our spouse that just aren't true. This just leaves us feeling miserable. Listen in on today's episode where we take a closer look at what the world tells us to do when we are faced with a situation like this, and then we will explore a more effective coach-approach. Let's go!