Perfectionism Rewired with CLG

If you've ever felt trapped in a cycle of I should be past this and using your intellectual smarts as evil tools to hammer yourself with, this episode is for you. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family or breaking generational cycles of Self-Criticism, Perfectionism Optimized private 1-1 coaching is how you expand your confidence, make your choices aligned with your values and *finally feel* as amazing as your life looks. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Sneaky Peek at What You'll Learn In This Episode:

Fighting against yourself IS playing life on torture mode AND entirely OPTIONAL. Most solutions for overcoming perfectionism suck. They're not empowering, efficient or any FUN, plus research shows Overcoming Perfectionism simply *doesn’t work*when you are driven, ambitious, caring, high-performer. That’s WHY I’m revealing how you can take your frustrating perfectionistic tendencies—like catastrophizing, people-pleasing and overthinking— and remix them with refreshingly practical perspectives from our neurodiversity neighbor, ADHD. Want to feel as incredible on the inside as your life looks on the outside? Then you gotta check out Perfectionism Optimized, the only 1-1 private coaching backed by SCIENCE for driven, ambitious, Type-A high performers with perfectionistic tendencies. Inquire today over at: https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Perfectionism Rewired podcast is brought to you by America's leader on rewiring perfectionism, Courtney Love Gavin (CLG) and is committed to neuroscience truth + accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens. WTF does Perfectionist Affirming mean? Perfectionist affirming is an empowered view where perfectionistic tendencies are not seen as deficits to be “fixed” - no victims, powerlessness or fighting against. Instead your perfectionism is leveraged to work for you. Part of neurodiversity movement that sees humans as uniquely wired individuals who all experience the world differently. Truth + Accuracy In Episode 220 Is Brought To You By: Curran, T., & Hill, A. P. (2019). Perfectionism is increasing over time: A meta-analysis of birth cohort differences from 1989 to 2016. Psychological Bulletin, 145(4), 410–429. https://doi.org/10.1037/bul0000138 Daniilidou, A. (2023). Understanding the relationship between the multidimensional perfectionism and self-compassion in adults: The effect of age. Europe’s Journal of Psychology, 19(4), 371–386. https://doi.org/10.5964/ejop.11981 Otsuka T. (2023). ADHD For Smart Ass Women (1st ed.). William Morrow

Feel like Perfectionism is controlling you? That you’re at the mercy of your perfectionist tendencies? Or that life would be easier if you weren’t such a perfectionist? Perfectionism is not a choice. But you can choose how you want to navigate through it, and that choice is powerful. Discover how the greats Dolly Parton, Serena Williams, Kobe Bryant, Sara Blakely, Marie Kondo have leveraged their perfectionism to shine. Through scientific research and personal experiences, you'll discover step-by-step how it's possible to rewire your perfectionistic habits from the inside out, just like CLG did. Rewire the right way (not the hype way) inside Perfectionism Optimized, the only 1-1 private coaching backed by SCIENCE + exclusively designed for driven, ambitious + type-A high achievers with perfectionistic tendencies who want to feel as incredible on the inside as their life looks on the outside. Melt your stress away starting today over at: https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized TIMESTAMPS: 00:00-Understanding Learned Helplessness Embedded In Perfectionism Recovery 01:28-Challenging Lies About Perfectionists with Science 02:16-Celebrating Famous Perfectionists Behind World-Changing Innovation 03:55-WTF Are Enduring Identity Markers + Why Do They Matter? 05:12-Unlearning Learned Helplessness with Dr. Martin Seligman (Godfather of Positive Psychology) 06:11-The Problem With Blaming Perfectionism 07:03-Flipping Helplessness to Empowerment 08:46-Rediscovering Being In Charge and Response-ability 10:12-Helplessness + Feeling Out of Control Re: Childhood Conditioning 11:58-Reframing Perfectionism as an Empowerment Journey 13:20-How To Quit Fighting Against Your Perfectionism + Work WITH It 15:05-What incest + perfectionism recovery have in common 16:40-Getting Your Perfectionism Right 17:25-Quality Questions To Snuff Out Helplessness Truth + Accuracy In Episode 219 Is Brought To You By: Abramson, L. Y., Seligman, M. E., & Teasdale, J. D. (1978). Learned helplessness in humans: Critique and reformulation. Journal of Abnormal Psychology, 87(1), 49–74. https://doi.org/10.1037/0021-843X.87.1.49 Quchani, M. (2023). The mediating role of coping styles in the association between perfectionism and learned helplessness in students’ population. Annales Médico-Psychologiques, 181(7), 619–627. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.amp.2022.07.010 Woodfin, V., Binder, P. E., & Molde, H. (2020). The Psychometric Properties of the Frost Multidimensional Perfectionism Scale–Brief. Frontiers in Psychology, 11, 1860.

Got resentment? Uncover where resentment is hiding in your home responsibilities and the No. 1 mistake you're probably making when it comes to communicating your frustration (this takes you out of black and white thinking). Plus the ONE TOOL that makes you 90% less resentful towards your partner + makes 100% sense as to why you feel like it's all on your shoulders. This TOOL is like having the power to show upcoming storms in your relationship, dissolve them ahead of time and avoid saying mean things you feel guilty about later – for both you + partner! Upgrade from resentment to reconnection inside Perfectionism Optimized, the only 1-1 private coaching backed by SCIENCE + exclusively designed for driven, ambitious + type-A high achievers with perfectionistic tendencies who want to feel as incredible on the inside as their life looks on the outside. Melt your stress away starting today over at: https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized 🎁➡️ 🎉 Rewire the Resentment in Your Relationship with this Top-Tier TOOL I created for private clients. Yours to enjoy as a gift for my bday https://bit.ly/perfectionism-rewired-tool Truth + Accuracy In Episode 218 Is Brought To You By: Annals of Behavioral Medicine58https://doi.org/10.1093/abm/kaad058https://doi.org/10.1177/0192513X211055119Journal of Health and Social Behavior/Journal of Health & Social Behavior63https://doi.org/10.1177/00221465221075311

Building Resilience IRL Intimate, all access behind-the-scenes look of how I get my anxious, overthinking Type-A high performance perfectionistic brain to calm TF down *when Anxiety strikes*. Previously only available on the Private Client Podcast, sharing with you in celebration of my birthday AND to show you there IS a MUCH better way to deal with your perfectionism. Where you're in charge, confident and connected to YOUR values. If you want to get out of your own way and be more present, this is the episode for you! On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Build confidence, courage and conviction in yourself while you playfully take charge and get out of your own way, with Perfectionism Optimized private 1-1 coaching exclusively for driven, Type-A, high achieving perfectionists who are committed to excellence. Get your stress-free start, today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Listen to the full episode to hear: Truth and Accuracy In This Episode Is Brought To You By: BMC Psychiatry14https://doi.org/10.1186/1471-244x-14-98Frontiers in Psychology9https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2018.00798Physics of Life Reviews.

Discover the extraordinary scientifically proven benefits of rewiring your perfectionism with special guest and former #recovering perfectionist, CEO Dylan. Plus the hidden costs of unchecked perfectionism and how it's sucking the life out of you (literally). Ready to leverage your perfectionism in WAY YOU LOVE WITHOUT all the victimy #recoveringperfectionist, be less ambitious BS you've been told all your life? Enter Perfectionism Optimized, the ONLY high-integrity private coaching program for perfectionists that empowers neurodiverse, high-achieving and Type A individuals to quit fighting against their perfectionism forever using proven neuroscience so that you can *FINALLY* feel as amazing as your life looks and embody the powerhouse you’re designed to be. Get your stress free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Listen to the Full episode to Hear: TIMESTAMPS Ep. 216: 00:00-The Perfectionist's Dilemma: Chasing Satisfaction 01:55-Meet Dylan: Seeing Problems Everywhere 03:37-Overworking To Distract From Self-Criticism 06:19-Interoceptive Awareness Shifts Anxious to Excited 08:04-IRL Rewired Perfectionist Success: Dylan's Journey Continues 09:47-Why Achievements Feel Empty and How to Change That 10:12-Science of Feeling Good: Dopamine and Serotonin Explained 11:55-Building Emotional Agility and Resilience 15:24-How Rewired Perfectionism Enhances Mental Focus + Confidence 17:59-Courageously Running Towards vs Fearfully Running Away 21:53-Dropping contempt and judgment that blocks change Truth + Accuracy In This Episode Is Brought To You By: https://hbr.org/2013/03/do-you-play-to-win-or-to-not-loseEducational Psychology ReviewPersonality and Social Psychology Bulletinhttps://doi.org/10.1177/0146167210387614Personality and Individual Differences111https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2017.01.041

For driven perfectionists self-sabotage often appears as status quo success and our unfulfilling choices are applauded. Bc these self-sabotaging perfectionistic patterns go undetected, you’re off chasing an illusion of control, achieving under pressure with an overcrowded schedule, snipping at your spouse, thinking I'll be happy when..." only to find the goalposts keep moving. Discover precisely how to recognize your own self-defeating perfectionism patterns, exactly what's driving your self-sabotaging behaviors and the perfectionist's guide to stop self-sabotage.. If you're committed to intentionally moving beyond autopilot and Perfectionism Optimized high-integrity private coaching is for you! Sumptuous, science-backed solutions designed specifically for tenacious Type-A perfectionists. Get your stress free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Truth + Accuracy In This Episode Is Brought To You By: https://hbr.org/2013/03/do-you-play-to-win-or-to-not-loseEducational Psychology ReviewPersonality and Social Psychology Bulletinhttps://doi.org/10.1177/0146167210387614Personality and Individual Differences111https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2017.01.041

What if your self critic is actually a caring signal from your unconscious, warning you of danger ahead + to get off this path? Your self critic is not the enemy; it's an alarm bell from your body. But it's near impossible to listen to it with all the NOISE + stigma surrounding criticism, self-love and self-compassion. Discover the health consequences of self-criticism and lessons from pro-athlete perfectionist who finally figured it out. This is the third episode in the self-criticism trilogy. I'm inviting you into the one place that can make your self critic a thing of the past— all you gotta do is take the first step. Go for it today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Ep. 214 Timestamps 02:04-The Iceberg of Self-Criticism 03:27-Why Traditional Self Critic Approaches Fail Perfectionists 04:37-Lessons From Pro-Athlete Perfectionism Optimized Client 07:07-Link Between Cancer + Inner Critic 08:02-From Criticism to Critical Condition IRL 09:11-Making the Choice to Change Truth + Accuracy In This Episode Is Brought To You By: Personality and Individual Differences124https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2017.12.004Mindfulness13https://doi.org/10.1007/s12671-022-01897-5Journal of Affective Disorders301https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jad.2022.01.014

The massive opportunity-costs you are blind to every time you self criticize, how habitual self-criticism creates insidious patterns of self-sabotage and 3 simple steps to be high-quality in all areas of your life WITHOUT self-criticism. This is the second episode of the trilogy on self-criticism iceberg. Ready to liberate yourself from perfectionism prison? If you want to know how to work WITH YOUR brilliant perfectionistic brain, feel as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside and live unapologetically true to who you be + what you value Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 coaching is for you! Here's where you start https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Is your Self-Criticism only getting worse? Overthinking a million ways you suck your mind's go-to? If your self-criticism cycles JUST won't quit, it's not bc you need more self-compassion, self-love or a less tragic childhood. It's simply bc you're focusing on the wrong problem and by misidentifying your problem, you're missing out on all the super simple solutions. That silliness ends NOW. Discover the 8 undercover forces driving your self-criticism cycles AND exactly how to solve each one. If you're DONE with self-criticism holding you back + want to remember what playfully proud of yourself feels like and gain lifetime skills that make you stronger, happier, braver, calmer + more resilient Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 coaching is for you! Sumptuous, science-backed solutions designed specifically for YOUR perfectionistic tendencies. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Ep. 212 Timestamps 00:00-Identifying WHY You Self-Criticize 02:46-The ROOT of Self-Critical Pattern No. 1 05:10-How ADHD Feeds Off Self-Criticism 07:20-Why Am I So Hard On Myself? SOLVED 09:55-When Your Career Demands Your Self Critic 11:45-Solutions That Actually Work for Overly Critical Achievers 13:25-Criticizing Yourself to Create Change 16:45-Hyper Critical Power Dynamics 18:33-How To Stop Beating Yourself Up Truth + Accuracy In This Episode Is Brought To You By: Personality and Individual Differences124https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2017.12.004Mindfulness13https://doi.org/10.1007/s12671-022-01897-5Journal of Affective Disorders301https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jad.2022.01.014

How raising your standards solves the perfectionistic tendencies that've been holding you back. Hear from Perfectionism Optimized client Brian who was exhausted from being everything to everyone while pulled in a million directions and how making this ONE swap immediately created a cascade of less stress, more presence and legit enjoyment in his dynamic life. Whether it's spending quality time with your family, stop dreading the guilt you’ll feel on vacation or dealing with the pressures of being excellent at everything, this episode gives you a step-by-step guide on the inner workings of perfectionist brains and how to easily structure your days around what's most meaningful to YOU. Why lower your standards when raising them upgrades your entire life? If you're committed to being stronger, happier, braver + more resilient and want the only tools designed specifically for driven overachievers to feel as amazing as their life looks Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 coaching is for you! Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Listen to the full episode to learn: Ep. 211 Timestamps 00:00-Raising standards for perfectionists = upgrades relationships + focus 02:29-Brian's Story: Client Case Study on Changing Life Dynamics 04:16-The True Meaning of Raising Your Standards 06:15-What Raising Your Standards as a Perfectionist Is Like IRL 09:00-The EPIC Framework™ Empowered Presence and Interoceptive Connection 11:09-Action Steps to Identify + Attune Your Own Standards 13:45-Trying to Control vs Being in Charge 15:17-Constantly battling your own unrealistic expectations?

Exactly how you can end the never good enough cycle right now, for real + for-ever. Plus WHY what you've tried before didn't work + why this will work FOR you. PERIOD. Why settle for good enough when you could be empowered? If you want the only tools designed specifically for perfectionists to move beyond never enough, skills that make you stronger, happier, braver, more resilient and want in-depth personalized support rewiring your perfectionistic tendencies, Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 coaching is for you! Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Ep. 210 Timestamps 00:00-Never Good Enough No Matter How Hard You Try 01:19-Am I Good Enough 03:30-Moving Beyond Inadequacy Fallacy 05:12-When is enough is enough 06:07-No Wonder You Feel Not Good Enough 07:11-The Game Is Rigged So You Feel Inadequate 08:20-How Affirmations Erode Self-Trust 09:52-Playing a Better Game: Empowered Perfectionism 10:55-How to Be Present + Relaxed in a Purpose Driven Life Truth + Accuracy In This Episode Is Brought To You By: Europe’s Journal of Psychology19https://doi.org/10.5964/ejop.11981Current Psychology41https://doi.org/10.1007/s12144-020-00613-7Portfolio Penguin.

The MOST productive + positive way to quit people-pleasing, ruminating, catastrophizing, overthinking, second guessing yourself, constantly seeking reassurance, answering work emails on vacation, over-apologizing. The real reason WHY you haven’t been able to stop despite knowing harmful side effects. Awesome acronym to identity your own perfectionistic landmines + step-by-step how to get relief that elevates you instead of keeps you stuck spinning out. You don't have to white knuckle your perfectionism. And if you feel like you are, I invite you to come coach with me 1-on-1 inside Perfectionism Optimized, where you'll learn how to take charge of your perfectionistic tendencies, which means you'll finally feel as awesome as your life looks and stop trying to control everyone in your orbit. Get your stress-free start today at courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Fear of failure holding you back? Can't stop obsessing over what you should've done better? I'm telling you exactly how to stop being judgmental, drop the fear of failure and always know if you're doing a good job with a way that's more useful, feels better + helps you progress wayyyy faster Listen to liberate yo self from the cycle of fear and self-consciousness. If you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient and want in-depth personalized support rewiring your perfectionism, Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 coaching is for you! Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Listen to the full episode to learn: Ep. 208 Timestamps 00:00-How Judgment Holds Perfectionists Back 02:20-Fear of Failure + Its Dangerous Consequences 03:51-Why Am I So Hard On Myself 05:26-Being Judgmental is a Protection Mechanism 06:33-What Lies Beneath Your Judgment 07:30-From Judging Yourself to Joyful Winning 09:27-Exactly how to drop judgmental 12:22-Trading Contempt for Curiosity + Experimentation 14:42-How To 13x Building Your Resilience 15:53-Rewiring Your Perfectionistic Patterns From The Inside Out Truth + Accuracy In This Episode Is Brought To You By: Europe’s Journal of Psychology19https://doi.org/10.5964/ejop.11981Cognitive, Affective, & Behavioral Neuroscience23https://doi.org/10.3758/s13415-022-01033-9Journal of Clinical Psychology77https://doi.org/10.1002/jclp.23187

Uncover how perfectionism impacts your intimate relationships and the No. 1 mistake you're probably making when it comes to resentment, Plus the ONE SKILL that makes you 90% less overwhelmed? It's like having the power to predict and avoid emotional meltdowns – for yourself! Ready to rewire? Upgrade resentment for resilience inside Perfectionism Optimized, the only 1-1 private coaching exclusively made for for driven perfectionists + type-A high achievers with perfectionistic tendencies who want to quit fighting against themselves forever. Melt your stress away starting today over at: https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Referenced In the Episode: https://perfectionismrewired.com/episode/lighten-your-load-caring-deeply-without-taking-on-too-muchhttps://perfectionismrewired.com/episode/will-save-your-sanity-might-just-change-your-life

Hurry, it’s your last chance to rewire your perfectionistic patterns in an accelerated 6 weeks with just you + CLG inside the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator Be sure to apply NOW or forever hold your peace! Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator 1.0 is closing + retiring forever on Friday February 16, 2024. Tp get in on this spaceship before it blasts off, go to courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator today.

Are you a high achiever who secretly struggles when things don't go according to plan? A setback occurs and it feels like your world is falling apart? SAME. In this episode, I'm candidly sharing my recent stumbles and how I moved forward without blame, making myself small or beating my self to a pulp. You'll learn what NOT to do when things go awry, how to melt away the ruminating and catasrophizing and what to do with all those feelings inside (it's not AT ALL what you think). If you're ready to experience the amazingness that comes with being an empowered perfectionist and want proven, science-backed tools to PLAYFULLY INTERRUPT the perfectionistic habits currently cramping your prolificness, you belong inside the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator Listen to the Full Episode To Learn: Referenced In the Episode: https://perfectionismrewired.com/episode/will-save-your-sanity-might-just-change-your-life Ep. 206 TimeStamps 00:00-When Everything Goes Wrong Despite Your Best Efforts 02:02-Understanding Why Your Inner Critic Calls 03:20-Accepting Life As A Human = Embracing Adaptability Over Rigid Planning 04:39-Ruminating + Futility of Dwelling on Your Past 05:32-Power of Living in the Present 06:47-The Doritos Analogy: Choosing Better Responses 07:39-Debunking the Cause-and-Effect Fallacy 08:29-Taking Responsibility for Your Choices 09:11-How to Handle Emotions Constructively 10:06-Staying Present to Rise Above Challenges 11:17-Overcoming the Self-Criticism Trap 12:56-Embracing Mistakes and Perfectionist Humanity

Break free from stressy ruminating + overthinking TODAY with this simple method that allows you to slow your mental chatter's roll. Listen as I walk you step-by-step how you can get an accurate read of what's happening inside your head + clear up your perspective so that you can finally feel calm-ish. If you're ready to change and want proven, science-backed tools to PLAYFULLY INTERRUPT the perfectionistic habits currently cramping your prolificness, you gotta check out the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator Listen to the Full Episode To Hear:

You're used to being the go-to person, who's always happy to help and yet..why is it so freaking hard for you to ask for support? Discover how perfectionism isn't an excuse, it's an explanation and how to advocate for yourself on this empowering episode. If you want to have the capacity, courage & certainty to seek support and leverage it, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for high-achievers with perfectionistic tendencies Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator Listen to the Full Episode To Hear: Resources Mentioned In This Episode: Meeting Yourself Where You Are Not wheere you think you should beHolding Two Truths At The Same Time EP.204 TIMESTAMPS: 00:00-Perfectionism as Self-Advocacy 01:22-The Awkwardness of Seeking Support 02:08-Learning to Meet Yourself Where You're At 04:33-Identifying Areas You'd Secretly Love Some Support 06:17-Finding Your Path to Rewire Your Perfectionism

Are you tired of white-knuckling it? Ready to move beyond relentless people-pleasing and pretending to be calm? Discover the real reason you're not overcoming perfectionism (it has nothing to do with how hard you’re trying) and how to stop settling for a life of miserable meh as a recovering perfectionist. Perfectionism Leveraged client Whitney courageously shares her story of being tightly wound mom of 3 young girls, addicted to control, teetering on burnout in a prison yard of her own making and magnificently frustrated. Hear how she found the willingness to experiment, let go of control and rewired to become a powerhouse, present parent who's daughters are SO proud of their mom. If you want to make sure crippling perfectionism NEVER CONTROLS YOU AGAIN and want proven, science-backed tools to PLAYFULLY INTERRUPT the perfectionistic habits currently holding you hostage, you gotta check out the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator fast-track. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator Listen to the Full Episode To Hear: Resources Mentioned: Your Resilience Zone™Perfectionism Leveraged:Episode 203 TIMESTAMPS: 00:00-From Enduring to Enjoying Your Perfectionistic Tendencies 01:48-Overcome Perfectionism Feel Good Way 02:53-The Never-Ending Need for Play 03:18-Neuroscience and Play in Adulthood 04:35-Reconnecting With Your Playful Self 05:41-Steps to Create Your Perfectionism Playground 06:03-Case Study: Whitney's Journey with Perfectionism 07:38-Impact of Perfectionist Parenting on Children 09:15-What Cooking + Rewiring Perfectionism Have in Common 10:58-Seeking Help to Uncover YOUR Perfectionist Playground 11:48-Benefits of the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator Sciencey Credible Citations Referenced In This Exciting Episode: Neuroscience of Consciousness2023https://doi.org/10.1093/nc/niad024https://nautil.us/how-video-games-satisfy-basic-human-needs-236347/Behaviour153https://doi.org/10.1163/1568539x-00003349