Psychology Has It Backwards

We are all "lifelong learners" but we are taught early on to "figure things out." Everyone can remember being told as a child, "Think about it. You'll figure it out." As we move through life, we spend more and more time going over and over life situations in our minds, trying to come up with answers, or asking other people for answers and then trying to figure out how to follow their ideas. This takes us away from the most wonderful resource we have: the ability to have original thought, ideas that occur to us out of the blue in a quiet state of mind. When we are looking for what we don't know, we won't find it in our stored thought (our personal mind), which only contains memories, things we DO know. But we have a safety net, the capacity to stop trying to come up with an answer and wait, in a quiet state of mind, to see what occurs to us. Fresh answers come from before our personal thought; they arise from a deeper wisdom, before thought, always accessible when we have faith it is there for us. Support the Show.

We are very dependent on our intellect (everything we already know that is stored in our brain) for a lot in life. It allows us to remember how to run things, where we put things, what we've learned, how to find our friends' houses, how to do our jobs, phone numbers, people's names, etc. Sometimes people hear us talking about looking to live from original thought, wisdom, and common sense rather than from memory as if we had to reinvent the wheel every day. Or they hear "wisdom" as something really special and hard to attain. Original thoughts are fresh ideas we get that are perfect for that moment in time, or for the problem at hand. They come to us out of the blue and they come with a feeling of certainty that they're just what we need to know. If we spend our lives in our intellect, applying what we know to seek new answers, trying to figure everything out, it's exhausting. If we accept everything we know as a resource and look for wisdom to keep life fresh, in-the-moment and interesting, we live at peace. Support the Show.

We might awaken from nightmares frightened or sad, but as soon as we wake up we realize it was just a dream. Even if we find our dreams disturbing, we know they are dreams. Yet when we fall into low mood thinking or get stuck on troubled memories or entertain fears during the day, we don't call them "daymares." We don't realize we can "wake up" and put those thoughts behind us. We're always thinking. Thoughts come to mind. If they are distressing, they affect our feeling state and we can hop on a train of negative thinking. But when we know we just got caught up in some negative thoughts, they have no more power than nightmares, just temporary intrusions into the moment. Support the Show.

Low mood thinking is always compelling because it generates strong feelings and it arises from insecurity. So it looks like we have to do something about it. It is habitual thinking that comes to mind from our memories with a familiar feeling, which gives it more weight. People complain about being "plagued" or "haunted" or "frequently visited by" negative thoughts, and the need to "deal with" them. The Principles show us that thoughts are nothing more than images brought to mind by our own power to think. As the thinkers we are always at choice. Turn away from them. See them as signals to quiet down and let our mind rest. Not take them seriously because they have no power but the power we give them. Support the Show.

People are often confused by the power we have as thinkers to create our experience of reality. It does NOT mean that we can stare at a new car in a showroom and manifest it in our life; it does not mean we can wish for an outcome of a situation and make it happen. Life is happening; there is actual reality in which we live. But what WE see of it, we see from our own thinking. So in a low state of mind, we might look out at a rainy day and feel glum about having to go out in it. In a different state of mind, we might just remember to take an umbrella and feel grateful that the rain will help the flowers grow. Reality does not create what we think and feel about it; we create what we think and feel about reality. Support the Show.

When we recognize the simplicity of living in the now, following our wisdom as things come to mind, we live at peace. We benefit from a flow of insight which allows us to see more clearly our own power to think and create our experience of reality and understand life. We learn as we go, finding the lessons and blessings in disappointment as well as in great outcomes. We are inspired by fresh thought, and we start to see that we can't figure things out or force a plan to work out; but we always get the thought we need when it's needed and we are guided through life. When we ruminate about the past or worry about the future, we accidentally abandon our natural peace of mind to things outside our control. Support the Show.

The definition of changing our minds is "having a new thought." It is natural to allow thoughts to come and go, responsive to the moment, without attachment to any thought. If we get stuck on a thought, though, we hold onto it. We think some things so often for so long that they seem more "real" to us. We all have ideas we assume are true because we've always thought them. We easily let go of passing thoughts and we change our minds all day long without even realizing it. In the face of habitual thoughts, though, it takes an insight to change. As we understand the true nature of thought, we increasingly lose attachment to our thoughts and live in the moment, easily changing our minds. Support the Show.

Each one of us is always creating our own experience of reality with our unique power to think. So there really is no such thing as objective reality. We all see what we see; someone looking at the same situation will see it differently. Indeed, in a different state of mind, WE may see it entirely differently. So our experience of life is unique to each of us, and what we see for ourselves looks compelling and true to us. The Principles explain this. Seeing the truth of this reveals why disagreement and conflict occur and why they are understandable and forgivable. We're all acting on what appears to be true or right to us; no one else sees it exactly as we do. Support the Show.

A lot of people talk about "doing the Principles," or "using the Principles," or "combining the Principles with other 'approaches,'" or thinking the Principles are a "really interesting method." That downplays the power of Principles as words that stand for and describe formless power, the essential energy, from which all creation takes form. We use words to represent the idea of what that energy means. But the Principles are the understanding of how life works that wisdom brings us when we look away from the form and deeper within our own soul or consciousness to gain "insight." Long before we had words for them, before we "knew them," the Principles were the eternal laws of creation. Support the Show.

When you hear about the Principles, you hear of "Levels of Consciousness." What does this mean? Our ever-changing "level" is the degree to which we have insights that lead us to realize that all thought is illusion, merely what we make up in the moment. All of it, even though early on, much of it seemed "real." The more we realize that the power to think is what sets us free and the content is variable and transitory, the higher our level of consciousness. The level is our ability to live at peace, knowing that everyone's thoughts are unique. It allows us to find love and understanding for all people because we are all the same before we create the illusion, just thinkers making up our experience of what we see. Support the Show.

Listening to others in neutral is difficult until we understand how thinking works in all of us. Everyone is creating their own experience of every moment in life. No two people see anything exactly alike; we all think our own thoughts and draw information from our own memory and see things in our own way. And we express what we see to each other. Knowing how the power of thought works allows us not to take things personally, but to listen to each other without judgment. We can learn from others' ideas when we can truly listen; and we find compassion for others who may appear to be harsh or critical or emotional because we understand it is their state of mind and thinking we are hearing, not anything about us. Support the Show.

Many people ask us whether encouraging people to find a calm state of mind and contentment isn't just positive thinking. Our state of mind is BEFORE what we think; when we are at peace and our minds are quiet, the quality of thoughts we produce is a much higher level than the thoughts we produce from a negative or upset state of mind. The problem with the technique of Positive Thinking is that is doesn't come from our own level of Consciousness; it's a technique we impose on ourselves to try to feel better. We don't truly SEE or believe those thoughts. When we address our state of mind and quiet down, more positive thoughts naturally come to mind; we don't need to read them from a list. Support the Show.

The Principles describe the way the formless energy behind life manifests in the creation of form. They describe the way creation works. Divine Mind, formless intelligent energy, is the force behind all of creation. Divine Thought is what allows us to bring ideas and images to life within our own minds. Divine Consciousness, the energy behind awareness, allows us to see our thoughts as true, as the reality we experience. The Principles are descriptive of what it means to be alive and how we navigate our way through the world in which we live. They are not a Theory. They are the true explanation of the inside-out nature of our experience of life; we are living what we think and thus see as real. Support the Show.

Discernment is not judgement. We can speak up if we see a friend heading down a dangerous path, or if we notice a client shading the truth, etc. The difference between the negativity of "judgement" and exercising our common sense with good will and a loving feeling is the difference between harboring negative opinions and speaking from wisdom when we see something of concern. It would not be an act of love or a responsible service to others to fail to reprimand a child for stealing, or try to stop a friend from entering a bad deal. As long as we are coming from a good feeling and sincerity, we should be true to wisdom and be able to express concerns without harm to others. Support the Show.

Not being judgmental does not mean not using common sense to speak up or act honestly when we see people we care about or people we serve doing things that are contrary to living at peace, in harmony with life. Syd says "a non-judgmental mind is a mind at peace." That refers to things like personal judgments -- resentments, attitudes towards certain types of people or negativity, things that carry a bad feeling. But, for example, if you know someone you love is using dangerous drugs, the loving thing to do is to exercise your judgment that you will not encourage drug use or overlook it. It would make no sense to support the person's drug use to avoid looking judgmental. Support the Show.

People often express confusion about Sydney Banks' advice to "just be yourself; be ordinary." They hear it as if it means "mediocre" or "not realizing your potential." Actually, the deeper meaning of "ordinary" is "part of the order of things," and that is what we point to with the Principles. Everyone comes into life with extraordinary gifts: the divine universal energy of Mind powers us to be able to create Thought and become Conscious of our Thoughts as our reality. To be ordinary is to be comfortable in your understanding of the order of things and the power you have to use these gifts to create the life you want. That's special, but it's available to all people, so it's ordinary. Support the Show.

It's that time of year again when we're all expected to be joyful and enthusiastic, and a lot of people just feel stressed, pressured, and anxious about doing all the things they think they have to do for the holidays. We forget that we're making it up. It's our own thinking about holidays, our own exaggerated ideas of what we need to get done, our own pressure to make everything perfect for friends and family, that creates a lot of worried, stressful thinking. We don't lose our natural resilience during the holidays; we simply forget to depend on it and get caught up in thinking and planning and striving. When we start feeling the tension build, it's a good time to stop, clear our heads, and quiet down. It all works out. Support the Show.

(We are re-sharing a podcast from last year during the holiday season because it feels timely to us to remind ourselves and all of us that love and understanding are the answer to to human suffering and the problems of the world.) The universal energy of creation finds expression in human beings through our ability to think and experience our thinking. It moves from perfect formlessness into the forms we create via thoughts. We "see" thoughts come to life as our personal reality. We remember our thoughts, which become our personal "library." But each moment is a moment in which we choose to recall and reconsider memories or bring fresh thoughts from formless energy to form, so every moment offers the possibility of a fresh start. When we discover our true spiritual nature, formless energy at the essence, we are in touch with pure, unconditional love and understanding, the source of life and the forms we give love in it. Support the Show.

Many people struggle with the painful feeling of shame. Perhaps we were told as children that we "should be ashamed" of something. Perhaps we suffered mistreatment that we interpreted to mean we were not worthy of love and care. Perhaps we did things for which we harbor shame. Shame is nothing more than a negative thought about ourselves. As we understand that people are always doing what makes sense to them at the time, given their level of consciousness, we realize that there is nothing to be ashamed of. We can see beyond negative situations and learn from them, but there is no shame in being human. Support the Show.

People tend to define themselves according to the outside world. We try to "be" something or someone, pursuing the ideas we and others have made up about ourselves, and react to events and people. The Principles show us we are guided by our spiritual power of Thought and, when we have peace of mind, by the quiet wisdom beyond our personal knowledge. Once we find stillness of our own minds, we act with the certainty, strength, and confidence wisdom brings. We fearlessly follow opportunities life presents us. We are at ease. We gain the perspective that allows us to understand others, and find peace with differences, rather than fighting for the illusions of our own thinking. Support the Show.