Mind Ya Mental Podcast

Dr. Raquel Martin helps a listener navigate the search for a therapist, breaking down how to find a provider who understands your background, goals, and needs.

An active-duty soldier opens up about balancing identity, service, and family. Dr. Raquel Martin unpacks what it means to be Black in the military while raising LGBTQ+ kids, and how self-awareness and purpose help maintain connection.

Dr. Raquel Martin answers a listener's question on the psychology of white curiosity, unpacking how social privilege and racial dynamics shape boundaries and behavior.

In this Mailbag episode, Dr. Raquel Martin explains how to build love and connection after growing up unseen, unheard, or unloved, and why self-compassion is the first step.

Grief isn't linear, and it's not something you just "get over." Dr. Martin discusses the long arc of grief in Black communities, from personal loss to generational trauma, and how we can make space for its full expression.

When religious beliefs are used to silence pain, it's called spiritual bypassing. Dr. Martin discusses how Black faith spaces can hold both healing and harm, and why therapy and faith can coexist.

From schools to home life, Black children are often denied the innocence and support others receive. Dr. Martin explores how adultification harms mental health and how reparenting can start the healing process.

What happens when being "Black enough" becomes a performance? Dr. Martin unpacks the mental health cost of masking, code-switching, and respectability politics, and why reclaiming your identity is an act of liberation.

Many Black families parent from a place of fear, shaped by generations of trauma. Dr. Martin explores how shifting from obedience to respect-based parenting can break harmful cycles and nurture emotional resilience in kids.

Black youth suicide rates have surged over 50% in recent years. In this episode, Dr. Raquel Martin debunks the myth that Black people don’t die by suicide and explores the impact of racial trauma, stigma, and silence in families and schools.

From trauma healing to ADHD and hormonal changes, Dr. Raquel Martin breaks down listener questions and explains why strong boundaries protect your mental health.

In this conversation, Kristen and Dr. Raquel Martin discuss the intricacies of couples therapy, the challenges of organizing group therapy, and the importance of understanding the roles and boundaries of therapists. They explore misconceptions that clients may have about therapy, the significance of individual therapy alongside couples work, and the dynamics of family therapy. The discussion emphasizes the need for clear communication and the therapist's role in navigating complex relationship issues. In this conversation, Dr. Raquel Martin and Kristen explore the complexities of relationships, the impact of family dynamics on self-perception, and the nuances of addiction and emotional coping mechanisms. They discuss the importance of setting boundaries in relationships, the skills required for maintaining friendships, and how childhood experiences shape adult behaviors. The dialogue also delves into the relationship individuals have with food and substances, emphasizing the need for healthier coping strategies and the societal pressures that contribute to unhealthy habits. In this conversation, Kristen and Dr. Raquel Martin explore the multifaceted nature of fitness, the mindset of athletes, and the importance of community in personal growth. They discuss the differences between coaching and therapy, emphasizing the need for action-oriented approaches in coaching while allowing for deeper emotional exploration in therapy. The conversation also touches on building healthy relationships, recognizing red and green flags, and the significance of accountability in personal development. Takeaways The organization of group therapy requires significant funding and planning. Couples therapy is distinct from individual therapy and requires specialized training. Misconceptions about therapy often lead clients to misunderstand the therapist's role. Therapists should maintain clear boundaries between individual and couples therapy. It's essential for therapists to support clients in having difficult conversations. Understanding family dynamics is crucial in couples therapy. Clients may feel apprehensive about therapy based on gender dynamics. Therapists should not act as referees in couples therapy sessions. Individual therapy can complement couples therapy for better outcomes. Bio Kristen is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, wellness coach and the owner of Believe. Be Free. Be Well. PLLC (B3). Her passion for mental and physical wellness are at the cornerstone of her work helping others begin again and move forward - mind, body, and spirit.

In this engaging conversation, Dr. Raquel Martin interviews Fawn Weaver, exploring her journey as an entrepreneur, the impact of her book, and her unique perspective on introversion and community. They delve into the significance of Fawn's work with Uncle Nearest, the misconceptions surrounding imposter syndrome, and the importance of self-education. Fawn shares her experiences with isolation, leadership, and the power of storytelling in preserving history. In this engaging conversation, Fawn Weaver and Dr. Raquel Martin explore the themes of purpose, resilience, and authenticity in entrepreneurship. Weaver shares her journey of overcoming personal challenges and emphasizes the importance of understanding one's purpose as a driving force in life and business. They discuss the significance of authenticity in the workplace, the impact of respectability politics, and the necessity of owning one's brand and online presence. The conversation highlights the mental energy spent on masking one's true self and the freedom that comes from embracing authenticity. Weaver also touches on the intersection of faith and business, advocating for a mindset that prioritizes purpose over legacy. Takeaways Fawn's book resonates with both men and women, leading to rapid readership. Isolation can be a choice for introverts, who thrive in their own company. Community should be chosen wisely to avoid draining energy. Imposter syndrome is often a mislabeling of justified reactions to oppressive environments. Fawn emphasizes the importance of self-education and reading. The story of Uncle Nearest highlights the significance of representation in history. Jack Daniel's relationship with Nearest Green challenges historical narratives. Bio Fawn Weaver, a USA Today and New York Times and bestselling author, is an investor, marriage advocate, TEDx alum and the founder of the Happy Wives Club, a community of nearly 1,000,000 women in more than 110 countries. The Club's website, HappyWivesClub.com, is an upbeat blog dedicated to positively changing the tone about marriage. Twice named the Best Marriage Site on the web by About.com, HappyWivesClub.com is the go-to place for women wanting to read about the "sunny side" of marriage and get tips on taking a marriage from good to great and from great to extraordinary. Happy Wives Club, Weaver's debut book is a journey to 12 countries and 6 continents in search of the universal secret to a happy marriage. Weaver's next book the Argument-Free Marriage, takes couples through a 28-day day challenge to creating the marriage of their dreams with the spouse they already have.

In this conversation, Dr. Raquel Martin and Dr. William Parham discuss the critical aspects of mental health, particularly focusing on the experiences of Black individuals in both personal and professional contexts. They explore the creation of support groups for Black women, the unique challenges faced by Black men regarding mental health, and the evolving needs of professional athletes. The dialogue emphasizes the importance of listening in therapy, reframing mental health as mental wealth, and the necessity of treating individuals as people first, before their roles as athletes. They also touch on the impact of social media, the significance of silence and reflection, and the need to rediscover one's dreams and creativity. Ultimately, the conversation highlights the journey of self-discovery and the importance of aligning personal values with one's mission in life. Takeaways Support groups can empower Black women and address unique challenges. Black men's mental health requires tailored approaches and understanding. Listening is a crucial skill in therapy and client relationships. Mental health needs of professional athletes have evolved significantly. Reframing mental health as mental wealth can shift perspectives. Language used in therapy should be accessible and relatable. Bio Director of the Doctoral Program in Educational Leadership for Social Justice in the School of Education at Loyola Marymount University. He is a licensed psychologist, board certified by the American Board of Professional Psychology who has devoted his career of service to clinical, educational, training, administrative, and organizational consultation venues. He is Past-President of the Society of Counseling Psychology of the American Psychological Association where he also is recognized as a Fellow in Divisions 17, 45 and 47. For most of his professional career, Dr. Parham has focused on working with athletes across levels (e.g., professional, elite, amateur, collegiate and youth) and across sports (e.g., basketball, football, gymnastics, softball, baseball, track and field, tennis, golf, swimming, volleyball, figure skating). He has also worked with performance artists in drama, theatre and music. Currently, he serves as the Director of the Mental Health and Wellness Program of the National Basketball Association. In addition, Dr. Parham is a member of the Mental Health and Wellness Task Force of the United States Olympic and Paralympic Committee (USOPC) and a member of the Mental Health and Wellness Think Tank of the International Society of Sport Psychology (ISSP).

In this conversation, Dr. Raquel Martin speaks with Dr. David Johns about the critical differences between activism and organizing, particularly in the context of social justice for Black LGBTQ+ individuals and the mental health crisis facing Black youth. They discuss the alarming rise in suicide rates among Black youth, the importance of accurate data collection, and the need for community engagement and education to foster long-term change. Dr. Johns emphasizes the role of self-work and understanding systemic issues in effective activism. In this conversation, DJJ and Dr. Raquel Martin explore the complexities of data, language, and identity within the context of systemic oppression and white supremacy. They discuss the importance of understanding how language can perpetuate privilege and division, the need for community and relational organizing, and the tools necessary to combat these issues. The conversation also touches on the evolution of narratives in mental health and the importance of cultural competence in providing support to marginalized communities. In this engaging conversation, Dr. Raquel Martin and DJJ explore the complexities of parenting, particularly the tension between parental desires and children's autonomy. They discuss the significance of imaginative play, the distinction between legacy and lineage, and the importance of understanding intent versus impact in parenting. The dialogue emphasizes the need for community support and advocacy in navigating these challenges, ultimately celebrating the unique identities and desires of children. Takeaways Activism and organizing are complementary tools for change. Activism focuses on immediate actions, while organizing builds community strength. Suicide rates among Black youth are rising, contrary to some data reports. Data collection often fails to capture the true scope of issues. Mistrust in data collection affects the accuracy of mental health statistics. Education is crucial for effective activism and organizing. Legislation targeting LGBTQ+ individuals correlates with increased mental health crises. Bio Dr. David J. Johns is the CEO and executive director of the National Black Justice Coalition (NBJC), a civil rights organization for Black LGBTQ+/SGL people and those living with HIV/AIDS. Appointed by President Obama, he was the first executive director of the White House Initiative on Educational Excellence for African Americans (2013-2017). He has also served as a senior education policy advisor in the Senate and as a Congressional Black Caucus Foundation Fellow. Dr. Johns holds a Ph.D. in sociology and education policy from Columbia University, where he also earned his master’s and bachelor’s degrees. His accolades include the Active Advocate Award at BET’s Black and Iconic celebration (2024), the Out100 list (2021), the Root100 (2013, 2014), Ebony’s Power 100 (2015), and an early career award from Columbia University (2016).

In this episode of the Mind Your Mental Podcast, host Dr. Martin welcomes Jessica Schrody, a multifaceted content creator and entrepreneur. They delve into the complexities of parenting, the challenges of homeschooling, and the transition back to traditional schooling. The conversation also explores Jessica's engagement and the dynamics of her relationship, as well as the struggles of balancing personal and professional life. They discuss the impact of social media and consumerism on mental health, the journey of sobriety, and the importance of authenticity in content creation. Throughout the episode, humor and candidness shine through as they navigate the ups and downs of motherhood and personal growth. In this conversation, Jessica Schrody and Dr. Martin discuss the complexities of parenthood, emphasizing the importance of informed consent and the challenges that come with parenting. They explore the necessity of teaching children boundaries and the impact of social media on personal values and financial independence. The dialogue also touches on the struggles of content creation and maintaining integrity in a monetized world, while highlighting the significance of emotional health and the realities of parenting. Takeaways AI technology is evolving rapidly and unpredictably. Parenting can be both humorous and challenging. Homeschooling presents unique challenges and rewards. Transitioning from homeschooling to traditional schooling can be complex. Engagement brings new dynamics to parenting and relationships. Marriage requires constant communication and effort. Content creation should be authentic and aligned with personal values. Bio Jessica Schrody is a full-time writer, content creator, and founder of She Really Had A Baby. In 2017, Jessica started a blog as a creative outlet to share her experiences and insights as a single mother in Los Angeles. Once she shifted to video content and creating parody raps, she quickly gained recognition across all social media platforms as a safe space where mothers can come to laugh and relate to the varying pains and satisfactions of motherhood. With her unique way of developing her personal story into content that all moms can enjoy, Jessica has successfully turned her fears about motherhood into her purpose. She Really Had A Baby has become a community where mothers of all relationship statuses can come and laugh, cry, and be proud of whatever kind of mama they are.

In this conversation, Destini Ann and Dr. Martin discuss conscious parenting and the importance of respecting children. They explore the difference between obedience and discipline, and how conscious parenting focuses on building relationships and fostering respect. They also touch on the unique challenges faced by Black parents and the need to challenge traditional parenting norms. The conversation highlights the importance of allowing children to ask questions and express themselves, while also setting boundaries and ensuring their safety. In this conversation, Destini Ann and Dr. Martin discuss the importance of respectful parenting and empowering children. They challenge the narrative that being tough on kids prepares them for the real world, emphasizing the need to support and uplift children, especially Black and Brown children. They highlight the importance of teaching children critical thinking, problem-solving, and effective communication skills. The conversation also touches on the challenges of parenting in a school environment that may not align with respectful parenting principles. They discuss the need for parents to recognize and address their own internalized beliefs and traumas to create a safe and empowering environment for their children. The conversation concludes with a discussion about the benefits of joining parenting communities and the resources available in Destini Ann's parenting community on the School app. Takeaways Conscious parenting emphasizes building relationships and fostering respect with children. Obedience can lead to resentment, while respect leads to relationships. Black parents face unique challenges and need to challenge traditional parenting norms. Children should be allowed to ask questions and express themselves in a respectful manner. Setting boundaries and ensuring children's safety are important aspects of parenting. Being tough on kids does not prepare them for the real world; it is more important to support and uplift them. Bio Destini Ann is a compassionate and relatable source for navigating motherhood! She takes the psychology of parenting and turns it into fun, digestible content for her community. Destini challenges the norms of parenting by offering a safe space to have tough conversations. She teaches with empathy and empowers moms to shift the culture of their homes to more intention, grace, and presence.

Summary The conversation explores the concept of black identity and the limitations of existing frameworks. It delves into the idea of blackness as a performance and the different responses to racism within the black community. The discussion also touches on the role of agency in black identity development and the complexities of defining blackness. The conversation highlights the importance of inclusivity and the recognition that blackness can manifest in various ways. It concludes with a conversation about code-switching and masking as survival strategies in different contexts. In this conversation, Touré discusses the importance of advocating for oneself in professional settings and the strategies to navigate power dynamics. He emphasizes the need to marshal allies and speak to decision-makers in a way that allows them to change their minds without feeling attacked. Touré also reflects on his experience of being rooted in but not restricted by race and the confidence it has given him in predominantly white spaces. The conversation concludes with a discussion on the impact of private school education and the importance of self-esteem in navigating different environments. Takeaways Black identity is complex and cannot be limited to a single definition or framework. Blackness can be performed in different ways and responses to racism vary within the black community. Agency plays a crucial role in black identity development. Inclusivity is important in recognizing and embracing the diversity of black experiences. Bio Touré is a renowned writer, music journalist, cultural critic, and podcaster, known for his deep insights into music, race, and culture. He gained prominence as a co-host on MSNBC's The Cycle and has contributed to The Dylan Ratigan Show. Touré also hosted Hiphop Shop and On the Record on Fuse, and serves on the prestigious Rock and Roll Hall of Fame Nominating Committee. A respected voice in the world of hip-hop, he has taught courses on the genre’s history at NYU’s Clive Davis Institute of Recorded Music. Touré is the author of several acclaimed books, including Who's Afraid of Post-Blackness? and I Would Die 4 U: Why Prince Became an Icon. He regularly contributes to The Daily Beast and The Grio.

Kizzle, founder of Express Yourself Black Men, shares his journey of starting the platform and the top three themes that come up in conversations about black men's mental health: masculinity, emotional expression, and finances. He emphasizes the importance of breaking stereotypes and having positive conversations between black men and women. Dr. Raquel Martin discusses the limitations of societal expectations on black men and the need for them to prioritize their own well-being and personal growth. The conversation explores the importance of creating space for black men to try new things, find their passions, and prioritize their own enjoyment. It also discusses the need for men to actively seek and cultivate friendships, just as they would in dating. The conversation emphasizes the importance of putting effort into building and maintaining relationships, whether they are romantic or platonic. It challenges the misconception that taking the first step in a relationship means one person will have to carry all the responsibility. Both men and women face challenges in approaching and connecting with others, but it is essential to overcome fear and rejection to find meaningful connections. In this part of the conversation, Kizzle discusses the importance of being sociable and having interpersonal skills. He shares his experience as an introvert who has learned to be extroverted in order to connect with others. He emphasizes the need for people to be able to have conversations and express themselves respectfully. Dr. Raquel Martin adds that it's important to respect boundaries and not seek external validation. They also discuss the concept of wishing someone the best and the importance of focusing on personal growth rather than seeking validation from others. Takeaways Express Yourself Black Men is a platform that aims to address the mental health needs of black men and break stereotypes. The top three themes that come up in conversations about black men's mental health are masculinity, emotional expression, and finances. It is important to have positive conversations between black men and women to uplift and support each other. Societal expectations can limit black men's self-expression and personal growth, and it is crucial for them to prioritize their own well-being. Creating space for black men to explore new things and find their passions is essential for their personal growth and well-being. You can check out Kizzle on Instagram as well as his podcast Express Yourself Black Man and if you are interested in his online Community, A Black Man's Safe Haven, check out the website https://expressyourselfblackman.com/safe-haven

Dr. Kensa Gunter discusses the unique challenges faced by athletes in the world of sports. These challenges include the intertwining of athletic identity with self-worth, the constant pressure to perform at a high level, the public scrutiny and dehumanization of athletes, and the loneliness that can come from feeling misunderstood. She also highlights the importance of providing support and resources to help athletes navigate these challenges and maintain their mental health and well-being. The conversation explores the cultural shift towards acknowledging and discussing mental health in sports, particularly in the NBA. Dr. Kensa Gunter discusses the Mind Health program and the importance of humanizing mental health and positioning it as an essential element of excellence, wellness, and performance. They also discuss the need for diversity and representation in the field of sports psychology, as well as the role of media in portraying athletes in a way that respects their humanity. Dr. Gunter provides advice for athletes experiencing dehumanization or adultification and emphasizes the importance of empathy and curiosity in media interactions. Takeaways Athletes often face unique challenges in the world of sports, including the intertwining of their athletic identity with their self-worth. The constant pressure to perform at a high level and the public scrutiny can take a toll on an athlete's mental health. Loneliness can be a common experience for athletes, as it can be difficult for others to truly understand their unique experiences. Providing support and resources to athletes is crucial in helping them navigate the challenges they face and maintain their mental health and well-being. There has been a cultural shift towards acknowledging and discussing mental health in sports, particularly in the NBA. Bio Dr. Kensa Gunter is a licensed psychologist and Certified Mental Performance Consultant (CMPC) dedicated to humanizing conversations about mental and emotional health. She emphasizes the influence of social, cultural, and environmental factors on well-being and performance. Dr. Gunter offers counseling and consultation services to individuals, teams, and organizations in sport, education, and business, focusing on enhancing organizational health to foster individual development and team culture. An experienced public speaker, she has delivered keynote presentations, participated in panel discussions, and moderated conversations at national and international conferences. Dr. Gunter has been featured in various podcasts and print media publications. Her leadership roles span multiple professional organizations, and she has received the distinction of Fellow from both the Georgia Psychological Association and the Association for Applied Sport Psychology (AASP), where she served as President from 2020-21. Currently, she coordinates EDI efforts for APA Division 47.