Nope! We're Not Monogamous

Today, we're challenging everything you thought you knew about love with Adam Lyons, a world-renowned dating coach and psychology expert who's turning traditional views on their head. Adam argues that love isn't just an emotion; it's actually deeply rooted in science, specifically tied to the chemical oxytocin. He'll share how understanding the triggers of attachment, attraction, and happiness can completely transform the way we approach dating and relationships. Adam has a fascinating journey into polyamory and a rich background in both psychology and business, and hes outspoken in his desire to reshape our understanding of romantic relationships. Living in a polyamorous throuple and raising a family within this dynamic has given him a unique perspective on love's complexities. Today, he's here to debunk the myths we've been fed—from fairy tales to Hollywood romances—and to offer practical advice for navigating love in today's world. Prepare to have your perceptions of love and relationships profoundly challenged and enriched. Let's dive into a conversation with Adam Lyons about redefining love beyond the conventional. Want to Connect with Adam? askthedatingcoach.com @theadamlyons To claim your free clarity chat with Ellecia visit https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Do you feel like you could use some help with your relationships? Get on a free call with Ellecia to see how she can help you move through the challenges of jealousy, fear, anxiety, and insecurities in a way that strengthens your relationships, deepens your trust, and communication, and leaves you feeling confident. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Support the Show. 📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! Get free shipping on my favorite toys!! 👀 Find Us Online - Website - Facebook - Instagram Credits - Host/Producer: Ellecia Paine - Editor/Producer: Danny Walters - Hosted on Buzzsprout

Welcome to a candid exploration of the highs and lows of the non-monogamous journey, especially after the significant life transition of divorce. If you've found the path to non-monogamy leaving you with more questions than answers, feeling both overwhelmed and intrigued, this episode is for you. Joining me today are Hunter and Butcher, the insightful duo behind the Poly Pocket Podcast. As a married, UK-based couple navigating polyamory with children, they offer a relatable and supportive voice for those in the polyamorous, consensual non-monogamous (CNM), open relationship, or swinging communities. Their commitment to the development and support of the 'Poly' community shines through their podcast and now, in our conversation. In This Episode, We Cover: Mastering the Transition:Unveiling Polyamory:Embracing Empowerment:Conquering the Green-Eyed Monster:Thriving in Non-Monogamy:Whether you're new to the concept of non-monogamy or have been on this path for some time, Hunter and Butcher's insights offer valuable guidance and support. Join us as we navigate the intricate, rewarding journey of non-monogamy. Connect with Hunter and Butcher: To claim your free clarity chat with Ellecia visit https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Do you feel like you could use some help with your relationships? Get on a free call with Ellecia to see how she can help you move through the challenges of jealousy, fear, anxiety, and insecurities in a way that strengthens your relationships, deepens your trust, and communication, and leaves you feeling confident. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Support the Show. 📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! Get free shipping on my favorite toys!! 👀 Find Us Online - Website - Facebook - Instagram Credits - Host/Producer: Ellecia Paine - Editor/Producer: Danny Walters - Hosted on Buzzsprout

Welcome to a heart-to-heart with Shelby Avann, where we peel back the layers on relationships, intimacy, and the magic of healing. Shelby isn't just any relationship and intimacy coach. She’s a Reiki healer too, with a knack for weaving spirituality and science into a transformative blend that empowers women to deepen emotional intimacy, shake off codependency, and wave goodbye to loneliness. In today’s chat, Shelby gets real about her own love life adventures. She's journeyed from exploring polyamory to finding her sweet spot in what she calls a "monogamish" relationship. It’s all about discovering what truly clicks with your heart and values. Here’s What We’re Getting Into: Finding Your Non-Monogamy Fit:Jealousy: The Green Monster:Trust Talks:Self-Growth is Key: Healing with Reiki: Shelby’s insights on building intimacy through being real, vulnerable, and sometimes just plain silly with your partner are gold. She also tackles how letting anxiety run the show can throw a wrench in making those deep connections. No matter where you stand on the relationship spectrum, Shelby's wisdom is like having a heart-to-heart with a friend who’s seen it all. Want to connect with Shelby? www.shelbyavann.ca To claim your free clarity chat with Ellecia visit https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Do you feel like you could use some help with your relationships? Get on a free call with Ellecia to see how she can help you move through the challenges of jealousy, fear, anxiety, and insecurities in a way that strengthens your relationships, deepens your trust, and communication, and leaves you feeling confident. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Support the Show. 📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! Get free shipping on my favorite toys!! 👀 Find Us Online - Website - Facebook - Instagram Credits - Host/Producer: Ellecia Paine - Editor/Producer: Danny Walters - Hosted on Buzzsprout

Jealousy: the green-eyed monster we've all wrestled with at some point, and the surprise guest in many non-monogamous relationships. But what if jealousy isn't the adversary we've been conditioned to believe? This week, relationship coach Ali Henry joins me to unwrap the layers of this complex emotion, promising to take you on a journey from apprehension to enlightenment. We'll share laughs, personal stories, and Ali's expert insights, transforming jealousy from a stumbling block to a stepping stone in our intimate connections. You'll discover: - Why jealousy gets a "bad rap" in monogamy and how non-monogamy takes a more compassionate approach - Tangible tips for mapping where jealousy originates from your past - The key to transmuting jealousy into curiosity - Hilarious and insightful stories of Ali's thruple dynamics Ali's vulnerability and wisdom left me feeling seen, understood, and ready to approach jealousy with more self-love and patience. Ali Hendry is a certified relationship coach specializing in non-monogamous relationships, with a particular focus on LGBTQIA+ women, non-binary individuals, and trans folks. Her extensive experience extends to working with singles, duos, and non-monogamous pods, offering valuable guidance in navigating the complexities of diverse relationship dynamics. As a contributor to Diva magazine, Ali's expertise and insights provide a credible perspective on embracing individual love styles and managing non-monogamous dynamics, making her a highly knowledgeable and esteemed voice in the field. Want to connect with Ali? Alihendry.co.ukInstagramhttps://youtu.be/BTtrGxZXWrI?si=voANt0hpmbHvJ8FL To claim your free clarity chat with Ellecia visit https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Do you feel like you could use some help with your relationships? Get on a free call with Ellecia to see how she can help you move through the challenges of jealousy, fear, anxiety, and insecurities in a way that strengthens your relationships, deepens your trust, and communication, and leaves you feeling confident. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Support the Show. 📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! Get free shipping on my favorite toys!! 👀 Find Us Online - Website - Facebook - Instagram Credits - Host/Producer: Ellecia Paine - Editor/Producer: Danny Walters - Hosted on Buzzsprout

Hey friends! We’re going on a journey with Nicoletta Heidegger, therapist, sexologist, and host of the "Sluts and Scholars" podcast, as we chat about the world of non-monogamy on my latest podcast episode. Nicoletta opened up about her 7-year exploration from monogamy to embracing a non-monogamous lifestyle, sharing the raw challenges she encountered along the way. From aligning with partners who share her vision to battling the need to feel "special" and dismantling a scarcity mindset, Nicoletta's story is both vulnerable and profoundly relatable. In this episode, you'll discover: Want to get in touch with Nicoletta? https://slutsscholars.libsyn.com/Resources in this episode To claim your free clarity chat with Ellecia visit https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Do you feel like you could use some help with your relationships? Get on a free call with Ellecia to see how she can help you move through the challenges of jealousy, fear, anxiety, and insecurities in a way that strengthens your relationships, deepens your trust, and communication, and leaves you feeling confident. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Support the Show. 📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! Get free shipping on my favorite toys!! 👀 Find Us Online - Website - Facebook - Instagram Credits - Host/Producer: Ellecia Paine - Editor/Producer: Danny Walters - Hosted on Buzzsprout

In the depths of Orit Krug's personal journey, she discovered an unexpected truth about love and relationships. As she bravely embraced polyamory, she unearthed the transformative power of self-love in navigating the complexities of multiple partners. But just when she thought she had it all figured out, a new challenge emerged, leaving her questioning everything she thought she knew. Stay tuned as Orit's emotional narrative unfolds, revealing the unexpected twist that shifted her perspective on love and self-acceptance. In this episode, you will be able to: Orit Krug is an award-winning Board-Certified Dance/Movement Therapist and Licensed Creative Arts Therapist who has helped transform the lives of more than 5,000 clients for the past 13 years. Orit specializes in helping individuals & couples strengthen their relationships by working through past trauma stored in the body. As Orit practices polyamory in her own life, she uses her experience and platform to ensure that partners can safely expand beyond normal boundaries, experience deeply satisfying love, and enhance pleasure without sabotage. Want to connect with Orit? Check out her retreat https://oritkrug.com/polyamory-retreatVisit her website To claim your free clarity chat with Ellecia visit https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Do you feel like you could use some help with your relationships? Get on a free call with Ellecia to see how she can help you move through the challenges of jealousy, fear, anxiety, and insecurities in a way that strengthens your relationships, deepens your trust, and communication, and leaves you feeling confident. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Support the Show. 📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! Get free shipping on my favorite toys!! 👀 Find Us Online - Website - Facebook - Instagram Credits - Host/Producer: Ellecia Paine - Editor/Producer: Danny Walters - Hosted on Buzzsprout

Do you desire emotional healing and inner peace in your non-monogamous relationship journey? My guest today will be revealing the key to finding forgiveness and experiencing profound emotional growth. Unlocking the pathway to inner peace and healing is within your reach, and Daisy Sky will show you how to achieve this transformation. Daisy Sky, a seasoned practitioner of polyamory, has been exploring non-monogamous relationships for over a decade. Describing herself as a chaotic femme, she infuses her gender expression with an element of delightful disorder. Daisy Sky's journey into polyamory began in her junior year of high school, and since then, she has embraced a relationship anarchy approach. Throughout her experience, she has been an advocate for open communication, mindfulness, and mental health. Daisy Sky's willingness to share her experiments with monogamy and her ultimate return to a more open way of loving, founded on personal sovereignty and ethical fulfillment, offers a unique and insightful perspective on the challenges and rewards of non-monogamous relationships. In this episode: Want to connect with Daisy Sky? Instagram @Theforgivenessdoula To claim your free clarity chat with Ellecia visit https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Do you feel like you could use some help with your relationships? Get on a free call with Ellecia to see how she can help you move through the challenges of jealousy, fear, anxiety, and insecurities in a way that strengthens your relationships, deepens your trust, and communication, and leaves you feeling confident. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Support the Show. 📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! Get free shipping on my favorite toys!! 👀 Find Us Online - Website - Facebook - Instagram Credits - Host/Producer: Ellecia Paine - Editor/Producer: Danny Walters - Hosted on Buzzsprout

If you're feeling suffocated by societal expectations and constantly striving to fit in, then you are not alone! You may already be sacrificing your true self in order to please others, only to find that it's still not enough. You may be experiencing a constant sense of dissatisfaction, despite following the rules and norms that society has set for you. It's time to break free from the cycle of conformity and embrace your unique identity, because the result you're seeking is not found in conformity. My guest, Sandra Possing, is an advocate for living authentically and embracing non-conformity and the host of the podcast "Oh Hi, Self". With a wealth of personal experience, Sandra has dedicated her life to helping others break free from societal expectations and live on their own terms. Her mission is to empower individuals to create relationships and lifestyles that align with their true selves. Through her open and honest approach, she aims to normalize unconventional relationship dynamics and inspire others to explore beyond traditional boundaries. Sandra's candid and relatable insights make her a valuable voice in the journey towards authenticity and self-discovery. In this episode, we talk about: Want to Connect with Sandra? www.sandrapossing.com To claim your free clarity chat with Ellecia visit https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Do you feel like you could use some help with your relationships? Get on a free call with Ellecia to see how she can help you move through the challenges of jealousy, fear, anxiety, and insecurities in a way that strengthens your relationships, deepens your trust, and communication, and leaves you feeling confident. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Support the Show. 📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! Get free shipping on my favorite toys!! 👀 Find Us Online - Website - Facebook - Instagram Credits - Host/Producer: Ellecia Paine - Editor/Producer: Danny Walters - Hosted on Buzzsprout

Does this sound familiar? You're in a non-monogamous relationship, seeking to improve communication and openness with your partners, but you find yourself hitting roadblocks. Maybe you've been told that the solution is to just talk more, but deep down, you know that's not enough. The pain of feeling misunderstood, disconnected, and unfulfilled is all too real. It's time to break free from ineffective actions and unlock the power of healthy communication and openness, transforming the way you connect with your partners. Deana Tanner, our guest on this episode, is a dynamic and knowledgeable voice in the world of non-monogamous relationships. With her down-to-earth and relatable style, Deana offers a fresh perspective on the importance of healthy communication and openness. As someone who has personally navigated the complexities of polyamory, Deana brings a wealth of experience and insight to the table. Her warm and friendly approach instantly puts listeners at ease, making her the perfect guide for individuals seeking to improve their relationship dynamics. Tune in to this episode for an engaging conversation with Deana Tanner and gain valuable insights into enhancing your own non-monogamous journey. 💨 TLDR; 📚 The resources mentioned in this episode are: https://healthyhumaning.com/https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/527367/101147856025421667/share To claim your free clarity chat with Ellecia visit https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Do you feel like you could use some help with your relationships? Get on a free call with Ellecia to see how she can help you move through the challenges of jealousy, fear, anxiety, and insecurities in a way that strengthens your relationships, deepens your trust, and communication, and leaves you feeling confident. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Support the Show. 📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! Get free shipping on my favorite toys!! 👀 Find Us Online - Website - Facebook - Instagram Credits - Host/Producer: Ellecia Paine - Editor/Producer: Danny Walters - Hosted on Buzzsprout

Curious about unconventional triad relationships and BDSM dynamics? In this episode, we explore Hannah's journey from swinging to polyamory, the challenges of managing multiple partners, and the significance of setting boundaries and valuing personal time. Discover how Hannah copes with the demands of balancing two partners, work, family, and personal time, and the importance they place on clear hierarchy and boundaries within their unconventional triad setup with a BDSM dynamic. We also discuss the emotional impact, self-discovery, and constant learning within non-monogamous relationships. Delve into a candid conversation that emphasizes the ongoing nature of this journey, the rewarding moments, and the transformative power of non-monogamy on personal growth and self-discovery. Hannah is an Empowerment & Relationship coach, delighting in the fringes of traditional society. Bisexual, Non-monogamous & kinky, she brings the topic of sexuality and taboo out into the light, to help others shift societal shame and live as their true selves. Hannah is a published author and hosts her own podcast "Kinky & Unpopular" which follows her BDSM journey alongside her partner and her submissive, in their triad type dynamic. 💨 TLDR; Want to connect with Hannah? https://desilvacoaching.com To claim your free clarity chat with Ellecia visit https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Do you feel like you could use some help with your relationships? Get on a free call with Ellecia to see how she can help you move through the challenges of jealousy, fear, anxiety, and insecurities in a way that strengthens your relationships, deepens your trust, and communication, and leaves you feeling confident. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Support the Show. 📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! Get free shipping on my favorite toys!! 👀 Find Us Online - Website - Facebook - Instagram Credits - Host/Producer: Ellecia Paine - Editor/Producer: Danny Walters - Hosted on Buzzsprout

Brace yourself for an enlightening exploration of non-monogamous relationships, sexual health, and the importance of clear communication. This episode features the insightful Evalene Dacker-MD, who guides us through the intricate world of polyamory, debunking misconceptions and arming us with invaluable advice on navigating these partnerships in a safe manner. We delve into her revolutionary STARS framework that fosters open dialogues about sex, helping individuals to express their desires, set boundaries, and communicate their relationship intentions effectively. We're not stopping there. The conversation takes a turn towards the often-overlooked issue of Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs) and the role they play in sexual relationships. Shedding light on the importance of pleasure and owning our bodies, concepts often neglected in traditional sex education, Evalyn provides critical insight on the necessity of regular testing and the misconception that condoms are the only form of protection against STIs. We also tackle the evolving views on common infections like herpes and HPV. It's time to confront the discomfort around sexuality in the medical field, emphasizing the need to normalize non-monogamy and other forms of sexuality. We discuss the concept of hierarchy and couple privilege, reinforcing the importance of individual choice and non-conformity to societal standards. Laced with personal experiences, our dialogue concludes with an empowering perspective on self-image and compassion. After this episode, you'll be ready to engage in healthier, more fulfilling sexual relationships. Tune in, and let's redefine love together! Want to connect with Evelin... www.Maketimeforthetalk.comwww.Evelindacker.comTedx Talk on STARS📚 Books mentioned: “Polysecure”, by Jessica Fern“All About Love”, by Bell Hooks To claim your free clarity chat with Ellecia visit https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Do you feel like you could use some help with your relationships? Get on a free call with Ellecia to see how she can help you move through the challenges of jealousy, fear, anxiety, and insecurities in a way that strengthens your relationships, deepens your trust, and communication, and leaves you feeling confident. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Support the Show. 📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! Get free shipping on my favorite toys!! 👀 Find Us Online - Website - Facebook - Instagram Credits - Host/Producer: Ellecia Paine - Editor/Producer: Danny Walters - Hosted on Buzzsprout

Astonishing revelations await as we journey into the realm of desires and sexual fantasies with the luminary, Artemisia De Vine. Imagine peeling back the layers of desire, treading into territories unexplored, and gaining a profound understanding of your own erotic wiring. This is not just about sex or fantasy; it's about self-discovery, connection, and pleasure in its purest form. Dive into the world of stories; the narratives that fuel our fantasies, the scenarios that make our hearts race, and the characters that come alive in our minds. Let's dissect the power dynamic of predator and prey, a trope common in casual sex encounters, and the subconscious desires that control us more than we realise. The influence of these narratives extends beyond the bedroom to shape our relationships, experiences, and perceptions. Finally, let's turn up the heat with Artemisia as she delves into the world of sex tips. This isn't just a list of 'do's and 'don'ts'; it's a guide to understanding your and your partner's erotic wiring. From communication to exploration, Artemisia shares insightful tips to help you unlock your desires and enhance your sexual experiences. Get ready to redefine pleasure as we navigate the captivating world of desire. To claim your free clarity chat with Ellecia visit https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Do you feel like you could use some help with your relationships? Get on a free call with Ellecia to see how she can help you move through the challenges of jealousy, fear, anxiety, and insecurities in a way that strengthens your relationships, deepens your trust, and communication, and leaves you feeling confident. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Support the Show. 📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! Get free shipping on my favorite toys!! 👀 Find Us Online - Website - Facebook - Instagram Credits - Host/Producer: Ellecia Paine - Editor/Producer: Danny Walters - Hosted on Buzzsprout

Get ready for some real talk about relationships in this episode of Nope! We're Not Monogamous with guest Lesley Tavernier. We dive deep into the concept of radical responsibility and how it can transform your non-monogamous relationships. Lesley shares her personal journey and sheds light on the importance of not relying on your partner for happiness. Discover how taking control of your own well-being can create a more harmonious and fulfilling connection. If you're looking for practical advice on personal growth and increasing happiness in non-monogamous relationships, this episode is a must-listen! Leslie, a love coach, takes us on an enlightening journey through her personal experiences – from growing up in an unofficially non-monogamous household, living with strict monogamy, and finally embracing her true self in the realm of non-monogamy. In this episode, you will be able to: As we wrap up our heart-to-heart with Leslie, we address the elephant in the room – the radical responsibility each individual carries in a relationship. Speaking to those with self-esteem tied to their partner's actions, Leslie underscores the power of non-monogamous coaching. We uncover the courage required to admit attractions outside your relationship and the challenges of raising kids in a non-monogamous setting. So buckle up, an To claim your free clarity chat with Ellecia visit https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Do you feel like you could use some help with your relationships? Get on a free call with Ellecia to see how she can help you move through the challenges of jealousy, fear, anxiety, and insecurities in a way that strengthens your relationships, deepens your trust, and communication, and leaves you feeling confident. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Lelo Get in touch with all your pleasure points! Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the Show. 📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! Get free shipping on my favorite toys!! 👀 Find Us Online - Website - Facebook - Instagram Credits - Host/Producer: Ellecia Paine - Editor/Producer: Danny Walters - Hosted on Buzzsprout

Are you in a non-monogamous relationship and looking for ways to enhance your emotional intelligence? Look no further! Join me, Ellecia Paine, as I interview Jessica Fern and David Cooley on the importance of emotional intelligence in non-monogamous dynamics. Dive into their personal experiences, learn how they overcame challenges, and discover practical tools for emotional growth. From journaling and meditation to embracing conflict as an opportunity for intimacy, this episode offers valuable insights for individuals in non-monogamous relationships. Don't miss out on this enlightening discussion that will empower you to build stronger and more fulfilling relationships! We're all human, and emotional intelligence plays a key role in how we interact with others. Jessica and David unpack the importance of knowing how to communicate your feelings and needs, especially when they become overwhelming. You'll learn the markers of drama triangle involvement, and strategies to enhance emotional and relational intelligence. This isn't just about relationships, it's about nurturing growth. We discuss practices to cultivate intimacy, the importance of curiosity in conflict resolution, and innovative techniques such as breathwork and restorative justice circles to help us stay present in difficult conversations. Writing a book is a herculean task. Writing a book together? Even more so. Jessica and David share their journey of co-writing, discussing how they unpacked and developed ideas, managed critiques, and the crucial role of accountability in their creative endeavor. We also delve into the complexities of identity and relationship choice when it comes to polyamory and non-monogamy, exploring the power of frames and metaphors in public decision-making. From discussing the importance of living out one's orientation, to the best strategies for fostering intimacy, it's a conversation you don't want to miss. Tune in and let's navigate jealousy, autonomy, and the struggles of becoming ethically non-monogamous together. To claim your free clarity chat with Ellecia visit https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Do you feel like you could use some help with your relationships? Get on a free call with Ellecia to see how she can help you move through the challenges of jealousy, fear, anxiety, and insecurities in a way that strengthens your relationships, deepens your trust, and communication, and leaves you feeling confident. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Support the Show. 📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! Get free shipping on my favorite toys!! 👀 Find Us Online - Website - Facebook - Instagram Credits - Host/Producer: Ellecia Paine - Editor/Producer: Danny Walters - Hosted on Buzzsprout

Are you in a long-distance relationship and curious about exploring non-monogamy? Today's guest, CJ, a sex coach and pleasure advocate, walks us through their personal experience of how non-monogamy played a vital role in navigating the challenges of being apart from their partner across two continents. We take a deep look into the significance of communication, creating a non-judgmental environment, and the importance of touch in maintaining intimacy, despite the miles. Navigating jealousy and exploration in a relationship, especially in a non-monogamous one, can be tricky. CJ opens up about their journey of confronting the fear of being replaced and how they managed their anxiety without letting it hinder their partner's experiences. We discuss the delicate balance of sharing feelings without spoiling the partner's experience, and CJ reveals how they turned their partner's experience into something erotic, showcasing the exciting opportunities non-monogamy can offer. Want to connect with CJ? www.noshamewithcj.com To claim your free clarity chat with Ellecia visit https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Do you feel like you could use some help with your relationships? Get on a free call with Ellecia to see how she can help you move through the challenges of jealousy, fear, anxiety, and insecurities in a way that strengthens your relationships, deepens your trust, and communication, and leaves you feeling confident. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Support the Show. 📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! Get free shipping on my favorite toys!! 👀 Find Us Online - Website - Facebook - Instagram Credits - Host/Producer: Ellecia Paine - Editor/Producer: Danny Walters - Hosted on Buzzsprout

Get ready for a compelling discussion that charts the high seas of non-monogamy. I'm thrilled to have the inimitable Dirty Lola aboard with us, an accomplished sex educator and media personality you may recognize from Netflix's Principles of Pleasure and HBO's the Sex Diaries. Her insights are not just enlightening, but deeply grounded in her personal journey, lending an air of authenticity and relatability that is invaluable. "I always said that. I am very much a polyamorous person in my heart as part of my identity. I view it as part of my sexuality. It's how my brain works." - Dirty Lola This discussion takes us through the emotional whirlwind associated with navigating non-monogamous relationships. Together with Lola, we uncover the necessity of open dialogue, the art of setting boundaries, and the intricate layers of different forms of non-monogamy. This journey isn't for the faint of heart, as we tackle challenging issues such as managing anger, confronting double standards and comprehending the intricacies of opening up a relationship. To round off, we delve into the life-altering power of having a partner who validates emotions, listens attentively, and takes responsibility for their behavior. Lola generously shares her wisdom on the concept of compersion and the crucial role boundaries play in nurturing it. Whether you're just dipping your toes into the non-monogamy pool or are a seasoned swimmer, this episode is a treasure trove of insights. So, tune in, sit back, and join us on this enlightening journey into the realm of non-monogamy and polyamory with Dirty Lola. Want to connect with Dirty Lola? https://www.dirtylola.co/ To claim your free clarity chat with Ellecia visit https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Do you feel like you could use some help with your relationships? Get on a free call with Ellecia to see how she can help you move through the challenges of jealousy, fear, anxiety, and insecurities in a way that strengthens your relationships, deepens your trust, and communication, and leaves you feeling confident. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Support the Show. 📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! Get free shipping on my favorite toys!! 👀 Find Us Online - Website - Facebook - Instagram Credits - Host/Producer: Ellecia Paine - Editor/Producer: Danny Walters - Hosted on Buzzsprout

Listen to this episode if you're a non-monogamous parent or part of a non-traditional family who wants guidance on how to navigate the challenges and celebrate the unique aspects of your family structure. Koe's insights will inspire and empower you to create an environment where your children feel supported, loved, and accepted for who they are. Koe, a second-generation sex educator, shares her journey growing up in a polyamorous family and provides insights from her intriguing book, This Heart Holds Many: My Life as a Non-Binary Millennial of a Polyamorous Family. Koe's raw and honest storytelling paints a vivid picture of the challenges faced by children in non-monogamous families and how they're navigating societal structures and perceptions. Want to connect with Koe Creation? https://www.koecreation.com https://www.twitter.com/koecreation 📚 Books mentioned: Koe’s website To claim your free clarity chat with Ellecia visit https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Do you feel like you could use some help with your relationships? Get on a free call with Ellecia to see how she can help you move through the challenges of jealousy, fear, anxiety, and insecurities in a way that strengthens your relationships, deepens your trust, and communication, and leaves you feeling confident. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Support the Show. 📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! Get free shipping on my favorite toys!! 👀 Find Us Online - Website - Facebook - Instagram Credits - Host/Producer: Ellecia Paine - Editor/Producer: Danny Walters - Hosted on Buzzsprout

This week we have an enlightening conversation with Rich and Siobhan, from the Poly Podcast, about their experiences with non-monogamy. They reveal how they embraced polyamory, nuanced their relationship structure and even broached this subject early in their relationship. They'll also be talking about their podcast, Polypodcasts, giving you a chance to be a part of their extended community. As we go deeper into their story, we see how non-monogamy, like any other relationship, is a dynamic, evolving entity. Rich and Siobhan share how their relationship has grown over the past 18 months, including the need to explain to new partners that they live together and parent a child. Their insights and experiences provide a fresh perspective on the fluidity of relationships and the importance of revisiting boundaries and rules. But, like any relationship, we get upfront and personal with the tougher aspects. From managing jealousy, to keeping insecurities at bay, Rich and Siobhan share their journey of love and growth. We also touch upon how they handle the inevitable oddball questions about their relationship and misunderstandings about non-monogamy. Tune in for an episode that takes a deep dive into the realities of non-monogamous relationships and gives you a chance to explore and understand an alternative facet of love and companionship. Rich and Siobhan are the hosts of The Poly (Pod)Cast where they answer common questions, debunk misconceptions and contribute to the growing conversation around ethical non-monogamy (ENM). They are non-monogamous and live in London, UK. Want to connect with Rich and Siobhan? https://twitter.com/poly_podcast https://the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm/ To claim your free clarity chat with Ellecia visit https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Do you feel like you could use some help with your relationships? Get on a free call with Ellecia to see how she can help you move through the challenges of jealousy, fear, anxiety, and insecurities in a way that strengthens your relationships, deepens your trust, and communication, and leaves you feeling confident. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Support the Show. 📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! Get free shipping on my favorite toys!! 👀 Find Us Online - Website - Facebook - Instagram Credits - Host/Producer: Ellecia Paine - Editor/Producer: Danny Walters - Hosted on Buzzsprout

Get ready to embark on an enlightening journey with our guest, Alex Cox, as he gives a candid account of his polyamorous lifestyle. Since 2018, Alex has been navigating the intricacies of multiple partnerships, parenting, writing poetry, and battling PTSD while living a polyamorous life. In our heart-to-heart conversation, he highlights the significance of communication, especially while dating someone who isn't neurodivergent, and the vital role of labels in dictating our lives. As we chat with Alex, we delve deeper into his story, unpacking his personal transformation, overcoming societal expectations, and embracing his true self. You'll also hear about his journey of shedding labels, exploring masculinity, and managing a non-romantic relationship. Moreover, he shares his inspiring journey of creating a thriving polyamory community. So tune in to our enlightening conversation as we explore polyamory, creativity, and relationships, and uncover an alternative way of experiencing love and life. Want to connect with Alex? https://alexcoxblog.com/ 📚 Books mentioned: Ethical Slut, by Dossie Heaton and Janet HardyThe Jealousy Workbook, by Kathy LabriolaFour Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz To claim your free clarity chat with Ellecia visit https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Do you feel like you could use some help with your relationships? Get on a free call with Ellecia to see how she can help you move through the challenges of jealousy, fear, anxiety, and insecurities in a way that strengthens your relationships, deepens your trust, and communication, and leaves you feeling confident. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Support the Show. 📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! Get free shipping on my favorite toys!! 👀 Find Us Online - Website - Facebook - Instagram Credits - Host/Producer: Ellecia Paine - Editor/Producer: Danny Walters - Hosted on Buzzsprout

The non-monogamous relationship journey is brimming with complexity and profound self-discovery. This episode opens a window into this world, as we chat with Victor Salmon, who walks us through their journey from their initial exposure to polyamory to their experiences within the BDSM community. Victor offers a fresh perspective on managing jealousy and understanding human connections. We get real about the intricacies of being a hinge partner and what it means to be a 'unicorn' in the Swinger community. Victor shares the importance of setting boundaries versus people-pleasing, and how trauma can impact relationships. We delve into emotional maturity and celebrate the growth that comes with breaking away from monogamous conditioning. Finally, we discuss how to set boundaries, understand our own attachment styles, and be sensitive to our partner's needs. By the end of our chat with Victor, you'll be equipped with a wealth of knowledge on crafting healthier, more satisfying relationships, whether you're venturing into polyamory or simply looking to understand it better. Victor Salmon, is a beacon of inspiration for those searching for a healthier emotional and relational outlook. Victor's initial exposure to non-hierarchical polyamory and subsequent experiences within the BDSM community have shaped their nurturing approach to emotional well-being. Victor excels at translating complex emotions into relatable insights that encourage self-reflection and cultivate healthier relationships. 📚 Books mentioned: Nonviolent Communication, by Marshall Rosenberg Polysecure by Jessica Fern Connect with Victor https://intimatevictor.com/resources/podcast/ To claim your free clarity chat with Ellecia visit https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Do you feel like you could use some help with your relationships? Get on a free call with Ellecia to see how she can help you move through the challenges of jealousy, fear, anxiety, and insecurities in a way that strengthens your relationships, deepens your trust, and communication, and leaves you feeling confident. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/clarity-chat Support the Show. 📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! Get free shipping on my favorite toys!! 👀 Find Us Online - Website - Facebook - Instagram Credits - Host/Producer: Ellecia Paine - Editor/Producer: Danny Walters - Hosted on Buzzsprout